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Dad’s Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point
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Dad’s Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

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Ever thought about putting your toddler on a leash? Probably. But have you ever actually done it? Probably not. But one dad decided to do just that while visiting a farmer’s market with his young daughter recently, and instead of the outcry we were expecting, many parents have actually applauded his actions.

“She’s a wild child, and this thing has already kept her out of the road and from sticking her hand in an ice cream machine, along with keeping me sane,” wrote Clint Edwards, who runs a popular parenting blog called No Idea What I’m Doing: A Daddy Blog. “Sure, I get dirty looks from strangers. But…I’m going to do whatever I can to keep her out of danger, even if it means a leash.” You can read his full article below, which has since gone viral after he posted it to Facebook a few days go. What do you think? Would you put your kid on a leash? Let us know in the comments below!

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Would you put your toddler on a leash?

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

That’s what one dad did when he took his “wild child” to a farmer’s market recently

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

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Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

“I’m going to do whatever I can to keep her out of danger, even if it means a leash”

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

Some people weren’t impressed by his unique approach to parenting

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

But many other parents were quick to agreed with his methods

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Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

Dad's Explanation Why He Puts His Toddler On A Leash Goes Viral, And He Has A Point

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Debbie Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done Dad - your child's safety is far more important than the opinions of people who have no part in your lives!

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LilicatUK
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it keeps the kid safe, why not? It's not for the rest of her life, probably just for a very short time until she learns about dangers properly!

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Hans
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6 years ago

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Or not at all, because it has been leashed away from any potential danger.

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SusanS
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So much better to have the child on a leash. I called it a tether, but tomAto, tomatO. The tether allows child to not have to have their hand high above their head for the entire time. Gets them exercise, rather than being pushed in a stroller. Allows safe exploration of the world, but with adult close by. Lets them walk at their pace. Never threw shade at any parent that was doing what was best for the child.

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Daria B
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Technically I'm against leashes on children, but if it's a case when it's actually needed.... Well, I think he knows his child and their parent-kid needs better than any judgemental stranger passing by. After all... That leash doesn't look cruel, strangling, or abusive.

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Hans
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Thanks for a reflected opinion, daria. No one is against a leash in exceptional cases, but I am convinced that most cases are not excaptional but rather "out of convenience", cloaked by care.

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As long as the child is not hurt by the leash, I don't see the problem. I've seen kids run screaming towards the roads, giggling all the way. If a leash makes the parent's life easier and doesn't hurt the child, what's the problem?

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Hans
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How would you know it does not hurt the child's development, make him or her less confident, stops him or her from exploring? Hurting has many more levels than the physical one.

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Melody Lanzatella
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG! Those judgmental parents! You ALL really need to keep opinions to yourselves. When my 16 year old autistic son was 2, he completely lacked the "rubber band instinct" that children have to stay close to their parents. If he was allowed loose, he would start running and keep running and NEVER look back! Furthermore, when he stopped running he wouldnt have even realized he had lost us! OR that he was in danger! I ALWAYS had a leash on him. I am sure it saved his life hundreds of times over! You NEVER know WHY parents are doing what they are doing. So keep your negative opinions to yourself. Most 5 year olds know the rule, "If you dont have somethin nice to say, dont say nuthin at all!"

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Melody: this is the wrong attempt. We are not children, but addults. Some truth are not nice. Where would our societies, our planet be if we could not argue about issues that are controversial? In fact, the whole posting was made to get us to argue. I guess this helped many people to make up their mind, for either side. And this is good! In fact, you argue yourself, in that you explain when physical devices might be needed. Interestingly, at the same time you bring strong arguments for the opponents of leashes. You say it helped you with a autistic son without "rubber band instinct". Thus, you acknowledge children typically have it or develop it. Why put those children on a leash then?

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Kjorn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it's so easy for people who doesn't have kids to judge. i know, i was like that before i had my 3 kids. i totally can understand this. you left your kid 2 secondes for closing the car door and he can go running in the parking lots and get hits by a car. It happen more than once to myself. Don't judge parents. you don't know what you'd do in his place.

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Kjorn: while I agree in general, why do people here (parents or not) judge based on anecdotes? So many write "I was leashed and it did not hurt me" or something like that, as if it was scientific evidence. Would than the counter-argument be "I was not leashed and I am not only still alive but also a more reflected adult?" No, it is not.

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Violaine LB
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this done many times in Ireland - many people do it and nobody is shocked.

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Pat Brown
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup, common all over Europe. Kept one of mine from stepping literally 12 inches off a medieval sidewalk into the path of a speeding delivery truck.

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Ja Legge
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have a child myself but I don't get the bashing cuz if the kid is happy n safe then not abused by the folks then what is the plm?

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Lacy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There isn't one, people just like to judge things they don't understand.

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Jennifer Womack
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used a leash on my son over 30 yrs ago and not the kind that has the backpack, it was a dog leash and I hooked it to the middle belt loop in the back of his jeans,. this gave him the ability to walk on his on without having to always hold my hand, have both hands free to touch, hold and pick up items, while always being safe as I knew where he was. he liked it so much that he got to the point he would not go to parks, zoos and places without it because it made him feel safe. those who are calling this dad a bad dad don't know what you are talking about, he LOVES his child and this keeps her safe and happy, BACK OFF, good going dad

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Nicola Morley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I admit to putting my youngest on a leash when he just started walking, as walking was the thing to do for him, safety be damned. These leashes, although unsightly are a lifesaver. Children are not dogs and they are also not road kill.

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't have to 'admit' to it. Admitting to something is only when you've done something wrong. :)

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Leah Forgy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please, my mum put my brother on a leash back in the sixties and nobody gave us dirty looks. He had a little freedom of his own and, more importantly, she knew exactly where he was. People should get over it.

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Marie Océane
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't want anyone to judge me" yet I take the trouble to post all this on all social media to get eeeeeverybody's opinion.

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Teri Mcintyre
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

no 2 year old on this earth is so perfect that they won't wander off, let go of an adults hand to pick up something they are not supposed to and if you have twins and you hold twin A with your right hand and twin B with your left hand what hand will be the free hand to pay for groceries or even wipe a nose. Also adults are tall, children are short, after walking around hunched over holding little hands an adult will suffer severe back pain. They are not dogs. They don't understand heel!

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lindsaymad2000
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was a baby I had 2 older brothers, one of them was only 17 months older than me. he liked to run. He ran away from my mom at disney world, and they couldent find him for over a hour. So my mom started using one of the leash backpacks, because it was the only way not to loose him when you had a 5 year old a baby AND a almost 2 year old. She got some funny looks but it didint matter cause who cares what OTHERS think? what matters is sometimes you've gotta do what you've gotta do. and if a leash works best for you and the child? Then use a leash! I personally think it would be better to hold the child's hand. But I also know alot of kids who hate holding hands. It's all personal preference. (Side note my bro loved the leash backpack) and you know what? People will judge you NO MATTER WHAT you do! so do what for you, Is the safest and works the best.

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Nikita L Brits
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the idea. 1) The child won't run into the street 2) Cause havoc in a shop 3) Less chance of getting snatched by people

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Anilda
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a world where kids get stolen...if this helps your jolly jumper to stay in your reach then that is so

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Roe Skolnik
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. I ran away all the time as a kid and my mom put a "leash" on me at Disney. I turned out fine!

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Susan Carroll
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes I used the harness and leash my Mother used with my two younger brothers with my six children when they were toddlers. There are times when a toddler is just not safe. They are so fast and can disappear so quickly. It wasn't often, but at county fairs, parades and other big groups it saved my sanity and my toddlers. I also tied toddlers to a tree when camping, which kept them out of the campfire and the water. This year in Utah, 4 young children have been swept away and drowned in the fast moving spring waters.

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Rhon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this dad has done a beautiful job with his daughter. He knows her personality and what she needs. Some kids have absolutely no fear no matter what their parents have tried to teach them. I retrieved a 3 year old child from the busy main road he'd just ran across as his mum melted into hysteria! I had very quiet kids who weren't much for running too far ahead of us but i had a leash for each of them for when we were in busy places. Good on you dad!

