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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

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Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This chick is lucky to get any sort of proposal from anyone. "I love him so much!" sounds more like "I love his benefits so much!"

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Jo Choto
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't believe he made the mistake of proposing again.

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Full of Giggles
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude should have hoped in the plane and flown as far away as he could from this girl.

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Leo Domitrix
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My hubby proposed while I was sweaty, in eyeglasses, wearing bike shorts, and cramming for exams... in my dorm room. It's the marriage, not the wedding'/ proposal, folks!

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lara
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man is really, really going to regret proposing to her. She is not worth the effort to spit on her if she is on fire.

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Viviane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she prefers a traditional romantic setting and wants a do-over, fine. But posting that "he proposed WRONG" and that she's embarrassed is judgmental and narrow-minded. I hope she's worth the "benefits".

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స్టీఫెన్ ఆండ్రూ
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This stinks of the idea that the proposal is all about her and what she can brag to her friends about later. A proposal should be a special moment between two people rather than an event which makes one (or both) parties feel like a celebrity for a fleeting moment.

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Among Us
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel bad for the guy, not so much for the girl. She's a gold digger, like seriously? In front of an airplane? Dude, do you know how lucky you are to get that opportunity? I know people who propose in a freaking McDonalds, get a life.

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Dorothy Parker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should have gotten on that plane and put as much distance between them as possible. As for the benefits...greedy harpie.

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Dynein
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, there's definitely WRONG places... like proposing to a very private introvert right in front a large crowd with everyone watching. Or proposing to someone romantic, who envies people with showy proposals, by the toilets of a rest stop. If you don't have the awareness or respect to factor in your partners basic desires when proposing, you probably shouldn't get married anyway. It shouldn't require mind reading, though.

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Banjo Peppers
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You love him so much that you rejected his proposal because it was incorrect.

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Marcellus the Third
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It took me a while to figure out "BF" doesn't mean "BoyFriend" and certainly not "BestFriend" to her, but something closer to "BattleField".

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Donna Leske
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say he is forewarned of her "standards" and how he is required to conform. Good luck buddy, I hope you can hang in there - or get out unbloodied.

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Leo Fragoso
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Would be a nice ending to the story if he took her to the sea food restaurant and broke up with her.

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Lululoohoo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

she's a disgrace & I feel sorry for her man. Whyyyyyyyy dude.

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Helena Murphy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a terribly ungrateful woman ……!!! If he had any brains he should have walked away!!!

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Midget
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, if I was this dude, and she told me I PrOpOsEd WrOnG, I'de be like "This is it. Yes or No. If this isn;t good enough for you, then get tf out of my life."

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Jaybird3939
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not see this marriage lasting. He's obviously proud of what he does and all she can do is sh*t all over it.

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StrawberryParfait
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's clearly disappointed in the first proposal, as he didn't seem to put much thought into what she would find romantic. This story should not be made public, though. Just ignore the first attempt, then only speak of the second one on social media, if you must.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not the point. Being proposed to should be the romantic thing, in (nearly) any venue. My husband proposed to me at my house next to a new Weber (showing he would be a provider).

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Mumof1
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ain't love grand - Had I been in HIS shoes, I'd have dumped her in front of that plane

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rachel carter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was being so ridiculous the fact he got the nerve and courage to propose at all takes balls

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Elvira Cook
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kind of woman is she? Good God the man loves her and asked her to marry him and that's not enough? I feel sorry for him, it's going to be a sad life.

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Gricelda Jacquez
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She don't deserve him. He is a man in uniform!!!!!! Dump her!

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Thomas Turnbull
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a self centred horror she is. He needs to walk away from her (Quickly)

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Steve
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The REAL question is where will he be when he asks her for a divorce

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Ruth Beaty
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love her comment, also I hope he breaks up with her before they tie the knot, ugh.

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John Baker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too bad the guy didn't see that huge red flag she was waving in his face.

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Lynn Greene
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The plane might be handy for the groom so he can get away from her quickly.

