Sexist Men Seem To Be At A Loss For Words After Women Make Them Explain Their Nasty Jokes And It’s The Best Comeback
Out of all the insults you could throw at a modern workplace, sadly, ‘sexist’ is still one of them. About 80% percent of women in the US report experiencing sexual harassment at work. One study even stated that 50% of women had been harassed within the last year alone.
A common form of verbal sexual abuse is the “joke”. Someone says something explicit or degrading about a colleague, and if they aren’t too embarrassed by it and do speak up, they instantly get labeled as too sensitive. You know, the high-end of comedy.
Sick and tired of these situations, author Heather Thompson Day tweeted a smart way of replying to these remarks. The best part is that her answer also forced the perpetrator to think about what they’ve said. Heather’s post has already received over 551K likes, and it has inspired women to share similar stories of stopping sexist bigots.
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Sadly, reporting sexual harassment can and often does have negative consequences for the person who brings up the complaint. One study found that 68% of sexual harassment charges filed with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission or Fair Employment Practices Agencies between 2012 and 2016 included allegations of retaliation, and nearly as many (64%) were associated with job loss.
Having this in mind, it’s hardly surprising that many victims don’t report. It is estimated that roughly 5.1 million Americans experience sexual harassment each year, but only 27% of employees who file charges with the EEOC and continue to pursue redress, receive any benefit.
Inspired by Heather’s tweet, women started sharing similar stories of stopping sexist bigots
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Sexual harassment is NEVER right but a lot of these men in this post are doing it to young teens. That is just sick.
I agree. Noone should do any of these things at all.
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The grandma beating the perv with her umbrella for being to disgusting to her granddaughter is fantastic! Take no prisoners!
Whenever I'm said something inappropriate, I look them deadpan in the eye without saying a word and I see them backpedaling faster than you can imagine. It helps that I naturally have a cold stare 😎
I too have a cold stare and "resting b***h face" that I've used in response to vile and sexist comments. At least in the scenarios I've been in, combined with stony silence, it makes men wilt.
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I don't think, as some of those guys said, that porn is the problem. Education is. Guys (and girls) watch porn, but it is our job as adults to remind them porn is like a zombie movie: any resemblance with reality is pure coincidence.
Yes, as a woman, I watch porn, but I wouldn't think to carry it over to work.
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As a guy I absolutely hate when other guys act like pigs. Ive never understood how girls stand it, but I'm so glad that people stand up for themselves.
What choice do we really have? :( Thank you so much for being an ally, it really does matter, please don't hesitate to speak up for somebody if you see this type of situation, as a man you're in a much better position to do that.
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I had a guy in my Latin class who got paired up with me for a project. The entire time, he was complaining about how we got the one female legend and saying a bunch of sexist comments while I sat right in front of him. He finally said something about girls being weak and not cool, so I challenged him to an arm wrestle to test his 'theory'. I slammed his hand into the table because I was expecting a little more resistance, but it turns out that noodle arms don't lie. He still made his comments, but somewhat stopped around me afterwards.
In my career I am often the only woman in the room and I find that asking the men to explain the "joke" to me shuts them down. It is a classier and more mature way of handling the situation.
Please help to make this a trend. Tell your friends. Let's crush these sexist pigs.
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I once had a woman at work, look me up and down and declare "i'd open him up like a pack-O-crisps" I asked her what she meant! Not, like in a snippy c**tish way like the people above. But really and truely, because it sounded like a threat! I asked twice, but she just laughed and said "relax, mate, it was just a joke". I asked her would be as funny if i threatened to cut her throat like a stuck little piggy??? She reported me to HR. They tried to fire me, I resigned, took them to a work tribunal and got awarded 6 grand. All because a woman decided to be inappropriate at work. How about you do an article about that. ........ ANNNNND DOWNVOTE!!!!!
Wow, she had the nerve to report you? That’s b******t, women can abuse and harass too, I see it all the time and no one bats an eyelid. But if the tables were turned, well that’s a different story.
