Man Passes Away At His Brother’s Wedding, Bride Accuses Him Of Ruining The Most Important Day Of Her Life
A person’s character often reveals itself in times of crisis. And this universal truth is applicable to their flaws just as much as their strengths.
A few days ago, Reddit user u/HaKyunga29 submitted a story to the ‘Am I the A***ole?’ community about her sister-in-law, asking its members to share their take on the situation.
The entire family has gone through a very traumatic experience. The original poster’s husband passed away from an aneurysm at his brother’s wedding.
But while everyone was mourning their loss, the bride had the audacity to accuse the deceased of ruining the most important day of her life.
Unsure if she crossed any lines reacting to this absurd—and I’d even say offensive—claim by her sister-in-law, u/HaKyunga29 described what happened online, hoping that unbiased strangers could help her make sense of the whole thing.
We’ve heard of bridezillas, but this lady is something else
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She accused her brother-in-law of “ruining” her wedding when the poor fellow collapsed from an aneurysm
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As Rebecca J. Rosen pointed out in The Atlantic, marriage is the union not merely of two spouses but of two families—each with its own beliefs and ways of being in the world.
The resulting relationships can be some of the most rewarding, but, for a lot of people, just like u/HaKyunga29, they can also be some of the most challenging.
Communicating between two people is complicated enough on its own, but in-law relationships happen through someone else. By their very nature. Any conflict touches everyone, and every person brings their own feelings to it.
The widow’s sister-in-law can put an end to their disagreement at any point by apologizing, but some people view it as an admission that they are inadequate—that, rather than having made a mistake, there is something inherently wrong with them.
Of course, we don’t know the newlywed and have limited information. She might, on the other hand, believe that offering the first apology is virtually accepting guilt and responsibility for the entirety of a conflict that involved wrongs on the part of both parties.
However, a well-delivered, honest apology will generally solve a whole lot and, on the contrary, restore positive feelings.
Researchers and psychologists say apologizing when you’ve broken a rule of social conduct re-establishes that you know what the “rules” are, and you agree that they must be followed
But if you can’t even see that your behavior is hurtful… That’s, sadly, a completely different story.
People were very sorry for the woman’s loss and said she’s absolutely NTA – not the a***ole
You should have told your in-laws what she said the second she said it. Period. There is no logical reason not to defend yourself. I don't care where you were or what was going on. That's your HUSBAND and legally you come before his parents at this point. Forget saving face, stand up for yourself.
She should have had Bea repeat to the in-laws right then and there what she had said. And then throw her out
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Go to the next family function. When everyone is together, say to Bea " You haven't apologized for what you said to me at my husband's wake. However I'm forgiving you because it is good for my health to shed negative feelings.". Then say nothing. She will not be able to help her stand it'll all come out. Andres and in-laws will be horrified, and the consequences will be out of your control. You will be vindicated 100%.
At my sister's funeral on the Friday, my cousin bit*hed about how her wedding the next day was ruined. Even her father, the family's known Biggest A-hole, took her aside and yelled at her for being TA. This was over 30 years ago, so.... Yeah, I don't talk to them. AITA?...
Nope. That level of a*****e, you don't want them in your life.
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You should have told your in-laws what she said the second she said it. Period. There is no logical reason not to defend yourself. I don't care where you were or what was going on. That's your HUSBAND and legally you come before his parents at this point. Forget saving face, stand up for yourself.
She should have had Bea repeat to the in-laws right then and there what she had said. And then throw her out
Load More Replies... Go to the next family function. When everyone is together, say to Bea " You haven't apologized for what you said to me at my husband's wake. However I'm forgiving you because it is good for my health to shed negative feelings.". Then say nothing. She will not be able to help her stand it'll all come out. Andres and in-laws will be horrified, and the consequences will be out of your control. You will be vindicated 100%.
At my sister's funeral on the Friday, my cousin bit*hed about how her wedding the next day was ruined. Even her father, the family's known Biggest A-hole, took her aside and yelled at her for being TA. This was over 30 years ago, so.... Yeah, I don't talk to them. AITA?...
Nope. That level of a*****e, you don't want them in your life.
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