“My Husband Was Livid”: Woman Waits For Her MIL In The Bathroom In Weird Poses, Suspecting She Is Not Walking In On Her Accidentally
Having family over is a fun time, especially when they are staying with you during the holiday period, as life gets busy so you may not see them as often as you would like. While you may love them, they can still annoy you and it’s for the best that you don’t live together anymore.
This woman on Reddit welcomed her mother-in-law into her home for the Thanksgiving and Christmas period while her home is being renovated. A weird habit that the woman noticed was that her MIL would walk in on her while she was in the bathroom and she started to suspect it wasn’t by accident, so she came up with a fun prank.
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Woman suspected that her mother-in-law was purposefully walking in on her in the bathroom so she decided to play a little game
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The Original Poster (OP) doesn’t lock the bathroom door, or any room door, as a matter of fact, because when she was 5 years old, her brother locked her in so she was pretty traumatized.
That isn’t a problem when there’s 2 people living in the house, but during her one-week stay, MIL walked in on the OP a couple of times and she started to think that she was doing it on purpose. But when she talked with her husband, he didn’t think it was a big deal because she’s family.
Mother-in-law’s home was being renovated so she plans to stay at her son’s house for the holiday season
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To prove her point, the woman would go to the bathroom without needing to use it and just stand there fully clothed in an awkward or weird position waiting for her MIL to open the door. The OP wasn’t waiting in vain as MIL barged in as expected.
MIL walked in on her doing a ballet stand, standing on the toilet and standing facing the wall with her hands up. When the doors would open, she would turn her head and see the confusion in her MIL’s face.
The way the MIL interpreted the woman’s behavior was that she was “practicing rituals in the bathroom” and told that to her son. He wanted to find out what was the meaning of it and when he was told she was doing it on purpose after suspecting MIL was purposefully following her into the bathroom, the man was quite angry.
But he wasn’t angry at his mom, he got annoyed with his wife that she was playing these games and made his mom worry. He thought his wife was being immature and could avoid this problem by simply locking the door.
Her daughter-in-law doesn’t have much to complain about, but she has been walking in on her when she was using the bathroom
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People in the comments were offended for the OP that her husband would tell her that, because it wasn’t his wife that was doing something she shouldn’t have, but his mom walking around a house she was a guest in and not even knocking when entering the bathroom. On top of that, she did this multiple times and didn’t learn anything from it.
Later the woman edited the post and informed redditors that her husband and MIL are still upset with her. The husband is demanding an apology and the wife thinks she might have been to blame for not locking the door, but MIL’s behavior was also weird. She is not looking forward to Thanksgiving dinner but at least she could laugh about it on the internet as people in the comments found her response to MIL invading her privacy hilarious.
Her husband didn’t think it was a big deal but the woman suspected that the MIL was doing it on purpose
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MILs are known for overstepping boundaries, for sticking their noses into their children’s relationships and wanting to know everything. However, to have a healthy relationship and to make sure you don’t start hating a person, you need to set boundaries.
Vision psychology says, “Boundaries are what help us to keep ourselves and our relationships healthy. They stop us from becoming drained because we are pushing ourselves beyond our limits.”
That’s why she would wait for her MIL to enter the bathroom in a weird or awkward position to confuse her husband’s mom
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Although you are setting boundaries to keep a healthy relationship, you may notice that your in-laws are not very happy about them. But experts say that “You are not responsible for making them feel better. Boundaries work only when you remember that you can only control your actions, not the other person’s. The same is true for someone else’s thoughts and feelings.”
However, you should assess what is most important to you and which boundaries are negotiable so you can compromise. Also, know that sticking to them is important so that others will respect them, but you can change them after a while and make them stricter or looser.
The MIL actually thought she was doing weird rituals and told her son, who was furious and demanded to know the real reason, and now both of them are upset with the woman
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Various resources online have compiled a list of the most important boundaries to have with your mother-in-law and many of them are quite similar. They mention things like her having to respect that in your house, you have your own rules and that you raise your children as you see fit because you are the parent.
