Man Reacts To Witnessing A Woman Being Catcalled Multiple Times In Just 5 Minutes By Sharing His Take Online And It Goes Viral
Interview With Author“Just be quiet and let her go where she’s going.” That’s the advice that Rafi D’Angelo from Harlem gave men on his ‘So Let’s Talk About’ page after explaining how he heard a woman getting catcalled 3 times in just 5 minutes while walking in the same direction as her. Scroll down to read D’Angelo’s story in his own words.
D’Angelo explained to Bored Panda that he got some feedback from women who were angry about him not speaking up and stopping the catcalls while conducting his social experiment. “And I think it’s important to be aware of the situation and your surroundings and think about what the next step would be. If you’re with your friends and they’re catcalling women, call them out on it. You’re friends. You have a prior relationship. They’re more likely to listen to you,” he said.
“You don’t tell a perfect stranger, a grown man who is already showing the world he doesn’t care what anyone thinks of him by dint of the fact that he’s calling out to a strange woman, to correct their behavior unless you are protecting someone else from a violent situation,” he stressed. “I’m not going to tell a grown man how to act unless a woman is in danger because then I’ve escalated a situation to a point where he might want to fight, and for no reason. The interaction between him and her would’ve been over, but I’ve interjected an opinion, and made a situation worse.”
Bored Panda also reached out to Emily May, Co-Founder and Executive Director at Hollaback!, an organization that aims to end harassment in all its forms. Scroll down for our full interview with May. You can find more resources about what bystanders can do if they see street harassment right here.
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Catcalling is something that many women (and men) have to deal with often
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Rafi D’Angelo shared a story about how he saw a woman get catcalled 3 times in just 5 minutes
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“Street harassment is sexual, gender-based, and bias-motivated harassment that takes place in public spaces like the street, the supermarket, and the social media we use every day. At its core is a power dynamic that constantly reminds historically subordinated groups of our vulnerability to assault in public spaces. Street harassment can happen to anyone, but disproportionately punishes women, girls, LGBTQ+ people, and other marginalized groups for being themselves in the world,” she said.
May from Hollaback! said that street harassment is on a spectrum of gender-based violence. “Street harassment is on a spectrum of gender-based violence. At one end of the spectrum, we have examples like inappropriate gestures, staring, whistling, following, and comments about your appearance or identity,” she explained. “As we move along the spectrum we start to see more severe forms of street harassment like public exposure and groping that are illegal. We include these behaviors in how we define street harassment because they are so common, pervasive, and rarely reported to authorities.”
Catcalling is all about power
According to May, street harassment is all about power. “If street harassment were about getting dates, it would be what author Marty Langelan calls a ‘spectacularly unsuccessful strategy.’ Instead, street harassment is about ‘putting people in their place.’ Remember that it’s not your fault. And because it’s not your fault, it’s also not your responsibility to have the perfect response to street harassment. It’s their responsibility not to harass you,” she pointed out.
May explained that while everyone is vulnerable to street harassment, research indicates that people who are aware of their surroundings, walk confidently, and respond to harassment with confidence are less vulnerable.
“Nevertheless, direct confrontations with people who harass can escalate, particularly if you are alone or in an unpopulated space. While it is each individual’s right to decide when, how, and whether to respond to street harassment, it’s important to prioritize your safety and wellbeing,” she said.
There’s no ‘perfect’ response, but here’s what you can do if you’re being catcalled
According to May, there are several things you can do when harassed on the street. The first thing is trusting your instincts. You can respond to someone catcalling you because this may reduce the trauma. However, it’s also alright to do nothing. You decide how you react and you do it for you.
May also advises reclaiming your space by setting your boundaries, engaging bystanders, and documenting the situation if you feel safe. Just remember that your safety is your priority.
Lastly, practice resilience. Developing rituals that you do after being harassed can help you shake off the negative feelings and maintain confidence in yourself. Open up to your loved ones and share your story.
