Going to a restaurant should be a delightful experience. We want to be greeted with smiles, have pleasant conversations, and taste some delicious-looking meals. It sounds like a perfect night, right? Well, sometimes things don’t go according to plan, and even the slightest mishaps can seriously ruin our mood.
One of the most disappointing things that can happen is ordering one dish and receiving another. Recently, Reddit user Ancient-Abs created a post on the Two X Chromosomes subreddit, telling how the waiter mixed up her order. Sure, we can understand when such mishaps happen because of honest mistakes. But when the server chooses to change your order on purpose, it’s a whole other story.
It seems that the male waiter brought the wrong food because he decided to count the calories for his customer and “protect” the woman’s figure. As you can guess, this experience didn’t go well with the user. Read on for the whole story.
Recently, Reddit user Ancient-Abs shared an unpleasant post about how a male waiter decided to change her order to “protect” her from calories
Image credits: Jessie McCall (not an actual photo)
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Later on, the author added some more updates to the story
While the male waiter thought he was being considerate, purposely switching the food can lead to some unfortunate results. A few commenters wondered what would have happened if the customer was allergic to chicken, and one user mentioned that “the difference in calories would be nominal,” making the server’s decision even more baffling.
The author’s post quickly went viral, amassing more than 26K upvotes and 2K comments in several days. Ancient-Abs added an edit to the post, saying that she received many messages from men who did not believe this story was true. “Y’all don’t believe women get sexually assaulted either,” she wrote. Well, it seems that 81 percent of women have experienced some form of sexual harassment in their lives.
An online survey launched by Stop Street Harassment revealed that more than three out of four females had to deal with verbal harassment, like being catcalled or getting unsolicited comments about their looks. “The findings show that this is a pervasive problem and permeates all sectors of our lives,” Holly Kearl, the main author of the report, told NPR. “Most people who said they had experienced sexual harassment experienced it in multiple locations.”
When men give unwanted remarks to women or think they can make the choices for them, it is a way of manipulating them and maintaining power. Dr. Jesse Matthews, a licensed clinical psychologist, told us in a previous interview that men who show extreme versions of masculine traits such as strength, courage, and independence “often have negative views towards women’s rights.”
“Since traditionally, men have held more power, they may view this as the natural order of things and as something they don’t want to give up. Women’s rights are about being treated equally to men, so men who believe they are entitled to power over women are likely to resist this.”
Luckily, some men endorse healthy masculinity. The licensed psychologist explained that they actually have most of the same traits, only in more moderate amounts. “A man with healthy masculinity may be strong, independent, and assertive, but he can be these things without disregarding or seeking power over others. He can be successful in whatever his goals are, yet still care about other people, seek support or ask for help when necessary, and help others or work cooperatively with them.”
Stories like these remind us that sexism is still alive and well, and that it’s crucial to participate in such discussion and work together towards a more equal world. Hopefully, people will learn to think more carefully before they make any potentially insulting actions, and more women will remember that it’s always important to stand up for themselves and share their experiences with others.
This is what people had to comment about this whole incident
Insignificant difference in calories, nothing worth making an enemy and risking your livelihood over. In most salads, the majority of the calories are in the dressing, anyway.
And how about none of the waiters business. People get what they order, end of story. Not to mention it's highly illegal to mess with someones food, he should get fored and the restaurant could face repercussions over this
Load More Replies...To all the people (men?) saying this didn't happen, I had male waiters point out that I shouldn't drink coffee while pregnant (exactly like very-berryx!) and - with a baby present - told me I should drink the very Swiss soft drink Rivella Red and not Rivella Green, because it's better for breastfeeding. Or again when I was pregnant, they refused to hand over a glad of red wine (which was for my husband anyway).
I guess that expecting sexist people to believe women when they talk about how sexism hurts them is too much.
Load More Replies...Honest question, does stuff like this actually happen? In my 30+ years I've never had such an experience.
Yes when I was a bartender I had to get my license to serve alcohol. It's a three hour course w a test at the end. A few males in the class thought they could decide what they serve to pregnant women. They thought they had the right to refuse them alcohol, caffeine and certain food.
Load More Replies...Help him get fired, and then let him know you expect him to thank you for pushing him to get a "real man's job"
The bit about men in her DMs telling her it didn't happen makes me far angrier than the original story.
Of all the things that happened, this one definitely happened the most.