The specific boundaries are unique to every couple, so Live Bold And Bloom suggests looking at these 5 categories and deciding which ones are problematic in your relationship. Those categories are parenting, visitation, vacations, holidays and medical.
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The woman in the story probably should include personal space and privacy as well, although you wouldn’t think that such things need to be explained to other adults. The situation with the bathroom may be funny at first glance and people in the comments were joking around about what the OP could do next, but it ended in an argument with both the woman’s husband and MIL.
What did you think about the OP pranking and joking around with her MIL? Do you think she should have just talked with her? Or because it looked like the MIL was doing it on purpose, she deserved it? Let us know in the comments!
People in the comments loved the woman’s idea and were suggesting more ways she could mess with her MIL
So it's ok for his mother to see her naked (guess, because that's just his wife's discomfort and not his mother's?) but not ok for his mother to see her doing something weird IN HER OWN HOUSE (guess, because it's his mother's discomfort and not his wife's?)?
Yeah, it’s hypocritical b******t. The mom is pulling a power play and the husband is enabling.
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She needs to keep this up. Either the mother in law will eventually stop barging in the bathroom or she will get so weirded out that she decides to stay somewhere else. Husband is a total momma's boy who is more concerned about his mother than he is about his wife. He knows why his wife can't lock the door, he needs to figure out why his mother keeps going in the bathroom on his wife. OP might need therapy about that door locking thing. Just so she can feel more secure in her own home.
I'd start doing actual "rituals" with candles and salt and weird shapes. Keep going up a notch until the MIL leaves!
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If possible with the layout of the house I'd go shut the bathroom door and go into a different room. See what MIL does when she gets an empty bathroom. And maybe, if she didn't know which times OP was actually in the bathroom, she would get tired of the game.
And set up a camera. It'll probably catch her turning around and walking away which begs the question "why were you going in then"?
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I've known the bathroom door lock get stuck, and it took dismantling the door handle to free the guest from the bathroom - that took a while (and didn't involve being deliberately locked in) so I can completely understand OP having anxiety about locking/being locked in a bathroom as a result of what her brother did when she was 5. But if this extends to any locked door on a bathroom situation, I can't imagine how OP's ensuring her privacy & safety in a public bathroom, and OP might benefit from therapy. If OP is enjoying wasting her own time pretending to use the bathroom and striking her poses to deal with a deliberately intrusive MIL, then fair play. I do wonder, though, why does MIL think stupid poses = practicing rituals; is it possible that MIL might have a touch of dementia which could be causing her to forget to check if the bathroom is occupied and making it harder to understand OP's actions.
I personally hate locking doors, I have a seizure disorder and it scares me if I'm alone. But in public bathrooms there's normally other people or at least easier access into the stalls.
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The only person who's allowed to wander into the bathroom while it's occupied is the dog. Or the cat. Or the toddler who's too young to know any better. It would serve this creep right if she ended up getting herself front row seats to Symphony Number 5 With An Overture By Last Night's Taco Bell.
The husband should support his wife against his mother - who is bang out of order. We have never had a lock on our bathroom door since the kids were little. Now, if the door is closed YOU FREAKIN KNOCK before cautiously entering. MIL is from cloud-cuckoo land and husband is the a*****e.
I once read that in general, wives will support their husband against their father, but husbands will support their mother against their wife. Perhaps an old-fashioned view but I'm sure it still occurs. In this instance, the *adult* thing to do would be to announce when you're going to use the bathroom, or institute a rule for all that one should knock before entering. Really not that hard to figure out (beyond the world of social media).
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Time to send the hypocritical disloyal douchebag back home with his mommy. Does she walk in on HIM in the bathroom on purpose like she does the wife? Makes you wonder. I like the idea of standing there ready with the camera up to snap when she comes busting in again then immediately posting it to the internet...
Hysterical! I would have done something close to that myself. The red flag here is the husband, since he is not laughing with you and is angry about this, might wanna come up with something crazy to put him in place.
