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Woman Is Shocked To Her Core To Hear Her Beloved BF’s Gender Nonsense, Ends Things With Him
Dreaming about the future with a partner is one of the best parts of a relationship. You talk about houses, marriage, and the hypothetical names of your future children. These conversations are supposed to be a fun, shared daydream.
But what happens when one comment reveals a fundamental, deal-breaking difference in values? One woman’s playful joke was met with a serious answer that ended the conversation and the relationship.
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A casual conversation about the future can sometimes reveal a shocking and deal-breaking truth
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While joking about future kids, a woman’s boyfriend made a deeply sexist comment
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He seriously stated he would only love a son more than he loved her, but not a daughter
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She immediately called it out as a deal-breaker, but he said his view was ‘normal’
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After he admitted his father taught him ‘women are inferior,’ she ended the relationship
A happy couple, deep in the “planning our future together” phase, was having a casual conversation while watching a movie. The woman made a playful joke that he would love their future kids more than he loves her. Instead of a laugh, she was met with a dead-serious reply: “if it’s a boy I will, not if it’s a girl.”
The woman was, understandably, horrified. She immediately told him that his “deep-rooted resentment towards women” was a massive red flag and that she was no longer interested in having kids with him. He doubled down, calling her “rude” and insisting it’s “normal” for men to love their sons more than their daughters, a defense that only made things worse.
After the initial fight, she stood her ground. When he realized she was serious about the breakup, he tried to backtrack, claiming he was “kidding” and she was “being too sensitive.” But the truth eventually came out: his father had taught him that “women are inferior and having boys is ideal.”
For the woman, this was the final nail in the coffin. She told him she was “not willing to train a 26 y/o to see [her] worth as a woman.” In the end, she walked away, heartbroken but resolute. She realized that while he may have loved her, you can’t “love someone fully” if you don’t see them as an equal.
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The United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) identifies “son preference” as a harmful form of gender discrimination rooted in the belief that boys are more valuable than girls. This bias, which he admitted was passed down from his father, is not a “normal” quirk but a deeply ingrained prejudice that devalues women and sets up a potential daughter for a lifetime of feeling inferior.
His reaction to being called out is a scary example of subtle sexism. Everyday Feminism explains that a common tactic is to give a woman a hard time for her opinions or dismiss her feelings when she points out something problematic. His insistence that she was “being too sensitive” is a classic gaslighting technique designed to make her question her own valid perception of his sexism.
Ultimately, the woman’s decision to end the relationship is a powerful and healthy outcome of having crucial pre-marriage conversations. Steeped in Hope emphasizes that it is essential for couples to be on the same page about their values regarding children before making a lifelong commitment.
Instead of her breakup being an “overreaction,” it was the correct and responsible result of discovering a fundamental, non-negotiable incompatibility. She was saving herself and her potential future children from a partnership where they would never be seen as truly equal.
Do you agree that this relationship should have ended? Share your thoughts in the comments!
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Tabitha 2 days ago (edited)
I’m 65, and have seen—-and experienced—-this b******t attitude in too many men my whole life. I have seen men who have brilliant, talented, strong, and capable daughters who achieve greatness in spite of their fathers’ attitudes, yet their stupid, worthless, shiftless, negative achiever sons are the pure apples of their eyes, get all the help and support from their fathers, can do no wrong, and turn out such losers. Yet the fathers ignore their amazing daughters. I was one of those daughters. The only girl with four brothers. Academically I was the smartest and most talented of all five kids—-even my brothers knew it and were proud of me—-but my father was dead set against me going to college, even though the boys all had money set aside for their college educations. No, my father planned for me to stay at home and be nursemaid to my parents in their old age. My brothers helped me leave once I hit 18, and I did not look back. BTW, I got my college education. I have a Masters degree, and graduated at the top of the class (for all my degrees) with a 4.0 GPA. Recognize your daughters’ abilities, men. Don’t discount them just because they aren’t male. And don’t spoil your sons just because they are male. You’re not doing them any favors, in fact all you’re doing is setting them up to fail, because the world ain’t their daddy, doesn’t love them, won’t smooth the path for them, and will merely let them fall into ruin.
Tamra 1 day ago (edited)
Same here. First born child, unfortunately for my father I was a girl. Made straight As throughout school - no comment nor encouragement from my father. Scholastic awards and first person in the family to attend college - crickets. My brother failed his way through school and made some really p**s poor choices, but was the sole focus of my dad's attention. Later in life I realized my dad was threatened by my intelligence and success. He was truly a fragile person who was incapable of perceiving or understanding equality or value in women. We cannot change people like this, nor is that our job. Scrape them off your shoe, walk on and live your best life.
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FreeTheUnicorn 2 days ago
Kicking him to the curb is the right move. If only everyone would cut misogynists out of their lives, society would be so much the better for it
Janelle Collard 2 days ago (edited)
Too bad they'll probably find some innocent woman + knock her up until they get their *boy.* Pretty sure a lot of these men don't know/believe that *men* determine the s*x of the baby. It's science + they don't *do* science.
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Joanne Wright 2 days ago
My father believed girls are wothless. I am still dealing iwth the aftermath. Do not have children with this man.