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Sherry Leigh Williams
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my 6 children was extremely determined and strong willed. he could wriggle out of my hand, and then he would run. I ran a pretty tight ship, my kids were taught manners, and they were disciplined, but he just would see something he wanted and make a run for it. You bet I put a tether on him. I'd rather have an alive child than a dead one. I think its brilliant. I also tethered my 4 year old grandson on the sailboat too. When you live and work in area's where there is no forgiveness should the child bolt, you do whatever is necessary to protect them. Yes the 4 year old was the offspring of said wild child. Mark Thomson I doubt you have children and if you do, I worry what kind of disciplinarian you are that you expect perfect behaviour from a 2 year old.

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Bkr
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is it different from putting your toddler on reins to keep them safe. It was standard practice when I was that age and it was more unusual for a child to not be kept safe like this. All hail parents for doing whatever they need to for the safety of their children

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Aggie Eder
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a leash for my son, he would not hold your hand if his life depended on it. Loved it, everybody was happy and so was I. Had one for my grand daughter and it saved us a lot of arguments. It allowed the child a certain autonomy and still remain close to us. Would do it again in a heart beat.

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Julie Julie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will be honest here. I don't have children, so I'm clueless. That did not stop me from thinking that parents who put children on a leash were definitely not "great people" and good probably do a better job. Who am I to judge though?! A few weeks ago I took a ferry ride (30 minutes wait, 1 hour on the boat, another 20 minutes wait to get our luggage). There was a woman there, with a toddler on a leash. I judged here for about 2 minutes from my perfect cloud of ignorance. The child did not stop moving, and by moving I mean climbing on everything in sight and running as fast as possible away from the mother and towards the sea, or screaming for the entire time. I can tell you that everyone on that boat, myself included, felt empathy for the woman and that I will never ever judge a parent when I know nothing about child rearing or their circumstances. Kuddos to the dad for not caring. You do you, you're awesome.

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Angie Williams Redead
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absofreakinloutley! Kids are fast and in Today's world most parent are focused on their phones and then wonder how they list their kid!! I have seen it!

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darknessIsMyOutfit
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents didn't put me on a leash as a child I would have been dead. I am not hyperactive run around child that would have ran into traffic just to hear my mom get mad good for this father keeping his kid safe and shame on those who don't understand that children sometimes are little bit more to handle than one parent can you on their own.

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Wezbie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think most people commenting against this must have never been in the presence of a 2 year old. I didn't have one when I was a child but when my mum saw them for the first time recently she said she really wished they'd existed when I was a toddler. I was a very active 2 year old and would run around everywhere. I would certainly not have anything against her if she'd used one! Much better to have a slightly annoyed kid (who doesn't know better so won't know that its upsetting) than a seriously hurt one, or worse!

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Huskymom
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Idk. If she is still using a pacifier (as shown in the photo) I would still utilize a stroller for as long as possible.

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person (i think)
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some kids (ex my nephew) _refuse_ to sit in a stroller. The only way we can get him into a stroller is if he is already asleep. He hates it, always has, and wants to walk so he will squirm his way out of it. Luckily he doesnt run all over the place, but a stroller is not always an option.

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Nguyen Ngoc Kien
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are always thing that some people have to to do and other people can never understand and judge them. Just because they never experience it or accept what happen.

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Susan Carroll
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I raised 6 children, and used the harness my mother used with my two younger brothers. Toddlers are fast and unpredictable and have no fear. It saved my sanity and my children. I also tied my two year old to a tree while camping. That kept them out of the river and the campfire. This year in Utah, 4 young children have already drowned in fast moving spring flood streams and rivers. It only takes a fraction of a second.

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Sherry Leigh Williams
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my 6 children was extremely determined and strong willed. he could wriggle out of my hand, and then he would run. I ran a pretty tight ship, my kids were taught manners, and they were disciplined, but he just would see something he wanted and make a run for it. You bet I put a tether on him. I'd rather have an alive child than a dead one. I think its brilliant. I also tethered my 4 year old grandson on the sailboat too. When you live and work in area's where there is no forgiveness should the child bolt, you do whatever is necessary to protect them. Yes the 4 year old was the offspring of said wild child. Mark Thompson, not sure if all your knowledge came from a book, or if you even have children and if you do, I shudder to think how you ensure a 2 year old displays perfect behaviour at all times. I say bull.

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Bel Panado
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder if Mark Thompson ever had kids of his own. Hard to criticize people in their parenting when you yourself isn't one.

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Hans
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We do not know. Thus, this is no argument against him. Why are parents automatically right, and those opposing automatically wrong? Would you not stand up, parent or not, if you see someone beat up his or her child in a public place? I do!

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Maria Beilschmidt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was a tour guide at a dolphin habitat We applauded parents who had enough consideration for their children's safety to leash them

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Robert Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a grandad ..we call them reigns my head daughter had them when we were out when she started walk if she fell they would stop her hurting her self as you could hold her back from hitting the floor but most importantly if your child is a active wander type it keeps them safe

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Claire Sylvester
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whats better; keepsing your child on a lead/harness/wrist strap or them getting run over by a car? Do what you need to do to protect and care for your precious child. We used a backpack which had a secret leash, it was fantastic and kept our baby safe in busy places.

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Tammy Gossett
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Replace the word "Dog" every time that idiot Mark Thomson said child....make sense? Dogs also know small commands, yet we put them on a leash...so are you saying, sir, that a dog's safety is more important than a childs? I used harnesses on my kids and they are fine...

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Aurelia Grey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for him. I'm not a parent but...I worked at huge department store. Found a 4-5 month old infant in a carriage by herself. On a busy Saturday (heavy crowds, noise, chaotic) in the middle of the sales floor. I FREAKED. To keep this short, it took me 45 minutes to track her parents down. "Oh, there she is" is what they said.

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Jan Virtue
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know your child and you're doing what's necessary. I knew someone who had 2 sets of twins and she swore by The Kid Leashes. She told me of a story where they got lose and one hid behind a clothing rack. She couldn't find him for 45 minutes! She went out out of her mind trying to find him. After that, she never went out without it. We get Mr. Dad. Do you.

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Putting a toddler in a high chair to keep it in place is fine, strapping it into a safety seat is fine, but putting a leash on it is a criminal offence? I do not understand Americans (assuming they are American) lol.

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Mari Bradford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those who disagree with this dad have never had a child that takes off running as soon as his feet hit the ground. Hmmmm should I keep my child safe or worry about ignorant opinions

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Hans
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How odd that active children survive even though some parents oppose leashes. How odd.

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Simon Kwan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a 20 month old who's so infatuated with cars and motorcycles that he tries to run into the street. A leash may be in his near future.

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Nadine Young
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

way late to this but the amount of other people's kids I've had to scoop up from running into the road or onto a bus because mum and dad had let them wander too far to grab quickly... Good on this guy, people please keep your kids on a leash or your hand. Don't let them run off ahead of you!!

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Aram Sahag
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unique? Who wrote this article... a ten year old? I was born in 1986 and my mom and her sister have 7 boys between the two of them. They used these leashes all the time at amusement parks and museums. They even had one used in the TV show 'Modern Family.'

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Molly Mileschkowsky
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

no one is perfect, even if you plan on being very aware of where your child is at all times, things happen. My 18 month old has a fascination with the road. if we go downtown if gets exhausting telling her to stay on the sidewalk. I have been seriously considering getting a leash for her. I feel like it is setting a safe boundary and for children that young words are not always super effective.

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prepclasses
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

https://aceacademyarkansas.com/ like this article so much. We are running a institution in USA.

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Betty Jo Soohy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are doing a good job. I used one of these 30 years ago when our son was four. We went to Disney World and the crowds were unbelievable. One end of the tether went buckled around my waist and the other end ended at a shoulder harness he wore. I had many people make rude comments but I didn't care I was not taking a chance on getting accidentally separated from my only child 500 miles away from home. Who cares what anyone else thinks.