And this is how people reacted to D’Angelo’s post
The scene that D’Angelo described can be an unpleasant common occurrence for women (and men!). According to Business Insider, 65 percent of women and 25 percent of men in the United States reported having been on the receiving end of at least one type of street harassment in their lives. What’s more, most have reported being catcalled or harassed on the street more than once. And for some, this is an everyday occurrence.
Street harassment can have negative effects on our emotions and our minds. Targets of catcalling can feel threatened, scared, annoyed, angry, and embarrassed. All of these feelings can affect how the person’s day will go: they might be less productive at work because their mind keeps jumping back to the interaction or they might snap at their friends because they’re on edge.
While there’s probably no ‘perfect’ universal strategy on how to deal with catcallers, there are plenty of tips that women and men give on how to handle the situation (which just goes to show how widespread the problem really is).
Anita Roberts, the founder of Safeteen, told CBC that women can give street harassers “the look” that communicates to them that they don’t like what they’re doing. They can also put up a hand in front of them to show them that they should stop.
If you decide to speak to your catcaller as you’re walking by, use a neutral tone, be clear and firm. Don’t provoke them but also make it crystal clear that what they’re doing is not acceptable.
Bystanders also have an obligation to step in. If you see that somebody is being harassed, you can tell the catcaller to knock it off. Or you could even ask the victim if they require any assistance. It’s up to every member of their community to make it better and safer for everyone.
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Share on FacebookBeing told to smile is probably the most nauseating for some reason.
Load More Replies...Can we all please just be polite? Smile and nod, no eye contact, everyone go about their business and leave others alone? No catcalling, no insulting, no giggling, no sneering? Let a person of whatever persuasion just walk on by? The end? ... *sigh*
I used to always smile and nod at everyone, but over the years I stopped doing that, because many men see it as an invitation to start speaking to me and/or catcall and/or even follow me for a couple streets/into a store/into a bar or whatever place I'm going
Load More Replies...I hate being talked to on the street, shouted at from construction sites or beeped at by men in cars. But there was one time that proved to me that it can be done in a good way. I was walking up the street and a guy was walking towards me. As he got close to me he looked right at me, smiled a big friendly smile and said 'Hope you have a GREAT day' without breaking his stride. Really made me feel good. One more was when I was wearing my university t-shirt, with the word university printed across my chest. Guy from a construction site shouted 'Nice universities, love!' and I have to admit that it made me laugh.
The first guy, it seems, just was friendly ... nothing wrong with that ... in this case. But you don't have to change many words, but the ... way they're said to you ... and it becomes creepy af. The second one ... well ... seems he met your humor, and seems it clearly was meant as a joke. I think the difference is rarely ever the words themselves, but the way they're used, the situation, the surrounding and so on.
Load More Replies...this is what a nice guy is like. Notice how he doesn’t do a psa of “I’m a nice guy” anywhere in his story. Actions speak louder than words and a nice guy doesn’t have to remind you he is. He just is. Thanks guy.
When I was in my 20's I visited Edinburgh, Scotland with a friend. I'm a natural redhead and we hear a lot of unwanted comments and catcalling. To get anywhere from our hotel we had to walk by a construction site. My friend and I were steeled and ready with American sass, but all the guys did was say "Good morning Girls (rhymes with perils)" and tip their hats. It was lovely.
And again, I not only wonder about the rudeness ... actually, I don't wonder about that anymore, people, it seems, can't just adopt a ... kind of friendly distance towards strangers... I wonder what they're trying to achieve by that behaviour in the first place. Ever anyone got laid by saying "RRRRR, Mama, what a nice pair of lips, care to she me your other ones?" or similar rudities ... no one, ever? Exactly ... ... also, it isn't only rude, but also very likely to frighten, and in a few cases even worse. Don't really get it. When you see things like this happening - don't follow closely, but if a creepy guy follows a woman - distract him! I once met a total weirdo on the S-Bahn (Berlin, Ringlinie), with crosses carved INTO the back of both his hands, who was severely drunk and kept talking to a lesbian couple, who both were less than uninterested. When they got out, so did he, so did I. He then met someone he knew and went with him. I was glad I wouldn't have had to do anything.