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I would have loved to hera more stories about how men were called out on what they said - also to get a few ideas on how to react
Same, I gotta start writing s**t down. I like to play stupid and just pretend like I don't understand. I do a pretty good stupid face, complete with head tilt.
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When I was in High School, I worked at a drugstore. I didn't have a way to get to work and I had to walk about a mile, and I was always late. A male co-worker who was also a classmate, worked the same days and hours, and got out of school at the same time. It only made sense to ask him if he could bring me to work, and I would pay him gas money. He said he would gladly give me a ride, but I had to "do something for him." His meaning was quite clear. The boss called me into the office one day and said he would have to fire me if I kept coming in late. He suggested that I catch a ride with so-and-so. I told him what the guy had said to me. He was angry, and said he was going to talk to him. I don't know what he said to him, but he never bothered me again. And I didn't get fired, either.
And this is why teaching manners, respect, and civility are important, too bad we focus schooling too much on standardized testing and not enough on real life skills and how to be a decent person
It's sad that school should have to teach people how to be decent to each other -- and sadder that if it tried, the right-wingers would scream about "PC culture".
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Being raped by landlord, over rent.. being trafficked as a 16 year old then being kidnapped held beaten raped from that situation then cops saying I put myself in the situation... I've had teachers, bosses, cab drivers pimps ect ect ect I find that now I not leaving my home and living out in the middle of nowhere... Still don't feel safe... The world is fkn ugly. I won't pretend its roses. Drugs numbed me for ten years... Sober now five and I'm still scared, fkd up in the head, distorted views and negative about most things... When I read these types of things my entire catalog of sexual violence, abuse harassment bucket fills up and reminds me how FKD up it all is.... No one looked for me no one cared what happened it made it all so much worse.
So sorry for the sh*t you have gone through. I can not even pretend to imagine the hell your life has been. But please try to look for some positive every day, be it the way the sun bounces off a window, a pretty flower, anything that can give you a moment of joy. Try and stay the strong woman you are and realize you can make a difference for yourself and others.
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When I was 18 I worked in a restaurant, one of my older male colleagues always used to say that he'd 'clear a space for me to sit', and wiped his face while he did. Never got it until I was much older. Once I was eating a banana, only to look up and see the entire kitchen of male staff (3-4 people) staring at me, looking very seedy. In that same job, my 50-something boss once stood right in front of me, held me by the shoulders, and said 'this would be the perfect height if we were f*****g right now'. So uncomfortable, but also didn't realise at the time just how inappropriate that was. Another 40-something boss, when I was 21, working in a bar, tried to make out with me at after work drinks. When I pulled away, he tried to cover up to say he was just going to kiss me on the cheek, since he was French. He was married with two children, his wife worked in the restaurant on Sundays, he regularly hooked up with young female staff or wine or other product reps.
What..... The F**K....?! Ugh that's disgusting!
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This makes me, a man, very angry. It's one thing to know about it as a general problem, it's another to hear specific real-life events. I would like to think that things have gotten better for women, but after reading this post I'm not so sure. Ladies who stand up for yourselves, good for you! Another thing, any man who witnesses another man harass a female and does nothing is just as guilty as the man doing the harassing.
The testimonies below of disgusting harassment is beyond infuriating. When you are a teen or a young adult you don't even expect it and don't always have a way to stop it. Ghastly.
The "It's just a joke" excuse can be answered with, "No. Jokes are funny. That wasn't."
I'm really pleased for all the women who stood up for themselves and put those pricks in their place. I hope that other females who see this can pick up some tips for how to deal with sexual harrassment. I feel the replies are very powerful, especially the "I'll write that in my log" one. Genius.
I've had to put some of my students in their place for saying inappropriate things or making innuendos. It usually turns into an interesting learning moment for them and for me. They're 11/12, it's sad what they learn at home!
