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Every family is unique. And before we judge anyone for the way they live, we have to remember that other people might be in a totally different situation than us.

With that being said, many of us grow up with, let's call them eccentricities, without even realizing it! A popular Reddit thread by u/i-had-no-good-ideas has users sharing the weirdest thing their family does that they always thought was perfectly fine. From banning birthday parties to raising 36 cats, the entries prove the term "normal" is a rather relative one.

Continue scrolling and check out the most-upvoted ones!

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) That my family gets together once a week for dinner. Not just my mom, dad, and brother. I mean 4-5 generations of my family get together every Wednesday night for the last 40 years. We also do every holiday too. It’s almost never called off and we just rotate who cooks each week. It’s about 35 people.

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Interestingly, u/i-had-no-good-ideas came up with this question during a clash between two family worlds. "I was camping with my [folks] and another family that we're friends with and we were arguing about the rules of UNO and what was the right way to play and what was the wrong way," the Redditor told Bored Panda.

"It turned out that my family had been playing it wrong the whole time and that just blew my mind ... I had been oblivious to it this whole time."

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We had absolutely no censorship growing up. Everything was available to us to watch or listen to or play. My dad taught my sister and me how to sneak into R rates movies by buying a movie for one but going to another.

My parents made themselves available to explain most things, and had an open door policy. My sister and I were shy, though, and rarely asked stuff...except the time my sister asked my mom what 69 was and she answered. My sister learned not to ask.

When people said they couldn't watch or play something it was foreign to me.

My sister and I turned out low key. Didn't have our first relationships until I was 18 and she was 19. Pretty introverted about sexual matters for even longer. Never in trouble and were dedicated to school. In school we never drank or smoked. Both of my parents asked me and my sister of we needed birth control pills when we were 16. We said no followed by eww, Haha.

I think our curiosities were extinguished through my parents open policy, and we never felt the need to rebel.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mom was the same and me and my sister turned out to be pretty well behaved adults with no need to rebel

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) At one point in my childhood, we had 36 cats who only came inside to eat and sleep at night. Any time a friend slept over, they were amazed and delighted when a half-dozen or more cats came in to sleep in my room. My dad even thought he was having a heart attack one time, because he woke up feeling intense pressure on his chest — it was actually two dozen cats. I found out later that my neighborhood considered us the weird house because of all the cats I thought were so awesome.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This sounds like a lot of cat poo in other people's gardens, to be honest. And no local wildlife.

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Researchers believe there is no single 'normal' in the modern American family anymore. According to a report prepared for the Council on Contemporary Families, most commonly (34 percent), children live with married, dual-career parents, however, no single family 'style' is in the majority.

"We have not replaced one ideal family type with another," Philip Cohen, a sociologist at the University of Maryland, said. "We have replaced one ideal family type with what we call a 'peacock's tail' in the report because it fans out."

Cohen took data from the U.S. Census and from national surveys on family life and reconstructed the family arrangements of Americans in 1960 and 2012.

He found that in 1960, the American family showed a 'peak conformity'. That year, the age at first marriage was the youngest, the marriage rate was at its highest, and the number of extended families living together in multigenerational households was the lowest.

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Back then, 65 percent of children under age 15 lived in a family with married parents in which the father was the breadwinner. 18 percent had married parents who were both employed. And only one child in 350 lived with a mother who had never been married.

In 2012, however, no family type held a majority: the number of children with married parents and only a father working dropped to 22 percent, while children raised by dual-income married parents rose to 34 percent. 11 percent of kids lived with a never-married mother and 7 percent with a parent cohabiting with a romantic partner. About 3 percent of children lived with a single father.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) My grandmother always thought the hand signal for 'I love you' was to stick your middle finger straight up like you're flipping someone the bird. Well, when she would send my dad and his sisters out of the house for the day, she'd innocently flip them the bird while yelling that she loved them. Now, out of tradition, my family always flips each other the bird to say goodbye. We always get strange looks at the airport.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is the same in a Mr. Bean movie when he goes to America. Lovingly flips everyone off.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) About this time every year when local strawberries come into season, my Grandfather would make homemade strawberry shortcake for dinner. Not those stupid sponge cakes but with real homemade shortcakes. He would serve it with cream and it was a big deal because we ate pretty healthy. It was our way of welcoming Summer. His mother in the early 1900s would make one huge shortcake that would feed her, grandpa, and his 6 brothers and sisters.