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Mary Catherine Albenzi
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to hate those things. But that was before I had a kid. Predators are crafty and quick creatures. I would much rather see a child on a leash, then read about another child stolen and God knows what done to them.

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't do it, but I don't have his kid. Mine is fairly sensible (you don't make 'em that way, they just have their own character when they pop out and you have to deal with it, whatever that character is) and tends to be on the careful side, so I have to teach her that to take risks is ok sometimes (taking risks includes 'going off the slide on her own', lol). My sister used to climb onto the table, even after she'd fallen off a bunch of times and once broken open her head to the point of needing stitches. None of the rest of us (four) were like that, it's just how she was wired. She's still a bit slow when it comes to learning danger signals. Some kids just don't have any sense of danger. As a parent you do what you have to do.

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Genevieve
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for you! The same people having a fit about the leash would be the same people having a fit if your child was in their way.

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Andrew Ho
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My child, my way. All you judgemental strangers be damned

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Mari Bradford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How odd that some don't, I choose not to risk my child's well being because of small minded people

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Coryn Delgado
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just a backpack with a strap guys - a "leash" would tie around her neck....good grief.

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Drew McGregor
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's what happens when you don't. http://nypost.com/2017/05/22/dock-officials-blame-parents-of-girl-dragged-in-water-by-sea-lion/ Doesn't matter what one does. To each his own. If you don't like it then too bad. There is no such thing as being too safe when it comes to your little ones.

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Deborah Ferrell Harris
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well played Dad! Nothing wrong with doing what sometimes is a necessary evil so that you can keep your child safe. Naysayers need to chill

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Connie Smith Brough
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like the word leash... they are a safety harness. I used them various times over the last 40 years when taking a child into large crowded areas. Not only did it keep child from wandering away but also kept them safe from someone grabbing and running away with them. Many comments say teach your child to behave. Children can be very well behaved and still stray... kids are curious and don't realize how far they are wondering when they see something interesting. If you love your children you do whatever necessary to keep them safe and allow yourself and children to enjoy an outing. Much better to keep them harnessed next to you than to spend an anxious 2+ minutes worrying and trying to find them in a crowded area. Sadly, not all parents are fortunate to find child who wanders away. Better to be safe than sorry!

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Jenni Ester
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe people make a fuss about a child on a "leash". There are children being abused and beaten inside their homes.

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Jenni Ester
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yet a child who looks healthy and happy, but is on a leash is what worries people. The child is safe that's the most important part.

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Reline Naude
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done!! I have 3 kids of which the youngest 2 are ages 2 and 3. The 3 year old I can handle, but I do put the 2 year old on a leash as she is the one who pushes the boundaries. And as a mom I can't keep my eyes on all of them all the time. The leash just keeps me sane and her safer than she would be running around. Don't judge until you live it.

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Katie Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Listen for some kids the reward far exceeds any parental consequences. If it keeps her safe, good on him!

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Phillip Moderow
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

70 years ago, my mother had to keep my sister on a leash for the same reason. As a result, she never got lost or kidnapped. Too bad. I really wanted her attic bedroom.

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Anna Brown
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get what's wrong with it....if we labelled it "safety harness" and sold it in mothercare you'd probably buy one!.... Oh wait, baby shops do sell toddler reins and safety wrist tethers, so what's the difference???

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sheelagh owen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had 2 small kids, 2 years apart. This was before double strollers. I put a harness on my older one, he would take off and hide under clothing racks. I got lots of dirty looks, but that was much better than losing a kid or having somebody grab him.

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Nancy Oliver
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The comments about it not being the child's fault just means they have not had a highly spirited and curious child. Some children are just that way no matter what you try to teach them. Not all children are like that, but there are a few, and you just can't keep them safe any other way.

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Sara Bailey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was that wild child, and I remember the 15 point adjustable red harness my parents would strap me into and clip the "leash" to it. And then buckle me into the shopping cart. I also remember how I escaped from it and went spelunking off the side of the cart, with the tether, and then running around the store. I remember being lost at Sea World, not knowing if my parents would ever find me. What I learned from that leash, was that my parents didn't want me running away, that they wanted me safe, that I needed to learn to not go running off, and until I learned that skill, they were going to make sure I was within arms reach. (They also learned that I had a nose for the toy department, and even if I'd never been in a store before, if I got away from them, they could always find me there. ) When I had children of my own, they proved to be equally spirited and independent. Thankfully, they have made cuter child safety harnesses that look like bears and monkeys or cool backpacks.

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3ke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I approve of child leashes. I had a leash as a kid because I would wander off and I got one for my son as well, it's a dinosaur backpack.

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Christy Hollister
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not a new thing by any means...my mother had one for my sister 50+ yearss ago because she too was a wild child...as careful a parent I am when my daughter was about 3-4 years old she slipped away from me in a very crowded Farmer's Market in Atlanta I was frantically screaming her name and Thank God a kindly man brought her back to me...I was shaking and crying so badly ! I applaud you Daddy for caring enough to do this!

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John Baker
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To the judgmental a******s: It's none of your damned business how other people raise their kids. You don't like the leash? Too bad. Zero f***s given. It beats hell out of having to scrape what's left of her off the road after she runs out in front of a truck, doesn't it? And if you think that can't happen to even the most attentive parents, you're idiots as well as s**t-stirrers.

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Mary Reid
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So my wild child is now 35 years of age. As a toddler she was enfenced within the yard because we lived on a corner in the heart of a village. When taking walks with her three older subs who spanned up to age 7, she was leashed. The time I didn't leash her while the family of seven was at the amusement park so we could freely enter rides, she bolted. After that confinement was a given until she learned to pedal a two-wheeler.

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Cathy DelGreco
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've owned daycares for 25 years. I've encountered many spirited children. A lead to keep them close by is no different from restraining them in a stroller. They get exercise, and the parent has piece of mind from danger. I whole heartedly agree. It keeps everyone sane and safe!

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Tammy Bahnam
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I say good for you dad I'm a grandmother of a 2 and a half year old little girl and she is a RUNNER!! I also have a 4 year old grandson my grandkids live in Canada so when I was visiting them my son in law and I took the kids to Macdonald's play place for lunch well when it was time to go in was putting on my grandsons shoes and my son in law was putting on his daughters shoe's some kids came in and the door was open when I turned around my granddaughter was no where to be found my heart dropped I went out to the door only to see her standing outside with her hand holding the door shut it was a game to her mind you she was outside next to take out traffic and the parking lot she saw me and started to run in to the parking lot I almost died that moment so for all you people who want to shame parents for putting a child on a leash shame on you it only takes a moment to lose a child and that moment you can never get back

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Marcella Perleberg
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two thumbs up to you, Dad .. and I would give more if I had them! NOTHING is more important than your child's safety .. and to hell with what other people think, so long as it works for YOU! It really is sad that you have to validate your parenting methods, but I do understand. Too many people out there think they know everything, and believe it's their right to tell you what's right and wrong and how to raise your child. This is YOUR child .. YOUR life .. YOUR responsibility .. and YOU ARE DOING AN AWESOME JOB!!!

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Marysia Jawłowska
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those who criticise that dad and feel offended by the situation simply give in to the symbolism of the leash and fail to see it as a practical physical object. Which is not just safe but actually gives the child much more freedom than holding hands would.

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James Bryant
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you have a problem putting a young child on a leash but you put your dog on a leash then you are a hypocrite. And the children know commands by 2 excuse is just that, An excuse. dogs can also learn basic commands in a much shorter time. So if you walk your dog on a leash can I call you a bad dog owner for not training your dog correctly?

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Eric Cox
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have one for my son, I don't use it often. I don't care what people think, and I'll tell them if I need to. A single mistake is all it takes.

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Jonathan Eatsalot
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you want dictate how kids should be raised....................go have your own and knock yourself out. Otherwise, shut up.

