“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Just Had To Shame These Weddings Online (New Posts)
There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
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Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"
It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"
Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
Sure, for $3,200. She can even wear her wedding dress if she wants to.
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts
Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!
Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.
Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too
Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!
A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months
From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes
Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
Wow 🤦🏻♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!
A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited
I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.
I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
Forced dancing. The opposite of Footloose. She might just said introverts not welcome.
Load More Replies...Apart from the "don't sit down" - girl, some people have health issues. Or just don't like to dance but still like the bride or bridegroom. It's a bit "obey, dance-monkeys" And bitchy, of course. Hell, how old is this bride, 13? Certainly not mature enough to marry. But that's the bridegroom's problem.
Is the issue that the person assumes everyone cares about their wedding as much as they do, because we really really don’t.
As for #14, as a wedding DJ, I can quirk my eyebrow at the DJ not taking any requests, but I would look at the Bride & Groom and say "Anything you want" cause it is their day. I also am assuming they have a very specific list of songs they do (or don't) want played. It gets semi-awkward to have to tell the aunt on the bride that I'm sorry, but there was a specific request NOT to play the Cha Cha Slide or the Chicken Dance, but I ain't gonna risk the wrath of the bride. EVER
You can always lie you forgot them in you other DJ deck 😆
Load More Replies...I don't understand several of those rules. Why not ask about the wedding? Because it stresses her out too much? Maybe she does something wrong, if she hates her wedding already. What does she mean by "it's not a reunion"? Does unplugged mean that no one may take pictures? If so, why tell people not to post anything? What could they post without pictures? You mustn't attend if you're not going to have fun? Maybe I don't know before, if you party is fun for me?
Maybe she's just tired of talking about the wedding or wants the details to be a surprise? It's not a reunion means that she's not going to invite every single person she was ever friendly with or every single family member just because they are related. Unplugged means no devices, so nobody should be chatting away on their phones, bringing a camera is probably fine. If you don't know you're going to enjoy the party before you go, then you clearly shouldn't be going. I knew I was going to have fun at my friend's wedding because she was my friend and seeing her happy makes me very happy.
Load More Replies...Numbers 9 and 12 are especially weird. Your guests are there to perform for you now...?
9 and 12 are kinda weird, like I get wanting your guests to enjoy themselves and in turn to help you make it a special day but being ordered to do so kind of takes the joy out it, no? Maybe saying "we hope you all have a great time and enjoy the day with us" would have sounded nicer haha
…What’s wrong with this? It’s just the style of their words that comes as rude
That is what's wrong. Can't people afford to be civilized anymore?
Load More Replies...The demand that you must drink, but not get drunk was just a little contradictory.
I have a problem with number 9 & 12 - I don't drink alcohol - how does the bride think it's okay to demand people to drink?! Some people have medical problems, some don't drink due to their religion or due to their own choice. As for dancing - I gladly would dance the whole night - if I were able to, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't have fun talking to other guests and enjoying the wedding.
I would hope the open bar would include soda pop or plain fruit juice.
Load More Replies...I feel like a wedding is just an excuse for some people to get a dopamine rush by sending out these demand letters in some kind of controlling power trip. Also, can we just talk about the placement of the dividers? WTH?
Here's hoping none of their family members have any kind of disability, or even a problem with alcohol, because they're going to have a miserable time…assuming they're allowed to attend, obviously!
Why would you send invites to people who don't like/ disrespect you? Who are you to tell people they can't sit all night? It doesn't mean they aren't having a good time
OMG. Didn’t read this and can confidently say that no celebration of a single person in my life is worth even reading their exhausting list of rules. Hard pass on the event from the title alone.
I love it. This describes EXACTLY my PoV - this is their day to be shared with loving friends and family. (My (first) wedding was like this - just people we wanted to share with - my sister's wedding was the opposite. That said, my marriage ended in divorce, my sister's is still going strong, so perhaps I don't have much of a clue.)
I hate this so much. I can't even find the words to express how much I hate this and just demanding lists of wedding rules in general. It's rude and entitled. Your wedding is your day but you don't own the guests. You're not doing them the favor of inviting them to your oh so wonderful event. They're doing you the favor of showing up and bringing gifts when they could be doing literally anything else and buying themselves a little something nice. I'm not saying it's wrong to set expectations or ask nicely that people do or not do certain things, but this is not the way. Why would anyone even go to this wedding?
3, 5, 14 and 15 are reasonable, 10 is good? (does open bar mean you must drink?), 11 is speaking for itself.
And what does #4 mean the ceremony will be unplugged and what that has to do with a photographer
I completely agree with almost all of these, but it seems kinda not the best way to go about things. The rules about "you have to dance" and "you have to drink", I don't like that, it could be forcing people to do things they aren't comfortable or aren't capable of doing.
Diplomacy has probably saved many friendships and prevented many fights throughout human history, so it certainly isn't a frivolous pursuit.
Load More Replies...What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.
My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
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I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies...Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies...Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.