+ I felt creepy, too - the couple didn't know me either, but I thought it might be one of the cases where you read in the newspaper that the creepy guy you saw the night before not only was annoying, but acted out in a more damaging way ... I felt truly relieved when he left the other direction, with someone who seemed to know how to handle this guy. Didn't want to be a creep either, but figured that I shouldn't risk being the one who has let it happen. I then got into the train again and one of the women, I think, kinda thanked me by waving goodbye (she saw I had an eye on them ... the weirdo talked to me, too, before he kept asking them to take him home).
Load More Replies...When I was 22, a very sheltered , 22, I worked in Washington D.C., had a government job. Parking near the building was really expensive so I parked a few blocks away and walked past a construction site and a homeless shelter. It was like walking through a war zone and I expected to get "bombed" every few feet. If I smiled I seemed to encourage the cat calls so I learned quickly to keep my eyes down and just walk. I can't tell you how often I was called a bitch for not engaging, for not being "gracious" for being whistled at & verbally accosted. It's creepy, it's unsettling and women don't enjoy it. I am very happy to say I'm 57 and have permanent resting bitch face so those days are behind me, what a relief! I have raised 3 sons who wouldn't dream of acting like this. Men who do this should be ashamed,, as should their parents.
I’ve been a woman my entire life and have never been catcalled. I guess I’m just ugly. Catcalling is gross, nobody likes it, but everyone should remember there’s a difference between catcalling and a guy complimenting a woman. Like, “hey lady, nice tits!” is catcalling, but “You’re rocking that dress!” is a compliment. Unless he says it super gross.
There is nothing wrong with complimenting someone. There is something wrong with calling "mama" or "shorty" and then calling them a "stuck up bitch" if they don't respond to you. No one should ever call anyone else rude names. If you want to greet someone just say something like "how are you doing " or "good morning " or some friendly greeting like that. This goes for men and women. You certainly should not be catcalling a child.
Well, I personally think compliments should come from people who know you - they certainly mean more. Let us not forget that no-one knows what people are dealing with, what issues they may have. We have no need of comments from strangers. I don't mind a friendly greeting but everyone really does need to shut up when it comes to anything that is appearance or demeanour related.
Load More Replies...Question: Has catcalling ever actually succeeded in starting any kind of relationship? No, because it's disgusting and creepy. The first time I was catcalled I was 11. I had no quarrels about telling him to eff off. What kind of grown adult catcalls an 11 year old for goodness sakes??! Also notice how this guy doesn't do the whole "I'm a nice guy." PSA in his post at all. And, to the guy who said that he would pretend to be a girl's boyfriend, that only reinforces the view that woman are objects that are available unless obviously accompanied by a male. Plus, the whole "smile!" thing is gross too. I'm not a very smiley person and usually only smile around friends/family so being instructed to smile by a stranger makes me sick to my stomach. It's basically saying that all woman should do is smile and look pretty, not feel any other emotion.
Yeah, when I was a bit younger, there was this dude who was stalking girls and taking pictures, and god knows what else, and my mother didnt want anyone going out alone, except for me, because she knows I keep a knife is my pocket. I shouldn't have to, but I do. Anytime any one catcalls me, or drives slowly near me and whistles, I give them a glare and say stuff that would make a sailor blush, and they usually go away. One occasion I had a guy be a bit aggressive, so I took out my knife and put it up to his throat, which caused him to unpin me from the wall, and I walked away still holding the knife out.
I remember leaving work once a few seconds behind one of the better-looking women, and seeing all the guys stare at her as she walked down a long wide hallway towards the exits. There were no cat-calls, but the attention must be overwhelming.
I have been catcalled a few times in my life already, and I'm twelve. It makes people feel really uncomfortable, so don't do it.
