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As humans, making our way through this big crazy world, we are all a bunch of imperfect weirdos. Like, we can totally master the office smile that hides the “I hate this work” mood you’ve been dragging for the past you've-lost-count-kinda years.

But if, for whatever reason, someone blocks your way on the way to point B at a busy street, or worse, is painfully slowly dragging their feet right in front of you, you burst into uncontrollable anger. And that poor person, unknown to them, has become your nemesis.

This is just one of many scenarios that trigger our bad selves without much rationality. And people shared so much more in this thread when Redditor Baconbear36 posed the question “What is something that makes you unreasonably angry?” What followed was a bunch of illuminating stories, and hey, it’s honestly very relatable.

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Recipes that start with an essay about the author.

I don't need to know your f*cking life story, Jessica, I'm trying to figure out how to make fried chicken.

I've been scrolling for 15 minutes, is there actually a recipe on this damn page?!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Recipies that miss a crucial ingredient from their listing of ingredients. Like when cooking it will suddenly tell you to put in the cheese, while it neglected to tell you to buy cheese.

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Bill Evs
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or the recipes where you have all the ingredients bar one you've never heard of and would have no idea where to buy it but is essential for said recipe "now take a spoonful of Gochujang"...........

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You kidding me
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Jump to recipe" is the most important instruction to follow on any recipe page.

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Alexia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, I once bought a book on palenonthology, mass extinctions, dinosaurs (one of my interests). It had good reviews and I was so excited. Just to realise that 1/3 of it was a biography of the author since early childhood to his marriage, and a selection of paper articles praising him. Wtf??

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Sky Render
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They do this because everything has to be a blog these days. It's fine when the explanation is concise and explains particularly tricky cooking techniques (regular cookbooks have entire sections dedicated to that!), but yeah. I don't need the "rich and varied history" of chicken and dumplings, I'm just trying to make dinner...

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Mindy Keys
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I could upvote this 100x. If you are so self absorbed you need to tell us your life story, fine, but please add a "jump to recipe" button.

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A.M. Pierre
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sure for some there is an element of self absorption, but for others it's one word: GOOGLE. If you post anything less than 300 words, Google won't even look at you let alone list you. If you write a post that is only the core useful info, no one will ever see it.

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M Calad
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should be the other way around; recipe first, story about the relation between the recipe and the author/chef later.

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one would scroll down farther than the end of the recipe. Then again, most people jump to recipe anyway…

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Ivana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I scroll right to the bottom. I have never read a word of whatever the person has written. I guess they are posting their recipe so it is up to them, do what makes you happy, but I still find it annoying.

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or recipes with nearly a whole damn book of instructions, and 109 ingredients, many of which are expensive and will only be used with that recipe—-which itself will rarely be made, mostly because of the expense and complicated instructions.

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Vasana Phong
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes I quickly change the channel when this happens or if the cook comes on all glammed up, seasoning her chicken with long ass nails and a large diamond ring, is it just me??

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mph seti
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm pretty sure those pointless essays are to make more room for ads.

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denzoren
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like when the webpage has that button "Skip to recipe"...that's God sent. Lol

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Lola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s because everyone has suddenly turned into a blogger.

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Id row
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, this is a good one. That irritates tf out of me, too.

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Suzy the observer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or the YT tutorial that starts with: "If you have an egg and a tomato, you can make..." The actual recipe has seven other ingredients not mentioned. Grrr!!!

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Lisa Simpson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! And the rest of the ingredients are usually more expensive than egg and tomato.

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Shannon Stewart
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've dabbled in food blogging, and websites require a minimum amount of words to be written before the recipe in order to improve your search engine optimisation. I really struggled knowing what to write before every recipe because I know how annoying it is scrolling through all that!

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Desiree McKinnon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or those cooking shows where the 'chef' thinks they need to be an entertainer. Making the whole show like an episode of Monte Python. Just tell me the recipe and show me how to do it. I don't care what happens chemically when you add these three ingredients together this way. I just want to know what I need to cook it, how much it will take - measurements, and what it should look like at the end.

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Miss Cris
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, I do like to know what happens chemically, how it works and so I can see if it's important or how to do changes. However, I don't need the show part when it's unrelated to cooking. I fast forward this if I can.

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tuzdayschild
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes 1000 times! Who started this trend of telling everything on earth except the recipe? We only care about the recipe!!!

