‘Nice Guy’ Can’t Handle Rejection So He Fat-Shames This Woman, She Forwards All Of His Messages To His Fiancée
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Far from everyone you’ll meet online is going to be an upstanding individual. Some folks think that just because they’re behind a screen, it somehow magically protects them when they’re being awful human beings. Others have no limits and think that women ‘owe’ them attention. And they’re shocked when they’re called out for their vile behavior.
Case in point, one man tried to flirt with and then fat-shame a woman, only for it to backfire on him magnificently: she told his fiancée all about what he wrote to her… and then suggested that she “throw the whole man out.”
Content creator Shelby Goodrich Eckard went viral after she shared a couple of videos showing her conversation with the body-shamer and then his partner. Scroll down to see how both of those conversations went and how the internet reacted to them.
Bored Panda reached out to PCOS advocate, fitness nutrition and weight loss specialist Shelby who was kind enough to answer our questions about her videos and why some men believe they’re owed female attention and kindness. In her opinion, the videos resonated with so many people because, unfortunately, “they’ve been on either end of the situation themselves.” Read on for our full interview with Shelby.
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Shelby went viral after she shared how a creepy guy tried picking her up, only to them try and fat-shame her
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“I think SOME men believe they are owed female attention for the littlest things. I also believe that men don’t have much accountability for their own actions until they are called out on their bad behavior,” Shelby told Bored Panda that these people need to be shown that their actions have consequences. She believes that nobody can directly change people and it’s not her job to change men for the better.
“People, if they change, change on their own time and for their own reasons. I didn’t share with his fiancée expecting him to change, I was hopeful I was helping someone see his true colors before making a life-long commitment to someone she may not know acts this way,” Shelby explained what her goals were.
She revealed to us that she gets direct messages from men all the time and she usually barely pays any mind to them. “Most take the ‘not interested’ well and move on with their days. The reason this was even shared with the fiancée and then the internet, is because this type of man scares me—and should scare others,” Shelby explained.
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“He didn’t understand the meaning of ‘no,’ and my ‘not interested’ didn’t stop him from continuing to harass me. Men need to learn that women don’t owe them kindness or their attention.”
Shelby told us a bit about herself. She started creating content on social media for a medical condition known as PCOS or polycystic ovary syndrome, which affects close to 1 in 5 women.
“A lot of PCOS symptoms can make someone feel unattractive or less feminine,” she said, referring to weight gain, hair loss, acne, and other symptoms. “I try to show others PCOS doesn’t define their beauty or worth.”
Most people are very supportive of what Shelby does. “For every hate message or comment, I have 10 messages from someone saying my content has helped them love themselves a little bit more or fight for themselves a little harder—and that makes it worth every troll comment in the world.”
She then posted a follow-up where she sent the conversation to the guy’s fiancée
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Shelby, who goes by @pcossupportgirl on TikTok, drew in a lot of attention with her two videos which got 46.8k and 34.3k likes each. She also started up an important discussion online about men who don’t understand boundaries.
According to Shelby, she doesn’t know if the woman she reached out to ended up breaking up with the man who was rude to her or not. However, she was supposedly thankful for being told what her fiancé is really like. Though Shelby later said that the woman and her fiancé ended up blocking her on social media. “I bet she stays with him,” she wrote on TikTok.
Here’s the full video about how the conversation with the fiancée went
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Meanwhile, Shelby posted another follow-up video about body-shaming
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Earlier, Bored Panda spoke about body positivity and body-shaming with TikToker Cassidy Lane. She believes that people judging others on their looks will probably never go away entirely. However, she stressed that this doesn’t mean that people can treat others badly just because they’re not interested in them romantically or don’t find them to be attractive.
“Somehow we’ve built an entire society that caters to a small margin of bodies. Think about airplane seats. I think about clothing stores, a lot of them don’t even go past a large sometimes, but the average woman in America right now is about a 2X. A lot of people who have never been fat don’t realize when you go to the doctor as a fat person it doesn’t matter what is wrong with you they will usually ignore it and tell you to lose weight,” Cassidy told Bored Panda earlier.