The MIL is WEIRD AF!!!!! Who does that?! Get rid of MIL and the husband. NTA. I can't get over the MIL!!!
I chime in with a 'haven't you people ever heard of, locking the d@mn door, no?'
No, it's much better to face these kind of things, with a sense of poise and rationality.
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I would go in as if I needed to pee but instead I would hide behind the door with my mobile and do a video of what is happening next. How long does it take for MIL to arrive and what is her reaction to an apparently empty bathroom? I am pretty sure that you would be able to see that she is not walking in minding her own business but expecting to see her DIL there - like, stopping and walking out again without doing anything or looking around the door in order to find her. And then I would surely want to hear a good explanation!
She doesn't want to use the lock, but what about attaching a hook and eye, or a small bolt to the door, or one of those hotel, door wedges?
Door wedges work. When my grandkids visit they are free to shove a wedge under the door. It can easily be seen from the other side. I'm not putting a lock on my bathroom door after 35 years. We are courteous in my house and respect a closed door.
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Apologize for what you are doing in a private room, so that the voyeur is more comfortable?! Absolutely wild!
THE MIL is clearly an arsehole and while your solution was creative, you are a bit of an idiot for giving the MIL exactly what she wanted - a reason to create discord between you and your partner. Why didn't you just talk to your MIL and tell her that you would appreciate it if she knocked and didn't just barge into the bathroom. You could have even done this in your partner's presence. Passive aggressive behavior does NOT fix other passive aggressive behavior - its just makes for bizarre scenarios in which you are both in some kind of power play to make each other miserable. Open communication and boundaries go a long way.
Does she walk in on her son? Maybe he'd feel different if she did. And it wrong of them to not take your feelings into consideration
OP should put a big, obnoxious 'Keep Out' sign on the bathroom door and drag the husband to couple's counselling.
My sister, who is disabled, never locks the bathroom door either. I guess it's not like she can't lock it but due to disability it used to be such anxiety provoking thing that it's easier this way. It doesn't really take much to check if she's outside the bathroom or not... And if we have guests they get it too. The MIL running into OP constantly without trying to avoid the awkwardness eg. by knocking definitely seems to be on purpose, or she's just really forgetful...
if we all had "trauma" from c**p our older siblings did to us, we would not be able to function. I call shenanigans on that BS for starters. ESH She's a jerk, MIL's a creeper, husband is clueless.
Shoulda done something more Adult and waited for her to come bursting in, that woulda stopped it real quick, and she might have been too embarrassed to say anything.
Don't need to lock the door, use a door stop from the inside when you're in the bathroom. It doesn't completely stop the door from being open (in an emergency) but people can't barge in. Failing that keep an airhorn next to the toilet!
If possible I'd have been tempted to put a ladder up at the window, climb out and then sneak back in while she was in the bathroom . Wait until the MIL wants to use the facilities and then tell her she has to be accompanied while she uses it.
How weird to want to see a DIL at the bathroom. I understand your reaction
I'm wondering if she does the same to her son and if he thinks that's ok too?
What a f*cking weirdo. Yeah, I would have called her out at dinner in front of my husband. "So, MIL - um, why do you feel the need to constantly barge in to the bathroom when I'm using it? Is the closed door not a big enough clue to you that it's being occupied?" Oh - and your husband is an even bigger a*****e than she is.
My first thought is this is absolutely inappropriate of the mother-in-law. My second thought was lock the bathroom door so she cannot come in all w***y-nilly. Lol
There are more red flags here than the bathroom door thing. We don't even have a lock on our en-suite, and no one uses the lock on the other bathroom/toilet. There's more here, and the wife needs to open her eyes and look at it all.
I love the second suggestion - “humor her” and pretend like you’re timing her. I also think OP needs some therapy for her locked room issue. I had a similar situation when I was small and (I won’t go into detail) but stuff like that leaves a mark on your psyche. It took me years to get over it.
