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There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.

And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.

The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.

Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.

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Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"

Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"

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It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic

It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.

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No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.

To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.

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You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit

You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like your hair, you can't be a bridesmaid! More Narcissist.

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Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence

Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence

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Francis
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"

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Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free

Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Censors failed, Scott should be in prison. EDIT: dark topic but my first comment with more than 100 uppies.

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It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.

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Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition

Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition

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Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down

Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have stayed, and shot awesome pictures of this brawl. Memories for a lifetime.

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Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband

Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The s**t you have to put up with when your mother-in-law is also the sovereign of the largest empire the world has ever seen… 🙄

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A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.

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I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This

I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This

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Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!

Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is a great idea! And her description of the 'wedding naffness' was hilarious

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#12

With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies

With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She tried to sabotage the wedding and OP's life, no way should she be allowed anywhere near the wedding.

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But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?

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Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.

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Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts

Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poor horse. If done properly it shouldn't have harmed the poor beastie.

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#14

Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White

Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White

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Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture

Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture

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Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”

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From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited

From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited

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Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding

Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding

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Katarzyna Gratka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.

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“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.

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Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding

Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looks like they rummaged through the florist's bin for the bits stripped of the wedding bouquet flowers

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#20

Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!

Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!

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Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding

Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding

Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis

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Helen Waight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.

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Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It

Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too

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#23

Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago

Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago

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What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!

What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!

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A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months

A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months

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From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes

From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes

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1 year ago

those shoes are a bad choice... but not as bad as the dress...

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Jen Berry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am not a strong enforcer of the not wearing white to a wedding thing, especially summer, as long as the outfit is clearly not a wedding dress nor could be mistaken for one. This dress might be okay if there were some pops of color added to it, but its definitely on the edge, perhaps the combat boots were her way of trying to make the distinction obvious?

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Sunny Day
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm going to "assume good intentions" here, and guess daddy met stepmom online, she's from another country, and she's much younger than he is. She's probably not familiar with our customs and thought "wedding = white dress, right"?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know I have already made that comment but if it is not consider "nice" for another woman to wear the same colour as the bride is wearing, is there any such restriction on men attending the wedding not to wear the same colour as the groom does

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Maggie Hood
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care about the color, but it looks like a wedding dress. That's just bad manners and probably malicious to make it so she's confused for the bride instead of the actual bride. People are so weird.

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Autumn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, if someone wore white to my wedding they would either get kicked out or have something tactfully spilt on them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See, if someone had worn white to my wedding I wouldn’t have noticed (someone may well have worn white and I didn’t notice). I was too busy having fun and seeing all the beloved friends and family faces to notice their clothes 😂. But I get it - everyone’s got a thingy that bothers them.

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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thought it was a kid from previous marriage, then I read the title.

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SilverSkyCloud
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the groom shouldve got his balls out of mommy's purse and kicked her out the second he saw her

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, a smart choice of shoes, because by choosing that dress, she was also choosing to be made to take a long and thoughtful walk back home.

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Lianna Bolt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those boots are worse than white lace dress. Looks like she just hopped off a hog.

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Kelley Baltierra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And just how young is the stepmom? She's short and dressed like a teen with bad fashion sense

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Irene Österlund
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Should have a black backup dress because it's about to be her funeral

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wonder if she thought "wearing white to someone else's wedding might be a questionable choice, so I'll wear these ungodly shoes to make up for it. "

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i read somewhere that it actually used to be the norm/tradition of MoB to also wear a white dress, i mean that could be the reason behind some of them doing so, i don’t think they’re all c**ts lol

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The stepmother looks more like a teenager. Especially with the choice in shoes lol

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Carrie Priegel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the groom's flood pants + major static cling over brown shoes, black slacks🤦 to those faux suede nightmares called "boots" worn with that dress. . . bride borrowed a floral arrangement from a coffin. No words 😳. . .

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Literally the shoes prove that she's making a power play and not a fashion statement

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Ambry Petersen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A simple white shirt with your colored skirt maybe, not an entire white dress.

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Nikki Sevven
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great aesthetic for a '90s-era grrrrl band, but not for a wedding.

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Robin Barber
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is the stepmom like 12 years old? Because even with the face blocked she looks like a kid...

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Paul F
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

FFS, enjoy the great parts of your special day, and celebrate the off-beat fashion style of your step-mum.

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Kate Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm telling you... mother in laws... I hope the bride is ready for the crazy she has to look forward to trying to cut the umbilical cord.

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Katarzyna Gratka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not understand this. The description of the picture is not connected with the description of the situation. And the short person in the photo looks more like a child than a woman.

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Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding

Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow 🤦🏻‍♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!

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A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited

A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.

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I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals

I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals

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Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash

Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash

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“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding

“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Epidemy :D (yeah, she meant epitome, but I got some hilarious mental images)

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Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses

Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses

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This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward

This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

people who associate marriage with being "caught" or "in prison" really shouldn‘t get married

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Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution

Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution

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From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer

From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why people don’t just have a smaller wedding if they’re struggling with the cost is beyond me…

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#38

My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding

My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding

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It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me

It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.

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My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding

My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding

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