This is the exact reason I left NYC after a lifetime living there. It is NEVERENDING and exhausting. And the people who say you should be flattered that you're getting attention have a screw loose.
“Have a nice day” or “Good morning/afternoon/noon/night/evening” would be fine with me. 😝
There is this one homeless guy in my city who 'catcalls' people (mostly women but men as well). At first, I was kinda unsure about him but after a few encounters I started looking forward to where I would meet him the next time. He was genuinely trying to lift people's mood by saying 'smile, it's a beautiful day'. :)
It all depends on how it is done. There are lovely compliments on the fly and there are rude, insulting, or even obscene comments or being told to smile. It is not all the same.
"Man Realizes Something Women Have Known For Thousands of Years, Goes Viral"
We knew this for so long, yet it's still happening. Please, don't belittle this guy, every effort towards building a better world for each other is worthy and important, even the smallest one.
Load More Replies...When I was 16 or 17 I was with a friend from school, and she received the weirdest "compliment" I've ever heard, the guy was kind of trying to rap something and ended up saying "Esa bonita, con esos ojitos tan bellos, te pareces a un camello" (hey, pretty with the beautiful eyes, you look like a camel) and I think about it from time to time.
Catcalling is creepy, disgusting and unwelcome. Men needs to stop talking to girls who are just walking, sitting or standing by. We do not want your compliments, or whatever you got to say. Being outside is hard enough.
I don't know but I think it's more like an American thing. Things like this rarely happen here in the Czech Republic (or in any other European country). And when you really get catcalled than it's usually from some drunk homeless man or at clubs (but it's kind of different when everyone is drunk)..It just definitely doesn't happen on regular basis..just like that..on the street. So I don't know what you're doing over there, but you should know that it's not common thing in civilised countries.
yet when i tell people to get the f**k out of my way on the street, IM the asshole
Question for the ladys: How to approach you when you are walking on the street like that? I mean if me as a guy sees a lady that looks interesting and attractive and as the probability of seeing her again isnt high you want to give it a shot and ask her if she would be interested in having a coffee or similar sometime - give her a number or something like that. Or does this happen regulary also and is similar annoying?
There is nothing wrong with approaching a woman with a polite compliment. Then just accept their response. I usually feel flattered when someone tells me i look nice. However i feel annoyed when they call me „babe“ or whatever. I also hate it when they get mad when i say no or ignore them.
Load More Replies...I don’t think of being told to smile as cat calling, but no one needs to be told to smile. If they feel like it, they will. People who are dealing with personal crap are not going to feel like smiling just because you tell them to.🙄
I had just had my cat put to sleep and I was walking to a friend's house for company. A guy in the street saw me and said 'cheer up love, it might never happen' and I just snapped 'well it just has, so shut it!'. He did look like he wasn't expecting that. Maybe it stopped him from doing it again to someone else.
That last response by Will Koone shows he absolutely doesn't get it. Say nothing. NOTHING. I appreciate the poster's understanding.
It's hard sometimes for women to realise that men do not have a *clue*. That they can pop to the nearest shop in hot weather in flip-flops, shorts, and a vest top, to buy a pint of milk without a second thought. They certainly wouldn't be thinking 'obviously I deserve to be verbally, and possibly physically, assaulted for doing this. To the guy that wants to help and thought the way to go is to pretend to be the boyfriend - this just feeds the belief that women are objects to use as you wish unless they 'belong' to another man. The way to help is to call other men out. They believe that they're only doing what you would do if you had the courage. Turn round and say 'leave her alone, man, she's just getting on with her day'. If men repeatedly challenged the perpetrators this would stop in a week. They hold the power.
The current occupier of the White House looked at a girl, about ten, on an escalator and said he'd be dating her in ten years. He said the same thing to a fourteen year old. It's all on camera.
Yea and there's loads on the Internet of biden touching kids inappropriately. Have you seen them?
Load More Replies...In case you didn't notice, this was tweeted by a man. This does not say all men are awful, it justs says some are and should be kept away from.
