Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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1 month ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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1 month ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Vorknkx
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1 month ago

Hold on a second... they have a "wedding website"???

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
1 month ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
Community Member
1 month ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Full of Giggles
Community Member
1 month ago

A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
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1 month ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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MellonCollie
Community Member
1 month ago

Excellent reply to that BS.

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#19

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Hmmm. That's going to last...

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#20

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Hańka
Community Member
1 month ago

Horrible!

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

COVIDiot.

Stannous Flouride
Community Member
1 month ago

@googleman1234 You took the time to criticize someone else's missing apostrophe with a comment that itself is missing FIVE of them and misspells rhetoric? (and btw- many of the Bored Pandas commenting here do not have English as a first language so check yo' bad self)

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

I'd love to come to your wedding. I bring with me the gift of potentially causing a superspreader amongst your nearest and dearest

Pamela24
Community Member
1 month ago

Unless the blurred name person is a toddler this is 100% not okay.

MellonCollie
Community Member
1 month ago

I agree with you, but if 1. masks are mandatory for everyone in the country these people live in, it is not OK anyhow, and 2. the person writing the messages asks about "us" not wearing masks. So I'd say sorry, but you'd better stay home then.

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Phil Vaive
Community Member
1 month ago

This one could have been a lot worse. The guest could have shown up and caused a scene at the wedding, but instead texted the bride to express their regrets. Do I agree with them for not wearing masks? Not at all. But I do appreciate that they aren't being maskholes about it.

Blakkur Sverrir
Community Member
1 month ago

Well... bye then

Johnny
Community Member
1 month ago

They should send back a dictionary page with the word "required" circled since this person seems to think "required" means "only if you feel like it"

Louloubelle
Community Member
1 month ago

Well, welcome to Wisconsin. That's what they think here.

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Leo Domitrix
Community Member
1 month ago

"Hi, we love you, let's risk you getting COvid-19!"... NO.

Jo Choto
Community Member
1 month ago

Some guests you just don't need.

Katherine Boag
Community Member
1 month ago

At least they wont be there though

Christophe Beunens
Community Member
1 month ago

No problem. We have a table reserved for people who are infected with Covid...

Marcellus the Third
Community Member
1 month ago

Is it in an 80 McDonalds ball pool, with the usual amount of wee etc in there?

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cybermerlin2000
Community Member
1 month ago

Reply: CC: Everyone A family refusing to wear masks has dropped out of the guest list and so we are giving their invites to another family. Is there anyone else who has a problem with wearing a mask at a wedding where numbers are heavily restricted? We would love to give your invites to others who can follow simple rules. Thank you

itz kimora
Community Member
1 month ago

is this a karen i see

Martha Meyer
Community Member
1 month ago

No, it's a covidiot.

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Good. Less you have to do with these cretins, the better.

abby smink
Community Member
1 month ago

Honestly, I don't see where the bride is wrong here. Aside from, you know, having a damn wedding at all right now anyways, but if you're going to, you can and should require a mask

Teresa Thomas
Community Member
1 month ago

They likely booked this date/venue a year or more in advance, very likely they had no clue this was going to happen. Most people held their weddings in drastically reduced numbers, if with any in attendance at all, simply to not lose that deposit money. Some places are non-refundable even in these circumstances, and it could have been anywhere from $500-$2500 just to book the place originally

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Kat Hoth
Community Member
1 month ago

Why of course, the rules don't apply to YOU!

Raphael Biock
Community Member
1 month ago

What's wrong with those people. Missing a one in a lifetime date just because you have to where a mask. I don't get it. What is the problem for all those snowflakes to where a mask? Even if you don't like it , it is no big deal. Get rid of those people. Their are not your friends!

EmiC _21
Community Member
1 month ago

the fact that she says "wE wiLL haVe tO miSs tHiS vErY impOrTanT dAy" as if its going to make them change the rules

Sue Prewitt
Community Member
1 month ago

We'll miss you

danielw
Community Member
1 month ago

Like, you know, when ever I'm given an ultimatum like this... usually I'm pretty grateful they made the decision easy...

Diana Murtaugh
Community Member
1 month ago

The positive is that they said they wont show up. Much better than these people that go to stores and such, and cause a scene because of mask policies.

David Herz
Community Member
1 month ago

As long as you attend the ceremony without your head, headless bodies will be accepted, there is less chance of germ spread.

elfin
Community Member
1 month ago

Wedding days may be important, but so is avoiding a potentially deadly disease.

Stacy Robbin
Community Member
1 month ago

Better off not having them come.

