Bridezilla Asks Guests $1,500 Each, And It Ends So Badly That Even Christine Teigen Responds
Your wedding day, it can be the best and worst day of your life. Sure you are making a loving commitment to your soul mate, but the pre-planning to get this glorious occasion takes blood, sweat, tears and in most cases a ton of cash. Blushing brides turn into goblins and everyone around them must try and not get caught in the crossfire. One such special day bridezilla story was shared by Twitter user @0lspicykeychain, member of a “wedding shaming” group on Facebook, that delights in discussing the wackiest and elaborate of wedding tales. And if you thought that a toaster or a coffee-maker counts as best wedding gifts, wait ’till you see what this bridezilla asked for of her guests.
It begins with a story of two young lovers who got engaged at a mere 18 and sealed this bond with a “worth nearly $5k” ring. At 20-years-old their family grew to three with the arrival of a new baby. Like most couples, they wished to profess their love to one another in front of friends and family and started saving up for a wedding bonanza. The pair managed to save up $15,000, but after some consultation from a psychic (yes this story involves a psychic), they were told they should conduct the ceremony in Aruba. Destination weddings ain’t cheap, folks, and at an estimated average wedding cost of around $60,000 stormy seas were ahead. The bride wrote that she requested her attendees to help pay for the overseas soiree at $1,500 per head because that’s what friends are for right? To her dismay only eight guests RSVP’d, and our bride proceeded to have a break-down (to put it lightly).
Her fiance suggested a Las Vegas-style cheap wedding alternative, but the future missus would not be swayed. As you can imagine this wedding fiasco does not end well for anyone. With a story so amazing even the Twitter queen Chrissy Teigen had something to say about it. Scroll down below to see how this epic saga ended (hint: South America). (Cover image: iStock / Liquidphoto)
Weddings gone wrong – the premise of many great films, but, this story is not a movie it’s from a Facebook group that shares the wackiest TRUE wedding tales
One of these stories was shared on Twitter and is so crazy it’s gone viral. It is quite a long read but soooo worth it
Her ex-friends shared their horror about the Bridezilla situation before she deleted the post
Even actress and Twitter star Chrissy Teigen commented on it
Tons of people responded to this bonkers bride’s story with some hilarious commentary
The story could have ended at the point where the most important thing to mention about a proposal is the price of the ring. If you really love a person, a proposal should be about the proposal actually. If you say no because the ring is not big enough (or there is no ring at all), you are not worth it. Asides from that, I only feel pity here. This person likely suffers from some mental illness, possibly paranoia.
Mentally ill? Not so much. Entitled, snotty, obnoxious, narcissistic, stupid....yep.
Narcissism is mental illness. I think she has borderline personality disorder, too. She needs to be a princess and have others recognize how unique and special she is, or she wants to cancel it all.
@Goldencat; That was Elle bo bella, Attitude Goddess, Queen of the Most Expensive Chair in the House, The Girl Who Terrified Dogs..... She died of mesenteric lymphoma when she was 18. That was about 9 years ago.
Is that your cat ?
Ohh, wow I'm so sorry about that ! I hope she is happy in the world she is now in ! Have a great day !
Might be Narcissistic and Histrionic Personality Disorder
Narcissism is a mental disorder.
Is her last name Trump?
Narcism is a mental illness
Narcissism is a mental illness? Gtfo. It's a trait, and hiding it behind 'mental illness' only serves as an excuse for inexcusable behaviour.
... Or too much Kardashians !
...which might be similar in conclusion.
Hahaha! Yes! :)
No. Entertainment is entertainment. It is her as an individual who made stupid decisions and mentioned that TV show. She would still be just as stupid if she watched The Knick or GoT, which she probably does. I would bet money I’ve seen more Kardashian episodes than she has - I’ve seen every episode and would never act that way or be that dumb. Ironically, it’s the mark of true stupidity to blame a show for someone’s behavior. This reminds me of when 90’s era parents blamed Marilyn Manson for teen suicides and shootings. That’s how you sound, kiddo.
Agreed. My engagement ring cost 80 bucks and our wedding was under $1500 and that includes the gown and everything. We just celebrated our 23rd anniversary. Sadly, those who desperately want things beyond their financial means are destined to live an unhappy life of their own making.
I never had an engagement ring and our wedding bands were stolen about 1 year into the marriage...never replaced. Who needs to have a ring to show they are loved....
Carol, I lost mine when I was pregnant with my third child who is now 15 and hubby's broke about ten years ago. We never replaced ours, either. Just seemed like a useless expense.
True. But she's still very difficult to like in any way at all. Mental illness is not an excuse to be self centered, abusive, greedy and generally unpleasant.
Well, yes it is, because mental illness is what *causes* you to be that way. So few people understand mental illness. However, I still don't think people should be subjected to these crazy bastards and suffer them as friends just because they got the mental illness label. It's not a pass to let those people drag you down. People have to watch out for their own well-being. I had a BF with schizophrenia who refused to take his meds and was a paranoid dick toward me and I got out of it because sure, I felt bad for him, but he was ruining my life and I wasn't going to watch myself go down like that.
The only things this girl suffers from are entitlement and assholery.
I didn't even get an engagement ring and our wedding rings were about 300 euros combined, who cares, nobody can tell what it cost from looking at it
That's what I said!!
My parents were the same way. My Dad gave my Mom his mother's ring for an engagement ring - a ring that had huge sentimental value, but little actual monetary value. Their wedding rings were a pair of simple gold bands that they had engraved with their initials and their wedding date. That's it. Cost maybe $400 for the set.
