“She Calls Me Selfish”: Spoiled Mother Wants An $8k Baby Crib, Her Sister Refuses, Starting A Family Drama
A new entry to the famous ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’ subreddit has just gone viral, reminding everyone that we can’t choose our family. Or how greedy they are.
A woman with a now-deleted Reddit account was invited to her sister’s baby shower. Knowing that the expectant mother had a crib on her wishlist, she planned to give her the barely used one she already had.
Only her sister wouldn’t accept it. Turns out, she already had a design in mind and she wasn’t willing to settle for anything less.
After finding out that particular crib cost over $8,000, the ex-Redditor refused to spend so much money on a gift and was immediately uninvited from the event.
Finding the right gift for a baby shower is a tough task
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Especially when the expectant mother wants you to spend a fortune on it
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The etiquette of how much to spend on a baby shower gift is usually determined by numerous factors, including:
1. Your relationship with the person — the closer you are to the soon-to-be mom the more likely you are to spend on her;
2. How much do you feel comfortable giving — just because someone else says you should spend a certain amount doesn’t mean you have to;
3. How much you can afford to give — you simply shouldn’t put yourself in financial hardship buying baby shower presents.
And yes, babies are expensive. (According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the average cost of raising a child to age 18 in 2015 was $233,610. So with an annual adjustment for inflation of 2.2% each year factored in, the cost of raising a child born in 2022 could be estimated at $272,049.) But over $8,000 for a crib? That’s just ridiculous.
Many parents agree a less expensive model of a crib or a used one works just fine. As long as it conforms to current safety standards, you can find plenty of options that suit your budget and nursery. A convertible crib that transforms into a toddler bed may tempt you into thinking you can save even more, but often you can buy both a crib and a toddler bed for less than an expensive model that converts. If new parents want to splurge on something, a good-quality mattress is probably a better choice.
People declared the author of the story was not the jerk
Came down to comment to ask if “hammy downs” is new internet slang like good boi and chonk cuz I’d never seen it before? Or is it another error in this “doggy dog world”?
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I had to google the crib to see what the fuss is about.. that girl is insane! Btw my little girl sleeps in a hand me down crib with a new matress, about 15 years old, and she is the 4th child to sleep in it. No regrets in not buying her a new one.
A used crib has been tried and tested and endorsed by previous babies!
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I looked that crib up and I agree with Emme Magnolia - it's as ugly as it is overpriced. You'd have to be out of your mind or too rich to know any better - or both - to actually buy that eyesore. Sister sounds like a spoilt brat. I pity her kid to be, who will probably one day have to put up with BS like "Why didn't you buy me the $600 silk slippers I wanted for Mother's Day instead of giving me this stupid vase you hand-painted in art class? Don't you love your Mommy?? And stop crying! You're just as selfish as your aunt!"
Looked at the crib...it's hideous. It looks like a slated crate. No curves, no wood turnings, no adorable additions, just a walnut slated crate with a mattress in it. That kid is going to chew on that walnut when they start teething.
My brother chewed on his crib so much it was like we had a rat invasion 😆
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The sister sounds like you could have gave her the 6k car just for the baby to use as a toilet and you'd still be a selfish terrible person.
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I think £200 would be a fair price for a decent crib £100 for frame and £100 for mattress. Any more than £500 seems excessive to me tbh
Load More Replies... If you can't afford it, that does not make you selfish. Even if you could afford it and are comfortable financially. You should be able to spend whatever amount you like. Or buy her whatever you think she will like.
I can afford it. But I will not put money toward it. It is a CRIB, ffs! It's going to be used for a year, 2 at the most. No way in hell am I putting in that kind of money to help buy something for someone else that I would never buy for myself.
Load More Replies... My sisters kid sleeps in the same crib we all slept in about 20 years ago. It's just cleaned, got a new paint job and and a new mattress. The thing looks like new, except for the design. Why would anyone spend that insane amount of money for a crib - not even my grandfathers hospital bed cost that much!
I think I have found said crib. ( https://nurseryworks.net/products/lydian-crib ) It really does not look particularly spectacular, although quite nice and I think that here the manufacturer earns pretty good on each sold copy. The price is really ridiculous, especially if you look at Walmart, for example, what is charged there for cribs. Even if it has to be a solid wood crib (the other crib was made of plywood, by the way) you get something really high quality with 1000$. Pretty sure you could get such a crib made cheaper than 9000$ by a trusted carpenter. (My whole bedroom set from a carpenter has cost less). Perhaps the creator of the thread should have suggested asking a carpenter how much a bed of this type made by him would cost.
It looks like a crate with a picture frame stuck to the side. Seriously nothing special. An insane amount of money for something that will only be used for a couple of years. Sister is not only TA, but an entitled one at that.
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Her lifestyle is her choice, you, however, are not there to fund it. I'm my world that is an outrageous cost for a crib and the only benefit will be for your sister, not her baby. She's heading for a huge shock once your parents pass.
For a sister or brother, just a nice gift is required (nice is in the $50 range), and parents are one and done for the first child, whatever their budget allows, but then save for their own future and not be a burden on the next generation.
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Her sister be tripping - absolutely NO ONE needs a $9k crib. The baby sure won't notice. And it's not going to be resold for anywhere near what they'd pay for it. This is an all-around stupid ask and Mom is stupid enough to buy into this c**p. When she bankrupts them and they're stuck struggling to make due on social security once she's depleted their retirement funds, they're ALL gonna be in for a very rude awakening. Heaven help that poor kid with such a vapid, entitled, immature brat for a mother. And why the hell is there no mention of what the father of the child is buying or contributing towards the child's future needs?! My husband & I went to a local pregnancy center and took parenting classes for a few weeks for "baby bucks" that would be handed in for a brand new crib, car seat, AND crib mattress, ALL FOR FREE, that the center ordered from Walmart in our color choice that we just had to pick up once the ordered arrived at Walmart.
Where did you take. Te parenting. Class What’s the name of Company how much do they cost for a friend
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If you want a crib in the price range of a good used car you can pay for it. But a present is an effin present you do not get to dictate what it is.
We got a cot that turns into a toddler bed, chest of draws, changing table and a cupboard for £700 when my son was born. It was a whole set. He has long outgrown the bed and changing table and now has a single bed. The draws and cupboard are still in use. The sister is nuts for wanting something so expensive.
My family cringes at painted wood..especially quality wood.
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NTA. Oh boy my family definitely wouldn’t get an invite to your sister’s shower- both my boys slept in the same crib I did!
If I had kids they'd be lucky if I bought an 8k crib for them (which I most definitely WOULD NOT) so I definitely wouldn't blow it on somebody else, even a sister. User is called selfish by a sister who wants that much spent is too ridiculous to even fathom. If a hand-me-down crib is still safe in working order, then that's what should be used. My grandmother had three kids within three years, they had to use drawers... so her being able to get a crib at all is something she should be grateful for. The kid is only going to use it for 3-4ish years and honestly maybe not even all the time. Some people are just way too entitled.
I'm curious what the GC gave as a gift when the poster had a bridal shower. I'm going to assume nothing. I would point that out in this scenario to
Dude, tell her to go to Walmart or Ikea. Or is she Boujee and more of a Target gal?
I don't think the value of everything I got at my baby shower was anywhere near 4K. And that's just half of the crib! How the other half lives...
