Before popping the big question, a man first needs to ask himself how much is he willing to spend on the engagement and wedding rings. And while some think proposals shouldn’t be about the expensive jewelry, others claim the wedding ring cost should amount to between one and three-months salary. Recently, one woman who probably agrees with the latter has decided to humiliate her fiancé online after he disappointed her with a too small of a diamond and wedding ring price.
In an anonymous post on MumsNet, she ranted about the $1,674 cheap wedding ring as if it was a plastic toy. However, the majority of MumsNet readers condemned the woman for her materialism, saying the guy that chose to spend the rest of his life with her should seriously rethink his options after this humiliating story. Scroll down to check out her message and tell us your thoughts in the comments. (Cover image: Courtney Barrett / Hawaii Jewelry)
One woman was expecting sympathy for having to wear a ring she didn’t love
Image credits: Courtney Barrett
So she went online to humiliate her ‘cheap’ husband-to-be
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But it seriously backfired both on MumsNet forum and on Facebook
And the post has since been deleted
OK. I think that it's reasonable (DONT GET TRIGGERED WAIT) for her to like how the ring LOOKS. She is going to be wearing it for the rest of her life and it IS reasonable to want to get it together, for that reason. BUT THE PRICE DOESN'T F*****G MATTER.
Exactly. Why are people acting like someone isn’t allowed to like their engagement ring? I agree that the price shouldn’t matter. But people condemning her for not liking how it looks are ridiculous. Maybe he should have asked one of her friends to go with him to pick it out or something. She’s going to wear a ring she hates for their entire marriage? Very shortsighted for people not to see this as an issue. However, this is something you talk to your close friend about in private. Not post it online smh
Load More Replies...I knit my engagement ring: $1 worth of yarn and a $2 plastic diamond bead. My wife would have turned me down if I wasted $1,000+ on a ring. We're both frugal, and 5 years into the marriage our house is paid off. T2i_IMG_00...a08d59.jpg
Congrats. You should be proud for spending money on something as important as a house. But a yarn ring won't hold up. With no house payment, you can now afford a traditional ring. It doesn't have to be expensive. It would make a great anniversary gift.
Load More Replies...I bellieve you got the title wrong, Women tries to shame EX fiance, give that man some dignity
I can have sympathy for a woman getting a ring they don't like, based on looks or design. I can't imagine shaming the man I love and want to marry based on how much he spent though.
Honestly? I don't get where all the people take their moral highground from only because they didn't want a ring. Every person has different needs, and if she wanted a larger stone on her engagement ring as a demonstration of love - which her fiancee clearly and easily could have afforded - then that's her thing, and the only one who can discuss this with her is her dude. If YOU didn't want/didn't get a big ring it doesn't make you a better person, you are just different than she is. And if her fiancee wanted to "test" her with the small stone, then that's more than a d**k move of him, just as every "test" is.
I know, right? This moral high ground everyone seems to be taking regarding engagement rings is getting pretty extreme.. to the point where women with expensive rings are heavily shamed for them. I always thought that if the man earns enough money, and the woman isn't like unemployed or earns significantly less, then the woman should be able to want a ring where its cost is relative to their earnings that both parties are comfortable spending. Who decided that an engagement ring isn't worth spending money on? Maybe they have enough savings already for a house? No-one knows the story when it comes to engaged couples, yet apparently an expensive engagement ring=fickle, shallow, gold-digging woman. It's crazy.
Load More Replies...Just Googled ring prices. FAKE. Possibly an incel trying to incite normal men against women because misery loves company LOL
I just noticed it says all sales are final and that it is for a cheesecake. So yeah...that is one expensive cheesecake.
Load More Replies...When I saw the article’s picture, I thought she was shaming him for how MUCH he spent.
If he bought her a small ring as a 'test' then he sounds like a manipulative jerk. He shouldn't have to test her if he's proposing. He should know. And if it's out of character for him to be stingy with spending, then yeah, it's a weird situation. Also. I think engagement rings are dumb.
engagement rings arent dumb - they kind of signify to members of the opposite sex that they neednt bother wasting their time - precurser to a wedding ring - but to need a huge diamond to tell everyone your fiance is rich?? thats dumb -- can just imagine "my boyfriend is loaded and look at this pathetic ring he bought me"
Load More Replies...If you love someone, a curtain ring will do. That being said, I'd be pretty disappointed if someone I'm in a serious relationship with didn't know my tastes. For example, I positively *hate* yellow gold. I wouldn't be kicking up a fuss about it, but I'd still be a bit sad if someone gave me a gold ring, unless it was a family heirloom...