I was 15/16 working at a fast food establishment minding my own business when a grown man says "hey! hey! What, you don't remember me?" I'm like "No, can I help you?" he replies "Oh, it must be because I have my pants on!" in front of a lobby full of people in the middle of our lunch rush. I turned beet red and ran to the back of the store. I was so embarrassed because at the time I was still VERY innocent. My manager asked me over the headset what happened. While I was telling her he was on his way out of the door. She watched for him to leave and got his license plate and called the police. They came and showed me a picture of him to confirm. He already had some sort of charges against him it still upsets me to this day and I'm damn near 30.
You should always be careful making "jokes". Over here I do read a lot of sexual harresment to young girls, which is frightening and sick. I always ask myself when I want to tell a joke, if someone might feel attacked/uneasy because of it. If the answer is yes, it's no longer a joke and I'll just shut my piehole.
I deal with it all the time at my job. Dirty mouthed men. No respect for me or my abilities. I'm the only female there too. I just stare them down an they wander away. I've been groped there and at other jobs. I always say "do it again an I'm breaking a finger". They do. I grab their finger an bend it til they cry uncle. Works. They feel the pain and leave me alone. Men just assume they can act like pigs when no one is there to correct them. They should just correct themselves.
A 27 year old guy I work with once said to me, “Russian girls are so hot, are you single?” I said, without trying to neutralize my accent, “In Russia, 15 year old girl harasses man... not other way around, b***h.” Needless to say, he still looks over his shoulder like he thinks I am an assassin.
The one that got asked if she showers with her boyfriend, should/ should have said “No, I prefer to shower with your mom instead.” Boom.
@ Dawn, not so easy to do, when you are a young girl
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Another tactic: Repeat what they say or call out their behavior AT THE TOP OF YOUR LUNGS AND ENUNCIATE. If an offender is stupid enough to repeat offensive behavior, then they're stupid enough for another dose. There's a reason a lot of them whisper or use a low voice. "DID YOU JUST SAY YOU'RE TURNED ON BY HOW I EAT MY ICE CREAM?" or "DON'T TOUCH ME! STOP TOUCHING ME! I DON'T FEEL SAFE WHEN YOU TOUCH ME!"
These make me ill. It brings up all the gross things that happened to me, and makes me physically sick to think about my two young daughters who will soon face the same things.
At my last job I asked an older gentlemen if he needed anything else and he replied an 18 year old in a bikini. He and my supervisor were laughing, I though the joke was awkward because I had a feeling it was directed at me and it brothers me that so many old men want teens. A few weeks later the same man came and he was being nice and then asks my age I tell him I'm 27 he stopped smiling so much and moves along, then my coworker comes laughing and tells me that man told him a funny joke, it was the same joke.
Grandmas! They totally rock! Yup, 19 yo working in a male dominated field and 90% of the time being the only female on duty. I hope young girls read this amd take the advice of asking "what they mean?" I wished I'd had that line.
I was working in a clothing store and a male customer wanted to buy the shirt he just tried on so I wanted to remove the alarm tag at the back of the collar. He turns quickly and tries to give me a french kiss, I was able to turn my head just in time. My employer stood by and laughed at me, along with that customer.
Lance Boudreaux is completely right. My wife's sister is really bad at saying hurtful things about my wife and playing it off like it was a joke. I'd like to think these would work on her, but I doubt it.
In my 11th grade Honors English class a boy called me the C word. We were rehearsing for a renaissance fair we were putting on as a class project. There were no teachers. I pretended like it didn't bother me, and all he did was continue to call me it, everyone laughed.
Honors class? I got my son to not swear by telling him that swearing is for uneducated people who have no vocabulary. It worked, LOL When Someone acts like that, it is for attention (he got it at your expense). Remember, you are better than he is since he has a lot more growing up to do.
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I was a $7 an hour temp at a trade show in San Francisco. I needed to get something from near where a supervisor was standing. I asked if I could get into the box under his arm and he looked me up and down and said "Honey, you can get under me any day." A few days later I worked up the courage to mention this to his FEMALE co-workers and they laughed and said "We were wondering who it was this show. He picks one every show..." Gee, thanks, ladies. And it never occurs to you to do something about it, rather than letting him take his lecherous power trips out on minimum-wage temps in need of work?