That's really gross of you to assume she's mentally ill. Actual people with mental illness have a hard enough time in society without people like you just throwing stuff like that out there. Speaking as a person that deals with mental illness, by the way.
Hey Rachel, I have a sister like that! Agree with you regarding mental illness and not making assumptions that someone must be ill to be like this.
I can't reply to your comment Erica so I'm replying to mine. Yes I'm aware there are personality disorders. What I'm saying here is that it's unfair to throw out that she is mentally ill, as it can stigmatise people with mental illnesses. She could be perfectly fine, and just a rotten to the core spoilt entitled brat. It is not our place to assume the mental state of people as it's not their fault they are that way. My sister is a selfish, self centred nasty piece of work and she doesn't have any disorders. She's just grown up thinking that the world owes her shit simply by virtue of existing regardless of the values my parents tried to instil in us.
I deal with mental illness daily and I think that it is a way of giving her the benefit of the doubt, not an insult. It would make her a much worse person if she acted this way without it being caused by an illness.
Can we maybe quit diagnosing people with mental illnesses from our armchairs here? Like Rachel said, people with mental illnesses have a difficult time already, and conflating bad behavior with mental illnesses and personality disorders throws people with those conditions under the bus by association.
And I apologize..your sister does not have a mental illness, she has a personality disorder...still treatable though. Suggestion..let her spend a few month in the slums. She may appreciate what she has then. I know it's worked for some people I know. You have to treat people with what I call "privileged disorder" the same as an alcoholic. Let them hit rock bottom and they will sometimes snap out of it.
I am not assuming that a questionable character and a mental illness have anything to do with each other. However, the way this person perceives the world and the way she believes that obviously something was plotted against her gives it a taste of a loss of reality. It _could_ mean that she is at least prone to be not fully sane in the very meaning of the word. To which degree a person is an asshole and to which degree mentally ill is even for experts not always easy to guess if both fall together. And again, I am not implying that mentally ill people usually exert a selfish behaviour. In fact, I believe it often is quite the opposite.
The fact that your sister grew up thinking the world owes her shit by the simple virtue of existence regardless of what you or your parents do and that this outlook makes her a mean nasty person...that IS a mental illness. And psychiatrists will classify it as a mental disorder because a mental disorder is any behavior that doesn't fall with in the norm of human behavior. Some of it you are born with, some you learn along the way. Most are treatable and I expect at some point your sister will snap out of it when someone she really really loves rejects her for her behavior. And while I agree that this woman is probably not mentally ill (just a byotch,) she does have a personality disorder that needs to be addressed. You are comparing apples to oranges. Same area of mental health..different labels.
There is a whole group of mental illness that are called "personality disorder." People with personality disorder have a fundamental problem with reality testing, personal boundaries, and maintaining mood stability. This doesn't excuse their behavior, but it helps get some insight into it. These people are treated with a combination of medicines and Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It is a life long condition. As long as they work on themselves and are held accountable for their actions, they have a little chance of living a high quality life. Since you yourself struggle with mental illness, I'm confident that you know that mental illness has a broad range of illnesses, so of them difficult to understand (even by the clinicians).
If he pampers me with extravagant dates and gifts and the ring looks so expensive BUT I know he doesn’t have the means to afford it that would be a red flag to me. I would rather start our lives modest then slowly build up than be flashy, flashy, be burried in debt and heaven’s forbid end up divorced or be a victim of murder- suicide. I know several family friends who live beyond their means and file for consumer proposals, lose their home or file for bancruptcy. Definitely kills the romance.
I'm thinking narcissistic personality disorder and possibly borderline personality disorder.
That is literally impossible to diagnose from a Facebook post, even one as absurd as this. If you were actually trained in mental health you would know that.
Oh come on I'm diagnosed with BPD and I can not understand any of her behaviors at all. She's just... ahhhhhh not from this planet.
Erica: Narcissism isn't a mental health problem but Narcissistic Personality Disorder is. I have BPD and that's an incredibly mean and unfair description of a person with my illness. Some people might be like that but a lot of non-BPD sufferers will be too. I have no desire to be special, unique or a princess.
Just curious - how does an ordinary 18 year old afford a 5K ring?
...and delusions of grandeur!
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And narcissism
Def not mentally ill. Im bipolar and narcissism isnt mental illness its personality disorder. Learn something before you diagnose ppl.
And holy crap carol emry youre a fking moron! You cant cure a mental illness. She doesnt have a mental illness its a personality problem. Who the hell are you to tell that person what their sister has?!! Wtf are you a dr? Ive had a mental illness for over 15 yrs since i was a kid and i think I would know what it is.
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Shaking head in disbelief - what an utter selfish cow - more words fail me - other than she needs serious help
What a selfish twat
The sad and/or scary thing is she's not the first nor will she be the last bride to act this way. Seriously, I've seen to some TACKY and greedy behavior that made me cringe. This bride, though, is the most insane that I've seen (read) to date. This is beyond selfish. She's a total sociopath.
The only help she needs is a size 9 up her ass.
Sorry to advise you spelled a word wrong. If she is a "cow" the word is spelled "udder"!
Bonnie Alcorn what
Utter meaning totally not the cows udder
In some Asian countries, friends/relatives gives cash gifts to bride's family as usually all the wedding expenses are done by bride's side. There is no standard size of this gift, someone might give 1 dollar, someone might give 100 dollar, based on their capacity and closeness to family. But who the fcks asks the guest to contribute, I mean you can ask for a loan from close friends to fulfill your dream, but asking for 1500USD and calling people cheap c*nts is just a sign that you are a stupid b*tch yourself you got what you deserved. Fck you very much.
