Woman Shares How She Got Abandoned At Airport At 4AM By Friend’s Mom After A Nightmare Holiday, The Internet Doesn’t Take It Lightly
Going on a summer vacation is supposed to be a relaxing reset before heading back to your stressful life. A week to lay by the beach, soak up some sun and drink margaritas. You should not have to worry about anything, staying in a hotel where someone else is responsible for cooking your meals and cleaning your sheets. And this time should be spent bonding with a friend or family member you love dearly who will only enhance the experience.
Unfortunately, one woman, Lis1992, recently shared on MumsNet that her 10-day vacation with a friend was anything but relaxing. And the stress did not even end once they had arrived at the airport back home. She reached out online to see if she was being unreasonable in the situation, so below, you can read the full story and decide for yourself. Let us know in the comments what you think, and then if you’re interested in another Bored Panda piece featuring vacation drama, check out this story next.
One woman recently shared the story of her nightmare vacation and asked the internet if she was being unreasonable
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After a stressful 10 days together, the woman was ditched by her friend at the airport and forced to find her own way home at 4am
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Although going on vacation is intended to be a welcomed break from the daily stresses of going to work or school, sometimes it just ends up inducing anxiety. When flights are delayed or travel plans go awry, some people tend to panic. Then there’s the concern of spending too many hours cooped up with your significant other, best friend, or children. Of course you love them, but you are probably not used to spending 24 hours a day with them with no other responsibilities. Sometimes, that’s just too much for a person to handle, so there is nothing wrong with being mindful about what you need out of a vacation and being upfront with those around you about your expectations.
“It’s important to remove stressors from vacation time when possible because our brains and bodies are not meant to work constantly with no break,” Jenny Maenpaa, a psychotherapist in New York, told HuffPost. “Just like we need sleep every night to repair and recharge, we need longer stretches of destressing and decompression to step away from our daily grind,” she says. “Instead of thinking of vacation as a time to just build back up your reserves of energy so you can deplete them again when you return, think of it as a time where everything you work on, learn and absorb in your daily life has time to actually take hold, become permanent, and improve your quality of life overall both on vacation and back in your regular life.”
Caroline Bologna at HuffPost broke down some of the most common vacation habits that end up stressing people out, including overplanning, skipping meals, checking your work email, ditching self-care habits, setting unrealistic expectations, not coordinating with the group, pressuring yourself to relax and more. In the case of Lis1992’s holiday, her friend seems to have arrived determined to ruin the trip. But psychotherapist Meg Gitlin says that there are usually ways to accommodate everyone’s needs. “I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard clients complain about trips being hijacked by differing travel styles, eating habits or shopping habits amongst a group,” she says. “It’s expected that people will have different desires and expectations but it’s important to convey that this may require the group to split up or make compromises.”
It’s unfortunate that Lis1992 did not get to enjoy her vacation, so I hope she has the opportunity to take another trip to Spain next year to take full advantage of the beautiful beaches and warm sun. Let us know in the comments how you feel about all of this. Would you have given your friend a ride home if you had just spent a 10-day trip together? If you’re taking a trip this summer, I hope yours goes much smoother, and if you need a ride home from the airport, I hope your friends are a bit more generous.
Readers have assured the woman that she did nothing wrong and suggested it may be time to end the friendship
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Share on FacebookThis story is quite weird, and I also feel we are just getting one side of the story. Has the friend got a history of acting like this? In which case why go on holiday with her? Did the friend really not want to go to Spain? So why go on holiday with OP? Did OP inadvertently say or do something to annoy her friend just before they left, so that the friend was stuck going on holiday with someone she now didn't want to go on holiday with? That seems more likely. Maybe someone had told the friend some gossip about the OP, that true or not, affected her feelings about OP and therefore her mood about being on holiday with her. People don't necessarily talk about these things and clear the air, sometimes for years....
Possible scenarios and I agree that we are getting one side. That said, I wouldn't leave someone in a sketchy situation simply because they pissed me off.
Load More Replies...The mother is very immature. No your child is not a perfect angel, and even if she were nothing the OP did was bad enough to warrant such treatment. With all the evil thngs happening to people it was dead wrong of her to leave the OP like that. She would have been furious if the OP's mom treated her child like that. She should have taken her home, and let the girls sort themselves out another time. Not being unreasonable.
As I wrote in another post, I think people should really learn to see the red flags. I don't know whether they are too polite, too nice or too afraid, but that's not the point. There are behaviours nobody should tolerate. OP knew she was selfish and inconsiderate. Why go on holidays with a person like her? Why call her "friend"? There's saying in Spanish: better alone than in bad company. That's it. A relationship should be reciprocal, and make you happy. Do not put up with people who think they are better than you.