In the fall when the local apples come in we would make apple dumplings for dinner because that was my Grandma's family tradition to celebrate the harvest.

I thought it was normal to have dessert twice a year for dinner to celebrate the changing of the seasons.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We all open our Christmas gifts one at a time, taking turns, while everyone else watches. I've never met another family that does this.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We do this. I’ve been doing it since I was a kid and continued it with my kids. It gives everyone a chance to see what everyone received. My entire extended family does this also and so do all of my friends.

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"The first and most harrowing thing I took away from the comments was that more families have poop knives than I thought," u/i-had-no-good-ideas said. "The second thing I took away was what a poop knife was. But the third takeaway was that I'm really glad that my family are who they are. I got a lot of comments that were largely concerning when you think about them too long and it just made me glad that the strangest thing my family do is play UNO wrong."

After going through the comments, u/i-had-no-good-ideas agrees with the before-mentioned study. "Everyone has a different view of what normal is," the Redditor said. "To some, normal could be wearing a tuxedo and top hat to bed or running around your backyard wearing nothing but a sombrero. So there is such thing as a normal family but the concept of normal is entirely subjective and there is no such thing as a wrong subjective view."

Philip Cohen believes people really sort of on their own figuring out how to make their family life work. In fact, the sociologist thinks it's the reason why we have a big parenting advice industry. Plus, the search for role models may also help to explain the intense interest in celebrity families and marriages.

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#7

People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We have always had cats. We have several “cat songs”. Some are just songs that we have changed the words to include our cats names, but others completely made up on the fly. We can still remember and sing the cat songs of our pets that have long since passed.

We also have a certain way we speak to each others pets that is almost like another language. Made up words, strange accents, weird pronunciation of syllables... the whole shebang. Incomprehensible to others, but makes perfect sense to us.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) My dad’s side of the family always had this particular smell that I loved! But I never knew what that smell was... I only smelled it around them... It was such a nostalgic smell and I would be excited for family reunions so I could smell it.

Well, years later I discovered that smell was alcohol.

Alcoholism apparently runs in my family.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Growing up my parents would always give each other two cards for birthdays and anniversaries. One would be a comedy card and one is a love card. Thought that was how it just was.

Apparently my family is the only one that does that, but my girlfriend does enjoy the two cards very much.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) In my family, correcting each other's mistakes in everyday conversation is normal, a thing to be grateful to the corrector for. The idea is that it's more important for everyone to be enriched or learning than it is for anyone's pride to be preserved while they're also wrong.

It created in me a love of debate and a willingness to revise my opinions / stances, but it's very frustrating to me now to calculate someone's pride into the equation, lest I be labeled rude or arrogant.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Our family had solstice parties. I didn't think it was weird until someone called me a witch.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

in most of European countries solstice is a big think, especially midsummer (you cannot avoid that one in Baltics and Nordic countries), that's a lot of fun!

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) In my family, we finished the chicken to the bone — no meat, no gristle, nothing left. And if you didn't finish it, someone would finish it for you. Well, flash-forward to college when I'm eating chicken in the cafeteria with my housemates. One of them didn't clean their chicken wing, so I casually reached over and took it to finish it off, without interrupting the conversation. After a minute, I realized everyone was staring at me. 'What?' I asked, someone else's chicken bone hanging out of my mouth.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Saying 'I love you'. I'm very greatful to have grown up in a very loving and caring household. My parents and I say 'I love you' or 'love you' to almost everyone. But once I got to middle school (my first REAL group of friends) I realized that many kids did not grow up in a household to told each other that. Many times I saw my friends be uncomfortable when I told them that I loved them. Now I'm much more cautious when I say that. (Only say it to close friends now)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably selective memory, but I can't recall ever being told that by my mother as I was growing up.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We always had a single hardboiled egg on our plate whenever we had spaghetti.

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We'd go for a walk after every dinner. Rain or shine. Found out years later our neighbors thought we were weird.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Yelling to communicate.

Everyone in my household just yelled and screamed at each other for little or no reason. Not even when they were mad at each other, but even when we were just working around the house or something, people would start yelling at each other like they hated them then after we were all done we just went back to business as usual as if nothing ever happened.