Michelle C
Community Member
1 month ago

Should reply with that letter from earlier...sorry you can't come, just send money

Cassie
Community Member
1 month ago

I guess if you're not going to wear a piece of fabric to protect others around you, you won't do it to support your loved one, either. COVIDiot, indeed.

Batwench
Community Member
1 month ago

Oh well, it’s a shame they will miss the wedding. No real loss.

Adam C
Community Member
1 month ago

they are so many.

Fish Boden
Community Member
1 month ago

F**k me.

serge
Community Member
2 weeks ago

We also do not stop at traffic lights, think the world is flat and are basically a family of douches....

Bette Noire
Community Member
3 weeks ago

Regrettably, you're a moron.

Gloria J Williams
Community Member
1 month ago

stupidiots.

grace koncsicsv
Community Member
1 month ago

it could be a child refusing to wear one because of sensory issues...lets not jump the gun. they were very polite about it as well

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

Honesty is good.

Jaybird3939
Community Member
1 month ago

It's obvious they have no idea what Covid-19 really is. I hope no one in their family has gotten, but if they have, whoo boy, morons should not marry

Mumof1
Community Member
1 month ago

A Darwin candidate

Karen Loftus
Community Member
1 month ago

Hi, Emma, I hope you postponed your wedding but if not, I hope you told this self-entitled, ignoramus they were ‘uninvited’.

Gayle Hunter-Gatherer
Community Member
1 month ago

Ugh.

Thomas Turnbull
Community Member
1 month ago

Idiots

Lisa Anne
Community Member
1 month ago

Oh, well. C ya!

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
1 month ago

Face palm...

Donna Cheung
Community Member
1 month ago

At least the guest asked?! And says they will not be going if that's not ok?

Annette Rainbow
Community Member
1 month ago

good excuse to get out of going to the wedding and paying heaps of cash. :)

Martha Higgins
Community Member
1 month ago

Hope they stayed home and spared the other guests their selfishness and stupidity.

Leigh Hogan
Community Member
1 month ago

My husband has a suffocation phobia, keeps the front and back door open at all times, so I suppose it might be legit even if it isn't a medical necessity. But even hubby's wearing a mask, so it's real hard to see this from both sides.

Lindy Mac
Community Member
1 month ago

Or possibly they have a TV show they'd rather watch at that exact hour.

Inquiring Mind Wants To Know
Community Member
1 month ago

I would write back “So sorry that you can’t come but we’ll all look forward to being together at your funeral and will see you then...but only if you promise to have an open casket...otherwise will just have to visit with everyone else who comes!! Ta Ta and Toodleloo!!

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

That's cold. This serious . People have lost so many loved ones.

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Luuta
Community Member
1 month ago

Oh, I see you've caught coronavirus, but not wearing masks doesn't work for our hospital. We refuse such people under any circumstance. Is it possible for us to attend your funeral with masks? If not, then do we truly regrettably have to miss your imminent demise 😭

Marty BlackEagle-Carl
Community Member
1 month ago

oh well. less meals to buy.

Sue Koches
Community Member
1 month ago

You will not be missed!

I I
Community Member
1 month ago

guess they missed it

Repelsteeltje1
Community Member
1 month ago

Perfect, stop wearing those stupid, useless muzzles!

Full of Giggles
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

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I personally don't think this person is a true covidiot. The wording and respectful tone gives me the impression this family is bullied into being maskless by blurred name. I wouldn't doubt if the sender was bullied into asking about attending the wedding without a mask. Think about it. How many people who refuse to wear a mask are this polite when being forced to wear one?

WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
1 month ago

I personally think that refusing to wear a mask during a gathering of people where it's very likely that distancing rules won't always be followed, is the first sign of covidiocy. They are not "bullied" into anything. They just got told that they have to wear a mask as part of the dresscode. Which is very wise from the bride and completely in accordance of the time we are living in. They are not polite, you just missed the sarcasm and stupidity in the message.

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1 month ago

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except...masks don't stop the spread of viruses.... bacteria and saliva, sure, but viruses are too small. Wish they did... https://www.rcreader.com/commentary/masks-dont-work-covid-a-review-of-science-relevant-to-covide-19-social-policy

Louloubelle
Community Member
1 month ago

Perhaps if you went to the CDC site that has said, repeatedly, that they will stop the spread. As they have in other countries. All you have to do is look at New Zealand, for example. All of that country - 1,800 cases, 25 dead. They had the mask mandate early, got out on top of the virus and have managed to control it. Are you an infectious disease specialist, by they way?

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

That's really sad. Animals aren't fricking decor

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
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1 month ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a great example of "champagne tastes on a beer budget".

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
Community Member
1 month ago

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
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1 month ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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