Paint the used crib to look like the expensive one. Put a fake name brand on it, say it's 'vintage'.
This is what it looks like. https://www.modernnursery.com/products/nursery-works-lydian-crib-in-walnut-finish-with-24k-gold Absolutely ridiculous to spend on a crib your baby will sleep in for maybe 2 years if it can convert into a toddler bed. It better turn into a lot of things for that price. The sister is definitely NTA. I can't stand these parents that don't want used things even if they're like brand new.
First I don't see the point of having that particular crib for the baby($9000!!seriously?). If the mother thinks it is that important for the baby and she should get it on her own. Gifts are not given by being forced.
That must be some 'budget' your parents are living on if mom thinks a 9k crib makes sense. They raised her that way, let them foot the bill. I drive a 'used' car(low mileage, steal of a deal), my house was 'used' when I bought it and I've gotten some great 'used' furniture for it. For that matter, your sister with the bun in the oven...doesn't that make her 'used'? Unless mom and dad leave her set for life she might have some tough lessons down the road. You and siblings are wise to maintain some distance.
If the golden child wants that crib so badly, she better take herself down to the grey hound station and start selling her golden cunnie 🤪
NTA your sister is spoiled and entitled. 2k for a stroller?! If you have money like that put it to better use. Makes no sense to waste that much money on something that will last 2-3 yrs before becoming irrelevant.
I've had 2 kids and I didn't spend 9k on their ENTIRE bedroom set, stroller, and car seats! 😳😳
I will never in my life spend $8000 for a crib that soon to be mom’s sister is truly a selfish person asking for that much ridiculous amount of money she doesn’t deserve anything even their parents seems to be blind giving her whatever she wants she is too spoiled and needs a rude awakening you cannot have everything your way otherwise people will abandon you for being selfish even my mom taught me not to be selfish and always look for affordable items with high-quality materials if that was my sister asking me to spend $8000 I will immediately decline and I don’t care if she would be angry or stop talking to me for the rest of my life I don’t care you have to be considerate with other people who are willing to create a baby shower but you cannot force people to spend a certain amount of money that they cannot afford
Ignoring the fact that the crib is ugly, and ignoring the fact that $8K is a stupid price for a baby crib ... what I want to know is who the h3ll paints walnut wood pink?!?! Or is she painting the 24K gold part pink?
Lol NO. You can find a crib at ikea for 80€ and paint it whatever color you like ("sniglar" is perfect to paint!). Besides; none of my kids even used their cribs. They slept with us (breastfeeding is sooo much easier if you co-sleep or bedshare) until at least 18 months and then they can have a kids bed. Total waste of money. I can't believe people pay that much for a useless object.
I bought a barely used crib from a friend, for $35. My daughter slept in it, maybe 15% of the time. She was a breast fed baby, so she was always in the bed with me. At age 1, she graduated to a toddler bed. At age 4, she got a daybed. After I was finished with the crib, another friend bought it off of me, for $35. The spoiled daughter and the mom have a rude awakening. Reality is about to slap them hard in the face. Because baby's are expensive. With the mom and dad being on a budget, they're not going to be able to financially support a grown a*s spoiled brat, and her baby. To the poster of this article, "You and your siblings stick to your guns, and don't give in to your sisters entitlement"
On top of the already insane price of a crib, she wants to take a beautiful wood like walnut and paint it pink?! Then what the hell is the point of using walnut? It may as well be made out of fir or pine at that point, at least the price would drop drastically and the average person would probably be none the wiser once it was painted pink.
Mum is in denial as to what she raised and is clearly projecting onto the inappropriate child.
I would laugh at the suggestion of getting GC the crib of her dreams. Time to cut the familial cord. When they told her she was uninvited, I would have sung, Hallelujah, I'm free! Parents seem to not understand their culpability in making youngest a momster. How do you love people that only value one child?
Is that how it goes?? Well then I REALLY need a sports car. I can't afford it but maybe if I whine enough you'll all pitch in and get one for me?? I need it oh SO bad. And a horse! Yeah .... and a couple of other things, hold on I'll make a list and be right back.
The only reason I can see to expect these kind of gifts is for the resale value to pocket the money herself...
I wouldn't think there would be much resale value. People buying $8k cribs aren't looking at used.
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Your sister is behaving exactly as your parents trained her to behave. What’s most troubling is they are teaching her to expect you to take over their role as the provider to the golden child. You need to be clear that she is going to be treated as the equal of your other siblings.
I am a grandmother to six beautiful children. My 3 sons, have all done well for themselves. My middle son has megabucks. I'm so proud he paid for his college at a private school and had some funding for being a division 3 school. He was one of their best basketball players. He went overseas to play in a tournament, he started a fundraiser. My oldest is a laborer and his wife works as well. They just got back from Disney and did not charge one thing. My youngest he and his wife take the kids camping at s Nat'l park every summer, and Vermont to ggma's family home that is to be shared. Both he and his wife work. We married at 17 5 months pregnant still in high school. Had 3 sons that we raised on barest mineable money. I wanted to buby cribs for all t
All the families. That failed. They each had other family members that went together and bought them. We spent $200.00 dollars for each family, that's all we had. I had a tiny tiny little baby shower and was without so many luxuries. But hey kitchen sinks are safe. That's where my babies were bathed. Oldest so six months old didn't have a crib someone gave us a used bassinet. One night my hubby and I watched my young siblings. When we got home there was a crib in the living room. I made my husband drive to my mom and dads to thank them as we didn't have a phone. Now, we are in better shape, I am disabled from a job I loved. Each son and wife get $100. For Christmas each grandchild gets a hundred dollars spent on them
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That has got to be the most hideous crib I've ever seen! I bought a gorgeous crib for about $300. I was more concerned with the best mattress to support her back. Your sister just wants bragging rights for a crib she can't afford. Nowhere is a husband/boyfriend mentioned, and I suspect the reason is no man can afford her. If your parents don't say ENOUGH, she's going to drain them dry. I'm sorry, but if you are grown enough to have a baby, you should be able to take care of it. That does NOT mean your parents support it. Also not fair to the other children and grandchildren that ONE family member gets treated like royalty. Ridiculous that she's been allowed to get away with not working if nothing is wrong with her. You & your other siblings need to have an intervention with your parents before she bankrupt them! Good luck!
OP and her siblings need to sit mom, dad, sis, and bil down for a chat. They need to make it clear that once mom & dad can no longer fund sis the siblings absolutely won't be stepping into that role. Maybe the parents/sis & bil haven't thought about what will happen once the parents die, and this conversation will be a very sobering one. Maybe they all assume the other siblings will step up out of a sense of family. I think now is a good time to dissuade them of that idea. It'll give sis time to either find a job or a sugar daddy. Or get comfortable with "hammy downs" 🤣
I grew up on hand -me-downs. Our family used used the same bassinet for three generations I had the honor of painting, repairing, and making a new mattress for it for the last generation to use it. The mother and daughter here are spoiled rotten to think that the baby needs an $8000 crib! Just because the author can afford it, doesn't mean she should spend it. I'm glad she stuck to her guns. Definitely NTA.
I proudly used a hand-me-down crib (1976). It was the one that my husband (1953) and his 2 siblings slept in. My great uncle did a beautiful job refinishing it. That meant so much to me. We would still have it for the grand babies, but it wasn’t up to current safety standards.