I really hate solitaire settings - the claws catch on everything
Load More Replies...When my husband proposed, he purchased me a small diamond. I was so thrilled. Nine years later I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Now my left hand and arm are swollen. I can't wear my rings. I can't get them sized because my hand is never the same size two days in a row. We have now been married twenty nine years. Rings don't matter. Love, compassion, communication, compromise, humor, and mutual respect make a marriage, not rings. There is something to be learned here.
So I picked out my ring, because she is right, it is a ring that, in theory, you will be wearing for the rest of your life. So when I got married we didn't have any money so I just used a gold band that had been my mothers. A few years go by and my husband and I are walking around St. Augustine and I see my ring. We hadn't been looking for wedding rings, we hadn't been talking about wedding rings, but I pointed to it and said "Look, it's my wedding ring." Now I would have bought the thing myself because as far as I was concerned, it was the ring I had been browsing to find for the last few years. However, my husband agreed that it was my ring and he bought it for $350. I don't know how he got so lucky that my wedding ring was so relatively inexpensive, but he did. I think that such an important piece of jewelry should be something that the bride picks out. That being said, I also don't see why the bride wouldn't be willing to help pay for the ring to insure she gets the one she wants.
Are you talking about the engagement ring or the wedding ring? Because I thought it was the norm for the couple to pick out their wedding bands together. The engagement ring is different though, it depends on whether or not the bride-to-be wants a surprise proposal or not.
Load More Replies...if it makes you feel any better there is growing research that indicates people who spend lots on rings or weddings tend to divorce more often than people who kept the ring and wedding expenses reasonable. Frugality seems to support long term love :)
Load More Replies...Greedy woman. I'd be madly happy if my bf (if I had one haha) proposed with a plastic ring bought on a fair. The guy wants (or I guess wantED) to spend his whole life with you! That's the important part.
But he’s not trying to marry you. He wants to marry her. So he could not be lazy and at least try to give a s**t about her opinion on a jewel she will be wearing.
Load More Replies...This wbole idea of a man surprising a woman with a piece of jewelry she's going to wear for the rest of her life should just die. We discussed our future and getting married together. We decided together. We picked out our own rings.
Is anyone else thinking the guy who bought the ring got ripped off? $1600 should get a much better ring, especially for such a simple band. I bought my fiancé's ring 2 years ago and that price and ring don't seem to match. Also why does the receipt say cheesecake? Lol
Because both photos in the article are just used for display. Just click on the source links, they are not original photos from the lady with the ring issue.
Load More Replies...I just sold my wedding set as I am widowed and they no longer apply. My husband picked them himself and I loved them and him. He did not put me in the position of picking something he couldn't afford or me picking something cheap because I thought that was all he could afford (he was paying alimony at the time). Just keep in mind , a diamond is only compressed carbon, COAL, that just happens to sparkle when cut and polished.
Why would you sell them? That was a testament of your love. (or should've been) The no longer apply? God forbid if My husband dies before me I will wear my rings until I die as well. Even if I ever got re married, they'd be on my right hand. He will always be part of you. I'm sorry I just think this is extremely odd. Unless you sold them to help with end of life costs, then maybe I could see. I guess I'm just old fashioned. I would sell everything else before I sold the one thing that represented our love that was tangible. I suppose because at one point I'd want to hand them down to my children / grand children or what have you.
Load More Replies...The tradition of giving a diamond ring for engagement was quite literally made up by some rich guy who wanted to make more $$$ off his diamond company. You have money, great - save on the expensive engagement ring and spend it on a nice vacation in the Maldives or something. Great memories > pricey rock
I am sorry (well, no, not at all) but I do not get all this super expensive engagement/wedding hype. How come we as a society seem to have equated formally becoming a couple with absolutely reckless spending on a one-off occasion? The average cost of a wedding went above US$ 32.000 in 2016 leading to some $72 billion in revenue for the wedding industry. It must have taken a lot of overt and covert advertising/brainwashing to get to such numbers.
I'm sure I might get downvoted but... I get that this woman got kinda sad for getting a small diamond ring. For many women having a beautiful wedding, a romantic proposal, and a gorgeous ring is their lifetime dream. And it's ok. We all have different dreams. It doesn't mean they are despicable human beings. Some want to spend money on a big house, others on a trip, others on a new iphone. If you have the money, use it on whatever makes you happy. What I think is wrong is the way she went online to rant about his fiance. I think it's odd that, if this guy makes good money and loves her, and knows what she likes and what she dreams of (wedding, ring..), why didn't he get a ring that he knew she would love? don't get me wrong, I agree that she shouldn't be interested on the price, but if they're so in love and they know each other well.. usually you do EVERYTHING in your hands to make your loved one happy. I don't know if I'm making my point clear, my English is not good.
