Lunatic Bride Sends Out A List Of Crazy Rules To Her Bridesmaids And People Don’t Even Know What To Say
We’ve all heard stories about over-controlling nuptial freaks, aka Bridezillas, who take wedding planning to a surreal level of craziness resembling the Kardashians’ show. Some of that juicy stuff ends up in the Wedding Shaming subreddit and you can read entertaining and hand-selected wedding dramas from there in our previous posts here and here.
This story also comes from the same subreddit. The redditor u/justasianenough shared an incident on how, to her very big surprise, she was invited to be a bridesmaid for her best friend’s sister who was always very “mean” to her. With red flags already coming from the complicated relationship the author and the bride have had throughout the years, it got way crazier when the bride sent out the list of bridesmaid rules.
Written in a rude tone of voice, the list included things like asking the potential bridesmaids to lose weight and not get pregnant as they’ll be uninvited. Apparently, bridesmaids had two choices: to either ‘suck it up’ or ‘drop out now,’ wrote the bride and got everyone’s eyes on the subreddit rolling big time.
The author was invited to be a bridesmaid for her BFF’s sister who was always mean to her, but she didn’t expect a crazy list of bridesmaid rules that followed
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Here’s the whole story from the author who received a list of rules the bridezilla sent out to her bridesmaids
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The bridezilla phenomenon is very well-documented in the abundance of stories surfing around the internet. So to find out an expert’s take on why some brides-to-be become so overly controlling, rude and chaotic when saying ‘I Do’ is right on the finish line, Bored Panda contacted Annabel Candler, a professional wedding planner and consultant.
“You know you have come across a Bridezilla when they keep having to correct themselves when they say ‘…but it’s my special day!! I mean our day!’. They will vent steam when someone tries to change the plan or offer a suggestion beyond the meticulous theming,” Annabel said when asked how you know you’ve encountered a Bridezilla.
Although Annabel hasn’t actually ‘luckily’ met one, she said that “it seems many films and sitcoms have captured the occurrence well. Take a look at Monica in Friends for a start; The huge binder, the obsession, the stress!” And there are a few certain factors for a Bridezilla to develop. “It’s when wedding planning has been in their minds since they could walk or perfection is a factor in most of their life. There is passion and love there, but it might manifest into a monstrous attitude if not carefully managed.”
And when it comes to telling your bridesmaids how they should look, Annabel said it really depends on a particular situation. She also recommended getting the budget down before committing to any bridesmaid promises. “You can offer to pay for the dresses, but you can also be super flexible with styles. Mix and match, same color but different styles, or vice versa.”
“But you don’t have to buy a ‘bridesmaid dress’ either,” Annabel said. “They are just dresses, so hunt beyond that description. Also think about who are bridesmaids: their hair color, body shape, confidence level, etc.,” she said, adding that in order for a bridesmaid to be “a team player, they need to feel great!”
And this is what people had to comment on this incident
I completely agree. Some of the things were pretty mild (tats can be covered with foundation, that's really the only mild thing), but most of them were absolutely terrible. Hair is a very important part of some cultures, and demanding people cut it is preposterous.
Load More Replies...Yes, Jenn is right. Run, Forrest, Run. What kind of psychotic bride makes such a list? The day is not just about her, it is about her partner too. People can look however they want. What an attention-seeking little s**t!
Dude, seriously: red flags all over the place. Cut your losses and walk away. No, run.
There ain't no cure for crazy. Hopefully the groom will do the right thing and run.
It always baffles me how some women (and arguably fewer men) turn into this sort of psychos. Likewise when someone says they've been planning the day SiNcE tHeY wErE ChiLdReN. Like, you planned a wedding before even meeting someone. Just wow.
I like that everyone is like "the poor groom", what makes you think he's not horrible?
A horrible groom often goes for a sweet woman he can abuse and a horrible bride goes for the poor sweet guy she can abuse. Why would she go for a guy who says something back? If her friends don't agree, she uninvites em, so I suppose he has to listen too, like that man from Hyacinth, from Keeping up appearances.
Load More Replies...My sister to me, and these were her last words to me in person: "You're only in my wedding because I need someone to make up the numbers". We spoke briefly on the phone later in the evening, then she died very unexpectedly/expectedly (we kinda figured with her habits, it was just a matter of time), and that was my last face-to-face encounter with my only sibling. I was only in her wedding for numerical symmetry. Well, face-to-face when she was alive. I saw plenty of her dead. TLDR: Cruelty leaves marks that outlast the person who made them.
I'm sorry your sister was so cruel. I was not invited to my sister's wedding, but I was expected (not even asked) to work the party. I did. It took me a long time to understand that this was not normal.
Load More Replies...And family. The sister (writer's best friend) is well aware that she's related to an extraordinarily vain and entitled bridezilla.
Load More Replies...The wife of a priest once complained to me about her daughter-in-law who "didn’t even tried to lose weight for her wedding" made me speechless. Since that day I know I don’t get it at all, when it comes to weddings.