As a brown girl, I second this. It is indeed a tradition for the bride and groom to receive money from guests. Which happens only AFTER the guests have arrived at the venue at the day of the wedding. Us brown folks invite a million guests to the wedding, gift or no gift. This is a new level of selfishness. I wonder if she's going to ask people to fund her backpacking trip as well.
Also, probably hocked the ring.
Why does it matter what color you are?
There are whitish/pinkish cultures that do the money thing as well. The same occurs for funerals and the birth of a child for many, many, many cultures. It's the village helping people carry the load during times of joy and times of sadness.
WTF does being a "brown girl" have to do with this?
I’m a brown girl planning a wedding. I’m definitely not inviting more than 15 people maximum though. Weddings are personal, I only want the most important people in my life around. No distant relatives, old friends or coworkers. That always seemed weird as hell to me. I don’t expect anyone will get expensive gifts for us but I guess it’s possible. Any gifts or no gifts at all is cool with me.
If I was her friend, I would have laughed in her face from the beginning. I wonder why they played along for so long
Perhaps they thought she was joking. How did someone like that not show her true colours before?
Same here in Russia and pretty much all our neighbouring countries. Usually we gift ~1000-5000 rubles (relatives might gift more) to the bride and groom, so they can either spend the money on their honeymoon or buy stuff for their new home. But the money is gifted only during the wedding, not before.
That`s $74 actually. Yeah, it might not seem much, but the average salary in Russia is just around $600, so 5000 rubles is quite a generous gift for a wedding.
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5000 rubles is not even $60
Anyone who wants to "borrow" money for their own wedding has no business getting married in the first place.
Stupid thing to get into debt for. I knew someone who got married at the same time I did. Flashy, big job. Several months later the marriage was over. All that money spent on a marriage and now they had to pay for the divorce. Just for that one big special day. I have one big special marriage.
Not true, I loaned a small amount to my friend for his marriage, coz he wanted to hire a balloon artist to entertain kids, but he was already over-budget and was kinda sad that he wont be able to do it. I offered to pay the artist, everyone was happy in the end, specially the kids. No harm done and by no means "he has no business getting married in first place"! And I got the my contribution back after few months, without even asking about it.
@Ladies - I don't see a problem with that, but your friend wasn't asking you to pick up the tab for the food, wine, clothing, venue, etc for a wedding that he couldn't afford in his wildest dreams. Entertaining the kids at a wedding (ours was child free - mostly because most of our friends don't have kids), is crucial.
Im from Slovakia and hre its also noral to give money as a wedding gift, although only from family, not friends.
True, as I never Gift my friends money on weddings, except one time, instead I had Gifted Box of condoms- All size and flavors, I had gifted bed sheets with custom prints of bride and groom faces and all sort of weird stuff, just for fun and everyone seems to enjoy it.
Normally in countries like America, money gifts are given but not normally a grand. Normally around $100
There are a lot of other places where it's common to bring cash to a wedding. Even in Israel it's a given. However, people aren't "asked" to do that, it's simply a custom to bring money instead of a gift. Frankly I find that far more practical. And even then, a "close friend" would usually give out around $100. $1500 ?!? That's nuts. That's almost time and a half minimum wage here.
And then making it clear that if you didn't give any money you would not be invited to this fairy tale wedding. Isn't it about sharing that love and the day with friends and family?
Yes, most Asians give cash gifts for special occasions; in a red packet as red represents auspicious. Most guests will give to match the venue of the party. Many will even keep a record of how much you have given for their wedding and give the same amount back for yours. If it's common friend's wedding and the venue deemed too lavish for me to afford a big red packet, I will excuse myself from attending and give a small cash gift. That's the standard practice. If one indicates an expected amount, it shows that she/he values money more than the relationship and most will be turned off and ask her/him to go fly kite. During my grandparents' time when poverty was common, some invited guests actually put newspapers instead of cash in their packets. The host would understand and not shame them, treating their presence as a valuable gift. The rich even gives out food to the poor to celebrate their big day. How self entitled can this bride get? Will she give $1500 for her friend's?
My wedding was a very traditional Japanese one, with all the family invited. It is a tradition there that members of the family give money to the newly weds. And I must say that in my case, they are wealthy. But no way in Hell that any of them gave me USD1500!!! If they did, I would have refused anyway... This post, if true, is complete madness.
Portuguese ppl do it too. And i will admit money is better but i would never ask for it and if it was required as a certain amount or maybe even at all i wont even attend the wedding.
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Everyone will now call her ex Neo, cuz that was some Matrix-level bullet dodging he did. neo-5b8404...7478a1.gif
This comment wins the Internet today.
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Lmao! Perfect
OMG, your reply should have a hella lot more likes! I agree that this comment wins the internet not only for today but for the next few days. :)
how good luck her ex is now
If you live within your means, you won't have to beg people for ridiculous amounts of money for something as trivial as a wedding. And yes, it is trivial. It is not the most important day of your life - it's the start of the most important decision of your life, and what follows is what counts. This woman is an entitled brat. What's a grand? Well, it's a lot more than funding fairy tale narcissism.
I was wondering about that. She said they worked and sacrificed to gain their college degrees and get good careers. If your career is so wonderful..pay for your own damn wedding. What have they been spending their money on? I'm going to school for a degree in accounting so we can stop living paycheck to paycheck and start building a retirement account. Not sure what this lady planned on retiring on..her friend and families 401Ks?