When I was an apprentice chef my two female co-workers would constantly make inappropriate remarks to me. I was much younger, and needed the job, so I just took it on the chin.
I worked with an amazing Executive for 7 years, followed him through all his promotions and advancements. I was in his office one day, with him and one of his Direct Reports, when the phone rang, and I leaned over the desk to answer the phone, at which point the scuzzy Direct Report said 'here's your chance to slip her one'. To this day, I don't know what disgusted me more - the Direct Report's obscene & crass comment, or the deafening silence of my manager and mentor. Needless to say, I found a new job/promotion within a few months. But the disappointment has lasted for more than 20 years. You never know who to trust. Just trust yourself.
Amazing some of the gross people who think making these comments is ok. And yes there are dirty old women too.
something is f****d up with society if this post has this many things
I was doing some filing for volunteer experience at my parents friends business. I was 17-18 and he’d drive home after. One day he started telling me how the new medicine he was taking made him very horny and how sad it was that his wife wasn’t around for the weekend. The way he said it made me sooo uncomfortable that I never went back and couldn’t tell my parents why :(
I wish I had this sort of spunk when I was younger. I had multiple instances while studying abroad in Paris of men groping, stalking, and even pinning me (this last one was on a train, which was lucky in a way because at least it was very public) and not knowing how to get out of it. It’s worse when you’re struggling around language barriers and cultural barriers and no one steps in to help, but I’ve had it happen in the US too. It’s terrifying. And it starts young. I’m glad there’s so much focus on teaching about consent now—all kinds, whether it’s just hugs, or bodily autonomy, or whatever—because I didn’t get that and it’s harder to set up boundaries.
When I was nine, a school monitor told me I would look better if I smiled. I didn’t, so he told me I couldn’t go to lunch until I smiled. I did. I still remember his face.
When I was 18, I worked at a tax prep office during tax season. It wasn't uncommon for us to be swamped. One weekend, I was helping to close up when one of the tax preparers (married) comes up and says "You look great in that outfit. How about you and I go to a Hotel?" I said "Maybe we should call your wife and ask her if it's a good idea?" He says "You don't have to be a b*tch about it!" I say loudly "Apparently I do!" My female boss asked what the problem was. I explained to her his proposition. She told me to go. She called him back to her office. The next week, he was reassigned to a different office.
I am blessed to have had men in my life who don't find it necessary to treat women this way. I think men need to stop and think "would I want someone to say these things to my mother/sister/wife/daughter?" If the answer to any of those is no then don't say things like that to any other woman.
When I was about 19/20, I worked as a unit secretary at a hospital in Dallas, TX. I spoke on the phone to a transporter (or X-ray tech) from radiology, and when he showed up in my unit to get a patient, he saw me at the desk and asked if I was the one he spoke to over the phone. When I said “yes”, he asked if I also worked as a phone sex operator. He was probably in his late 20’s, early 30’s. In some ways, I take it as a compliment, but mostly I think about how he was a perv to say that. I’m surprised how common it is for guys to ask if a young woman works as a phone sex operator or to suggest to them they should do that. Now I’m thinking that’s a line more than anything else.
This was a lot of mixed emotions of "Yeah, get him!" and "s**t, I'm sorry you went through that..." Also, I don't think we should throw porn under the bus wholesale as sexist. The problem is a lack of oversight in the industry, but there are people -including female and trans producers- who are working to make it safer. I do think that porn, like satire, can sometimes be problematic when someone who is too young to understand or hasn't been told "this is not directly portraying reality".
The problem is that the majority of porn shows women in a submissive light, or merely as objects. A means to an end, and not actual human beings.
Load More Replies... So wheres the post about women behaving inappropriately in the work place..you know that has to be happening..esp in schools with all the teachers sleeping with students
If you have a story to share about how this happened then share it. Sexual harassment is wrong no matter what.