“I had been having stomach issues for about a year that were preventing me from going to school or work. By the time I finally found a doctor that would listen to me, and not just prescribe weight loss, they figured out I had a really serious stomach ulcer,” she revealed.
“I have found that being vulnerable on TikTok and showing my really low lows as well as my highs has apparently resonated with a lot of people. I think it just goes back to the power of shared experience. The ability to look at someone else and say, ‘Hey I do that too/I’ve been through that too.’ It’s a really powerful thing,” Cassidy said.
“Every single time I read a comment about how somebody ate today because of me, or loved themselves a little bit more, or wore their first bikini because of one of my videos, it truly is the best feeling in the world. I wish I could respond to every single person that stops by and leaves a comment on my page. Because they’re so supportive and kind. Being a content creator is definitely not something I ever knew I needed in my life until I had it,” Cassidy explained that TikTok content creators have the power to improve people’s lives.
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Here’s what TikTok had to say about the entire situation
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The fiancée blocked her, too. You just know he successfully spun some gaslighting story to the fiancée that made him the victim. She’s going to regret her life choices in about 5 years if she goes through with the wedding.
She's obsessed with me babe. She's my ex, those messages are from years ago. She's been trying to get me back you see....she's a computer programmer, she does this all the time, she takes snippets of conversations and she's able to put them together and make it look like a brand new conversation...she can make it look like I sent it to her yesterday.
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Why do "nice guys" always act like that? Every. Time. Rejection-insult. How can you feel so entitled to other peoples time and interest? It's beyond me.
It really is so common, isn’t it? I wonder if anyone has done a study on it, we have lots of evidence to submit! I wish there was something, then all the guys that have done this might realise how awful it is.
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Avoiding cognitive dissonance. Some people go through their whole lives like that.
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It's amazing, isn't it? I guess it's a sign of an intellectually, socially and emotionally weak person who "solves" conflicts or rejection by being mean. Fat shaming is unfortunately just one weapon in their pathetic little arsenal.
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Had an ex once messaging me while engaged. They were planning to get a loan to redo his parents' house because they were going to live there. She was going to go into debt to fix up someone else's house with a guy who was looking to score on the side. It's impossible to get your money back if that doesn't work out. So I thought she should know. Same as this one, she probably stayed with him and did it anyway.
Reminds me when I was 20 and a guy was 45, after saying no (politely in fact) I was called a wh0e3 What a wonderful feeling, but he just me laugh
It's so weird how some guys do this crazy 180. And on top of that think they can somehow negotiate contact. So creepy. As a sane, rational person, if someone rejected me I would say okay and maybe think 'hey his loss' and move on. I don't get this 'let me show her how crazy I am and reaffirm every bad feeling she originally got about me immediately.' This stuff honestly scares me. It makes women think that all men are just wearing some mask to con you. I want to collect all of these types of things I've seen and just post them to every website where guys are like, 'Why do women act like men are so bad? It's so unfair and judgmental!'
I would have offered to show her his true colors by video chatting with him and recording the whole thing...... Let him explain his way out of that one....
Had guy try to tell me what happens online isn't real so it wouldn't count. Thx but nah, no nudes where sent that day.
I don’t get why people put the “nice guy” tag on men like that. He’s not a nice guy. Don’t say he’s a nice guy because he is not. Are they saying that every guy who acts nice, isn’t? That it’s better if we all act like jerks from the start and that there is no such thing as a nice guy? That acting nice is always fake? I’ve heard the word “no” a few times in my life and I’ve never tried to make the woman feel bad about herself. Always polite. Never vengeful. Never felt insulted. Never wanted to be with a woman once I found out she doesn’t want to be with me.
A "Nice Guy" is one who starts out sweet, with compliments, saying how "hot" the woman is, etc. Then, when he gets turned down, flips out & gets nasty. It's similar to saying a woman is a "Mean Girl", one who acts all nice to your face & then backstabs you. And we do understand that it's not all guys.