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Roxy Eastland
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the blog part at the beginning is something to do with SEO?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I HATE when this happens! But life hack: use https://www.justtherecipe.com/ Type in the link to the website and I gives you just the recipe (not sponsored just annoued with the entire essays that are just blogs :))

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CatWoman312
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This yes! The recipe is usually hidden amongst all the ads and paragraphs about random nothingness. Do people actually read the stories? It would be awesome if someone made a recipe blog that featured actual recipes and no bs background stories

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TexasPK
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On Facebook--people who post recipes and the first line of EVERY SINGLE recipe they post is "Does anyone really eat (recipe name) anymore?" or "comment with yummy if you want to see more of my recipes" or something just as stupid. Hate that! I will unfollow them just for those annoying habits.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This annoys the living b'jesus out of me too! No one cares just give us the goods!

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Nikki Sevven
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even worse, you scroll endlessly through the blogger's life story, only to find that her "recipe" consists of buying processed foods and combining them. Ugh. That's not a recipe, Karen.

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William Teach
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. Especially since most of those recipes are simply repeats of other recipes, nothing new.

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Håvard Hovde
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's to make more money. More time spent on the website - more view time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's an SEO tactic, and if you found the recipe, it worked.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've noticed some have started putting a 'jump to recipe' link at the top. I don't like reading their 'essays' either. That should go in the about section. But I'll read tips on certain techniques and variations. I find comments from some of the people who tried the recipe --- their way --- hilarious. "I used 2 eggs instead of 4, and my cake looks like a frisbee."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank goodness for the "Jump To Recipe" links. If the page doesn't have it, I hit the page down key immediately. Another awful ones are the videos, where they talk waaay too much that I always hit the right arrow key to speed it up, or just look for a short video. I love those less than 5 min videos with music only and instructions written on the screen or on the page.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate food blogs for this very reason. No one cares about you picking fresh mint with your grandmother or how the smell of fresh oatmeal cookies reminds you of your old neighbour. The 'skip to recipe' button is a gift to humanity.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately they need to put loads of crap on the page with the recipe for SEO reasons.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the page doesn't have a "jump to recipe" button, I don't care how good it could have tasted, I'm jumping to the next search result.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. The author should write a book about themselves if they want to tell their life story.........or at the beginning of their "recipe book" write a short bio.

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SuePrew
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is almost always a link at the top to jump right to the recipe. Just look for it.

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Leesa DeAndrea
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are sites that just give the recipe without all baloney. I stick to those sites & avoid the wordy ones.

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matilda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And always, always on these cooking blogs, there is like hundreds aps covering the whole screen!!! Or videos of other recipes!

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RoseAnne Hutchence
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some thoughtful bloggers (thankfully) include a link at the top of the post which jumps right to the recipe.

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Mikey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's why I always look for the 'Jump To Recipe' button first.

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Laurie Ostergaard-Overbey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

youtube videos too! I DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR LIFE STORY, YOUR KIDS, YOUR CAT! JUST GET TO THE TITLED CONTENT ALREADY!

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Lisa Shaw
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same with knitting and crochet patterns, have to read 3-5 pages of their blog rubbish to get to the damn pattern!

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Martha Higgins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's why you should always read the entire recipe through before you begin!

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Ronnie Beaton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See also books where the back cover blurb is nothing but gushing praise for the author's previous works, and doesn't actually tell you what the book you're holding is about.

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Barbar Stewart
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG I know. Its so annoying. I just want the recipe and have scroll through their life story. Ughhhh I hate that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so often i've looked online for a recipe, and the author gives this massive story about how they made this for their kids and blah blah blah. i automatically go to another recipe. I really dont care, i just want to know how to make the cake.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a meme, and it's been getting worse the longer it goes on. I have actually started seeing pages like this without the recipe at the end. Instead, there will just be a link embedded somewhere in the middle that takes you to the actual recipe page, which belongs to a completely different person who also wants you to read an essay about your life. And I do say it's a meme, because at least 10 years ago, I remember people were already starting to make fun of this by creating various parodies where they would begin by talking about 9/11 and end up with a cookie recipe.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The suggested times piss me off. If I cooked anything at the temperature and time suggested, it would come out charred. Every. Single. Time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

8 skinless boneless chicken thighs sunflower oil, for deep-frying For the spice mix 2 tbsp paprika 2 tsp garlic granules 1 tsp chilli powder 1 tsp black pepper ½ tsp dried oregano 1 chicken stock cube For the buttermilk marinade 500ml whole milk 2 tbsp cider or white wine vinegar 1 egg For the coating 100g self-raising flour 100g cornflour ¼ tsp turmeric

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thankfully this seems limited to recipes in English, which I avoid anyway because of the different measurements.

