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Groomsman Orders Some Pizzas During Vegetarian Wedding Because There Was Nothing To Eat, Bride Says She Won’t Forgive Him
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Groomsman Orders Some Pizzas During Vegetarian Wedding Because There Was Nothing To Eat, Bride Says She Won’t Forgive Him

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Recently, a 36-year-old groomsman shared an incident that happened at his long time friend Sara’s wedding. “I’m on medication for anxiety and depression that has to be taken at a certain time of the day and also requires food, so I asked Sara what time the food would be served,” the author, who goes by the handle u/pizzaweddingthrow, shared some background information in the post on the AITA subreddit.

Turns out, this was a vegetarian wedding, which the author assured was no problem to him at all. “The only issue I had was when I found out the size of the meals,” he said and added that “The entire course consisted of a side salad, a side of corn, and a side of broccoli…” As you may suspect, this was far from enough for a groomsman of 6’2″, 185 lbs.

So he came up with a plan to “covertly” order some pizza, sneak out from the reception and grab a few slices… What he didn’t know was that he was far from the only guest at the wedding with a grumbling stomach.

Recently, a groomsman at a vegetarian wedding has shared how he covertly ordered some pizzas to snack in his car since the portions at the reception were very small

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To find out an expert’s take on this whole incident, Bored Panda spoke with Aurelie Della Maggiore, the wedding planner and wedding designer based in the French Alps from Lucy Till French Weddings. Aurelie said that from her experience, she has never heard about guests being unsatisfied with the wedding dinner portions, and added “it’s also the caterer’s responsibility to recommend the right amount of food per guest.”

“Here the issue is really more about feeding your bridal party during the day prior to the wedding dinner,” she said and added that “Sometimes brides and grooms are focused on the wedding itself and forget about the rest of the day that could be long prior to the wedding.”

Aurelie believes that “it would have been good to think about feeding the bridal party and at least make sure to have snacks available to avoid that situation.”

“We usually take care of the bridal party from the day before the wedding and no one gets hungry. That’s why it’s always good to hire a wedding planner,” the professional wedding planner concluded.

And this is what people had to say about this whole situation

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Ratterlin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The article is missing a crucial plot point - that THE GROOM WAS EATING THE PIZZA AS WELL. It skipped an image, I guess, in which that's explained, hence the bride found out what's going on...

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Keith O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh come on folks. How TF is ordering a pizza "ruining" someone's wedding, for God's sake? This dude had a nutritional need that wasn't being med for his body and meds. Sarah is a whiny brat and the "friends", especially those who actually ate the pizza can for f#ck themselves. I mean, this woman should have had way more regard for her lifelong friend. And the mom staring daggers can screw herself as well. Move on dude, this woman isn't your friend if she let's this break her and your relationship.......goodness these are getting stupider and stupider.

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Gabriel Sbárbaro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you!!! I feel like that too... either this stories are all fake, or people is getting more and more stupid, making a fuzz and getting offended for everything, and getting triggered by everything...

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jessica r
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH. The lack of food is awful, but you could have handled this better. No one could blame you for discretely eating a sandwich or something. Ordering pizza and talking about it is not very gentleman-like.

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Monday
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where exactly was he supposed to get the sandwich though? I've certainly never taken a sandwich with me to a wedding. He was hungry. He bought his own food. Why is that a problem?

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Mr. Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He was hungry and had a right to eat. Period. I went to a wedding 20 some years ago. I was the date of a former sorority sister of the bride. She was a bit of a rock n roll chick. Her reception was huge and the food service was painfully slow. And as it would turn out, they were running out of food. We were the last table and the table before us pretty much cleaned out what was left of the food. 15 minutes later five pizzas and sides arrived and was delivered to our table. Wonder who sent us? The Bride!!!!! That's show cool she was. Boils down to this, if you tell people you are feeding them at your wedding, feed them a goddamn meal and not a few pieces of lettuce and some broccoli. He was in the right.

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Mr. Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And I'm married and planned my own wedding. We made it clear to our guests that we would be passing a lot of horderves, but it was not a meal. Our wedding and reception were all of three hours. Let your guests truly know what to expect. If someone had ordered more food at my reception, I would have probably offered to pay for it.

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Random person
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Vegetarian here, there is more veg food than just a side salad. You can get imitation meat if 6ou still like the taste, pretty much half of all Indian food is vegetarian, sandwiches, cheese board, snacks, tofu based meals, etc. Being vegetarian doesn't mean you only eat veggies, or get to force ppl to starve.

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Ghosts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not vegetarian, but loads of veggy meals are hearty & filling.

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Kay blue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If that's all the food that was available there must have been a lot of very drunk people. Drinking on an empty stomach is never a good idea.

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Issey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA...or maybe a bit TA. Being vegetarian doesn't mean "eat like an ant". There is more than enough full course, filling vegetarian cuisine. Serving nothing but salad and a bit of corn is ridiculous. But... ordering pizza?! You KNEW you had to take medication at a certain time, so why not just bring a pre-made sandwich and step out for a second to eat it? Why order food, which would garner attention?

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John Spookey
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Woah,must you be that judgmental?Folks when hungry do stuff much worse.Besides,serving tiny meal and keeping a friend without food for 8 hours seems kinda egocentric and egoistic ,EVEN if it’s that person’s wedding.