I didn't find out this wasn't exactly normal when I had my first girlfriend. I started yelling and bellowing at her about something, I have no idea what it was even about, and she started crying and said she was afraid I was going to hurt her. I thought this was the craziest thing i'd ever heard. I wasn't going to hit her, I was just yelling. We eventually sort of sat down and talked about it and she made me realize that the primary means of communication i'd been taught and had to use my entire life up to that point wasn't how people were supposed to talk to each other. I also learned that most women tend to cry if you yell at them.

I had done it throughout all my formative years so it's a bit hard to suppress. Sometimes I still find myself raising my voice to people, even my wife, and she'll just put her hand on my shoulder and its sort of our signal to remind me i'm getting carried away.

Weird thing is, i'm not even really angry or anything like that, it just happens automatically. But she knows I don't mean anything by it and helps me to keep it in check. It's not that bad these days, it has gotten better and better over the years being around more sane people that aren't from my family.

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Working at renaissance faires. My parents have been doing it for decades, so I grew up doing it and thought nothing of it. I always thought it was normal that my family would dress up to interact with other people, also dressed up, wielding swords and the like. You can imagine my surprise when, in elementary school, no one had a goddamn clue what I was taking about when I spoke of my normal weekend activities Blew my eight-year-old mind

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We had a diarrhea spoon, so we could test its consistency and find out how dehydrated we were — 'Need about 5 ounces there, Hon.'

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTAF????? you scooped s**t up , with a spoon??????? and you think thats normal ? hands up , who else had a s**t spoon ,,,,,,,,,,

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) People are often horrified by my parent's methods of discipline. When I was little we'd have to kneel on rice if we were too loud on the stairs, or get knuckle punched on the top of our heads if we did something wrong. Also, I now realize how strange it is for your parents to walk around naked. We also couldn't go to their bedroom after they went to bed. My sister broke her arm one morning falling out of the top bunk and my mom made her wait for hours until she would take her to the doctor. I won't go into the paint-stick rule. I didn't realize how messed up this was until I met my girlfriend and told her about it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHAT? Kneel on rice? Wait for hours with a broken arm? WTF. Child abuse is horrible.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was a " frequent " punishment from my grandmother when I was small... Esp if I failed to memorize Sunday schools next bible verse ... I was a " demon child " to her already , because I am mixed race, ( hispanic/ white ) , and my father denied me at birth... Rice , salt , dry crushed cereals , whatever had that grainy texture... My mother didnt find out about it till I was around 8 since she worked all the time... She stopped it , but we still had to live there till I married...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You didn't have a weird family, you were straight up abused.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Spankings with leather belt down on calves so EVERYONE could tell I'd been bad.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to kneel on rice once. Very painful. Everything you described is actually abuse. I hope you don't have a relationship with them anymore.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another Redditor asked OP if they ever confronted their parents about the abuse. OP replied: “My dad died when I was 12 so I never really got to talk to him about adult things like that. My mom has softened up a lot over the years, and she and I have become super close. Most of the punishments were inflicted by my dad, but honestly I'd give anything to have him back, and I still love my mom with all my heart.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They are not weird things your family does, that is child abuse.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kneeling on rice sounds like one of the punishments nuns would use.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spilled a bag of rice, not too long ago, and ended up kneeling on some while cleaning it up. I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, how about picking your own switch off a bush, or lining up with siblings to get spanked until one confessed, or having devils "cast out" by their frantic speaking in tongues every time you had a tantrum (always made it worse and scared the s**t out of me).

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You and your sisters are victims of abusive parents.. There is nothing that excuse this.

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OP on Reddit added: “Ok, so the paint stick rule was that when we really pissed my mom off, she would spank us with a paint stirring stick and not stop until it broke in half.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Mom had to kneel on rice when she was a kid but that was the worst form of punishment as my Grandparents didn't hit her. This was back in the 60s.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was a standard punishment from the nuns at a Catholic school one of my friends attended back in the 80s.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn’t a strange family tradition/quirk….. this is child abuse and neglect. It’s also not terribly abnormal, it happens all over the world. It’s unacceptably common.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I, with everything within my being, hope that this cycle is broken with you and however many siblings you may have.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is child abuse in so many different forms. What 4 hours to go to the doctor for a broken arm? Your parents are horrible