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Jace
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have this same complaint. These are lifestyle bloggers. I’m not looking for that. Just a recipe.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Plus, guys acting cool and hip and with it, and swearing, before getting into how to most effectively build my biceps are real annoying, too. Just show me, please.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All this and still no recipe for fried chicken! They jumped straight to a teaser photo of sweet-n-sour chicken. I've got to get the fried chicken part accomplished before I can cover my mistakes with sugar gravy.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes, I hate this so much. Once I read three pages until the author told me that the trick of a panzanella is to fry the bread and add it right before serving. Sure, so we are not making a panzanella, even though the title said so.

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Leigh C.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was my thought when Theresa Guidice published her TMI, gossipy cook book.

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J. F.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I prefer that in any other way also - just get to the effin' point

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

omg 100% this, now I just ask Alexa, she is a no BS kinda lady, I love her.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never seen a recipe like this, seen a few online ones that have some blurb at the end. What gets me is the "meanwhile" that you don't read until after you've finished the mid-cooking washing dishes and it's now too late

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Julie C Rose
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I heard that it’s so that the page generates more revenue for them. Which is only fair given that we’re getting the recipe for free. Also leave our political newslady out of this.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I should be interested in what people say about themselves at the start of their works, but I have trouble doing that... If I want to play a game, I don't want a stupid developer to talk long about it

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who whine about food blogs. There are hundreds of recipe sites that just list recipes. Go to those instead. Bloggers are trying to do something unique and creative. I'm sorry it's too many words for some people to deal with, but you can't demand these people tailor their free content to your specifications. And sure - I'm ready for the 9,000 folks who will chime in that they just want the meatball recipe without hearing about great-aunt Gertie's childhood on the farm. It's not funny or original.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'Add one cup' HAVE YOU SEEN MY CUPS? I have plenty of cups, and they are all different sizes! Instead of 1 cup of flour, use grams! My cups hold between 60 grams to 500 grams! (it's a very big coffee cup)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

(sigh) This again? Measuring cups come in specific sizes. You don't measure with drinking cups.

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To find out just why we get irrationally angry about small things, and how to control it, Bored Panda reached out to Helen Marlo, a licensed clinical psychologist and Jungian psychoanalyst who provides psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, and consultation. Helen is also a Professor of Clinical Psychology and the Department Chair at Notre Dame de Namur University.

“We often get irrationally angry about the small things because these small situations may be temporary and easier to confront, control, or solve. When we get angry at the small things, we address and emote at easier and safer things,” Helen said.

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Daylight savings time. There is no reason to change times twice a year, every theory about why it’s good has been debunked and I hate it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd prefer it if we stayed on DST year-round. I'd rather wake up and have it darker than have it be dark when I'm done with work.

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But it turns out that “We may fool ourselves into feeling like we are having a voice or addressing our stressors yet, in reality, we remain insulated and protected from directly facing more painful, traumatic, or complex issues that we push out of consciousness.”

The psychologist warns that “the more we push the important stuff out of consciousness—and not deal with what is going on in our lives—the more we find ourselves getting angry at smaller, less threatening things.” Helen explained that “we are often unconscious of how the small things that lead to anger are often connected to more meaningful emotions, memories, thoughts, sensations, and images.”

She continued: “This inner material makes up our personal, psychological complexes which are associated with intense experiences and relationships. They need very little provocation to be activated.”

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) People who say freedom of speech as an excuse for being an asshole. Yes, you are allowed to say it, but you don't have to.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People mistake freedom of speech for freedom of consequences for that speech

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Turns out that unraveling what these reactions are about is not that simple, and it requires us to “face our defenses and be mindful and aware of the issues, which is psychological work,” Helen told us.

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Meanwhile, things that make us more seriously angry usually have to do with something more complex, emotional, meaningful, personal, and complicated. “We often have competing thoughts and feelings about these situations—that is, we feel in conflict about them and they may be related to our wounds or traumas.” Helen explained that “often, the situations that make us more seriously angry are challenging for us to avoid, escape, influence, or control.”

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) People talking on their phone in public or break room at work on speakerphone.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never dared to ask, but why do people hold their phones like that?

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When asked why we don’t normally get that sudden, overpowering burst of anger when dealing with these situations, Helen said that it comes down to the fact that they “are often difficult to resolve so our psychological defenses kick in to help us manage the ongoing stress and anxiety and continue functioning.”

