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Recently, Reddit user u/0_7_0 decided to find out what are the prime examples of common sense.

On July 13, they made a post on r/AskReddit, asking people "What is one 'unwritten rule' that you believe everyone should know and follow?" And it blew up.

As of this article, u/0_7_0's question has received over 3,400 comments, many of which are valuable tidbits we all should listen to. Here are some of the most upvoted ones.

#1

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If I show you a picture on my phone, don't go swiping sideways.

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#2

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If someone is wearing headphones and is clearly keeping to themselves, leave them alone!

Thetiredregular , Dollar Gill Report

#3

Don't litter. It's really not hard to just not litter

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#4

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Don't watch loud videos on your phone at a restaurant. Can't believe this isn't common courtesy anymore

penguinmanbat , Austin Distel Report

#5

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If you borrow something, return it in the same condition

Ryastor , Alexas_Fotos Report

#6

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If someone is giving you a ride, you should be ready at the door before they get there. It’s so rude to have someone waiting on you when they are doing you a favor by picking you up

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I went to pick up a friend on a night out. Called him when we arrived, said he'd be down in a moment. 15 mins later still nothing. Called him again and he said he was going to come down after watching Buffy. Told him he'd have to get the train and drove off.

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#7

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) The 'wave' of thank you when someone lets you in while driving in traffic. It's just polite

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#8

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Put the shopping cart back where it GOES!

brock0124 , PIRO4D Report

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#9

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Just because you know someone who does something for a living, that doesn't automatically mean they owe you a discount if you ask for their services.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't do art for a living but I do take commissions sometimes and this bothers me so heckin much...

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#10

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If you want to go for a hike and listen to music, come with earphones or headphones. Don't blast loud music.

AgeOfWomen , sweetlouise Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uh huh it's so annoying especially if you are listening to music yourself and you can hear their crappy radio over your peaceful tunes

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#11

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Quit pissing on public toilet seats. And if you do, at least have the decency to wipe it up

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or leaving little drops on the seat. Even if it's by accident, no one else wants to wipe it off so they can sit.

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#12

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Chew with your mouth closed.

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#13

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Don't just show up randomly at someone's house. Call, text, or otherwise reach out and positivity confirm that it's okay before heading to someone else's home.

Nosunallrain , Dimitar Belchev Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have some really close friends that we're comfortable enough to just rock up to each others houses, but don't do that unless it's someone you know won't have a problem with it.

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#14

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) When you have a complaint with a retail store or business, please remember that the person you are speaking too (or yelling at sadly) is just the one that happened to pick up the phone or is standing at the till. they likely have nothing to do with what went wrong and have little sway in what can be done to help. They dont need to be yelled and screamed at for something they did not do or is under the control of a corporate office/higher up.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always talk in a polite and friendly manner when making complaints. I have found they are more likely to go above and beyond to help. And always thank them afterwards and compliment their ability to help as it makes their day.

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#15

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Don’t touch pregnant people’s bellies.

What is it about being pregnant that suddenly makes other people feel entitled to touch you without asking.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You shouldn’t be touching other people anywhere, not their hair, not there butt not their stomach, nothing… not unless you ask first

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#16

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) PERSONAL SPACE (even when not in a pandemic)

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#17

Don't leave perishable items in random aisles or at the checkout. You're wasting food and driving prices up.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe we've fallen so far that this even happens. It saddens me.

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#18

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Stand back before boarding a bus, subway, metro, or elevator so that those on can get off quickly without having to wait for you to back up first

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This goes for doors, elevators and escalators and everything else where people should be allowed to get off of a moving thing before you get on.

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#19

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) On an escalator, stand on the right so people can walk on the left.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless in a left-side driving country. In those countries, it tends to be the opposite.

