“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Just Had To Shame These Weddings Online (New Posts)
There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
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Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"
It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"
The sister is a psychopath. She needs to be in sessions with a shrink. There is no conceivable way that could be construed as a joke.
My thoughts. Someone could make a fortune from the years this “lady” needs to spend on the Freudian sofa.
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I can not even begin to wrap my mind around how someone could do this AND how the family actually DEFEND her. The whole bunch needs serious help. ASAP.
She's probably pampered by everyone. There was another story here, about a sister asking for a $8k baby crib. This story has the same vibe.
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This guy's family is a bunch of psychopaths. She's not "a dumb kid", she's 20, she's absolutely capable of understanding which topics aren't a laughing matter. Also, their best excuse is "it wasn't her actual skeleton"? I'm sure it would be a criminal offence if it was.
Even if she were an actual kid... Most of my seventh graders would be able to understand how wrong this is.
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I remember this story from a while back. The bride also says that the sister always got to do what she wanted, and didn’t give a f**k about who it hurt.
I'll miss you Foxxy. You and Caro and a few others I've grown to love. I wish you the best with your life and I hope you figure everything out.
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I don't understand how everyone could be so nonchalant about it. Not only is everyone making excuses for her, but she refuses to apologize. Anyone else would but because she's being coddled she knows she'll get away with it. It sounds like she knew exactly what she was doing and people are just enabling her. It doesn't sound like she's 12 years old making a bad joke. Maybe this family doesn't like his fiancé since they are making no effort to admonish the sister and didn't go to the wedding. It's so sad because this will affect everything going forward from the relationship with the in laws to how the wife feels about going to their home forever. It's going to end up being a mess now. All because someone can't apologize (or not do something like that in the first place. And no one else can stand up and do the right thing and let this girl know what she did was wrong).
I can't believe how much we worship the "cult of family" that stories like these keep happening. Abusive fam member acts abusive,rest of fam gets mad when someone won't accept the abuse. Sounds like someone needed to stand up to her sooner.
I will be stealing this “Cult of Family” from here on out. Thank you.
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I'd probably go: What sister???!!! I have NO such sister and sure as hell ain't gonna allow a c**p excuse of a human being to my special day! And if the rest of you (family members) want to take her side, then I'll be happy to have a smaller but more compassionate guest list! Smh...
It's not just a "stupid prank". A stupid prank is when you impulsively pull someone's chair away when they're about to sit down. The skeleton thing took thought and planning ahead of time, and at no point in the process did that failed adult think "maybe this is a bit much"
I appreciate what you're saying but "pulling the chair" out on someone sitting down is NOT a 'prank' - that can cause serious injury, like the broken tailbone I got when someone was "just horsing around" & pulled a chair from under me. A broken tailbone is 1) untreatable, 2) extremely painful, 3) makes it very hard to walk, sit, sleep, or do anything. And depending on where a person lands, &/or their age, the injury could be a lot worse. Please reconsider what you think is a "stupid prank".
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Wow...sociopath much? Like, what's crazy is she's so oblivious to the impact of her actions and is trying to minimize it. She literally used someone's trauma as a prank!? Gtfo
I can kinda see why the sister thought that doing something so cruel was okay. If, the entire family, including older people like parents and aunts, defended her actions, to the point of actually skipping the wedding, they showed her she was "right" to behave that way. The groom seems to be the only one in that family who knows right from wrong.
Oh, heck no. Die on that hill. Let that sister go. I actually choked on my snack when I read that. What demented being would even think about this and then actually do it? That's like a horrific scene of the Joker from Batman doing something like that!
Ok I'm twisted and morbid and have a very dark sense humor but this is way out of line. That sister is just a piece of garbage and his family should be ashamed of themselves.
Yes, and this is far too often the problem with “Family”
Load More Replies... This is perhaps the most diabolical, sickest thing I’ve heard of someone doing to anyone! To the Groom, you are NOT THE A*S HOLE!! There is no excuse, no apology, that could ever fix this in my mind. I’m trying to put myself in the fiancé’s shoes but I’ve not lost a sister like this and no one I know would ever do anything like this. It’s obvious she has no remorse about what she did, nor is anyone doing her any favors by telling the groom to “get over it”! I’m proud of the groom but so sorry this has happened. The death of his fiancés younger sister doesn’t get funny as time goes by and I can’t in my wildest imagination ever begin to think what kind of a persons mind at age 20, could and would conjure up this mortifying scene. There are no other words I can think of that relate to how sick this is, and if I were the couple, I believe I’d definitely have to remove her from the wedding party. There are no explanations needed if they do.
