30 Weddings That Got Shamed By This Online Group
Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
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Imma Use This One Sometime
Dude should have hoped in the plane and flown as far away as he could from this girl.
My hubby proposed while I was sweaty, in eyeglasses, wearing bike shorts, and cramming for exams... in my dorm room. It's the marriage, not the wedding'/ proposal, folks!
This stinks of the idea that the proposal is all about her and what she can brag to her friends about later. A proposal should be a special moment between two people rather than an event which makes one (or both) parties feel like a celebrity for a fleeting moment.
He should have gotten on that plane and put as much distance between them as possible. As for the benefits...greedy harpie.
Well, there's definitely WRONG places... like proposing to a very private introvert right in front a large crowd with everyone watching. Or proposing to someone romantic, who envies people with showy proposals, by the toilets of a rest stop. If you don't have the awareness or respect to factor in your partners basic desires when proposing, you probably shouldn't get married anyway. It shouldn't require mind reading, though.
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You love him so much that you rejected his proposal because it was incorrect.
It took me a while to figure out "BF" doesn't mean "BoyFriend" and certainly not "BestFriend" to her, but something closer to "BattleField".
I'd say he is forewarned of her "standards" and how he is required to conform. Good luck buddy, I hope you can hang in there - or get out unbloodied.
Would be a nice ending to the story if he took her to the sea food restaurant and broke up with her.
I do not see this marriage lasting. He's obviously proud of what he does and all she can do is sh*t all over it.
She's clearly disappointed in the first proposal, as he didn't seem to put much thought into what she would find romantic. This story should not be made public, though. Just ignore the first attempt, then only speak of the second one on social media, if you must.
That's not the point. Being proposed to should be the romantic thing, in (nearly) any venue. My husband proposed to me at my house next to a new Weber (showing he would be a provider).
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She was being so ridiculous the fact he got the nerve and courage to propose at all takes balls
What kind of woman is she? Good God the man loves her and asked her to marry him and that's not enough? I feel sorry for him, it's going to be a sad life.
She don't deserve him. He is a man in uniform!!!!!! Dump her!
What a self centred horror she is. He needs to walk away from her (Quickly)
Love her comment, also I hope he breaks up with her before they tie the knot, ugh.
Too bad the guy didn't see that huge red flag she was waving in his face.
The plane might be handy for the groom so he can get away from her quickly.
That's pretty pathetic to be embarrassed about that. He's in the Air Force for heaven's sake! Grow up lady.
Setting herself up for a me-me marriage. :( I've been on my own for 26 years. Anyone is welcome to propose to me anywhere!
I am going to pinch this one, a tall drink of dumpster juice is so fitting!
WHAT THE HELL?! At least he had to decency to propose to you, you entitled jerk
WHAT.? You are saying, he didn’t propose to you in the place you choose? Wow! What a true moron and, snob, to say the least! Sounds like you only love yourself and, I truly hope he did not marry you, since you are a very petty and selfish perso!
He should run - run far, run fast. I know someone who dealt with this very thing - the woman wanted the man to propose to her in a VERY particular way - right down to how he asked her to marry him, where, what day, what time of day, etc. It was just the tip of the iceberg in how controlling and manipulative she really was - they got engaged but then he broke it off because of her behavior.
Good God, I wonder if he's as dumb as she is.... it's the only way the marraige could work.
The poor fool must really think he loves her if he was dumb enough to ask again...
Wow, if my girlfriend publicly complained about how I proposed, I think I'd be saying, "Oh, sorry, have a nice life".
What a jerk! She is dumpster juice! If I was that guy I wouldn't propose to her at all!
That’s a bitch move, i would love to get engaged in front of an airplane
If I were him, I'd say sorry, I'll do it better, as he did....but then never do it because f**k her.
Lady, he should take back the proposal-you. are. a. KAREN!!!!!!
Her current address, somewhere in a land far far away from reality.
What a b**ch! She is lucky he proposed at all, much less proposed twice
Fussy pants! I'd have told her I'd changed my mind. (He must be a bit of a wimp....)
Yeah, that marriage will work out. At least she will get "all the benefits". Poor guy
Boy, I bet that 2nd proposal came as a complete shock. This guy shouldn’t walk away from her. He should run like a bat out of hell.
I'll give it about six months before Karen whines, "You just go tell them that you can't go there. You tell 'em too that I don't want to stand in line anymore behind those slutty servicewomen." He'll be volunteering for a lot of remote tours.
The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.
Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!
Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!
We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money
We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.
A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....
Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
Wedding Guest Shaming
“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”
Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.
Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit
Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time
No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”
I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?
Note: this post originally had 63 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes.
