Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.
Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
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Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!
We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money
We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.
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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
Wedding Guest Shaming
Yikes Yikes Yikes
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“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”
Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.
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$250 Min Gift To Attend
Some people should just appreciate what their guests have all ready paid to make it. Possibly accomodation, new clothes, taxis and/or flights, maybe even paying to put the dogs in the kennels, or mind the kids, while they go away. On top of all that, I think a $100 gift is plenty. Many of your wedding guests will have paid out way more than the price of food and drinks just to get there. To celebrate with you - not set you up financially for life.
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and if they determined that your gift is worth under $250, what do they do? Shame you in front of everyone then ask you to leave? You are a classy guy, Mike.
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It is not only the price, "a gift for either me or Christian", wedding gifts used to be items for the couple's joint use not for one or the other.
WHAT??? Anyone ever been to a Dutch wedding, where you'd get €20 from your aunties?
What shocks me is that neither the bride nor the groom made the effort to personally or properly invite this person. Mike was suppose to tell them. But the snobette had no problem texting this person directly to inform them there was a mandatory and ridiculously high price value minimum on the wedding gift.
Sooooooooooo much people have confirmed?? There's actually people who would agree to such a thing??
That last part sounds almost desperate. Makes me wonder if the other people have cancelled, too.
Better be solid gold beer, cocktails, and cake if I have to pay $250 for the privilege of drinking and eating it. If not, you have to know that I will be taking the entire wedding cake home myself, and you can kiss that f****r goodbye.
I bet the only people who turned up were the bridal party, the best man and the parents of the bride and groom
"Confirmed" not "Paid"... someone in for a surprise here, I also thought.
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I was married in 1977. Both my fiance and I were nurses, (extremely hard up), we did everything on the cheap. My dress was beautiful, but gifted. Two bridesmaids wearing designed frocks, made by a local seamstress. A lovely church service, with bells and a small boys choir. We had 70 guests and had a delicious buffet meal in a local pub. We didn't have a present list just requested small gifts as we were moving abroad. It was a lovely wedding. Cheap and cheerful. BUT it didnt leave my parents or us with massive debt. And our hen and stag nights were in the local pubs. Not a four night holiday abroad. Just ridiculous. Like so much of life now, it's all got to be better, more extravagant for social media. Really sad.......
Your wedding sounds absolutely lovely! And I hope you two are still enjoying life together.
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You’re all very cruel... I’m faxing them a check today.....
I could have all that for less than $250 and enjoy it while watching something really cool on Netflix instead of paying to hang out with 'soooo much people' who I probably don't know or like.
gifts are voluntary and should be seen as such. Even though it is expected at weddings is is super rude to request gifts and especially over a $ amount.
This person is like a little kid. Saying "SOOOO MUCH PEOPLE" (which also has improper grammar, lol) and REQUIRING a gift over flippin 250 bucks.
I guess we were stupid, because not only did we not check the price tags on gifts, we just wanted our friends and family to celebrate with us, gift or not. Some people brought gifts, some just a card, some just their company. All were welcome. Sheesh. So much greed.
You read this a lot. People setting minimum prices on gifts. How does the happen? Who thinks this is an OK thing to do (specifically at weddings it sums) and why does nobody in their family tell them its not OK?
What is this thing about begging for money? They sound like Miss Lins on Fox state tv.
Um - for the record: You are NOT OBLIGATED to give a gift at ANY TIME. It's nice if you do, but if it's mandated I'd seriously question wanting a relationship with that person.
If your buying us a gift.....Hard pass on the gift, but I love food and drink..JS
Wow! Thanks but no thanks for the invitation. I can do a lot of things with $250 other than buy someone a wedding present...
This is so incredibly tacky. A wedding is supposed to be a sacred ceremony. It is about taking a new step up in life. Taking on greater responsibilities. You invite people because their presence will help you celebrate and legitimate your choice. When someone attends your wedding, they are already doing you a favor, by helping to make your wedding special.
if you weren't informed... hahahahaha. that is one sure way to let someone know they were last on the list! so no, best way to say no is to save 250$
If I wasn't laughing so much, I would be pretty outraged by this. My mama would slap me silly if I turned out this way.
Should've been like "well luckily my coupon game is on point, it may be worth $250 but I'm not pay a cent over $30!" or $250 in Dollar Tree items...either way I'd still have fun shopping
Oh well if there’s cake, I’ll spend even more than $250! Oh wait I could buy my own cake for less.
What I heard a few years ago is that the gift should be about the price of the reception meal. ie: $50/plate then your gift would be minimum $50. I got the sense that their reception is definitely not $250/plate.
Somebody please give this bride tickets for a ride through a 3rd world country. That should be over $250 to fly her there, transportation, etc. It's the best thing that could ever happen to her.
Above $250??? You want my soul and blood with that too? Or my kidney?
F**k them! Seriously! Asking for money?! And sets a limit! Not worth my time or the damn friendship. Materialistic f**k ups!
The invitation is for people to witness the union of a couple - gifts are and always have been and should still be 100% optional, within the givers budget and received with gratitude.
This person should not be allowed to reproduce. At the very least go back to school and learn the English language over, eg: "sooooo MUCH people". WOW
So - this Mike is the one sending out the wedding invites? To inform people? By IM?
Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time
No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”
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Bride Urges Guests To Uber To Her Wedding In Order To Avoid The “Quarantine Police”
Kid Wants To Dress Up As A Lion To Their Wedding. Also Told To Change Their Centrepieces As Kid Doesn’t Like Balloons. Kid Is Op’s Mother’s Best Friend’s Child
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Should have turned her away before she even walked through the doors
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I'm sick to death of cutesy signs every time you turn the hell around.
I Can’t Believe You’re Afraid Of Covid, What About My Wedding?
How dare You not risk you life to watch me walk around in person rather than waiting til it's safe. Ur selfish desire to live is breaking my heart.
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Just saw the date 8th of December 2019. I think none of them will be getting what they want
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Sorry, but I feel like this has to be fake. Regardless if she misheard him or whatever the case would’ve been.... planning a wedding for 7 months and they didn’t even have ONE conversation about how it was coming along? I don’t buy it
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Well Ok Then....
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My goodness. This is terrible- using God as an excuse!
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I Don’t Know What To Say About This
Way to make a young probably teens step child feel even more embarrassed about their braces than they already were. I would never want someone who would be so oblivious to be my child's step-anything. Thank God my son's stepmum is a gem, she always treats him as one of her own, as I tell my boy, parental decisions are made between the three of us (myself, his father and his stepmum). I don't think that's common though we are quite lucky.
Yikes
Making Fun Of Corona And Blm At Your 200+ Person Wedding. Yes This Was The Only Time Anyone Wore Masks
Uh Oh... Shame. On. Us. (18k In The Group On Facebook)
Because We All Want Our Guests Knowing We’ll Be Too Drunk For Sex On Our Wedding Night
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Found In A Disney Shaming Group- I’m Sure Ashley Tisdale Would Be There!
I Didn't Realize A Pandemic Stopped Once You Are "Over It"
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This Trend Is Universally Bad, But This Iteration Is The Worst I've Personally Seen To Date
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
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I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
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Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
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Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
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I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies... I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies... Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies... Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies... I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
