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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

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Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

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4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Katy McMouse
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a class move. Hope their " attorney" shut down this entitled, ignorant pursuit or made way more in legal fees than the deposit this moron put down.

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Jo Choto
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Go back to the part where she says, "anyone who is so outspoken on matters that simply do not concern them," and cue MIRROR.

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blugeagua
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes....... "all" lives matter and that obviously includes black lives. Therefore you should have no issue supporting blm.

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Margaret Shannon
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If you really believe that, you would support BLM. We show the lives we care about by holding murderers accountable. Whites get justice, Black people don’t.

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Malakai
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the real kicker about this story though was the bridezilla saying "matters that do not concern them (Shakira)"....and the person in question is Black, if I remember right. A whole article about it was posted on BP awhile back

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Cheryl Fontaine
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh good, another racist, bigoted couple getting married who will no doubt breed and bring more trash like themselves to the planet.

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Laura Lawson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read about this one. Yeah, the bride's attorney told them they were out of luck. They signed a contract & just because they are racist arses does not automatically give them the right to their money back.

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Melody Lanzatella
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ROFMMMFAO!!!! Thats what they get! Now they can go on and live their lives as Mr and Mrs GOT THEIR NOSES WAAAAY TOO FAR UP IN OTHER PEOPLE'S BUSINESS!!!

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, new flash - you signed a contract clearly stating your deposit is non-refundable. So now you get to waste money on an attorney. Dumbass.

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Leisa K
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shakira is my heroine. Nice going, Lady! Especially the donation.

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Amaranthim Talon
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally get that the bride and groom are entitled to their beliefs. I also get that the vendor is entitled to theirs. The bride and groom DO NOT get to play cancel culture. That is not right regardless of which side does it. I believe that yes ALL lives matter- however, everyone's rights end where the other person's begin. So - sorry bride and groom. You are infringing on that vendor's freedom of speech.

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Jo Firth
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd love to hear the end result of this - did they sue? Hope so because they would lose.

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Joyous Cat Birb
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the wording of this (sorry) so can someone explain, please?

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Eulalie Grace
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look to the right of the bride's comment and you'll see the response from the venue..

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Vytas Navickas
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people need to understand that Black Lives Matter ALSO-not Exclusively! SMEH

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Mike Weber
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Quant
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t understand. She wrote that all lives matter. Why is that bad?

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elfin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ALL lives can't matter until Black lives matter. That's how "ALL" works. Their attorney can't unilaterally change a contract, so they are wasting more money if they try.

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Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That sounds like someone just trying to get out of a contract.

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The Upset Kitten
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one is just stupid. I'm a person of colour who does not support the BLM movement at all, but just because we have different opinions on things, doesnt mean we cant do business. It's a damn wedding...you can be the grand wizard of the KKK for all I care, just do your job at my wedding, mind your manners and opinions aside, it should be a blast. END!

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Marnie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, I don't like the Black Lives Matter movement, but I'm not one of those who dislikes it just because. I'm not an "ALL Lives Matter" person. I absolutely understand that it means, "Hey, a**holes, you have GOT to understand that black lives matter!" I get that. But the movement itself - their focus on shootings of black people by police with evidence that does not support that black people are killed at any higher rate than white people is deluded the US and the world. They are fighting against something that isn't a problem, and not focusing on the things that truly impact black people in significant ways. And they go about it by jumping the gun. ANY black person killed by the police and they are saying it was unjustified - even if it was, and/or even if they don't have all the facts. So, any black person killed by the police they think is wrong. (But it's only ever unjustified if it's a black person - and it's always unjustified.) But this person is not thinking that, so f**k her

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Ben Raines
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't support a business that supports Black Lies Matter, but yeah, it's too late after you sign the contract.

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TiaCalenture
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SOO dismissive and detracts from addressing racial inequality.

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Lindy Mac
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WOW, It is devastating that in 2020 we still have such holier-than-thou, egocentric, self-absorbed, despicable people living. I can't not wish them all the best...( sorry, NOT sorry)

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Mark Johansen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's almost as outrageous as a restaurant kicking a customer out because the customer works in the Trump administration, or a member of Congress calling for people to harass Republicans at stores and gas stations and anywhere they see them and tell them "they're not welcome here".

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Joseph Brzezinski
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While I don't support BLM, I could never do something like this...

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i get this post, and i am all for the idea behind BLM. i just with the organization wasn't a farce. I cant support the organization, but can support the idea that most people believe they stand for. https://www.heritage.org/progressivism/commentary/the-agenda-black-lives-matter-far-different-the-slogan

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

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Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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