Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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3 months ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
Community Member
3 months ago

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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3 months ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
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3 months ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Vorknkx
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3 months ago

Hold on a second... they have a "wedding website"???

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
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3 months ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
3 months ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
3 months ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
3 months ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
Community Member
3 months ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
Community Member
3 months ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
Community Member
3 months ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Full of Giggles
Community Member
3 months ago

A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
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3 months ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
3 months ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
3 months ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
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3 months ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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MellonCollie
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3 months ago

Excellent reply to that BS.

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#19

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
Community Member
3 months ago

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

Tahani
Community Member
3 months ago

And “no acceptance” too

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Sandra Charlot
Community Member
3 months ago

Don't talk to the bride, but don't forget her 75$ gift!

Viviane
Community Member
3 months ago

So what's the fine for addressing the bride?

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Iris Wolfie (づ ◕‿◕ )づ
Community Member
3 months ago

Me: *comes in wearing ivory, arriving 15 minutes late, dyed hair, wearing full face of makeup, chats with bride, brings $5, toasts with beer, and records during "seramony"*

Lauren Caswell
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

Seramony...argh(acceptance...admited...) I've worked as a proofreader before, and this is just so awkward to read!

MellonCollie
Community Member
3 months ago

And not just because of the terrible writing skills!

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Troux
Community Member
3 months ago

Do not wear anything other than a basic bob or ponytail. So it's a nudist wedding?

Among Us
Community Member
3 months ago

Haha lol

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cybermerlin2000
Community Member
3 months ago

I seriously doubt this was from the wedding planner. More like a bridezilla pretending to be the planners to dictate the wedding but with the 'No talking to the bride' line I'm more inclined to think its the groom. Besides, a wedding planner who can't spell?

Toujin C'Thlu
Community Member
3 months ago

Could be a family member trying to take control of the wedding, too.

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Leo Domitrix
Community Member
3 months ago

"Seramony"? "Must have $75 cover charge gift"? This isn't a wedding. It's a shake-down.

Arctic Fox Lover
Community Member
3 months ago

The next day: You have 35 emails. Subject: Canceling Subject: Sorry, but... Subject: Cancelling Subject: I Am So Sorry Subject: I Am Just Too Busy 30 more...

Downunderdude
Community Member
3 months ago

Wow. How can this be so offensive in so few words?

Deborah B
Community Member
3 months ago

I mean the first two are reasonable.... then it goes off the rails.

Nomadus Aureus
Community Member
3 months ago

I also agree with #5.

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StardustRainO8
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

I get the don't wear cream, white or ivory, but everything else is just over the top. Wow.

WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
3 months ago

Some points on this list are quite normal, but the majority of the demands is just insane and that's reason enough to avoid the crowd that's willing to accept them.

googlygoogly
Community Member
3 months ago

I’ve never been sent a list of rules and regulations before attending a wedding. Have you?

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GirlFriday
Community Member
3 months ago

And...I would not be attending their money grab day.

lara
Community Member
3 months ago

I think that, if it were me, I would suddenly discover that my car doesn't work.

Jo Choto
Community Member
3 months ago

My questions are, how can you be so fussy when you can't spell?

Aria Whitaker
Community Member
3 months ago

Well, to be fair...the couple are the ones that make the rules...the wedding planner is just the ones that notifies the guests of them....

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Rose the Cook
Community Member
3 months ago

What is with the restriction regarding hairstyles?

jamie1707
Community Member
3 months ago

I'd show up in the most outrageous wig I could find. Think Rue Paul.

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abby smink
Community Member
3 months ago

"on second thought, you can cancel my RSVP. Thanks"

Peter Breier
Community Member
3 months ago

seramony:D

Among Us
Community Member
3 months ago

Ok so the first few were ok and reasonable, like yeah come early so we don't have to waste time waiting, yes, put your hair up, that's fine, don't look like the f***ing bride, yes, it's not your wedding. What are the next ones though, don't "fave" a full face of makeup? Do you mean don't have? No recording, yes ok that's fine I guess. Don't check on FB? Why not? And these last ones are stupid. Don't talk to the bride? Seriously? You invited someone to the wedding and they can't even talk to the bride? Then what's the point? Ok the toast one is ok, yeah I guess but with 75$? So 75$ for attending "Commit sit down for over an hour"?

