Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
Real Life Soap Opera
Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know
You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.
Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!
Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!
We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money
We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.
A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....
Do Not Talk To The Bride At All
Gahhh This Is Bad
Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
Wedding Guest Shaming
Yikes Yikes Yikes
Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day
“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”
Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.
Offense taken. Not offended by you, but I'm offended by my entire stupid country. Unrelated, are you single and willing to have a visa wedding so I can get out of here once we're no longer banned from other countries?
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I'm looking forward to the wedding video: It's a romantic comedy! It's an action thriller! It's a disaster movie! It's ONE WEDDING AND 26 FUNERALS!!!!!
"Come heavily armed and ready to shoot cops" is not an invitation to a wedding. It's an invitation to a jail cell.
So lemme get this straight...the Bride and Groom and others are willing to lock,load, and open fire on Cops who would show up to shut down their "wedding party" because of the pandemic? Fackin hell, I am so glad i live in Canada where: had to pass gun school with 70% minimum, have background checks, mental health eval, criminal history check, get my local P.D to sign and stamp my application, multiple character references, etc. which this whole process can over a year b4 you're allowed to own guns. I'll stay here in the land of the Moose and Beaver, thanks.
Problem here is there is no mental health evaluation for the cops, I know first hand as I was one. Dammed scary bunch in some cases
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I would laugh if they turned up to find armed police surrounding the venue with orders to shoot to kill if the wedding party and guests refuse to drop their weapons and go home
Next post: "I can't believe this is happening. I can't get a Covid test!!!! I need some people with a tyranny defense device to get me a covid test."
Probably. People who voted for him the first time can plead ignorance, loyalty to the Republican party, or dislike of the Democrats or Hillary Clinton. Not this election.
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This has to be a joke. No one would really ask people with firearms to stand guard, would they? This is just insane.
America has reached a level of insanity that's hard to comprehend
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Survivalist themed wedding. Registered at the local LOCK, STOCK AND BARREL. Ammo for party favors.
I say....Let her ass be tossed in jail.. The disrespect for the police is strong in that nasty spud.
Hey Y'all, roll up with your guns and let's party!!! Amurica!!! And they wonder why their murder rate is so high??!!
At first I didn’t know where this was going. It took a dark turn super fast.
This is so preposterous, it must be fake... please bring your guns so we can all get arrested...
“Tyranny defense device” (firearm).” So glad you spelled it out, dude. For more clarification, Firearm=gun(s). The only f**king tyrants are you and your superspreader events. Damn! You think this sh** is a good way to start a marriage? “Yeah, let’s break the law, threaten some folks with our tyranny defense devices, get some people sick, maybe kill a few... ain’t got a conscience, it’ll be GREAT!”
Ah, Lackawanna county. That makes complete sense. Pennsyltucky at its finest.
Blue lives matter until they interfere with your bridezilla plans?
I'm not sure on the details, but apparently the reason that so much insane s**t appears to happen in Florida is because the local laws allow a lot more information to be made public than in other states. Something like that.
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We’ll “probably” beer you for pulling guns on the police because we don’t care about your health or lives
Tyranny defense device? This is tyranny??? Yeesh. Clearly someone never went to history class... or any class for that matter.
Shoot me a PM sums it up. She doesn't say where she want to be shot but I suppose we can improvise.
That last paragraph ... Let's just keep it at the FIRST THREE WORDS! We'd be doing the world a favor, hopefully before he spreads his genes.
A joke? If not I’m speechless and that isn’t easy for me...
Yay...please be willing to threaten/possibly commit murder cos I'm a cheap ass spoilt bitch. But hey I can give you a paper plate of buffet food and a glass of warm shitty wine before you get yiked off to jail thanks x
Yet so many trumpvoters live there that it's now considered a red state.
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Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit
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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time
No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”
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My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
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I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
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Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
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Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
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I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies... I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies... Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies... Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies... I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
