We live in a colorful world, no doubt about it. With so much information bombarding us every day, it’s easy to lose track of what’s really going on around us.
And by really, I mean that we often fail to pause and reflect on the dynamics of our modern society where people celebrate an inherently positive side of the world. But what if beneath its wholesome surface lies an underlying toxicity that feeds our delusions even further?
It sounds like one of those difficult thoughts that haunt us before falling asleep. But thanks to one Redditor who recently asked a seemingly basic question “What are 'wholesome' things that are actually toxic?” we now have some truly eye-opening answers. From family vlogging to animal rescue videos that are often totally fake, these are some examples to remind us to not take everything at face value.
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Not sure if it’s on here already, but I get super uncomfortable when a video of a classroom of kids giving the kid who “can’t afford new shoes” a brand new pair as a surprise. The entire culture of filming while doing kind things for people is so exploitive and gross and sad.
The expectation to keep your family members in your life no matter what they do. Some people have families that treat them like absolute [trash], and being related to them isn't a good reason to keep them around. It's ok to cut off toxic family members.
Body positivity like Dove's "Real Beauty" campaign. The idea that all women are beautiful sounds nice on the surface, but it's a gross message to send because beauty is still at the core of it. I don't want to be told that my body is beautiful too, I want to be told that I don't have to be beautiful, that my value is not tied to how much other people enjoy looking at me.
Exactly, I don't care about whether I look 'beautiful' or not, I want it to be okay to not care if i look 'beautiful' or not
“Look at this adorable 4-year-old using a walker! So inspirational!”
“Awww, this guy asked a deaf girl to prom!”
“Watch this group of guys playing tackle football with a guy with Down syndrome!!”
“Check out this amazing blind kid walking down a street! Next level, yo!”
Even worse is when a disabled person achieves something incredible, and everyone goes "see, you can do anything you put your mind to!" That mindset is so toxic for other disabled people, who, surprise surprise, cannot 'do anything they put their mind to', and are then treated like lazy assholes for it. :(
That mindset is toxic for EVERYONE. Survivorship bias is a toxic logical fallacy that lucky people use to excuse their status as having been entirely about their own hard work (ha ha), and to blame unsuccessful people for their own lack of measuring up/failures. There's just no room in our society for everyone to be a "industry disrupting" CEO success story. That's not the fault of the people who are struggling to make ends meet by working multiple jobs that pay s**t.
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Pointing people with disabilities out means you have not accepted them as a part of society
Exactly. And going into raptures when someone achieves something "just because they have disability" is a bit toxic in my opinion, because it lets think that other 'disabled' people can't achieve it. Our society only focuses on impairment, not on skills. And god knows how many skills people with disabilities have!
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This is a teeny bit unrelated but I really hate it when there's like a news article about an autistic person getting included in activities and stuff and they are treating the people who are being inclusive like they're heroes. Like, treating someone like a human being is not an accomplishment.
I don't think it's unrelated at all. I think it's exactly the point.
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people be like: "oh this person isn't nOrMaL let's make a big deal out of it when they're TREATED LIKE ANY OTHER HUMAN BEING WOULD BE"
lol exactly! and the irony of it all is lost on so many its sad. i don't even think they know they're doing it or it's toxic. this a good meme to get out there.... educate the masses.
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If my son had been front page news when his high school football team looked out for his safety (protected him from bullies,) I would have been furious. It's not a "Wow look at this amazing thing that no one has ever done before." It's a "Why isn't this the norm."
I just can't understand all the lack of empathy amongst you. I have a sister with Down's syndrome. Should people just say "that's nice", or "isn't that sweet?" Doubt I'd find that attitude encouraging.
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Absolutely. We cope with our disabilities or chronic illnesses because we have no choice not because we are trying to inspire others We are just trying to live our best lives with what we have to work with.
I want to see these people, but I want to see them first and their disability second, if at all. It should just be a viral video of a guy being super shy about asking someone to prom or amazing teamwork to pull of an amazing football maneuver. These people deserve to be seen, we just need to work on how the mass majority understands them
I hate the ASD/Autism/Aspergers stereotypes. The assumption that you are either semi-feral or hyperintelligent. So toxic for those who are neither of these things but maybe aren't great socially, clumsy and have SPD. It's a Spectrum for a reason...and a Spectrum of disorders, not a Spectrum of how "badly" you have it or how you "function".
I hate the stereotypes about ASD/autism/Aspergers. It's a Spectrum for a reason. However it's always presented as either these highly intelligent anti-social types or semi-feral ones. There are plenty of people who are sociable with normal levels of intelligence too who may have SPD and Dyspraxia instead.
iam disabled all my life and i have had this Inspiration porn all my life, only a few weeks ago i had "oh your such an inspiration" and all i was doing was getting sometihng from the freezer at the local shops
And why are we even talking about it?! Just HELP each other without all the fuss. It’s what we all should be doing!