I would scare him to death pretend to be allergic and forgot my meds-incl." better get an lawyer, if I have to go to hospital" As loud as possible. Maybe totally Karenstyle but he' d never try that again
This is so messed up, you order exactly what you want that’s the point of having a menu, if and only if you want the lighter options then that’s ok but for anyone else to tell you what is good for you would get me absolutely raging 😡. Although allergies are very very important to consider, that’s not the actual issue here this is about a waiter and this happens to be a guy this time making assumptions and decisions about the OP and that’s never going to be ok
Literally so stupid, he must have thought he is superior to her or something. in what position are you in to make a decision like that? It is also a health hazard, as the person could have had allergies. Smh
This reminds me of that I WANT A CHEESEBURGER video from years ago.
I have serious food allergies, it makes me so uncomfortable to hear about waiters f*****g with people's food and making unwanted swaps 😬
I bought a chocolate brownie at a coffee shop, and the server said "Are you sure you should be eating that?" I gave him a deadpan look, and bought 3 more. Yes I'm tall and a Plus size; I'm overweight because I'm sick (Fibromyalgia, CFS/ME, mobility issues). I'm not sick because I'm overweight. And I use a mobility scooter, not an "Obesity" scooter....
That waiter should never have done that and should be fired! BUT men can also be sexually harassed as well! I had a (male) friend once and he was harassed by a co-worker for years before he reported her. She caused him a lot of stress and he ended up quitting soon after.
What do you expect with people on social media sticking their nose in everybody's business and giving their not wanted 2 cents. It surprises you that people will do this stuff in real life?
Insignificant difference in calories, nothing worth making an enemy and risking your livelihood over. In most salads, the majority of the calories are in the dressing, anyway.
And how about none of the waiters business. People get what they order, end of story. Not to mention it's highly illegal to mess with someones food, he should get fored and the restaurant could face repercussions over this
Load More Replies...To all the people (men?) saying this didn't happen, I had male waiters point out that I shouldn't drink coffee while pregnant (exactly like very-berryx!) and - with a baby present - told me I should drink the very Swiss soft drink Rivella Red and not Rivella Green, because it's better for breastfeeding. Or again when I was pregnant, they refused to hand over a glad of red wine (which was for my husband anyway).
I guess that expecting sexist people to believe women when they talk about how sexism hurts them is too much.
Load More Replies...Honest question, does stuff like this actually happen? In my 30+ years I've never had such an experience.
Yes when I was a bartender I had to get my license to serve alcohol. It's a three hour course w a test at the end. A few males in the class thought they could decide what they serve to pregnant women. They thought they had the right to refuse them alcohol, caffeine and certain food.
Load More Replies...Help him get fired, and then let him know you expect him to thank you for pushing him to get a "real man's job"
The bit about men in her DMs telling her it didn't happen makes me far angrier than the original story.
Of all the things that happened, this one definitely happened the most.
I would scare him to death pretend to be allergic and forgot my meds-incl." better get an lawyer, if I have to go to hospital" As loud as possible. Maybe totally Karenstyle but he' d never try that again
This is so messed up, you order exactly what you want that’s the point of having a menu, if and only if you want the lighter options then that’s ok but for anyone else to tell you what is good for you would get me absolutely raging 😡. Although allergies are very very important to consider, that’s not the actual issue here this is about a waiter and this happens to be a guy this time making assumptions and decisions about the OP and that’s never going to be ok
Literally so stupid, he must have thought he is superior to her or something. in what position are you in to make a decision like that? It is also a health hazard, as the person could have had allergies. Smh
This reminds me of that I WANT A CHEESEBURGER video from years ago.
I have serious food allergies, it makes me so uncomfortable to hear about waiters f*****g with people's food and making unwanted swaps 😬
I bought a chocolate brownie at a coffee shop, and the server said "Are you sure you should be eating that?" I gave him a deadpan look, and bought 3 more. Yes I'm tall and a Plus size; I'm overweight because I'm sick (Fibromyalgia, CFS/ME, mobility issues). I'm not sick because I'm overweight. And I use a mobility scooter, not an "Obesity" scooter....
That waiter should never have done that and should be fired! BUT men can also be sexually harassed as well! I had a (male) friend once and he was harassed by a co-worker for years before he reported her. She caused him a lot of stress and he ended up quitting soon after.
What do you expect with people on social media sticking their nose in everybody's business and giving their not wanted 2 cents. It surprises you that people will do this stuff in real life?
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