I am rooting for you.
You'll be great - sounds like this crazy bride could use your skills!
Thank you BC! Fingers crossed I make it through the whole program.
I know ppl who have spent 10k in weeks. Meanwhile I was scraping together 100s. Wtf do you spend that on honestly!?! I asked too. Like i was like wtf did they spend it on? No one knew. Mystery. I really want to know what someone does with over 2k in weeks.
I'm sorry for her son
Yep, but still, that's a good thing that they didn't get married, for Mr Ex and for the kid. If that's a true story and she can go crazy for that specific reason, I can't imagine what permanent drama it must be living with her.
I can’t tell due to her bad grammar, but by saying that she got pregnant (“with my first”) and then only mentioning a son...is she currently pregnant? Why else say “my first”?
I think it means she wants more children
"I just wanted to be a kardashian for a day." "What is 1,500? Clearly, not a lot." (That's what my father makes in an entire month...you have got to be effing kidding..) It's not a lot of times I want to punch a person in the face, but this is one of them.
What a noble aspiration. No longer a princess for the day, that was bad enough, now it's a Kardashian. Pathetic.
-and who would want to be a kardashian? I wouldn't be one for any amount of money.
At the time i am reading this all of the F*cks have been blurred out but the C*nts havent hahah!!! Anyways, you knew the attitude of this woman the minute she valued the cost of her engagement ring!! 100% materialistic. Its not a privilege for someone to come to your wedding, YOU are privileged if they accept your invite.
My question is: Would she give 1500$ to each of her guests for THEIR dream weddings? If not, then what make her special and deserving of this kind of money?
Good question.
Because she's Kim kardashian
In Spain it's common to give money as a wedding gift. Weddings are expensive and it helps the couple more than a new salad bowl. If they want something in particular, they can open a gift list. People NEVER ask for any amount, you give what you can/want! Wanting people to fund YOUR wedding is crazy! You make a budget and adjust to it. I really feel sorry for the kid, though... I hope his dad is more normal!
In France, until recently, we used to offer useful presents ( beautiful dishes, cutelry, home appliance...) stuff that the couple would need because they were just setting together. It was mostly from a wedding list. Of course you still can make a wedding list, but most couple are now living together a long time before their wedding, so now there's always a box or something to give money (never heard about a minimum let alone a 1500$ minimum). It can be for honey moon for exemple ;)
Same in Croatia, people used to buy presents but at Zenozenobee said, most of them live together prior to the wedding and already have most of the things they need. Money is a new norm now instead of presents, but everyone gives a sum of money they choose and can afford, there is no required minimum..
Same in Bulgaria, especially for young couples; it's a good way to help the young family out. But to expect them to give you that kind of money - not even towards a smart investment, but your wedding - is absolutely bonkers.
Its true that people don't ask for an amount in Spain but the guest is expected to find out the cost of their place at the wedding and give enough to cover it. It can get pricey!
Yeah. I was going to say that, too. Here the most common gift is money, and there's definitely no "required minimum." My husband and I more or less managed to cover all the wedding expenses thanks to the money our family and guests gave us. This woman's post is so out there that I'm having trouble believing if it's really true or just someone having a great big laugh creating drama.
Where I come from it's considered tacky to expect money as a wedding gift, and it's also considered tacky to give money - unless it was agreed upon before hand and ONLY when it comes from a parent or grandparent.
I agree with that. When my friend got married, there was a table for wedding gifts and a tree set up where people could tie small envelopes that contained money. There was nothing expected, but all gifts, money or items, were gladly accepted. And they wrote thank you notes to everyone. They also made their wedding reception a potluck which I thought was very clever....
My entire wedding (marriage license, dress, food) cost around 300 bucks lol. My hubby and I got married under a gazebo by the river in a park. Wore a cocktail dress. Then went to the casino where my mother in law had a free room for us (she got monthly free rooms) and we ate at the buffet. It was....awesome! I don't understand spending crazy amounts of money on a party/wedding. Put money towards a house instead! (I'm not judging people who can afford expensive weddings, though!!)
Well, if people can afford 60K$ wedding, it's good for them, but if you can't (and that's her case or she wouldn't requier her guest a 1500$ contribution), don't bother, don't get yourself in trouble or in debt for a wedding. It should be a celebration, not a way to distroy your couple/ family/friendship, or to creat debt you're going to need decades to solve.
That's the point imh, if you can afford a billion dollars wedding without asking your guests for money, do it, otherwise I'd think it's a lot more important to celebrate a great day with people you love.
The worst is that after a lavish wedding, the couple get a divorce one or two years later. I heard of a few cases from those who attended one and guess what, friends are laughing behind their back! There are some who divorced cos they couldn't cope paying off their wedding bills and fight over money matters. It is really worth getting in debts for?
My in-laws also got married in a gazebo in a park, by a pond, near a shopping plaza lol. They did what made them happy, and worked with the money they had. My (future) brother in law isn’t my favorite person but I see nothing wrong with getting married how they did. It’s a personal decision. For me, I think there’s a wonderful middle ground between a $300 wedding and a $60k wedding. I also don’t think a wedding should cost more than the rings but I bet many will disagree. For me it would be pretty reasonable to spend around 10-15k for the rings and wedding, with more money going towards the rings.
I would really like to contribute higher quality posts but it's terribly inconvenient for me to do that on a budget. I'm sure you'll all agree that I'm entitled to at least minimal funding from all Bored Panda members. Having put a great deal of thought into it I came to a sum of a very affordable $2,572.00 per member. And please, cash or cashier's checks only made out in my name and posted via certified mail no later than the day after tomorrow. Don't let me down folks... you know I deserve it.
