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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

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Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

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4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

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This Is Terrible

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

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Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The chance that people might pour alcohol into the bowl didn't occur to their tiny little brains?

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Sent From The Slytherin House
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can understand goldfish. Because they would be cute. But you MUST TAKE CARE OF THEM!! A: no one wants to look at a dead fish and B: they're animals! they're innocent and when you signed up to buy them, you said you would take care of them! they cant take care of themselves, and if you cant either, give them a new home.

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Katy McMouse
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not only is this cruel and tacky, but who in the holy hell wants to watch a fish deficating while they're trying to eat?

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Nomadus Aureus
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only thing I can think of is that in some cultures goldfish symbolise good luck? Surely a dead one would be bringing misfortune?! Possibly in the form of a massive fine.

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Among Us
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't put them in tiny fishbowls. Fishbowls were only used as temporary placeholders for fish that would have lived in huge ponds in the Roman (I believe) times. People would only put fish in bowls to show them to guests, then put the fish back in the ponds. Animals are not decor.

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Britta B
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want to vomit. Seriously, I would have taken all the fish bowls and saved the poor fishies.

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Karen Loftus
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ffs, this should be illegal! Any coordinator, venue, or bride caught doing this should have to pay a hefty fine and do community service in a highly visible are with a shirt saying, “I was cruel to animals.” Then they should be banned from keeping pets for life.

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Mumof1
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe that there are people who actually believe this is OK - IT ISN'T!!

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scrappyrat
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Animals shouldn't be used as decor, party favors, or heck even bought and sold as commodities. They aren't objects. They are sentient beings with friends, hopes, and families. Yes, fish too. (Give the book "What a Fish Knows" a read for the behavioral science of it all.)

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IZama
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is HORRIBLE. They should be charged with animal cruelty.

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Marty BlackEagle-Carl
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

animal cruelty, i would of rescued them all that i could. f**k my cousin.

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CultOfBambi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree using any animal as decor is absolutely wrong I just can't get past the comment about the fish "mostly all gasping for air"... I mean, that's not how fish work. ;)

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elfin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I absolutely agree that animals should not be used as props for any event, but note that it is normal for goldfish to gulp in air from the surface of the water.

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Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister used Betas and they were fine. Mine live 7 years, but she went to a pet store and hooked the pet store up with the florist to make sure it was a safe environment for the fish

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I I
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

bowls not big enough for the fish , couple of hours tops

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Sarah Tate
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father's law firm had a summer party at our house one year when I was home from college. I don't know who the caterer was or why they did it, but they had a live Beta fish in a bowl as the centerpiece for each table. I made a point to ask what was going to happen to the fish after the party, and apparently they were just going to flush them!!! I was SO angry. Unfortunately I wasn't able to save them all, but I called around to some friends and managed to find new homes for a bunch of them. And one of them became mine. :) His name was Blue and he was an awesome fish - he went back and forth to college with me for years. Stupid-ass people who think live animals are decorations shouldn't be allowed to buy them!

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Shinomi Chan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean, a big ol' aquarium would make sense (given the fishes are treated well and taken care of) but Jesus Christ. Why???

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Luuta
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disgusting. They should have gone with the puppy idea, instead.

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Naomi Armitage
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes they make centerpieces and favors for the guests to take home. Maybe they thought guests would fall in love with the cute little fishies and take them home with them? ("Oh, look at this great party favor I got from Suzie's wedding!!")

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Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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