Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.
Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
"I like people and I'm having a wedding soon! Hey, what a good idea! I'm going to use people as decor and tie them to the table! Has anyone ever used people as decor before?"
Load More Replies...Cruel and wrong as this is, I do feel she deserves to have the s**t-and-slide floor that that many puppies could make! Anyone seen a brown wedding dress before? :)
I can't believe that the venue even considered this as okay.
Load More Replies...I love puppies too! I love them so much that I WOULD NOT TREAT THEM SO BADLY! Personally I would say to guests that they are welcome to bring their dogs and I would provide food water and facilities for them including somewhere for them to sleep but never would I tie them to tables as decorations!
I would like to include portraits of shelter dogs on each table in hopes of people adopting them.
Load More Replies...This is a terrible idea of incorporating puppies into the decor, and what I would've done, is go to the animal shelter and ask them If they want to bring some puppies there for people to adopt possibly. what this girl did is not okay, though.
I actually can think of a way to MAKE THIS a good idea! If you REALLY love dogs that much and are a GOOD PERSON, have your local shelter come and set up somewhere outta the way, but still there, and see if anyone wants to adopt, AND give the shelter some of your WEDDING MONEY as a donation! There ya go! And everyone is happy! #WOOF
that's actually a brilliant idea! puppies get adopted, and you have them at the wedding without them being props.... I hate how the person in the picture said that they wanted to use puppies as decor.
Load More Replies...This is appalling, but also, how would this work? The puppies tied to a table leg? Where they couldn't be seen and would be stepped on by drunk people? Or somehow tied to the top of the table, where they would be able to eat the food and poop on the table? In addition to the cruelty, I don't understand the logistics.
Puppies are so yesterday. I hear Siberian tigers at each table is the new trend.
Yes, tigers and lions and exotic lynxes make excellent choices of decor
Load More Replies...A puppy is an animal not a prop for a wedding. This is a ridiculous idea.
If I walked in and saw this as a guest, my first call would be to the SPCA.
well, it looks like I would be the guest going home with 10+ puppies that day
How about diamondback rattlesnakes? With a little water bowl. An animal to remember!
Loving puppys is not enough, You must love the dog he will become too.
I'm sorry, was the toy store all out of stuffed toy puppies & kitties?
I want to slap her so hard on the face, that even her great-grandkids feel it.
Miss DeVille should use dalmatian puppies if it's going to be black tie.
Leave the puppies alone and tie the bride to the table with a 2 foot rope!!!
What the hell is wrong with you? Living creatures are NOT "decor". I kind of hope she did it, they crapped all over the floor and one lifted it's leg on her $5,000 dress.
Well this is creepy. I thought this was going to be something where they use a puppy as the flower girl or something.
My level of anger at this clueless, heartless bitch is astounding. Perhaps she also loves babies and can just kidnap a bunch from a newborn hospital ward?
That is not a very well thought out "decorating" scheme... Puppies are cute. Maybe have an adoption event as part of your reception - in a quiet area? Not tied to the tables where drunk guests could trample them...
No, they don't love puppies. If they did, an idea like this would never enter their minds - to tie baby animals on short leashes to table legs at a big party full of drinking and dancing. The little things would get stepped on and kicked and just generally terrified. Animals aren't toys!
Animals are NOT DECOR! Besides, since dogs inevitably have a sense of humor, you can bet that they will take a poop right at the start to your reception will smell like crap. Use stuffed animals if you must have puppies!
I am embarrassed to share a species with this person. I could do an all dog wedding, but I draw the line at tying them up for the amusement of others. What do you thin she was planning to do with them after? I only have 5 dogs, my sixth died this summer at the age of 15. I want to smack her all kind of ways.
I've seen pictures of bridesmaids walking down the aisle holding puppies instead of bouquets. And they stand there at the side still with the pups. A bit too much for me. I like dogs, but c'mon.
Ooo, a wedding reception full of begging, slavering, whining dogs, dog poo, dog poo smell, dogs jumping on tables and eating the food, people with allergies collapsing, guests tripping over leads and breaking legs, tables collapsing, guests getting intestinal worms from all these animals, dogs eating chocolate and being sick, drunks, fighting, animal welfare groups, police, more fighting, thousands of dollars of damage, collapsing marquees, rain, mud, dog s**t everywhere, law suits and divorce. But hey, puppies are sooo cute.
Of coarse your joking but I have a vision of truck mudding, saw it on TV, they didn't have dogs , everything else but no dogs. Class act I guess.
Load More Replies...thats animal cruelty, also, where does she think the puppies are going to pee and poo????
WHAT THE HELL?????? Please- someone make sure this cretin A: never gets a pet, and B: never breeds!
that is beyond crule to the puppies. Some people do not like dogs! Supper back idea
Animals are not decor! However, if you are truly a dog lover you could invite (with a sizable donation for their time) the local humane society to your wedding and have them set up their mobile adoption unit to the side and ask for a way for guests to be able to pet and play with the adoptables. Whos knows, maybe some lonely pup will actually get a home from this and your wedding would do some good.
She probably flayed them alive and made herself a cape afterwards.
Heinous wench! Someone needs to put a collar, muzzle, and a 2ft leash on her ass and tie her out in the middle of a kennel full of dogs. So they can run, jump, play, lick, urinate, etc, all over her for about 3hrs and see how she likes it.
This woman deserves to be tied to the back of a sports car and dragged at full speed for at least 100 miles.
The cheapest puppy is like $1000. A bunch would be like a quarter million.
"And in which bin shall we dump them afterwards, to make that wedding more environmental-friendly ?"
Because everyone wants a wailing puppy pooping under the table and chewing on your shoes.
:O are they serious?? They need to check with the venue first then with animal rights groups :O
Someone call RSPCA/ASPCA! Are there really people who *think* like this?
Will you be doing regular rounds with a pooper scooper and rags to ensure your guests will be able to stay at their table?
That's worse than the lady who wanted turtles walking around with lit candles on their backs at her wedding reception
you going to put diapers on them? mop up the spilled wine? do the cleaning bill from them peeing on dresses and table cloths, TOTALLY BAD IDIOT IDEA.
I hope that they pee and crap everywhere and you realize how incredibly stupid this idea is
I would NEVER use puppies or any other animal for decor!!! But....I have used men for such a thing. They are going to need longer than a 2 foot lead, they will get chatty so if you want less talky you need to keep the beer coming or tummy rubs. Best part is that they are house trained!!!
Yes. Cruella DeVille used puppies . Didn't work out too well for her, though.
Has anyone ever seen how much puppies can wee and doo-doo? And they can do it repeatedly. Like once an hour, right after they spill their water and roll in the puddle of wee and water. You were going to give them water, right? ___ A further note; puppies should not be out in public until they've had ALL of their shots, distemper, kennel cough, and parvo are highly contagious. ***puppies tend to cry and bark a lot - is that cute, hmmm***
Don't fall for the small puppies mafia, splash out on the overly large ones with extra "character".
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Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.
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No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.
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Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”
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My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies...I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies...Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies...The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies...We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies...Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies...I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies...I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies...Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies...The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies...We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies...Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies...I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read