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“I’ve Always Been The ‘Fat Sister’:” Woman Loses A Lot Of Weight Before Sister’s Wedding, Bride Freaks Out
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“I’ve Always Been The ‘Fat Sister’:” Woman Loses A Lot Of Weight Before Sister’s Wedding, Bride Freaks Out

If there’s a wedding coming up, you know that everyone in a family will be on edge. Little things like the color of cupcake holders can leave the bride in full-blown breakdown mode.

But this time, the trigger that led to a family drama powered by wedding planning, aka when everything goes against the plan, turned out to be the sister who… lost some weight.

“I 28F used to be quite overweight, over the last year or so I have made many changes in my life and have successfully lost almost 100lbs,” wrote the author on r/AITA. The woman said she’s “always been the fat sister,” and “this is the first time in our lives that I’m smaller than her.”

As you can suspect, this didn’t go well with the author’s sister, the bride to be, who was less than happy with such a transformation. Scroll down through the whole story below, and be sure to share if you really think the author was wrong to lose weight for her sis’ big day.

A woman has recently shared a story of how her sister, a bride-to-be, accused her of losing weight and trying to upstage her on her wedding day

Image credits: Omar Lopez (not the actual photo)

If there’s a day in life you choose to have all eyes set just on you, it would be your big wedding day. In most of our life journeys, we may never take up the role of the absolute center of attention as kids, jobs, partners, problems and whatnot take the stage. But what if a bride feels like she doesn’t get the attention she deserves? What if she feels like another person has stolen the attention away?

In fact, this happens more often than you’d think. Although it’s hard to decide on each event specifically, we at least know that brides do feel upstaged for whatever reasons. We previously covered a story about a woman who realized she’d overdressed for a cocktail-themed wedding and got accused of upstaging. We also wrote about the incident when a bride got upset with the groom’s teen cousin who was going to wear a traditional Indian outfit for fear it would upstage her.

Image credits: Late-Water-9669

To find out whether upstaging the bride is really a thing, we reached out to Aurelie Della Maggiore, the wedding planner and wedding designer based in the French Alps from “Lucy Till French Weddings.”

“To the guest accused, I will try to explain that planning a wedding could be a lot of stress for a bride, lots of money might be involved, and lots of expectations are raised especially after a year of planning every little detail,” she said and added that this can explain that sometimes brides can get a little crazy a few days before their big day.

“To the bride, I will explain that there is no such thing as upstaging the bride, the bride is always the center of all attention NO MATTER WHAT—well, except if the guest is coming in a full bride look, of course,” Aurelie explained.

Aurelie concluded that “the point is to focus on what’s really important at a wedding, celebrating love and commitment surrounded by your friends and family, and that no matter what they are wearing or how much they weigh, the bride is the queen of the day and nothing can change that!”

And this is what people had to say about this whole situation

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StormWolf
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is what I refer to as "systemic toxicity". Certain roles are assigned to certain people (usually family or close friends) and when one of them decides to change their own script, it throws the "order" out of whack and the others feel angry/insecure at now being unsure of how this affects their position in the "hierarchy"

keepgoing
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly, you worded it perfectly. I often see this. People don't like change, so when one changes the others feel threatened like they should be doing something too and ghen express this as jealously or even anger towards the other person. Like how dare you fall out of line.

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Otter
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kind of dickhead parents would take the OP's sister's side???

Me Oh My
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. As a formerly overweight person, f**k them. Losing weight is extremely difficult, and they ought to be happy for your success.

Tess the ferret
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Judging by your reply to Otter, i dont think you parents were supportive of your weight loss? If they werent, im so sorry you had to go through that

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StormWolf
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is what I refer to as "systemic toxicity". Certain roles are assigned to certain people (usually family or close friends) and when one of them decides to change their own script, it throws the "order" out of whack and the others feel angry/insecure at now being unsure of how this affects their position in the "hierarchy"

keepgoing
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly, you worded it perfectly. I often see this. People don't like change, so when one changes the others feel threatened like they should be doing something too and ghen express this as jealously or even anger towards the other person. Like how dare you fall out of line.

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Otter
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kind of dickhead parents would take the OP's sister's side???

Me Oh My
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. As a formerly overweight person, f**k them. Losing weight is extremely difficult, and they ought to be happy for your success.

Tess the ferret
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Judging by your reply to Otter, i dont think you parents were supportive of your weight loss? If they werent, im so sorry you had to go through that

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