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There is nothing with a man telling a woman she's attractive when it's done appropriately and in the right way. Doing so with overtly sexual connotations isn't appropriate. A manager hitting on an employee is not appropriate. Making sexual jokes at work is not appropriate. Freedom of speech does not mean you can say ANYTHING you like. It ends where you infringe the freedom of others.
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that's just entirely irrelevant. if a woman wants to sell her body, that's her choice and she's not forcing it into anyone. that's entirely different than forcing yourself into someone, and it's definitely not encouraging harassment. that's like saying stores that sell things are encouraging people to steal from other stores.
Load More Replies... Sexual harassment is NEVER right but a lot of these men in this post are doing it to young teens. That is just sick.
I agree. Noone should do any of these things at all.
Load More Replies... The grandma beating the perv with her umbrella for being to disgusting to her granddaughter is fantastic! Take no prisoners!
Whenever I'm said something inappropriate, I look them deadpan in the eye without saying a word and I see them backpedaling faster than you can imagine. It helps that I naturally have a cold stare 😎
I too have a cold stare and "resting b***h face" that I've used in response to vile and sexist comments. At least in the scenarios I've been in, combined with stony silence, it makes men wilt.
Load More Replies... I don't think, as some of those guys said, that porn is the problem. Education is. Guys (and girls) watch porn, but it is our job as adults to remind them porn is like a zombie movie: any resemblance with reality is pure coincidence.
Yes, as a woman, I watch porn, but I wouldn't think to carry it over to work.
Load More Replies... As a guy I absolutely hate when other guys act like pigs. Ive never understood how girls stand it, but I'm so glad that people stand up for themselves.
What choice do we really have? :( Thank you so much for being an ally, it really does matter, please don't hesitate to speak up for somebody if you see this type of situation, as a man you're in a much better position to do that.
Load More Replies... I had a guy in my Latin class who got paired up with me for a project. The entire time, he was complaining about how we got the one female legend and saying a bunch of sexist comments while I sat right in front of him. He finally said something about girls being weak and not cool, so I challenged him to an arm wrestle to test his 'theory'. I slammed his hand into the table because I was expecting a little more resistance, but it turns out that noodle arms don't lie. He still made his comments, but somewhat stopped around me afterwards.
In my career I am often the only woman in the room and I find that asking the men to explain the "joke" to me shuts them down. It is a classier and more mature way of handling the situation.
Please help to make this a trend. Tell your friends. Let's crush these sexist pigs.
Load More Replies... I once had a woman at work, look me up and down and declare "i'd open him up like a pack-O-crisps" I asked her what she meant! Not, like in a snippy c**tish way like the people above. But really and truely, because it sounded like a threat! I asked twice, but she just laughed and said "relax, mate, it was just a joke". I asked her would be as funny if i threatened to cut her throat like a stuck little piggy??? She reported me to HR. They tried to fire me, I resigned, took them to a work tribunal and got awarded 6 grand. All because a woman decided to be inappropriate at work. How about you do an article about that. ........ ANNNNND DOWNVOTE!!!!!
Wow, she had the nerve to report you? That’s b******t, women can abuse and harass too, I see it all the time and no one bats an eyelid. But if the tables were turned, well that’s a different story.
Load More Replies... I would have loved to hera more stories about how men were called out on what they said - also to get a few ideas on how to react
Same, I gotta start writing s**t down. I like to play stupid and just pretend like I don't understand. I do a pretty good stupid face, complete with head tilt.
Load More Replies... When I was in High School, I worked at a drugstore. I didn't have a way to get to work and I had to walk about a mile, and I was always late. A male co-worker who was also a classmate, worked the same days and hours, and got out of school at the same time. It only made sense to ask him if he could bring me to work, and I would pay him gas money. He said he would gladly give me a ride, but I had to "do something for him." His meaning was quite clear. The boss called me into the office one day and said he would have to fire me if I kept coming in late. He suggested that I catch a ride with so-and-so. I told him what the guy had said to me. He was angry, and said he was going to talk to him. I don't know what he said to him, but he never bothered me again. And I didn't get fired, either.
