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Psychology is a great discipline all around. Even if you don’t plan on being a psychologist, you’re bound to partake in this thing called socializing, so knowing how to properly talk to people, read their body language or to just know how to properly present yourself and make a good impression is always a nice thing.

TikToker and mental health coach Karissa Wampler has not too long ago shared 10 ways you can use psychology to your advantage when talking to people. This includes everything from ‘forcing’ someone into finishing a conversation to making them stop staring at you to increasing your chances of getting a positive response regarding an idea you’re pitching.

Wampler’s list of videos is neatly divided into 10 days, which you can find transcribed below. Vote and comment on the psychology tricks you enjoyed the most, and why not let us know some of your psychological tricks in the comment section at the bottom!

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#1

Day 1

“If somebody is ever staring at you in public, don’t acknowledge them, but look straight at their shoes and don’t look away. Without even acknowledging them, you will make them so uncomfortable and concerned with what’s wrong with their shoes they will either turn away from you or walk away completely.”

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lemsip
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great advice. I usually look away or stare back with raised eyebrows.

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#2

Day 2

“Want to throw someone off? Next time somebody is trying to manipulate you, look at their forehead mid-conversation. It makes the subconscious incredibly uncomfortable. Switch between looking at their eyes and their forehead. They’ll either end the conversation completely, or lose their train of thought.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one works - My wife does it to me all the time (not on purpose - just a habit) and it still throws me off when she does it.

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#3

Day 3

“A tactic used in business, sales, and law that has probably been used on you. If you are pitching an idea or delivering an argument that you want someone else to accept, nod subtly while you deliver your main points. Mirroring is a natural human behavior. People will naturally nod along with you, making them more likely to agree with you, and give you an affirmative answer.”

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Day 4

“Next time you meet someone and you want to make a good impression, try this: as the conversation starts, pay attention to their eye color. Not only will this ease some anxiety that you might have surrounding the conversation, it will naturally lead you to hold eye contact longer and give you something to remember about this person.”

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Day 5

“If you want people to trust you, be open and honest about your minor mistakes. The times that you do really stupid stuff, like wear your shirt backwards. People who we see as perfect threaten and intimidate us. So, when you are open about these small details, it helps others to see that you are a safe, honest person that they can share their imperfections with. It sends the subconscious message that you are safe and trustworthy, and they can be real with you.”

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Day 6

“You actually have to be very careful how you talk about people who aren’t in the room when you’re with friends. And here’s why. It might seem harmless to talk poorly about people because they’ll never know, but you’re actually sending the subconscious message to your friends that you’ll talk poorly about them when they are not with you. So, be careful that you don’t sabotage yourself to make conversation.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is so true. Not just friends - in all parts of your life - neighbors, business etc.

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Day 7

“Next time you’re stuck in a conversation you don’t want to be having, here’s what you’re going to do: instead of making up a lame excuse or just walking away, you can actually use psychology to make them end the conversation for you. While you’re talking, switch among looking at the left and right eyes and the forehead. Looking at the forehead makes the subconscious incredibly uncomfortable, which will lead people to believe that they need to exit the conversation. And you don’t have to say anything.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can relax my eyes, making it look like I'm looking into _both_ eyes at the same time. Really freaks out some people. Can end conversations really fast! :D

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Day 8

“Next time someone tells you something that you’re already aware of, do everything you can to refrain from saying ‘I know.’ Not only does it devalue what they are saying, but it can trigger a defense response. To avoid that altogether, simply replace it with ‘you’re right.’”

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Ozacoter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless that person is being condescending with you.

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Thorfin Wolfsbane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This might be better than saying "reeeeeaaaalllly!?" in a scooby doo voice

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Anyone-for-tea?
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Isn’t this a tricky one, as if someone is retelling me a long story that they’ve already told me, I’m not sure I want to hear it again? Or if someone is explaining something to me without checking if I know whatever it is already, I need a way out of being patronised/mansplained to.

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Viviane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depending on the person, situation, etc., here are a few ideas: "I remember that story! Really cool! I had a similar situation where -- " and then start your own story; "Before you continue, I want to make sure I'll be able to follow what you're saying - this is what I know about topic X" and then display your own knowledge.

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Marvin HoG
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What if it's your spouse and they are telling you something they saw on the news while you're sitting right next to him clearly watching the same news??

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Sharrow
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That would be really annoying, I hope it doesn't become a trend. Whenever I am debriefing a person on something, I try to start from the basics, with an expectation that the person will inform me if they already posses that knowledge. Otherwise, the person might be too insecure to ask for clarification early on, leading to misunderstanding and need to go back to start. Now, if they tell me "you're right", how am I supposed to know weather I can skip that part or they're just being polite?

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Roberto Durante
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

not very diplomat, just thanks for the advise and nobody feel hurt

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MH3
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they are condescending say "I heard that before."

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Israel Martinez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I usually just add to the conversation ... I know has little meaning compared to expounding on your own knowledge of the subject ...

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Tracy Costa
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless someone is condescending and telling me something I obvious know.

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2 years ago

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Day 9

“Next time somebody is upset with you, and they are going to get aggressive, but you want them to go a little easier on you, position yourself directly next to them. It’s been proven that confrontation is much more difficult when you are in such close proximity, so sit next to your angry boss, or mom.”

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Day 10

“If you want to achieve a super lofty goal, put it down on paper! (I like to write mine in the self journal). As soon as you physically put it down on paper, you are 43% more likely to achieve it.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Write down today: "I will not listen to unsubstantiated advice onTikTok again."

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