I'm sure it is! "I'm the only sun kissed Goddess?" Oh please that's so fake that's it's ridiculous
Load More Replies...I should intro you to my Cousin The Bridezilla Narcissist from He**. They exist. *shiver* By the time she was done with "her" day, half the family had decided to ghost her forevermore.
Load More Replies...I'd love for her to have no bridesmaids. she can do all these things on her own & hold her own hair. what an entitled brat of a woman. I would have sent a few home truths about her for example along the lines of something ie you need to lose weight, you have an overbite, your eyes are too close together, your hairline looks like an eagles beak & the top of your arms wobble.
"No tanning because I must be the only one looking good" --- fine if you want to be better looking than the rest, then whey "You all must lose 20--30lbs so you look better"?? Mixed messages here. I think I'd play along longer (but informed the BFF) then drop out at an awkward moment.
Look slender, but pale from staying indoors and going hungry. And blind if you don't get contact lenses. I'm assuming none of the bridesmaids have brown skin.
Load More Replies...She says she can replace them easily, but had to ask her sister's friend who she basically hate talks to. I'm guessing she didn't ask her cause she needed someone decent looking, but because she doesn't have as many friends and after this, probably fewer.
My list of requirements for my bridesmaids: 1 wear dress we picked out. 2 come to wedding.
I was mostly easygoing for my small wedding, especially since I didn't even have bridesmaids. The musicians I hired didn't want to dress like waiters, so I said, "No probs, just don't wear jeans". I was more focused on making sure my husband didn't get a dorky haircut and that he rented a good-looking suit. I must say, the barber was very good-natured about me watching his scissors like a hawk and he tread that fine line beautifully.
Load More Replies...Did someone show this list to her fiance? Because he needs to RUN in the opposite direction from this nut case.
People like this need to just hire extras to be their wedding party, so they can achieve the "uniform look" that is so important to them.
Students shouldn't cost much, but she'll have to pay for the dresses and what not.
Load More Replies...These women want a coronation, not a wedding. It's all about being the center of attention and having the "perfect" day.
If I were in OP's shoes I would have said loose my number as soon as L said "You're pretty, but not enough that anyone will look at you."
Are any of these bridezilla posts real? If they are--these are narcissists who think weddings have given them the right to the admiration they so mistakenly feel they deserve. What purpose do Bridezilla posts have other than to stir outrage? Can we ban them from BP?
I only believe them bc of how my brother's now wife dealt with her wedding. I had knee surgery a week before and told her I had to back out unless I could use crutches to get down the aisle. She agreed to neither. She "needed" more bridesmaids bc my brother had 7 groomsmen and she only had 4 bridesmaids if you included me....gee, I wonder why. Should add that her bridesmaids were her cousin, two coworkers and myself. Because I adore my brother I hobbled down the aisle and stood on a grassy hill in heels. I still use that as leverage to this day when I ask him for favors lol.
Load More Replies...I'd be the bitch to show her fiancé that list and tell him good luck, and drop from the Wedding party.
Bitch? That's the sweetest thing you can do for him.
Load More Replies...Why are brides doing this? This is nuts. I say no to bring in all weddings now and if I haven't seen you or heard from you in a long time I say no to going too i send a gift. My wedding was wonderful. Had a pregnant bridesmaid my maid of honor wore white tattoo showing. One of the groomsman had blue hair. I love my pictures from my wedding. It was happy and the reception was kick ass. Lasted until the next morning. I refused to stress I don't think it's worth it if youre miserable while planning.
What an entitled douchecanoe. My list of requirements for my bridesmaids will be: 1: Don't be a jerk 2: Come to wedding
"I can replace you no problem..." Yeah, sure. I'd like to see her try to do that. I can't believe this b**ch has all that many friends that she can just substitute at the last minute.
She did tell OP she needed her bc she didn't have enough bridesmaids for the groomsmen
Load More Replies...It just occurred to me: she said nothing about sleeping with the groom. Can the bridesmaids do that?
It's about the MARRIAGE, not the wedding! With luck, you'll have many years of special days after. I'm giving this one 'til, oh, September 2022, and I'm probably being generous.
I knew exactly what kind of person she was when she had to ask her little sister's friend to be a bridesmaid, because no one else wants to do it
Imagine how this beast has treated the wedding venue? Catering company? Florists? Musician's? Limo company? etc.? Wonder what she demands of her parents? Sick, sick, sick.
I was a bridesmaid when my brother and SIL got married. SIL only asked that I not wear my glasses for photos, she didn't make me fumble around like an idiot. This is bridezilla turned up to 11. The only thing nice she did was to choose a relatively inexpensive dress. I think the entire wedding party should tell her where she can stick her list, including her sister.
Easy solution- get her few cardboard cutouts. She does not want bridesmaids, but some lifeless decorations.