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Rachel De Jong
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mother used a harness and leash on me when I was a young child,I was a rough and tumble tomboy of a girl always getting in to scrapes and putting my nose in to things I shouldn't.....the leash and harness kept me safe.I see children running riot all the time when out with their parents and the parents let them Kudos to this dad for being responsible for his child

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Raokshna Ryuzaki
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally get you dude. My kids are nut cases. And the new addition will probably be the exact same. My son aims for cars. Bridges. rivers. We go to the boot sale he's forever trying to rip stuff of of tables and run away with it. Runs away in shopping centres and trashes s**t. He's mental. The other day he ran in front of a suv out side his nursery. Tha k fyck the guy driving was on point. If leasing keeps kids safe. Then do it f**k everyone else

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Derek Hellam
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Children used to wear REINS all the time, and many still do. Nothing new in this.

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Virgil Blue
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she is as rambunctious as he says I can imagine something like this would be necessary until the kid finds her sense of self preservation so to speak. So no problem I's ay.

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Lam Lam Lamtazar
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see it as support for parents who might give into peer pressure and find some common ground with someone who shares their view. It might not look perfect to have a child on a leash and I am very lucky to have two girls who really stop at the second I yell "STOP", but I've seen to many almost accidents to not understand other parents' trouble with this. This post is not so much self validation as support for parents who might otherwise feel too pressured and guilty.

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Krysta Pandoo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally agree. Reins were a staple thirty years ask, suddenly they're unpopular, they cruel, they speak of bad parenting, yet so many more accidents with children have happened because parents looked away for a second, so many children have been lost or abducted and so many children have run into danger because they've got terrible parents in the first place - anyone else see the coronation?

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Mandy Holford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, he could let her run like so many parents have and visit her at the morgue when she gets hit by a car or stolen and never seen again. Children are very active and no parent has eyes in the back of their head. He has a child who is safe thanks to her dad who has found a creative way to keep her that way.

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Yunyann See
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those judgy people dont live with your child, you do. So you do whatever it takes to keep them safe.

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Lilly Morse
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

just put one of the little monkey backpack/leashes on them .. the kids feel stylish with there new monkey backpack .

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Shannon Prestegard
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not have kids. But all my friends do and when I babysit and out and about I'm constantly saying stay close,

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Cherry Warr
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have a problem with leashes, especially the ones that aren't dog style, like those that are connected to a little stuffed animal backpack? I just have a problem with how some people treat their kids when they are on a leash...they aren't dogs, don't drag them around ignoring them!!

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TMilly
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have friends who learned how to ski on a leash, which proved to be dangerous. But, there's nothing wrong with doing this. Safety is a must

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Rama Llama
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't even know there are people that think leashes are bad. They are quite common here (well, you don't see them everyday, but when you do nobody bats an eye) even if we don't have nearly as much traffic and people around than bigger countries and their cities. "Wild kids" aren't wild because their parents don't know how to do their job and it's important to keep them safe by any means necessary - and even if it were parents' fault, wouldn't it still be better to keep them in leashes when needed and not to let them kill themselfs?

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Alison Oakley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had wild twins. Without a leash (or two, actually) they would not have survived. Their little sister loved the leash, she wouldn't hold hands and hated the stroller. Loved being able to run around with the big kids, while I kept her safe.

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Meowoui
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister had a wrist to wrist coiled lead on her daughter in the 80's, this is not new. Would you rather have your child get lost or kidnaped. I bet the one's who had something happen to their child had one of these hand to hand or leash like this dad. Be real people who are thinking this is wrong.

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Heather Mullen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in my 60's and I remember my mum putting a harness and lead on my little brother. In those days there was no second car and she had six of us to walk to the supermarket. It was standard practice years ago to have a harness on little ones. Can't believe it's even newsworthy. Ask your mum or grandmother about it. But I'm still choking on my cuppa about the kid who barked at everyone.

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Šimon Špaček
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always say this to people (mostly older women, about 45-50) who judge me for having daughter on leash "I prefer to be judged than scraping her from windshield. Thank you for your prejudice Madam." On the other hand, even older women (65-75) love it. And dads of all ages agree with me.

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Barby Jeffers
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man is fine....keep your baby safe....screw the haters that think they are perfect parents....trust me....they are not :)

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Barby Jeffers
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy is perfectly fine....keep your baby safe man....screw the haters that think they are perfect....trust me.... they are not....

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SophieAmeliah
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is such a silly article, my mum had me on one of these all the time as a child, it came attached to a back pack and was bought from a store for this purpose...its not a dog lead, whats the fuss about?!

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Sophie Heron
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is ridiculous, my mum had me on one of these all time time as a kid, as i would run off. They come attached to back packs and you can buy them in stores, its not a dog leash...what a silly article...

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Allison Jennifer
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Letting her have a little bit of freedom while keeping her safe...good in my books. You can hold your childs hand but I have first hand experience that they can, in a millisecond get out of your hold then what, run onto the road...Its not around her neck...good for you!

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Diane Bittner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good job. Safety is more important than what a stranger may think. BRAVO.

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Gillian Black
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

goodness me I am 67 yyears old and guess what when my boys were little you could buy special harness leashes for youor children , we are to political correct now and the danger is so much worse than way back then,you go for it dad and other parents take note it is worth it

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Pete Jennings
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it keeps her safe it is good. Apparently it is more socially acceptable than nailing their feet to the floor as well.

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Jenne Kopalek
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When mine were little I was so skinny from chasing them everywhere. A leash was never an option. Parent. Be firm.

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D Rolls
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My thing with leashes is I've seen kids get hurt because of leashes-- other than that it's a good measure to keep a curious kid safe.

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Sam Campbell
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a good parent! Did this with my kids too (my son is almost 21 now and my daughter is 12). My parents did this with us. In England (where my mother is from), this has always been acceptable. That's where we picked up my son's harness. Americans are so quick to judge and shame, but my kids were safe and aren't self-entitled snowflakes today. They were free to safely explore and burn energy while still being kids, not out-of-control brats. Don't judge.

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Matthew Green
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done to him you can still buy harness/leashes for backpacks

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Joni Radford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To all the close-minded idiots who live in a bubble and think nothing bad could ever happen to them, I challenge you to go watch the movie '3096 days'

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Aunt Messy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brother started walking at 9 months old, and once he started, he was jet propelled. There was no stroller that could hold him, if you could get him into one in the first place. He'd vanish in a millisecond if Mom didn't have him in a six point harness (that buckled in the back) and on a leash. He wasn't psychically scarred by it, and he also didn't try to race trucks on the street or climb office towers for fun...at 18 months old.

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Stephanie Ann
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now that's a good dad. Taking safety seriously- you get good points from me!

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L.A. Saiter
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a great grandmother and used a leash on my daughters when they were young. I had 2 - 14 months apart and then one 3 years later. No way I could have gone out with my kids by myself without it. GO DAD, safety first

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Janet Clarke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents leashed me when we visited New York City when I was a toddler, over 45 years ago. I'm not emotionally scarred.

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José Alejandro Díaz Bravo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not supporting any kind of "tool" to educate a child... why? because there will be a serious problem when the tool is gone... (by the way, children survive before those leashes were invented)

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People survived without medication back then too. Should medication be abolished? What a useless comment in the brackets.

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Victor Vakaras
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy seems like a real mental colossus. Why would you let a kid that old use a pacifier? Stop having kids, you're bad at raising them.

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This is not teaching her the diffidence between safe and unsafe. He's controlling her, not teaching her.

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Hans
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Mark Thomson's comment summarizes all you can say. Safety is a thought-terminating cliché, thus, it is the wrong argument. A leash, as in kids as in dogs, is not for the safety of the one being attached to the leash, but for the one wiedling the leash! For the safety of the leashed one, empathy, understanding, attention, and at times a portion of strictness does the much better trick! Using a leash because your child _could_ move _somewhere_ where something dangerous _might_ be is like keeping your 10 year old in diapers because while potty training an accident _could_ happen and you therefore avoid it. The world is full of dangers, but also full of wonders, and these are best explored with love and respect instead of with being restricted.