Janelle Collard 2 days ago
And if/when dad plays the "You have to take care of me in my old age" card , I hope you laugh in his face + slam the door on him.
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Kate Johnson 2 days ago
If you believe men are superior to women, then I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with you because you are stupid. Men like this should never have children at all, so their antiquated misogyny can be stamped out of existence like the disease that it is.
Austzn 1 day ago (edited)
Why are some people ok with expressing sexist biases but don't like being called out for them? It's narcissism, right? 🤷🏻 Side note; many times in casual conversation someone will ask about my children and if I don't gender them they will often ask. I like to give non descriptive responses like, "They're human children." and it practically stops them in their tracks. 😭 Waaa, what do we do? They didn't gender the thing....pathetic.
Lee Gilliland 2 days ago (edited)
You know why the military won't let you join after you turn 26? Because you're you then. You're no longer plastic. Your opinions are pretty much set. This woman showed a rare amount of maturity ditching this AH.
Marno C. 23 hours ago
Nope, nope, nope! When someone says their love is conditional like this, there is rarely only one set of conditions. (Kind of like how a racist has problems with multiple groups of people, not just one). If this guy says that he can only love a son, he's forgetting to say that he'll only love a 'certain type' of son. Even if he got a son, if the boy had certain characteristics that the father didn't like --e.g. a 'feminine' interest in theatre, too bookish, no sports, a disability, etc.-- that male love is going to shrivel up like a grape.
Tabitha 2 days ago (edited)
I’m 65, and have seen—-and experienced—-this b******t attitude in too many men my whole life. I have seen men who have brilliant, talented, strong, and capable daughters who achieve greatness in spite of their fathers’ attitudes, yet their stupid, worthless, shiftless, negative achiever sons are the pure apples of their eyes, get all the help and support from their fathers, can do no wrong, and turn out such losers. Yet the fathers ignore their amazing daughters. I was one of those daughters. The only girl with four brothers. Academically I was the smartest and most talented of all five kids—-even my brothers knew it and were proud of me—-but my father was dead set against me going to college, even though the boys all had money set aside for their college educations. No, my father planned for me to stay at home and be nursemaid to my parents in their old age. My brothers helped me leave once I hit 18, and I did not look back. BTW, I got my college education. I have a Masters degree, and graduated at the top of the class (for all my degrees) with a 4.0 GPA. Recognize your daughters’ abilities, men. Don’t discount them just because they aren’t male. And don’t spoil your sons just because they are male. You’re not doing them any favors, in fact all you’re doing is setting them up to fail, because the world ain’t their daddy, doesn’t love them, won’t smooth the path for them, and will merely let them fall into ruin.
Tamra 1 day ago (edited)
Same here. First born child, unfortunately for my father I was a girl. Made straight As throughout school - no comment nor encouragement from my father. Scholastic awards and first person in the family to attend college - crickets. My brother failed his way through school and made some really p**s poor choices, but was the sole focus of my dad's attention. Later in life I realized my dad was threatened by my intelligence and success. He was truly a fragile person who was incapable of perceiving or understanding equality or value in women. We cannot change people like this, nor is that our job. Scrape them off your shoe, walk on and live your best life.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 2 days ago
Kicking him to the curb is the right move. If only everyone would cut misogynists out of their lives, society would be so much the better for it
Janelle Collard 2 days ago (edited)
Too bad they'll probably find some innocent woman + knock her up until they get their *boy.* Pretty sure a lot of these men don't know/believe that *men* determine the s*x of the baby. It's science + they don't *do* science.
Load More Replies... Joanne Wright 2 days ago
My father believed girls are wothless. I am still dealing iwth the aftermath. Do not have children with this man.
Janelle Collard 2 days ago
And if/when dad plays the "You have to take care of me in my old age" card , I hope you laugh in his face + slam the door on him.
Load More Replies... Kate Johnson 2 days ago
If you believe men are superior to women, then I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with you because you are stupid. Men like this should never have children at all, so their antiquated misogyny can be stamped out of existence like the disease that it is.
Austzn 1 day ago (edited)
Why are some people ok with expressing sexist biases but don't like being called out for them? It's narcissism, right? 🤷🏻 Side note; many times in casual conversation someone will ask about my children and if I don't gender them they will often ask. I like to give non descriptive responses like, "They're human children." and it practically stops them in their tracks. 😭 Waaa, what do we do? They didn't gender the thing....pathetic.
Lee Gilliland 2 days ago (edited)
You know why the military won't let you join after you turn 26? Because you're you then. You're no longer plastic. Your opinions are pretty much set. This woman showed a rare amount of maturity ditching this AH.
Marno C. 23 hours ago
Nope, nope, nope! When someone says their love is conditional like this, there is rarely only one set of conditions. (Kind of like how a racist has problems with multiple groups of people, not just one). If this guy says that he can only love a son, he's forgetting to say that he'll only love a 'certain type' of son. Even if he got a son, if the boy had certain characteristics that the father didn't like --e.g. a 'feminine' interest in theatre, too bookish, no sports, a disability, etc.-- that male love is going to shrivel up like a grape.
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