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Lisa Pockat Bork
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's pretty pathetic to be embarrassed about that. He's in the Air Force for heaven's sake! Grow up lady.

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IZama
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should hop in that plane and fly as far away as possible.

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Jane Dorothy Warner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Setting herself up for a me-me marriage. :( I've been on my own for 26 years. Anyone is welcome to propose to me anywhere!

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Eva Sawyer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should have taken that as a sign from God and said never mind

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Shelley DuVal
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am going to pinch this one, a tall drink of dumpster juice is so fitting!

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KT
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember when my husband proposed. It was probably a diamond chip in that ring, just inside his home front door. I said yes I was so beyond happy and to me that ring was perfection and special. If anyone says no and demands something more "special" they dont love you

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eezycheezes101
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHAT THE HELL?! At least he had to decency to propose to you, you entitled jerk

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elfin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should be embarrassed, but not because of his behavior. She should be embarrassed by her own.

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June Dominguez
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHAT.? You are saying, he didn’t propose to you in the place you choose? Wow! What a true moron and, snob, to say the least! Sounds like you only love yourself and, I truly hope he did not marry you, since you are a very petty and selfish perso!

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Suebee70
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should run - run far, run fast. I know someone who dealt with this very thing - the woman wanted the man to propose to her in a VERY particular way - right down to how he asked her to marry him, where, what day, what time of day, etc. It was just the tip of the iceberg in how controlling and manipulative she really was - they got engaged but then he broke it off because of her behavior.

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Atheana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a piece of work, she’s so up herself she could MARRY herself!

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Cheryl Fontaine
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good God, I wonder if he's as dumb as she is.... it's the only way the marraige could work.

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Sabrina Fisher
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The poor fool must really think he loves her if he was dumb enough to ask again...

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Mark Johansen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, if my girlfriend publicly complained about how I proposed, I think I'd be saying, "Oh, sorry, have a nice life".

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Selena4life
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a jerk! She is dumpster juice! If I was that guy I wouldn't propose to her at all!

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Grace Marraffa
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s a bitch move, i would love to get engaged in front of an airplane

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abby smink
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I were him, I'd say sorry, I'll do it better, as he did....but then never do it because f**k her.

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Shinomi Chan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bitch please. He was probably a nerve wreck and you insist he does it "better???" What is wrong with you?

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Sue Knerl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was that guy, I'd dump her now. Obviously in for the goodies.

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Sandra Givens
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, ugh. Guy, run away, fast. My husband and I lived about 60 miles apart while dating (met through his personal ad in a city magazine), and there was no formal proposal as such. We were talking on the phone when he suggested we move in together, where he lived because he had the better job (RN). When I said I had been there, done that, and wouldn't do that again unless getting married, he said "Well, then let's do that, let's get married." Marriage lasted 33 years until his death. I'm sick of these self-centered immature women who want "perfect" proposals and dream weddings, with the actual real live partner and marriage secondary.

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Kat Black
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dumpster juice that he should dump. What a self-centered immature individual. Wedding soon so she can get the benefits...good grief!

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Elaine Mattingly
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her current address, somewhere in a land far far away from reality.

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Lisa Larson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a b**ch! She is lucky he proposed at all, much less proposed twice

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Gogubaci
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the guy should've run... I see this ending in divorce or murder

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Ann Collingwood
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fussy pants! I'd have told her I'd changed my mind. (He must be a bit of a wimp....)

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Jack Urquhart
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, that marriage will work out. At least she will get "all the benefits". Poor guy

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Ashley Wright
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boy, I bet that 2nd proposal came as a complete shock. This guy shouldn’t walk away from her. He should run like a bat out of hell.

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Grace Skerp
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll give it about six months before Karen whines, "You just go tell them that you can't go there. You tell 'em too that I don't want to stand in line anymore behind those slutty servicewomen." He'll be volunteering for a lot of remote tours.

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Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

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4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

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This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

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Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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