“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Just Had To Shame These Weddings Online (New Posts)
There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
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Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"
It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"
Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
Sure, for $3,200. She can even wear her wedding dress if she wants to.
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts
Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
You're getting married and you "announce" to your bride-to-be that you'll do the thinking from now on? And you'll allow her to tell her friends? How generous of you. My present to her will be a divorce attorney's business card.
I was fine with it until it changed from „with friends” to „with the guys”, that says enough.
He wants to share his honeymoon with his friends. Great idea! It's good that he didn't invite them for the wedding night. What a jerk. Poor woman.
Maybe they can talk him into it. Don’t want to disappoint them!
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Way way back in 1970, I married a guy from a town about an hour & a half away from my home town. Wedding was at my family church, & we drove back to our rental house in his home town. 3 of his buddies followed us back & they all wound up staying at the house, drinking beer & smoking weed til dawn. On. My. Effing. Wedding. Night. I left him 18 months later & got a divorce. This bride needs to seriously think about cancelling the wedding.
Don't Marry this dude lmao, he's One of those that preffers to be partying with boa " Bros " than home in bed with his wife.
My wife and I tagged along with our friends on their honeymoon after they got married, we all had a blast. The problem here isn't going on honeymoon with friends tagging along, it's lack of communication and not treating one's spouse as a partner. That's not the kind of decision you can just "announce."
So "our friends" really means "the guys"? Wow. Good thing she found out where she stands in the pecking order before it was too late. But who's going to break it to "the guys" that your wife comes first? Your wife comes first, right? Right? Hello?
No, no, no. Do not invite friends/family to the honeymoon. Unless discussed prior and agreed upon.
Tell me you have a serious case of Peter Pan Syndrome without telling me you have a serious case of Peter Pan Syndrome.
YTA. If your friends want to go so badly, they can get married and go there themselves.
-_- this is so incredibly dumb. They know what honeymoons are for right??
A honeymoon is not for bro'ing out. It's to be with your new wife/husband and make some nice memories to start your marriage. The whole point is to be alone together. Plan a trip with friends another time.
It's a honeymoon not just a holiday. First thing you want to do with your wife after marrying her is hang out with your buddies? What 😂
YTA most definitely! You shouldn't even thought this was ok. When your friends got excited you should have said well let's maybe have a bro trip the next year. Then talk to your lady about having a friends trip the next year. Family and friends inclusive honeymoons are freaking creepy and weird.
Too late to give the guy advice on this as I’m certain the divorce or more likely annulment has already happened.
YTA. And also extremely lucky if your fiance doesn't immediately kick you to the curb.
This guy is an AH, or at least totally clueless. We took my parents, aunt, cousin, brothers and a bunch of friends on a massive road trip for our honeymoon and it was the best experience we could’ve had. But they had flown from all over the world to Australia so ditching them would’ve been terrible. I wouldn’t have changed a thing, it was epic.
And you’re absolutely sure your other half enjoyed it as much? 😁
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Might not have been intentional, but it really is inconsiderate. Unless it is something both parties wish to do, they have to come up with a compromise, like they chose another honeymoon destination at a later time and got to that particular place with friends, or something like this. It's not the end of the world to find a proper compromise, just needs communication 🤗
I think if he talked with the bride first about it it’s not the worst, but still not the point of a honeymoon. He is the AH but if he handled it differently maybe not the AH? Still not great though. Maybe if he suggested a couple weeks jsut the two of them, then their friends fly out later? Or vice versa?
My first husband brought friends over to our hotel room on our honeymoon to drink and play loud video games (without me) until dawn. I couldn't get divorced fast enough.
That should have been brought up t the fiance before bringing it up to the friends.
Just a tiny bit of AA. You were pretty darn insensitive IMO. Just because you think one way, does not mean that the entire world - and specifically your fiancée - see things the same way. If you had broached this with her as "just a thought" before even discussing it with your friends you would probably have gotten away with it. So, for the sake of your future marriage, LEARN FROM THIS BLUNDER and be more thoughtful and sensitive with your partner in the future.
If you consider going somewhere with another couple to spend some time together with people you know at the bar or beach..okay. But "taking the guys"?! Hell, no!
YTA. A trip with friends is a fun idea, but the honeymoon is not the time to do it.
This goes beyond "Tone Deaf" and right into "Cognitive Dissonance" territory.
You seriously have to ask? You don't invite OTHER PEOPLE on your honeymoon. WTF is wrong with you?
I'm glad they're not married yet--if he's gonna be this inconsiderate now, I can only imagine it's not gonna get better as time goes on. Hope she got out before he put a ring on it.
The lack of self-awareness of some people never ceases to amaze me. SMH.
I wonder how this one turned out? Where do people come up with these ideas? How does any of this make sense? He's THE AH 100%
If you don't wanna spend time, just the two of you, for the length of a honeymoon, that relationship is NOT gonna last. My sister and her first husband started calling family members 2 days after theirs started, to come and visit and we were all shocked. "Don't you two wanna spend time together? Just the two of you? After this you're gonna be busy with work and everything." Sure enough, they didn't last long.
I get his side 'a little bit' but def should've checked with the bride first
I love how by the end he still doesnt understand how this was inconsiderate. Aside from he shouldve asked her first. Which is good he figured that out after it was spelt out for him... but doesnt understand that.. hes going on a trip with his wife. On a honeymoon. And what he did was he took that... and considered his friends might want to come... and proceeded to not consider if it was even ok with his wife. And then proceeded to make plans with them.. and not tell his wife till after he already did it..
Wow... He's either that much of an ah or doesn't know what a honeymoon actually is. On the other hand this is a warning. Apparently, she is marrying all of them. She should ask if she is expected to have sex with all of them too.
I don't even need to read this, the circumstances don't matter at all. A Honeymoon is exclusive to the wedding couple, dumba$$.
Tell me you’re in your very early 20s without telling me you’re in your very early 20s
Dude, you knew beforehand that this is a place where all your buddies have wanted to go for a guy gathering for years. Why choose it for your honeymoon? Just YTA from the moment you picked this destination.
guys, chill. He made a stupid decision. we all make mistakes. stop being so harsh on the guy. for god's sake.
Stupid lol, this wasn't a stupid decision, this is colossaly dumb, and shows what type of husband he Will be, c**p if o was his bride the weading was off.
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Yes you're totally the a hole. This is your honeymoon not just a trip. Your wife to be should see this as a major red flag and not even go through with the wedding what nerve.Run girl run
Yep-YTA. So, maybe NEXT year for your vacay-maybe? That is, if she doesn't break it off this year.
I am afraid i don't understand how is it hard to "align vacation days" in the past but it's a whole lot easier to "align vacation days" sometime later
This idea kind of appeals to me, but it's not everyone's cup of tea and the guy is an idiot for discussing it with his friends without talking to the bride first.
I can somewhat relate to the bride a bit on this one. She might be afraid that you would spend more time with your friends than you do with her. She may have over reacted a bit on her end, but I could understand her being upset.
Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!
Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.
Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too
Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!
A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months
From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes
Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
Wow 🤦🏻♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!
A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited
I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.
I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.
My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
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I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
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Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies... Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