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hans, hand over your heart, have you never strapped a toddler in a high chair to keep it in place? Never buckled a toddler with a seat belt while it's screaming to get away? Do people scold you for 'trapping' or 'imprisoning' the toddler? Try to sue you for 'false imprisonment'? This is exactly the same, using a physical method to control the child. Unless you can tell me you have never used any physical methods to control a child, think before you criticise.

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putting a kid on a leash is a public humiliation for the child because you are too bad a parent to use better methods and it is borderline abuse what's next are you going to let you child s**t on the ground like a dog too because you cant potty train

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Aunt Messy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's two. She doesn't understand danger and negotiating with a toddler is stupid beyond belief.

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Debbie Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done Dad - your child's safety is far more important than the opinions of people who have no part in your lives!

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LilicatUK
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it keeps the kid safe, why not? It's not for the rest of her life, probably just for a very short time until she learns about dangers properly!

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Hans
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Or not at all, because it has been leashed away from any potential danger.

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SusanS
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So much better to have the child on a leash. I called it a tether, but tomAto, tomatO. The tether allows child to not have to have their hand high above their head for the entire time. Gets them exercise, rather than being pushed in a stroller. Allows safe exploration of the world, but with adult close by. Lets them walk at their pace. Never threw shade at any parent that was doing what was best for the child.

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Daria B
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Technically I'm against leashes on children, but if it's a case when it's actually needed.... Well, I think he knows his child and their parent-kid needs better than any judgemental stranger passing by. After all... That leash doesn't look cruel, strangling, or abusive.

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Thanks for a reflected opinion, daria. No one is against a leash in exceptional cases, but I am convinced that most cases are not excaptional but rather "out of convenience", cloaked by care.

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As long as the child is not hurt by the leash, I don't see the problem. I've seen kids run screaming towards the roads, giggling all the way. If a leash makes the parent's life easier and doesn't hurt the child, what's the problem?

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How would you know it does not hurt the child's development, make him or her less confident, stops him or her from exploring? Hurting has many more levels than the physical one.

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Melody Lanzatella
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG! Those judgmental parents! You ALL really need to keep opinions to yourselves. When my 16 year old autistic son was 2, he completely lacked the "rubber band instinct" that children have to stay close to their parents. If he was allowed loose, he would start running and keep running and NEVER look back! Furthermore, when he stopped running he wouldnt have even realized he had lost us! OR that he was in danger! I ALWAYS had a leash on him. I am sure it saved his life hundreds of times over! You NEVER know WHY parents are doing what they are doing. So keep your negative opinions to yourself. Most 5 year olds know the rule, "If you dont have somethin nice to say, dont say nuthin at all!"

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Melody: this is the wrong attempt. We are not children, but addults. Some truth are not nice. Where would our societies, our planet be if we could not argue about issues that are controversial? In fact, the whole posting was made to get us to argue. I guess this helped many people to make up their mind, for either side. And this is good! In fact, you argue yourself, in that you explain when physical devices might be needed. Interestingly, at the same time you bring strong arguments for the opponents of leashes. You say it helped you with a autistic son without "rubber band instinct". Thus, you acknowledge children typically have it or develop it. Why put those children on a leash then?

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Kjorn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it's so easy for people who doesn't have kids to judge. i know, i was like that before i had my 3 kids. i totally can understand this. you left your kid 2 secondes for closing the car door and he can go running in the parking lots and get hits by a car. It happen more than once to myself. Don't judge parents. you don't know what you'd do in his place.

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Kjorn: while I agree in general, why do people here (parents or not) judge based on anecdotes? So many write "I was leashed and it did not hurt me" or something like that, as if it was scientific evidence. Would than the counter-argument be "I was not leashed and I am not only still alive but also a more reflected adult?" No, it is not.

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Violaine LB
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this done many times in Ireland - many people do it and nobody is shocked.

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Pat Brown
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup, common all over Europe. Kept one of mine from stepping literally 12 inches off a medieval sidewalk into the path of a speeding delivery truck.

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Ja Legge
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have a child myself but I don't get the bashing cuz if the kid is happy n safe then not abused by the folks then what is the plm?

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Lacy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There isn't one, people just like to judge things they don't understand.

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Jennifer Womack
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used a leash on my son over 30 yrs ago and not the kind that has the backpack, it was a dog leash and I hooked it to the middle belt loop in the back of his jeans,. this gave him the ability to walk on his on without having to always hold my hand, have both hands free to touch, hold and pick up items, while always being safe as I knew where he was. he liked it so much that he got to the point he would not go to parks, zoos and places without it because it made him feel safe. those who are calling this dad a bad dad don't know what you are talking about, he LOVES his child and this keeps her safe and happy, BACK OFF, good going dad

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Nicola Morley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I admit to putting my youngest on a leash when he just started walking, as walking was the thing to do for him, safety be damned. These leashes, although unsightly are a lifesaver. Children are not dogs and they are also not road kill.

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't have to 'admit' to it. Admitting to something is only when you've done something wrong. :)

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Leah Forgy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please, my mum put my brother on a leash back in the sixties and nobody gave us dirty looks. He had a little freedom of his own and, more importantly, she knew exactly where he was. People should get over it.

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Marie Océane
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't want anyone to judge me" yet I take the trouble to post all this on all social media to get eeeeeverybody's opinion.

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Teri Mcintyre
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

no 2 year old on this earth is so perfect that they won't wander off, let go of an adults hand to pick up something they are not supposed to and if you have twins and you hold twin A with your right hand and twin B with your left hand what hand will be the free hand to pay for groceries or even wipe a nose. Also adults are tall, children are short, after walking around hunched over holding little hands an adult will suffer severe back pain. They are not dogs. They don't understand heel!

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lindsaymad2000
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was a baby I had 2 older brothers, one of them was only 17 months older than me. he liked to run. He ran away from my mom at disney world, and they couldent find him for over a hour. So my mom started using one of the leash backpacks, because it was the only way not to loose him when you had a 5 year old a baby AND a almost 2 year old. She got some funny looks but it didint matter cause who cares what OTHERS think? what matters is sometimes you've gotta do what you've gotta do. and if a leash works best for you and the child? Then use a leash! I personally think it would be better to hold the child's hand. But I also know alot of kids who hate holding hands. It's all personal preference. (Side note my bro loved the leash backpack) and you know what? People will judge you NO MATTER WHAT you do! so do what for you, Is the safest and works the best.

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Nikita L Brits
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the idea. 1) The child won't run into the street 2) Cause havoc in a shop 3) Less chance of getting snatched by people

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Anilda
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a world where kids get stolen...if this helps your jolly jumper to stay in your reach then that is so

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Roe Skolnik
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. I ran away all the time as a kid and my mom put a "leash" on me at Disney. I turned out fine!

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Susan Carroll
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes I used the harness and leash my Mother used with my two younger brothers with my six children when they were toddlers. There are times when a toddler is just not safe. They are so fast and can disappear so quickly. It wasn't often, but at county fairs, parades and other big groups it saved my sanity and my toddlers. I also tied toddlers to a tree when camping, which kept them out of the campfire and the water. This year in Utah, 4 young children have been swept away and drowned in the fast moving spring waters.

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Rhon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this dad has done a beautiful job with his daughter. He knows her personality and what she needs. Some kids have absolutely no fear no matter what their parents have tried to teach them. I retrieved a 3 year old child from the busy main road he'd just ran across as his mum melted into hysteria! I had very quiet kids who weren't much for running too far ahead of us but i had a leash for each of them for when we were in busy places. Good on you dad!

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Sherry Leigh Williams
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my 6 children was extremely determined and strong willed. he could wriggle out of my hand, and then he would run. I ran a pretty tight ship, my kids were taught manners, and they were disciplined, but he just would see something he wanted and make a run for it. You bet I put a tether on him. I'd rather have an alive child than a dead one. I think its brilliant. I also tethered my 4 year old grandson on the sailboat too. When you live and work in area's where there is no forgiveness should the child bolt, you do whatever is necessary to protect them. Yes the 4 year old was the offspring of said wild child. Mark Thomson I doubt you have children and if you do, I worry what kind of disciplinarian you are that you expect perfect behaviour from a 2 year old.

