“She Calls Me Selfish”: Spoiled Mother Wants An $8k Baby Crib, Her Sister Refuses, Starting A Family Drama
A new entry to the famous ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’ subreddit has just gone viral, reminding everyone that we can’t choose our family. Or how greedy they are.
A woman with a now-deleted Reddit account was invited to her sister’s baby shower. Knowing that the expectant mother had a crib on her wishlist, she planned to give her the barely used one she already had.
Only her sister wouldn’t accept it. Turns out, she already had a design in mind and she wasn’t willing to settle for anything less.
After finding out that particular crib cost over $8,000, the ex-Redditor refused to spend so much money on a gift and was immediately uninvited from the event.
Finding the right gift for a baby shower is a tough task
Image credits: Ömürden Cengiz (not the actual photo)
Especially when the expectant mother wants you to spend a fortune on it
Image credits: Anastasiia Chepinska (not the actual photo)
Image credits: reddit
The etiquette of how much to spend on a baby shower gift is usually determined by numerous factors, including:
1. Your relationship with the person — the closer you are to the soon-to-be mom the more likely you are to spend on her;
2. How much do you feel comfortable giving — just because someone else says you should spend a certain amount doesn’t mean you have to;
3. How much you can afford to give — you simply shouldn’t put yourself in financial hardship buying baby shower presents.
And yes, babies are expensive. (According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the average cost of raising a child to age 18 in 2015 was $233,610. So with an annual adjustment for inflation of 2.2% each year factored in, the cost of raising a child born in 2022 could be estimated at $272,049.) But over $8,000 for a crib? That’s just ridiculous.
Many parents agree a less expensive model of a crib or a used one works just fine. As long as it conforms to current safety standards, you can find plenty of options that suit your budget and nursery. A convertible crib that transforms into a toddler bed may tempt you into thinking you can save even more, but often you can buy both a crib and a toddler bed for less than an expensive model that converts. If new parents want to splurge on something, a good-quality mattress is probably a better choice.
People declared the author of the story was not the jerk
Laughing at "hammy downs". It's hand-me-downs.
Came down to comment to ask if “hammy downs” is new internet slang like good boi and chonk cuz I’d never seen it before? Or is it another error in this “doggy dog world”?
Or "bone apple tea!" 🤭
all the sudden. 😂
In my neck of the woods hammy downs is southern slang. 😀
But it's even easier to type "hand me downs." 😧
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I know this is BP but, r/boneappletea
That's what we called hand me downs back in the 80s. Never thought I'd see it mentioned again
I thought it was on purpose. And I'm still laughing
I like the hammy downs comment, think I will start using it.
I was laughing out loud at hammy downs, too! Reminds me of "bone apple tea.." 🤭
I'm with you! And don't try no blame-a*s excuses, either! Lol - that's my new favorite 'Fractured Phrase. I kinda collect 'em.😁
Same. LOL!
It might depend on where you live, I thought it was very sweet.
There's a meme going around with it. Makes me laugh every time. There's a whole list of them like "has a fever" is "runnin a tempachur". It's hilarious https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cheezburger.com/9641477/woman-yelling-at-cat-memes-that-perfectly-showcase-strange-southern-slang
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I laughed at that one too.
Me too. It's as bad as "should of" instead of the grammatically correct "should have". The illiteracy of people is astonishing.
Geesh. Harsh much?
I'd rather spend a few hundred, and give the kid a savings bond or something for the future. It's absurd to spend 9k on a crib they will only use for a few years, if that.
See, here you have it. She's been sponsored by her parents for everything and doesn't look further ahead. One day the parents will have bankrupted themselves helping this selfish idiot daughter and will get nothing from her!
It's not her fault tough. THEY made her what she is. And if she has no rich husband to indulge her, she will have to pay the prize for it at the end. They did not do her any favour with her upbringing.
Nitka, you hit the nail on the head! The parents created this monster Golden Child, and sadly, they are paying the price. OP & her siblings are lucky to be independent & making decent money, because there won't be anything to inherit. I wonder how long it will be before the parents are begging their other children to take them in because they're broke!
Exactly.
Yes! I bought a $200 crib, second hand. I bought the baby mattress and full size mattress. It's currently in the full size bed format.
So... A spoiled brat is giving birth to a future spoiled brat?
God help us all.
That baby won't be spoiled unless Mama can get her cut. People like that don't change when they have children.
Can you imagine how horrible that kid is gonna be?
I can only imagine and thinking about that scares me
Laughing at "hammy downs". It's hand-me-downs.
Came down to comment to ask if “hammy downs” is new internet slang like good boi and chonk cuz I’d never seen it before? Or is it another error in this “doggy dog world”?
Or "bone apple tea!" 🤭
all the sudden. 😂
In my neck of the woods hammy downs is southern slang. 😀
But it's even easier to type "hand me downs." 😧
This comment has been deleted.
I know this is BP but, r/boneappletea
That's what we called hand me downs back in the 80s. Never thought I'd see it mentioned again
I thought it was on purpose. And I'm still laughing
I like the hammy downs comment, think I will start using it.
I was laughing out loud at hammy downs, too! Reminds me of "bone apple tea.." 🤭
I'm with you! And don't try no blame-a*s excuses, either! Lol - that's my new favorite 'Fractured Phrase. I kinda collect 'em.😁
Same. LOL!
It might depend on where you live, I thought it was very sweet.
There's a meme going around with it. Makes me laugh every time. There's a whole list of them like "has a fever" is "runnin a tempachur". It's hilarious https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cheezburger.com/9641477/woman-yelling-at-cat-memes-that-perfectly-showcase-strange-southern-slang
This comment has been deleted.
I laughed at that one too.
Me too. It's as bad as "should of" instead of the grammatically correct "should have". The illiteracy of people is astonishing.
Geesh. Harsh much?
I'd rather spend a few hundred, and give the kid a savings bond or something for the future. It's absurd to spend 9k on a crib they will only use for a few years, if that.
See, here you have it. She's been sponsored by her parents for everything and doesn't look further ahead. One day the parents will have bankrupted themselves helping this selfish idiot daughter and will get nothing from her!
It's not her fault tough. THEY made her what she is. And if she has no rich husband to indulge her, she will have to pay the prize for it at the end. They did not do her any favour with her upbringing.
Nitka, you hit the nail on the head! The parents created this monster Golden Child, and sadly, they are paying the price. OP & her siblings are lucky to be independent & making decent money, because there won't be anything to inherit. I wonder how long it will be before the parents are begging their other children to take them in because they're broke!
Exactly.
Yes! I bought a $200 crib, second hand. I bought the baby mattress and full size mattress. It's currently in the full size bed format.
So... A spoiled brat is giving birth to a future spoiled brat?
God help us all.
That baby won't be spoiled unless Mama can get her cut. People like that don't change when they have children.
Can you imagine how horrible that kid is gonna be?
I can only imagine and thinking about that scares me