When hubby bought my engagement ring, he was working 3 jobs (1 FT, 2 PT) and making small payments on it. I was also working full time and raising our two small children. I started to notice little bits of money going missing (ring payments that I didn't know about) and I got mad at him for spending extravagantly. We got into a huge fight about it and then he told me what was going on. Ruined his surprise, I was such a jerk. Still have him and the ring 21 years later. He stuck with me and I've apologized many times over.
I have been married for 48 years. We decided to marry after going together for 7 years. I have no engagement ring as we preferred to spend the money on our honeymoon which was fantastic. I still do were my jade and gold band ring wedding ring which cost us all of $18. back in 1969. So the ring is not the subject it is the love and understanding you have together of WHAT REALLY MATTERS.
I don't get this "the ring HAS to cost..." . My husband asked me to marry him (no ring), we chose nice wedding rings (simple white gold bands..I don't remember the price, probably around 300 -500 Euro for both with engraved names&date). And we paid for them..both. It is OUR wedding, OUR life together, we both pull the wagon. I really don't get "rings have to cost 3 month worth of salary". This is not some kind of competition. I would have gladly bought steel rings or wooden ones, if my husband would have loved him some, it is the thought that counts and this ring is just a symbol.
first of all, I don't like the idea of the guy picking out the ring. We have to wear it for the rest of our lives. We picked out our own rings and are very happy with our choices. While I have a fairly small diamond, it looks a heck of a lot larger that this one. I wouldn't like this ring either. It's looks chintzy AF. If this was all my guy could afford, I'd chip in the other half to have what I want though. If he made $100k a year and gave me this ring, I'd also be unhappy. I am a lot older than this woman I am betting, and at at a very different place in life. I think it's unfair to think a woman should just accept something she doesn't like b/c it was bought with love. Love should let a woman pick her own freaking ring within a budget that causes no hardship.
The real question is whether or not the person treats you well...respects you and loves you. The price of an engagement ring or any jewelry should never be seen as an estimation of someone's love. If she's so pissed off at the size of the ring...I would tell her to sell it, keep the money and find someone else. Maybe he was just testing her, because she even admits that he is usually very generous. Then to go on social media and try to embarrass him in front of the world... so effed up. I'd run for the hills. I'm a woman and have seen this c**p too many times to feel anything but disgust at this kind of mentality. Also...when since is $1674.00 chump change? All those women boasting with huge rocks on their fingers...you'd be surprised to know that their husbands treat them like c**p, cheats, disrespects them and holds all that money they spend on them over their heads. We need to reevaluate how we measure our values and self-worth.
When my husband and I were engaged, we purchased a wedding band that I later changed my mind about. We chose another one and sold the first. The guy that bought it wanted a less expensive band that he could use for the proposal, then would go and choose what she really wanted after she said yes. I could totally see a situation like that, with the benefit of seeing her true colors before he ties himself to her.
You know what's COMPLETELY classless? Her going on social media to complain. Sorry. She even KNEW she was wrong (said so) but did it anyway. I can understand being mildly disappointed that her fiance didn't ask her what she liked before getting her the ring. But whining about a $1650 engagement ring reeks of entitlement and privilege. Doing so online is classless.
Our whole WEDDING, including the rings, cost around $3500. WITH a weeks trip to London... Sheesh, honey, the price tag isn't important, no matter what he earns. How is this guy treating her the rest of the time? Probably well, so if this is an issue, he should say buh bye.
When you propose to your girl friend with an aluminium ring made from the top of a bottle, if she says “yes” then you know she loves you.
Decades ago, I was 20 years old and working at a grocery store part-time at night, while going to college in the day. My girlfriend and I had been dating for nearly two years, and we were talking marriage. One day we were strolling in a mall and happened upon a jewelry store, where we stopped to window shop. She conservatively (and sensibly, bless her heart!) picked out a ring that looked similar to this one. But she knew I couldn't afford it, even at its relatively low price. Later, I went back to that store and successfully applied for credit and got the ring. When I gave it to her (and officially proposed), she cried tears of joy and contentment. Ah! Those were simpler, happier times...
OK, now let me get this straight. There is a guy and he loves a woman. So far so good. Now, he engages to her. Even better. And then, to show how much he cares about the woman, he gives a large sum of money to... a jeweler? Can anyone explain the logic behind this? Engagement ring is a memento and you're not expected to sell it and it is obviously not practical, so it does not qualify as a material present. Why not just pay few bucks for a perfunctory piece of jewelry and spend the rest on some practical present, a trip, vacation, whatever people would enjoy.
Honestly I can't believe that ring cost that much !! Thats the tiniest diamond ring I've ever seen. I would understand if he's poor. But he obviously doesn't love her enough to give her a nice ring. It looks to me like he didn't put any thought into it at all.... just ran by a store on his way to somewhere else and grabbed the first ring he saw. I wouldn't marry him. He obviously doesn't care enough to put any thought into it and doesn't think she's worth very much. No romance. Get ready for a boring marriage with no thanks for anything whatsoever.
