Makeup Artist Shares Screenshots From Entitled Bride That Wanted To Get Makeup And Hair For Exposure
For the happy couple, the wedding day is one of the biggest events of their lives. Months of saving, planning and stressing go into it, so it’s understandable, to some degree, when the couple forgets that the entire world doesn’t revolve around them.
This cash-strapped bride-to-be thought that she could cut costs by getting hair and makeup done for free
This story, originally shared on Reddit’s Choosing Beggars, is a classic example of a bride falling for her own hype. Reaching out to a ‘friend’ (a pro stylist in London whom she hasn’t spoken to for 10 years), the cash-strapped bride believes that an invite to her small wedding, as well as the opportunity to add photos of this gorgeous creature to a ‘portfolio,’ should be more than enough in exchange for a 3-hour drive to do bridal makeup and hair for free.
The stylist, in the process of setting up her own salon, should consider herself lucky for such a generous free work offer! Or not. Showing an admirable level of tolerance and polite understanding at the bride’s entitled requests, she calmly explains why she most likely will not be driving down to Yeovil to work for free for a woman that she hardly knows, who only contacts her when she needs something.
When nobody responded, she tried asking a makeup artist ‘friend’ instead
We’ve had our fair share of bridezilla stories here at Bored Panda, there is just something about weddings that can make otherwise kind, rational people into selfish, entitled monsters. Perhaps we simply take the whole thing way too seriously? All those fairytales have convinced us that for one day at least, the couple is a little king and queen who can do absolutely anything they want. Sure, it’s a wonderful day for you guys, and all the best to you. But for those of us who aren’t involved, we don’t really care!
What do you think? Have you ever experienced entitled behavior like this when it comes to weddings? Share your stories in the comments below!
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Bored Panda spoke to Long Island-based makeup artist Juliana Fink, who specializes in styling for the big day, for some insight on the industry. She says that she has yet to experience the ‘bridezilla,’ saying that it’s oftentimes someone else that may cause some extra stress on the big day. “I have had a fair share of rude people – “mom-zillas” and “bridesmaids-zillas” so it’s usually not the bride, it’s someone else,” she said with a laugh.
“The day of the wedding emotions are running wild as brides are excited, anxious, nervous… so when they sit in my chair I want to create a very relaxing atmosphere for them, talking about things that take their mind off of the stress, and remind them of the amazing day they are already having getting ready with all of their friends and family, and the day is only going to get better.”
“Another thing that helps the day go smoothly is having a beauty schedule to follow so that everyone knows what time they are getting wedding hairstyles and makeup done. I usually schedule someone in the makeup chair every 45 minutes and give myself 1 hour and 15 minutes with the bride. If I am working with a large bridal party I then bring in additional makeup artists. I always share my makeup schedule with the hairstylists so that we can be on the same page.”
“Another service that is really awesome and, as my brides like to call it, ‘peace of mind,’ is the touch-up service where I stay with my brides for touch-ups while they are taking pictures. Nowadays, doing a first look, where the bride and groom see each other before the ceremony is very popular. I personally love first looks, it helps to take the edge off because a lot of the anxiety comes from not being able to see your partner. If you get that out of the way, then walking down the aisle is not so nerve-wracking anymore. Also, the makeup will be on for 5 to 6 hours before any of the guests even see the bride walk down the aisle for the ceremony, so having me stay for touch-ups is good to ensure that the makeup looks as fresh as if I had just applied it.”
What would you guess is the most requested look for a wedding makeup specialist on Long Island? “The most requested look I get is a ‘natural look,’ Juliana explains. “But that doesn’t necessarily mean a ‘no-makeup look.’ It simply means they want to look like themselves, just a more sophisticated and elegant version of themselves.”
“No one likes that “cakey” feeling! Therefore, explaining what my services include, like airbrushing, for example, ensures expectations from the beginning. I do ‘virtual coffee dates’ with my clients so we can discuss all the aspects of the wedding while she explains the vision for the big day. I then send them a Starbucks gift card, because it wouldn’t be a coffee date without coffee, right? I truly love what I do and am very blessed to be a part of someone’s special day!”
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Load More Replies...Firstly she didn’t technically invite her “friend” to the wedding. She just said you can come to the wedding if you want. To me she is essentially saying I guess you can come to the wedding since you are driving 3 hours, but I don’t really want you there. Secondly if a 3 hour drive is a short drive for her “friend” then it’s a short drive for her. How does that work, if it’s a 3 hour drive there then it is a 3 hr drive in the opposite direction. And thirdly what a self entitled biatch. Wonder if she will try this again at wedding number 4.
