Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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1 month ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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1 month ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Vorknkx
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1 month ago

Hold on a second... they have a "wedding website"???

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
1 month ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
Community Member
1 month ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Full of Giggles
Community Member
1 month ago

A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
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1 month ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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MellonCollie
Community Member
1 month ago

Excellent reply to that BS.

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#19

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Hmmm. That's going to last...

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#20

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Hańka
Community Member
1 month ago

Horrible!

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

COVIDiot.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

That's really sad. Animals aren't fricking decor

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
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1 month ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a great example of "champagne tastes on a beer budget".

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

Monday
Community Member
1 month ago

Definitely! How dare she do anything even remotely related to her own dreams in life when they so CLEARLY affect the poor bride's perfect wedding plans! /s

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Deborah B
Community Member
1 month ago

1) Congratulations, I am so excited for you! 2) Let's talk about what will make the bridal shower, hen night etc, pregnancy friendly, because you are one of my best friends, and I want us to share this special time in both our lives. 3) Please let me organise a baby shower. 4) Of course we will make an exception to our child-free policy if you are able to attend, and not comfortable leaving the baby. 5) If you aren't able to attend or need to resign from bridesmaid duties, we will completely understand, and hope that you will be honorary bridesmaid/with us in spirit/ witness our vows via skype. Not hard, if you stop being a self-centred bridezilla for two minutes.

MellonCollie
Community Member
1 month ago

Oh dear. Time for the pregnant friend to find a new best (non-toxic) friend.

Jo Choto
Community Member
1 month ago

No, you're not overreacting. You are WAY past overreacting.

Emir
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes

Wreathy
Community Member
1 month ago

This exact thing happened to a girl I used to be close to. She fell out with her best friend because the best friend dared to get pregnant and the due date was close to the wedding. 'She could have thought about the dates before letting it happen.' The kicker: this girl left her husband after 18 months of marriage for the guy she was sleeping with...

Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

Be happy for your pregnant bridesmaid, as I am sure she is happy for you.

Anna roberts
Community Member
1 month ago

Anyone want to go kidnap the poor groom until he comes to his senses and RUNS?

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Donna Leske
Community Member
1 month ago

Note to all of my bridesmaids; no one is to have any sexual contact including invitro for 10 months before My Wedding Day. Make it 11 months if you're already chubby or suspect you can't get the prego weight off by The Big Day. Love you all lots, but don't be lovin' anyone else, Bridezilla

Leo Domitrix
Community Member
1 month ago

She'll need one to hold her train and ten to hold her ego.

Srene
Community Member
1 month ago

You have to wonder just what kind of upbringing these brides had...

Torchicachu
Community Member
1 month ago

you dont *just* find out you're going to have a baby and have it a day later. you find out a few months before at least

Jennifer Crompton
Community Member
1 month ago

I agree that wording is awkward and confusing. But, I think at the time of the post, it's 7 or 8 months til the wedding and the bridesmaid is newly pregnant with a due date right before the wedding date.

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I I
Community Member
1 month ago

get pregnant to avoid a wedding hhhmmmmmm thats a tough one , go to a wedding that lasts a day , have a baby that lasts a life time hmmmmm decisions decisions

Lindy Mac
Community Member
1 month ago

I I : Well, according to the bride...she made the wrong decision! 😱

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Nancy Jeckells
Community Member
1 month ago

psycho

jamie1707
Community Member
1 month ago

what a bitch.

Inquiring Mind Wants To Know
Community Member
1 month ago

I know!!! You could throw the baby away instead of the bridal bouquet...If she’s a good friend sure she wouldn’t mind… Just be sure that you put it way over your head and throw it in back of you because you wouldn’t want to drop it

danielw
Community Member
1 month ago

that's a lot of commitment to avoiding a wedding... I mean, the easy way to dodge it is to crack ball and chain jokes.

Viv Hart
Community Member
2 weeks ago

No 'Congratulations on the baby you've been trying so long and hard for!' ?

serge
Community Member
3 weeks ago

So you feel she got pregnant not to be your bridesmaid? Bringing a human being into the world to piss you off is a whole new level of hate.

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't like you burnt toast.

Jaybird3939
Community Member
1 month ago

Didja even congratulate the new Mom to be or is it all about you and how you feel like you'll be inconvenienced for ONE DAY OF YOUR LIFE!!

Dave Emilio
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes

Mumof1
Community Member
1 month ago

Yep, just a little bit, selfish B***

Karen Loftus
Community Member
1 month ago

You’re overreacting. When it’s said that ‘it’s the bride’s day,’ they don’t mean literally. Life goes on for other people. Grow up.

Thomas Turnbull
Community Member
1 month ago

What a stupid future Bride

Lynn Greene
Community Member
1 month ago

Well said, Downunderdude. The bride-to-be is ridiculous.

David Herz
Community Member
1 month ago

yeah, why don't you have her bring the baby to the wedding in an incubator? That way it won't disturb your holy ceremony and stay safe at the same time.

Annette Rainbow
Community Member
1 month ago

YES you are overreacting, (just a heads up), look words up if you don't know how to use them, or at least how to spell them. I doubt that your friend who was trying to have a baby, did it on purpose, be happy for her. I am sure she didn't want to upset you. Give her space and have one of your other friends ready to step in. If she has the baby before you get married I am sure one of the grandparents would look after bub for a few hours, and that way she can celebrate with you. Give her some credit, I doubt that she would be saying, "what a great way to get out of going to the wedding", she is your friend be happy for her, stop making her feel bad. Lets face it bring life into this world is hard, and having trouble falling pregnant, she would feel bad, but hey you could always move the wedding date, lol just joking.

Faith Hurst-Bilinski
Community Member
1 month ago

Since you are the first person to ever get married we will be sure to make this an extremely unique and special day. Of course, all newborns will be sacrificed to your image. That goes without saying.

Ashley Wright
Community Member
1 month ago

You’re a real peach of a friend. Not really. Hope your friend sees your post and exits the friendship

Robert Miller
Community Member
1 month ago

To quote Dr. Phil :"It ain't about you !"

Luuta
Community Member
1 month ago

Did you know that 3 million unwanted pregnancies happen each year so women don't have to attend the weddings of their best friends? And 90% are aborted when the bride shames their selfishness. True fact.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
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1 month ago

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
Community Member
1 month ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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