Okay, she sounds like goldigger to me but I have a couple of questions. What does cheesecake refer to on the receipt? Isn't the price pretty steep for that size ring? Just wondering.
Could be the name of the company where he bought said ring.
Load More Replies...So a woman gets an engament ring and she's not happy because it was "cheap". Good advice for the guy: Take the ring back to the store and use the $1674 to have a great "Being Free and Careless" party.
When my father proposed, he was just out of college and getting started, so didn't have a lot of money. The ring he gave my mother was very very modest (like not far above Cracker Jack prize). Later, when he was making really really good money, he offered to replace it with a bigger diamond and fancier setting. My mother said no, because the new set would not have been THE one he put on her finger THE day he proposed. They were married for 60 years, and are both gone now. My mother's rings are now in my jewelry box. The gold is worn thin in some areas, so I plan to have them restored soon. It's all about the meaning behind the giving, not the money spent.
PS-All I have is a nice solid wedding ring, no engagement ring. I've been married 17 years now, and don't feel cheated not having a big diamond---got my hubby instead. That's all I need.
Load More Replies...All I have to say is that the "now-to-be-ex" fiancé, has a very wise co-worker.
Why is she complaining that the ring was inexpensive? I would definitely be grateful if I received a ring worth a thousand dollars and some change.
But to the point of the post she should've acted like a grown a*s adult and had a open honest conversation with her fiancé if they are planning on spending their life together than they should be able to talk without her having to pout and shame him on the internet
I think what she is trying to relate is the amount he spent vs the amount he could reasonably afford. Seems he is on a pretty decent salary (nearing $100,000/annum), while he spent under 2 Grand. Not sure how income taxes work in that part of the world but he would be taking home something like $5500-6000/month, so spending "only" $1600 does seem a little on the low side. If they guy was only earning a couple grand a month then that's a different story. Still she should be happy that he loves her and should reassess her priorities.
my opinion is that she don't have a cheap friend , I think that she is a cheap Wh... if the price of the ring is so important. I give my GF a symbolic ring made of plastic and she still have it..... showing your love is not through the bill of a market place.
This is very fake. Just check the source and you'll find the origial pic of the receipt, pre photoshop... photorecei...2dcfe2.jpg
Diamonds are not that rare but yet expensive... The market is being manipulate by De Beers, they also invented the salary rule!
I think the ring is beautiful, and that price is to me, quite expensive. My engagement ring was only a couple of hundred dollars, and zirconia. I didn't care. It was the thought that counted, and I loved that ring to bits.
This engagement ring tradition sucks balls. Adn why is it just the women getting rings? Why don't they buy something insanely expensive for their future husbands? (I'm female, btw) So glad we don't have it where I come from!
My main issue would be how much he spent on a ring which is obviously only worth £150 tops. If the idiot had gone to an auction house (like this one: http://elmwoods.co.uk/ ) he could have bought over a ct for what he paid. Its not the amount spent that's so annoying, its the fact that he obviously didn't do any market research before overspending so horrendously. Basically- buy what you like but at least be vaguely smart about it
I get that she might be worried about other people's reaction to the size of the ring...however, HER reaction is what counts. My ring, white gold because it looks like platinum and is supposed to be stronger than yellow gold; the diamond is just under a 1/4 ct. BUT the stone is nearly a perfect cut, clarity, color! Its called The Spirit of Flanders. They are not cut anymore.The set cost less than a thousand dollars. I loved it so much, i got myself an other stone just over a half ct, with custom band, a few years later and he gave me a three stone ring shortly after. He has since given me other jewelry including emeralds and rubies though I love my simple baubles. This child, she expects instant gratification. He probably would have surprised her with a ring m ore to her liking just before the wedding. Or, as at least one person said, an amazing honeymoon. Memories are more important.
If my partner wanted to spend that much money on me to show his love, I would rather spend it on a holiday together. Make some memories, spend time with each other. A ring is just a symbol and I wouldn't want to throw even more money at the companies getting rich off this materialistic view of love.
This is so fake. A ring that small would not cost that much. I had a much better SET for basically rhe same price and it was .50 carat diamond.
Are you marrying the ring or the man?? He needs to run away from that piece of trash
Unlike a wedding dress a bride wears the ring every day of her life. It's not horrid to want something pretty and to her taste. I have to wonder, from his standpoint, was the ring a symbol of his love for her or a test. Hope what he did not spend is going toward a home.
