Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
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Photographer Shaming A Guest
Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...
The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
Real Life Soap Opera
Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know
You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.
Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!
Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!
We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money
We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.
A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....
Do Not Talk To The Bride At All
Gahhh This Is Bad
Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
Wedding Guest Shaming
Yikes Yikes Yikes
The chance that people might pour alcohol into the bowl didn't occur to their tiny little brains?
I can understand goldfish. Because they would be cute. But you MUST TAKE CARE OF THEM!! A: no one wants to look at a dead fish and B: they're animals! they're innocent and when you signed up to buy them, you said you would take care of them! they cant take care of themselves, and if you cant either, give them a new home.
Not only is this cruel and tacky, but who in the holy hell wants to watch a fish deficating while they're trying to eat?
The only thing I can think of is that in some cultures goldfish symbolise good luck? Surely a dead one would be bringing misfortune?! Possibly in the form of a massive fine.
Load More Replies...Don't put them in tiny fishbowls. Fishbowls were only used as temporary placeholders for fish that would have lived in huge ponds in the Roman (I believe) times. People would only put fish in bowls to show them to guests, then put the fish back in the ponds. Animals are not decor.
Yep, toy fish or even a screen display showing fish.
Load More Replies...Ffs, this should be illegal! Any coordinator, venue, or bride caught doing this should have to pay a hefty fine and do community service in a highly visible are with a shirt saying, “I was cruel to animals.” Then they should be banned from keeping pets for life.
Animals shouldn't be used as decor, party favors, or heck even bought and sold as commodities. They aren't objects. They are sentient beings with friends, hopes, and families. Yes, fish too. (Give the book "What a Fish Knows" a read for the behavioral science of it all.)
animal cruelty, i would of rescued them all that i could. f**k my cousin.
While I agree using any animal as decor is absolutely wrong I just can't get past the comment about the fish "mostly all gasping for air"... I mean, that's not how fish work. ;)
It is heart breaking, it's a fish struggling to survive.
Load More Replies...My father's law firm had a summer party at our house one year when I was home from college. I don't know who the caterer was or why they did it, but they had a live Beta fish in a bowl as the centerpiece for each table. I made a point to ask what was going to happen to the fish after the party, and apparently they were just going to flush them!!! I was SO angry. Unfortunately I wasn't able to save them all, but I called around to some friends and managed to find new homes for a bunch of them. And one of them became mine. :) His name was Blue and he was an awesome fish - he went back and forth to college with me for years. Stupid-ass people who think live animals are decorations shouldn't be allowed to buy them!
I mean, a big ol' aquarium would make sense (given the fishes are treated well and taken care of) but Jesus Christ. Why???
Sometimes they make centerpieces and favors for the guests to take home. Maybe they thought guests would fall in love with the cute little fishies and take them home with them? ("Oh, look at this great party favor I got from Suzie's wedding!!")
Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day
“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”
Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.
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$250 Min Gift To Attend
Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time
No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”
I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?
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My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies...I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies...Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies...The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies...We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies...Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies...I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies...I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies...Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies...The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies...We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies...Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies...I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read