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#20

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If u borrow even a damn dollar and promise to bring it back, bring it back

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People, pls don't lend money you can't give. Meaning that you shouldn't go out of your way to lend what you can't afford to give. That way, if the person doesn't return it, you won't be broke. Thank you

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#21

Double flush if you must. Nobody wants to see your poop crumbs.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poop Crumbs lol! Just honked and spat my tea out. Getting funny looks now. Agreed, it is mank

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#22

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Never comment a person's weight, if they lost it, if they gained some. It's just very rude either way.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All you have to do is say you look good you don’t have to specify what part looks good or why

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#23

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Don't talk loudly on the phone while you're in public transportation, it's super uncomfortable for everyone

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or at least be aware that some people regard your loud conversation as as free entertainment.

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#24

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Wear deodorant if you are out in public

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people have medical conditions where they either can not wear deodorant or the deodorant won’t help. I would rather smell a human than a sickening perfume all day

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#25

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Give up your seat to the pregnant lady on the bus/train (or to anyone else who needs it. Don't take up two seats because you like to put your feet/bag up).

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember seeing a lady with a walker give up a handicapped spot for a man in an electric wheelchair. If she can do it, everyone else can do it.

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#26

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Never ask a person if they're pregnant. It's just rude and you never know their medical history.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Similarly, never ask when they plan to have a child, or why they don't have children already. It's not your business and you don't know what trauma you may unveil. Maybe they had a miscarriage, maybe they did have a child who died at birth, or maybe they have been struggling to get pregnant.

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Kitti B.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or they just don't want kids. Why does anyone have to explain their life choices to someone they don't trust enough to tell their reasons.

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Charlie grace
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or maybe they just do not want children and are sick of being told 'you will change your mind'. The whole pregnancy topic should be avoided.

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Shelby P
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will also say "I'm not pregnant, just fat" and I HOPE it makes the asker feel bad. If I'm petty then I'm petty

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Jjiinnee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was very overweight before. I was asked this often, by my own coworkers, who knew I had cancer and could no longer have children. It made me cry EVERY time. I still hate them.

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SobyKay
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also never JOKE about someone being pregnant. I am in my 40s now and unable to have children. Since my 20s every time I say, "Guess what?" people think it's so funny to reply with, "You're pregnant!" and laugh at their hilarity. No idea about my medical history, my past, my desires to have/not to have. Nor is it anyone's business. It's just that when you take in the complex issues behind having children, it seems like an awfully callous way to get a laugh.

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Holly Allen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After having several miscarriages, I look pregnant and nothing seems to make the belly go away. I try to cover my tummy as much as possible because I am so worried that if someone asks if I'm pregnant I would be devastated

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sure sorry that you've had to go through that 🥺 I hope things improve for you. Maybe this kind of post will help people learn better. 🤞

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At 36 weeks pregnant a rude man continuously made comments assuming I was pregnant, he finally asked how far I was and I told him I wasn't pregnant at all, the quarantine was just hard for me

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always go by Billy Connelly's comment....unless you can see the child exiting the body, don't ask if someone is pregnant...words to live by for me lol

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just answer : please don't ask what I do with my wife /husband in bed. That's private.

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Susan Reid Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once had to ask women if they were expecting for their safety on a hay ride. I started with the words "excuse me please..." People were not bothered.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at the opposite end of this. When I got pregnant, I didn't have much of a baby bump and nobody just by appearance thought I was pregnant till I was about 7 months along. People who didn't know me thought I had a potbelly e.g. salon workers, cab drivers etc. so I was glad when someone asked if I was pregnant.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it is still politically correct to say "woman" and "pregnant" using the singular pronoun.

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Wynne Associates
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is utter nonsense. If you know the person or not, asking if they are pregnant is just innocent. It's only a problem if they put on like 40 lbs in weight since the last time you saw them.

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Máté Jancsek
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah... but if you never ask, you'll never know. I dont like these "rules" Since when asking a question became a crime?

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Zoe Ming
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know someone who asked a colleague when the baby was due. She wasn't pregnant. Embarrassment all round!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or ask when they are due, and they have to tell you that they aren't pregnant, and maybe they want nothing more than to be pregnant and you've broken their heart that is already broken

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or ask when the baby is due....and the individual has to answer they are not pregnant, and maybe they want nothing more than to be pregnant, and you've just broken their heart again

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Skadi Lifdis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone asked my mom that once. She said "Oh about 6 months ago". I bet they never asked anyone again.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not in my place... In my place, everyone is planning to have kids after marry, so its just common to ask if some one is pregnant or already have kids..