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ok I'll go with you if you learn how to spell. Its never U it;s Y-O-U. Cretin.
Typical narcissist. They are masters of manipulation, gaslighting, and victim blaming.
"Nice Guy" and "Gentleman" are terms others use to describe you... not terms to describe yourself.
Maybe she blocked her because she didn't believe her. If I were telling the fiancée of some d**k who said that to me, I'd say it with sensitivity and sympathy. This dame with all the "babes" and "boo" and "I'll bring a shovel" makes it seem like she's telling her something really trivial. It's not; it has the potential to destroy someone's life. Tell them with a bit of compassion, Christ.
Jeez for a minute I thought that the fiancée was actually on her side… how can one be so ignorant? I feel bad for her in the years to come.
Poor girl, the fiancee I mean. I hope she had the strength and self confidence to drop him after that, but the fact that the relationship got to the fiancee stage with a dirt bag like that suggests some issues on her part as well. Wishing her and all you ladies get the love and respect you deserve!
The Fiancee's account may be fake to make the man look more attractive to less ethical short term partners.
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I don't think her logic for why it was okay for her to ridicule his appearance made much sense. Some people are naturally hairier than others... and they are NEVER going to be able to change that. It seemed more like she was just looking to justify her own actions than based on any actual moral code. It's not OK to ridicule physical traits like hair unless that person is explicitly ASKING for your feedback. That said... still on her side. Guy is a major f*****g d**k and his fiance deserved to know. And I really didn't mind her comment about his hair that much (although I do agree it is NOT productive one bit for creating a more accepting culture in general) because people aren't perfect and of course we will all lash out at people who are assholes to us sometimes. I more had a problem with her trying to explain that it was alright for her to do it because of the "he can change it in 5 seconds" thing. That argument just seemed incredibly disingenuous.
Me, I'd want to know. I can accept the fiance not automatically believing what some stranger had to say but I would think she'd be smart enough to take the warning for what it is and do her own investigations. It's one thing to be "skeptical but diligent" and a totally other thing to be so willfully stupid.
Oh no that poor girl! The fiance I mean. I hope she had the strength and self confidence to drop him, but the fact that the relationship got to the fiancee stag with a dirt bag that that suggests there maybe some issues there. I really hope not
I've got a figure anyone would be jealous of - man or woman, and I STILL will get comments about my body shape. Fr people.
The fiancée blocked her, too. You just know he successfully spun some gaslighting story to the fiancée that made him the victim. She’s going to regret her life choices in about 5 years if she goes through with the wedding.
She's obsessed with me babe. She's my ex, those messages are from years ago. She's been trying to get me back you see....she's a computer programmer, she does this all the time, she takes snippets of conversations and she's able to put them together and make it look like a brand new conversation...she can make it look like I sent it to her yesterday.
Load More Replies... Why do "nice guys" always act like that? Every. Time. Rejection-insult. How can you feel so entitled to other peoples time and interest? It's beyond me.
It really is so common, isn’t it? I wonder if anyone has done a study on it, we have lots of evidence to submit! I wish there was something, then all the guys that have done this might realise how awful it is.
Load More Replies... Avoiding cognitive dissonance. Some people go through their whole lives like that.
Load More Replies... It's amazing, isn't it? I guess it's a sign of an intellectually, socially and emotionally weak person who "solves" conflicts or rejection by being mean. Fat shaming is unfortunately just one weapon in their pathetic little arsenal.
Load More Replies... Had an ex once messaging me while engaged. They were planning to get a loan to redo his parents' house because they were going to live there. She was going to go into debt to fix up someone else's house with a guy who was looking to score on the side. It's impossible to get your money back if that doesn't work out. So I thought she should know. Same as this one, she probably stayed with him and did it anyway.