Cami
Community Member
3 months ago

This is the dumbest thing I've ever seen.

Katinka Min
Community Member
3 months ago

Ok, I do support rule 5 (if spelled correctly) and while I always assumed Nr 2 woudl be obviosu, this post shows that it isn't. But the rest? What the hell is this 'DO NOT TALK TO THE BRIDE??? And the entrance fee? I wonder if anybody actually came after this. I know, I wouldn't.

Deidre Snee
Community Member
3 months ago

I'm not sure I believe that an actual wedding coordinator sent this. Sounds more like it came from the bridezilla hiding behind "wedding coordinator" title.

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
3 months ago

all invited guest...ssssssss I asked people to come, said there would be food, said where we were registered, and told them gifts are optional - not required at all "Your presence is your present to us!"

A Random Panda
Community Member
3 months ago

The bob one literally means that if you don't want your hair in a ponytail, you have to get it cut.

Lisa Larson
Community Member
3 months ago

"Seramony"? "Acceptance"? Where did this person learn English? As for the "must come with gift 75$ or more....I'd tell them where to put it

Selena4life
Community Member
3 months ago

"seramony" I'm dying! 😵

Kat Hoth
Community Member
3 months ago

He needs a spell check, this is so unprofessional looking. Also, I've never heard of a wedding with a cover charge.

Louloubelle
Community Member
3 months ago

No?!! This can't be real, can it?

Analyn Lahr
Community Member
3 months ago

How did this person get hired in the first place? Also, those are stupid rules.

cybermerlin2000
Community Member
1 month ago

I wonder how many replied 'No'... Probably everyone

Marie
Community Member
3 months ago

So the bride is queen of England, right? Right?

Lindy Mac
Community Member
3 months ago

The hair requirements are laughable. It going to be tough on the guys especially...a bob???! And if you are bald ...well...forget going.

SHSL Hope Bagel
Community Member
3 months ago

wtf

Mumof1
Community Member
3 months ago

Dear Terry, As I am not allowed to seak to the bride, please tell her to shove it up her *****

Kimberly Brown
Community Member
3 months ago

Wedding in North Korea?

rachel carter
Community Member
3 months ago

This wedding planner has a lot of spelling mistakes as well as grammar issues.

Karen Loftus
Community Member
3 months ago

This can’t be real - it’s filled with spelling and grammatical errors. It’s unprofessional. It can’t be real.

Retro Dan™
Community Member
3 months ago

1, sure. 2, seems fine, 3's a little eh but I kinda get it, 4, hey grammar, but the point's valid, 5, isn't that just basic etiquette anyway? 6, uh...okay, sure, 7, maybe a little draconian, but 8 WHAT THE F**K ARE YOU SMOKING, 9, do you mean 'exceptions', maybe? And I'd toast with whatever the hell I want, which sure as balls isn't some overpriced alcoholic soda, and 10, I'm not paying a cover charge if I'm not gonna see tits.

Mangle the Fox
Community Member
3 months ago

the grammar.....smfh

Lynn Greene
Community Member
3 months ago

Greedy and stupid.

Amaranthim Talon
Community Member
3 months ago

I so truly hope she got a list of Hell no I won't be there-

Tina-Marie Tarrant
Community Member
3 months ago

If your Wedding Planner can't spell Ceremony, have or admitted, you might want to find another. This whole message is extremely distasteful, but who gave the Wedding Planner the Rules and Regulations in the first place? It's a wedding not a military coup.

Ann Collingwood
Community Member
3 months ago

'Seramony'? 'acceptance' - surely you men 'exeptions'...? ....and how dare you ask for a present which has a lower price limit?!

Flavia Slag
Community Member
3 months ago

Fave a full face of makeup....Fave? No makeup? Can I wear my bathrobe and slippers? Should I brush my teeth? Maybe no shower? Did anyone show up to this wedding? PS I would make it a point to talk to the bride.

Lee Hill
Community Member
3 months ago

yeah, I like to clarify that you are a wedding planner with all the typos you have made

Faith Hurst-Bilinski
Community Member
3 months ago

You cannot spell "ceremony" or "won't" Your opinion is invalid.

Eulalie Grace
Community Member
3 months ago

WHO THE F'K COMES UP WITH THIS S#!T ?!?