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Bkr
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is it different from putting your toddler on reins to keep them safe. It was standard practice when I was that age and it was more unusual for a child to not be kept safe like this. All hail parents for doing whatever they need to for the safety of their children

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Aggie Eder
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a leash for my son, he would not hold your hand if his life depended on it. Loved it, everybody was happy and so was I. Had one for my grand daughter and it saved us a lot of arguments. It allowed the child a certain autonomy and still remain close to us. Would do it again in a heart beat.

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Julie Julie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will be honest here. I don't have children, so I'm clueless. That did not stop me from thinking that parents who put children on a leash were definitely not "great people" and good probably do a better job. Who am I to judge though?! A few weeks ago I took a ferry ride (30 minutes wait, 1 hour on the boat, another 20 minutes wait to get our luggage). There was a woman there, with a toddler on a leash. I judged here for about 2 minutes from my perfect cloud of ignorance. The child did not stop moving, and by moving I mean climbing on everything in sight and running as fast as possible away from the mother and towards the sea, or screaming for the entire time. I can tell you that everyone on that boat, myself included, felt empathy for the woman and that I will never ever judge a parent when I know nothing about child rearing or their circumstances. Kuddos to the dad for not caring. You do you, you're awesome.

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Angie Williams Redead
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absofreakinloutley! Kids are fast and in Today's world most parent are focused on their phones and then wonder how they list their kid!! I have seen it!

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darknessIsMyOutfit
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents didn't put me on a leash as a child I would have been dead. I am not hyperactive run around child that would have ran into traffic just to hear my mom get mad good for this father keeping his kid safe and shame on those who don't understand that children sometimes are little bit more to handle than one parent can you on their own.

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Wezbie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think most people commenting against this must have never been in the presence of a 2 year old. I didn't have one when I was a child but when my mum saw them for the first time recently she said she really wished they'd existed when I was a toddler. I was a very active 2 year old and would run around everywhere. I would certainly not have anything against her if she'd used one! Much better to have a slightly annoyed kid (who doesn't know better so won't know that its upsetting) than a seriously hurt one, or worse!

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Huskymom
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Idk. If she is still using a pacifier (as shown in the photo) I would still utilize a stroller for as long as possible.

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person (i think)
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some kids (ex my nephew) _refuse_ to sit in a stroller. The only way we can get him into a stroller is if he is already asleep. He hates it, always has, and wants to walk so he will squirm his way out of it. Luckily he doesnt run all over the place, but a stroller is not always an option.

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Nguyen Ngoc Kien
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are always thing that some people have to to do and other people can never understand and judge them. Just because they never experience it or accept what happen.

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Susan Carroll
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I raised 6 children, and used the harness my mother used with my two younger brothers. Toddlers are fast and unpredictable and have no fear. It saved my sanity and my children. I also tied my two year old to a tree while camping. That kept them out of the river and the campfire. This year in Utah, 4 young children have already drowned in fast moving spring flood streams and rivers. It only takes a fraction of a second.

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Sherry Leigh Williams
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my 6 children was extremely determined and strong willed. he could wriggle out of my hand, and then he would run. I ran a pretty tight ship, my kids were taught manners, and they were disciplined, but he just would see something he wanted and make a run for it. You bet I put a tether on him. I'd rather have an alive child than a dead one. I think its brilliant. I also tethered my 4 year old grandson on the sailboat too. When you live and work in area's where there is no forgiveness should the child bolt, you do whatever is necessary to protect them. Yes the 4 year old was the offspring of said wild child. Mark Thompson, not sure if all your knowledge came from a book, or if you even have children and if you do, I shudder to think how you ensure a 2 year old displays perfect behaviour at all times. I say bull.

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Bel Panado
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder if Mark Thompson ever had kids of his own. Hard to criticize people in their parenting when you yourself isn't one.

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Hans
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We do not know. Thus, this is no argument against him. Why are parents automatically right, and those opposing automatically wrong? Would you not stand up, parent or not, if you see someone beat up his or her child in a public place? I do!

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Maria Beilschmidt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was a tour guide at a dolphin habitat We applauded parents who had enough consideration for their children's safety to leash them

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Robert Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a grandad ..we call them reigns my head daughter had them when we were out when she started walk if she fell they would stop her hurting her self as you could hold her back from hitting the floor but most importantly if your child is a active wander type it keeps them safe

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Claire Sylvester
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whats better; keepsing your child on a lead/harness/wrist strap or them getting run over by a car? Do what you need to do to protect and care for your precious child. We used a backpack which had a secret leash, it was fantastic and kept our baby safe in busy places.

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Tammy Gossett
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Replace the word "Dog" every time that idiot Mark Thomson said child....make sense? Dogs also know small commands, yet we put them on a leash...so are you saying, sir, that a dog's safety is more important than a childs? I used harnesses on my kids and they are fine...

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Aurelia Grey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for him. I'm not a parent but...I worked at huge department store. Found a 4-5 month old infant in a carriage by herself. On a busy Saturday (heavy crowds, noise, chaotic) in the middle of the sales floor. I FREAKED. To keep this short, it took me 45 minutes to track her parents down. "Oh, there she is" is what they said.

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Jan Virtue
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know your child and you're doing what's necessary. I knew someone who had 2 sets of twins and she swore by The Kid Leashes. She told me of a story where they got lose and one hid behind a clothing rack. She couldn't find him for 45 minutes! She went out out of her mind trying to find him. After that, she never went out without it. We get Mr. Dad. Do you.

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Putting a toddler in a high chair to keep it in place is fine, strapping it into a safety seat is fine, but putting a leash on it is a criminal offence? I do not understand Americans (assuming they are American) lol.

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Mari Bradford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those who disagree with this dad have never had a child that takes off running as soon as his feet hit the ground. Hmmmm should I keep my child safe or worry about ignorant opinions

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Hans
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How odd that active children survive even though some parents oppose leashes. How odd.

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Simon Kwan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a 20 month old who's so infatuated with cars and motorcycles that he tries to run into the street. A leash may be in his near future.

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Nadine Young
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

way late to this but the amount of other people's kids I've had to scoop up from running into the road or onto a bus because mum and dad had let them wander too far to grab quickly... Good on this guy, people please keep your kids on a leash or your hand. Don't let them run off ahead of you!!

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Aram Sahag
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unique? Who wrote this article... a ten year old? I was born in 1986 and my mom and her sister have 7 boys between the two of them. They used these leashes all the time at amusement parks and museums. They even had one used in the TV show 'Modern Family.'

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Molly Mileschkowsky
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

no one is perfect, even if you plan on being very aware of where your child is at all times, things happen. My 18 month old has a fascination with the road. if we go downtown if gets exhausting telling her to stay on the sidewalk. I have been seriously considering getting a leash for her. I feel like it is setting a safe boundary and for children that young words are not always super effective.

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prepclasses
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

https://aceacademyarkansas.com/ like this article so much. We are running a institution in USA.

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Betty Jo Soohy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are doing a good job. I used one of these 30 years ago when our son was four. We went to Disney World and the crowds were unbelievable. One end of the tether went buckled around my waist and the other end ended at a shoulder harness he wore. I had many people make rude comments but I didn't care I was not taking a chance on getting accidentally separated from my only child 500 miles away from home. Who cares what anyone else thinks.

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Mary Catherine Albenzi
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to hate those things. But that was before I had a kid. Predators are crafty and quick creatures. I would much rather see a child on a leash, then read about another child stolen and God knows what done to them.

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't do it, but I don't have his kid. Mine is fairly sensible (you don't make 'em that way, they just have their own character when they pop out and you have to deal with it, whatever that character is) and tends to be on the careful side, so I have to teach her that to take risks is ok sometimes (taking risks includes 'going off the slide on her own', lol). My sister used to climb onto the table, even after she'd fallen off a bunch of times and once broken open her head to the point of needing stitches. None of the rest of us (four) were like that, it's just how she was wired. She's still a bit slow when it comes to learning danger signals. Some kids just don't have any sense of danger. As a parent you do what you have to do.

