Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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4 months ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Peter Breier
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4 months ago

she s right

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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4 months ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
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4 months ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Melissa TO
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4 months ago

Oof!

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
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4 months ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

Marcellus the Third
Community Member
4 months ago

At least it will be memorable. "Honey, what was our wedding date?" "Three weeks before your auntie died, so that was last week of August... 23?" "Ah yes, right".

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J. Normal
Community Member
4 months ago

I have been called every nasty name in the book , for reporting non-compliance... I am at a point why bother. I will stay home, order online, and VOTE in person! I am old and pissed

Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

J. Normal: You did your civic duty. Those people cited for non-compliance should be ashamed of themselves.

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Stannous Flouride
Community Member
4 months ago

Can you imagine a national 'leader' doing something as needlessly stupid as exposing the people closest to him to such a virulent disease?

deanna woods
Community Member
4 months ago

No, I can't. What "leader did such a stupid and selfish thing?

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Piet Puk
Community Member
4 months ago

Today on 'Guess who voted Trump.'

Naomi Armitage
Community Member
4 months ago

I read about people who just moved their weddings to their backyards and such when the venues cancelled on them. Folks still got COVID. Just not worth it, people.

Leo Domitrix
Community Member
4 months ago

Was it held at the White House ;-P

Karen Klinck
Community Member
4 months ago

Maybe Maine?

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Aunt Messy
Community Member
4 months ago

How many people are dead now because of these selfish assholes?

Jo Choto
Community Member
4 months ago

It was a really bad decision, but I also understand that young people can spend a year or more and a lot of money to make one day happen, and they would lose all the money, the staff, the venue and everything else if they canceled, and wouldn't just be able to redo the day later. Moral of the story is: weddings really shouldn't be such big deals IMHO.

Stille20
Community Member
4 months ago

At a wedding of 150+ people and you think no one has COVID? That in itself is a stretch.

Jennifer Crompton
Community Member
4 months ago

Really depends on where and when this was. My daughter's boyfriend lives in rural Illinois and there have been 0 cases in the whole town so far

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deanna woods
Community Member
4 months ago

Ever since the pandemic has started my family has followed all the guidelines because we want to keep my dad and aunt safe and these selfish morons thought it was okay to have a Covid infected person at their wedding. This is what's wrong with society. We have too many people who don't care about anyone but themselves.

K.
Community Member
4 months ago

I know I’m being weird and it’s my curse to remember things, but I was worried about you. It’s not fair to anyone, but it’s also hard on younger people who are not at risk but have people they care about who are compromised. It doesn’t help that your profession requires you to travel, and the state you live in have ample warning but choose not to adhere to public health guidelines. I don’t believe in prayer, but I believe in the power of words. You choose to be kind with yours. Even when you chastise people, it is out of frustration and fear.

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rgr8
Community Member
4 months ago

This remind me of somethings in my county. Some people had a party during Covid (like that is a good idea) with like 100 people. And someone went to the party knowing that they had Covid. That person spread it to like 100 people, and caused the cases to surge.

WildBerry
Community Member
4 months ago

Like 100? Like that isn't cool. Like they shouldn't, like do that.

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Laura Lawson
Community Member
4 months ago

Here in Australia, that's exactly how we got our first super spreader. It was in the beginning months of the pandemic & just 1 person who tested positive knowingly went to a wedding of less than 100 people. In the end, I believe around 60 people ended up getting Covid & several died. And of course, those 60 people unknowingly passed it on to others. It was the perfect example of how a virus can spread so quickly. Soon after, our PM put rules into effect & you could have no more than 5 people at a wedding, including the celebrant, & social distancing applied. It's only recently that those rules have been relaxed in some states (not Victoria thank god!!) & you can have 50 people ar a wedding provided you have enough space in the venue. Each person should have a 2² metre bubble of space to comply with these this. And we are allowed to dance at weddings! I just can't believe that anyone would have a huge wedding in the middle of a pandemic! So irresponsible!

Radek Suski
Community Member
4 months ago

I'm pretty sure you could sue them for endangering people's health or maybe even battery

Banjo Peppers
Community Member
4 months ago

Well I mean, everyone’s infected by that point anyway, might as well cut the cake? What a mess.

Lynn Greene
Community Member
4 months ago

What a special wedding. And knowingly going ahead. Covid, the gift that keeps on giving. I wonder who will die from this special day.

joi
Community Member
4 months ago

best to tsay home for a few more years.

elfin
Community Member
4 months ago

The guests should have known that this would be a high-risk event because of the venue and the number of people. Personally I would not have gone to this event.

Batwench
Community Member
4 months ago

And this is why in the UK we have attendance limits in place at the moment for things such as this. I know as I had a maximum of 20 allowed for my mams funeral this week.

