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Unfortunately (or not), life isn't always rainbows and butterflies. Being alive inevitably means getting used to stuff not turning out quite the way we planned, misfortune happening for no particular reason, losing loved ones, getting lost, and plenty of other things most of us aren't that thrilled about. However, that "getting used to" and accepting reality for what it is has its challenges.

Recently, Reddit user mynameisnotbecky1 asked fellow community members "What is an untruth people tell themselves to feel better about life or the world they live in?" The post received quite a bit of attention and, as of now, has over 13k answers and almost 30k upvotes. With that being said, Bored Panda invites you to look through some of the best comments we managed to find.

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#1

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life There's a few but the main one I tell myself if that the people who hurt me are also hurting. As a kid I thought people bullied each other because their lives sucked, and then I realized my life also sucked and I didn't treat other people like that so what was their excuse

dumpsterfire1998 , Henry Burrows Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

to the people that are defending the bullies... not all bullies are also having a bad life, some people just like to hurt others, life isnt a dhar mann video...

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#2

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life "looks don't matter"

I've noticed that this is generally said by attractive people, and people who have never struggled in dating

RadiantHC , Alex W Report

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Vicky Z
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe looks matter as a first impression for sure!! We are all attracted by the looks at first we can't help it cause we don't know anything about the other person! But wait until that extremely good looking person opens the mouth and says: "well, i don't really believe in vaccines and this staff"

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#3

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life People always get what's coming to them.

The reality is that sometimes the people who tormented you all those years ago are likely living pretty good lives.

yeetgodmcnechass , Frederick Dennstedt Report

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Kookamunga
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I don't really believe in karma. If there was karma, how come so many really good people get screwed?

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#4

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Money can’t buy happiness.

Don’t have a house, job, and are starving? Don’t worry, just because you’re poor, doesn’t mean that having a mansion, 5 course meals, or a six digit salary will make you happier!

Dark_Wolf04 , Casey Fleser Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Money may not buy happiness but it relieves a lot of the stresses that get in the way of happiness.

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life A positive attitude will make you physically better. As a chick with cancer, I get the “just have the positive attitude” advice a lot … which always irked me. No one who feels like c**p wants to fake a positive mindset to make others feel better. My fave response to someone telling me that (again) was actually from a nurse in the room who said: “Please! I’m seen a whole lot of true b****es survive cancer.” That nurse is forever my hero.

KATinWOLF , Alejandro Forero Cuervo Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Toxic positivity diminishes the seriousness and weight of whatever your going through.

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#6

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life There is someone out there for everyone. Not everyone finds their partner, there is no rule love must follow.

Barbicore , Kevin Dooley Report

#7

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life "If I only get this over with , everything is going to be easy!"

Life never runs out of waves to shake you. But while it isn't easy, you do learn to surf better.

charlie_wonka , chenutis Report

#8

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Im not an alcoholic , it's not an addiction i can stop whenever i want .. it's just party , birthday, Wednesday or whatever i earned this one and next one !

being like that for 22 years, coming from heavily alcoholic home , sobered up few years ago and it was by far best decision of my life !

thekrecik , mojoaxel Report

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#9

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life "I am going to tell/live MY truth." Your truth is just an excuse for your actions just or not. It's not the objective truth.

madevilfish , MissMessie Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A person telling "their truth" us just as fallible as anyone and as likely to misjudge situation. These woke kids who believe anyone who "speaks their truth" will have a lot to unlearn.

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#10

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Everything happens for a reason

Glittering-Ship1910 , Presidencia de la República Mexicana Report

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LaGitanaTriste
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. I hate this one so much. Same as “it’s gods plan” Like it was Gods plan for children to be molested? Or Oopsie, His bad, the Holocaust didn’t go as planned? What is the reason for horrible things to happen to innocent lives?

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#11

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life “If I fall asleep right now I’ll get X-hours of sleep.”

You’re gonna be awake for a while, honey.

PM_ME_UR_LAST_DREAM , TCL8TO7 Report

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Tweetysvoice
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so me. I just want more than 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night. Brain, please, just stop and let me sleep!

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#12

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That there used to be "The good ole days" when in fact there never was.

warlordwinters , University of Essex Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There were days when they were younger and more idealistic and had fewer responsibilities. Good ole days are unique and personal and can never be returned to.

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#13

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Crime doesn’t pay. I know someone that embezzled over $1 million and got probation and has to pay back less than 10% restitution

ATXdadof4 , Tim Brennan Report

#14

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Religion does more good than bad

PositivityCentral , Francisco Anzola Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Religion is both the reason and the excuse for just about every war that has been fought.

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life I believe that every single person (me included) think that they are a bit smarter than what they truly are.

CartWader , Pedro Ribeiro Simões Report

#17

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Wisdom comes with age.

Scallywagstv2 , Pieter De Praetere Report

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Katie Lutesinger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have encountered SO many people old enough to be my mum or dad but who act like they're thirteen.

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#18

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life It gets better.

10 years later and you still tell yourself that.

ShawnWilson000 , Jessie Pearl Report

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Otter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It got better for me! Never to the point of being rich and beautiful or famous or anything, but some good thing have happened for me. And I gave *made* other good things happen.

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#19

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That the majority of people have a good soul and a good heart.

I tell myself this all the time. I’m constantly proven wrong. In reality, the majority of people are selfish and unkind, especially when it comes to other people.