I don't see any " shaming " in her post and also I can understand her feelings. I'm not a gold digger and I don't even let men pay for me in any case even first dates. But still , it's about engagement, a more expensive ring just shows that you are taking this really seriously, you don't care the cost you just want to try your best to make this girl say yes and spend the rest of her life with you, which her ex could definitely afford... how can you tell that women is a gold digger? She probably is but probably not. Stop judging people from a single post, you don't know them.
Why would a more expensive ring mean he's more committed? There are more important things that.
Load More Replies...I bought my wife's ring at a p**n shop in one of the divorce capitals of the country. it cost 1k and is amazing. buy jewelry on the secondary market. it saves money, reduces guilt over supporting the diamond cartels and supports a small business.
Did she ever consider that maybe he thought the wedding ring should be the highlight and spent a lot more on that? I think she's missing the big picture in her relationship. Who know what other plans he has to show how much he loves her? Plus in the long run the takeaway isn't that you get a ring, you get someone who promises to love you and take care of you for the rest of your life.
My ring was a "costume jewelry" with a glass rose. I still adore this ring so much. We have been married for 10 years.
I agree with the girl. She has every right not to like her ring. She’s the one who's going to be wearing it. There is nothing wrong about wanting to like your ring and agreeing on something, such as a ring, together. This is about her right to like her ring, right to her opinion, not cost of the ring. On the flip side, someone can receive an $$$ ring and have the right not to like it as well. What I don’t agree with is how she posted it all online.
People that get held up over engagement rings need to watch "Adam Ruins Everything: Engagement Rings." People didn't start handing out engagement rings until about 100 years ago. It was all a marketing ploy by DeBeers to sell more diamonds. As far as this gold digger..cough..I meant lady...if I was her, I'd be less concerned about him spending so little on the ring and more concerned about the fact that he shelled out $1674 for that little rinky d**k thing. I think he got ripped off. My engagement ring wasn't bought, it was handed down through my family. But since I had to have it and my wedding ring cut off when my hands swelled during my pregnancy, both me and my husband haven't worn our rings since. We don't miss them in the least.
I think opinions are like bellybuttons, everyone has one. We all don’t think,feel and like the same things and that’s what makes us all unique!
My mom said that my ring needed to be 1-3 months salary. I radically stated that that money could be used for our honeymoon, house, etc. I told her and my at the time boyfriend, that I would take it back if it cost that much. This girl (despite her age, her mindset is that of a girl), has some serious issues with materialism. She needs to grow up and realize that wedding sets aren't a competition. He might be willing to get a more expensive wedding set later. Personally speaking, people get too wrapped up in the engagement and wedding plans, but forget about the actual marriage.
My problem with the ring is that he clearly doesn't know her well enough for them to marry. Regardless of the price, he bought her a ring she hates. Had he known her taste she maybe wouldn't have cared about the cost.
As a retired divorce atty, I think the man should call off the engagement & find someone who is not a money grubber.
Listen, I get she should not be materialistic but cut her some slack! You all blame her but what if the dude actually didn't wanna pay more for the ring cause he didn't give a damn? She said he is usually very generous and that he makes a 6 figure salary. He may gotten the cheapest ring and think "meh, it's a ring, this should do." she said she would have liked to chose it with him, that seems like something very nice to do, she doesn't seem like a materialistic person or greedy or whatever. And she will wear it for the rest of her marriage and if lucky, it will be a long lasting one. All of you saying he should dump her are just mean, would you feel good if someone else wished this about your marriages or your relationships? Wishing someone YOU DON'T KNOW to be dumped by their s. o is a horrible thing to do! Think about both sides of the story before you all start accusing and judging.
I second this. I have no interest in a ring and I don't worry about gifts, but an engagement ring is symbolic. So she gets to be a little concerned.
Load More Replies...If it really was all about the price then she can get lost. However she said she would have loved it to have been a thing they did together. To me that says she would have just appreciated a ring with more thought put into it. That doesn't necessarily mean a lot more money.
No, she meant that, if they were picking it out together, she would've picked out a huge diamond. If he was going by the advice he was given to test her for a gold digger, she flunked.
Load More Replies...It must be taste thing but I find that ring not pretty at all, 1k or 1mil. If she don't like the ring as well guy must not know her taste at all.
Hey, I didn't even get an engagement ring! Mind you, I did get a trip to Spain for our 10-year anniversary. :) The memories and day-to-day fun are way better than a piece of metal that irritates my finger.
I think it's not the price thw real problem. The "problem" is that you' will have to wear that ring forever ( I hope) so it would have been great that her boyfried would have said " let's get a ring togheter" or wel took her girlfriend to take one by surprise BUT always with the intenr to make her try some rings. The meaning behind the ring is what truly matters BUT iletting her chose her preferred one is a symbol of really being interested in what shw likes and loves. Having to wear your whole life something that you don't like or dosen't compliment your hand is not pretty, even if you truly madly love your boyfriend.