She continued: “For example, we may consciously deny, minimize, suppress, repress, or even dissociate the big stuff.” However, the psychologist warns that this style of coping cannot be sustained and eventually catches up. Moreover, “It may result in irrational anger towards seemingly small things.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kardashians. Fame off the back of their dad being the lawyer in OJ Simpson trial

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If we cannot deal with stressful and angering situations, we can at least control our behavior around it. When asked how we can learn to be in a better relationship with our anger, Helen said “by first, noticing when we are having an exaggerated or heightened reaction, especially to a situation that seems small.”

Such heightened reactions can signal to us that we are vulnerable and need to pause to become more conscious and mindful in that moment, she argues. “When angry at something that seems small, the anger can feel autonomous, like it has a mind of its own, and we can feel out of control. This is a clue that we are in a psychological complex and not in good, conscious relationship with our anger.”

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When a group of people walk next to each other on a sidewalk taking all of it up and not moving out of the way when you approach. I just started to walk into people.

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Only “when we realize this, it can be a good time to physically move, change one’s physical environment, ground oneself physically, or shift one’s physical position to help break away from the strong emotions that prevent us from being conscious.”

According to Helen, once we are more grounded, we can take the next steps and ask ourselves two basic questions: “'What am I noticing inside me?' And, 'what else might this situation be?'”

“This can help us to connect with the emotions, memories, images, sensations and thoughts that may be swirling around inside during this seemingly small event,” the psychologist explained and added that “This can help us begin to become more conscious of how this small situation may be related to other meaningful issues in one’s life.”

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People not using their turn signals. Absolutely enraged.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"If only there were some way I could let the people around me know I was going to change both speed and direction... perhaps some useful gadget that could let them know!" I swear it's like people never heard of a turn signal before. It just reinforces my belief that, for a large part of the population, other people aren't really real but are instead just life hazards to be navigated.

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) People who don’t put shopping carts back properly.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They have to at my local supermarkets. We have to put a £1 coin in them. We get it back when the trolley is returned to the trolley park

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Bored Panda also spoke to Lise Deguire, a clinical psychologist and award-winning author of “Flashback Girl: Lessons on Resilience From a Burn Survivor” who said that it’s indeed a paradox that sometimes we can handle serious stress, and then completely lose our patience over something trivial. “This reminds me of the poem 'The Shoelace,' by Charles Bukowski:

'...it’s not the large things that

send a man to the 

madhouse. death he’s ready for, or

murder, incest, robbery, fire, flood…

no, it’s the continuing series of small tragedies

that send a man to the

madhouse…

not the death of his love

but a shoelace that snaps

with no time left…'"

“I think that people often emotionally prepare themselves to handle big stresses. We know we have something hard ahead of ourselves, and we prepare to handle it. And often we DO handle those big things quite well,” Lise explained.

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Force hyped youtubers who just scream around for no reason like idiots

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate the thumbnails where they're gasping at nothing with some giant text that says something like "SHE SAID WHAT?!?!?!" They're a waste of space.

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) When people tell me I'm shy or quiet. No. I'm simply uncomfortable. I can be very loud and extroverted in a comfortable environment surrounded by people I'm comfortable with, but that's obviously not what I'm doing right now if I'm shy and quiet.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand that. It's even worse when the parents or others label a child as shy. Kids buy into that immediately and figure that's who they are. We just said our kid took her time getting to know people.

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“But then, when one more little thing goes wrong, we just lose our cool. It can feel profoundly unfair, because we are trying so hard to handle big problems, and then that one more issue comes along,” she said.

The good news is that many times, we can handle this anger better with a reset of expectations. “It is good to assume that we may have difficulties, that our plans may not turn out exactly as we hoped. It is safe to assume that people will occasionally misbehave or disappoint us,” Lise explained.

“For myself, for example, I try to build extra time into my schedule, on the assumption that my schedule will not go exactly as I hoped, and that plans frequently go wrong.”

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Banks. Why would an institution that almost all people are required to use have shorter hours than an average job.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And charge you for services that used to be free (like Teller assistance), or aren’t really “services” at all when most of it is essentially self-service?

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#17

I cannot give blood just because I am gay. I have been in a monogamous relationship for the past few years so it is not like STDs are going to randomly spring up.

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On the other hand, things when put into practice are not always that simple. According to Lise, even when we reset our expectations, sometimes people will still get triggered. “If you find yourself overwhelmed with anger, try to take a break. Give yourself a little time-out. Walk away from the frustration if possible. Get a little fresh air. Do some deep breathing, and while you do it, try not to rehash your annoyance.”