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Kimberly Wiltshire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her wedding was cheap or she hired the wrong caterer. A handful of vegtables is not a meal. That is on her and her husband not on you. She got defensive because she knew it was too little. The other people without a back bone are AH. I would absolutely found a way to feed myself in this situation. Tired of the whole it's my day so I can make unreasonable demands. And as long as she isnt paying for the meat none of her business. People were sitting in their cars smesking food for gids sake. You're mad because you're embarrassed because you either made a poor decision on food or on a wedding that was outside your budget.

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L1z
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should not have told anyone he ordered pizza and just ate it discreetly. The bridal party are AH for not actually feeding people but you should have kept your plans to yourself instead of telling anyone

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jamie1707
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being forced to conform with someone else's dietary scheme is really being an ass hole.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I take a lot of medication and if I don't eat, I will get sick. I don't know if I would have ordered a pizza, but I would have something extra to eat. The people that ate the pizza don't have the right to call this guy an AH. As for the bride, does she not realize that her groom was eating the pizza as well? Why isn't she mad at him? If you are going to invite people to your wedding, you need to feed them more than a side salad and some other vegetables. Especially since a lot of people's medications need to be taken with some sort of protein. He was not the only person who ate the pizza, therefore he should not be the only person treated badly.

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Nkotanyi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that she did not consider your (special) needs as a friend is alarming. NTA.

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Soggy Crumpet
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1 year ago

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The bride does NOT need to keep all her guest’s medications in mind or be responsible for the appropriate environment for them to take them. Knowing that you need a specific scenario for your meds is YOUR responsibility, not someone else’s.

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Andrea Robinson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She sounds like a first world, privileged, spoiled brat. I wish a pizza(that I didn't even have to eat) was the worst thing that ever happened to me. Long time relationship or not. Sounds like you're better off without such a selfish, unforgiving person who has no empathy. Poor new husband. He took vows to spend the rest of his life with that. Sorry it happened and that you suffer from anxiety. You did NOTHING wrong!

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Ghosts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not vegetarian but also not averse to the odd vegetarian meal. Plenty of vegetarian meals are hearty & filling. What was served at that wedding was baby portions. Also, as a type 1 diabetic, you wouldn't like me when I'm hungry. I think us T1s are the epitome of 'hangry'.

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Katinka Min
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another one of those 'What is WRONG with people??' What kind of insane person catersonly 200cals?? What kind of fathead does not speak up but orders pizza instead?? And who sulks about a stupid tiff like this for days on end?. As.sholes all around.

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aj
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree that it sounds like awfully little food, I feel like this all could've been avoided if he'd just been honest towards the bride about needing a certain amount of food at a certain time because of the meds. Of course he just meant to not stress her out more but I think in this case a simple explanation *before* the wedding day would have probably defused the situation as it sounds like she didn't even register the "OP needs to take meds with food" part but went straight to "he thinks I'm cheap" in the heat of the moment.

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Ghosts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, he should have used his psychic powers to predict the baby portion of food that was to be served at the wedding.

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Dre Mosley
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, and why force a very limited vegetarian menu on everyone anyway? I've had vegan and vegetarian meals and they were far more robust than what she was offering. I would have chipped in on pizza too.

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DW
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, that was not a meal she served. She was being horrible cheap with her food. Those are side dishes. Not a meal. Shame on her! I don't blame him for ordering a pizza!

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Zoë Blue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my parents got married in the '50s the rule was the church service had to be over before noon. The dinner wasn't until 5 so nowhere to go, everyone hungry but dad's bro/best man lived fairly close & they didn't offer. Bridal party had to find a pub where they could hang out & have a snack. Fast forward to my wedding & it was a 20-min drive from church to reception but the guests were told to go straight there where drinks and lots of appetizers were waiting. My mum never forgave her SIL but enjoyed telling everyone how much nicer this was than letting people go hungry. I wouldn't have cared if people ordered extra food but we had a ton. Even at QEII's coronation people snuck food in their coronets and robes. The bride should've realized the food was woefully inadequate.

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Danny Meeks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate these endless "am I the AH" posts. Invariably the person posting it isn't and want's everyone to tell them so. So formulaic and disingenuous...

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No you can't have my name
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah man. That's not even enough food for one rabbit, let alone a whole ass adult human(not even adding the fact that OP needs to eat a certain amount of food with his meds). If your budget for food and cake is one excessively controlled side salad and slice of cake per person, you need to sit your ass down with someone who actually understands budgeting. Or maybe just hire a wedding planner and let them handle it

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Iggy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When he says salad, does he mean to say just lettuce because a properly done salad can be very filling.

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Trillian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He says side salad so I imagine it was just greens and not very big. The whole thing doesn't even sound like a meal but something you would feed a rabbit. Vegetarian food is a lot (both in quality and quantity) more than "sides without the meat". Sounds like they hired a place that usually doesn't do vegetarian options.

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Rebecca Burrer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bride and all that took her side are AH. People deserve a decent meal and from what I read, servings were VERY inadequate and she should be ashamed of how she treated her guests.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a nasty bridezilla. Seriously, who's it hurting if people go and eat what they want? This is why so many people have a visceral reaction to vegetarians and vegans - they seem to want to force their choices onto others. I guess she just wanted a captive audience to "prove" her lifestyle choices to. This guy did nothing wrong. Anyone who's been on SSRIs knows that they can tear up your stomach and make you nauseated if you don't eat enough with them. This WAS a cheap meal and the fact that they threw out that accusation without it ever being brought up tells you that she knew she was being cheap. Honestly, if she's going to act like a baby about it maybe you're better off not being friends. I can imagine that you're the hero in plenty of the other guests eyes, even if they wouldn't admit as much to the bride. Those are some spineless people to have let him take the blame when at least 12 others were chipping in for the pizza, too. Seems like the only non-jerk in this story is OP.