Enjoyed that, Paul. Lol
Haha, Imma send you £1- can't afford more ;)
Venezuelan bolivars okay?
Holy fucking shit. I hope her ex got custody of the kid while she went fucking around South America. Bet he's glad he dodged the bullet.
I offered my daughter a check for $25000 or a wedding in that budget. Know what she said? "Mama, we want a little wedding in the back yard with friends and family, and we have been saving To pay for that. But... if you want to put that $25 K toward a down payment for a house, that'd be awesome! You don't have to, though. Not at all.... ". Smart girl.
whoa you just gave your daughter 25k? i know some parents that make their kids pay back a dollar. and the fact she refused and smartly thought it better invested in a home. well done mate.
You raised her right. 👍
Wow, I just can't... Words to the all people who were ever involved with this woman: you dodged the bullet! Especially the ex groom. While I was reading her psychotic "story" I was more and more like "run, dude, run!". The same for all other guests. What is wrong with this person? Why is this on Bored PAnda anyway?
I would definattely sue her to get the contribution I made back. Contributions were made and wedding not delivered? Fck you. Give my money back.
I agree with the sentiment but there are no contractual obligations as the money was given as gifts.
She really expected people to pay for her dream? Bitch, it's your dream and no one else's why should they give a shit? You make your own dreams come true yourself, nit just have people do it for you. You lazy, entitled bitch!
The "chief" bridesmaid of one of my cousins initially wanted us to spend around $1000 for the hen-weekend each.... we were all like "wtf?"
Well at least in that scenario, you’re paying money to party and have a fun weekend, rather than just funding some 8th grader’s future failed marriage.
Even as a girl, I never dreamed of a big wedding; I always liked the idea of eloping. I used to work in the hotel industry and, after seeing how much drunk reception guests can hassle newlyweds when the go up to their room, I knew I'd prefer a very small and private wedding. I got it. I bought a nice antique white knee length dress, and assembled my somethings old, new, borrowed, and blue. My husband put on a nice suit, we had a few friends as both witnesses and guests, and headed to the courthouse to get married. Afterward, our guests treated us to a really nice dinner, with champagne (Including a magnum of Mum's Red Label), and one of them handed us the keys to her beach house for our honeymoon, which she had prepped specially for us. Seventeen years later, we're still together and happy. The wedding isn't what matters. The marriage is.
That's going to be the shortest custody hearing ever!
Actually it will probably be extremely long if they end up having to get her mental status checked by professionals. Extremely complicated area.
wouldn't it be the right choice to give the ex the custody if they need to check her mental health tho? a possibility that she could be mentally ill should have raised some alarms no?
I kinda like this. Compared to people like this I feel kinda, sorta, half way normal.
am I the only one who thinks this sound fake?
Sounds fake but I saw the story in the news with additional quotes from former friends... so who knows!
Yes, but look at how churned up everyone gets.
I don't know why all the people that have politely expressed the feeling that this seems a little bit over the top and might be fake have been downvoted. It was my firts downvote :)
Yeah it’s so over the top. Hard to believe anyone is actually that shitty and dumb at the same time. But it’s plausible.
Oh believe me, not only are there people that are like her, there are people that are much, much worse. Ask any wedding planner or funeral director. Or any party planner that does quinceanera's and sweet 16's. It gets..... awful doesn't even begin to describe it. There are plenty of people out there in all age and income brackets that think the world and everyone in it OWE them because they exist and in their own minds everyone is in awe of their awesomeness. It takes a huge slap of reality to get them to see, even if only for a millisecond, that they aren't the center of the universe and that very few people actually even like them, much less adore them. It can break that type of person sometimes, but mostly they retreat back into their world while insisting it's everyone else's fault, never ever theirs.
Also, most Bored Panda users aren’t skeptical. In every obviously fake article, there are downvotes for people who point it out. You having six whole upvotes is a rarity here. A story that would get mocked on reddit would be taken very very seriously on BP 😄
I had a post saying something similar but it got buried beneath an avalanche of OMFG's. But yes, thank you for being skeptical.
Makes me wonder about the "psychic" they consulted. Wonder how much she charged for this advice? Was SHE invited to the wedding? She probably also advised the cash cow to go on the backpacking trip as well. I see a plot by a arch enemy (cow probably has many) to ruin her life by posing as an adviser who will steal her son & ex while she is away 'backpacking' through a dangerous land ALONE for months at a time.
I'm willing to bet the "psychic" had a relative in the wedding planning business and maybe at a travel agent...
That's what I thought.
I'd love to see that movie.
I can't believe that throughout the entire ordeal...she's acting like the victim!! And still leaving to "clear her head" to South Africa for TWO MONTHS.....without her child!!! Um....she can go have a seat in the punk ass section!!
south america
It’s crazy to think that you DESERVE ANYTHING BUT HAPPINESS at your wedding. I didn’t have my first (and hopefully, ONLY, wedding, until I was 54). The same for my husband, who was 65. I had 17 people AND that was only because people kept guilting me into inviting them. The reason we didn’t elope was became my husband felt I WANTED my older brother there (nope), and I ended up having a fight with his wife over attire and they ended not attending. Who does that over clothing? Ironically, they snuck over to the venue and paid for the luncheon, $600.00- which oddly was within $2.00 of the open menu plus gratuities outcome! Pretty generous gift for people feuding. So this bride is indeed a TOTAL whack job, and she should consider a trip to a therapist rather than a trail for a bit. We eventually mended fences, but things were never the same. Plus, we had a fraction of her issues. She thinks that she will comeback and start a new Facebook page. That will be the least of her issues.