Yikes...See, my biggest problem is with number 7. First of all, it’s incredibly cruel to her friends (who probably would know she’s referring to them), second of all, some people can’t loose weight very quickly, and third of all, if someone told me to loose weight, I’d be clapped straight into a anorexia recovery ward, since at 5’8 and 116 pounds I’m already underweight.
Wishing you all the best. I hope you have support around you, such as someone you can talk to when the going gets tough.
Load More Replies...ok my first issue with this is the pregnant thing. some people it just happens whether it was planned out or not. does she expect her bridesmaids to not b intimate with their significant other until after the wedding. wat is she the sex police? the 2nd thing is the hair thing. she wants them to change how they look just so she looks better and she doesnt have to change a thing. shes insane. i told my bridesmaids the only things that were a must was they get their dresses at davids bridal so the color of their dresses perfectly matched and the dress had to b floor length. they were free to pick out the type of dress they wanted so they were comfortable on the day free to choose wat shoes wat hairstyle wat nail color tan or no tan etc. i even let them plan my bachlorette party. best choice i made besides marrying my husband. ive also been a maid of honor 3 times and bridesmaid twice. i never dealt with this kinda crazyness. i mean ya one of my friends went a little overboard with her list but it was all reasonable and she was nice about it. she did do a hair color thing but thats mainly cuz her family is nuts and think ppl with bright color hair r either gay or criminals. so 3 of the girls had to get their hair done and dye it a natural color....they all just went with black lol. my friend apologized for that part of the list she just didnt want her family criticizing us so its reasonable and makes sense. some brides just want it so perfect they dont care about anyone else. me and my friends during our times as brides we cared we took everyone into consideration. this bride only cared about herself
Forward this to the fiancé to warn them... yikes! Can't believe some people expect others to finance their wishes. If you want your whole squad dressed the same, make up done the same, vacation the same, be prepared to pay for most or all of it. Otherwise don't demand things.
I would have said no after the original comment about not being pretty enough for anyone to look at. This was never going to be fun.
Wow…just..wow. I understand it’s a special day, but seriously? I got married 30 years ago. I let my two bridesmaids pick out dresses (we hired dresses but I paid) asked them how they’d like their hair etc. They were both plus size women, I would NEVER have asked them to lose weight. Our wedding was just so laid back and fun and spontaneous. The MC would ask us when we wanted to cut the cake, make speeches etc. Thirty years later people still tell me it was the best wedding they’ve ever been to.
I agree with #9 (the getting engaged at her wedding), but only because that's poor etiquette by any standard, and she really shouldn't have had to include it in her bat crap crazy list (unless she was meaning don't be engaged at all - break it off for the duration of the wedding, then get re-engaged after - in which case she's so far removed from reality she can't see it with a telescope!)
No, she didn't want anyone getting engaged BEFORE her wedding.
Load More Replies...Number 4 says it all. Anyone who calls herself a "goddess" is way too convinced of herself. Narcissism red flag. Poor hubby to be. Hopefully he'll see the light before the big day.
Wow, I really hate these people! The best wedding I ever attended was my sister's and brother-in-law's marriage, at the Brooklyn County Courthouse. I wore a cheap old hippie dress I'd owned since the 1970s, and our darling Dad attended in a truly hideous, horrifyingly ugly polyester leisure suit - but who cares, we were so happy! We celebrated afterwards at a local Lebanese restaurant - a huge vegetarian feast, lots of tabouli and hummus and giant spinach salads. Good times!
There are people out there like this and able to find a husband still???
This sounds like a job, not an invitation. I'd do it if she offered some serious pay - in line with a top-level modeling job, which this sounds like. I sure as hell wouldn't do it for nothing.
What if you say yes and just don't show up? The delusion of these people 😭😂😂 I used to be one of these people who always answered our of habit, I would never answer this now! just leave the psycho on read
Wow, just wow. I am attending my friend's wedding at the end of summer and I was quite nervous as my clothing style can be described as a medieval pagan maybe even witchy at points. I don't own clothing that would be considered "appropriate" for a modern styled wedding. I approached her with my concerns because I didn't want to ruin her wedding day as I could be sticking out of the group too much. I also suggested that I wouldn't mind buying some affordable clothes just for this event. She immediately waved away my concerns with "I don't care what style you will wear, my only request is for it not to be white. I want you there as my friend and want you to be comfortable in your clothes as well." I love her even more.
If you're so insecure that someone simply being tan will steal your spotlight on the day literally everyone will be looking at you... I feel like this lady isn't subtle with her behavior nor a diabolical genius in any respects, so either her fiancé is an idiot, delusional, and/or actually appreciates this crap in a partner. Either way, I have zero sympathy for them.
One wouldn't accept any of those demands if you were going together to meet the pope or pick up their adopted kid. You sure wouldn't tell your grandma or your boss's husband they need to lose 20 pounds to show up. Why should anyone expect you to follow them for a chance to watch a legal document get completed? If you want someone at your wedding or any other party, want them for who they are, not what they could be. Doesn't matter if its grandma, your best friend, the groom, or your mom's boss's husband.
