Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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1 month ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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1 month ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Vorknkx
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1 month ago

Hold on a second... they have a "wedding website"???

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
1 month ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
Community Member
1 month ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Full of Giggles
Community Member
1 month ago

A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
Community Member
1 month ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

Stannous Flouride
Community Member
1 month ago

They had those at Hogwarts but I doubt they'll show up at muggle wedding.

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

$1000 for a Picasso would be a paint-by-numbers kit.

Jo Choto
Community Member
1 month ago

Do they not realize how long it would take and how much skill to do a good rendering?

Curry on...
Community Member
1 month ago

No some people don't realize it, and they don't care. They have little respect for artists.

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Louloubelle
Community Member
1 month ago

As someone with the name Karen, this is so hurtful. Why can't we please just say entitled? Because that's what it is. Using Karen as a slur is bullying at it's purest form. It's simply name calling. If you don't think so, insert your name into these memes for the next couple of years, and then tell me how you feel.

Marty BlackEagle-Carl
Community Member
1 month ago

live painting, wtf, find a wonderful picture, and have someone make a painting of it.

Among Us
Community Member
1 month ago

A live painting? Dang 1000$ is reasonable, get your values right karen

Katinka Min
Community Member
1 month ago

I think in the UK anybody in arts and performance was just called 'low-skilled workers' (which are now on dole due to Covid) Sometimes, I wish all of people working in the industry that keeps the rest entertained would just pack up and do somethign else. Let's see how people feel in a world bereft of any entertainment, art, music etc that isn't 100% state funded.

KT Pinto
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

I honestly don't know if I'd want PICASSO to do my wedding portrait. I mean, cubism doesn't really show people at their best... :D

Luuta
Community Member
1 month ago

I'll do it for $100, I've got some left over crayons.

Banjo Peppers
Community Member
1 month ago

I have an actual BFA in art (illustration - my speciality is watercolor) and I will kill the person marked in red if she says that again.

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

Don't over charge her for that service.

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Olivia Agave
Community Member
1 month ago

A grand is a bargain ime, should be higher.

That Screaming Hamster
Community Member
1 month ago

Thank you person blurred out with green

elfin
Community Member
1 month ago

I'd be willing to pay for a Picasso picture of this wedding. Cubism, I hope. It would be hysterical.

Robert Miller
Community Member
1 month ago

And I'm sure they expect the band to play for free so they can get the exposure .....

Jo Ellen Washburn
Community Member
1 month ago

How many of you have actually watched your video more than once? How often do you look at the photo album? Now live paintings, ffs?

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Live painting for over the fire place in the million dolar home they paid or by cutting cost and throats at every opportunity.

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blugeagua
Community Member
1 month ago

Karen and kyles always being shits

RaroaRaroa
Community Member
1 month ago

The have video and a photographer but want a painting too. For heavens sake, enjoy the day, take some pics and leave it at that. You'll probably never look at your wedding video again after a few times.

Marnie
Community Member
1 month ago

People are giving WAY too much attention to a single flipping day. They have no sense of the future. Put the money away for collge, retirement, for a home entertainment center, for new furniture, for remodeling. Completely ridiculous. If it were a GREAT party, it might be worth it, but who even enjoys a wedding anymore? It's not even fun making it so fancy.

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
1 month ago

I'll never understand people who just don't get that artists have to pay bills as well. I can't tell you how many times my husband has been asked to take photos at a "friends" wedding. They are always shocked when he tells them his fee. These aren't Polaroids, jackass - they're professionally shot and then HOURS of photoshop goes into it to make them as perfect as possible. Oh - and he still has to drive to wherever the wedding is being held, sometimes involving an overnight stay. Yeah - you go ahead & shop around, but don't bother calling us back when you realize how reasonable his fee actually is.

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Well spoken! Ihave sewn many outfits, curtains and costumes for free, owned every trinket sold door to door, painted houses inside and out and helped spring clean everything from basements to garages and loaned cars that were never returned until I looked in the mirror and saw a used dummy. Being a thoughtful, helpful Christian doesn't mean allowing yourself to be a door mat for users when you could be doing good for people who aren't users.

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M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
1 month ago

Up vote for the very last comment...

Lucy Hill
Community Member
1 month ago

I’m being paid about of fifth of that to paint my friends’ dogs over a couple of months. I’m not even fully professional. TO HAVE THE SKILL TO PAINT- AND FINISH- A PORTRAIT ON THE DAY IS WORTHY OF $1K, SO HELP ME GOD!

TiaCalenture
Community Member
1 month ago

Pfft

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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MellonCollie
Community Member
1 month ago

Excellent reply to that BS.

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#19

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Hmmm. That's going to last...

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#20

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Hańka
Community Member
1 month ago

Horrible!

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

COVIDiot.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

That's really sad. Animals aren't fricking decor

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
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1 month ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a great example of "champagne tastes on a beer budget".

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
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1 month ago

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
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1 month ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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