If someone bought me a $1674 ring I'd probably return it myself, buy something cheaper and put the rest towards a holiday or something more useful.
omg. i would not even wear a ring with a diamond on it! i would be afraid to loose it or that someone might chop my finger off and steal it with my finger 😱😱😱 am i watching too many films??? 🤣🤣🤣 i guess my wedding ring cost a maximum of 200€ but probably much less
My husband got my diamond from a ring his dad never gave his mom LoL They had a terrible marriage. His dad had gotten the ring in Germany (can't remember if he was over there for service or work or whatever). The cut is rather unique, not normal here in the states (altho not really exquisite or anything). It's kinda small but the clarity is almost perfect. When the jeweler cleaned it, it shined so bright, and rainbow colors came through it. I don't like yellow gold so we bought me a white gold set, around $300, to put it in. I couldn't have been happier. I hate gaudy jewelry. The set has a Celtic weave in it, and I got a similar band for my husband. For our 5th anniversary he had 2 sapphire chips put on either side. We might get more later. We've been married 10 yrs. I think communication is more important than anything. We talked about what I liked. I know it's great to be surprised, but being able to talk together about what would make us happy was important.
At least she got a ring... Should have privately told him she did not like the look of it, but it shouldn't be about the cost! They maybe could alter the ring to look more like what she wanted, but instead she decided to try and humiliate the man who wants to marry her? I hope he dumped her.
Is anybody going to point out that the receipt says cheesecake and Mike's Department store? Not once does the so called photos mention it's Tiffany and Company. Are people this stupid??
I agree with her that she deserves to love her ring - especially the part about wanting to pick it out together - but shaming her fiance for the price is greedy. I will also add that that high a price for such a small diamond seems over-inflated. Is that really what a diamond chip costs these days? I could have sworn you could get something that size for maybe $300.
I think she forgot that the ring is a GIFT and a symbol, not something she’s automatically entitled to. Also, i think this post reveals she sees marriage as a “selling good/higher bidder” transaction, not as a choice made by two people. Hate this kind of attitude!
The engagement ring I got for my wife was under $600. The jeweler helped me design and make it myself. The hardest part was getting her ring size with out her catching on what I was doing. I took the time to learn what she likes and I wanted it to be extra special. So I asked the jeweler if I could by the materials and some of his time to guide me in making it.She should have spoken to him about it and he might have been understanding, then gone taken her to pick one she liked. Shaming him because she doesn't like the ring is a cold and unloving gesture.
It'll be nice when we don't have to bother with this stuff and we can just have a nice chilled wedding/marriage :)
Got a 3ct Asscher cut vs2 ring with 1ct side stones set in platinum. 2 weeks before the date I found out he was cheating. Anyway. I prefer the smaller ones as long as it comes from a great guy!
That lil thing cost over a thousand dollars?!! This is why I like staur. Or lab create stones . B
at first when i was thinking what a b****, but after reading all and special when i saw picture hem hem, gurl i'm with you ;D That ring looks soooo ugly, ewww. I would be more happy to get stainless steal 10$ ring but with nice design, but not that s**t even it is gold and diamond...
Former jeweler here. If he really paid 1674 for that speck, he's an idiot and deserves to be shamed. Also, why does the "receipt" say CHEESECAKE. A real receipt from a real jewelry store would specify carat weight, color and clarity (although a .15 carat diamond is pretty difficult to grade), and the grade of the gold. I smell something fishy.
She can express her feelings, I don't think there is any wrong.she may be wanted to see that how importance is he giving to their engagement.but humiliation shouldn't have been done.real love doesn't look the money.people say many things to you both, but we should think ourselves, our decisions shouldn't be based on the opinions of the outers.
If he listened to a coworker who obviously doesn't have a high opinon of women, and treated his future wife life that, then she is better off without him. She was humiliated, and turned it back on him. She didn't need to shame him, but it's pretty apparent she felt really badly and not valued at all. I think if they didn't end up together, she's better off. Were they to have married, he would be in total control of his larger salary, and she would be living off hers. I've seen cases where the husband can afford great vacations, cars, hobbies, etc., and the wife cannot. Many times women earn less, and some couples split expense down the middle, so the wife's salary disappears in mortgages, utilities, groceries. Just positing from what I've seen and read, not my experience at all.
I know this comment will get buried but I just want to point out that the photos WERE NOT posted by the bride-to-be. The only thing she posted was the story which was screenshot from the forum. You can see the image credits above, the receipt is actually photoshopped to make it look like it goes with this story and the ring is just a random shot from flickr (and that poster seems to like it).
People need to learn to shop online more though! Getting anything from a jewelry store is going to be much more money because they have to pay their employees etc. My husband got mine on Amazon and it looks like it could be an $8,000 ring. Nowhere near that.