And this is why teaching manners, respect, and civility are important, too bad we focus schooling too much on standardized testing and not enough on real life skills and how to be a decent person
It's sad that school should have to teach people how to be decent to each other -- and sadder that if it tried, the right-wingers would scream about "PC culture".
Load More Replies... Being raped by landlord, over rent.. being trafficked as a 16 year old then being kidnapped held beaten raped from that situation then cops saying I put myself in the situation... I've had teachers, bosses, cab drivers pimps ect ect ect I find that now I not leaving my home and living out in the middle of nowhere... Still don't feel safe... The world is fkn ugly. I won't pretend its roses. Drugs numbed me for ten years... Sober now five and I'm still scared, fkd up in the head, distorted views and negative about most things... When I read these types of things my entire catalog of sexual violence, abuse harassment bucket fills up and reminds me how FKD up it all is.... No one looked for me no one cared what happened it made it all so much worse.
So sorry for the sh*t you have gone through. I can not even pretend to imagine the hell your life has been. But please try to look for some positive every day, be it the way the sun bounces off a window, a pretty flower, anything that can give you a moment of joy. Try and stay the strong woman you are and realize you can make a difference for yourself and others.
Load More Replies... When I was 18 I worked in a restaurant, one of my older male colleagues always used to say that he'd 'clear a space for me to sit', and wiped his face while he did. Never got it until I was much older. Once I was eating a banana, only to look up and see the entire kitchen of male staff (3-4 people) staring at me, looking very seedy. In that same job, my 50-something boss once stood right in front of me, held me by the shoulders, and said 'this would be the perfect height if we were f*****g right now'. So uncomfortable, but also didn't realise at the time just how inappropriate that was. Another 40-something boss, when I was 21, working in a bar, tried to make out with me at after work drinks. When I pulled away, he tried to cover up to say he was just going to kiss me on the cheek, since he was French. He was married with two children, his wife worked in the restaurant on Sundays, he regularly hooked up with young female staff or wine or other product reps.
What..... The F**K....?! Ugh that's disgusting!
Load More Replies... This makes me, a man, very angry. It's one thing to know about it as a general problem, it's another to hear specific real-life events. I would like to think that things have gotten better for women, but after reading this post I'm not so sure. Ladies who stand up for yourselves, good for you! Another thing, any man who witnesses another man harass a female and does nothing is just as guilty as the man doing the harassing.
The testimonies below of disgusting harassment is beyond infuriating. When you are a teen or a young adult you don't even expect it and don't always have a way to stop it. Ghastly.
The "It's just a joke" excuse can be answered with, "No. Jokes are funny. That wasn't."
I'm really pleased for all the women who stood up for themselves and put those pricks in their place. I hope that other females who see this can pick up some tips for how to deal with sexual harrassment. I feel the replies are very powerful, especially the "I'll write that in my log" one. Genius.
I've had to put some of my students in their place for saying inappropriate things or making innuendos. It usually turns into an interesting learning moment for them and for me. They're 11/12, it's sad what they learn at home!
I was 15/16 working at a fast food establishment minding my own business when a grown man says "hey! hey! What, you don't remember me?" I'm like "No, can I help you?" he replies "Oh, it must be because I have my pants on!" in front of a lobby full of people in the middle of our lunch rush. I turned beet red and ran to the back of the store. I was so embarrassed because at the time I was still VERY innocent. My manager asked me over the headset what happened. While I was telling her he was on his way out of the door. She watched for him to leave and got his license plate and called the police. They came and showed me a picture of him to confirm. He already had some sort of charges against him it still upsets me to this day and I'm damn near 30.
You should always be careful making "jokes". Over here I do read a lot of sexual harresment to young girls, which is frightening and sick. I always ask myself when I want to tell a joke, if someone might feel attacked/uneasy because of it. If the answer is yes, it's no longer a joke and I'll just shut my piehole.