Ashley Wright
Community Member
3 months ago

So many misspellings in wedding coordinator’s ‘instructions,” —how many mistakes is she going to make in her job? “Ali...” sounds completely ignorant. She also sounds like a Nazi.

Rebeka Terry
Community Member
3 months ago

d**k

CharliAnn Olney
Community Member
3 months ago

OMG the grammer!

elfin
Community Member
3 months ago

Easy choice. I don't want to be "admited" in.

Mary Hurst
Community Member
3 months ago

Wow!

Imperfekt
Community Member
3 months ago

I'd probably show up in bright luminescent white with full clown makeup, hair done up with ribbons and bows and super curly, carrying a long neck bottle of beer and a $2.00 bill as the gift and would immediately start chatting up the bride even if I had to yell across the room to get her attention.

Annie
Community Member
3 months ago

Definitely not a wedding I'd ever want to attend!

Lindy Mac
Community Member
3 months ago

I would immediately cancel plans to go with asinine instructions like that. No doubt agreed upon by the couple. There is a wonderful word for this: CHUTZPAH. To top it all off the wedding coordinator is illiterate.

madmickx
Community Member
3 months ago

Re-reading rule #3 - would it be o.k. for a lady to turn up naked with bobbed hair??

Marty BlackEagle-Carl
Community Member
3 months ago

that a wedding i wouldnt be going to.

Gabby N.
Community Member
3 months ago

the spelling and grammar mistakes make it even better lol

Ed Lesperance
Community Member
3 months ago

Guy needs an attitude adjustment

Luuta
Community Member
3 months ago

And shouldn't it be $75 rather than 75$?

Luuta
Community Member
3 months ago

And "if you want to be admitted", not or, not "admited". This has got to be fake!

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Stacy Robbin
Community Member
3 months ago

No “acceptance”

Abigail Kreiss
Community Member
3 months ago

Aside from the terrible spelling, the tackiness having to demand hair and dress codes would make me re-think even marrying into this group.Ew!

Lara Verne
Community Member
3 months ago

Do not come at all.

Sabrina Fisher
Community Member
3 months ago

please tell me this is a joke.

Michelle C
Community Member
3 months ago

So do we toast with the Remy or not??? since we can't accept it...or did you mean exceptions

Lululoohoo
Community Member
3 months ago

is this real? the spelling, the grammatical errors, the rUeLZ are a complete dumpster fire.

LRevello
Community Member
3 months ago

It's the entitlement and TOTAL disregard for spelling for me...

Sheanna Caban
Community Member
3 months ago

So many grammatical errors!

Jill Bussey
Community Member
3 months ago

This "wedding planner" needs to choose a different career!

I I
Community Member
3 months ago

really ? i asked my mates top bring them selves and nothing more , i choose to get married its their choice to bring a gift or not , can't be DEMANDING gifts ffs

Toujin C'Thlu
Community Member
3 months ago

I'd call the wedding planner and ask if they actually sent this out.

Cheryl Skina
Community Member
3 months ago

Use the stamp from the RSVP envelope for other mail...

Banjo Peppers
Community Member
3 months ago

1, 2, and 5 are pretty reasonable, though.

I Liquored On
Community Member
3 months ago

Who's Rémy?

Raine Soo
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

You're kidding right, with your handle?

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Nancy Jeckells
Community Member
3 months ago

K**b!

Yvonne Blau
Community Member
3 months ago

What does no. 9 mean, I don't get it. Otherwise it sounds like great fun!

Raine Soo
Community Member
3 months ago

Everyone toasts with Remy Martin French cognac fine champagne.

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jamie1707
Community Member
3 months ago

"rules and regs? Oh, come on! Terry Brown is awful at weddings.

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#20

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Downunderdude
Community Member
3 months ago

Hmmm. That's going to last...

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Hańka
Community Member
3 months ago

Horrible!

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Raine Soo
Community Member
3 months ago

COVIDiot.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
3 months ago

That's really sad. Animals aren't fricking decor

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
Community Member
3 months ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
3 months ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
Community Member
3 months ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Raine Soo
Community Member
3 months ago

This is a great example of "champagne tastes on a beer budget".

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
3 months ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
Community Member
3 months ago

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
Community Member
3 months ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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