Load More Replies...Communities vary by sense of boundaries, socializing, gender relations, etc. When I lived in Montreal (Canada), I found the French there sometimes flirtatious, but in a friendly, playful way. It wasn't meant to be taken seriously, only as fun and flattery. In some other communities, men take any kind of attention as a proposition. I got very little attention in Germany and Belgium, while men in northern Spain could be flirtatious, but in a playful way (similar to Montreal). Paris was a challenge - I made the mistake of looking at a handsome man (which would not be an issue in Montreal) and was followed along the subway dock.
Load More Replies...Telling someone to smile does NOT cheer them up. Guaranteed to put me in a much worse mood.
Load More Replies...Being told to smile is probably the most nauseating for some reason.
Load More Replies...Can we all please just be polite? Smile and nod, no eye contact, everyone go about their business and leave others alone? No catcalling, no insulting, no giggling, no sneering? Let a person of whatever persuasion just walk on by? The end? ... *sigh*
I used to always smile and nod at everyone, but over the years I stopped doing that, because many men see it as an invitation to start speaking to me and/or catcall and/or even follow me for a couple streets/into a store/into a bar or whatever place I'm going
Load More Replies...I hate being talked to on the street, shouted at from construction sites or beeped at by men in cars. But there was one time that proved to me that it can be done in a good way. I was walking up the street and a guy was walking towards me. As he got close to me he looked right at me, smiled a big friendly smile and said 'Hope you have a GREAT day' without breaking his stride. Really made me feel good. One more was when I was wearing my university t-shirt, with the word university printed across my chest. Guy from a construction site shouted 'Nice universities, love!' and I have to admit that it made me laugh.
The first guy, it seems, just was friendly ... nothing wrong with that ... in this case. But you don't have to change many words, but the ... way they're said to you ... and it becomes creepy af. The second one ... well ... seems he met your humor, and seems it clearly was meant as a joke. I think the difference is rarely ever the words themselves, but the way they're used, the situation, the surrounding and so on.
Load More Replies...this is what a nice guy is like. Notice how he doesn’t do a psa of “I’m a nice guy” anywhere in his story. Actions speak louder than words and a nice guy doesn’t have to remind you he is. He just is. Thanks guy.
When I was in my 20's I visited Edinburgh, Scotland with a friend. I'm a natural redhead and we hear a lot of unwanted comments and catcalling. To get anywhere from our hotel we had to walk by a construction site. My friend and I were steeled and ready with American sass, but all the guys did was say "Good morning Girls (rhymes with perils)" and tip their hats. It was lovely.
And again, I not only wonder about the rudeness ... actually, I don't wonder about that anymore, people, it seems, can't just adopt a ... kind of friendly distance towards strangers... I wonder what they're trying to achieve by that behaviour in the first place. Ever anyone got laid by saying "RRRRR, Mama, what a nice pair of lips, care to she me your other ones?" or similar rudities ... no one, ever? Exactly ... ... also, it isn't only rude, but also very likely to frighten, and in a few cases even worse. Don't really get it. When you see things like this happening - don't follow closely, but if a creepy guy follows a woman - distract him! I once met a total weirdo on the S-Bahn (Berlin, Ringlinie), with crosses carved INTO the back of both his hands, who was severely drunk and kept talking to a lesbian couple, who both were less than uninterested. When they got out, so did he, so did I. He then met someone he knew and went with him. I was glad I wouldn't have had to do anything.
+ I felt creepy, too - the couple didn't know me either, but I thought it might be one of the cases where you read in the newspaper that the creepy guy you saw the night before not only was annoying, but acted out in a more damaging way ... I felt truly relieved when he left the other direction, with someone who seemed to know how to handle this guy. Didn't want to be a creep either, but figured that I shouldn't risk being the one who has let it happen. I then got into the train again and one of the women, I think, kinda thanked me by waving goodbye (she saw I had an eye on them ... the weirdo talked to me, too, before he kept asking them to take him home).