The reason the parents are on a limited budget now is because they blew every penny paying for everything for the younger sister- including her house (!?!?) So now that the gravy train is out of fuel, she just needs to get used to not getting everything she wants. This is just the beginning I promise. Next year it will be "but the baby DESERVES a full circus with trained elephants for her 1st birthday party!"
Sounds like her parents have a favorite daughter which is really messed up on its own. I know plenty of people who could also afford 8k for a crib but not a single one would actually consider buying it. They would laugh at the suggestion. It would be an ongoing joke between us. Sounds like their enabling parents are a major part of the problem as well. Playing favorites like they are is never ok.
N T A. 9K dollars fOR a crib!!?? WT H??!! My God. When I had our son. Our crib was USED. and NOBODY even knew it. AND he slept in it just fine. UNLESS this CRIB comes COMPLETE with a toddler bed. Regular Bed AND a Brand NEW car The ANSWER IS NOT ONLY. BUT. HELL NO. Princess has NO BRAINS in her and YOUR PARENTS are no better. This ENTITLED LITTLE TWIT has QUITE LITERALLY SPONGED of YOUR parents HER entire life. 🙄 This BABY SHOWER should be a NASTY WAKE UP CALL. No MORE. She wants something. She can get off her ENTITLED LAZY A*S and either go to school or go to work and start EARNING her OWN money. As far as being UNINVITED. SO WHAT. JUST ROLL YOUR EYES and YOU and YOUR SIBLINGS do SOMETHING else TOGETHER.
That is absurd for a baby crib. At my family's budget most of our stuff comes from thrift stores or Walmart. I'm expecting in a few months and the only thing I insist on getting new is the carseat, (for safety reasons.) We got that at Walmart.
As others have done, I googled this much-coveted crib. And as others have done, I stared at it in disbelief. And she wanted a $2K stroller? Does she think that she's a Kardashian?
a baby doesnt need a 9,000 crib. And why should the sister get such an expensive crib? Is she royalty
https://nurseryworks.net/products/lydian-crib. This is the monstrosity
Our crib has been passed down from my mom, my uncle, me and my little brother! Yikes.
In India, we get a decent new car in that amount. Instead that amount can be deposited as a baby welfare fund that can be of some use to the baby in her future endeavours
I remember with my first kid, we also did all kinds of research to get the "best" there is ... best stroller that supports baby's back, best chair-carry-thingie that won't cause posture problems ... so I can understand to want "the best". But to EXPECT something from other people is a whole other thing. We shelled out our own money and made concessions in other things so we could afford it. Time this lady learned the difference between "want" and "can afford".
Nta... That's all I can say, I mama I would not spend that kind of money on a crib, even for my own kids. I don't blame you for not wanting to spend it. It's ridiculous.
Just wait until Golden Child find out she'll have to go through labor herself.
When my grandson was on the way in the mid 90s, I gave his parents a subscription to a diaper service. DIL later said she thought it was strange at the time, but later, it was the best gift she got. They did use disposable diapers occasionally, but the cloth ones were easier on his skin. And the service was amazing.
7k for a crib is a waste. My son was in a used crib, in fact most of his clothes were hand me down for his 1st year. It gave me such joy to have these hand me downs. I washed them and hung them up outside to dry, I cried with joy. I could well afford a new crib and new clothes. Such sweet gifts my friends gave me knowing their little ones also wore them. When my son out grew them I past them on to the next baby. Things do not bring contentment just means more to take care of. For my gift from my mom she hand made bibs for my baby that she hand embroidered. Contentment only comes from a living relationship with Jesus, not things.
Someone needs to tell both the sister and the parents to gfthemselves. I feel terrible for whoever the father of that child is.
Guys, why would anyone in their right mind want one?!? It looks like a dog kennel.
I would gladly take a used crib and be done with it! These people in their 20s feel so entitled and I see you mentioned she has never worked but could decide to get pregnant! That is number one red flag for me because she must be a celebrity wife or something!
BTW, even with the gold trim, I can have this made for $2000. A baby needs a clean, dry, sift but not too soft space. Yeah, safety guidelines change so check. But terrible people. You could give half away, take a short trip and still buy a crib
The planet is burning, half of the world is dying from hunger related diseases and your entitled, see you next Tuesday, sister "deserves" a $9000 crib? It shouldn't even exist and only a complete POS would buy one.
She should get her a box for the baby to sleep in, like in Finland. Babies gonna outgrow cribs fast anyway.
If you cant afford a luxury item with your own economics then no you're not entitled to it. This is toxic af. This is ridiculous. Thank you for uninviting me.
Who cares that someone wrote "Hammy Downs"??!!!. It's cute and shows a beautiful sense of humor from the person that wrote it!!. Damn Bullies!.Correct ur own damn no sense of humor havin arses!!.
8k for a crib? My gad. With all that money she can buy everything she need for the baby. The baby is gonna brag bout the luxurious bed hi/she sleep in to other babies.
To me spending lots of money on kids even into their teens is stupid economically. Who gives a c**p about keeping up with the kardashians. They aint all that and they are not as pretty as people think they are. Ive seen much prettier woman in walmart. Kids out grow stuff fast. Spending 50 to 100 bucks on shoes for a toddler is ignorant. Spending money for fashion on a child is dumb. Less than six months later they have outgrown it. Most people especially the more well to do types wont even consider giving expensive clothing to goodwill or the salvation army. Anyone that arent that well off and buy pricey c**p for kids wont give it up either. They will keep it until they lose it by a catastrophy or eviction. I never spent much on clothing for my kids even when they became teens and had to have it. Now they understand the value of a dollar and how to spend it properly. Spoiling kids make them bad kids and adults. They think they are entitled. Bad idea.
Spending $8k on crib. You don't need a crib. You need mental health counseling.
You should go ahead, take the $9000 and put a down payment on the baby's house. This way, you can ensure your niece will be well set up by her 18th birthday with her own place to live. Her mother will likely be living inside a ridiculously tiny luxury vehicle by then (if my math of stupid decisions+no job+ kardashian complex = 10,000 × 18. Seriously. Someone needs to step in. Put the money in a trust fund for the child before she has to work 2 full time jobs from age 13 on to "pay her mother back what she owes."I waa raised by a narcissist, believe me- THIS IS THE WAY THE WIND IS BLOWING Your sister needs to GROW UP NOW and ypur parents need to realize they are helping NO ONE and helping to kick their grand babys legs out as she takes her first steps into adulthood if THIS is what they are investing in right now instead of her college fund...and cribs decrease in value by like 85% after a kid cycles through there with all the p**s, s**t and barf that accompanies.
Ughh I hate parents like this.Her parents raised a brat who will never change.Your sister will be a pain in butt to others for the rest of her life.It's not your fault that you use your brain and think with logic.
When I was 17 years old,I got pregnant & my sister gave me a baby shower that not one person showed up to.The only gifts I got/had that day was the cake/snacks she made for the occassion.She had spent her money on the special occassion,occasion, me.Which I very much appreciated.(she also bought my baby gifts as my baby got older).From that day on I vowed to buy every single item I needed for my baby.And learned to be dependent upon myself,not others.Thank you sis,for helping me get through that situation& teaching me how to cope with being a first time parent.It was fun to buy my baby's things on my own..Hopefully your mom can have a change of heart & teach your sister to be more dependent upon herself.God bless you & your family.Family means alot.And should be greatful of having one if at all.Not used for her own personal use.