Omg. I can't fathom people like this. Marriage is for love. My wedding was a cheap sundress, near the downtown beach, my parents and my husband's dad, and to top it off, my uncle married us. We went to a nice restaurant afterwards. That's it. If you're having something fancy, why treat people this way? Why do you think you need to be the center of attention? It's just ridiculous.
Why do people think weddings are fun? This sounds like my personal hell. I have stopped going to weddings. Everyone in my family is always getting married out of state & it’s always a major hassle & expense. Imagine doing all this traveling & paying for air fare, hotel, car rental plus everything else & they still expect a gift. Sorry- the gift is me spending $1000 to be here…
To the future husband: I have no words. Run for the hills. To the bridesmaids: Yes, save the money and then party hard in Mexico! Without bridezilla.
I would absolutely drop out bc first off I hate contacts and without my glasses everything within a foot of me is a blur, and secondly I have worked years to get my hair to grow as long as I want and I love it this way, so no way I'm cutting it and starting again. This bride is terrible and I'm thinking her fiance won't last a year with her.
When one's ego and self-esteem is so fragile people do this sort of thing. It's the only chance they have in their little lives. It won't make them happy. Likely that the groom won't either.
So it went from "this dress is all you need to buy" to "bachelorette weekend, hair and nails", to "OUT OF COUNTRY bachelorette weekend"! Ummm, sorry. I can google you directions to the courthouse, and meet you after for dutch lunch.
There is no version of reality where I would cut my hair for someone else's wedding. WTF.
Gosh, these are ridiculous! I would fail at almost all of these, lol. My hair is about half my height, and i am not skinny at all! I also am not wearing makeup, and i often chew my nails. (Don't worry, i do not swallow my nails.) However, i am not tanned or pregnant, nor do i have any tattoos.
Some of these are very doable, i feel the stuff about the nails is completely fair.
Unfortunately I've known a bride like this. I did not go to the wedding
Load More Replies...I wonder if this nonsense is typical of the US, since every time I read it they come from that country.
Different countries, different issues. Someone from a Mediterranean country told me that she tried to save money on her daughter's wedding by not inviting her four dozen twelfth cousins twice removed. There was hell to pay for that - oh the disgrace!
Load More Replies...So this bridezilla is not just broke/stingy (you have to pay for your hair and make up test and day of as well as the bachelorette weekend) She doesn't have a grasp on English (engagements still attention too) AND she's an alcoholic (hold my hair when I'm sick in Mexico.). FFS I'd do a hard pass on dealing with that too.
This Bride obviously has no friends. Her Bride's maids are just props, and she is treating them as such. I hope no one shows.
I tried to find the original story. I checked on reddit and the person who posted uses the pseudonym "justasianenough". I'm at a standstill now. Would you have any tips for proving that a story is fake?
Load More Replies...If I was invited I would’ve said hell no. Feel bad for the person who purposed, I hope they know what they are getting themselves into
What got me was "What's the point in bridesmaids if they're not there to hold my hair when I'm sick in Mexico?" The bridesmaids act as a support team for the maid of honour, and form the bride's entourage helping with any pre-wedding tasks. I would either break almost every rule here and go to rub it in her face, or just not go.
I wonder why everybody seems to feel sorry for the fiancé. I guess he’s the same kind of man.
I’d love to know if she got anyone at all to agree to all this. My guess is non.
Wear a pixie cut wig. At a dramatic moment, pull off the wig, shake loose your long hair, like a shampoo commercial.
Id waltz in with my short cropped dark brown bob (regular hairdo) pregnant, engaged, with my normal tan skin colour and say oh was this not what you wanted? I stopped reading after the first sentence. And walk away.
I have lovely, kind-hearted, generous friends who are alone. And people actually WANT to marry twits like this.
I'm planning a wedding right now and no way in hell would I demand any of this from my brides maids, except for buying their dress. But we collectively agreed on a dress on amazon for like $60 bucks. The ONLY thing I would ask to refrain from was any announcements the day of the wedding. Like pregnancy, engagement type. Other than that. Idgaf what your hair, makeup or anything else is. People are just insane.
am i wrong? you can't have nails, because....drunky party....there's a trail...
The other bridesmaid at my brother’s wedding was VERY pregnant! Also, there were only three of us, me, the pregnant bridesmaid, and the bride’s sister who was the MOH.
I'd simply return the RSVP with: "I will not be attending." And nothing more.
The cutting of the hair would have made me bow out. I have 4 ft of it and its not going anywhere.
You get one day, not a whole damn year. You should never expect someone to turn their life upsidedown just to please you for your "special day", I get so mad at s**t like this, who do they think they are? I would be horrified and ashamed if a friend of mine acted like this.
