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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

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Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

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4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

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Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Mama Panda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My asshole mother tried to pull this s**t on my wedding day. I told her if she brought it, I was going to shred it and stain it so she wouldn't be able to wear it. Guess what? She brought it! Guess what else? I destroyed it lol. And she had the balls to get mad because she wanted to look good. We don't have a relationship anymore. (there were a lot of other things that killed it not just this bs)

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Carrie Roettger
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't imagine doing this to my daughter when she got married but my mom and/or mother-in-law probably would have. We eloped with only a close friend as a witness at the JP.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My bff's mother did this! The bride wore a simple dress with no frills. Her mother wore a be-jewelled cream-coloured ballgown.

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AndyR
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's no context. The bride posted it but was she shaming her mum? It would be unusual if they hadn't at least had a conversation about outfits.

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Selena4life
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mum's dress looks...weird. Brides dress is beautiful! I love how you didn't go all out!

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Lynn Morello
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Traditionally Chinese brides wear RED not white. If I remember correctly.

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Shinomi Chan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe they held a bit different kind of wedding? Do weddings always need to be traditional to their culture? I personally don't think so. (As long as the ceremony is done with respect towards whatever culture they're imitating, I see no problem)

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madmickx
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honey, the way you look I doubt anything anyone else wore could upstage you

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Ed Lesperance
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People get upset about the silliest things. In the greater scheme of things, this won't matter.

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Katinka Min
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Weird. Why would someone do that?? Even if you have no other nice dress to wear, just put a coloured jumper over the top bit.

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Maria Rib
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really, really, hate the "b" word but I can't seem to think of anything else.

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Bryn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This reminds me of when the groom's GRANDMA wore a wedding gown to his wedding. Some people live off attention.

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Karen Lyon
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not only is it not appropriate, it's not attractive. Never try to wear a dress 30 years too young for you.

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Diana Dodd
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually ... she succeeded in winning the ugliest dress contest. That dress is so childish and ugly. The bride’s drew is lovely. Shame on her for souring her daughter’s wedding day!

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Ruth Beaty
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again, have a best friend with a glass of red wine. Preferably a very clumsy friend, at the very beginning of the wedding...

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Ashley Wright
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some like to have attention on them. Guessing she’s your MIL? Good luck 😯

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elfin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is worth getting jealous and pissed off about on your wedding day? The mother of the bride looks pretty and happy. Works for me.

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bunny
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never wear white at a wedding unless you are the bride. It is her day to shine.

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Sabrina Fisher
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You always hear about the toxic mother in law wearing white or trying to upstage the bride... but the brides mother? Thats a new one for me

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Jonahs Mrs
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bride looks stunningly beautiful while the mother is in a dress that does her zero favours and makes her look terrible x

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Emisha Bourgoing
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aren't you...not supposed to wear white on someone else's wedding?

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c Fuller
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have thrown ink at her when we were leaving for the venue

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MCathenaE
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

again, I'd tell her to leave & not come back until she changed.

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The bride must certainly have known about this in advance, no?

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I don't see the problem. It doesn't look very bridal to me unless that dress has a long train or something not visible in the picture. and just by age you can tell she isn't the bride.

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same. I'd say if you're planning a plain/simple wedding dress, theoretically just about anyone in the guests WILL dress one level fancier than the bride.

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again!!! whats the problem if someone wears same dress as bride or something in white why it is soo hard to swallow that everyone has right to rock any wear unless you strictly mention dresscode!!!

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Viviane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're free to tell your future bride (or groom) "My mother and the guests can wear whatever she wants!" but it might not go over well.

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We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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