Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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4 months ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Peter Breier
Community Member
4 months ago

she s right

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
Community Member
4 months ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

Malakai
Community Member
4 months ago

Idk, if the couple has a good sense of humor it might go over well

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MellonCollie
Community Member
4 months ago

LOL. It could be funny if the groom & new bride have a sense of humor. Otherwise you're risking greatly.

Holly D
Community Member
4 months ago

YES!! Its not only ok its a must

chi-wei shen
Community Member
4 months ago

It's not ok because not everyone is back. The people on the side of the bride are new to this.

Marcellus the Third
Community Member
4 months ago

Not always! Several entries higher up are about this, "my ex marrying my ex-BFF" etc.

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

I'd laugh.

Mama Panda
Community Member
4 months ago

How about saying "wow deja vu!" LOL

El muerto
Community Member
4 months ago

it would work better..."as stated in my earlier wedding speech"

Lord Mysticlaw
Community Member
4 months ago

Tbh i think it's hilarious

Ronel du Plessis
Community Member
4 months ago

Since my brother-in-law is a real player and dated every single girl in our small town, I wanted to RSVP "maybe your next one". No I did not, was very tempted to so...

cybermerlin2000
Community Member
4 months ago

Seen this one before. He was joking

shyanna banana
Community Member
4 months ago

oh i so would

Jo Choto
Community Member
4 months ago

It's obligatory.

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
4 months ago

maybe at the stag party, but a little too on point for the ceremony.

Debi-Nikita Rentzke
Community Member
4 months ago

Hahaha

Eglė Bukauskaitė
Community Member
4 months ago

🤣

Mumof1
Community Member
4 months ago

Noooooo!

Valerie Anne
Community Member
4 months ago

🤣

Jonny Chevalier
Community Member
4 months ago

Sorry no! Insulting to new bride.

Leisa K
Community Member
4 months ago

hahahahaha! No - but that's really funny!

Lynn Greene
Community Member
4 months ago

Go for it. It will get the party off to a rollicking start.

Traci-Ann Dis
Community Member
4 months ago

well, only half of the guests would be back a second time....but I f was the bride, I'd laugh and make a joke of it

IZama
Community Member
4 months ago

I double dog dare you.

David Herz
Community Member
4 months ago

Why not? It may help the groom reconsider what he thinks passes for reality.

Lee Hill
Community Member
4 months ago

I heard of that happening once #weddingfail

Lana Jig-maker
Community Member
4 months ago

at least you are consistently the best man. gotta be a good thing right? lol

Jack Urquhart
Community Member
4 months ago

Every one will be loaded by then and think it's funny.

Ashley Wright
Community Member
4 months ago

Har har

elfin
Community Member
4 months ago

Not unless you want to distract attention from the bride and focus it on the first wife.

Lindy Mac
Community Member
4 months ago

That is hilarious but he will not be friends with you after that. I agree with Pamela24!

Marty BlackEagle-Carl
Community Member
4 months ago

ahahahahaha that's me, had the same best man at both weddings.

Jeanne Clapper
Community Member
4 months ago

🤣🤣🤣

Bent. O. Jensen
Community Member
4 months ago

No, half of them weren't there the first time (unless he is marrying the same woman twice or marrying a sister-in-law).

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
4 months ago

heh heh... maybe, "It's so nice to see everyone, it's been... a while..."

Stille20
Community Member
4 months ago

It's wildly disrespectful to the bride and her family. So if that's the kind of person you want to be..

Ole Peder Amrud Hagen
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

Of course it is! In my speech I welcomed everyone to my friend's first wedding, so I'm just waiting for my next gig now.

Batwench
Community Member
4 months ago

I would find that hilarious. Mind you I do have a warped sense of humour. If he had a third wedding with same best man the opening line could be “Lovely to see so many familiar face. A case of hope of experience....”

Gerry Higgins
Community Member
4 months ago

Don't bother getting up. Just play the part of the first wedding video where you give a toaste.

The Upset Kitten
Community Member
4 months ago

"At your mates wedding", seems like they're British, and if there's anything I know about the British, it's that they enjoy a good piss take, sarcasm, and cracking jokes at weddings.

Lillukka79
Community Member
4 months ago

I'd start with "some of you have herd this already..." and do the same speetch.

NWB
Community Member
4 months ago

yes

That Screaming Hamster
Community Member
4 months ago

Yes

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
4 months ago

Or end it with, lets cross our fingers he got it right this time! lol! Look...I am a WOMAN! When I got married the second time, we did it at the courthouse! You get ONE WEDDING! Screw it up, ur on ur own next time! LOL!

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Melissa TO
Community Member
4 months ago

Oof!

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
4 months ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
4 months ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
Community Member
4 months ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Oh. I thought it was a galleon in full sailing trim.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
Community Member
4 months ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
4 months ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Wolfowl
Community Member
4 months ago

"Some stupid virus?" PEOPLE HAVE DIED! IT'S NOT STUPID!

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#19

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

Seramony...argh(acceptance...admited...) I've worked as a proofreader before, and this is just so awkward to read!

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#20

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Fish Boden
Community Member
4 months ago

Awesome! There are seven more highly eligible bachelors, girls and boys!

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Emir
Community Member
4 months ago

Horrible

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Fish Boden
Community Member
4 months ago

F**k me.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

The chance that people might pour alcohol into the bowl didn't occur to their tiny little brains?

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
Community Member
4 months ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

'Requirement'? Would they check at the door?

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
4 months ago

So many not-brides in bridal dresses

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
Community Member
4 months ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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