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Leslie Burleson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A TSA agent once asked me when I was due.. I was wearing a babydoll top. I couldn't stop laughing , but she was so embarrassed. It really didn't bother me

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Vivian Davis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never ask a lady if she is pregnant unless you are in the delivery room with her.

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Carl Dombek
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having dinner with colleagues at a restaurant, our server came over and one of my colleagues (a woman) asked, "So when is your baby due?" You can guess the rest. "I'm NOT pregnant!" she replied, more politely than most people would have.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh I didn't know that was fat because you stuff your face every day

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#27

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If you borrow a friends car or truck, always return it with a full tank of gas.

nraasch19 , SnapwireSnaps Report

#28

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) The last one to go to bed has to turn all the lights off

Rebeca2277 , Emma Fabbri Report

#29

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) When someone else is paying the bill, you shouldn't order something very pricey. (It's understandable if something expensive is the only thing you are able to eat.)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're sharing the bill and you clearly spent more than everyone else.. . Make sure you insist on paying the difference.

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#30

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) When you are shopping/looking for clothes and suddenly decide you don't want it anymore, put it back where you found it. Don't just dump it somewhere — it makes life hard for both workers who are cleaning up and the customers looking for something to buy.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually not, in a lot of stores you have a designated area near the cabins where you should leave them. Especially during the pandeminc it is not so smart to put your clothes back with the others after you have tried them on, they could carry nasty things.

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If you make an appointment and can’t keep it, cancel or let someone know. I manage sales for a car dealership and we thrive on appointments. We understand things come up, just let us know. That simple gesture goes a long way.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Car salesmen can be very pushy though! My mum ended up making an appointment because the person talking to her wouldn't take no for an answer but she had no intention of buying the car and didn't attend. I understand what you're saying but she didn't want to have to ring and engage with him again, having been intimidated into making the initial appointment.

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#32

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If your advice or opinion wasn’t asked for, don’t give it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe it's called a conversation. People have been having them for a very VERY long time. People need to stop making everything about them.

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People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) If you are going to talk with someone about your problems/issues, do a quick check-in first. Like, 'Are you in a good space for me to talk this out with you?' I’ve used it a few times, and I think just the basic courtesy of asking is such a relief to people!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know about other cultures but in the UK this is pointless advice. There is NO Way anyone would respond to this by saying "actually no I'm in a s**t mood" we'd just grin and bear it either way.

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#34

The last of any food/drink is reserved for whoever bought said food/drink

Always leave stuff cleaner than it was when you got to it (campsites, AirBnBs, anything shared with people really)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

With the ridiculous cleaning fees that Airbnb's often charge, I'm not certain why I should be doing the cleaning for them.

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#35

If someone can't fix an aspect of their appearance in five minutes or less, don't mention it.

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#36

If you’re about to turn the light on in a dark room and someone is there, you have to announce what you’re about to do so the person doesn’t get a surprise. I feel like it’s really disrespectful to turn the light on without announcing it

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife and I do this when it gets dark so that we can prepare our eyes.

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#37

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) When walking through a store, treat the aisles like lanes on a road. Keep to the right.

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#38

Don't bombard people with a ton of taking when they obviously feel tired and overwhelmed, they are having enough trouble with their own stuff, to deal with all of your stuff.

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You need to speak up if you’re tired. Not put it on others, you may think it’s obvious to other people and they may not be seeing what you think they’re seeing

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#39

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Never drink the last beer if you didn't buy them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone on a budget wrote this. If you're offered the last beer, you get the last beer.

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#40

People Are Sharing "Unwritten Rules" Of Life That Everyone Should Be Aware Of (40 Answers) Always space out by one urinal in the restroom.

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