I understand how people may argue against sharing the last 3, but the first, a child using a walker? Was it the first time the child was able to walk? Did the child become paralyzed and never expected to even move their arms again? Did using a walker coincide with not having to use a ventilator ever again?
I'm guessing it's inspirational for kids like this. I've seen so many football players being able to make a touchdown. It probably was a fantastic day for them that they won't forget. I'm sure the parents are very happy too. It's a day they may think of always.
Totally agree. Like why are you surprised- disabled kids can do anything that non-disabled kids can do.
Uh, no they can't. That's why it's called a disability.
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These can actually be great things for these people. I've seen the smiles on their faces when things like this happen.
I think the issue is mainly the person saying these things: It might very well be an awesome feat for the disabled person, but the person calling attention to it is really calling attention to their own "excellence". It also bothers me that this is often done with animals as well. I mean, sure disabled animals are worth all the love and care in the world but losing an eye or a leg doesn't make them cuter than healthy animals. Though you'd think so, by how people express their admiration for the unfortunate little things. And while I'm being a cynic, similar things are said about "elderly" people too. Like "Look at this old grandma dancing" - and it's a 67 year old woman with decades of life and happiness still in her. It's like some people think life ends around 60 and after that anything you do is "amaaaaaazing" simply because you're so OLD. *quits whining* (And no, I'm not 60 yet. Or disabled. Or an ani... oh wait, that I am :) )
Disgusting. Might as well be saying "LOOK, PEOPLE BEING PEOPLE EXCEPT THEY HAVE DISABILITIES SO YOU SHOULD LIKE IT MORE" thats like if there were an article about me, "GIRL WITH CYSTIC FIBROSIS BREATHES WITHOUT HELP FROM TREATMENTS" i would get so pissed
I actually consider stuff like this to be a small (if incomplete) step in the right direction. The simple truth is that we have all been conditioned to think disabled people are inferior. Drawing attention to them doing simple mundane things at least humanizes them. One step at a time.
Good point i guess, but I feel like it may be the opposite. It seperates people with disabilites even more. If it's normal for ablebodied people to do it, why should it be announced to the world when it's not? They are just living their life, and making it into a 'feel good' story is invasive and divides them even more.
Load More Replies... So many of you think praising people with disabilities is awful or wrong. How many "regular people" have you seen that have been made little god's for what they did? Actors are the worst. They do something they like to do for a lot of money and praise. These people are working at a disadvantage. People praising them is wonderful. It maybe the day they remember the most. My sister was in the Special Olympics. I have no idea were she cam in but she couldn't have been happier. Maybe I shouldn't have clapped. Shame on me.
The problem isn't praising people with disabilities in general, it's praising them for mundane activities that the rest of us (and in most cases, others with the same disability) do all the time. Actors and athletes are at least doing something noteworthy with their lives.
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the point is? it's toxic to compare so wildly different disabilities? what?
The point is that if someone has a disability and something that's normal for able bodied people happened/is happening to then it shouldn't make headlines. They're just living their life, nothing special.
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Proposing in front of a crowd. Puts a lot of pressure on the person being proposed to.
Corporations who spend $50 million on ads to tell you about the amazing $1 million they spent on a charity program.
Toxic positivity. Like when someone's having a really hard time and you tell them to stay positive or try to look at the bright side. [Screw] you Jenny, my grandma died.
Instagram "influencers" promoting their "amazing" healthy lifestyles but in reality mostly staged/photoshopped and exacerbating mental illness, body issues, anxiety in young people.
Touching women’s bellies when they’re pregnant. You don’t go around patting a penis to congratulate it on its successful ejaculation. Damn.
The pure existence of most modern dog breeds. Pugs, for example. We all think they’re super cute, but the truth is - they are extremely deformed and constantly suffering as a result of a century of inbreeding. A lot of people don’t know this, and it’s really sad. I’m not saying these dogs should be put down right now, just saying it would’ve been a better idea not to inbreed dogs for centuries.
Asking your child "Who's your boy/girlfriend?" any time they interact with someone of the opposite sex.
Yes! I hate it when people assume there's something going on when you're just hanging out with your friends
Badgering people to have kids. No, I’m not going to magically change my mind when I meet the right girl.
Dads trying to be weirdly aggressive/threatening to their daughter's bfs.
Punking people with practical jokes that are fake traumatic incidents. There is absolutely nothing funny about witnessing a fake death, mortal injury or abuse and then discovering it was all an elaborate joke. It’s traumatizing.
As a former homeless person, I can't put into words how annoying the people who film themselves handing out food for a viral video with some emotional pop song overlaid on it are. It's 100% "look at me, look how cool and HELPFUL I am" while honestly not giving a real damn about the homeless. It'd be one thing if you're putting your fame and money back into funding a shelter, or true change and volunteering and charity efforts but not just dropping $20 on some McDonalds meals to drive around LA filming strangers sleeping on the street for a bit.
