Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
Community Member
4 months ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Peter Breier
Community Member
4 months ago

she s right

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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4 months ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

Bob Belcher
Community Member
4 months ago

Or 7

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Marcellus the Third
Community Member
4 months ago

Hey I came here for brideshaming not catshaming!

Katinka Min
Community Member
4 months ago

That one made me laugh. Poor bride...

Bengü Taşkesen
Community Member
4 months ago

No sane cat person would take their cats to a wedding, firstly out of concern for the cats.

Batwench
Community Member
4 months ago

Wow, I am a Mad Cat Lady (tm) but I would never tell a bride about what flowers she should use. Sounds like someone was looking to swipe on for a free floral display for her home.

Patti Smith
Community Member
4 months ago

Might be more fun to have the cats instead of this person.

Team Tokyo
Community Member
4 months ago

There might have been people that were allergic to cats at the wedding though...

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elfin
Community Member
4 months ago

I'm pretty sure the cats don't want to be at the wedding either.

Gerry Higgins
Community Member
4 months ago

Is the cat-lady her future mother-in-law?

Fieke Engelen
Community Member
4 months ago

I would love to hear the end of that wedding. So feeling for that poor bride

Leigh Hogan
Community Member
3 months ago

I mean, I'm feeling for her since stress caused her not to understand the florist has no interest in bringing her cats, but she's also so far off the mark, not comprehending that some flowers will require greater care and effort than others for the florist.

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IZama
Community Member
4 months ago

I've heard everything.

Cold Contagious
Community Member
4 months ago

My thought would be for the use of the flowers after the wedding. I'm sure most people like to take some arrangements home. I wouldn't want to immediately trash or not be able to enjoy my flowers for a time. You pay an exorbitant amount for them, you may as well enjoy them.

Cathy Proctor
Community Member
4 months ago

Instead of flowers just sprinkle kitty litter down the aisle

Gricelda Jacquez
Community Member
4 months ago

IT'S YOUR WEDDING!!!!!!!!!

Howard Moody
Community Member
4 months ago

My Ex and her new husband brought their dog to my son's wedding. Yes, he was at the ceremony (Not held in a church, thank goodness.)

K.
Community Member
4 months ago

I could only imagine the backstory.

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Thomas Turnbull
Community Member
4 months ago

It was because she may have caught the bouquet and brought it back home to the cats.

Lynn Greene
Community Member
4 months ago

Why not horses. They can wear their poop bags and it will be fine.

Lynn Greene
Community Member
4 months ago

Animals do not belong at a wedding. Oh, wait. Why not horses? They can wear their poop bags.

somnomania
Community Member
4 months ago

okay to be fair, if it's a severe allergy, she could conceivably carry home allergens

Michelle C
Community Member
4 months ago

lmao

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
4 months ago

Again..whats wrong with ppl?

Stannous Flouride
Community Member
4 months ago

Cats aren't too picky about who they mate with, much less care about the lesser beings' pairings.

Gehtdich Nixan
Community Member
4 months ago

Ooh, I'd love to have cats at my wedding! <3

Karen Lyon
Community Member
4 months ago

Cats? Really? I adore mine, but she stays home when I go partying. What the what...

Eulalie Grace
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

Yeah, and if this was someone talking about their dog - that would be not only OK, but downright "cute". And then you'd invite those doggies to the wedding. Speaking of wedding - dog weddings. Try that with cats and they'll send the Men In The White Coats to take you away. Or a Cat Birthday Party. Or dressing a cat in silly clothes. Dog People!

Arenite
Community Member
4 months ago

I’d rather have cats at my wedding than most people.

Minnie-me
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4 months ago

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this is why cat people suck

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Melissa TO
Community Member
4 months ago

Oof!

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
4 months ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
4 months ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
Community Member
4 months ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Oh. I thought it was a galleon in full sailing trim.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
Community Member
4 months ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
4 months ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Wolfowl
Community Member
4 months ago

"Some stupid virus?" PEOPLE HAVE DIED! IT'S NOT STUPID!

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#19

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

Seramony...argh(acceptance...admited...) I've worked as a proofreader before, and this is just so awkward to read!

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#20

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Fish Boden
Community Member
4 months ago

Awesome! There are seven more highly eligible bachelors, girls and boys!

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Emir
Community Member
4 months ago

Horrible

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Fish Boden
Community Member
4 months ago

F**k me.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

The chance that people might pour alcohol into the bowl didn't occur to their tiny little brains?

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
Community Member
4 months ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

'Requirement'? Would they check at the door?

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
4 months ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
4 months ago

So many not-brides in bridal dresses

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
Community Member
4 months ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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