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Spittnimage
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bride sucks. If you can't afford to feed people don't make them stay so long at a reception with a toddler-sized meal.

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Jennifer Germain
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at an awards ceremony for my field, beautiful place but the meal was really disappointing, I am not a big eater by any stretch and I was still hungry. One of the tables ordered pizza and had it delivered to his table. I eat vegetarian food, it's delicious, you were served a side dish. I can't imagine people leaving my wedding hungry, hell leaving my home hungry, that is embarrassing and on the bride AND groom.

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E C K
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

AH, He involved too many people when it should have been him alone, eating in his car. I doubt he mentioned all the food. There had to be dinner rolls, etc., but she should have included a vegetarian protein source, as protein quells hunger.

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Tykeshia Sinclair
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, bride could have done more by a long shot. My sister, who is a total cheapskate, bought food for the bridal party to eat before the wedding and she had a barbecue as the reception to save money. Spending $20 on veggies and expecting your guests to be pleased is awful and shortsighted

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Mikey Kliss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like either catering is TA here for providing the bare minimum and calling it "Vegetarians special" or the bride and groom were trying to save a few buck. I know food was the biggest expense at my wedding

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CG
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say NTA, simply because he needed more food with his medications. I'd have personally talked to the bride and asked if I could get more food, but he may not have known about portion sizes beforehand, and may not have wanted to stress out the bride. Not in the wrong, but he could have approached it in a different way.

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Sarah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm confused as to where it says that even the groom was eating the pizza...and I read it three times...

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NsG
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the original Reddit post and apparently missing from this BP version: "Nobody really seemed to notice anything until Sara couldn't find the groom anywhere. She had her mom help her find him and as you can guess she found him out by my car eating pizza.. Well, to say she blew up..."

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Ally MacMann
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I try to take these stories at face value but in this case, I just don't buy it. He ordered a pizza at a catered wedding and told at least one person he was doing it. He could have at least kept it quiet. The fact that he even mentioned it was a vegetarian wedding is telling to me (I don't understand how that's relevant). To me it sounds like he was making a statement.

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Nikki Sevven
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. The meal failed to include a decent amount of protein and complex carbs and wouldn't have sustained anyone for 8 hours. I'm perfectly fine with meatless meals, but 3 side dishes do not make a meal. She could have had meatless lasagna, potatoes au gratin, etc.

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blatherskitenoir
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The part where he was an a*****e was when it snowballed into a second party out in the parking lot where the majority of the wedding party disappeared to. 12+ people involved in the wedding party, including the groom himself had all disappeared for this pizza party in the parking lot, blowing off the guests and abandoning the bride to host by herself. And yes, that was absolutely assholish, small portions or not. If he knew they would be hungry, he should have cleared a plan to have pizza delivered between the ceremony and the reception for everyone in the wedding party to have a late lunch. Or he should have left for twenty minutes at some point before the reception's start to get some fast food, eat in his car, and then return. Or, shocker of shocking plans, packed himself a sandwich and some protein bars to eat in a spare moment. He's not an a*****e for ensuring he had something extra to eat, he's an a*****e for turning it into a major production, involving a bunch of people and some very indiscrete "sneaking".

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA but he could have thought it through better. This could have been easily avoided by keeping his plan to himself, then he could have snuck to his car as needed. He could also have packed some food or sandwiches in a cooler. How could both the bride and groom think that was going to be enough food? I vote the bride TA.

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Kim Lorton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely not the add! When you have a wedding that will be a long affair, you serve hors derves, ( spelled wrong I know!) and snaking areas, as well as a dinner that can be vegetarian entree! If you say on your invitation , dinner served at the reception, you had better serve a dinner! So, she was cheap and she deserved what she paid for, or didn’t pay for! Someone helping her plan the reception should’ve been honest with her to tell her come on! You need to feed these people if you say dinner will be served! My sisters’ daughter in law is vegetarian, and she did a buffet that was vegetarIan and wonderful! Several great entrees and sides. So it can be done. Someone should have called her on this.

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Susanne B
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I cannot for the life of me understand how the described servings could be called a meal

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Arenite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m insulin dependent diabetic. Would the bride have preferred I have a seizure from low blood sugar, simply so she can be a cheap hostess?

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Cydney Golden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No protein, no fats, no starches? Nothing to tide anyone over. Ridiculous!

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Lisa Shaw
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is ridiculous, that's not a wedding meal, it's a starter and a bad one at that. I would have been on the floor due to low blood sugar, long before the cake came out, with 3 out of 5 people having diet requirements for medical reasons, this bride is out of her mind. The OP didn't ruin anything, many wedding's order pizza and wings in for the late night, the meal after the meal later on in the night.

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JP Purves
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A salad and two servings of vegetables is not a meal. There are lots of vegetarian meat substitutes that could have been served that would have made it more portion correct. If you can't afford a full meal, don't have a full-on reception. OP also could have saved himself a lot of grief if he'd just packed a lunch and kept it in a cooler in his car.