Honestly I think less about what the bridesmaids or friends of this woman and more about the kind of man she is marrying. He’s either completely weak or so disinterested he doesn’t care… either way these two will procreate and perpetuate the cycle
Does anyone really believe that these stories are true? Who would say "i want to be the only sun kissed Goddess"? And suck it up or you won't get invitation? Seriously who speaks like that? Sorry but I'm not buying any of these stories with brides from hell
OMG, then stop reading them!! No one is forcing you!!🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤷♀️
Load More Replies...Somebody should send her a picture of a pixie cut, but really shave their head and tell them the person doing it sneezed.
Jenn Marie doesn't know what "Karen" means. :P Also the idea of "my big day" needs to die a burning death. It's an important day, yeah, but somehow we're at the point of women trying to dictate other people's bodies and it's because society places too much importance on *one* day, "you only get one so it must be perfect" and of course for the Bridezilla, the groom usually has no say in it.
Number 4 says it all, the "goddess" red flag. Someone so convinced of themselves spells narcissism big time. Poor hubby to be.
That sounds way too psycho to be true, honestly. But if it is... CAN SOMEONE PLEASE SAVE THE GROOM??????
Just go without your glasses for the day, ok? It's not that hard. Also if she has to ask her sister's friends to be bridesmainds, she cannot afford to replace anyone.
So, so fake. I hope whoever made this got the fake internet point validation they sought.
No it’s because they are so much fun to read. Tip: if you don’t like a story don’t comment on it because they count comments as interest even if the comment is negative.
Load More Replies...I completely agree. Some of the things were pretty mild (tats can be covered with foundation, that's really the only mild thing), but most of them were absolutely terrible. Hair is a very important part of some cultures, and demanding people cut it is preposterous.
Load More Replies...Yes, Jenn is right. Run, Forrest, Run. What kind of psychotic bride makes such a list? The day is not just about her, it is about her partner too. People can look however they want. What an attention-seeking little s**t!
Dude, seriously: red flags all over the place. Cut your losses and walk away. No, run.
There ain't no cure for crazy. Hopefully the groom will do the right thing and run.
It always baffles me how some women (and arguably fewer men) turn into this sort of psychos. Likewise when someone says they've been planning the day SiNcE tHeY wErE ChiLdReN. Like, you planned a wedding before even meeting someone. Just wow.
I like that everyone is like "the poor groom", what makes you think he's not horrible?
A horrible groom often goes for a sweet woman he can abuse and a horrible bride goes for the poor sweet guy she can abuse. Why would she go for a guy who says something back? If her friends don't agree, she uninvites em, so I suppose he has to listen too, like that man from Hyacinth, from Keeping up appearances.
Load More Replies...My sister to me, and these were her last words to me in person: "You're only in my wedding because I need someone to make up the numbers". We spoke briefly on the phone later in the evening, then she died very unexpectedly/expectedly (we kinda figured with her habits, it was just a matter of time), and that was my last face-to-face encounter with my only sibling. I was only in her wedding for numerical symmetry. Well, face-to-face when she was alive. I saw plenty of her dead. TLDR: Cruelty leaves marks that outlast the person who made them.
I'm sorry your sister was so cruel. I was not invited to my sister's wedding, but I was expected (not even asked) to work the party. I did. It took me a long time to understand that this was not normal.
Load More Replies...And family. The sister (writer's best friend) is well aware that she's related to an extraordinarily vain and entitled bridezilla.
Load More Replies...The wife of a priest once complained to me about her daughter-in-law who "didn’t even tried to lose weight for her wedding" made me speechless. Since that day I know I don’t get it at all, when it comes to weddings.
I'm sure it is! "I'm the only sun kissed Goddess?" Oh please that's so fake that's it's ridiculous
Load More Replies...I should intro you to my Cousin The Bridezilla Narcissist from He**. They exist. *shiver* By the time she was done with "her" day, half the family had decided to ghost her forevermore.
Load More Replies...I'd love for her to have no bridesmaids. she can do all these things on her own & hold her own hair. what an entitled brat of a woman. I would have sent a few home truths about her for example along the lines of something ie you need to lose weight, you have an overbite, your eyes are too close together, your hairline looks like an eagles beak & the top of your arms wobble.
"No tanning because I must be the only one looking good" --- fine if you want to be better looking than the rest, then whey "You all must lose 20--30lbs so you look better"?? Mixed messages here. I think I'd play along longer (but informed the BFF) then drop out at an awkward moment.
Look slender, but pale from staying indoors and going hungry. And blind if you don't get contact lenses. I'm assuming none of the bridesmaids have brown skin.
Load More Replies...She says she can replace them easily, but had to ask her sister's friend who she basically hate talks to. I'm guessing she didn't ask her cause she needed someone decent looking, but because she doesn't have as many friends and after this, probably fewer.
My list of requirements for my bridesmaids: 1 wear dress we picked out. 2 come to wedding.