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
4 months ago

I'm so sorry.

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Katchen
Community Member
4 months ago

This is posted by the person who runs the venue. A person who decided to host a 150 person event in the middle of a pandemic. With 150 people there are good chances that at least one attendee is an asymptomatic or presymptomatic carrier. The original poster is just as much to blame as the wedding party.

Jennifer Crompton
Community Member
4 months ago

They are the DJ service not the venue owner

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Viv Hart
Community Member
3 months ago

I'll bet NO MASKS EITHER! Can't spoil the photos!

Kathryn Patterson
Community Member
4 months ago

My daughter had half the invitations written and mailed for the May 15 wedding, & less than a week later she had to send regrets to those people. She has 6 living siblings, & the groom has 3. Then we were hit with the 10 person rule (the 4 Catholic bishops in Iowa agreed so this was statewide), including the priest, photographer, organist, readers, ring bearer, flower girl, etc. You can see where this is going, can't you? Anyway, canceled our venue etc, getting the money back. It was easy to get our refunds, as the governor shut the state down--everything. The bridesmaids returned their dresses; they were not custom made. And the bride & groom, not wanting to decide which of their sisters & brothers had to not be there decided none were going. The groom's mom & stood up for them. We had the priest, organist, photographer, bride & groom, & the witnesses, for a total of 7. Told guests the reception will be NEXT May 15th, and to save the date!

K Miller
Community Member
4 months ago

Isn't that a criminal offence? Knowingly exposing others to a virus... I think I've read about one or two people who were charged with assault or something for trying to infect others with HIV. Or like, not taking enough precautions to prevent it including telling their partners...

John Baker
Community Member
4 months ago

Let me guess. Trump supporters.

Ashley Wright
Community Member
4 months ago

Yep, some people are flat-out selfish. Word of mouth is powerful. Keep letting the world know abt these inconsiderate individuals

Lynn Morello
Community Member
4 months ago

It wasn't the Trump family was it?

Cold Contagious
Community Member
4 months ago

Pathetic and disgusting 😡

cybermerlin2000
Community Member
2 months ago

Hey! Covid-19, the disease that says you care enough to share. I would share the official Covid-19 song here... it's very catchy.

Gricelda Jacquez
Community Member
4 months ago

DID YOU KNOW THAT YOU COULD SUE FOR DELIBERITLY PUTTING PEOPLE IN DANGER!

Kathryn Patterson
Community Member
4 months ago

Did you mean could be sued?

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Leisa K
Community Member
4 months ago

I applaud this company for doing the right thing. As for the people in families of the wedding party, you are monsters!

IZama
Community Member
4 months ago

SMH

DebbyC
Community Member
4 months ago

Thank you for protecting your staff!

L Jennings
Community Member
4 months ago

Were they American by any chance?

cybermerlin2000
Community Member
4 months ago

Bunch of narcissistic baby killers! If the bride gets pregnant call child welfare and have the baby removed at birth because they obviously have no regard for life in any way

Cheryl Fontaine
Community Member
4 months ago

They're obviously republicans so who cares....

Mark Johansen
Community Member
4 months ago

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Wow, some people want to continue to live their lives even though they may possibly know someone who might have a disease that kills 0.25% of the people who catch it. And of course coughing is proof that someone has either Covid or the Black Plague.

LéBeardedFerretKeet
Community Member
3 months ago

No, coughing is just one symptom of having Covid. NOT proof. Learn more about Covid-19, Mark.

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Arctic Fox Lover
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4 months ago

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I mean, I don't blame them for wanting to finish their wedding. A wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime thing, so missing it would be really, really depressing, for me at least.

Monika Rhodes
Community Member
4 months ago

You can you know have it at some other time. No need to put people at risk of getting corona and maybe even dying. Priorities matter.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
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4 months ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
4 months ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
Community Member
4 months ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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4 months ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Downunderdude
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4 months ago

Oh. I thought it was a galleon in full sailing trim.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
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4 months ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
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4 months ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
4 months ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Wolfowl
Community Member
4 months ago

"Some stupid virus?" PEOPLE HAVE DIED! IT'S NOT STUPID!

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#19

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Lauren Caswell
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4 months ago (edited)

Seramony...argh(acceptance...admited...) I've worked as a proofreader before, and this is just so awkward to read!

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#20

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Fish Boden
Community Member
4 months ago

Awesome! There are seven more highly eligible bachelors, girls and boys!

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Emir
Community Member
4 months ago

Horrible

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Fish Boden
Community Member
4 months ago

F**k me.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

The chance that people might pour alcohol into the bowl didn't occur to their tiny little brains?

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
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4 months ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

'Requirement'? Would they check at the door?

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
4 months ago

So many not-brides in bridal dresses

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
Community Member
4 months ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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