If MIL is "faaamily" for DIL then wife's father (husband's FIL) should maybe come stay over and keep barging into say the bedroom or bathroom whichever he can when husband is in there. See how hubby likes it. Extra points if wife says "so what if he sees you naked he's faaaaamily". If that does not fix it get her mum to join in with her dad because "she's faaaamily" too right?
Soooooo husband wants wife to apologize to mil for making her uncomfortable when mil enters the bathroom without knocking? That makes a lot of sense...
OP up your game. Tell MIL that you're going to the bathroom and does she wanna come with you? Tell her you'd love it if she scrubbed your back for you or sat there and kept you company while you take a ****, cause it takes a while. Get a door stop or and shove that MF under the door after you close it. And give the end a good kick to make sure it's in there good and tight. There's also a door cane that does the same thing. It will keep her out without locking the door. Then MIL won't be able to open the door and when she tries, yell "Ocupado, I'll be out as soon as I'm done taking a ****. Be rude and crude enough to make the old witch blush. Tell your husband to go pound sand.
Divorce NOW so they can be together because they obviously have the same lack of decorum.
All I can say is I hope the husband wises up and realize his wife is right. If the door is closed, you always knock, especially at someone else's house. Common sense. What's going to happen if mil walks in on the wife doing something unsanitary, which is what the bathroom is for?! Is she going to be blamed again? Not cool.
Hubby needs to figure out who's the innocent party and stop letting his mom invade his wife's privacy.
I have walked in on my MIL several times when she is on the toilet because she refuses to lock the door. Sometimes she won't even shut the door. She says she fears the door would get stuck, as she once got stuck in her home for some minutes (her toilet door might be from the 50s and is very hard to use) but the door and lock in our place is brand new. Also the bathroom has another door to a office as well as an openable window big enough to get outside. I have seen my MIL naked numerous times, it is just normal in our sauna culture, but I don’t want to see her on toilet pooping.
It takes ten seconds or less to knock on a closed door. Even if you suspect the bathroom is unoccupied. And especially when your in-laws are visiting.
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If I were a woman (I'm not, I'm a guy, let's clarify this) and after the second time of telling my MIL not to barge in when I was pissing/s******g/showering...on the third time I would kick her square in the stomach as hard as I could. Then serve my spineless husband for defending her his divorce papers. It's my house. If I don't want to lock my doors, I shouldn't have to. MIL is a guest. Unless she has dementia, no reason why she can't respect personal boundaries.
I was lost at the whole I have a lock but don't want to use it. And why would the mother WANT to see her using the bathroom?? Maybe she just has to go to the bathroom a lot, and someone keeps using the bathroom without locking the door. But I stopped reading after the whole I Don't want to use a lock.
It's horses for courses. She's perfectly entitled to not want to use a lock on the bathroom door in her own home. Visitors need to respect that. I'm the same and I'm not apologising for it.
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Your MIL is very immature! If a door is shut, you knock! Your house, your rules! Next time you visit your MIL; please, please, please, walk in on her as much as humanly possible. If your husband or MIL say anything about it, tell them I'm just following my MIL rules.
I mean, she's not TA by any stretch. But... Couldn't she have just talked to the MIL to find out why? She doesn't mention doing that, just that she spoke to her husband. Just, talk to her. That's the adult thing to do.
I think the MIL likely has the onset of dementia. She is likely triggered by anyone using the restroom.
That's one weird mil. That husband is a a******. Maybe, both of them need to go to a hotel instead, spouse and his mother .
If you're a little bolder, maybe drop your pants and shoot her the moon?
I apparently don't have the same boundaries as most people. The family I grew up in, when we all went to grandmas, you were taking a shower talking to whoever was doing the dishes in the sink and whoever was folding clothes. It was a weird multi purpose room. i don't think any of us had any modesty, and honestly didn't give it any thought. People would wander in and out of the room. I only remember the door being locked like once or twice. At our house, mom would take a bath, the old neighbor lady would be in there chatting with her, sister would be brushing her teeth, didn't think anything of it. I don't think boundaries or modesty are necessarily universal. Maybe just lock the door.