I wouldn't have shamed him, but I probably would be embarrassed to wear the ring without another band or something on my finger to enhance the ring. It does look a bit lost on her finger.
Years ago my husband and I ran into severe financial difficulty. We had to sell our rings. He was heart broken. Later we got to two silver rings the are alike for $10.each. Its now been 25 yrs. And we can afford new rings but we love these rings. To us its a symbol of weathering tough times and coming out stronger. We celebrate or 30th anniversary this month.
Okay i'll be that girl. If I was presented that ring I'd be disappointed too. It doesn't help that I have fat fingers so it would even look smaller
S**t ring! Look at it! If he could afford better he should have spent more! If he couldn't it's fine. Who wants to be with Scrooge
This scares me. I'm not a poor person but my Wife would chop my head off if I would propose to her with such a expensive ring. The ring is just a symbol. Mine was like 60 bucks? do not remember - it was this unsignificant. I understand that "she will wear this for the rest of your life" but come on.... thats only a piece of damn metal.
For a diamond that small to be priced that way - it must be a very special diamond. Maybe an E or F-0.
I think I would have been more pissed off because he paid too much for the ring. I've seen much bigger diamonds in much nicer settings for way less. I think they saw him coming and ripped him off. Also, she has the right not to like the ring but posting it online was rude of her. She should have talked it out with him.
She is absolutely allowed to dislike the ring, however making a post about it was immature and made her look like a humongous jerk. This panda did not choose a very good title for this article, considering that it says nothing about shaming her fiance, and it doesn't even mention her fiance's response to this post.
Engagement rings were a ploy created by a jewellery company to get people to by diamonds... a random type of rock that people put imaginary value on. You're literally giving your significant other a rock... how is that romantic it's become so commercial that it honestly lacks personal value, emotion or thinking. It's just a rock, literally. I hope she bought him a random expensive rock too if she's complaining like this.
My ring is a men’s ring (i’m Female) my husband had when we got engaged. It’s very nontraditional. I wouldn’t exchange it for the world. I do think it’s important to like how your ring looks though but cost is meaningless unless money is all that matters. If that’s the case then whatcha gonna do if he can’t work for some reason?
At the very heart of it all, an engagement ring is a symbol of betrothal and love. The monetary value Should not Matter. However, in these modern messed up materialistic world of ours today, all life values have been turned upside down.
I am happy she showed her true self before the wedding. I am happy for the man-get outta there, find a woman that loves you and not your gold/diamond rings
SO ok - Am I the only one who assumed these pics were from this woman's actual post? I mean, not only is this a photoshopped pic of some guy's hardware store receipt from 2014, if you follow the link, the price printed on it changes to $40.00...PLUS that ring pic is from a 2007 post that seems to me like a very happily engaged woman showing off her new ring. This is more like BoredPanda shaming a BRIDE for the size of her ring! Screen-Sho...99-png.jpg
I'm sure they are just stock photos. BP could do better.
Load More Replies...Um, I'm sorry to sound stupid, but why does the receipt say 'cheesecake' - $1674?
I wouldn't like the ring either ... but why not discussing it with your finance' and get another one, but posting it is a very bad gesture of mistrust!!
My husband & I picked out my rings together & got them customized to fit together. Combined engagement & wedding band were about 1k total. Coworkers told me he was cheap-but I love it. However, they're silver & I can't wear more than a plain band to work-so now it sits in its box for special occasions & I bought us both silicon bands to wear from groove. They were $20 a piece & have a lifetime warranty. I can wash my hands at work without issue now. I love it.
What's are important? The diamond? The engagement? Love? Diamond you can buy with work. Love, true love, you must find. And it's more hard that buy a diamond.
Lucky for him she did this. Now he knows he should RUN from her as fast as he can. Imagine what she'll do when she doesn't get the car she wants, or the house she wants.
Girls dream for a beautiful diamond ring even though we know it's a commercial thing. What her ex fiance could have done was to get a diamond ring from somewhere else not tiffany. Then he could get the bigger diamond with that price. I personally would be happier to have a ring without diamond rather than having a small diamond. Everyone has different perspectives. However, she should be grateful since there are so many ladies without engagement rings. I believe there is nothing wrong to dream for a beautiful diamond. Although actual love and care are more important than a ring, presenting an appropriate ring is also one of the ways to show love and care.
A piece of jewelry should not signify your love. My engagement ring was $695, and was also my wedding ring. I've been wearing the same ring for over 3 years and it's perfect! Love is not materialistic.
Well in reality he paid $1700 for like .10 CT diamond, and got ripped off. $1700 can buy a 1 CT if you know where to look.