I absolutely cringe out of embarrassment for the "beggars" when I read these types of situations. You reach out to someone you haven't spoken to in YEARS and when they (always politely) decline, you go off on them. You go ahead and burn the bridge right off the rip showing that you really don't value this person or have any intention of being actual friends.
When I got married in 2001, I asked my cousin to sing at our wedding. Never once did I expect her to do it for free. Paid her what she asked plus her travelling.
I'm sure the bride is stressed about the budget and I'm glad she's keeping her third wedding small. Obviously, she's disappointed to have her request shot down (who knows how many times that has happened when asking for things to be cheap), but that doesn't excuse her reaction. The Makeup Artist was incredibly polite. The response wasn't. Good luck to both. I think one needs it more than the other.
The way she was like sorry about your parents DYING and I didn't care enough to reach out then, but do me a favour now... And the insult of saying wow you're so expensive. If you can't afford it don't get it!
Okay...so a three hour drive is too far for the brat-bride, but not "that far" for the artist? Yeah... I'm a photographer - mostly travel and nature work. Every so often someone I know, most often someone I barely know, asks me to photograph their wedding or other event. I explain this is not my forte and that I do not shoot weddings. Most folks are fine and sometimes ask for a recommendation. But every so often someone tries pulling this type thing with me. I do a lot of pro bono work, but only for causes that are ones I already support. I just do not understand this level of entitlement. Rude doesn't even begin to cover it!
I did my own hair and make up for my wedding, and my moms, and helped my MoH lol! It was a destination wedding and it turned out great! We all used my hairdresser/coworker a couple weeks before and none of us were big on makeup, not like they do today! It was funny the valet thought my portable hair dryer was a rice cooker 😁
Yikes. I had a super small wedding and had friends and family for many of my vendors, but I still offered payment.
I was on a tight budget as well. My long-time hairdresser did my hair for free as my wedding gift. I didn't ask her to do that, I was pulling out my checkbook when she said "No charge!". I did my own make-up. It's not that incredibly difficult. Why do some women become so unstable when they put on a white dress and walk down an aisle? Sheesh!
I hope her husband-to-be finds out about it and rethink about his life choices.
Wow, that girl 's response to her totally mooching and s****y "old friend" was admirable. I wouldn't even respond to that s**t, let alone actually wish her well.
The boyfriend of my best-man (I did not have a maid of honor) did my make-up for free. It was a gift from them (they offered it) and I was sooooo happy! They are also getting married this year and I am sooo happy for them! I think it's ridiculous to feel so entitled. A wedding is crazy expensive and +150 for simple make up is not too much... (BTW if you want to save money you can also do it yourself, it's not thaaat difficult)
My husband is a amateur photographer. Almost everyone he's ever worked with wanted a TFP (trade for photography - from hairstylists, to makeup artists to clothing designers). The only job he actually got paid for was my niece's wedding, we had to fly to Seattle, but my brother covered that cost.
I know lots of people that it's no long distance for me to travel to them, but it's too far for them to come to me. Oh, well, no loss there . . .
People do this to photographers too.. They ask for free photography and act like they are doing you a favor by giving you free publicity. LOL
By the time I’d read it all, my jaw was on my chest. The MUA had a lot of patience.
I've become an expert at responding (email or phone), "Let me put together a bid. What do you do for a living, maybe we could trade?" / / / I'm a graphic designer by profession and a singer who has opened concerts for major acts and performed at jazz festivals. For some reason people think that I have "fun," so I'll do their gig for free.
I honestly don't believe this and by that I mean I think it's all made up...
You don't think people like this exists? You do realise the world isn't pink candyfloss skies and unicorns, right?
Load More Replies...Eh... I'm pretty skeptical this is real. These "choosy beggar" stories have gotten really popular, and this one seems so ridiculous from the beginning, I'm thinking BS.