I deal with it all the time at my job. Dirty mouthed men. No respect for me or my abilities. I'm the only female there too. I just stare them down an they wander away. I've been groped there and at other jobs. I always say "do it again an I'm breaking a finger". They do. I grab their finger an bend it til they cry uncle. Works. They feel the pain and leave me alone. Men just assume they can act like pigs when no one is there to correct them. They should just correct themselves.
A 27 year old guy I work with once said to me, “Russian girls are so hot, are you single?” I said, without trying to neutralize my accent, “In Russia, 15 year old girl harasses man... not other way around, b***h.” Needless to say, he still looks over his shoulder like he thinks I am an assassin.
The one that got asked if she showers with her boyfriend, should/ should have said “No, I prefer to shower with your mom instead.” Boom.
@ Dawn, not so easy to do, when you are a young girl
Load More Replies... Another tactic: Repeat what they say or call out their behavior AT THE TOP OF YOUR LUNGS AND ENUNCIATE. If an offender is stupid enough to repeat offensive behavior, then they're stupid enough for another dose. There's a reason a lot of them whisper or use a low voice. "DID YOU JUST SAY YOU'RE TURNED ON BY HOW I EAT MY ICE CREAM?" or "DON'T TOUCH ME! STOP TOUCHING ME! I DON'T FEEL SAFE WHEN YOU TOUCH ME!"
These make me ill. It brings up all the gross things that happened to me, and makes me physically sick to think about my two young daughters who will soon face the same things.
At my last job I asked an older gentlemen if he needed anything else and he replied an 18 year old in a bikini. He and my supervisor were laughing, I though the joke was awkward because I had a feeling it was directed at me and it brothers me that so many old men want teens. A few weeks later the same man came and he was being nice and then asks my age I tell him I'm 27 he stopped smiling so much and moves along, then my coworker comes laughing and tells me that man told him a funny joke, it was the same joke.
Grandmas! They totally rock! Yup, 19 yo working in a male dominated field and 90% of the time being the only female on duty. I hope young girls read this amd take the advice of asking "what they mean?" I wished I'd had that line.
I was working in a clothing store and a male customer wanted to buy the shirt he just tried on so I wanted to remove the alarm tag at the back of the collar. He turns quickly and tries to give me a french kiss, I was able to turn my head just in time. My employer stood by and laughed at me, along with that customer.
Lance Boudreaux is completely right. My wife's sister is really bad at saying hurtful things about my wife and playing it off like it was a joke. I'd like to think these would work on her, but I doubt it.
In my 11th grade Honors English class a boy called me the C word. We were rehearsing for a renaissance fair we were putting on as a class project. There were no teachers. I pretended like it didn't bother me, and all he did was continue to call me it, everyone laughed.
Honors class? I got my son to not swear by telling him that swearing is for uneducated people who have no vocabulary. It worked, LOL When Someone acts like that, it is for attention (he got it at your expense). Remember, you are better than he is since he has a lot more growing up to do.
Load More Replies... I was a $7 an hour temp at a trade show in San Francisco. I needed to get something from near where a supervisor was standing. I asked if I could get into the box under his arm and he looked me up and down and said "Honey, you can get under me any day." A few days later I worked up the courage to mention this to his FEMALE co-workers and they laughed and said "We were wondering who it was this show. He picks one every show..." Gee, thanks, ladies. And it never occurs to you to do something about it, rather than letting him take his lecherous power trips out on minimum-wage temps in need of work?
When I was an apprentice chef my two female co-workers would constantly make inappropriate remarks to me. I was much younger, and needed the job, so I just took it on the chin.
I worked with an amazing Executive for 7 years, followed him through all his promotions and advancements. I was in his office one day, with him and one of his Direct Reports, when the phone rang, and I leaned over the desk to answer the phone, at which point the scuzzy Direct Report said 'here's your chance to slip her one'. To this day, I don't know what disgusted me more - the Direct Report's obscene & crass comment, or the deafening silence of my manager and mentor. Needless to say, I found a new job/promotion within a few months. But the disappointment has lasted for more than 20 years. You never know who to trust. Just trust yourself.