Eh that’s not a friend. How many more clues do you need to cut her out of your life? Getting offended and hurt is just you giving her more influence/power over you. Maybe it’s simply just time to cut her and her mommy out of your life and find better friends who don’t make you feel like s**t. And stop being too accommodating to people who don’t deserve it.
And that’s why I prefer to travel on my own. I don’t like paying a single supplement but it’s been worth it many times over. There’s always someone in the group that manages to p**s off most if not all the other group members and I for one don’t like that roommate lottery where you’re matched up with a stranger. Another person’s little foibles are amusing so long as you aren’t stuck in a room with those foibles for an entire trip. I’ve even given a fellow traveller a 2 hour sympathy break in my lovely single room on one of my trips. Poor woman (in her mid-80s) was matched with a woman who was a former sergeant in the Russian army, secretly drank vodka like water, couldn’t possibly eat that (whatever was being served), and was forever shouting “HELEN, HELEN, WHERE ARE MY TEEF?). It’s amusing to talk about if you weren’t poor Helen who, in my opinion, was up there with the Saints.
This feels like we're hearing one side of the story to me. I know "we're the stars of our own movies" or what-have-you, but this person depicts her friend as a monster and herself as an angel. They were obviously good enough friends to want to go on holiday together, so something must have happened. Sometimes it's a case of being in close quarters for long periods of time. Friendships can break up because of that sort of thing - either holidays or moving in together. Living in someone else's pockets can be a big challenge. That said, abandoning your friend like that, or abandoning your child's friend, is not on at all. Shitty on the friend's part, irresponsible on the mother's part.
I'd write a long text to both of them. To the friends mum I'd describe the holiday from my perspective and to the friend I'd tell how she made me feel and how bitchy she was the whole time. And then I'd finish the text by saying that I don't want to do anything with either of them ever again, would block them and never look back... unbelievable people
NTA. I've had friends like that in the past. It pains me to say this but you take care of you. Friends come and go, and even in the best of times, your interests are not anywhere in anyone's priority list.
of course being unreasonable. NOTHING that happened during the trip has any bearing on her question. why is she claiming to wait with her friend in the terminal so she wouldn't be alone? this suggests she already had her own plans/way of getting home that she chose to delay. so she wasn't expecting a ride home from them anyway. and maybe the mom had no idea she lived along their route. maybe the mom thought she already had a way home because she never spoke up to ask 'hey can you drop me off?' sounds like this person was way too shy to ask for a lift and is upset because of all the other stuff that happened on the trip. and since there's 2 sides to every story, maybe she wasn't as great of a companion as she thinks she is.
If you want a ride home from the airport at 4am....you ask and arrange it beforehand. That's what grownups do. It would be so bizarre to me that someone would have a 4am flight and not arrange some way to get home that it wouldn't even occured to me to offer a ride the day of, because surely they'd have set something up weeks ago before just arriving at 4am. The OP didn't ask or mention needing a ride and also indicated she was just fine with a taxi, so they likely assumed that was her plan and she was all sorted. It doesn't alleviate the daughter's behavior while on the vacation, but the OP is definitely self-martyring, when all this would have taken was a "my ride fell through, can you drop me off in the way to yours?"
IMHO a vacation can really break a friendship. Because you are together 24/7 and you live together. Not like meeting up for a few hours. Also when traveling you need to be flexible and good with change of plans. Some people are just not. Some people react really poorly to change: like its not their usual coffe in the morning, not their bed, etc and these "problems" become huge tragedies when vacationing ...
She is no friend. Leave her in the dust and find some good friends!
I feel awful for OP, but how did they decide to go on a trip together in the first place? And why OP is so gullible and borderline pushover?
Who leaves a young woman in the middle of the night in the middle of nowhere?? I hope mother and bi+ch daughter both will get what they deserve, at some point.
This story is quite weird, and I also feel we are just getting one side of the story. Has the friend got a history of acting like this? In which case why go on holiday with her? Did the friend really not want to go to Spain? So why go on holiday with OP? Did OP inadvertently say or do something to annoy her friend just before they left, so that the friend was stuck going on holiday with someone she now didn't want to go on holiday with? That seems more likely. Maybe someone had told the friend some gossip about the OP, that true or not, affected her feelings about OP and therefore her mood about being on holiday with her. People don't necessarily talk about these things and clear the air, sometimes for years....
Possible scenarios and I agree that we are getting one side. That said, I wouldn't leave someone in a sketchy situation simply because they pissed me off.