I have given food and money to people on the street but it never occurred to me to photograph it. So damn tacky and insulting to the person you are giving to.
Using your child for likes on social media, that's creepy I never understood why would any parent do that
Abstinence and purity promise culture. Really [screws] people up for a long time when you teach them that:
A.) sex is dirty, bad and evil
B.) their worth as a person is tied to that purity
School fundraisers.
If the government can't give schools enough funds, then everything is wrong.
Repeatedly professing your love for someone after they tell you that they aren't interested.
The idea that you can "make" someone love you back if you just keep trying is rooted in toxicity, but romanticized in countless films and TV shows.
Teachers giving up their Sick Days for some other teacher can have days off for Cancer Treatments.
"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." In theory, I'm supposed to be a statement of unconditional love, but in reality it's just inviting toxic behavior with no way out
Every time I see someone quoting that, l run in the opposite direction
The idea that feeling anger makes you a bad person, or that you are obligated to forgive absolutely everyone who has hurt you.
Feeling anger doesn't make you a bad person, displaying anger to people who haven't caused it does.
Any viral story about some kid selling [stuff] to pay for a relatives healthcare.
Dolphins at SeaWorld and other family centers. They are generally all in a state of extreme mental health stress and have to be given drugs to keep them calm. In addition, the profits from capturing the best looking dolphins and selling them to these places fuel an annual dolphin hunt in Japan where the vast majority are sold for animal meat. It is a brutal practice where an extremely intelligent and sentient animal group is killed without painkillers in a slaughter.
Receiving recognition for perfect attendance. My ass that you never got sick.
Supporting someone no matter what choices they make. You can love someone to the ends of the earth, that doesn’t mean they will 100% be right all of the time, no matter how much you love or admire them.
When people who are super spiritual and love love love all the time judge and ridicule you for not being in a good mood or for needing space. “You’re ruining the vibe” “this isn’t a hostile environment”- gaslighting is wrong and these people do it ALL THE TIME! I call them “the love police”.
Any kind of 'tough love'. "Other people have it worse" or "Kids should get bullied to toughen up" (Yes someone actually said this to me).
My mom was very big on tough love. She would try to nag me into submission. All it did was build up my resentment toward her. Yes, there was backtalk from my part, which infuriated her even more. I laugh about it now, but trust me, I was a frustrated teenager and young adult.
Teachers working overtime/sacrificing for their students/fundraising for anything/etc. Most news articles that hit national headlines about teachers are toxic af.
"student raises money for his former teacher found living in a car"
"principal works 2nd job to help homeless students have clean clothes and food"
Spending so much time on social media to show everyone else how wholesome your life is.
Spouses being their partners EVERYTHING. it's okay to have other friends, actually it's even healthy to have a robust social life in which you get different things out of your relationships with different people
Baby onesies that say stuff. Some are innocent...a lot are not. I'm a first time mom to a 6mo son. My child is not here to make grandma feel like a "mother without rules". And keep that "chick magnet" [nonsense] outta my face.
some people are mad at having gay charecters in shows but will put baby girls in shat like this Screenshot...b3f9ed.png 
"We're all just one big family!"
If anyone tells you this in a workplace setting, run. They're only like a family in the sense of the most toxic parts of one that exploit you.
Youtube kids channels. The ones aimed at older audiences are literally better for a child than the kids ones.
News stories like "CEO sees employee dumpster diving for food and buys them a headlamp"
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"Kid works manual labor to pay off school lunch debt for entire class"
But they were actual headlines and they do reflect how twisted the US society has become. It's amusing for outsiders, it's very sad for people living in the US.
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Can we go one day on BP without the "let's all sneer at someone else" posts, and just look at cute animals more?
Yes i need cute and happy and less angst pls BP. Even just for a day. Fine me funnily timed photos and naughty pets and cutie patoot animals etc
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hiring woman BECAUSE you have a quota of woman, racial people, people with disability. it suck. i need people with skill... not a skin color, or genre. SKILLS!!!
did you mean to say gender instead of genre? because if so, keep it as genre. it's more fun.
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I think people don't know what "Toxic" means. It's almost the way people misuse "Literally."
agreed. it's so overused the word itself aggravates me at this point.
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This is just my opinion, but I kind of think this post is toxic. The last thing we need is a list of things that make us angry/ more pointing fingers. I just want to see something positive, like cute little animals 😅
I disagree with about half of these. I believe, if anything, it's the intention behind the action that makes it toxic. Example: growing up in New Orleans, some schools needed funding so fundraising helped kids with essentials. Also I feel this quote: "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" is taken out of context. It's more having to deal with someone who is having a rough time such as perhaps losing a job and people leaving because of that.