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Genevieve
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for you! The same people having a fit about the leash would be the same people having a fit if your child was in their way.

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Andrew Ho
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My child, my way. All you judgemental strangers be damned

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Mari Bradford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How odd that some don't, I choose not to risk my child's well being because of small minded people

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Coryn Delgado
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just a backpack with a strap guys - a "leash" would tie around her neck....good grief.

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Drew McGregor
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's what happens when you don't. http://nypost.com/2017/05/22/dock-officials-blame-parents-of-girl-dragged-in-water-by-sea-lion/ Doesn't matter what one does. To each his own. If you don't like it then too bad. There is no such thing as being too safe when it comes to your little ones.

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Deborah Ferrell Harris
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well played Dad! Nothing wrong with doing what sometimes is a necessary evil so that you can keep your child safe. Naysayers need to chill

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Connie Smith Brough
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like the word leash... they are a safety harness. I used them various times over the last 40 years when taking a child into large crowded areas. Not only did it keep child from wandering away but also kept them safe from someone grabbing and running away with them. Many comments say teach your child to behave. Children can be very well behaved and still stray... kids are curious and don't realize how far they are wondering when they see something interesting. If you love your children you do whatever necessary to keep them safe and allow yourself and children to enjoy an outing. Much better to keep them harnessed next to you than to spend an anxious 2+ minutes worrying and trying to find them in a crowded area. Sadly, not all parents are fortunate to find child who wanders away. Better to be safe than sorry!

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Jenni Ester
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe people make a fuss about a child on a "leash". There are children being abused and beaten inside their homes.

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Jenni Ester
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yet a child who looks healthy and happy, but is on a leash is what worries people. The child is safe that's the most important part.

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Reline Naude
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done!! I have 3 kids of which the youngest 2 are ages 2 and 3. The 3 year old I can handle, but I do put the 2 year old on a leash as she is the one who pushes the boundaries. And as a mom I can't keep my eyes on all of them all the time. The leash just keeps me sane and her safer than she would be running around. Don't judge until you live it.

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Katie Smith
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Listen for some kids the reward far exceeds any parental consequences. If it keeps her safe, good on him!

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Phillip Moderow
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

70 years ago, my mother had to keep my sister on a leash for the same reason. As a result, she never got lost or kidnapped. Too bad. I really wanted her attic bedroom.

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Anna Brown
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get what's wrong with it....if we labelled it "safety harness" and sold it in mothercare you'd probably buy one!.... Oh wait, baby shops do sell toddler reins and safety wrist tethers, so what's the difference???

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sheelagh owen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had 2 small kids, 2 years apart. This was before double strollers. I put a harness on my older one, he would take off and hide under clothing racks. I got lots of dirty looks, but that was much better than losing a kid or having somebody grab him.

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Nancy Oliver
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The comments about it not being the child's fault just means they have not had a highly spirited and curious child. Some children are just that way no matter what you try to teach them. Not all children are like that, but there are a few, and you just can't keep them safe any other way.

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Sara Bailey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was that wild child, and I remember the 15 point adjustable red harness my parents would strap me into and clip the "leash" to it. And then buckle me into the shopping cart. I also remember how I escaped from it and went spelunking off the side of the cart, with the tether, and then running around the store. I remember being lost at Sea World, not knowing if my parents would ever find me. What I learned from that leash, was that my parents didn't want me running away, that they wanted me safe, that I needed to learn to not go running off, and until I learned that skill, they were going to make sure I was within arms reach. (They also learned that I had a nose for the toy department, and even if I'd never been in a store before, if I got away from them, they could always find me there. ) When I had children of my own, they proved to be equally spirited and independent. Thankfully, they have made cuter child safety harnesses that look like bears and monkeys or cool backpacks.

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3ke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I approve of child leashes. I had a leash as a kid because I would wander off and I got one for my son as well, it's a dinosaur backpack.

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Christy Hollister
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not a new thing by any means...my mother had one for my sister 50+ yearss ago because she too was a wild child...as careful a parent I am when my daughter was about 3-4 years old she slipped away from me in a very crowded Farmer's Market in Atlanta I was frantically screaming her name and Thank God a kindly man brought her back to me...I was shaking and crying so badly ! I applaud you Daddy for caring enough to do this!

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John Baker
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To the judgmental a******s: It's none of your damned business how other people raise their kids. You don't like the leash? Too bad. Zero f***s given. It beats hell out of having to scrape what's left of her off the road after she runs out in front of a truck, doesn't it? And if you think that can't happen to even the most attentive parents, you're idiots as well as s**t-stirrers.

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Mary Reid
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So my wild child is now 35 years of age. As a toddler she was enfenced within the yard because we lived on a corner in the heart of a village. When taking walks with her three older subs who spanned up to age 7, she was leashed. The time I didn't leash her while the family of seven was at the amusement park so we could freely enter rides, she bolted. After that confinement was a given until she learned to pedal a two-wheeler.

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Cathy DelGreco
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've owned daycares for 25 years. I've encountered many spirited children. A lead to keep them close by is no different from restraining them in a stroller. They get exercise, and the parent has piece of mind from danger. I whole heartedly agree. It keeps everyone sane and safe!

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Tammy Bahnam
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I say good for you dad I'm a grandmother of a 2 and a half year old little girl and she is a RUNNER!! I also have a 4 year old grandson my grandkids live in Canada so when I was visiting them my son in law and I took the kids to Macdonald's play place for lunch well when it was time to go in was putting on my grandsons shoes and my son in law was putting on his daughters shoe's some kids came in and the door was open when I turned around my granddaughter was no where to be found my heart dropped I went out to the door only to see her standing outside with her hand holding the door shut it was a game to her mind you she was outside next to take out traffic and the parking lot she saw me and started to run in to the parking lot I almost died that moment so for all you people who want to shame parents for putting a child on a leash shame on you it only takes a moment to lose a child and that moment you can never get back

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Marcella Perleberg
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two thumbs up to you, Dad .. and I would give more if I had them! NOTHING is more important than your child's safety .. and to hell with what other people think, so long as it works for YOU! It really is sad that you have to validate your parenting methods, but I do understand. Too many people out there think they know everything, and believe it's their right to tell you what's right and wrong and how to raise your child. This is YOUR child .. YOUR life .. YOUR responsibility .. and YOU ARE DOING AN AWESOME JOB!!!

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Marysia Jawłowska
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those who criticise that dad and feel offended by the situation simply give in to the symbolism of the leash and fail to see it as a practical physical object. Which is not just safe but actually gives the child much more freedom than holding hands would.

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James Bryant
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you have a problem putting a young child on a leash but you put your dog on a leash then you are a hypocrite. And the children know commands by 2 excuse is just that, An excuse. dogs can also learn basic commands in a much shorter time. So if you walk your dog on a leash can I call you a bad dog owner for not training your dog correctly?

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Eric Cox
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have one for my son, I don't use it often. I don't care what people think, and I'll tell them if I need to. A single mistake is all it takes.

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Jonathan Eatsalot
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you want dictate how kids should be raised....................go have your own and knock yourself out. Otherwise, shut up.

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Rachel De Jong
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mother used a harness and leash on me when I was a young child,I was a rough and tumble tomboy of a girl always getting in to scrapes and putting my nose in to things I shouldn't.....the leash and harness kept me safe.I see children running riot all the time when out with their parents and the parents let them Kudos to this dad for being responsible for his child

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Raokshna Ryuzaki
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally get you dude. My kids are nut cases. And the new addition will probably be the exact same. My son aims for cars. Bridges. rivers. We go to the boot sale he's forever trying to rip stuff of of tables and run away with it. Runs away in shopping centres and trashes s**t. He's mental. The other day he ran in front of a suv out side his nursery. Tha k fyck the guy driving was on point. If leasing keeps kids safe. Then do it f**k everyone else

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Derek Hellam
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Children used to wear REINS all the time, and many still do. Nothing new in this.