Meanwhile in Korea, it is part of wedding culture for the guests to leave some cash. Not THAT expensive, though, and the amount is a free choice and handed out in a semi-privacy way.
Her Mom, Dad, sister or best friend should have smacked her back to last Tuesday when she came up with that "idea". JFC! But she's not alone in he extravagant wedding bs: two guys I know got married last month on the beach they rented, reception at fancy as all hell eatery, anyway, those clowns spent over 15 grand. 15 thousand dollars for a beach wedding? And the only gifts they would accept had to be from their registry at Tiffany's. I'm glad I didn't go. Well I couldn't could I? I couldn't afford to go!
Half of all American weddings are $15k or more. That’s literally average and not extravagant. Maybe they didn’t want guests to waste money on gifts they wouldn’t use. Was a gift required to attend? I’m actually impressed and relieved to hear they were likely able to rent a private beach for a reasonable amount.
The average wedding cost in the United States for 2017 was $25,764. Couples, on average, spend between $19,323 and $32,205 but, 50% of couples spend less than $15,000. This does not include cost for a honeymoon. - marketwatch.com
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Yes, but they could afford it. Actually, $15,000.00 is NOTHING for a wedding. I'm betting they're glad you didn't go, too.
Sadly there are many people who feel they are entitled in this world, and not just when it comes to weddings. 60k is a lot to pay for a wedding when you dont have the means to do so. To not invite people not willing to donate is absurd, even if I had the means I would not attend a wedding were I am expected to help pay for it. Most of the time people have big weddings (imo) to show off. The amount of money needed to pay for her dream wedding could help buy a house or put her son through college, but this dim wit wants to be a Kardashian for the day, and her physic told her to get the more expensive venue, WTF. She got what she deserved, left before making it to the alter. Yet she blames every one else, typical narcissist.
just have like 1500 dollars per guest. aha sure hun
I am surprised at how many of the comments were offended by people asking for cash for gifts. We asked for cash for our wedding. We specified that we have lived together for three years already, we have furniture, linens and kitchen equipment. What we really want is help to build our mortgage down payment fund, to help us save up for a house. Most of the guest gave us exactly that, and expressed gratitude for not having to agonize over what to buy. All gave within means, and none as much as this selfish woman expected. Words cannot describe the entitlement. I mean... wow.
Same here. Though the difference was we didn't have a place yet (we were waiting for construction to finish, which happened more than a year after the wedding), so we didn't have room to store a whole bunch of household items. We set the money aside and used it when the time came.
On the bright side she can marry herself and invite all zero friends she now has.
Good luck retaining custody of the child after this rant and if she does run off to South America. Where's she getting the money for this, BTW? And 12417683_1...5a5379.jpg
She took the money from those 8 that RSVPed and gave some money.
How on earth can she think that 1500 USD isn't a lot of money?! This story amaze me because of its stupidity and it makes me angry to. How can someone be this entitled >:(
My husband and I spent about $47 on our wedding: $20 to the Justice of the Peace, $13 for our two rings from a hippie jeweler at a craft fair, $1 for a really cool sundress I got at a garage sale, something like $6 on our blood tests, and about $7 for the marriage license. OK, that was 1981 and doesn't count the poppy seed cake I made and the black beans and rice we made for our picnic in the park with our friends, but still... We have been married for 37 years and I am SO GLAD we didn't waste money (which we didn't have, anyhow) on some fancy wedding. I had been in enough weddings and did not need to have one of my own like that. Too stressful. Besides, our dogs got to be at our wedding with us in the park across from the courthouse. :-) terrier-Ma...351b82.jpg
Congrats on 37 years. 👍
Am I the only one PRAYING for follow-up on this? More comments from friends and family? Who gets custody of that poor kid? If this entitled waste-of-space ever "finds herself"? If she gets devoured by something in S. America? Details, people, I need details!
UPDATE : http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6101095/Canadian-Susan-cancels-extravagant-60-000-wedding-guests-refused-fork-1-500.html#reader-comments
Carol Salomon yes
This is all over the internet on a bunch of different sites at the time of my posting. Wow! We do need follow up.
God, where do I start? Fell in love at 14, worked on the family farm together, gonna go to COMMUNITY college, spit out a baby and follow a psychic's suggestion to get married in Aruba. What ever could go wrong?
Lol why is community capitalized? Community college is an academically and financially smarter way to go than heading straight to university. Less traditional though. I agree on everything else though.
Is this trolling? Sounds like trolling. I'm having a hard time this is a true story written by the bride to be. Maybe a sarcastic bystander. Surely no one is that big a moron.
I agree. Just the way it was written smells very troll-ish.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6101095/Canadian-Susan-cancels-extravagant-60-000-wedding-guests-refused-fork-1-500.html
I've met people like this. You wouldn't believe the bullshit that surrounds weddings these days. It's almost become normal for the bridesmaids NEVER to talk to the bride again after the reception.
I really thought this was a joke, some social media stunt to gain all the attention ? I'm guessing it wasn't, which leaves me just speechless. The only thing here thats really worrisome and bothers me is the child she spoke of having, clearly the two of them have some delusions going on with some serious lack of reality thrown in. I'd say he dodged a bullet but he was with her a long time before this so.. I don't know, they both could probably use some therapy. As a side note its never about money and if it is you're probably not going to make it in (marriage). imo
Maybe the reality of the relationship that it would not end well. I just hope he can take care of his son, I am scared to know what that woman is going to expect of him.