I was mostly easygoing for my small wedding, especially since I didn't even have bridesmaids. The musicians I hired didn't want to dress like waiters, so I said, "No probs, just don't wear jeans". I was more focused on making sure my husband didn't get a dorky haircut and that he rented a good-looking suit. I must say, the barber was very good-natured about me watching his scissors like a hawk and he tread that fine line beautifully.
Load More Replies...Did someone show this list to her fiance? Because he needs to RUN in the opposite direction from this nut case.
People like this need to just hire extras to be their wedding party, so they can achieve the "uniform look" that is so important to them.
Students shouldn't cost much, but she'll have to pay for the dresses and what not.
Load More Replies...These women want a coronation, not a wedding. It's all about being the center of attention and having the "perfect" day.
If I were in OP's shoes I would have said loose my number as soon as L said "You're pretty, but not enough that anyone will look at you."
Are any of these bridezilla posts real? If they are--these are narcissists who think weddings have given them the right to the admiration they so mistakenly feel they deserve. What purpose do Bridezilla posts have other than to stir outrage? Can we ban them from BP?
I only believe them bc of how my brother's now wife dealt with her wedding. I had knee surgery a week before and told her I had to back out unless I could use crutches to get down the aisle. She agreed to neither. She "needed" more bridesmaids bc my brother had 7 groomsmen and she only had 4 bridesmaids if you included me....gee, I wonder why. Should add that her bridesmaids were her cousin, two coworkers and myself. Because I adore my brother I hobbled down the aisle and stood on a grassy hill in heels. I still use that as leverage to this day when I ask him for favors lol.
Load More Replies...I'd be the bitch to show her fiancé that list and tell him good luck, and drop from the Wedding party.
Bitch? That's the sweetest thing you can do for him.
Load More Replies...Why are brides doing this? This is nuts. I say no to bring in all weddings now and if I haven't seen you or heard from you in a long time I say no to going too i send a gift. My wedding was wonderful. Had a pregnant bridesmaid my maid of honor wore white tattoo showing. One of the groomsman had blue hair. I love my pictures from my wedding. It was happy and the reception was kick ass. Lasted until the next morning. I refused to stress I don't think it's worth it if youre miserable while planning.
What an entitled douchecanoe. My list of requirements for my bridesmaids will be: 1: Don't be a jerk 2: Come to wedding
"I can replace you no problem..." Yeah, sure. I'd like to see her try to do that. I can't believe this b**ch has all that many friends that she can just substitute at the last minute.
She did tell OP she needed her bc she didn't have enough bridesmaids for the groomsmen
Load More Replies...It just occurred to me: she said nothing about sleeping with the groom. Can the bridesmaids do that?
It's about the MARRIAGE, not the wedding! With luck, you'll have many years of special days after. I'm giving this one 'til, oh, September 2022, and I'm probably being generous.
I knew exactly what kind of person she was when she had to ask her little sister's friend to be a bridesmaid, because no one else wants to do it
Imagine how this beast has treated the wedding venue? Catering company? Florists? Musician's? Limo company? etc.? Wonder what she demands of her parents? Sick, sick, sick.
I was a bridesmaid when my brother and SIL got married. SIL only asked that I not wear my glasses for photos, she didn't make me fumble around like an idiot. This is bridezilla turned up to 11. The only thing nice she did was to choose a relatively inexpensive dress. I think the entire wedding party should tell her where she can stick her list, including her sister.
Easy solution- get her few cardboard cutouts. She does not want bridesmaids, but some lifeless decorations.
Yikes...See, my biggest problem is with number 7. First of all, it’s incredibly cruel to her friends (who probably would know she’s referring to them), second of all, some people can’t loose weight very quickly, and third of all, if someone told me to loose weight, I’d be clapped straight into a anorexia recovery ward, since at 5’8 and 116 pounds I’m already underweight.
Wishing you all the best. I hope you have support around you, such as someone you can talk to when the going gets tough.
Load More Replies...ok my first issue with this is the pregnant thing. some people it just happens whether it was planned out or not. does she expect her bridesmaids to not b intimate with their significant other until after the wedding. wat is she the sex police? the 2nd thing is the hair thing. she wants them to change how they look just so she looks better and she doesnt have to change a thing. shes insane. i told my bridesmaids the only things that were a must was they get their dresses at davids bridal so the color of their dresses perfectly matched and the dress had to b floor length. they were free to pick out the type of dress they wanted so they were comfortable on the day free to choose wat shoes wat hairstyle wat nail color tan or no tan etc. i even let them plan my bachlorette party. best choice i made besides marrying my husband. ive also been a maid of honor 3 times and bridesmaid twice. i never dealt with this kinda crazyness. i mean ya one of my friends went a little overboard with her list but it was all reasonable and she was nice about it. she did do a hair color thing but thats mainly cuz her family is nuts and think ppl with bright color hair r either gay or criminals. so 3 of the girls had to get their hair done and dye it a natural color....they all just went with black lol. my friend apologized for that part of the list she just didnt want her family criticizing us so its reasonable and makes sense. some brides just want it so perfect they dont care about anyone else. me and my friends during our times as brides we cared we took everyone into consideration. this bride only cared about herself
Forward this to the fiancé to warn them... yikes! Can't believe some people expect others to finance their wishes. If you want your whole squad dressed the same, make up done the same, vacation the same, be prepared to pay for most or all of it. Otherwise don't demand things.