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Virgil Blue
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she is as rambunctious as he says I can imagine something like this would be necessary until the kid finds her sense of self preservation so to speak. So no problem I's ay.

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Lam Lam Lamtazar
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see it as support for parents who might give into peer pressure and find some common ground with someone who shares their view. It might not look perfect to have a child on a leash and I am very lucky to have two girls who really stop at the second I yell "STOP", but I've seen to many almost accidents to not understand other parents' trouble with this. This post is not so much self validation as support for parents who might otherwise feel too pressured and guilty.

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Krysta Pandoo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally agree. Reins were a staple thirty years ask, suddenly they're unpopular, they cruel, they speak of bad parenting, yet so many more accidents with children have happened because parents looked away for a second, so many children have been lost or abducted and so many children have run into danger because they've got terrible parents in the first place - anyone else see the coronation?

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Mandy Holford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, he could let her run like so many parents have and visit her at the morgue when she gets hit by a car or stolen and never seen again. Children are very active and no parent has eyes in the back of their head. He has a child who is safe thanks to her dad who has found a creative way to keep her that way.

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Yunyann See
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those judgy people dont live with your child, you do. So you do whatever it takes to keep them safe.

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Lilly Morse
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

just put one of the little monkey backpack/leashes on them .. the kids feel stylish with there new monkey backpack .

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Shannon Prestegard
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not have kids. But all my friends do and when I babysit and out and about I'm constantly saying stay close,

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Cherry Warr
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have a problem with leashes, especially the ones that aren't dog style, like those that are connected to a little stuffed animal backpack? I just have a problem with how some people treat their kids when they are on a leash...they aren't dogs, don't drag them around ignoring them!!

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TMilly
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have friends who learned how to ski on a leash, which proved to be dangerous. But, there's nothing wrong with doing this. Safety is a must

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Rama Llama
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't even know there are people that think leashes are bad. They are quite common here (well, you don't see them everyday, but when you do nobody bats an eye) even if we don't have nearly as much traffic and people around than bigger countries and their cities. "Wild kids" aren't wild because their parents don't know how to do their job and it's important to keep them safe by any means necessary - and even if it were parents' fault, wouldn't it still be better to keep them in leashes when needed and not to let them kill themselfs?

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Alison Oakley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had wild twins. Without a leash (or two, actually) they would not have survived. Their little sister loved the leash, she wouldn't hold hands and hated the stroller. Loved being able to run around with the big kids, while I kept her safe.

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Meowoui
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister had a wrist to wrist coiled lead on her daughter in the 80's, this is not new. Would you rather have your child get lost or kidnaped. I bet the one's who had something happen to their child had one of these hand to hand or leash like this dad. Be real people who are thinking this is wrong.

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Heather Mullen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in my 60's and I remember my mum putting a harness and lead on my little brother. In those days there was no second car and she had six of us to walk to the supermarket. It was standard practice years ago to have a harness on little ones. Can't believe it's even newsworthy. Ask your mum or grandmother about it. But I'm still choking on my cuppa about the kid who barked at everyone.

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Šimon Špaček
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always say this to people (mostly older women, about 45-50) who judge me for having daughter on leash "I prefer to be judged than scraping her from windshield. Thank you for your prejudice Madam." On the other hand, even older women (65-75) love it. And dads of all ages agree with me.

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Barby Jeffers
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man is fine....keep your baby safe....screw the haters that think they are perfect parents....trust me....they are not :)

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Barby Jeffers
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy is perfectly fine....keep your baby safe man....screw the haters that think they are perfect....trust me.... they are not....

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SophieAmeliah
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is such a silly article, my mum had me on one of these all the time as a child, it came attached to a back pack and was bought from a store for this purpose...its not a dog lead, whats the fuss about?!

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Sophie Heron
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is ridiculous, my mum had me on one of these all time time as a kid, as i would run off. They come attached to back packs and you can buy them in stores, its not a dog leash...what a silly article...

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Allison Jennifer
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Letting her have a little bit of freedom while keeping her safe...good in my books. You can hold your childs hand but I have first hand experience that they can, in a millisecond get out of your hold then what, run onto the road...Its not around her neck...good for you!

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Diane Bittner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good job. Safety is more important than what a stranger may think. BRAVO.

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Gillian Black
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

goodness me I am 67 yyears old and guess what when my boys were little you could buy special harness leashes for youor children , we are to political correct now and the danger is so much worse than way back then,you go for it dad and other parents take note it is worth it

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Pete Jennings
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it keeps her safe it is good. Apparently it is more socially acceptable than nailing their feet to the floor as well.

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Jenne Kopalek
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When mine were little I was so skinny from chasing them everywhere. A leash was never an option. Parent. Be firm.

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D Rolls
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My thing with leashes is I've seen kids get hurt because of leashes-- other than that it's a good measure to keep a curious kid safe.

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Sam Campbell
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a good parent! Did this with my kids too (my son is almost 21 now and my daughter is 12). My parents did this with us. In England (where my mother is from), this has always been acceptable. That's where we picked up my son's harness. Americans are so quick to judge and shame, but my kids were safe and aren't self-entitled snowflakes today. They were free to safely explore and burn energy while still being kids, not out-of-control brats. Don't judge.

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Matthew Green
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done to him you can still buy harness/leashes for backpacks

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Joni Radford
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To all the close-minded idiots who live in a bubble and think nothing bad could ever happen to them, I challenge you to go watch the movie '3096 days'

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Aunt Messy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brother started walking at 9 months old, and once he started, he was jet propelled. There was no stroller that could hold him, if you could get him into one in the first place. He'd vanish in a millisecond if Mom didn't have him in a six point harness (that buckled in the back) and on a leash. He wasn't psychically scarred by it, and he also didn't try to race trucks on the street or climb office towers for fun...at 18 months old.

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Stephanie Ann
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now that's a good dad. Taking safety seriously- you get good points from me!

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L.A. Saiter
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a great grandmother and used a leash on my daughters when they were young. I had 2 - 14 months apart and then one 3 years later. No way I could have gone out with my kids by myself without it. GO DAD, safety first

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Janet Clarke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents leashed me when we visited New York City when I was a toddler, over 45 years ago. I'm not emotionally scarred.

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José Alejandro Díaz Bravo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not supporting any kind of "tool" to educate a child... why? because there will be a serious problem when the tool is gone... (by the way, children survive before those leashes were invented)

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People survived without medication back then too. Should medication be abolished? What a useless comment in the brackets.

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Victor Vakaras
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy seems like a real mental colossus. Why would you let a kid that old use a pacifier? Stop having kids, you're bad at raising them.

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Angie Thomasina
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6 years ago

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This is not teaching her the diffidence between safe and unsafe. He's controlling her, not teaching her.

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Hans
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6 years ago

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Mark Thomson's comment summarizes all you can say. Safety is a thought-terminating cliché, thus, it is the wrong argument. A leash, as in kids as in dogs, is not for the safety of the one being attached to the leash, but for the one wiedling the leash! For the safety of the leashed one, empathy, understanding, attention, and at times a portion of strictness does the much better trick! Using a leash because your child _could_ move _somewhere_ where something dangerous _might_ be is like keeping your 10 year old in diapers because while potty training an accident _could_ happen and you therefore avoid it. The world is full of dangers, but also full of wonders, and these are best explored with love and respect instead of with being restricted.

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Sheralyn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hans, hand over your heart, have you never strapped a toddler in a high chair to keep it in place? Never buckled a toddler with a seat belt while it's screaming to get away? Do people scold you for 'trapping' or 'imprisoning' the toddler? Try to sue you for 'false imprisonment'? This is exactly the same, using a physical method to control the child. Unless you can tell me you have never used any physical methods to control a child, think before you criticise.

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nameme the undieing
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putting a kid on a leash is a public humiliation for the child because you are too bad a parent to use better methods and it is borderline abuse what's next are you going to let you child s**t on the ground like a dog too because you cant potty train

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Aunt Messy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's two. She doesn't understand danger and negotiating with a toddler is stupid beyond belief.

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