Retrosonic82 , DVIDSHUB Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If that were truly the case civilisation would not have survived. The margin may be small, but on balance more people have to be altruistic in order for society to function. Yes, everyone is selfish, but that doesn't mean everyone is unkind. If everyone, *everyone* you meet is unkind, either you are (sub) consciously only remembering the unkind and forgetting the kind, or at worst neutral, OR the common factor is you.

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life I just saw Dear Evan Hansen. It's way off base when it comes to mental illness and personality disorders, but it comes as no surprise that it was such a hit on Broadway. It leans heavily on all the myths people want to believe. The truth is that reaching out to your family or friends often doesn't help because they have no idea how to help you or might even be partly responsible for your trauma. For some people, depression and anxiety are intractable even with the best possible treatment. Some people are constitutionally incapable of empathy and will always harm those around them

j0m1n1n , Paul Schultz Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The thruth is that most pwople dont even make the effort or want to help. Most dont want to be around unsuccessful, ill or depresed people because they get uncomfortable. They shut us up with toxic positivity (you have so many options, others have it worse), indiference, attacks (you are being too begative) or they simply leave you

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#21

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life If you just work hard it’ll all work out in end

SlimWorthy , Rosewoman Report

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Tweetysvoice
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No it doesn't. I'm so glad for the uprise of workers not just settling. We need to remember to work to live, not live to work.

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#22

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That the good times we have now --cheap and available gasoline, food in abundance, even pleasant weather-- can continue indefinitely. We will run out of Nitrogen for crop growth, we will exhaust the available crude oil, climate change will catch up with us. Our grandkids will not have the plentiful resources we have enjoyed for decades, period.

milescowperthwaite , Alison Day Report

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life For adults specifically: doing your best = success. Don’t get me wrong, doing your best is something to be proud of, but doing your best without preparation/dedication/practice leads to nowhere

bowlingforbats , melanie m Report

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Mohammad Ammar
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Doing your best=somewhere better than where you're at now, even if it's just by 0.001%*

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life I live for my loved ones. I lost my wife during childbirth and 4 months later my daughter passed away from a heart condition that was inoperable

ThatOneWildWolf , Cristian Ungureanu Report

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life People who romanticize being busy at work

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its not romanticized, its feeling like you actually did something because other wise you could be jerking off at home and not sitting at work doing nothing

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#27

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life For kids, good heroes always wins. When you grow up, its just a fantasy.

DarkVoid_666 , Olga/ Олька Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But I still enjoy the fantasy, even though I know thats not how real life works.

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That the world is just. Karma is a b***h. What’s coming to them. Etc.

VividTangerine , Bluedevil266 Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was never about "them." It was always about "you." Don't worry about "them"

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life “There is light at the end of the tunnel”. Life is the journey inside that tunnel. Sometimes that journey gets hard, other times it gets easier, but we will never reach that light. The idea of a perfect place does not exist, because life itself is not perfect as we always have something to complain about.

qwerkykev , Jarle Refsnes Report

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life God has a plan

D00fenshmirtzEvilInc , Pedro Ribeiro Simões Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

God does have a plan. In fact, he's in a meeting right now with Santa Claus, Batman and Bigfoot devising his 2022 strategies.

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Kookamunga
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Is man merely a mistake of God's? Or God merely a mistake of man?” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

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lenka
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any god that plans genocide is not my god. Any god that plans rape or murder is not my god. Child abuse? Also not my god. Corruption and wealth hoarding? Not my god. Bombing and maiming innocents? Also not my god. Wait.... I think I am running out of gods!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand totally what you are saying. But for me the question is from a little bit different angle. My question isn't "What kind of God would.... put in any kind of horrible thing you can think of.". My question is what kind of humans would do those very things? Who are we when we stand by? (Think Rawanda)

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Jo Choto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fortunately, I don't believe in any mythical Sky Daddies so I don't have to deal with this utter bullshit.

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kit kat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think so to be honest. I believe in God because of painful experiences in my life. But a plan? I don't think so. He gave humans free will and that can be really unpredictable

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Debi Danielsen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The belief that everything happens for a reason or that God won't give you more than you can bear. Come on it's just life and bad s**t happens.

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cugel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

God does have a plan, which funnily enough, exactly coincides with whatever random s**t happens

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Gavin Johnson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly god doesn’t exist so I guess the plan doesn’t either.

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Shawty
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

God, being honest, I kinda(really) think your plan for me sucks. 😐

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Downvote me all you want, but you really need to read this. I know this is not the narrative you are used to out there, that this is not the future you are expecting, and this will provoke discussion. Be nice, okay? No insults. Intelligent discussion invited. God is judging the nations with warning or harbinger judgments. The bible predicts the end-times apostasy. That is the season we are in right now. God sends remedial judgments to warn the nations to repent. If they do not repent, the judgments will become much more severe. The next thing on the prophetic calendar is the pre-tribulation rapture. Then follows the 7-year Tribulation period. God will send multiple horrific judgments like never before seen on earth. The next thing is the Second Coming, where King Jesus literally returns to earth at the head of a great army to intervene decisively in the battle of Armageddon. Then he will set up the Millennial Kingdom, a time of unprecedented peace, harmony, and happiness. Get ready, the Lord is Coming Soon!

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Agnes Jekyll
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this because it's meant to comfort, but it minimizes your pain and loss. Sometimes horrible things happen, and it's more comforting to me to believe there's no meaning than to believe a god would the horrible s**t in the world happens for a reason.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

God does have a plan. God expects you to figure out what that plan is through a series of choices you make in this somewhat absurd project he started the English speaking world calls life. Just take a look at the show Lucifer.

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