My kids have almost everything from second hands or our relatives bought it for them. I bought formula (for two kids at the same time, fu.king expensive), diapers and other necessities. My daughter was wearing "boyish" clothes most of the time, since they were hand downs and I didn't wanted to buy them just so she can wear it for a few weeks at most. Babies grow so fast, it doesn't make sense to spend that ridiculous amount of money for unnecessary items.
I looked up the Lydian Crib and when I first saw the picture I thought it a dog crate for a hot second
Applying malicious compliance to family scenarios can be interesting. If you are, let's say... "financially stable" (which author does NOT imply - yes I know). Plz consider paying $3,500 to both your parents and sisters rent (HA!!?!), Or mortgage. And tell them to buy fridge themselves! And just watch what happens and tread the high road - like you F'ing own it.
Dear God!!! My lil sis had her first kid a little over 2 years ago... Her fiance's family gave her all hand-me-downs....and not even nice ones. Like clothes with holes in them that had been passed down thru 4 of m-i-l'a kids already...over 20 years! I, on the other hand, being the only local family who has contact with her and had backpay I could spare, dropped about 3.5k on a bunch of stuff she ACTUALLY needed! Crib, stroller, diapers, kitchen supplies, pacifiers, bottles, pack and play, etc. ESENTIALS! And her m-i-l looks at me like I'M the a-holes. They make some damn good money... Normally I have 300 to work with after bills... They go on vacation almost 2x a month! Couldn't be bothered...
I agree with not getting that absurd crib for a baby who's just going to puke in it so it has to be cleaned! Get cheap! Like what I did!
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On the other hand I feel bad for the baby. If she lives in that kind of same-minds environment, it will be so bad for her for her growth.
My bestfriend had the same situation with his parents. They think he's making a lot of money because we're architects. They get stupid when they talk about his lazy siblings. On him the eldest son, and the youngest sibling, his sister are in sound mind. The 3 mid brothers, and both of his parents are not.
I'm pretty sure my mom used the same crib for all three of us kids and I guarantee you none of us give a sh1t. We had a bed to sleep in and I remember no longer being in the crib when I was MAYBE 4? Basically as soon as my mom started to notice me escaping it. FWIW, my sister first used it when she was born in 1972, then I was the last to use it in, like, 1990/1. I have no idea how much it cost, but I guarantee it was in the low triple digits at the very MOST. Probably not even that much. NTA all the way. Get her a sh!t ton of diapers (pun intended) since she's going to need them anyway and call it a day.
I bought a 2nd hand crib($50), all 4 children used it. Had my parents buy a new dresser for me, that was 37 years ago, and still in use. You can always use a dresser, a crib is done after 2-3 years. I gave my 37y.o. $400 to purchase the matching dresser for the crib they got for their son. But I would never spend more than $50 on a sibling's gift, I had my own family to buy for. Now grandchildren is another story, hee hee. Go crazy, more disposable income now.
I told my daughter I would buy the crib for our first grandchild and I was shocked that it cost $1,000!
When I was prego with my 1st daughter, one of my sisters came up to see me and she went and bought a new crib at Walmart for right at $100 that converts into a toddler bed into a full size bed(this was in 2003). Well when my oldest was 4 I was pregnant with her little sister and guess who used the SAME crib as she did.... Her little sister! When her little sister was a yr and a half I converted the crib into a toddler bed but my daughter would NOT sleep in it for nothing, she actually dragged her mattress into our room and then would go to sleep(with big sisters help lol). Well when we moved to a different state my kids father's cousin needed a crib for his 1st child so we gave it to him.(the crib was right at 8yrs old by then but still in great shape). Why spend 8k for a crib unless you're mega rich?The child will NOT remember it unless it gets used by younger siblings or other family members.More than likely 10yrs down the road the expensive crib will no longer be in safety standards
Girlfriend is a poser! Better to give the kid an investment in gold, for that price, than to buy an item that just has gold on it.😄 I used the same crib for all 4 of my kids; 1st one got new, the ones that followed had a place to lay their heads- the youngest was climbing out of it @ 9 months old. I mean, really- googled celebrity crib trends, and even Blue Ivy' s crib didn't cost that much! A couple of years ago, I saw an article about a crib celebs were gushing about, to the tune of around $2500, and I thought that was ridiculous.
So if she doesn't want the baby sleeping in used. Then buy her a new organic mattress but the crib doesn't matter. And the baby is going tobpee poo ir vomit on that mattress immediately upon use.
That is nuts! But regarding the 7 year old crib, I would advise looking into crib requirements as they change quite often and the crib may be out of specs for what is currently required. No, do not spend that kind of money on a crib for a kid that will outgrow it. But look into whether the crib you have is still considered legal.
"she deserves it!" Um no she doesn't. She's not entitled to her sister's money. 🤦🏻♀️ Also she's not the parent either so she's not financially responsible for her period. 🙅🏻♀️ She can help her sister out, but she's not obligated to do so. Girl's almost 30, she should know how to manage money by now. Can't keep running to mother to take care of things either. Her mother will eventually reach the age were she can't both physically and possibly mentally take care of things run in her family like dementia. (Just speaking from experience being born to older parents.
Why this disparity ? Why are the other siblings not enabled like her? NTA.
$9,000 invested for 18 years at 8% annual return (current average) adjusted for inflation is almost $36,000!
Good for the OP to say no to such nonsense! My oldest of 2 gnawed on his crib rails like a dang Beaver and my youngest was able to climb out at 10 months. Seriously less than 3 years used...
We spent $50 at the thrift store for my son's crib that he literally never slept in! It was a nice crib too he just never liked it for anything other than playing in it
This post is so out of this world that I have a hard time believing it. But if it is true... damn this woman is insane.
I'm sorry but I would have been far less polite about saying hell to the f**k to the no! 😂😂 My reaction probably would have been something like, You do know smoking all that crack while your prego ain't good for the baby, cuz you must be high as satellite right now!
I think this is the crib: https://www.modernnursery.com/products/nursery-works-lydian-crib-in-walnut-finish-with-24k-gold?currency=USD&variant=32514056061028&utm_term=&utm_campaign=Modern+Nursery+-+DSA&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=8307995165&hsa_cam=17543558604&hsa_grp=137964204676&hsa_ad=605388829142&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=dsa-42989653875&hsa_kw=&hsa_mt=&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gclid=CjwKCAjwrZOXBhACEiwA0EoRDyO9s_fApgmkvgXCoHYjeGRETIFJesX7FUwrDHxXpe_TDUnxklkN7xoCfpkQAvD_BwE
My lord!! And this gal probably wants all new baby items for any other children. I don't get it. I make good money and was thrilled to have a second hand crib. It was a gorgeous crib that was disassembled and boxed up for years that a family member gave us. Most of that nonsense is all for Instagram likes. It's ridiculous.
Holy h*ll. My in-laws got my son a $2k crib, but it was one that transforms from a crib to a toddler to a twin. AND it came with a 5 year warranty. THAT was worth a couple of grand. $8k is just absurd.