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Kat Kirkpatrick
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Vegetarian meals can be delicious and filling. I have been to several social events where all food offerings were vegetarian, and I went home happy, stuffed full, and with leftovers to enjoy later. The problem with this wedding was not that it was vegetarian food...it's that there wasn't enough food at all for anyone. It sounds to me like what was served was meant to be an appetizer. Whether the bride made a mistake when ordering it that way, or she honestly thought that would be enough food for everyone I don't know. I don't consider OP to have been in the wrong because he tried to be discreet about the pizza so as not to embarrass the bride, but all those others who joined him in eating pizza who turned on him? Yeah, they are jerks and OP needs to cut them out of his life.+

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KimB
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also take meds which require me to eat first or they tear up my stomach and I don't leave the house without a protein bar just in case...he knows he needs to eat yet was unprepared so that makes him a little bit of an AH...but she's definitely the AH for singling him out when he wasn't the only one eating pizza.

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lightbulb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this happen before. A friend went to her cousins vegan wedding and they only ended up serving tofu pie, rice cakes and fruits. The guests ended up all going to a restaurant immediately afterwards. The bride reacted just like here. You can't serve something the equivalent of a light snack and expect people to not be hungry.

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Mama Penguin
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally not the NTA. It's rude to expect your wedding party to stick around for 8 hours while not providing enough food. Eight hours is a long time. I'm sorry but Sara should be embarrassed by the small amount of food she served her guests. Be realistic with your wedding budget.

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D K
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A bit off topic, my apologies… but this makes me think of the wedding we are planning for next March. A question for the vegetarians - We are doing a buffet of bbq chicken, tri tip, plenty of sides, h’ordeurves. They do offer eggplant Parmesan and veggie burgers in the catering menu as well. Which of these two veggie selections sound better to y’all?

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Moosy Girl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it’s just vegetarians go for whatever has the most cheese in it. ;) If you’re expecting vegans as well go for the veggie burgers. The only problem with the eggplant parmesan is it might be gone before the vegetarians even get to it!

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blatherskitenoir
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He erred in two ways: 1) blowing it up to a large group and 2) timing. 1) Enough people were involved that they usurped the event to hold their own, private, mini event that was "better" than what was planned. At that point, you'd need one of the hosts (likely the groom, who was also eating) to officially sanction the action for it to be ok, and even then, it would still be insulting to the other guests who weren't included. 2) The other flub was doing it during the reception. As members of the wedding party, they were supposed to be "working" during the reception, not disappearing to the parking lot to hang out. Deciding to throw an impromptu pizza party for lunch or in the afternoon, before the formal reception, rather than during, would have worked without causing offense. If he'd ordered his own pizza and inhaled it before the start of the reception, there would be no issue, but as it stands, he done wrong and needs to apologize for letting this get out of control.

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Jeannette
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. The people that wanted a bigger order and the bride are. Pizza is the only thing that can be delivered where I am. So yea regardless of medicine you are allowed to eat. Bride sounds like someone angry about eating nothing to fit in her dress.

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Scourge McCloud
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like a bridezilla. How dare people still be hungry after serving them that. Having options on the table that's vegan / vegetarian and options for people who don't follow the diet would have been a win win situation for everyone.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA for getting more food but YTA for making a big production of it with all those people in the parking lot.

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Leodavinci
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm with Ducky818 on this. NTA. Really, what was the point of telling anyone else?

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Wang Zhuang
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I get it, the food sucked, but he's kinda the a*****e in this situation. It his friend's wedding and he made her look bad. I'm surprised he didn't know about the food situation in advance and planned accordingly. And of course, he could've been much more discreet about the situation.

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Miguel justino C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m 6ft 2 and 230 pounds, I lift a lot of weights and have a killer metabolism. Eating 3000 calories a day to stay fit is normal. I blend and drink this many vegetables before sunrise.

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Chyppa Homer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You did good ! The way you describe it, it was a vegan reception, not even vegetarian, and those nuts are just plain evil, sorry. And if that many guests piled on, then you were in the right.

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No you didn't
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unpopular opinion: yes the a*****e. She is right, you were disrespectful and gave her the feeling that what was provided was not good enough. She's a close friend and it's her wedding. You should have sucked it up.

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Bored Turtle Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did you even read the part where OP said he needed to take his medication? Or that they would need to be there for over 8 hours?

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Douglas Mock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would have been better to just have Dominoes bring 20 pizzas right to her table, so she can pass out real food instead of her b******t.

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Ross Duncan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care if you were served an ice cube and a side of air. It was one meal, at a friends wedding. One meal. All you showed was you are a self involved a*s hole

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Olivia Wilder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with ordering pizza discretely but bringing meat into a vegetarian wedding is a d**k move. Could you not have ordered vegetarian only pizza?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Erica M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry but I think it's pretty awful to order outside food when you're asked to attend someone's wedding. If he was THAT concerned about taking his medication with food, he could have brought an energy bar without embarrassing the bride. The other folks I feel are at fault too, as no one saw an issue with ordering pizzas and disregarding the bride's wishes? Seriously cannot comprehend this. He also could have declined to go, could have explained his concerns to the bride, etc. As someone who deals with anxiety and depression, I'm not terribly moved by his justifications.

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's see. You made a major display of publicly criticizing the wedding menu right there at the wedding reception. You could have left early to get the food you wanted so desperately, you could have slipped out for a quick bite and come back, or you could have quietly asked the catering staff what they could do for you. But, no, you decided to embarrass the newly-weds in front of everyone, instead. If you didn't like the dance music the DJ was playing at the reception, would you have set up your own boom box? Come to think of it, shouldn't the groom's choice of bride (or vice versa) have been left up to you? Or maybe you just didn't belong there in the first place. Oh, YTA. I would have just kicked you out, but at many weddings I've been to you'd have been damned lucky that the father of the bride let you eat that pizza with a full set of teeth.