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry to ask but, is kneeling on rice where you kneel on a rice bag?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, I believe you spill uncooked rice on the floor and kneel on it. Never tried it, sounds painful.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP on Reddit added: “Ok, so the paint stick rule was that when we really pissed my mom off, she would spank us with a paint stirring stick and not stop until it broke in half.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They were your abusers. You were brainwashed. Inmates get treated better. Don’t have your children around them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just remember, you are not your parents. In life, when you know better you must do better, or you really are a nasty piece of work. My fear of being just like my parents stopped me from having children, so I have dogs that I love and cherish every day of my life. It might have been nice to have a child or two?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cousin had to kneel on rice too. We are Slavic

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The “paint stick rule”. God love you, your mother must have been related to my monster of a mom. I cringed so hard when I read that having been punished with one as a child.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depending on when and where these "punishments" took place (and I am not suggesting any of this is OK) they my have been considered 'normal parental discipline methods' some cultures practice harsh discipline or punishment for the good of the whole rather than the one. It doesn't mean that they weren't loving parents... but parenting has come a long way!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is awful. I really am curious about the paint stick thing

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Sweden your parents would have gone to jail without a thought. Even in the 70's.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of that is abuse! By straight up definition! And very leaky/impaired boundaries by your parents. NONE of that is normal or good and the OP is still enmeshed with the parents

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope the barbaric methods mentioned here are never repeated

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My friends were made to kneel on a broom stick with a flour circle around it so the dad could see if they tried to move off it. Horrible, just horrible.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like something I read in Marilyn Manson's autobiography.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So someone asked OP about the “paint stick rule” and if they ever confronted their parents about the abuse they inflicted. OP replied: “Ok, so the paint stick rule was that when we really pissed my mom off, she would spank us with a paint stirring stick and not stop until it broke in half. My dad died when I was 12 so I never really got to talk to him about adult things like that. My mom has softened up a lot over the years, and she and I have become super close. Most of the punishments were inflicted by my dad, but honestly I'd give anything to have him back, and I still love my mom with all my heart.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Certainly abuse. - Am I a horrible person for wanting to know what the paint-stick rule is?

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OP on Reddit added: “Ok, so the paint stick rule was that when we really pissed my mom off, she would spank us with a paint stirring stick and not stop until it broke in half.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So sad that this was considered normal until someone pointed out how messed up it was.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope you have been able to let this go and not live with anger about it throughout your life or worse, pass on to any children you may have. This is a choice they made and will see how it affected you when going through their life review.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We're not super demonstrative or affectionate, so relationships were interesting early on. Wake up call for me was when my girlfriend got really upset with me because I didn't call her to find out how her doctor's appointment went. I was confused because I figured she'd let me know if anything was wrong and if I hadn't heard anything I'd assume everything was fine. It never registered that perhaps actual human people like to feel cared about sometimes and that - as her boyfriend - it would be appropriate for me to show a little more concern for her. My family is still like this, although I like to think I've grown in that respect - it's something I had to learn how to do though.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Meh, each to their own. My family were over involved (still are) in every aspect of each other's lives. Sending cards if you got a new job, or gifts if you were a little under the weather. It became a bit suffocating as you were expected to reciprocate and I couldn't keep up with it. My husband's family were a refreshing change, only milestone birthdays got a card. They weren't in and out of each other's lives, but kept a respectable distance. There if you need them, but would leave you alone to live your life. I much prefer that!

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) My dad used to whip out his bare ass at everyone. He once put it on the dinner table while I was eating, and my mom spanked it. That's when I realized something was off.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) When I was little, my family and I LOVED the first Spongebob Movie. In the movie, they make these silly calls that sound like “LULULULU!” by pursing their lips and wiggling their tongues back and forth. One night, as my dad was tucking me in, he said “Goodnight, I love you! LULULULU!” And I repeated it back.

We still do this, and I’m 23. I think it’s his way of hanging on to his idea of me as a kid.

I draw the line at phone calls, though. I’ve gotten some weird looks from my boyfriend.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eh, teach your boyfriend that families are weird. It's okay to be silly. If he judges you for it, find another boyfriend.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Whenever we got fast food, we would put all of our fries together in a big mound to share — sort of like communal fries. Once I was at a friend's house and they bought us fast food, so I put my fries on a plate and pushed it to the middle of the table. Lots of strange looks.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's okay if deliberately bought as an extra for 'the table' but I'm not sharing my OWN chips!! Hands off those!