She will expect ridiculously high child support if she gets custody.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6101095/Canadian-Susan-cancels-extravagant-60-000-wedding-guests-refused-fork-1-500.html
"What is $1000?!" It's a mortgage payment. It has to be a life or death situation before i can agree to let go that kind of money. A wedding is not one of those things. To EXPECT that as a gift, a "reasonable" one at that, is insane. I've been engaged for going on 3 years now. I don't want anything extravagant, but..priorities. I have a lot more important crap that needs to be done before i can even plan a wedding. $60,000 is a ridiculous amount for anything other than a house or college. Not even a car should be that much. And then to break up and cut off everyone because of your wedding not happening!? That's selfish. I dream of having castle but am i going to expect everyone to get that for me? No. Do i think they love me less because they can't? Absolutely not. It makes me crazy to think someone thinks this way and call it rational.
Wow...sad...on so many levels...and what's really sad is that there are a ton of people out there who think exactly like this, and truly believe that they are entitled...and not just for a wedding, but for everything in their lives. Kinda scares the s#it out of me.
Oof, the guy got real lucky...
This is just sad.
In my country asking for cash as a present has become normal. No one would ask for cash to fund their wedding, but it could be, for example, to go into the couples honeymoon funds. However, whem done properly, couple will simply give their account number and do not demand any specified amount rather than any amount a guest feels comfortable. Because, obviously, people have different situations in life. Personally I prefer receiving AND giving cash gifts, because people have tons of unnecessary stuff anyways and if I do not know they couple intimately, how would I know what they like exactly. Sure, there are gift lists but that's essentially the same as asking for a cash gift so might as well just give money.
as long as there is no required minimum, giving cash is perfectly fine
She is so selfish, entitled, materialistic and sees only herself...it's almost unbelievable. Just make it a small wedding ceremony and a barbeque or something with close family and friends afterwards. Something that you can actually afford. a shot gun wedding in Vegas isn't a bad idea either. And who cares how much the engagement ring cost? She should get her priorities straight. I'm not even going to think about the psychic *shaking head in disbelief*
That's the problem, though. She doesn't want to be married. She wants to have a wedding. There's a big difference - and she clearly hasn't figured it out. /// What I want to know is how much crap and abuse her poor fiance has been putting up with over the years. Hopefully he RUNS in the other direction.
Wow... I just got married - spent 4 months digging up my parents jungle for a garden, and build a Terres so we could use it for our christening/ wedding - the most exspensive on our budget was the food.. 285$ - this lady is nut!! 1500 $ is not just a tiny part of a budget - its for many people the intirety!!!
I'm a Brit living overseas. Here in Malta (Europe), every wedding I have ever been to (about 10) you are expected to give a minimum of €50 per person for acquaintances, €100 if they are closer friends, that's per person so if you go as a couple double it. They do put on a free bar but for me, this way of doing things is sickening, it makes me dread going. If you get two weddings in a month for example it's a massive pain. People here invite a wide range of friends or acquaintances for obvious reasons. If I ever get married it will probably be here (my partner and child are maltese) and I would much prefer the British way of sitting down for a meal and then a party afterwards. That woman took the pure p*ss and doesn't deserve a thing.
And I'm polish and in Britain for few years. In Poland- booze, food ets is provided at the wedding (when my bro got married I even got 2 bottles of wine 'for the road' for nothing ;) ), when I attended couple here- you have to pay for your own alcohol- so different. But we got married here- had few guests (probably not even 20) but that didn't matter- we had warmest, bestest 24th of Sept we could ask for. We missed my mum and Jamese's parents but they passed so what is money? We got money from people as we asked for it but it was whatever people can afford and no grudges- loved that day and shame no one came up with a time machine yet ;)
In Belgium and NL its very common to ask money for a wedding (or birthday) Its totally ok to use that money to pay your party with. Usually the invitation would say "gift idea" and then a little enveloppe. But you are free to give whatever you feel like. And its standard on every party there will be a funny uncle with a box of empty enveloppes.
I don't know if you are joking about the funny uncle, but a my parents' wedding 30 years ago someone really stole the gifted money. One of my father's cousins was suspected, but they never actually caught however did it. Well, fortunately the gifts weren't only in cash, but still I suppose it was upsetting to know that probably someone close to them stole on their wedding.
oh no thats horrible .... on their special day! No I meant, because the invitation states they want "envelope" as a gift, because its not done to say "we would like to get money". (and you put the money in an envelope when you give it) So there will always be someone who gives a bunch of envelopes as a gift.
God that was like watching a car crash I could tear my eyes away from.
OMG, personally- She can blame herself for all that happened. Crazy and rude, pushy and self absorbed person. You might have a dream and expect that money but in real life- not everyone can afford that and seemed like she'd only marry him if the wedding is near to royal one. Wow- I say- he dodged the crazy bullet and should be happy no one paid those money.
I call fake. This just can NOT be real!!
It's 2018. This can absolutely be real. This is the year of crazy.
Ok - her parents aren't telling her she's out of line?? She never mentions her parents attitude about her money grab which puts a big hole in this story. Maybe it was made up to entertain the "wedding shaming group"?
They're probably embarrassed to show their faces in public.
My guess is she's mentally ill. Then everything's possible.