Most of them aren't toxic. But yes why Publicize your charity? The write doesn't like it and the rest of us don't care because we have bigger things to worry about.
Downvote me to hell, I dont care, but kids that do amazing things that everyone should know how to do. Let me explain. There was an incident recently where a kid performed CPR on his sister to save her life. Which that's great. But that isnt the issue. The issue is the parents now knowing what do to. Everyone should know how to do CPR. But they didnt, which is the issue. And they also didnt see that the daughter was choking, which is worse. So the last thing was for the kid to save his sister's life. If the parents were just a little bit smarter, then there would be no story there. It's simply just a kid knowing what to do when the parents suck.
Posting a happy birthday message on social media but I have to be in all of the pictures with the birthday girl. Why can't they just be pics of the person with the birthday?
Some Youtube personality made a video about "uplifting" stories that are actually symptoms of major social ills (not unlike some if the entries on this list): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXpKvlFQxEs
title: toxic things that pretend to be wholesome ~~ content: WhY aMeRiCa SuCkS
This should be entitled. You don't feel you are offended enough...here is a list of things that will make you a hit at any party.
**The following was a rebuttal to Eslamala's highly downvoted comment which was moved to the lowest spot in this thread (so read hers B4U bash me): The kind of person who gives importance to anyone else's opinion... is normal. It's how we're conditioned and controlled from birth by our Love Bullies...and Capitalism. So belittling others for it is rude and hurtful.
For me, it's "I would die for my parent(s)" ... I doubt any parent would want to see their child sacrifice their future, especially after any sacrifices they may have already made for that child ... I don't know any parent that would put their child in that position ...
I have seen a few things that resembles hollywood actors and singers/artist.And yet,people worship them or find them cool.
yeah i would...also cause you just made this post about your problem instead of the actual post(no offence)
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Can we go one day on BP without the "let's all sneer at someone else" posts, and just look at cute animals more?
Yes i need cute and happy and less angst pls BP. Even just for a day. Fine me funnily timed photos and naughty pets and cutie patoot animals etc
Load More Replies... hiring woman BECAUSE you have a quota of woman, racial people, people with disability. it suck. i need people with skill... not a skin color, or genre. SKILLS!!!
did you mean to say gender instead of genre? because if so, keep it as genre. it's more fun.
Load More Replies... I think people don't know what "Toxic" means. It's almost the way people misuse "Literally."
agreed. it's so overused the word itself aggravates me at this point.
Load More Replies... This is just my opinion, but I kind of think this post is toxic. The last thing we need is a list of things that make us angry/ more pointing fingers. I just want to see something positive, like cute little animals 😅
I disagree with about half of these. I believe, if anything, it's the intention behind the action that makes it toxic. Example: growing up in New Orleans, some schools needed funding so fundraising helped kids with essentials. Also I feel this quote: "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" is taken out of context. It's more having to deal with someone who is having a rough time such as perhaps losing a job and people leaving because of that.
Most of them aren't toxic. But yes why Publicize your charity? The write doesn't like it and the rest of us don't care because we have bigger things to worry about.
Downvote me to hell, I dont care, but kids that do amazing things that everyone should know how to do. Let me explain. There was an incident recently where a kid performed CPR on his sister to save her life. Which that's great. But that isnt the issue. The issue is the parents now knowing what do to. Everyone should know how to do CPR. But they didnt, which is the issue. And they also didnt see that the daughter was choking, which is worse. So the last thing was for the kid to save his sister's life. If the parents were just a little bit smarter, then there would be no story there. It's simply just a kid knowing what to do when the parents suck.
Posting a happy birthday message on social media but I have to be in all of the pictures with the birthday girl. Why can't they just be pics of the person with the birthday?
Some Youtube personality made a video about "uplifting" stories that are actually symptoms of major social ills (not unlike some if the entries on this list): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXpKvlFQxEs
title: toxic things that pretend to be wholesome ~~ content: WhY aMeRiCa SuCkS
This should be entitled. You don't feel you are offended enough...here is a list of things that will make you a hit at any party.
**The following was a rebuttal to Eslamala's highly downvoted comment which was moved to the lowest spot in this thread (so read hers B4U bash me): The kind of person who gives importance to anyone else's opinion... is normal. It's how we're conditioned and controlled from birth by our Love Bullies...and Capitalism. So belittling others for it is rude and hurtful.
For me, it's "I would die for my parent(s)" ... I doubt any parent would want to see their child sacrifice their future, especially after any sacrifices they may have already made for that child ... I don't know any parent that would put their child in that position ...
I have seen a few things that resembles hollywood actors and singers/artist.And yet,people worship them or find them cool.
yeah i would...also cause you just made this post about your problem instead of the actual post(no offence)
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