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propgamer XL
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA Who cares. My nephews went to the Mc Donalds, cause they didn't like the food.

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mac
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps instead of a pizza. He could have made a protein shake of some kind to get him through?

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Anna Snorrepot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he could have brought a granola bar. Pizza is a whole meal, not a layer for your meds. Making it big, involving others, hiding it is just too much.

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Moosy Girl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m really surprised this is NTA for so many people. He knew it was gonna be long, he knew he had specific food requirements, he could’ve taken some filling snacks to munch on just to be sure. If it was just him secretly ordering and eating a pizza in his car it wouldn’t be as big a deal, but he ended up taking other people’s orders! Calling for 12 pizza’s to be delivered at someone’s wedding is just rude imho.

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Ghosts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He. Didn't. Know. He'd. Be. Served. Baby. Portions. At. The. Wedding.

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Ratterlin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The article is missing a crucial plot point - that THE GROOM WAS EATING THE PIZZA AS WELL. It skipped an image, I guess, in which that's explained, hence the bride found out what's going on...

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Keith O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh come on folks. How TF is ordering a pizza "ruining" someone's wedding, for God's sake? This dude had a nutritional need that wasn't being med for his body and meds. Sarah is a whiny brat and the "friends", especially those who actually ate the pizza can for f#ck themselves. I mean, this woman should have had way more regard for her lifelong friend. And the mom staring daggers can screw herself as well. Move on dude, this woman isn't your friend if she let's this break her and your relationship.......goodness these are getting stupider and stupider.

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Gabriel Sbárbaro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you!!! I feel like that too... either this stories are all fake, or people is getting more and more stupid, making a fuzz and getting offended for everything, and getting triggered by everything...

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jessica r
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH. The lack of food is awful, but you could have handled this better. No one could blame you for discretely eating a sandwich or something. Ordering pizza and talking about it is not very gentleman-like.

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Monday
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where exactly was he supposed to get the sandwich though? I've certainly never taken a sandwich with me to a wedding. He was hungry. He bought his own food. Why is that a problem?

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Mr. Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He was hungry and had a right to eat. Period. I went to a wedding 20 some years ago. I was the date of a former sorority sister of the bride. She was a bit of a rock n roll chick. Her reception was huge and the food service was painfully slow. And as it would turn out, they were running out of food. We were the last table and the table before us pretty much cleaned out what was left of the food. 15 minutes later five pizzas and sides arrived and was delivered to our table. Wonder who sent us? The Bride!!!!! That's show cool she was. Boils down to this, if you tell people you are feeding them at your wedding, feed them a goddamn meal and not a few pieces of lettuce and some broccoli. He was in the right.

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Mr. Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And I'm married and planned my own wedding. We made it clear to our guests that we would be passing a lot of horderves, but it was not a meal. Our wedding and reception were all of three hours. Let your guests truly know what to expect. If someone had ordered more food at my reception, I would have probably offered to pay for it.

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Random person
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Vegetarian here, there is more veg food than just a side salad. You can get imitation meat if 6ou still like the taste, pretty much half of all Indian food is vegetarian, sandwiches, cheese board, snacks, tofu based meals, etc. Being vegetarian doesn't mean you only eat veggies, or get to force ppl to starve.

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Ghosts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not vegetarian, but loads of veggy meals are hearty & filling.

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Kay blue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If that's all the food that was available there must have been a lot of very drunk people. Drinking on an empty stomach is never a good idea.

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Issey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA...or maybe a bit TA. Being vegetarian doesn't mean "eat like an ant". There is more than enough full course, filling vegetarian cuisine. Serving nothing but salad and a bit of corn is ridiculous. But... ordering pizza?! You KNEW you had to take medication at a certain time, so why not just bring a pre-made sandwich and step out for a second to eat it? Why order food, which would garner attention?

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John Spookey
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Woah,must you be that judgmental?Folks when hungry do stuff much worse.Besides,serving tiny meal and keeping a friend without food for 8 hours seems kinda egocentric and egoistic ,EVEN if it’s that person’s wedding.

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Kimberly Wiltshire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her wedding was cheap or she hired the wrong caterer. A handful of vegtables is not a meal. That is on her and her husband not on you. She got defensive because she knew it was too little. The other people without a back bone are AH. I would absolutely found a way to feed myself in this situation. Tired of the whole it's my day so I can make unreasonable demands. And as long as she isnt paying for the meat none of her business. People were sitting in their cars smesking food for gids sake. You're mad because you're embarrassed because you either made a poor decision on food or on a wedding that was outside your budget.

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L1z
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should not have told anyone he ordered pizza and just ate it discreetly. The bridal party are AH for not actually feeding people but you should have kept your plans to yourself instead of telling anyone

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jamie1707
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being forced to conform with someone else's dietary scheme is really being an ass hole.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I take a lot of medication and if I don't eat, I will get sick. I don't know if I would have ordered a pizza, but I would have something extra to eat. The people that ate the pizza don't have the right to call this guy an AH. As for the bride, does she not realize that her groom was eating the pizza as well? Why isn't she mad at him? If you are going to invite people to your wedding, you need to feed them more than a side salad and some other vegetables. Especially since a lot of people's medications need to be taken with some sort of protein. He was not the only person who ate the pizza, therefore he should not be the only person treated badly.