My sister would have gotten her a*s beat for pulling some mess like that. That is just low down and dirty as hell. In the South (where I'm from) you don't talk about or do horrible stuff like this, especially when it's someone's family member. If you do, you might as well lace up your 🥾 and get ready to fight.
Everyone acted like the sister was 10years old. She was 20. An adult. WTF?
That is noy a joke nor a prank and them calling her (a TWENTY YEAR OLD) a "kid" its not like she was 6-10 shes an adult. Who should know better.
I attended a wedding for my uncle. I had a special place for his parents, both deceased, and her father who was also deceased. It was a framed pic and a white rose on a chair. This is respectful. A skeleton? No. Hello no.
I am appalled and offended that your sister would do such a thing. I teared up reading this. It's even more appalling that she seems to have the support of your family in spite of how this affects you, your fiance and her family as well. I hate to sound callous but I would ghost all of them, at least until after the wedding. No offense but your sister is cruel, entitled and jealous of your upcoming nuptials. She has been enabled by your family to the point where she thinks that this type of disgusting behavior is no big deal. Show them better than you can tell them by moving on without them. TBH your (fiance) did not display the full extent of her hurt out of consideration for you and your family. Now it's your time to consider her by showing your family that this sort of disrespect will not be tolerated. Stick to your guns!!! Failing to do so only condones your sister's BS. Congrats on your nuptials. Wishing you the best!
And as a side note, if your family does not come to the wedding, good riddance! I know it hurts. However They would only bring negative energy to what should be a beautiful, positive day full of love! Press on hun!
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Honest to God, I don't think I've ever heard of anything so despicable, so perniciously cruel. That is not a child; she is a 20 year old sociopath who is being enabled by an entire family except for one sane and decent brother. It sounds like he is marrying into a very kind family; his bride is certainly forgiving. He needs to embrace her and her family and keep his cruel family out of his and their lives forever. Stand firm, indeed! Now and in the future.
Without a real, personal apology from the sister I think everything else is irrelevant.
That was so so so mean! What wickedness! The "joke" unfortunately was not just targeting the fiancee but her entire family that had to deal with that loss. Standing firm on your decision to uninvite her is the first step to healing the hurt your sister caused to your new family. This cannot be shoved under the carpet. Actions have consequences. She did to hurt people but I guess she always got away with everything especially if she has everybody on her side. And if you haven't heard from her, she is so not sorry. If it was my wedding, she will definitely not be invited and I can safely say,I will not speak to her till she grows up and apologise to all of my fiancee's family. I am proud of you for standing your ground.
one the one hand, I've been on the fiancee's side, where someone was mean to me but I eventually forgive them, but someone close to me stays mad. it can be really annoying. but also if I were the person writing this, I would probably still be angry at the sister. and "prudence" has a really good point: it's YOUR wedding, you have every right to make it as safe of an environment as possile
Oh my goodness, that is sick and cruel, what is wrong with his sister
Woah! That AINT funny!! Ew! She doesn't apologize either! So wasn't a joke
If I were the bride I'd rethink this whole wedding. What a horrible bunch of in-laws she'd have!
Your sister is an evil p.h.u.k-wit. Good luck with the rest of your life with her.
What is WRONG with this sister? How unfeelingly cruel and heartless!
Having lost 3 siblings...I just can't...does this "child" torch mailboxes too?
Probably. She probably also tortures animals. Sounds like a little psychopath to me..
Load More Replies... It’s his wedding too! He doesn’t have to invite his sister if he doesn’t want to, and if his whole family boycotts the wedding over this, so be it. You just know the sister is going to behave badly at the wedding if she gets to go. Her feels are hurt because she got called out, and a narcissist can’t let that go unpunished, or let her brother and SIL have the spotlight to themselves for a day.
A foolishly hurtful person, with no real regrets, and a whole family of enablers. Dump the family !!
Sounds like if she could of dug her up, she would have! Shame on her and her enabling family!
The OP is the SOLITARY healthy branch in that totally toxic, narcissistic 😳 sociopathic family tree!! I would completely distance myself, period. A wedding is not worth further abuse. It's a wager Id win - a thousand times over - the couple is being set up for further humiliation and disgusting behavior and actions, at any related events to the wedding. That is one f'd up family, seriously, pure EVIL.