Load More Replies...When I was 22, a very sheltered , 22, I worked in Washington D.C., had a government job. Parking near the building was really expensive so I parked a few blocks away and walked past a construction site and a homeless shelter. It was like walking through a war zone and I expected to get "bombed" every few feet. If I smiled I seemed to encourage the cat calls so I learned quickly to keep my eyes down and just walk. I can't tell you how often I was called a bitch for not engaging, for not being "gracious" for being whistled at & verbally accosted. It's creepy, it's unsettling and women don't enjoy it. I am very happy to say I'm 57 and have permanent resting bitch face so those days are behind me, what a relief! I have raised 3 sons who wouldn't dream of acting like this. Men who do this should be ashamed,, as should their parents.
I’ve been a woman my entire life and have never been catcalled. I guess I’m just ugly. Catcalling is gross, nobody likes it, but everyone should remember there’s a difference between catcalling and a guy complimenting a woman. Like, “hey lady, nice tits!” is catcalling, but “You’re rocking that dress!” is a compliment. Unless he says it super gross.
There is nothing wrong with complimenting someone. There is something wrong with calling "mama" or "shorty" and then calling them a "stuck up bitch" if they don't respond to you. No one should ever call anyone else rude names. If you want to greet someone just say something like "how are you doing " or "good morning " or some friendly greeting like that. This goes for men and women. You certainly should not be catcalling a child.
Well, I personally think compliments should come from people who know you - they certainly mean more. Let us not forget that no-one knows what people are dealing with, what issues they may have. We have no need of comments from strangers. I don't mind a friendly greeting but everyone really does need to shut up when it comes to anything that is appearance or demeanour related.
Load More Replies...Question: Has catcalling ever actually succeeded in starting any kind of relationship? No, because it's disgusting and creepy. The first time I was catcalled I was 11. I had no quarrels about telling him to eff off. What kind of grown adult catcalls an 11 year old for goodness sakes??! Also notice how this guy doesn't do the whole "I'm a nice guy." PSA in his post at all. And, to the guy who said that he would pretend to be a girl's boyfriend, that only reinforces the view that woman are objects that are available unless obviously accompanied by a male. Plus, the whole "smile!" thing is gross too. I'm not a very smiley person and usually only smile around friends/family so being instructed to smile by a stranger makes me sick to my stomach. It's basically saying that all woman should do is smile and look pretty, not feel any other emotion.
Yeah, when I was a bit younger, there was this dude who was stalking girls and taking pictures, and god knows what else, and my mother didnt want anyone going out alone, except for me, because she knows I keep a knife is my pocket. I shouldn't have to, but I do. Anytime any one catcalls me, or drives slowly near me and whistles, I give them a glare and say stuff that would make a sailor blush, and they usually go away. One occasion I had a guy be a bit aggressive, so I took out my knife and put it up to his throat, which caused him to unpin me from the wall, and I walked away still holding the knife out.
I remember leaving work once a few seconds behind one of the better-looking women, and seeing all the guys stare at her as she walked down a long wide hallway towards the exits. There were no cat-calls, but the attention must be overwhelming.
I have been catcalled a few times in my life already, and I'm twelve. It makes people feel really uncomfortable, so don't do it.
This is the exact reason I left NYC after a lifetime living there. It is NEVERENDING and exhausting. And the people who say you should be flattered that you're getting attention have a screw loose.
“Have a nice day” or “Good morning/afternoon/noon/night/evening” would be fine with me. 😝
There is this one homeless guy in my city who 'catcalls' people (mostly women but men as well). At first, I was kinda unsure about him but after a few encounters I started looking forward to where I would meet him the next time. He was genuinely trying to lift people's mood by saying 'smile, it's a beautiful day'. :)
It all depends on how it is done. There are lovely compliments on the fly and there are rude, insulting, or even obscene comments or being told to smile. It is not all the same.