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Nkotanyi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that she did not consider your (special) needs as a friend is alarming. NTA.

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The bride does NOT need to keep all her guest’s medications in mind or be responsible for the appropriate environment for them to take them. Knowing that you need a specific scenario for your meds is YOUR responsibility, not someone else’s.

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Andrea Robinson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She sounds like a first world, privileged, spoiled brat. I wish a pizza(that I didn't even have to eat) was the worst thing that ever happened to me. Long time relationship or not. Sounds like you're better off without such a selfish, unforgiving person who has no empathy. Poor new husband. He took vows to spend the rest of his life with that. Sorry it happened and that you suffer from anxiety. You did NOTHING wrong!

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Ghosts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not vegetarian but also not averse to the odd vegetarian meal. Plenty of vegetarian meals are hearty & filling. What was served at that wedding was baby portions. Also, as a type 1 diabetic, you wouldn't like me when I'm hungry. I think us T1s are the epitome of 'hangry'.

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Katinka Min
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another one of those 'What is WRONG with people??' What kind of insane person catersonly 200cals?? What kind of fathead does not speak up but orders pizza instead?? And who sulks about a stupid tiff like this for days on end?. As.sholes all around.

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aj
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree that it sounds like awfully little food, I feel like this all could've been avoided if he'd just been honest towards the bride about needing a certain amount of food at a certain time because of the meds. Of course he just meant to not stress her out more but I think in this case a simple explanation *before* the wedding day would have probably defused the situation as it sounds like she didn't even register the "OP needs to take meds with food" part but went straight to "he thinks I'm cheap" in the heat of the moment.

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Ghosts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, he should have used his psychic powers to predict the baby portion of food that was to be served at the wedding.

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Dre Mosley
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, and why force a very limited vegetarian menu on everyone anyway? I've had vegan and vegetarian meals and they were far more robust than what she was offering. I would have chipped in on pizza too.

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DW
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, that was not a meal she served. She was being horrible cheap with her food. Those are side dishes. Not a meal. Shame on her! I don't blame him for ordering a pizza!

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Zoë Blue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my parents got married in the '50s the rule was the church service had to be over before noon. The dinner wasn't until 5 so nowhere to go, everyone hungry but dad's bro/best man lived fairly close & they didn't offer. Bridal party had to find a pub where they could hang out & have a snack. Fast forward to my wedding & it was a 20-min drive from church to reception but the guests were told to go straight there where drinks and lots of appetizers were waiting. My mum never forgave her SIL but enjoyed telling everyone how much nicer this was than letting people go hungry. I wouldn't have cared if people ordered extra food but we had a ton. Even at QEII's coronation people snuck food in their coronets and robes. The bride should've realized the food was woefully inadequate.

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Danny Meeks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate these endless "am I the AH" posts. Invariably the person posting it isn't and want's everyone to tell them so. So formulaic and disingenuous...

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No you can't have my name
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah man. That's not even enough food for one rabbit, let alone a whole ass adult human(not even adding the fact that OP needs to eat a certain amount of food with his meds). If your budget for food and cake is one excessively controlled side salad and slice of cake per person, you need to sit your ass down with someone who actually understands budgeting. Or maybe just hire a wedding planner and let them handle it

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Iggy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When he says salad, does he mean to say just lettuce because a properly done salad can be very filling.

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Trillian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He says side salad so I imagine it was just greens and not very big. The whole thing doesn't even sound like a meal but something you would feed a rabbit. Vegetarian food is a lot (both in quality and quantity) more than "sides without the meat". Sounds like they hired a place that usually doesn't do vegetarian options.

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Rebecca Burrer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bride and all that took her side are AH. People deserve a decent meal and from what I read, servings were VERY inadequate and she should be ashamed of how she treated her guests.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a nasty bridezilla. Seriously, who's it hurting if people go and eat what they want? This is why so many people have a visceral reaction to vegetarians and vegans - they seem to want to force their choices onto others. I guess she just wanted a captive audience to "prove" her lifestyle choices to. This guy did nothing wrong. Anyone who's been on SSRIs knows that they can tear up your stomach and make you nauseated if you don't eat enough with them. This WAS a cheap meal and the fact that they threw out that accusation without it ever being brought up tells you that she knew she was being cheap. Honestly, if she's going to act like a baby about it maybe you're better off not being friends. I can imagine that you're the hero in plenty of the other guests eyes, even if they wouldn't admit as much to the bride. Those are some spineless people to have let him take the blame when at least 12 others were chipping in for the pizza, too. Seems like the only non-jerk in this story is OP.

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Spittnimage
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bride sucks. If you can't afford to feed people don't make them stay so long at a reception with a toddler-sized meal.

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Jennifer Germain
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at an awards ceremony for my field, beautiful place but the meal was really disappointing, I am not a big eater by any stretch and I was still hungry. One of the tables ordered pizza and had it delivered to his table. I eat vegetarian food, it's delicious, you were served a side dish. I can't imagine people leaving my wedding hungry, hell leaving my home hungry, that is embarrassing and on the bride AND groom.

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E C K
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

AH, He involved too many people when it should have been him alone, eating in his car. I doubt he mentioned all the food. There had to be dinner rolls, etc., but she should have included a vegetarian protein source, as protein quells hunger.

