Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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1 month ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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1 month ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Vorknkx
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1 month ago

Hold on a second... they have a "wedding website"???

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
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1 month ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
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1 month ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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1 month ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Full of Giggles
Community Member
1 month ago

A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.

Lana Jig-maker
Community Member
1 month ago

that's gotta be on an episode of Dynasty, or Melrose Place...one of those shows.

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Jo Choto
Community Member
1 month ago

I would pay all the guests to go up to her every five minutes and exclaim, "Oh my goodness. It's your wedding day TOO? Congratulations. Where's the groom?" I figure after an hour of that, she would leave.

Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Oh. I thought it was a galleon in full sailing trim.

Theodore Theodora
Community Member
1 month ago

No need to fat-shame. Enough to shame here without stooping to that.

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GirlFriday
Community Member
1 month ago

When my cousin got married, her mother-in-law did this. The MIL went out and bought a wedding gown and wore it to the wedding and insisted on having photos taken without the bride.

Toujin C'Thlu
Community Member
1 month ago

I've read about some MILs doing this. It's rather creepy if you think about it...

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Iris Wolfie (づ ◕‿◕ )づ
Community Member
1 month ago

Lady, if you're so desperate to get married, MAYBE don't wear a bridal gown at a wedding WHERE YOU ARE NOT THE BRIDE!!!1

NMN
Community Member
1 month ago

If I had had a fancy wedding I wouldn't mind someone using that, but that's just me

Eulalie Grace
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Yeah, but go to a professional and have it dyed another color.

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Max L.
Community Member
1 month ago

Always panicked not to be elegant enough at marriages, ended up asked if I was the groom

Paizleypie
Community Member
1 month ago

SOMEBODY just can't stand not being the center of attention. For SHAME!

lara
Community Member
1 month ago

If I were the bride, I would have walked up to her, in front of everyone, patted her on her shoulder and say, as loud as I could "Oh, yes, I understand. Do you want a bouquet, too?"

Marcellus the Third
Community Member
1 month ago

Was it a ghost haunting the venue? Groom's ex? What? We should be told more details.

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
1 month ago

What kind of attention whore does that? A friends stepmother (attn whore) did that at her sisters wedding. Luckily, she was spotted getting out of the limo she had rented and stopped at the door. She was informed that if she wanted to attend the wedding she would have to go home and change into something more appropriate (45 minutes away) and NO, they would not postpone the wedding for her. The kicker? Her Dad was giving her away and was in the limo with this nutcase. He was heard saying, "I told you that was disrespectful. I guess I'll see you at the reception". She started throwing a fit & the Dad literally shoved her back into the car and told the driver "GO". She never did make it back for the reception, which I'm told was absolutely gorgeous. The bride didn't know anything about it until AFTER they got back from the honeymoon. THOSE are the friends you want at your wedding.

Valerie Anne
Community Member
1 month ago

Let me guess: she's either Mother of the Groom and she's the only one who will ever really be able to take care of her son or she harbors a secret love of the bride or groom

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Tell her she looks lovely and walk on with dignity.

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bunny
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Never wear white (or off white) to a wedding. Don't get near this. Never wear the style of dress with lace that might be used as a bridal gown. This is way over the line. The bride must always shine at her wedding. It is her day. It is absolutely a very long tradition that should be observed on such an important day for the bride. Somehow this person didn't know this. Or maybe they thought it wasn't important. They still made an awful faux pas.

Banjo Peppers
Community Member
1 month ago

Don’t wear white a wedding✨✨

danielw
Community Member
1 month ago

unless your the bride (or groom, or whatever.) Then, where whatever you want.

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Pacer Three
Community Member
1 month ago

I'm thinking Mother of the Bride

Christel Nellemann
Community Member
1 month ago

I do not care. Let her have her dress.

elfin
Community Member
1 month ago

I still don't feel it was shame worthy. That dress doesn't immediately strike me as bridal attire. It's something someone would wear to a wedding because they think it's pretty and festive.

Selena4life
Community Member
1 month ago

Probably the groom's EX

Mumof1
Community Member
1 month ago

What a fool

Ashley Wright
Community Member
1 month ago

Some people are so rude

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
1 month ago

AGAIN, what is wrong with ppl?

Kat Hoth
Community Member
1 month ago

How incredibly rude!

Donna Leske
Community Member
1 month ago

Wait, what? Was she the waitress? Back story please.

sabocat
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't understand. Are people shaming her for the dress? And why?