"Man Realizes Something Women Have Known For Thousands of Years, Goes Viral"
We knew this for so long, yet it's still happening. Please, don't belittle this guy, every effort towards building a better world for each other is worthy and important, even the smallest one.
Load More Replies...When I was 16 or 17 I was with a friend from school, and she received the weirdest "compliment" I've ever heard, the guy was kind of trying to rap something and ended up saying "Esa bonita, con esos ojitos tan bellos, te pareces a un camello" (hey, pretty with the beautiful eyes, you look like a camel) and I think about it from time to time.
Catcalling is creepy, disgusting and unwelcome. Men needs to stop talking to girls who are just walking, sitting or standing by. We do not want your compliments, or whatever you got to say. Being outside is hard enough.
I don't know but I think it's more like an American thing. Things like this rarely happen here in the Czech Republic (or in any other European country). And when you really get catcalled than it's usually from some drunk homeless man or at clubs (but it's kind of different when everyone is drunk)..It just definitely doesn't happen on regular basis..just like that..on the street. So I don't know what you're doing over there, but you should know that it's not common thing in civilised countries.
yet when i tell people to get the f**k out of my way on the street, IM the asshole
Question for the ladys: How to approach you when you are walking on the street like that? I mean if me as a guy sees a lady that looks interesting and attractive and as the probability of seeing her again isnt high you want to give it a shot and ask her if she would be interested in having a coffee or similar sometime - give her a number or something like that. Or does this happen regulary also and is similar annoying?
There is nothing wrong with approaching a woman with a polite compliment. Then just accept their response. I usually feel flattered when someone tells me i look nice. However i feel annoyed when they call me „babe“ or whatever. I also hate it when they get mad when i say no or ignore them.
Load More Replies...I don’t think of being told to smile as cat calling, but no one needs to be told to smile. If they feel like it, they will. People who are dealing with personal crap are not going to feel like smiling just because you tell them to.🙄
I had just had my cat put to sleep and I was walking to a friend's house for company. A guy in the street saw me and said 'cheer up love, it might never happen' and I just snapped 'well it just has, so shut it!'. He did look like he wasn't expecting that. Maybe it stopped him from doing it again to someone else.
That last response by Will Koone shows he absolutely doesn't get it. Say nothing. NOTHING. I appreciate the poster's understanding.
It's hard sometimes for women to realise that men do not have a *clue*. That they can pop to the nearest shop in hot weather in flip-flops, shorts, and a vest top, to buy a pint of milk without a second thought. They certainly wouldn't be thinking 'obviously I deserve to be verbally, and possibly physically, assaulted for doing this. To the guy that wants to help and thought the way to go is to pretend to be the boyfriend - this just feeds the belief that women are objects to use as you wish unless they 'belong' to another man. The way to help is to call other men out. They believe that they're only doing what you would do if you had the courage. Turn round and say 'leave her alone, man, she's just getting on with her day'. If men repeatedly challenged the perpetrators this would stop in a week. They hold the power.
The current occupier of the White House looked at a girl, about ten, on an escalator and said he'd be dating her in ten years. He said the same thing to a fourteen year old. It's all on camera.
Yea and there's loads on the Internet of biden touching kids inappropriately. Have you seen them?
Load More Replies...In case you didn't notice, this was tweeted by a man. This does not say all men are awful, it justs says some are and should be kept away from.
Load More Replies...Communities vary by sense of boundaries, socializing, gender relations, etc. When I lived in Montreal (Canada), I found the French there sometimes flirtatious, but in a friendly, playful way. It wasn't meant to be taken seriously, only as fun and flattery. In some other communities, men take any kind of attention as a proposition. I got very little attention in Germany and Belgium, while men in northern Spain could be flirtatious, but in a playful way (similar to Montreal). Paris was a challenge - I made the mistake of looking at a handsome man (which would not be an issue in Montreal) and was followed along the subway dock.
Load More Replies...Telling someone to smile does NOT cheer them up. Guaranteed to put me in a much worse mood.
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