Oh bless us with your inside knowledge of why this is fake
Load More Replies...I can't speak to the legitimacy of this specific story, but as a graphic designer I have gone through almost the exact same situation a bunch of times. -_-
Load More Replies...i did all my own with stuff i already had prior to my wedding day
Load More Replies...Firstly she didn’t technically invite her “friend” to the wedding. She just said you can come to the wedding if you want. To me she is essentially saying I guess you can come to the wedding since you are driving 3 hours, but I don’t really want you there. Secondly if a 3 hour drive is a short drive for her “friend” then it’s a short drive for her. How does that work, if it’s a 3 hour drive there then it is a 3 hr drive in the opposite direction. And thirdly what a self entitled biatch. Wonder if she will try this again at wedding number 4.
I absolutely cringe out of embarrassment for the "beggars" when I read these types of situations. You reach out to someone you haven't spoken to in YEARS and when they (always politely) decline, you go off on them. You go ahead and burn the bridge right off the rip showing that you really don't value this person or have any intention of being actual friends.
When I got married in 2001, I asked my cousin to sing at our wedding. Never once did I expect her to do it for free. Paid her what she asked plus her travelling.
I'm sure the bride is stressed about the budget and I'm glad she's keeping her third wedding small. Obviously, she's disappointed to have her request shot down (who knows how many times that has happened when asking for things to be cheap), but that doesn't excuse her reaction. The Makeup Artist was incredibly polite. The response wasn't. Good luck to both. I think one needs it more than the other.
The way she was like sorry about your parents DYING and I didn't care enough to reach out then, but do me a favour now... And the insult of saying wow you're so expensive. If you can't afford it don't get it!
Okay...so a three hour drive is too far for the brat-bride, but not "that far" for the artist? Yeah... I'm a photographer - mostly travel and nature work. Every so often someone I know, most often someone I barely know, asks me to photograph their wedding or other event. I explain this is not my forte and that I do not shoot weddings. Most folks are fine and sometimes ask for a recommendation. But every so often someone tries pulling this type thing with me. I do a lot of pro bono work, but only for causes that are ones I already support. I just do not understand this level of entitlement. Rude doesn't even begin to cover it!
I did my own hair and make up for my wedding, and my moms, and helped my MoH lol! It was a destination wedding and it turned out great! We all used my hairdresser/coworker a couple weeks before and none of us were big on makeup, not like they do today! It was funny the valet thought my portable hair dryer was a rice cooker 😁
Yikes. I had a super small wedding and had friends and family for many of my vendors, but I still offered payment.
I was on a tight budget as well. My long-time hairdresser did my hair for free as my wedding gift. I didn't ask her to do that, I was pulling out my checkbook when she said "No charge!". I did my own make-up. It's not that incredibly difficult. Why do some women become so unstable when they put on a white dress and walk down an aisle? Sheesh!
I hope her husband-to-be finds out about it and rethink about his life choices.
Wow, that girl 's response to her totally mooching and s****y "old friend" was admirable. I wouldn't even respond to that s**t, let alone actually wish her well.
The boyfriend of my best-man (I did not have a maid of honor) did my make-up for free. It was a gift from them (they offered it) and I was sooooo happy! They are also getting married this year and I am sooo happy for them! I think it's ridiculous to feel so entitled. A wedding is crazy expensive and +150 for simple make up is not too much... (BTW if you want to save money you can also do it yourself, it's not thaaat difficult)
My husband is a amateur photographer. Almost everyone he's ever worked with wanted a TFP (trade for photography - from hairstylists, to makeup artists to clothing designers). The only job he actually got paid for was my niece's wedding, we had to fly to Seattle, but my brother covered that cost.
I know lots of people that it's no long distance for me to travel to them, but it's too far for them to come to me. Oh, well, no loss there . . .
People do this to photographers too.. They ask for free photography and act like they are doing you a favor by giving you free publicity. LOL
By the time I’d read it all, my jaw was on my chest. The MUA had a lot of patience.
I've become an expert at responding (email or phone), "Let me put together a bid. What do you do for a living, maybe we could trade?" / / / I'm a graphic designer by profession and a singer who has opened concerts for major acts and performed at jazz festivals. For some reason people think that I have "fun," so I'll do their gig for free.
I honestly don't believe this and by that I mean I think it's all made up...
You don't think people like this exists? You do realise the world isn't pink candyfloss skies and unicorns, right?
Load More Replies...Eh... I'm pretty skeptical this is real. These "choosy beggar" stories have gotten really popular, and this one seems so ridiculous from the beginning, I'm thinking BS.
Oh bless us with your inside knowledge of why this is fake
Load More Replies...I can't speak to the legitimacy of this specific story, but as a graphic designer I have gone through almost the exact same situation a bunch of times. -_-
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