This is my suggestion, your parents are the ones who spoiled your sister , it is not yours or your siblings responsibility to pay for what she wants being spoiled. Your mom and sister need to realize you all have your own family. They are responsible for her greedy selfish attitude, she and your mother needs to get over it. Your all being reasonable enough to help out , if she really wants it her in-laws and her husband should pay for the other half of that is the case and see how they feel about it.
It’s time for the retired parents to get jobs so they can continue to funnel money into their “baby’s” entitled life.
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Maybe it's time for you to reveal what kind of selfish and immature your spoiled and entitled little sister who can't even stretch her bone to find her own job to gain money. What tf her husband's role when it comes financially? Aren't you included on how they f**k themselves to create that baby? Tf wrong with this stupid kid?
There's no factual evidence that something is good, just because it's expensive. The baby won't even have the capacity to appreciate such "fine craftsmanship" until well after they've outgrown it.
Well usually if you miss the first hear or two the crib isn't priority. New business "Cribs for Adults". Thanks you can have one on us.
Load More Replies... Came down to comment to ask if “hammy downs” is new internet slang like good boi and chonk cuz I’d never seen it before? Or is it another error in this “doggy dog world”?
Load More Replies... I had to google the crib to see what the fuss is about.. that girl is insane! Btw my little girl sleeps in a hand me down crib with a new matress, about 15 years old, and she is the 4th child to sleep in it. No regrets in not buying her a new one.
A used crib has been tried and tested and endorsed by previous babies!
Load More Replies... I looked that crib up and I agree with Emme Magnolia - it's as ugly as it is overpriced. You'd have to be out of your mind or too rich to know any better - or both - to actually buy that eyesore. Sister sounds like a spoilt brat. I pity her kid to be, who will probably one day have to put up with BS like "Why didn't you buy me the $600 silk slippers I wanted for Mother's Day instead of giving me this stupid vase you hand-painted in art class? Don't you love your Mommy?? And stop crying! You're just as selfish as your aunt!"
Looked at the crib...it's hideous. It looks like a slated crate. No curves, no wood turnings, no adorable additions, just a walnut slated crate with a mattress in it. That kid is going to chew on that walnut when they start teething.
My brother chewed on his crib so much it was like we had a rat invasion 😆
Load More Replies... The sister sounds like you could have gave her the 6k car just for the baby to use as a toilet and you'd still be a selfish terrible person.
Load More Replies... I think £200 would be a fair price for a decent crib £100 for frame and £100 for mattress. Any more than £500 seems excessive to me tbh
Load More Replies... If you can't afford it, that does not make you selfish. Even if you could afford it and are comfortable financially. You should be able to spend whatever amount you like. Or buy her whatever you think she will like.
I can afford it. But I will not put money toward it. It is a CRIB, ffs! It's going to be used for a year, 2 at the most. No way in hell am I putting in that kind of money to help buy something for someone else that I would never buy for myself.
Load More Replies... My sisters kid sleeps in the same crib we all slept in about 20 years ago. It's just cleaned, got a new paint job and and a new mattress. The thing looks like new, except for the design. Why would anyone spend that insane amount of money for a crib - not even my grandfathers hospital bed cost that much!
I think I have found said crib. ( https://nurseryworks.net/products/lydian-crib ) It really does not look particularly spectacular, although quite nice and I think that here the manufacturer earns pretty good on each sold copy. The price is really ridiculous, especially if you look at Walmart, for example, what is charged there for cribs. Even if it has to be a solid wood crib (the other crib was made of plywood, by the way) you get something really high quality with 1000$. Pretty sure you could get such a crib made cheaper than 9000$ by a trusted carpenter. (My whole bedroom set from a carpenter has cost less). Perhaps the creator of the thread should have suggested asking a carpenter how much a bed of this type made by him would cost.
It looks like a crate with a picture frame stuck to the side. Seriously nothing special. An insane amount of money for something that will only be used for a couple of years. Sister is not only TA, but an entitled one at that.
Load More Replies... Her lifestyle is her choice, you, however, are not there to fund it. I'm my world that is an outrageous cost for a crib and the only benefit will be for your sister, not her baby. She's heading for a huge shock once your parents pass.
For a sister or brother, just a nice gift is required (nice is in the $50 range), and parents are one and done for the first child, whatever their budget allows, but then save for their own future and not be a burden on the next generation.
Load More Replies... Her sister be tripping - absolutely NO ONE needs a $9k crib. The baby sure won't notice. And it's not going to be resold for anywhere near what they'd pay for it. This is an all-around stupid ask and Mom is stupid enough to buy into this c**p. When she bankrupts them and they're stuck struggling to make due on social security once she's depleted their retirement funds, they're ALL gonna be in for a very rude awakening. Heaven help that poor kid with such a vapid, entitled, immature brat for a mother. And why the hell is there no mention of what the father of the child is buying or contributing towards the child's future needs?! My husband & I went to a local pregnancy center and took parenting classes for a few weeks for "baby bucks" that would be handed in for a brand new crib, car seat, AND crib mattress, ALL FOR FREE, that the center ordered from Walmart in our color choice that we just had to pick up once the ordered arrived at Walmart.
Where did you take. Te parenting. Class What’s the name of Company how much do they cost for a friend
Load More Replies... If you want a crib in the price range of a good used car you can pay for it. But a present is an effin present you do not get to dictate what it is.
We got a cot that turns into a toddler bed, chest of draws, changing table and a cupboard for £700 when my son was born. It was a whole set. He has long outgrown the bed and changing table and now has a single bed. The draws and cupboard are still in use. The sister is nuts for wanting something so expensive.
My family cringes at painted wood..especially quality wood.
Load More Replies... NTA. Oh boy my family definitely wouldn’t get an invite to your sister’s shower- both my boys slept in the same crib I did!
If I had kids they'd be lucky if I bought an 8k crib for them (which I most definitely WOULD NOT) so I definitely wouldn't blow it on somebody else, even a sister. User is called selfish by a sister who wants that much spent is too ridiculous to even fathom. If a hand-me-down crib is still safe in working order, then that's what should be used. My grandmother had three kids within three years, they had to use drawers... so her being able to get a crib at all is something she should be grateful for. The kid is only going to use it for 3-4ish years and honestly maybe not even all the time. Some people are just way too entitled.
I'm curious what the GC gave as a gift when the poster had a bridal shower. I'm going to assume nothing. I would point that out in this scenario to
Dude, tell her to go to Walmart or Ikea. Or is she Boujee and more of a Target gal?
I don't think the value of everything I got at my baby shower was anywhere near 4K. And that's just half of the crib! How the other half lives...
Paint the used crib to look like the expensive one. Put a fake name brand on it, say it's 'vintage'.
This is what it looks like. https://www.modernnursery.com/products/nursery-works-lydian-crib-in-walnut-finish-with-24k-gold Absolutely ridiculous to spend on a crib your baby will sleep in for maybe 2 years if it can convert into a toddler bed. It better turn into a lot of things for that price. The sister is definitely NTA. I can't stand these parents that don't want used things even if they're like brand new.
First I don't see the point of having that particular crib for the baby($9000!!seriously?). If the mother thinks it is that important for the baby and she should get it on her own. Gifts are not given by being forced.
That must be some 'budget' your parents are living on if mom thinks a 9k crib makes sense. They raised her that way, let them foot the bill. I drive a 'used' car(low mileage, steal of a deal), my house was 'used' when I bought it and I've gotten some great 'used' furniture for it. For that matter, your sister with the bun in the oven...doesn't that make her 'used'? Unless mom and dad leave her set for life she might have some tough lessons down the road. You and siblings are wise to maintain some distance.