Yeah, Sarah, could be, I agree
here is update of bridezilla : http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6101095/Canadian-Susan-cancels-extravagant-60-000-wedding-guests-refused-fork-1-500.html#reader-comments
Just to put this "small" $1500 cash gift into perspective: my husband and I round out a nice six figure income between us, and $1500 is still a LOT OF FUCKING MONEY! But I digress... she mentions the cost of the engagement ring which is a big red flag. If I were one of her unfortunate "friends", and If I wasn't already one foot on the dock, then the line about the psychic advice would have had me hopping off the USS Crazy Bitch faster than sailors at shore leave on a nude beach. This is a girl who has never been denied in life, and suddenly she is denied in a big way, and her crazy train simply jumped the rails. Yikes!
Well her ex dodge a bullet!
No one and I mean NO ONE likes going to weddings they do it because they love the people who are getting married, then to ask for the "small" amount of $1500 and uninvite anyone who can't pay it...what the hell was she expecting??? I don't have $1500 to donate to YOUR wedding Hell I don't have $1500 just sitting around with nothing to do with it all my money goes to bills and savings and when I am invited to a wedding I do my best to get them what they asked for or maybe a visa gift card for like a hundred bucks but my god!!!! Oh and to yell at your fiancé who clearly STILL wanted to be with your money grubbing ass when he suggested you tone down and do a Vegas wedding?? No wonder he left you
Btw I know at least 3 couples who had small Vegas weddings or courthouse weddings and it was still the happiest day to them because they actually LOVED each other and just wanted to be together they didn't care where they were married as long as they were together. AND god I wish I could just up and drop my responsibilities and go backpacking to South America for two months and then come back and expect nothing to change and everyone to have wistfully longed for my return....
This feels made up to me, too over the top to be believable.
This MUST be a Joke? A wedding is supposed to be about Love, not money - and certainly NOT about which friend does the most?! Your Friend/maid of honor is the Saint of this story, and I wanna know WHO she is - coz that is the friend We all need in our lives!
$1,500 is "clearly not much"? That's more than many folks bring home in a month! What a loon!
I feel SO sorry for the kid.
I'd love to hear the (now ex) fiancee's side of the story (and how he dodged a bullet), and then, that he is taking the kid and suing her for child support.
In our Pakistani society, as of late it has become a tradition now that guests pack a certain amount of currency in an envelope and either hand it to the groom or bride at the time of greeting them in their reception which is most of the time followed by a grand buffet dinner. In many cases, this envelope is handed over to the person who actually invites that specific guest such as the father/mother of the bride or father/mother of the groom. It is considered more convenient and cheaper than a gift in kind as well as it definitely helps the marrying couple pay off their reception bill or plan some honeymoon. But for sure in dollar amount this cash gift in usually between USD 10 to USD 50. Even very close relatives never give more than 500 USD but only in cases who are considered genuinely rich people. Therefore her asking for USD 1500 is nothing but bullshit.
Small loan of a million dollars...
Best wedding I went to: Local scouts hall, hire cost about $50. Food provided by who ever wanted to give food. Music for dancing = a boom box (remember those ? ). Kids welcome ( scouts' hall had plenty of room for running around in and outside. The happy couple plus child went camping for honeymoon. BRILLIANT day for the "spectators". Very emotional and honest .
Pot luck weddings are not always a good idea. I went to one and ALL of the guests got food poisoning, except my grandmother who was a diabetic and had eaten beforehand. About a dozen people ended up in the hospital, including the bride who was 7 months pregnant at the time and had to stay in hospital for a full week. /// I would NEVER do that again. You can't trust people's kitchens and you can't trust their food handling.
I don't get it. Did he know her most of her life and not notice her fragile mental state? If feel sad that she has a child. She needs an ass kicking but that would not change the fact that she is a self absorbed, bigoted bitch.
I cant picture someone like her to be the type to go backpacking.
First world problems 😂 and I would like that someone donates me $1500 , but not for me... for my brother to finish his career!
I also don't want to believe it is real, but the most trollish part was...those invited to, cancelled 4 days before etc. If they were invited and put in 1500, they also spent what? Took time off work, were supposed to be going also and it was cancelled, yet they only lost 5k? Thats 11 people including the child, tickets to and return, hotel and the location, there is no chance it would have even been booked without the funds.
I am having a hard time believing this is real. If it is, she is has a big wake up call waiting, or is setting themselves up for a very lonely, superficial life.
I think this is a fake. It sounds way too off the rails to be real.
My wedding was a spur of the moment..the priest said some words, we exchanged vows, no wedding dress, no tuxedos and the only people in attendance was my sister, my husbands army buddy and my aunt. We had no time or money for a big wedding because my husband was being transferred to Panama and we had to have a quick wedding to file the proper paperwork with the Army. I'm happy to say we've been married for 28 years with a goal to renew our vows with the big wedding of our dreams by the time we hit Ruby (40 years). But it's still going to be more party than wedding. We've promised that the entire wedding party will be in Bermuda shorts, there will be a pizza bar where you can put together your own toppings for a personal pizza, lots of games and dance music. Heck..there may even be a roller coaster involved. Personally, I think her ex dodged a bullet.
On a positive note her friends are now free of her.
Is this the script to a skit? Creative writing class? Commentary on our crazy world of greed? Case study for an abnormal psychology seminar? I hope her parents are shaking their head, too, because how do you become like this?
Not sure why someone would give you a downvote, so I cancelled it out for ya. I too agree this is someone's fanciful writing project. Has to be fake.
So these people have a "wedding shaming" group? How sad are THEIR lives.