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Tykeshia Sinclair
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, bride could have done more by a long shot. My sister, who is a total cheapskate, bought food for the bridal party to eat before the wedding and she had a barbecue as the reception to save money. Spending $20 on veggies and expecting your guests to be pleased is awful and shortsighted

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Mikey Kliss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like either catering is TA here for providing the bare minimum and calling it "Vegetarians special" or the bride and groom were trying to save a few buck. I know food was the biggest expense at my wedding

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CG
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say NTA, simply because he needed more food with his medications. I'd have personally talked to the bride and asked if I could get more food, but he may not have known about portion sizes beforehand, and may not have wanted to stress out the bride. Not in the wrong, but he could have approached it in a different way.

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Sarah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm confused as to where it says that even the groom was eating the pizza...and I read it three times...

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NsG
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the original Reddit post and apparently missing from this BP version: "Nobody really seemed to notice anything until Sara couldn't find the groom anywhere. She had her mom help her find him and as you can guess she found him out by my car eating pizza.. Well, to say she blew up..."

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Ally MacMann
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I try to take these stories at face value but in this case, I just don't buy it. He ordered a pizza at a catered wedding and told at least one person he was doing it. He could have at least kept it quiet. The fact that he even mentioned it was a vegetarian wedding is telling to me (I don't understand how that's relevant). To me it sounds like he was making a statement.

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Nikki Sevven
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. The meal failed to include a decent amount of protein and complex carbs and wouldn't have sustained anyone for 8 hours. I'm perfectly fine with meatless meals, but 3 side dishes do not make a meal. She could have had meatless lasagna, potatoes au gratin, etc.

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blatherskitenoir
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The part where he was an a*****e was when it snowballed into a second party out in the parking lot where the majority of the wedding party disappeared to. 12+ people involved in the wedding party, including the groom himself had all disappeared for this pizza party in the parking lot, blowing off the guests and abandoning the bride to host by herself. And yes, that was absolutely assholish, small portions or not. If he knew they would be hungry, he should have cleared a plan to have pizza delivered between the ceremony and the reception for everyone in the wedding party to have a late lunch. Or he should have left for twenty minutes at some point before the reception's start to get some fast food, eat in his car, and then return. Or, shocker of shocking plans, packed himself a sandwich and some protein bars to eat in a spare moment. He's not an a*****e for ensuring he had something extra to eat, he's an a*****e for turning it into a major production, involving a bunch of people and some very indiscrete "sneaking".

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA but he could have thought it through better. This could have been easily avoided by keeping his plan to himself, then he could have snuck to his car as needed. He could also have packed some food or sandwiches in a cooler. How could both the bride and groom think that was going to be enough food? I vote the bride TA.

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Kim Lorton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely not the add! When you have a wedding that will be a long affair, you serve hors derves, ( spelled wrong I know!) and snaking areas, as well as a dinner that can be vegetarian entree! If you say on your invitation , dinner served at the reception, you had better serve a dinner! So, she was cheap and she deserved what she paid for, or didn’t pay for! Someone helping her plan the reception should’ve been honest with her to tell her come on! You need to feed these people if you say dinner will be served! My sisters’ daughter in law is vegetarian, and she did a buffet that was vegetarIan and wonderful! Several great entrees and sides. So it can be done. Someone should have called her on this.

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Susanne B
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I cannot for the life of me understand how the described servings could be called a meal

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Arenite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m insulin dependent diabetic. Would the bride have preferred I have a seizure from low blood sugar, simply so she can be a cheap hostess?

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Cydney Golden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No protein, no fats, no starches? Nothing to tide anyone over. Ridiculous!

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Lisa Shaw
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is ridiculous, that's not a wedding meal, it's a starter and a bad one at that. I would have been on the floor due to low blood sugar, long before the cake came out, with 3 out of 5 people having diet requirements for medical reasons, this bride is out of her mind. The OP didn't ruin anything, many wedding's order pizza and wings in for the late night, the meal after the meal later on in the night.

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JP Purves
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A salad and two servings of vegetables is not a meal. There are lots of vegetarian meat substitutes that could have been served that would have made it more portion correct. If you can't afford a full meal, don't have a full-on reception. OP also could have saved himself a lot of grief if he'd just packed a lunch and kept it in a cooler in his car.

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Kat Kirkpatrick
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Vegetarian meals can be delicious and filling. I have been to several social events where all food offerings were vegetarian, and I went home happy, stuffed full, and with leftovers to enjoy later. The problem with this wedding was not that it was vegetarian food...it's that there wasn't enough food at all for anyone. It sounds to me like what was served was meant to be an appetizer. Whether the bride made a mistake when ordering it that way, or she honestly thought that would be enough food for everyone I don't know. I don't consider OP to have been in the wrong because he tried to be discreet about the pizza so as not to embarrass the bride, but all those others who joined him in eating pizza who turned on him? Yeah, they are jerks and OP needs to cut them out of his life.+

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KimB
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also take meds which require me to eat first or they tear up my stomach and I don't leave the house without a protein bar just in case...he knows he needs to eat yet was unprepared so that makes him a little bit of an AH...but she's definitely the AH for singling him out when he wasn't the only one eating pizza.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this happen before. A friend went to her cousins vegan wedding and they only ended up serving tofu pie, rice cakes and fruits. The guests ended up all going to a restaurant immediately afterwards. The bride reacted just like here. You can't serve something the equivalent of a light snack and expect people to not be hungry.