If the golden child wants that crib so badly, she better take herself down to the grey hound station and start selling her golden cunnie 🤪
NTA your sister is spoiled and entitled. 2k for a stroller?! If you have money like that put it to better use. Makes no sense to waste that much money on something that will last 2-3 yrs before becoming irrelevant.
I've had 2 kids and I didn't spend 9k on their ENTIRE bedroom set, stroller, and car seats! 😳😳
I will never in my life spend $8000 for a crib that soon to be mom’s sister is truly a selfish person asking for that much ridiculous amount of money she doesn’t deserve anything even their parents seems to be blind giving her whatever she wants she is too spoiled and needs a rude awakening you cannot have everything your way otherwise people will abandon you for being selfish even my mom taught me not to be selfish and always look for affordable items with high-quality materials if that was my sister asking me to spend $8000 I will immediately decline and I don’t care if she would be angry or stop talking to me for the rest of my life I don’t care you have to be considerate with other people who are willing to create a baby shower but you cannot force people to spend a certain amount of money that they cannot afford
Ignoring the fact that the crib is ugly, and ignoring the fact that $8K is a stupid price for a baby crib ... what I want to know is who the h3ll paints walnut wood pink?!?! Or is she painting the 24K gold part pink?
Lol NO. You can find a crib at ikea for 80€ and paint it whatever color you like ("sniglar" is perfect to paint!). Besides; none of my kids even used their cribs. They slept with us (breastfeeding is sooo much easier if you co-sleep or bedshare) until at least 18 months and then they can have a kids bed. Total waste of money. I can't believe people pay that much for a useless object.
I bought a barely used crib from a friend, for $35. My daughter slept in it, maybe 15% of the time. She was a breast fed baby, so she was always in the bed with me. At age 1, she graduated to a toddler bed. At age 4, she got a daybed. After I was finished with the crib, another friend bought it off of me, for $35. The spoiled daughter and the mom have a rude awakening. Reality is about to slap them hard in the face. Because baby's are expensive. With the mom and dad being on a budget, they're not going to be able to financially support a grown a*s spoiled brat, and her baby. To the poster of this article, "You and your siblings stick to your guns, and don't give in to your sisters entitlement"
On top of the already insane price of a crib, she wants to take a beautiful wood like walnut and paint it pink?! Then what the hell is the point of using walnut? It may as well be made out of fir or pine at that point, at least the price would drop drastically and the average person would probably be none the wiser once it was painted pink.
Mum is in denial as to what she raised and is clearly projecting onto the inappropriate child.
I would laugh at the suggestion of getting GC the crib of her dreams. Time to cut the familial cord. When they told her she was uninvited, I would have sung, Hallelujah, I'm free! Parents seem to not understand their culpability in making youngest a momster. How do you love people that only value one child?
Is that how it goes?? Well then I REALLY need a sports car. I can't afford it but maybe if I whine enough you'll all pitch in and get one for me?? I need it oh SO bad. And a horse! Yeah .... and a couple of other things, hold on I'll make a list and be right back.
The only reason I can see to expect these kind of gifts is for the resale value to pocket the money herself...
I wouldn't think there would be much resale value. People buying $8k cribs aren't looking at used.
Load More Replies... Your sister is behaving exactly as your parents trained her to behave. What’s most troubling is they are teaching her to expect you to take over their role as the provider to the golden child. You need to be clear that she is going to be treated as the equal of your other siblings.
I am a grandmother to six beautiful children. My 3 sons, have all done well for themselves. My middle son has megabucks. I'm so proud he paid for his college at a private school and had some funding for being a division 3 school. He was one of their best basketball players. He went overseas to play in a tournament, he started a fundraiser. My oldest is a laborer and his wife works as well. They just got back from Disney and did not charge one thing. My youngest he and his wife take the kids camping at s Nat'l park every summer, and Vermont to ggma's family home that is to be shared. Both he and his wife work. We married at 17 5 months pregnant still in high school. Had 3 sons that we raised on barest mineable money. I wanted to buby cribs for all t
All the families. That failed. They each had other family members that went together and bought them. We spent $200.00 dollars for each family, that's all we had. I had a tiny tiny little baby shower and was without so many luxuries. But hey kitchen sinks are safe. That's where my babies were bathed. Oldest so six months old didn't have a crib someone gave us a used bassinet. One night my hubby and I watched my young siblings. When we got home there was a crib in the living room. I made my husband drive to my mom and dads to thank them as we didn't have a phone. Now, we are in better shape, I am disabled from a job I loved. Each son and wife get $100. For Christmas each grandchild gets a hundred dollars spent on them
Load More Replies... That has got to be the most hideous crib I've ever seen! I bought a gorgeous crib for about $300. I was more concerned with the best mattress to support her back. Your sister just wants bragging rights for a crib she can't afford. Nowhere is a husband/boyfriend mentioned, and I suspect the reason is no man can afford her. If your parents don't say ENOUGH, she's going to drain them dry. I'm sorry, but if you are grown enough to have a baby, you should be able to take care of it. That does NOT mean your parents support it. Also not fair to the other children and grandchildren that ONE family member gets treated like royalty. Ridiculous that she's been allowed to get away with not working if nothing is wrong with her. You & your other siblings need to have an intervention with your parents before she bankrupt them! Good luck!
OP and her siblings need to sit mom, dad, sis, and bil down for a chat. They need to make it clear that once mom & dad can no longer fund sis the siblings absolutely won't be stepping into that role. Maybe the parents/sis & bil haven't thought about what will happen once the parents die, and this conversation will be a very sobering one. Maybe they all assume the other siblings will step up out of a sense of family. I think now is a good time to dissuade them of that idea. It'll give sis time to either find a job or a sugar daddy. Or get comfortable with "hammy downs" 🤣
I grew up on hand -me-downs. Our family used used the same bassinet for three generations I had the honor of painting, repairing, and making a new mattress for it for the last generation to use it. The mother and daughter here are spoiled rotten to think that the baby needs an $8000 crib! Just because the author can afford it, doesn't mean she should spend it. I'm glad she stuck to her guns. Definitely NTA.
I proudly used a hand-me-down crib (1976). It was the one that my husband (1953) and his 2 siblings slept in. My great uncle did a beautiful job refinishing it. That meant so much to me. We would still have it for the grand babies, but it wasn’t up to current safety standards.
The reason the parents are on a limited budget now is because they blew every penny paying for everything for the younger sister- including her house (!?!?) So now that the gravy train is out of fuel, she just needs to get used to not getting everything she wants. This is just the beginning I promise. Next year it will be "but the baby DESERVES a full circus with trained elephants for her 1st birthday party!"
Sounds like her parents have a favorite daughter which is really messed up on its own. I know plenty of people who could also afford 8k for a crib but not a single one would actually consider buying it. They would laugh at the suggestion. It would be an ongoing joke between us. Sounds like their enabling parents are a major part of the problem as well. Playing favorites like they are is never ok.