I would have said no after the original comment about not being pretty enough for anyone to look at. This was never going to be fun.
Wow…just..wow. I understand it’s a special day, but seriously? I got married 30 years ago. I let my two bridesmaids pick out dresses (we hired dresses but I paid) asked them how they’d like their hair etc. They were both plus size women, I would NEVER have asked them to lose weight. Our wedding was just so laid back and fun and spontaneous. The MC would ask us when we wanted to cut the cake, make speeches etc. Thirty years later people still tell me it was the best wedding they’ve ever been to.
I agree with #9 (the getting engaged at her wedding), but only because that's poor etiquette by any standard, and she really shouldn't have had to include it in her bat crap crazy list (unless she was meaning don't be engaged at all - break it off for the duration of the wedding, then get re-engaged after - in which case she's so far removed from reality she can't see it with a telescope!)
No, she didn't want anyone getting engaged BEFORE her wedding.
Load More Replies...Number 4 says it all. Anyone who calls herself a "goddess" is way too convinced of herself. Narcissism red flag. Poor hubby to be. Hopefully he'll see the light before the big day.
Wow, I really hate these people! The best wedding I ever attended was my sister's and brother-in-law's marriage, at the Brooklyn County Courthouse. I wore a cheap old hippie dress I'd owned since the 1970s, and our darling Dad attended in a truly hideous, horrifyingly ugly polyester leisure suit - but who cares, we were so happy! We celebrated afterwards at a local Lebanese restaurant - a huge vegetarian feast, lots of tabouli and hummus and giant spinach salads. Good times!
There are people out there like this and able to find a husband still???
This sounds like a job, not an invitation. I'd do it if she offered some serious pay - in line with a top-level modeling job, which this sounds like. I sure as hell wouldn't do it for nothing.
What if you say yes and just don't show up? The delusion of these people 😭😂😂 I used to be one of these people who always answered our of habit, I would never answer this now! just leave the psycho on read
Wow, just wow. I am attending my friend's wedding at the end of summer and I was quite nervous as my clothing style can be described as a medieval pagan maybe even witchy at points. I don't own clothing that would be considered "appropriate" for a modern styled wedding. I approached her with my concerns because I didn't want to ruin her wedding day as I could be sticking out of the group too much. I also suggested that I wouldn't mind buying some affordable clothes just for this event. She immediately waved away my concerns with "I don't care what style you will wear, my only request is for it not to be white. I want you there as my friend and want you to be comfortable in your clothes as well." I love her even more.
If you're so insecure that someone simply being tan will steal your spotlight on the day literally everyone will be looking at you... I feel like this lady isn't subtle with her behavior nor a diabolical genius in any respects, so either her fiancé is an idiot, delusional, and/or actually appreciates this crap in a partner. Either way, I have zero sympathy for them.
One wouldn't accept any of those demands if you were going together to meet the pope or pick up their adopted kid. You sure wouldn't tell your grandma or your boss's husband they need to lose 20 pounds to show up. Why should anyone expect you to follow them for a chance to watch a legal document get completed? If you want someone at your wedding or any other party, want them for who they are, not what they could be. Doesn't matter if its grandma, your best friend, the groom, or your mom's boss's husband.
Omg. I can't fathom people like this. Marriage is for love. My wedding was a cheap sundress, near the downtown beach, my parents and my husband's dad, and to top it off, my uncle married us. We went to a nice restaurant afterwards. That's it. If you're having something fancy, why treat people this way? Why do you think you need to be the center of attention? It's just ridiculous.
Why do people think weddings are fun? This sounds like my personal hell. I have stopped going to weddings. Everyone in my family is always getting married out of state & it’s always a major hassle & expense. Imagine doing all this traveling & paying for air fare, hotel, car rental plus everything else & they still expect a gift. Sorry- the gift is me spending $1000 to be here…
To the future husband: I have no words. Run for the hills. To the bridesmaids: Yes, save the money and then party hard in Mexico! Without bridezilla.
I would absolutely drop out bc first off I hate contacts and without my glasses everything within a foot of me is a blur, and secondly I have worked years to get my hair to grow as long as I want and I love it this way, so no way I'm cutting it and starting again. This bride is terrible and I'm thinking her fiance won't last a year with her.
When one's ego and self-esteem is so fragile people do this sort of thing. It's the only chance they have in their little lives. It won't make them happy. Likely that the groom won't either.