Load More Replies...The mother is very immature. No your child is not a perfect angel, and even if she were nothing the OP did was bad enough to warrant such treatment. With all the evil thngs happening to people it was dead wrong of her to leave the OP like that. She would have been furious if the OP's mom treated her child like that. She should have taken her home, and let the girls sort themselves out another time. Not being unreasonable.
As I wrote in another post, I think people should really learn to see the red flags. I don't know whether they are too polite, too nice or too afraid, but that's not the point. There are behaviours nobody should tolerate. OP knew she was selfish and inconsiderate. Why go on holidays with a person like her? Why call her "friend"? There's saying in Spanish: better alone than in bad company. That's it. A relationship should be reciprocal, and make you happy. Do not put up with people who think they are better than you.
Eh that’s not a friend. How many more clues do you need to cut her out of your life? Getting offended and hurt is just you giving her more influence/power over you. Maybe it’s simply just time to cut her and her mommy out of your life and find better friends who don’t make you feel like s**t. And stop being too accommodating to people who don’t deserve it.
And that’s why I prefer to travel on my own. I don’t like paying a single supplement but it’s been worth it many times over. There’s always someone in the group that manages to p**s off most if not all the other group members and I for one don’t like that roommate lottery where you’re matched up with a stranger. Another person’s little foibles are amusing so long as you aren’t stuck in a room with those foibles for an entire trip. I’ve even given a fellow traveller a 2 hour sympathy break in my lovely single room on one of my trips. Poor woman (in her mid-80s) was matched with a woman who was a former sergeant in the Russian army, secretly drank vodka like water, couldn’t possibly eat that (whatever was being served), and was forever shouting “HELEN, HELEN, WHERE ARE MY TEEF?). It’s amusing to talk about if you weren’t poor Helen who, in my opinion, was up there with the Saints.
This feels like we're hearing one side of the story to me. I know "we're the stars of our own movies" or what-have-you, but this person depicts her friend as a monster and herself as an angel. They were obviously good enough friends to want to go on holiday together, so something must have happened. Sometimes it's a case of being in close quarters for long periods of time. Friendships can break up because of that sort of thing - either holidays or moving in together. Living in someone else's pockets can be a big challenge. That said, abandoning your friend like that, or abandoning your child's friend, is not on at all. Shitty on the friend's part, irresponsible on the mother's part.
I'd write a long text to both of them. To the friends mum I'd describe the holiday from my perspective and to the friend I'd tell how she made me feel and how bitchy she was the whole time. And then I'd finish the text by saying that I don't want to do anything with either of them ever again, would block them and never look back... unbelievable people
NTA. I've had friends like that in the past. It pains me to say this but you take care of you. Friends come and go, and even in the best of times, your interests are not anywhere in anyone's priority list.
of course being unreasonable. NOTHING that happened during the trip has any bearing on her question. why is she claiming to wait with her friend in the terminal so she wouldn't be alone? this suggests she already had her own plans/way of getting home that she chose to delay. so she wasn't expecting a ride home from them anyway. and maybe the mom had no idea she lived along their route. maybe the mom thought she already had a way home because she never spoke up to ask 'hey can you drop me off?' sounds like this person was way too shy to ask for a lift and is upset because of all the other stuff that happened on the trip. and since there's 2 sides to every story, maybe she wasn't as great of a companion as she thinks she is.
If you want a ride home from the airport at 4am....you ask and arrange it beforehand. That's what grownups do. It would be so bizarre to me that someone would have a 4am flight and not arrange some way to get home that it wouldn't even occured to me to offer a ride the day of, because surely they'd have set something up weeks ago before just arriving at 4am. The OP didn't ask or mention needing a ride and also indicated she was just fine with a taxi, so they likely assumed that was her plan and she was all sorted. It doesn't alleviate the daughter's behavior while on the vacation, but the OP is definitely self-martyring, when all this would have taken was a "my ride fell through, can you drop me off in the way to yours?"
IMHO a vacation can really break a friendship. Because you are together 24/7 and you live together. Not like meeting up for a few hours. Also when traveling you need to be flexible and good with change of plans. Some people are just not. Some people react really poorly to change: like its not their usual coffe in the morning, not their bed, etc and these "problems" become huge tragedies when vacationing ...
She is no friend. Leave her in the dust and find some good friends!
I feel awful for OP, but how did they decide to go on a trip together in the first place? And why OP is so gullible and borderline pushover?
Who leaves a young woman in the middle of the night in the middle of nowhere?? I hope mother and bi+ch daughter both will get what they deserve, at some point.
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