N T A. 9K dollars fOR a crib!!?? WT H??!! My God. When I had our son. Our crib was USED. and NOBODY even knew it. AND he slept in it just fine. UNLESS this CRIB comes COMPLETE with a toddler bed. Regular Bed AND a Brand NEW car The ANSWER IS NOT ONLY. BUT. HELL NO. Princess has NO BRAINS in her and YOUR PARENTS are no better. This ENTITLED LITTLE TWIT has QUITE LITERALLY SPONGED of YOUR parents HER entire life. 🙄 This BABY SHOWER should be a NASTY WAKE UP CALL. No MORE. She wants something. She can get off her ENTITLED LAZY A*S and either go to school or go to work and start EARNING her OWN money. As far as being UNINVITED. SO WHAT. JUST ROLL YOUR EYES and YOU and YOUR SIBLINGS do SOMETHING else TOGETHER.
That is absurd for a baby crib. At my family's budget most of our stuff comes from thrift stores or Walmart. I'm expecting in a few months and the only thing I insist on getting new is the carseat, (for safety reasons.) We got that at Walmart.
As others have done, I googled this much-coveted crib. And as others have done, I stared at it in disbelief. And she wanted a $2K stroller? Does she think that she's a Kardashian?
a baby doesnt need a 9,000 crib. And why should the sister get such an expensive crib? Is she royalty
https://nurseryworks.net/products/lydian-crib. This is the monstrosity
Our crib has been passed down from my mom, my uncle, me and my little brother! Yikes.
In India, we get a decent new car in that amount. Instead that amount can be deposited as a baby welfare fund that can be of some use to the baby in her future endeavours
I remember with my first kid, we also did all kinds of research to get the "best" there is ... best stroller that supports baby's back, best chair-carry-thingie that won't cause posture problems ... so I can understand to want "the best". But to EXPECT something from other people is a whole other thing. We shelled out our own money and made concessions in other things so we could afford it. Time this lady learned the difference between "want" and "can afford".
Nta... That's all I can say, I mama I would not spend that kind of money on a crib, even for my own kids. I don't blame you for not wanting to spend it. It's ridiculous.
Just wait until Golden Child find out she'll have to go through labor herself.
When my grandson was on the way in the mid 90s, I gave his parents a subscription to a diaper service. DIL later said she thought it was strange at the time, but later, it was the best gift she got. They did use disposable diapers occasionally, but the cloth ones were easier on his skin. And the service was amazing.
7k for a crib is a waste. My son was in a used crib, in fact most of his clothes were hand me down for his 1st year. It gave me such joy to have these hand me downs. I washed them and hung them up outside to dry, I cried with joy. I could well afford a new crib and new clothes. Such sweet gifts my friends gave me knowing their little ones also wore them. When my son out grew them I past them on to the next baby. Things do not bring contentment just means more to take care of. For my gift from my mom she hand made bibs for my baby that she hand embroidered. Contentment only comes from a living relationship with Jesus, not things.
Someone needs to tell both the sister and the parents to gfthemselves. I feel terrible for whoever the father of that child is.
Guys, why would anyone in their right mind want one?!? It looks like a dog kennel.
I would gladly take a used crib and be done with it! These people in their 20s feel so entitled and I see you mentioned she has never worked but could decide to get pregnant! That is number one red flag for me because she must be a celebrity wife or something!
BTW, even with the gold trim, I can have this made for $2000. A baby needs a clean, dry, sift but not too soft space. Yeah, safety guidelines change so check. But terrible people. You could give half away, take a short trip and still buy a crib
The planet is burning, half of the world is dying from hunger related diseases and your entitled, see you next Tuesday, sister "deserves" a $9000 crib? It shouldn't even exist and only a complete POS would buy one.
She should get her a box for the baby to sleep in, like in Finland. Babies gonna outgrow cribs fast anyway.
If you cant afford a luxury item with your own economics then no you're not entitled to it. This is toxic af. This is ridiculous. Thank you for uninviting me.
Who cares that someone wrote "Hammy Downs"??!!!. It's cute and shows a beautiful sense of humor from the person that wrote it!!. Damn Bullies!.Correct ur own damn no sense of humor havin arses!!.
8k for a crib? My gad. With all that money she can buy everything she need for the baby. The baby is gonna brag bout the luxurious bed hi/she sleep in to other babies.
To me spending lots of money on kids even into their teens is stupid economically. Who gives a c**p about keeping up with the kardashians. They aint all that and they are not as pretty as people think they are. Ive seen much prettier woman in walmart. Kids out grow stuff fast. Spending 50 to 100 bucks on shoes for a toddler is ignorant. Spending money for fashion on a child is dumb. Less than six months later they have outgrown it. Most people especially the more well to do types wont even consider giving expensive clothing to goodwill or the salvation army. Anyone that arent that well off and buy pricey c**p for kids wont give it up either. They will keep it until they lose it by a catastrophy or eviction. I never spent much on clothing for my kids even when they became teens and had to have it. Now they understand the value of a dollar and how to spend it properly. Spoiling kids make them bad kids and adults. They think they are entitled. Bad idea.
Spending $8k on crib. You don't need a crib. You need mental health counseling.
You should go ahead, take the $9000 and put a down payment on the baby's house. This way, you can ensure your niece will be well set up by her 18th birthday with her own place to live. Her mother will likely be living inside a ridiculously tiny luxury vehicle by then (if my math of stupid decisions+no job+ kardashian complex = 10,000 × 18. Seriously. Someone needs to step in. Put the money in a trust fund for the child before she has to work 2 full time jobs from age 13 on to "pay her mother back what she owes."I waa raised by a narcissist, believe me- THIS IS THE WAY THE WIND IS BLOWING Your sister needs to GROW UP NOW and ypur parents need to realize they are helping NO ONE and helping to kick their grand babys legs out as she takes her first steps into adulthood if THIS is what they are investing in right now instead of her college fund...and cribs decrease in value by like 85% after a kid cycles through there with all the p**s, s**t and barf that accompanies.
Ughh I hate parents like this.Her parents raised a brat who will never change.Your sister will be a pain in butt to others for the rest of her life.It's not your fault that you use your brain and think with logic.
When I was 17 years old,I got pregnant & my sister gave me a baby shower that not one person showed up to.The only gifts I got/had that day was the cake/snacks she made for the occassion.She had spent her money on the special occassion,occasion, me.Which I very much appreciated.(she also bought my baby gifts as my baby got older).From that day on I vowed to buy every single item I needed for my baby.And learned to be dependent upon myself,not others.Thank you sis,for helping me get through that situation& teaching me how to cope with being a first time parent.It was fun to buy my baby's things on my own..Hopefully your mom can have a change of heart & teach your sister to be more dependent upon herself.God bless you & your family.Family means alot.And should be greatful of having one if at all.Not used for her own personal use.
My kids have almost everything from second hands or our relatives bought it for them. I bought formula (for two kids at the same time, fu.king expensive), diapers and other necessities. My daughter was wearing "boyish" clothes most of the time, since they were hand downs and I didn't wanted to buy them just so she can wear it for a few weeks at most. Babies grow so fast, it doesn't make sense to spend that ridiculous amount of money for unnecessary items.
I looked up the Lydian Crib and when I first saw the picture I thought it a dog crate for a hot second
Applying malicious compliance to family scenarios can be interesting. If you are, let's say... "financially stable" (which author does NOT imply - yes I know). Plz consider paying $3,500 to both your parents and sisters rent (HA!!?!), Or mortgage. And tell them to buy fridge themselves! And just watch what happens and tread the high road - like you F'ing own it.