The psychologist reminds us that “Life is aggravating at times, we all know that. Usually with a brief time-out, we can let our little frustrations go and get back to enjoying our day.”

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When someone throws in a negative aspect of a life milestone or accomplishment. For example when someone buys a first house, as I recently did. It's something my wife and I have saved a long time for, found the perfect one, and finally have a place to call our own. Some chuckle head throws in how expensive it is and how it's a money pit and how you'll have so much work to do. I'm aware of those things, just be happy for me.

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) "Connected but no internet."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I get a high score on the dinosaur game but then the internet starts working again XD.

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Capcha. Hate having to teach AI what fire hydrants and Stop lights are and it's a robot making sure I'm not a robot.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate them as much as anyone, but have had to implement them as we get so many spam submissions. If we could eradicate the spammers, then we might be able to get rid of them!

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People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Double unskippable ads

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Youtube is doing this more and more often. It's like already double the amount of ads per video.

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Youtube tutorials, and the guy starts telling you his life story. Mate I dont give a f***, tell me how to make a omellete

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best thing you can do is search Google instead of Youtube. Google's video results will generally start with the most sensible result and also give timestamps of the important steps.

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#23

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Clicking on a news article and hitting a paywall. The crappy stuff is free for the taking, but oh, you want accurate news? Gotta pay.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The counter argument is that if you want quality news from proper journalists then pay for it so they can be paid to do their jobs

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#24

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) When a boiled egg is difficult to peel.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You need to 'scare' them. Run them under cold water for a minute or two directly after taking them out of the hot water.

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#25

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Getting touched out of nowhere.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never noticed until I got married. In a restaurant, I'd just sit at whatever chair/booth on the table I came too. Until I noticed if my wife was sitting closest to the walk way, people would just randomly touch her going by. Now I sit closest to the walk way and no one touches me except maybe by accident (usually, I don't get touched at all).

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#26

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Whenever somebody tries to sound like they are more educated on a topic than you yet it’s obvious they only have surface level knowledge of said topic

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#27

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Unsolicited and/or condescending advice.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Approaching 40, happily divorced, single and do not want children - I hate it when I am advised about getting pregnant like "You should really get on with it, you are not getting any younger". Or my second "favorite" "Don't worry, there is someone out there for you too". Aaaaargh

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#28

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) People who are walking out of a shop and then suddenly decide to stop smack bang right outside blocking the door.

Just move to the f***ing side.

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#29

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) People snapping at me to get my attention. Like literally, when people snap in my face as if I'm a dog or something just makes me so mad

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

+1... a finger snap is another way of saying "i would like my face re-arranged please"

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#30

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Cupboards being left open at head height

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#31

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Going outside and seeing other people who are also outside.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Be kind; it’s a challenge for people in high density areas to get outside and spread their legs when they are surrounded by other people. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/world/2021/aug/23/spread-your-legs-new-zealand-makes-hay-with-covid-ministers-gaffe

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#32

Unsolicited phone calls! Stop calling my number and not leaving a message and if I do answer, you hang up! Go to hell, get a real job loser!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it cuts off without them speaking, that is usally an auto-dialler that couldn't find a free operator. Only trouble is now the scammers have auto-diallers. :(

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#33

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Mosquitoes. They're irritating, but I get so angry once I see them flying around, irrationally mad when they buzz by my ear & unreasonably ruin-my-day/night livid if I get bit

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Going into the bathroom and seeing one sheet of toilet paper on the roll.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

or finding out the TP dispenser is on the wall OUTSIDE the stall on your way in

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#35

When I flip a book over to read the summary and it's just a bunch of, "'A beautiful story!' -New York Times" crap and so I have to completely flip the book around to find the summary on the inside front cover.

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#36

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Getting earbuds pulled out of your ears by accident or by someone else.

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#37

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) Crappy mobile game ads

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What pisses me off more is when they advertise an app you find interesting so you download it and it's nothing like the ad. Really gets my goat.

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#38

Poor elevator etiquette. People coming in before those inside exit or are standing right in front of the door when it opens. Drives me CRAZY

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#39

People Are Sharing What Makes Them So Angry, They Can't Think Rationally Anymore (40 Posts) When my significant other "soaks dishes" before washing them.

The washing never happens.

Suprise, suprise.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some things need soaking, but they should always be washed up at some point, not much needs a long soak, normally stick it in the sink first and wash everything else above it and all good

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#40

The sound of styrofoam.

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