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
It was but at least we won’t have to stress about getting everything organised just yet :) We’ll be keeping it small and low cost if possible. Neither I or my partner are into huge displays plus I have my daughter helping me design and make my own dress. Plenty of time :)
I just want to say that I LOVE that you have your daughter involved in designing and making your wedding dress. That is just so special.
If only more couples had your sense. Wishing you all the best!
I'm with you. My husband and I had a small wedding with 4 guests and the officiant back in june. We wanted to get the benefits process started since I am a disabled Navy veteran and he needs to get health insurance but can't afford it. We plan on having the planned ceremony whenever Covid dies down enough that quarantines are no longer necessary and it is safe for my family to fly in from the other side of the country
My daughter and her fiance waited 3 years for her to graduate, and planned their wedding for this May. And no, they weren't conjugal in their relationship. If someone is "shacking up" with someone else I suppose it wouldn't matter and they could wait for the time of the big party to be safe. Instead, my daughter and her groom sent sorry notes to their guests and just had his mom and me as witnesses. The party will be next May.
Same, we were supposed to get married in June but we've indefinitely postponed it.
I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
That’s a fun idea!
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
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STFU Westwing! This has NOTHING to do with politics. Stop bringing it in to conversations where it doesn't belong. Get over yourself.
Mama Panda lol
Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Normally I wouldn’t mind criticism of the US, but having an extravagant wedding with lots of “rules” is not even remotely an exclusively American thing. There are many many cultures with elaborate wedding traditions. The majority of weddings in the US are actually quite tame by comparison.
Sorry, of course you are right! It is just because this is what we see on TV a lot of the time and sometimes might forget that this is not the real world! I will change my post!!
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
You should have left out the words in the parenthesis! There are over 328 million people in the US and you decide to include us in your analogy based on what you have seen here and on reddit. The reason these psychos and bridezillas are brought up are because they are NOT the norm. If it was the norm, no one would give a s**t about what they are doing. Stop preaching to a choir that isn't even singing the same song as you.
Alright, I am sorry to have based my opinion on what I see very often on TV, series and other media...
Upvoting you here and your above "not political" comment. Welcome to the real world of Social Media.
The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
lol trueee
That is so sad :(
Isle_of_stressed_pilots easy
Funny how covidiots constantly confuse respect with fear.
I can understand all the bridezilla stuff, bad behaviour, other people wearing white etc. And some can be called bad taste without any doubt. However there are several which simply contain humor that is not universally shared.
What the heck
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
Gods, I hate people!
Yiiii🌈iiikes
My eye is twitching slightly from the errors in this.
I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
rip me lol
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Yay, another woman-shaming thread!
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
It was but at least we won’t have to stress about getting everything organised just yet :) We’ll be keeping it small and low cost if possible. Neither I or my partner are into huge displays plus I have my daughter helping me design and make my own dress. Plenty of time :)
I just want to say that I LOVE that you have your daughter involved in designing and making your wedding dress. That is just so special.
If only more couples had your sense. Wishing you all the best!
I'm with you. My husband and I had a small wedding with 4 guests and the officiant back in june. We wanted to get the benefits process started since I am a disabled Navy veteran and he needs to get health insurance but can't afford it. We plan on having the planned ceremony whenever Covid dies down enough that quarantines are no longer necessary and it is safe for my family to fly in from the other side of the country
My daughter and her fiance waited 3 years for her to graduate, and planned their wedding for this May. And no, they weren't conjugal in their relationship. If someone is "shacking up" with someone else I suppose it wouldn't matter and they could wait for the time of the big party to be safe. Instead, my daughter and her groom sent sorry notes to their guests and just had his mom and me as witnesses. The party will be next May.
Same, we were supposed to get married in June but we've indefinitely postponed it.
I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
That’s a fun idea!
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
STFU Westwing! This has NOTHING to do with politics. Stop bringing it in to conversations where it doesn't belong. Get over yourself.
Mama Panda lol
Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Normally I wouldn’t mind criticism of the US, but having an extravagant wedding with lots of “rules” is not even remotely an exclusively American thing. There are many many cultures with elaborate wedding traditions. The majority of weddings in the US are actually quite tame by comparison.
Sorry, of course you are right! It is just because this is what we see on TV a lot of the time and sometimes might forget that this is not the real world! I will change my post!!
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
You should have left out the words in the parenthesis! There are over 328 million people in the US and you decide to include us in your analogy based on what you have seen here and on reddit. The reason these psychos and bridezillas are brought up are because they are NOT the norm. If it was the norm, no one would give a s**t about what they are doing. Stop preaching to a choir that isn't even singing the same song as you.
Alright, I am sorry to have based my opinion on what I see very often on TV, series and other media...
Upvoting you here and your above "not political" comment. Welcome to the real world of Social Media.
The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
lol trueee
That is so sad :(