Dear God!!! My lil sis had her first kid a little over 2 years ago... Her fiance's family gave her all hand-me-downs....and not even nice ones. Like clothes with holes in them that had been passed down thru 4 of m-i-l'a kids already...over 20 years! I, on the other hand, being the only local family who has contact with her and had backpay I could spare, dropped about 3.5k on a bunch of stuff she ACTUALLY needed! Crib, stroller, diapers, kitchen supplies, pacifiers, bottles, pack and play, etc. ESENTIALS! And her m-i-l looks at me like I'M the a-holes. They make some damn good money... Normally I have 300 to work with after bills... They go on vacation almost 2x a month! Couldn't be bothered...
I agree with not getting that absurd crib for a baby who's just going to puke in it so it has to be cleaned! Get cheap! Like what I did!
Load More Replies... On the other hand I feel bad for the baby. If she lives in that kind of same-minds environment, it will be so bad for her for her growth.
My bestfriend had the same situation with his parents. They think he's making a lot of money because we're architects. They get stupid when they talk about his lazy siblings. On him the eldest son, and the youngest sibling, his sister are in sound mind. The 3 mid brothers, and both of his parents are not.
I'm pretty sure my mom used the same crib for all three of us kids and I guarantee you none of us give a sh1t. We had a bed to sleep in and I remember no longer being in the crib when I was MAYBE 4? Basically as soon as my mom started to notice me escaping it. FWIW, my sister first used it when she was born in 1972, then I was the last to use it in, like, 1990/1. I have no idea how much it cost, but I guarantee it was in the low triple digits at the very MOST. Probably not even that much. NTA all the way. Get her a sh!t ton of diapers (pun intended) since she's going to need them anyway and call it a day.
I bought a 2nd hand crib($50), all 4 children used it. Had my parents buy a new dresser for me, that was 37 years ago, and still in use. You can always use a dresser, a crib is done after 2-3 years. I gave my 37y.o. $400 to purchase the matching dresser for the crib they got for their son. But I would never spend more than $50 on a sibling's gift, I had my own family to buy for. Now grandchildren is another story, hee hee. Go crazy, more disposable income now.
I told my daughter I would buy the crib for our first grandchild and I was shocked that it cost $1,000!
When I was prego with my 1st daughter, one of my sisters came up to see me and she went and bought a new crib at Walmart for right at $100 that converts into a toddler bed into a full size bed(this was in 2003). Well when my oldest was 4 I was pregnant with her little sister and guess who used the SAME crib as she did.... Her little sister! When her little sister was a yr and a half I converted the crib into a toddler bed but my daughter would NOT sleep in it for nothing, she actually dragged her mattress into our room and then would go to sleep(with big sisters help lol). Well when we moved to a different state my kids father's cousin needed a crib for his 1st child so we gave it to him.(the crib was right at 8yrs old by then but still in great shape). Why spend 8k for a crib unless you're mega rich?The child will NOT remember it unless it gets used by younger siblings or other family members.More than likely 10yrs down the road the expensive crib will no longer be in safety standards
Girlfriend is a poser! Better to give the kid an investment in gold, for that price, than to buy an item that just has gold on it.😄 I used the same crib for all 4 of my kids; 1st one got new, the ones that followed had a place to lay their heads- the youngest was climbing out of it @ 9 months old. I mean, really- googled celebrity crib trends, and even Blue Ivy' s crib didn't cost that much! A couple of years ago, I saw an article about a crib celebs were gushing about, to the tune of around $2500, and I thought that was ridiculous.
So if she doesn't want the baby sleeping in used. Then buy her a new organic mattress but the crib doesn't matter. And the baby is going tobpee poo ir vomit on that mattress immediately upon use.
That is nuts! But regarding the 7 year old crib, I would advise looking into crib requirements as they change quite often and the crib may be out of specs for what is currently required. No, do not spend that kind of money on a crib for a kid that will outgrow it. But look into whether the crib you have is still considered legal.
"she deserves it!" Um no she doesn't. She's not entitled to her sister's money. 🤦🏻♀️ Also she's not the parent either so she's not financially responsible for her period. 🙅🏻♀️ She can help her sister out, but she's not obligated to do so. Girl's almost 30, she should know how to manage money by now. Can't keep running to mother to take care of things either. Her mother will eventually reach the age were she can't both physically and possibly mentally take care of things run in her family like dementia. (Just speaking from experience being born to older parents.
Why this disparity ? Why are the other siblings not enabled like her? NTA.
$9,000 invested for 18 years at 8% annual return (current average) adjusted for inflation is almost $36,000!
Good for the OP to say no to such nonsense! My oldest of 2 gnawed on his crib rails like a dang Beaver and my youngest was able to climb out at 10 months. Seriously less than 3 years used...
We spent $50 at the thrift store for my son's crib that he literally never slept in! It was a nice crib too he just never liked it for anything other than playing in it
This post is so out of this world that I have a hard time believing it. But if it is true... damn this woman is insane.
I'm sorry but I would have been far less polite about saying hell to the f**k to the no! 😂😂 My reaction probably would have been something like, You do know smoking all that crack while your prego ain't good for the baby, cuz you must be high as satellite right now!
I think this is the crib: https://www.modernnursery.com/products/nursery-works-lydian-crib-in-walnut-finish-with-24k-gold?currency=USD&variant=32514056061028&utm_term=&utm_campaign=Modern+Nursery+-+DSA&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=8307995165&hsa_cam=17543558604&hsa_grp=137964204676&hsa_ad=605388829142&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=dsa-42989653875&hsa_kw=&hsa_mt=&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gclid=CjwKCAjwrZOXBhACEiwA0EoRDyO9s_fApgmkvgXCoHYjeGRETIFJesX7FUwrDHxXpe_TDUnxklkN7xoCfpkQAvD_BwE
My lord!! And this gal probably wants all new baby items for any other children. I don't get it. I make good money and was thrilled to have a second hand crib. It was a gorgeous crib that was disassembled and boxed up for years that a family member gave us. Most of that nonsense is all for Instagram likes. It's ridiculous.
Holy h*ll. My in-laws got my son a $2k crib, but it was one that transforms from a crib to a toddler to a twin. AND it came with a 5 year warranty. THAT was worth a couple of grand. $8k is just absurd.
This is my suggestion, your parents are the ones who spoiled your sister , it is not yours or your siblings responsibility to pay for what she wants being spoiled. Your mom and sister need to realize you all have your own family. They are responsible for her greedy selfish attitude, she and your mother needs to get over it. Your all being reasonable enough to help out , if she really wants it her in-laws and her husband should pay for the other half of that is the case and see how they feel about it.
It’s time for the retired parents to get jobs so they can continue to funnel money into their “baby’s” entitled life.
Load More Replies... Maybe it's time for you to reveal what kind of selfish and immature your spoiled and entitled little sister who can't even stretch her bone to find her own job to gain money. What tf her husband's role when it comes financially? Aren't you included on how they f**k themselves to create that baby? Tf wrong with this stupid kid?
There's no factual evidence that something is good, just because it's expensive. The baby won't even have the capacity to appreciate such "fine craftsmanship" until well after they've outgrown it.
Well usually if you miss the first hear or two the crib isn't priority. New business "Cribs for Adults". Thanks you can have one on us.
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