Teenager Spends Loads Of Time Making His Aunt’s Wedding Dress Worth $22k-$25k For Free, She Doesn’t Even Invite Him
For better or for worse, wedding ceremonies can seem like a monumental event where everything has to be ideal, as, hopefully, you only ever have one wedding. The decorations, flowers, venue, weather, and, of course, the dress has to all be just perfect.
Recently a person asked the internet if he was in the wrong for refusing to hand over a wedding dress to his bride-to-be sister. The dress was handmade over half a year by his son with frequent input from his sister. Problems arose when she sent out wedding invitations – and he wasn’t invited.
Weddings, like any major event, require planning, good taste, sense, and a lot of patience
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When his sister asked if her brother’s son could make her wedding dress, all parties thought it would be a great idea
The son was a skilled tailor and worked for months to make something beautiful
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But when the invitations began coming in, his son received a nasty surprise
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Wedding parties sometimes go overboard with all the things they request and demand
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The perceived pressures and stress of organizing a wedding can lead to comical moments, at least for those of us who can view from a safe distance. We reached out to the wedding planning team at Lisa Pleasant Events to ask about what sort of things the wedding party will start to demand and organizers are forced to go along with. Some examples included “requesting FILTERED water from the catering water station for her 4 pound, half blind, half deaf, 10-year-old toy poodle (then proceeded to cause an absolute scene & had a meltdown when her dog’s bowl was filled with tap water)” and “requesting ‘BETTER adult chicken tenders’? Not sure what that even meant (she cried for a solid 5 minutes).”
Sometimes the stress of planning creates a bond with the planner, leading to other comical issues. “I have had other bizarre requests like when a mother surprised me by bringing an entire U-Haul full of furniture and expected me to set it up (with a broken foot). I had one very drunk bride (now a friend) who asked me to sing ‘All I Want for Christmas is You’ while she threw up in the bathroom. (Yes, I obliged.) One of my former planners had a bride who expected her to go on her morning jog with her so that she was by her side the entire day. So many fun stories. I actually started naming clauses in my contract that I never thought I would have to specify after the clients who made them necessary. It always gets a laugh out of people, but still warns them ‘please do not become a clause.’”
The costs and stress of the event can make people shortsighted and downright unbearable
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The actual price of the dress in the story was considerable, so it is shocking that the sister would be so stubborn. The average American wedding still costs $38,700, explaining some of the stress. After all, If I spent that much money on a single event, I would also want it to be completely perfect. In general, Americans spend about $72 billion annually on weddings. Add in the constant socialization, possible pressure from in-laws, and general difficulty of organizing people and you get a recipe for a mental health disaster.
This in no way excuses the sister’s behavior; after all, her nephew was doing the entire project for free and being perfectly cooperative. Having to collaborate with a committed volunteer seems like a dream scenario, but some people are so conceited, they will throw away such an opportunity instead of admitting their own shortcomings. After all, if her, at this point, pretty annoyed own family is valuing the dress at around $20-25 thousand, and it took five months of work, it seems unlikely that she is going to get a better deal anywhere else.
Some commenters asked for more details while others gave some suggestions for how OP could proceed
But most agreed, he was NTA for sticking up for his son
So in her opinion the kid is responsible enough to be trusted with creating her wedding dress from scratch, but not to attend an event where alcohol is served? That's some BS right there.
NTA. Far from it, you are standing up for your son and your sister is letting her nephew down. The underage and alcohol aspect has little to do with it. Instead, your sister is siding with her partner's homophobia, or just dislike, for your son. This dislike won't change when he grows up either. You haven't actually said that your son is gay so everyone could be wrong about that. But your BIL to be has probably just assumed this because he's a boy who likes dressmaking. So good for you, for standing up for your son and being the proud dad.
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Sonny should be able to stand up for himself if he thinks he's "man enough" to bill his own Aunt $25,000!!!! Why is your whole family involved anyway? I think your son is a spoiled bratty diva!
This answer says more about you than it does anyone else.
Alice, work on your reading comprehension. Commenters suggested billing the aunt and multiple times it was clarified that the son isn't interested in money, only in the sentimental value. Also, the whole family is involved because the bride to be complained to them. Otherwise it would have just been a matter between the nephew, his dad, and his aunt. How can you not see that excluding the nephew (after he made her extremely fancy custom wedding dress FOR FREE) is totally heartless!? If she actually can't make an exception for ONE minor and alcohol at the wedding then she could simply not serve alcohol. Of course she wouldn't do that because she values drinking at her wedding more than she values her nephew.
You reap what you sew.
For this extremely talented budding designer, that means about $25,000.00.
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HILARIOUS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
In this case, he should rip what he sewed
No, he should showcase his talents. Maybe this is a hard but valuable life lesson to know your own worth and set boundaries. He’ll be successful, and the aunt will still be an entitled b***h.
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Thats right. Buy into the stereotype of gayboys being bitches. Never consider showing some class and saying, "Here is your wedding dress. I worked really hard to make it just as you wanted. I know you will look amazing in it. I hope you have a wonderful day....happiness always." And walk away with dignity....rather than tearing the dress up and being known as a big spoiled baby whos daddy has to fight his battles for him. Thats not going to get you far at all.
Working for free sure won't get him far. Why exactly is it that you think he should work for free for family who don't even respect him? Are you drunk? Everything you have written, that I have read in this page, has been complete lunacy
So in her opinion the kid is responsible enough to be trusted with creating her wedding dress from scratch, but not to attend an event where alcohol is served? That's some BS right there.
NTA. Far from it, you are standing up for your son and your sister is letting her nephew down. The underage and alcohol aspect has little to do with it. Instead, your sister is siding with her partner's homophobia, or just dislike, for your son. This dislike won't change when he grows up either. You haven't actually said that your son is gay so everyone could be wrong about that. But your BIL to be has probably just assumed this because he's a boy who likes dressmaking. So good for you, for standing up for your son and being the proud dad.
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Sonny should be able to stand up for himself if he thinks he's "man enough" to bill his own Aunt $25,000!!!! Why is your whole family involved anyway? I think your son is a spoiled bratty diva!
This answer says more about you than it does anyone else.
Alice, work on your reading comprehension. Commenters suggested billing the aunt and multiple times it was clarified that the son isn't interested in money, only in the sentimental value. Also, the whole family is involved because the bride to be complained to them. Otherwise it would have just been a matter between the nephew, his dad, and his aunt. How can you not see that excluding the nephew (after he made her extremely fancy custom wedding dress FOR FREE) is totally heartless!? If she actually can't make an exception for ONE minor and alcohol at the wedding then she could simply not serve alcohol. Of course she wouldn't do that because she values drinking at her wedding more than she values her nephew.
You reap what you sew.
For this extremely talented budding designer, that means about $25,000.00.
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HILARIOUS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
In this case, he should rip what he sewed
No, he should showcase his talents. Maybe this is a hard but valuable life lesson to know your own worth and set boundaries. He’ll be successful, and the aunt will still be an entitled b***h.
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Thats right. Buy into the stereotype of gayboys being bitches. Never consider showing some class and saying, "Here is your wedding dress. I worked really hard to make it just as you wanted. I know you will look amazing in it. I hope you have a wonderful day....happiness always." And walk away with dignity....rather than tearing the dress up and being known as a big spoiled baby whos daddy has to fight his battles for him. Thats not going to get you far at all.
Working for free sure won't get him far. Why exactly is it that you think he should work for free for family who don't even respect him? Are you drunk? Everything you have written, that I have read in this page, has been complete lunacy