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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

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Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

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4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Found On Twitter

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Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

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Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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GirlFriday
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was in a wedding a couple of years ago and the groom's mother told all of us bridesmaids that we had to have the same hairstyle for the wedding. Not a big deal, until you realize that two of us had pixie haircuts, two of us are black - one white, one was 13 at the time and the other two were in our 40s. Other than wigs there was no way to make that happen. In the end, we ignored her.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would the bride (okay, bridezilla) want her bridesmaids to look as if they were cut from the same cookie cutter?

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BlackestDawn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because too many brides treat them as props rather than people. It's her "day" and everything has to be "perfect".

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abby smink
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope, actually, asking to have it cut is too much. You shouldn't be asking people to alter something about their appearance for your preferences.

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Lindy Mac
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it is bad enough if they have to pay the dress the bride chooses for them to wear.

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lara
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this brides should discover, on the day of the wedding, that she has NO bridesmaids, or better yet, they all dye their hair purple or orange or green.

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Louloubelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read things like this and am wondering if I'm sheltered that I've never met anyone like this, or ask if this is just a story. It's so incredible, it just can't be real.

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deanna woods
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not sheltered, you just don't have anyone that's batcrap crazy in your life.

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Katinka Min
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This American tradition with identical looking people standing left nad ride to the couple is just plain weird.

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Autumn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My goodness!! I was in a wedding and all we had to do was get dresses the same color and run them by the bride. She let us get was we liked and let us style our hair the way we wanted.! This is crazy and NO you are not being selfish. It's okay for the bride to ask you to look a certain way as long as the expectations are not crazy but everyone looking exactly the same is too much.

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Emisha Bourgoing
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean...your bridesmaids are usually your best friends, or family. People are unique, just link the look by a same-colored piece, or a similar dress style, but the idea of making them all exactly the same, haircut and color included feels really weird to me. ._.

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Osprey
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Buy them all matching wigs you controlling cheapskate.

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Leisa K
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not at all. You be you. The fact that you were willing to actually cut your hair shows you are a true friend, but she's cray-cray.

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Elaine Mattingly
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being willing to cut your hair for her is allowing yourself to be used as a friend. Would she cut her hair for you? Would you ask her to? No.

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Lynn Greene
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You've got to be kidding. You be you. Your friend is selfish and doesn't give a s**t about you or your other bridal party women.

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amanda strachan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I DETEST CONTROL FREAKS. There seems to be so many of them these days... Telll this bridezilla to "do one" UNACCEPTABLE!!!!!

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Estelle Winwoode
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It seems to me that a haircut is a bigger step than using temporary hair dye that will wash out in 7 or 8 washes. All the same, you don't have to do something if you don't want to. The same dress and shoes is fairly traditional. Same hair? Less so.

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David Herz
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, it's self respecting to say no, and a chance to reconsider friendships...

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Christel Nellemann
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This idea of weddings , where it is this big fake display of a weird fantasy is gross.

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Ashley Wright
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d tap out of the wedding party and keep my hair the way I like it

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elfin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's sane to say no. Friends don't tell other friends how they should look. If the bride want to cough up the money for some nice wigs, maybe.

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Michael Dworkin-Robertson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

absolutely not...if she wants that she can use a cardboard cutout or a giant barbie blow up doll; you are neither.

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Emisha Bourgoing
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd get a wig. A cosplay or lolita wig. With pastel colors, and buns, and bows. And she'd eat her socks for daring to ask me to do something so drastic for her wedding. No but seriously, make them wear wigs or something if you want uniformity, which is REALLY weird to me.

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A Random Panda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What if their hair isn't that length yet? Also, some shades of brown do not work on African Americans.

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Arctic Fox Lover
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have a SUPER hard time cutting my hair, but dying it I'd be sort of ok with.

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Shinomi Chan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bruh, you're there for support, not to be a neatly placed furniture. It's already bad enough for some that they all have matching dresses (some may not look so flattering with a certain style or color with everyone) so doing something like that, to me, feels like a private school uniform look. And I hate those.

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Kat Black
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Selfish is the bride.!!! You 'could" perhaps wear a wig failing that tell her to take a running jump.

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Dorothy Cloud
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No! But, if you are desperate to be in the Wedding, buy a cheap wig.

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Elaine Mattingly
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can you say,"NO, I WILL NOT CUT OR COLOR MY HAIR" Say it and believe it.

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Jaybird3939
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure, most brides expect their bridesmaids to make unchangeable (for a while) differences to their appearance so they all match in the wedding pictures. In 6 months, who is going to be left that even cares a jot what the wedding pictures look like other than the bride? I'm surprised she didn't demand they all weigh the same too

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Mumof1
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just say "NO, now bugger off and don't tell me what to do!"

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Leodavinci
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, it is selfish... but there is nothing wrong with that.

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Amaranthim Talon
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hell no to all of it- it is YOUR hair- don't be in the bridal party- Be true to YOU.

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Cheryl Fontaine
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good God, I can't read any more of this garbage.... this wedding crap is a HUGE waste of money and time, especially when we remember over 60% of these happy combos are going to be divorced before the 7th anniversary...

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It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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