My family was the same way - except we weren’t ALLOWED to close doors, let alone lock them. I had no privacy as a child. I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to be away from my family and able to close/lock the bathroom door when I’m taking a c**p. As a side note, OP clearly states she has a past trauma about locking doors, so in no way should she feel obligated to lock the door just to stop her MIL from walking in on her.
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So it's ok for his mother to see her naked (guess, because that's just his wife's discomfort and not his mother's?) but not ok for his mother to see her doing something weird IN HER OWN HOUSE (guess, because it's his mother's discomfort and not his wife's?)?
Yeah, it’s hypocritical b******t. The mom is pulling a power play and the husband is enabling.
Load More Replies... She needs to keep this up. Either the mother in law will eventually stop barging in the bathroom or she will get so weirded out that she decides to stay somewhere else. Husband is a total momma's boy who is more concerned about his mother than he is about his wife. He knows why his wife can't lock the door, he needs to figure out why his mother keeps going in the bathroom on his wife. OP might need therapy about that door locking thing. Just so she can feel more secure in her own home.
I'd start doing actual "rituals" with candles and salt and weird shapes. Keep going up a notch until the MIL leaves!
Load More Replies... If possible with the layout of the house I'd go shut the bathroom door and go into a different room. See what MIL does when she gets an empty bathroom. And maybe, if she didn't know which times OP was actually in the bathroom, she would get tired of the game.
And set up a camera. It'll probably catch her turning around and walking away which begs the question "why were you going in then"?
Load More Replies... I've known the bathroom door lock get stuck, and it took dismantling the door handle to free the guest from the bathroom - that took a while (and didn't involve being deliberately locked in) so I can completely understand OP having anxiety about locking/being locked in a bathroom as a result of what her brother did when she was 5. But if this extends to any locked door on a bathroom situation, I can't imagine how OP's ensuring her privacy & safety in a public bathroom, and OP might benefit from therapy. If OP is enjoying wasting her own time pretending to use the bathroom and striking her poses to deal with a deliberately intrusive MIL, then fair play. I do wonder, though, why does MIL think stupid poses = practicing rituals; is it possible that MIL might have a touch of dementia which could be causing her to forget to check if the bathroom is occupied and making it harder to understand OP's actions.
I personally hate locking doors, I have a seizure disorder and it scares me if I'm alone. But in public bathrooms there's normally other people or at least easier access into the stalls.
Load More Replies... The only person who's allowed to wander into the bathroom while it's occupied is the dog. Or the cat. Or the toddler who's too young to know any better. It would serve this creep right if she ended up getting herself front row seats to Symphony Number 5 With An Overture By Last Night's Taco Bell.
The husband should support his wife against his mother - who is bang out of order. We have never had a lock on our bathroom door since the kids were little. Now, if the door is closed YOU FREAKIN KNOCK before cautiously entering. MIL is from cloud-cuckoo land and husband is the a*****e.
I once read that in general, wives will support their husband against their father, but husbands will support their mother against their wife. Perhaps an old-fashioned view but I'm sure it still occurs. In this instance, the *adult* thing to do would be to announce when you're going to use the bathroom, or institute a rule for all that one should knock before entering. Really not that hard to figure out (beyond the world of social media).
Load More Replies... Time to send the hypocritical disloyal douchebag back home with his mommy. Does she walk in on HIM in the bathroom on purpose like she does the wife? Makes you wonder. I like the idea of standing there ready with the camera up to snap when she comes busting in again then immediately posting it to the internet...
Hysterical! I would have done something close to that myself. The red flag here is the husband, since he is not laughing with you and is angry about this, might wanna come up with something crazy to put him in place.
The MIL is WEIRD AF!!!!! Who does that?! Get rid of MIL and the husband. NTA. I can't get over the MIL!!!
I chime in with a 'haven't you people ever heard of, locking the d@mn door, no?'
No, it's much better to face these kind of things, with a sense of poise and rationality.