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) My friends suck the snot and boogers out of their kids' noses with their mouth instead of having them blow into tissues. Then they go spit it out in the trash afterwards. I gagged the first time I witnessed it.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We always ate pineapple slices on our hamburgers- every time- all of us

It was like putting ketchup on for most people, when I ate burgers at other people’s houses I would be like, where’s the pineapple in the same way people would ask for lettuce or mayo

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is delicious, but I don't think I'd call it a "must have." I bet the other families were pretty confused when you'd ask for the pineapple.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Let me tell ya bout the Wallbangies.

Thought everyone knew about them like the Easter bunny or tooth fairy. They are a tiny race of native American people. In the mornings you went around collecting belly button lint, and you would put what you find under your pillow when you made your bed. That night while you slept they would come and collect the lint, and eventually one day they would bring you a sweater they knitted from the lint.

I was 20 years old when I learned these itty bitty Indians aren't universally known..

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

*facepalm* Indigenous people are not elves, and they certainly are not interested in your belly button lint.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) When we had dinner, if you took a bite that was too hot (temperature wise), the rest of the family would blow in your mouth until it cooled off. To this day my brothers and I wonder why our parents let us do this.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We always have our house in the 50- to 60-degree range, even during the Wisconsin winter. Everyone would always comment on how cold it was in our house, but it felt fine to me! Meanwhile, other people's houses — which are normally in the 70-degree range — are way too hot for me.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Our family had a communal underwear drawer until I was in high school. Apparently not common?

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Growing up, my teachers and friends would tell me I had a 'sing-song' voice and sometimes would make fun of it, but that's how my entire family talks to one another. We have our own little familial variation on the local accent, words adopted from where most of us used to live, words made up as jokes over time, phrases that ended up sticking in our communal lexicon because of longstanding jokes or situations. It was enough that when I was in kindergarten the school insisted that I be put into speech therapy.

I didn't really realize it was weird until I was about 13 and my friends and I were watching Star Trek TNG and one of them pointed at the TV and said 'Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra. That's what you sound like!'

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your family sounds really cool actually. It would be fascinating to listen in.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) My parents put certain foods (hot dogs, toast, etc) on paper towels instead of plates. Obviously things like pasta or rice would go on plates, but anything that didn't ~require~ a plate went on a paper towel. I grew up thinking this was normal. Until I served a sausage in a bun to a boyfriend on a paper towel and he looked at me like I had three heads.

Turns out my parents just really hate to wash dishes, so they destroy the planet by wasting paper and buying plastic cups instead. Real dishware only comes out on special occasions.

Did I mention they have a dishwasher but hate to use it?

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) My good friend's family used to put on a full Christmas pageant every year — I'm talking costumes, scripts, roles assigned at Thanksgiving, and always a live baby Jesus played by an infant in the family. They've even rented locations to fit everyone! She only found out that it was unusual in college, when we were discussing our plans for Winter Break and she casually mentioned 'the pageant.' Everyone paused and asked what that meant, and she said, 'You know, the family Christmas pageant.' We had to explain that no one else does that, and it was hilarious! She was an angel that year.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm more concerned that there's a new baby in this family every year. That's a lot of pressure!

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Hoarding. But right after I left my family's home I became incredibly irate of any clutter. My home is now always organized and I constantly rid of stuff I don't use. But my housemate has a crap ton of ancient shit he doesn't use and it drives me nuts.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The house I grew up in had 5 equal sized bedrooms. Every 3 months made us all move rooms (a sort off musical rooms) - furniture and all. Believe me we kept clutter to an absolute minimum.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) We never had birthday parties. Birthdays were observed, but there were never parties. I got toys, some good food, but no one was invited ever.

My father told me it was a family tradition. Many years later, when I realized that absolutely everyone I knew did in fact have birthday parties, I looked into the matter more closely and found that an ancestor had apparently died after his birthday party, and since then all parties were forbidden in the family.

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People Are Sharing Their Weird Family Things That They Only Realized Were Not Normal Later In Life (35 Answers) Instead of trick-or-treating on Halloween, my parents made us go around to different doors in our basement and answer Bible questions to receive candy.

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