I don't think anyone would think that it was anything but cruel, but in the end the target of the "prank" was your fiancée so shouldn't it be her that has the final say (after you discuss it) in whether to forgive your sister or not. Perhaps a three-way face-to-face between you, your fiancée and your sister would clear the air and help everyone understand everyone else's point of view, but IMO it needs to be just the three off you and not any other family members. You could even make it clear to the rest of your family that this is between the three of you, and that they are both welcome and expected to attend regardless of the outcome of the three-way. Your sister sounds incredible immature - not just the "prank" but also the lack of apology - so a three way might go well or might go badly depending on how your sister reacts. But things couldn't get much worse so what do you have to lose?
No, I really think the fiancée/bride needs to know her man has her back.
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if ops fiancee and her friends beat the s**t out of that "kid" it wouldve been completely justified
What most people don't understand is that when you do something which angers, offends or hurts another person, you apologise for the anger, the offence, the hurt which was caused, usually unintentionally. You also apologise when and if you actually do care about the person and you want them to be your life and continue to be in your life. You don't put your foot down and insist you didn't do anything wrong even if you are sure of it. It's not about being wrong or right, it's about how much you care enough for the other person to actually do the right thing by them. Looks like the sister doesn't give it a s**t. And so is the rest of the family.
You are the good guy here standing up for your bride. Your sister was horribly cruel and made her point very vividly, that she has NO RESPECT for your soon to be bride. And she shoved the death of the bride's sister into everyone's face on what should have been a fun celebration of the upcoming wedding. Your sister is toxic and your family is afraid to call her out on her own s**t. Stand in your integrity and hold firm. This action was totally mean spirited and your entire family needs to own it. They should sit her down and straighten her smart a*s out instead of trying to say it was just a lame joke and get over it. Tell your family you don't want them at the wedding. They should have immediately offered your bride support and should have taken a strong issue with your sister..Start a new beautiful ife with your bride. She should be your priority and first concern. She does not need to start a life with you with people who are mean, cruel, and hurtful. she deserves better. Stay firm
His fiancé is better than me, i would've cleaned her clock right then and there. I'm sorry, my sister can't be here because she's recovering from reconstructive surgery after a rousing game of f#%k around and find out
That was in very bad taste! Wow why would anyone think that was funny
Everyone is going on about how stupid/cruel/sociopathic his sister is. There cannot be two opinions about that. But when everyone including the bride to be is advising to "let it go". Then that is what he should do. But he should tell everyone including his side of family as well as his in laws that this is something which he strongly despises and condemns and he is just forgetting and not necessarily forgiving and after the wedding he and his wife can decide whether they would have anything to do with his sister.
Stand your ground! The fact that your family can’t see how cruel that is blows my mind. What if the shoe were on the other foot?! It wouldn’t be so funny then.
As someone who has lost there sister, that is not okay and highly disturbing. The wedding is a special day for you and your fiancé. The rest of your family doesn't have a say in who is in it and who's not. You should be surrounded with the people who love you and RESPECT you. And most importantly, the ones who respect both of you and your choices. Stand your ground, even though your fiancé just wants to try to keep the peace, it's not going to work if you are not happy.
If the sister is saying to just "get over it", they're clearly not "very sorry". It's obvious that family lets her get away with c**p like this. She needs to learn her lesson. I get doing edgy jokes and all that, but that was clearly done out of just straight up malice and only passed off as a joke when people got too upset for her liking.
After giving extensive and heartfelt apologies in person to your fiancée she should be allowed to attend the wedding IN THE BACK, and certainly not as a bridesmaid.
Sadly, I don't think an apology will happen. If so, it won't be sincere. If she realized what she had done and that she was wrong she wouldn't have doubled down with the real sister comment. She still thinks she did nothing wrong. Maybe in the future she will understand but if at 20 she doesn't and with such an enabling family, OP shouldn't hold his breath.
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I say stand your ground. She sounds like an entitled peice of work. And tell your family that doesn't attend your wedding because she can't go that they are heartless and effed up and to not worry cause they won't have to see their future niece/nephew, grandkids, and /or cousin. They can all go screw themselves. Your future wife is trying to be sweet. She doesn't really want her there either. She just doesn't want to be the reason you and your family stop talking. Assure her that she isn't and make it clear to your family that it's you that has put your foot down. Your sister needs professional help and I wouldn't talk to her till she did. I cut my sister from my life because she treated my husband like he wasn't good enough, talked down to him, made him feel he wasn't good enough. Meanwhile she snorting powder in front of her small child, got her taken by CPS (got her back), and totally messed up her child's life by abandoning her at her ex-husband's ex wife's home. Like WTF!
Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
Sure, for $3,200. She can even wear her wedding dress if she wants to.
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
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Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!
Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.
Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too
Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!
A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months
From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes
Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
Wow 🤦🏻♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!
A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited
I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.
I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.
My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
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I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
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Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies... Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