So it went from "this dress is all you need to buy" to "bachelorette weekend, hair and nails", to "OUT OF COUNTRY bachelorette weekend"! Ummm, sorry. I can google you directions to the courthouse, and meet you after for dutch lunch.
There is no version of reality where I would cut my hair for someone else's wedding. WTF.
Gosh, these are ridiculous! I would fail at almost all of these, lol. My hair is about half my height, and i am not skinny at all! I also am not wearing makeup, and i often chew my nails. (Don't worry, i do not swallow my nails.) However, i am not tanned or pregnant, nor do i have any tattoos.
Some of these are very doable, i feel the stuff about the nails is completely fair.
Unfortunately I've known a bride like this. I did not go to the wedding
Load More Replies...I wonder if this nonsense is typical of the US, since every time I read it they come from that country.
Different countries, different issues. Someone from a Mediterranean country told me that she tried to save money on her daughter's wedding by not inviting her four dozen twelfth cousins twice removed. There was hell to pay for that - oh the disgrace!
Load More Replies...So this bridezilla is not just broke/stingy (you have to pay for your hair and make up test and day of as well as the bachelorette weekend) She doesn't have a grasp on English (engagements still attention too) AND she's an alcoholic (hold my hair when I'm sick in Mexico.). FFS I'd do a hard pass on dealing with that too.
This Bride obviously has no friends. Her Bride's maids are just props, and she is treating them as such. I hope no one shows.
I tried to find the original story. I checked on reddit and the person who posted uses the pseudonym "justasianenough". I'm at a standstill now. Would you have any tips for proving that a story is fake?
Load More Replies...If I was invited I would’ve said hell no. Feel bad for the person who purposed, I hope they know what they are getting themselves into
What got me was "What's the point in bridesmaids if they're not there to hold my hair when I'm sick in Mexico?" The bridesmaids act as a support team for the maid of honour, and form the bride's entourage helping with any pre-wedding tasks. I would either break almost every rule here and go to rub it in her face, or just not go.
I wonder why everybody seems to feel sorry for the fiancé. I guess he’s the same kind of man.
I’d love to know if she got anyone at all to agree to all this. My guess is non.
Wear a pixie cut wig. At a dramatic moment, pull off the wig, shake loose your long hair, like a shampoo commercial.
Id waltz in with my short cropped dark brown bob (regular hairdo) pregnant, engaged, with my normal tan skin colour and say oh was this not what you wanted? I stopped reading after the first sentence. And walk away.
I have lovely, kind-hearted, generous friends who are alone. And people actually WANT to marry twits like this.
I'm planning a wedding right now and no way in hell would I demand any of this from my brides maids, except for buying their dress. But we collectively agreed on a dress on amazon for like $60 bucks. The ONLY thing I would ask to refrain from was any announcements the day of the wedding. Like pregnancy, engagement type. Other than that. Idgaf what your hair, makeup or anything else is. People are just insane.
am i wrong? you can't have nails, because....drunky party....there's a trail...
The other bridesmaid at my brother’s wedding was VERY pregnant! Also, there were only three of us, me, the pregnant bridesmaid, and the bride’s sister who was the MOH.
I'd simply return the RSVP with: "I will not be attending." And nothing more.
The cutting of the hair would have made me bow out. I have 4 ft of it and its not going anywhere.
You get one day, not a whole damn year. You should never expect someone to turn their life upsidedown just to please you for your "special day", I get so mad at s**t like this, who do they think they are? I would be horrified and ashamed if a friend of mine acted like this.
Honestly I think less about what the bridesmaids or friends of this woman and more about the kind of man she is marrying. He’s either completely weak or so disinterested he doesn’t care… either way these two will procreate and perpetuate the cycle
Does anyone really believe that these stories are true? Who would say "i want to be the only sun kissed Goddess"? And suck it up or you won't get invitation? Seriously who speaks like that? Sorry but I'm not buying any of these stories with brides from hell
OMG, then stop reading them!! No one is forcing you!!🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤷♀️
Load More Replies...Somebody should send her a picture of a pixie cut, but really shave their head and tell them the person doing it sneezed.
Jenn Marie doesn't know what "Karen" means. :P Also the idea of "my big day" needs to die a burning death. It's an important day, yeah, but somehow we're at the point of women trying to dictate other people's bodies and it's because society places too much importance on *one* day, "you only get one so it must be perfect" and of course for the Bridezilla, the groom usually has no say in it.
Number 4 says it all, the "goddess" red flag. Someone so convinced of themselves spells narcissism big time. Poor hubby to be.
That sounds way too psycho to be true, honestly. But if it is... CAN SOMEONE PLEASE SAVE THE GROOM??????
Just go without your glasses for the day, ok? It's not that hard. Also if she has to ask her sister's friends to be bridesmainds, she cannot afford to replace anyone.
So, so fake. I hope whoever made this got the fake internet point validation they sought.
No it’s because they are so much fun to read. Tip: if you don’t like a story don’t comment on it because they count comments as interest even if the comment is negative.
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