Reminds me when I was 20 and a guy was 45, after saying no (politely in fact) I was called a wh0e3 What a wonderful feeling, but he just me laugh
It's so weird how some guys do this crazy 180. And on top of that think they can somehow negotiate contact. So creepy. As a sane, rational person, if someone rejected me I would say okay and maybe think 'hey his loss' and move on. I don't get this 'let me show her how crazy I am and reaffirm every bad feeling she originally got about me immediately.' This stuff honestly scares me. It makes women think that all men are just wearing some mask to con you. I want to collect all of these types of things I've seen and just post them to every website where guys are like, 'Why do women act like men are so bad? It's so unfair and judgmental!'
I would have offered to show her his true colors by video chatting with him and recording the whole thing...... Let him explain his way out of that one....
Had guy try to tell me what happens online isn't real so it wouldn't count. Thx but nah, no nudes where sent that day.
I don’t get why people put the “nice guy” tag on men like that. He’s not a nice guy. Don’t say he’s a nice guy because he is not. Are they saying that every guy who acts nice, isn’t? That it’s better if we all act like jerks from the start and that there is no such thing as a nice guy? That acting nice is always fake? I’ve heard the word “no” a few times in my life and I’ve never tried to make the woman feel bad about herself. Always polite. Never vengeful. Never felt insulted. Never wanted to be with a woman once I found out she doesn’t want to be with me.
A "Nice Guy" is one who starts out sweet, with compliments, saying how "hot" the woman is, etc. Then, when he gets turned down, flips out & gets nasty. It's similar to saying a woman is a "Mean Girl", one who acts all nice to your face & then backstabs you. And we do understand that it's not all guys.
Load More Replies... ok I'll go with you if you learn how to spell. Its never U it;s Y-O-U. Cretin.
Typical narcissist. They are masters of manipulation, gaslighting, and victim blaming.
"Nice Guy" and "Gentleman" are terms others use to describe you... not terms to describe yourself.
Maybe she blocked her because she didn't believe her. If I were telling the fiancée of some d**k who said that to me, I'd say it with sensitivity and sympathy. This dame with all the "babes" and "boo" and "I'll bring a shovel" makes it seem like she's telling her something really trivial. It's not; it has the potential to destroy someone's life. Tell them with a bit of compassion, Christ.
Jeez for a minute I thought that the fiancée was actually on her side… how can one be so ignorant? I feel bad for her in the years to come.
Poor girl, the fiancee I mean. I hope she had the strength and self confidence to drop him after that, but the fact that the relationship got to the fiancee stage with a dirt bag like that suggests some issues on her part as well. Wishing her and all you ladies get the love and respect you deserve!
The Fiancee's account may be fake to make the man look more attractive to less ethical short term partners.
Load More Replies... I don't think her logic for why it was okay for her to ridicule his appearance made much sense. Some people are naturally hairier than others... and they are NEVER going to be able to change that. It seemed more like she was just looking to justify her own actions than based on any actual moral code. It's not OK to ridicule physical traits like hair unless that person is explicitly ASKING for your feedback. That said... still on her side. Guy is a major f*****g d**k and his fiance deserved to know. And I really didn't mind her comment about his hair that much (although I do agree it is NOT productive one bit for creating a more accepting culture in general) because people aren't perfect and of course we will all lash out at people who are assholes to us sometimes. I more had a problem with her trying to explain that it was alright for her to do it because of the "he can change it in 5 seconds" thing. That argument just seemed incredibly disingenuous.
Me, I'd want to know. I can accept the fiance not automatically believing what some stranger had to say but I would think she'd be smart enough to take the warning for what it is and do her own investigations. It's one thing to be "skeptical but diligent" and a totally other thing to be so willfully stupid.
Oh no that poor girl! The fiance I mean. I hope she had the strength and self confidence to drop him, but the fact that the relationship got to the fiancee stag with a dirt bag that that suggests there maybe some issues there. I really hope not
I've got a figure anyone would be jealous of - man or woman, and I STILL will get comments about my body shape. Fr people.
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