Load More Replies... I would go in as if I needed to pee but instead I would hide behind the door with my mobile and do a video of what is happening next. How long does it take for MIL to arrive and what is her reaction to an apparently empty bathroom? I am pretty sure that you would be able to see that she is not walking in minding her own business but expecting to see her DIL there - like, stopping and walking out again without doing anything or looking around the door in order to find her. And then I would surely want to hear a good explanation!
She doesn't want to use the lock, but what about attaching a hook and eye, or a small bolt to the door, or one of those hotel, door wedges?
Door wedges work. When my grandkids visit they are free to shove a wedge under the door. It can easily be seen from the other side. I'm not putting a lock on my bathroom door after 35 years. We are courteous in my house and respect a closed door.
Load More Replies... Apologize for what you are doing in a private room, so that the voyeur is more comfortable?! Absolutely wild!
THE MIL is clearly an arsehole and while your solution was creative, you are a bit of an idiot for giving the MIL exactly what she wanted - a reason to create discord between you and your partner. Why didn't you just talk to your MIL and tell her that you would appreciate it if she knocked and didn't just barge into the bathroom. You could have even done this in your partner's presence. Passive aggressive behavior does NOT fix other passive aggressive behavior - its just makes for bizarre scenarios in which you are both in some kind of power play to make each other miserable. Open communication and boundaries go a long way.
Does she walk in on her son? Maybe he'd feel different if she did. And it wrong of them to not take your feelings into consideration
OP should put a big, obnoxious 'Keep Out' sign on the bathroom door and drag the husband to couple's counselling.
My sister, who is disabled, never locks the bathroom door either. I guess it's not like she can't lock it but due to disability it used to be such anxiety provoking thing that it's easier this way. It doesn't really take much to check if she's outside the bathroom or not... And if we have guests they get it too. The MIL running into OP constantly without trying to avoid the awkwardness eg. by knocking definitely seems to be on purpose, or she's just really forgetful...
if we all had "trauma" from c**p our older siblings did to us, we would not be able to function. I call shenanigans on that BS for starters. ESH She's a jerk, MIL's a creeper, husband is clueless.
Shoulda done something more Adult and waited for her to come bursting in, that woulda stopped it real quick, and she might have been too embarrassed to say anything.
Don't need to lock the door, use a door stop from the inside when you're in the bathroom. It doesn't completely stop the door from being open (in an emergency) but people can't barge in. Failing that keep an airhorn next to the toilet!
If possible I'd have been tempted to put a ladder up at the window, climb out and then sneak back in while she was in the bathroom . Wait until the MIL wants to use the facilities and then tell her she has to be accompanied while she uses it.
How weird to want to see a DIL at the bathroom. I understand your reaction
I'm wondering if she does the same to her son and if he thinks that's ok too?
What a f*cking weirdo. Yeah, I would have called her out at dinner in front of my husband. "So, MIL - um, why do you feel the need to constantly barge in to the bathroom when I'm using it? Is the closed door not a big enough clue to you that it's being occupied?" Oh - and your husband is an even bigger a*****e than she is.
My first thought is this is absolutely inappropriate of the mother-in-law. My second thought was lock the bathroom door so she cannot come in all w***y-nilly. Lol
There are more red flags here than the bathroom door thing. We don't even have a lock on our en-suite, and no one uses the lock on the other bathroom/toilet. There's more here, and the wife needs to open her eyes and look at it all.
I love the second suggestion - “humor her” and pretend like you’re timing her. I also think OP needs some therapy for her locked room issue. I had a similar situation when I was small and (I won’t go into detail) but stuff like that leaves a mark on your psyche. It took me years to get over it.
If MIL is "faaamily" for DIL then wife's father (husband's FIL) should maybe come stay over and keep barging into say the bedroom or bathroom whichever he can when husband is in there. See how hubby likes it. Extra points if wife says "so what if he sees you naked he's faaaaamily". If that does not fix it get her mum to join in with her dad because "she's faaaamily" too right?
Soooooo husband wants wife to apologize to mil for making her uncomfortable when mil enters the bathroom without knocking? That makes a lot of sense...