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Mama Penguin
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally not the NTA. It's rude to expect your wedding party to stick around for 8 hours while not providing enough food. Eight hours is a long time. I'm sorry but Sara should be embarrassed by the small amount of food she served her guests. Be realistic with your wedding budget.

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D K
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A bit off topic, my apologies… but this makes me think of the wedding we are planning for next March. A question for the vegetarians - We are doing a buffet of bbq chicken, tri tip, plenty of sides, h’ordeurves. They do offer eggplant Parmesan and veggie burgers in the catering menu as well. Which of these two veggie selections sound better to y’all?

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Moosy Girl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it’s just vegetarians go for whatever has the most cheese in it. ;) If you’re expecting vegans as well go for the veggie burgers. The only problem with the eggplant parmesan is it might be gone before the vegetarians even get to it!

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blatherskitenoir
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He erred in two ways: 1) blowing it up to a large group and 2) timing. 1) Enough people were involved that they usurped the event to hold their own, private, mini event that was "better" than what was planned. At that point, you'd need one of the hosts (likely the groom, who was also eating) to officially sanction the action for it to be ok, and even then, it would still be insulting to the other guests who weren't included. 2) The other flub was doing it during the reception. As members of the wedding party, they were supposed to be "working" during the reception, not disappearing to the parking lot to hang out. Deciding to throw an impromptu pizza party for lunch or in the afternoon, before the formal reception, rather than during, would have worked without causing offense. If he'd ordered his own pizza and inhaled it before the start of the reception, there would be no issue, but as it stands, he done wrong and needs to apologize for letting this get out of control.

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Jeannette
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. The people that wanted a bigger order and the bride are. Pizza is the only thing that can be delivered where I am. So yea regardless of medicine you are allowed to eat. Bride sounds like someone angry about eating nothing to fit in her dress.

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Scourge McCloud
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like a bridezilla. How dare people still be hungry after serving them that. Having options on the table that's vegan / vegetarian and options for people who don't follow the diet would have been a win win situation for everyone.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA for getting more food but YTA for making a big production of it with all those people in the parking lot.

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Leodavinci
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm with Ducky818 on this. NTA. Really, what was the point of telling anyone else?

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Wang Zhuang
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I get it, the food sucked, but he's kinda the a*****e in this situation. It his friend's wedding and he made her look bad. I'm surprised he didn't know about the food situation in advance and planned accordingly. And of course, he could've been much more discreet about the situation.

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Miguel justino C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m 6ft 2 and 230 pounds, I lift a lot of weights and have a killer metabolism. Eating 3000 calories a day to stay fit is normal. I blend and drink this many vegetables before sunrise.

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Chyppa Homer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You did good ! The way you describe it, it was a vegan reception, not even vegetarian, and those nuts are just plain evil, sorry. And if that many guests piled on, then you were in the right.

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No you didn't
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unpopular opinion: yes the a*****e. She is right, you were disrespectful and gave her the feeling that what was provided was not good enough. She's a close friend and it's her wedding. You should have sucked it up.

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Bored Turtle Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did you even read the part where OP said he needed to take his medication? Or that they would need to be there for over 8 hours?

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Douglas Mock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would have been better to just have Dominoes bring 20 pizzas right to her table, so she can pass out real food instead of her b******t.

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Ross Duncan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care if you were served an ice cube and a side of air. It was one meal, at a friends wedding. One meal. All you showed was you are a self involved a*s hole

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Olivia Wilder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with ordering pizza discretely but bringing meat into a vegetarian wedding is a d**k move. Could you not have ordered vegetarian only pizza?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Erica M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry but I think it's pretty awful to order outside food when you're asked to attend someone's wedding. If he was THAT concerned about taking his medication with food, he could have brought an energy bar without embarrassing the bride. The other folks I feel are at fault too, as no one saw an issue with ordering pizzas and disregarding the bride's wishes? Seriously cannot comprehend this. He also could have declined to go, could have explained his concerns to the bride, etc. As someone who deals with anxiety and depression, I'm not terribly moved by his justifications.

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's see. You made a major display of publicly criticizing the wedding menu right there at the wedding reception. You could have left early to get the food you wanted so desperately, you could have slipped out for a quick bite and come back, or you could have quietly asked the catering staff what they could do for you. But, no, you decided to embarrass the newly-weds in front of everyone, instead. If you didn't like the dance music the DJ was playing at the reception, would you have set up your own boom box? Come to think of it, shouldn't the groom's choice of bride (or vice versa) have been left up to you? Or maybe you just didn't belong there in the first place. Oh, YTA. I would have just kicked you out, but at many weddings I've been to you'd have been damned lucky that the father of the bride let you eat that pizza with a full set of teeth.

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propgamer XL
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA Who cares. My nephews went to the Mc Donalds, cause they didn't like the food.

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mac
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps instead of a pizza. He could have made a protein shake of some kind to get him through?

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Anna Snorrepot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he could have brought a granola bar. Pizza is a whole meal, not a layer for your meds. Making it big, involving others, hiding it is just too much.

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Moosy Girl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m really surprised this is NTA for so many people. He knew it was gonna be long, he knew he had specific food requirements, he could’ve taken some filling snacks to munch on just to be sure. If it was just him secretly ordering and eating a pizza in his car it wouldn’t be as big a deal, but he ended up taking other people’s orders! Calling for 12 pizza’s to be delivered at someone’s wedding is just rude imho.

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Ghosts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He. Didn't. Know. He'd. Be. Served. Baby. Portions. At. The. Wedding.

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