Aria Whitaker
Community Member
1 month ago

Did you just ask why people are shaming someone who had the gall to wear a freaking wedding dress to someone else's wedding? Seriously?

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Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

The dress has a train!

Sonika Schroeder
Community Member
1 month ago

I need her face.... Why not publicly shame her if she publicly showed up like that??? Hey, it's a chance you take!

Lisa Anne
Community Member
1 month ago

Poor girl. Obviously bought a gown before finding a groom. And doesn't she realize it's too small from her ta-tas smooshed together?

Lynn Greene
Community Member
1 month ago

Nice bedspread.

Eulalie Grace
Community Member
1 month ago

Maybe it's her old gown and she wanted to get more mileage out of it. Yeah, the red wine solution sounds like a great plan.

Nikki Hilton
Community Member
1 month ago

Is it the Mother of the Groom?

Laura Jones
Community Member
1 month ago

more than a bit OTT

Mars Lander
Community Member
1 month ago

Or possibly a failed attempt to make the statement she was supposed to marry the groom before he stepped out on her? There's a theme here... js

MCathenaE
Community Member
1 month ago

I would have told her to leave & not to come back unless she changed.

KT
Community Member
1 month ago

OMG what a nutter!

NWB
Community Member
1 month ago

Jesus no good!

Stephanie
Community Member
1 month ago

Dear ole mother in law...

Dorothy Parker
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

IMHO it's a ball gown, Oscar ceremony formal dress, not a wedding dress. But not appropriate for a wedding unless ball gowns were specified.

Ainsley Hallum
Community Member
1 month ago

If it was my wedding i would walk up to her and say "at least we know who looks better."

sabocat
Community Member
1 month ago

Seems awfully bitter.

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Gerry Higgins
Community Member
1 month ago

Is she a friend of the bride or the Opening Act ?

Osprey
Community Member
1 month ago

Ex-wife? Jilted lover?

Jonny Chevalier
Community Member
1 month ago

Maybe she was the mistress.

Sanne H.
Community Member
1 month ago

I would have felt flattered if anyone came to my wedding all dressed up like this. So I don’t see the problem.

స్టీఫెన్ ఆండ్రూ
Community Member
1 month ago

It's a fancy golden dress. It's clearly not a wedding dress; it's a culturally-appropriate dress. No-one makes a big deal about blokes who aren't part of the bridal party wearing fancy suits to weddings, let her wear a gold dress without passing judgement.

Viviane
Community Member
1 month ago

It's hard to tell the colour - lighting and camera can affect how colour is recorded.   While there's no law against non-brides wearing a white wedding gown to a wedding, it is considered rude. I realize it doesn't sound logical to tell men to dress like the groom, but insist that women not dress like the bride. There's a history of women wearing virginal white at weddings. I overthink these things too - I wore a green ballgown to my wedding because "White is for virgins. I've been living with the guy for ten year, who am I fooling?" Oh, and I look better in green. :)

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Isabella
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1 month ago

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IDGAF. Seriously. Who cares? I went down the aisley in navy dress, so if anyone would want to wear the white one - feel free to do so. Who cares?

Mama Panda
Community Member
1 month ago

I would guess the bride at this wedding cared. It is simple etiquette to not wear anything that remotely looks like a wedding dress unless you are the bride.

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Leo Domitrix
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1 month ago

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Ease up. She may have had no other formal wear.

LittleMissLotus
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1 month ago

It's pretty easy to go buy a cheap dress at the goodwill, or even borrow one.

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David K
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1 month ago

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What´s the problem? The dress is not white wedding dress, it´s a champagne shade ball dress. Also, how do they know that the bride didn´t talk to this person (maybe it´s her mother? Aunt? Good friend?) and they both agreed upon this dress.

Anne
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1 month ago

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Not the whole world thinks you can't wear white to weddings..

Foxxy (The Original)
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I personally couldn’t have cared less if someone wore white to my wedding but I would care if someone came in a dress that looks similar to a wedding dress like what is pictured. That to me is a big no-no.

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Sk FaiXan
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christians thinks their bride should always be the one to stand out on her wedding day, i mean jesus wrote this in bible its compulsory is it? or your brides feel unsecured!!!

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
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1 month ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
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1 month ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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MellonCollie
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1 month ago

Excellent reply to that BS.

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#19

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Hmmm. That's going to last...

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#20

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Hańka
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1 month ago

Horrible!

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

COVIDiot.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

That's really sad. Animals aren't fricking decor

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
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1 month ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a great example of "champagne tastes on a beer budget".

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
Community Member
1 month ago

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
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1 month ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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