OP up your game. Tell MIL that you're going to the bathroom and does she wanna come with you? Tell her you'd love it if she scrubbed your back for you or sat there and kept you company while you take a ****, cause it takes a while. Get a door stop or and shove that MF under the door after you close it. And give the end a good kick to make sure it's in there good and tight. There's also a door cane that does the same thing. It will keep her out without locking the door. Then MIL won't be able to open the door and when she tries, yell "Ocupado, I'll be out as soon as I'm done taking a ****. Be rude and crude enough to make the old witch blush. Tell your husband to go pound sand.
Divorce NOW so they can be together because they obviously have the same lack of decorum.
All I can say is I hope the husband wises up and realize his wife is right. If the door is closed, you always knock, especially at someone else's house. Common sense. What's going to happen if mil walks in on the wife doing something unsanitary, which is what the bathroom is for?! Is she going to be blamed again? Not cool.
Hubby needs to figure out who's the innocent party and stop letting his mom invade his wife's privacy.
I have walked in on my MIL several times when she is on the toilet because she refuses to lock the door. Sometimes she won't even shut the door. She says she fears the door would get stuck, as she once got stuck in her home for some minutes (her toilet door might be from the 50s and is very hard to use) but the door and lock in our place is brand new. Also the bathroom has another door to a office as well as an openable window big enough to get outside. I have seen my MIL naked numerous times, it is just normal in our sauna culture, but I don’t want to see her on toilet pooping.
It takes ten seconds or less to knock on a closed door. Even if you suspect the bathroom is unoccupied. And especially when your in-laws are visiting.
Load More Replies... If I were a woman (I'm not, I'm a guy, let's clarify this) and after the second time of telling my MIL not to barge in when I was pissing/s******g/showering...on the third time I would kick her square in the stomach as hard as I could. Then serve my spineless husband for defending her his divorce papers. It's my house. If I don't want to lock my doors, I shouldn't have to. MIL is a guest. Unless she has dementia, no reason why she can't respect personal boundaries.
I was lost at the whole I have a lock but don't want to use it. And why would the mother WANT to see her using the bathroom?? Maybe she just has to go to the bathroom a lot, and someone keeps using the bathroom without locking the door. But I stopped reading after the whole I Don't want to use a lock.
It's horses for courses. She's perfectly entitled to not want to use a lock on the bathroom door in her own home. Visitors need to respect that. I'm the same and I'm not apologising for it.
Load More Replies... Your MIL is very immature! If a door is shut, you knock! Your house, your rules! Next time you visit your MIL; please, please, please, walk in on her as much as humanly possible. If your husband or MIL say anything about it, tell them I'm just following my MIL rules.
I mean, she's not TA by any stretch. But... Couldn't she have just talked to the MIL to find out why? She doesn't mention doing that, just that she spoke to her husband. Just, talk to her. That's the adult thing to do.
I think the MIL likely has the onset of dementia. She is likely triggered by anyone using the restroom.
That's one weird mil. That husband is a a******. Maybe, both of them need to go to a hotel instead, spouse and his mother .
If you're a little bolder, maybe drop your pants and shoot her the moon?
I apparently don't have the same boundaries as most people. The family I grew up in, when we all went to grandmas, you were taking a shower talking to whoever was doing the dishes in the sink and whoever was folding clothes. It was a weird multi purpose room. i don't think any of us had any modesty, and honestly didn't give it any thought. People would wander in and out of the room. I only remember the door being locked like once or twice. At our house, mom would take a bath, the old neighbor lady would be in there chatting with her, sister would be brushing her teeth, didn't think anything of it. I don't think boundaries or modesty are necessarily universal. Maybe just lock the door.
My family was the same way - except we weren’t ALLOWED to close doors, let alone lock them. I had no privacy as a child. I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to be away from my family and able to close/lock the bathroom door when I’m taking a c**p. As a side note, OP clearly states she has a past trauma about locking doors, so in no way should she feel obligated to lock the door just to stop her MIL from walking in on her.
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