Amazing some of the gross people who think making these comments is ok. And yes there are dirty old women too.
something is f****d up with society if this post has this many things
I was doing some filing for volunteer experience at my parents friends business. I was 17-18 and he’d drive home after. One day he started telling me how the new medicine he was taking made him very horny and how sad it was that his wife wasn’t around for the weekend. The way he said it made me sooo uncomfortable that I never went back and couldn’t tell my parents why :(
I wish I had this sort of spunk when I was younger. I had multiple instances while studying abroad in Paris of men groping, stalking, and even pinning me (this last one was on a train, which was lucky in a way because at least it was very public) and not knowing how to get out of it. It’s worse when you’re struggling around language barriers and cultural barriers and no one steps in to help, but I’ve had it happen in the US too. It’s terrifying. And it starts young. I’m glad there’s so much focus on teaching about consent now—all kinds, whether it’s just hugs, or bodily autonomy, or whatever—because I didn’t get that and it’s harder to set up boundaries.
When I was nine, a school monitor told me I would look better if I smiled. I didn’t, so he told me I couldn’t go to lunch until I smiled. I did. I still remember his face.
When I was 18, I worked at a tax prep office during tax season. It wasn't uncommon for us to be swamped. One weekend, I was helping to close up when one of the tax preparers (married) comes up and says "You look great in that outfit. How about you and I go to a Hotel?" I said "Maybe we should call your wife and ask her if it's a good idea?" He says "You don't have to be a b*tch about it!" I say loudly "Apparently I do!" My female boss asked what the problem was. I explained to her his proposition. She told me to go. She called him back to her office. The next week, he was reassigned to a different office.
I am blessed to have had men in my life who don't find it necessary to treat women this way. I think men need to stop and think "would I want someone to say these things to my mother/sister/wife/daughter?" If the answer to any of those is no then don't say things like that to any other woman.
When I was about 19/20, I worked as a unit secretary at a hospital in Dallas, TX. I spoke on the phone to a transporter (or X-ray tech) from radiology, and when he showed up in my unit to get a patient, he saw me at the desk and asked if I was the one he spoke to over the phone. When I said “yes”, he asked if I also worked as a phone sex operator. He was probably in his late 20’s, early 30’s. In some ways, I take it as a compliment, but mostly I think about how he was a perv to say that. I’m surprised how common it is for guys to ask if a young woman works as a phone sex operator or to suggest to them they should do that. Now I’m thinking that’s a line more than anything else.
This was a lot of mixed emotions of "Yeah, get him!" and "s**t, I'm sorry you went through that..." Also, I don't think we should throw porn under the bus wholesale as sexist. The problem is a lack of oversight in the industry, but there are people -including female and trans producers- who are working to make it safer. I do think that porn, like satire, can sometimes be problematic when someone who is too young to understand or hasn't been told "this is not directly portraying reality".
The problem is that the majority of porn shows women in a submissive light, or merely as objects. A means to an end, and not actual human beings.
Load More Replies... So wheres the post about women behaving inappropriately in the work place..you know that has to be happening..esp in schools with all the teachers sleeping with students
If you have a story to share about how this happened then share it. Sexual harassment is wrong no matter what.
Load More Replies... There is nothing with a man telling a woman she's attractive when it's done appropriately and in the right way. Doing so with overtly sexual connotations isn't appropriate. A manager hitting on an employee is not appropriate. Making sexual jokes at work is not appropriate. Freedom of speech does not mean you can say ANYTHING you like. It ends where you infringe the freedom of others.
Load More Replies... that's just entirely irrelevant. if a woman wants to sell her body, that's her choice and she's not forcing it into anyone. that's entirely different than forcing yourself into someone, and it's definitely not encouraging harassment. that's like saying stores that sell things are encouraging people to steal from other stores.
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