If it's just that you don't think it's pretty, mention that you wish you could have enjoyed the experience with him, it's so romanti, etc, and if he offers to exchange it, don't go over his original $$ amount. That will reaffirm you're in it for HIM but wanted a ring to your taste
Our rings cost £6 each. Sterling silver from a a market. We are still wearing them after 26 years of happy marriage. Also there is a weird story attached to my ring, which I lost in the dark alongside a path in hip high foliage or in a massive Garden after grafting all day. I was upset and went out to find it, husband said it would be impossible as there are almost infinite places to look for something that small. I still went out though and straight away went to a spot I felt drawn to. I looked at the very bottom of a long pile of leaves, had to even part the grass and there it was!!!!! Husband and I are still gobsmacked about this. No looking around, straight to it, covered by grass. We still wear those 'cheap' rings. They are more important to us than any diamond c**p. An expensive ring isn't a guarantee for happiness anyway, just a showing off piece.
Honestly I don't get the obsession with the rings. My husband got me one with zirconia stones, that I didn't really like - it was pretty, but it wasn't my style at all. But I still wore it proudly until the wedding and we chose very beautiful wedding bands together. To be honest I would have married if he proposed to me with a plastic ring. I just don't understand how the price of the ring/the size of the diamond correlates to how much a man loves you. There are so many ways one can show love and buying irrelevant stuff is the least important one in my opinion.
The price seems excessive for the ring, but perhaps the quality of the diamond is quite high? Who knows. My husband spent less on mine, and it was the same style as hers, but larger. Unfortunately it was stolen during a home burglary (my fingers were swollen from summer and pregnancy, and I couldn't wear my rings ). My "new" ring was free; it was inherited from my Aunty. The new ring is worth literally 6 times my original one, but I would give anything to have the cheaper one back. It's about what it represents.
I didn't want an engagement ring, and I didn't get one. But after 11 years of marriage, my husband buys me every day a small gift. Not always wrapped, not big presents, but always something I really like... No engagement ring could change the fact, that he thinks every day about it, what he should buy me on his way back to our home...
This is so stupid. You got a ring. An overpriced symbol of the feelings you should have. Who cares how much it is? Maybe he's saving for something important, like your future?
I understand that she's not happy about the ring. However, she should always remember that the quality or the cost of the ring doesn't guarantee happiness of their marriage.
People don't usually do this and some do but engagement ring doesn't mean the wedding ring. I have a friend that proposed to his gf and the engagement ring isn't for sure the wedding ring. Tmher engagement ring was pretty and what she liked as an engagement ring but he has other thoughts for the wedding ring and band. Soooo, the guy in this scenario could have done the same thing so she needs to sit back and enjoy her engagement for now and see what happens.
But he bought cheesecake!! LOL, is that the name of the ring style?
1: Stop your bit**ing and be happy you got anything, 2: what did your cheap butt get him, or is this day supposed to be all about you?
I get the shopping for a ring make it a nice day have fun choosing but that's all I agree on. Mine was £200 which is more than I could have asked for and my partner was making me look more at the rings than the price which is fair enough but if it got too pricey I would have said pass cuz I feel that society demands a high price tag on engagement rings and I wouldn't want to endorse that with my partner. The thing that annoys me is mine was in the sale something I am VERY honest about yet some women are all like omg no that's cheap how can he buy a reduced ring was that his only motivation that it was in the sale ect it pisses me off idc what price was what discount he got I just care that I love the ring
My husband just asked his mother for one of her rings she got in Ukraine 50 years ago, I love it for its sentimentality and it's beautiful. I would have been angry at him for purchasing a ring at $1600! I've never been comfortable wearing expensive pieces of jewelry and can't relate to women who want rings that shout "Rob me, this is worth a fortune!".
my engagement ring was £25 , im happywith it , no matter how much its worth its my engagement ring and allways will be whether we come into alot of money as a couple or not , my £25 ring will always mean the world to me .the love we have is worth alot more .
I think the man should call off the engagement & find someone who isn't a money grubber.
I get the "how it looks" bit because its a piece of jewellery you are going to be wearing for the rest of your life, but the cost should be irrelevant!!! When i went shopping for my wedding ring i had the option to spend what i wanted but i went for the first one that caught my eye ----- £15! it sat lovely against the unnecessarily expensive engagement ring my husband bought me.
I proposed to my husband with a coin machine metal happy face ring, which he loved. We've been married for 27 years now. The ring means nothing.
Some people feel love is shown by home much someone spends on them. My wedding and engagement ring cost my wife less then $200, and i wouldn't have cared if it cost $20. The ring is supposed to be symbolic of love, devotion and making a life time commit to each other, not the monetary value of it. This whole shaming/humiliating kids, partners, parents etc is crazy to me, not sure of the need to "shame" people.
I spent 125€ on both my and my wife's wedding ring,engagement ring was about 25€,and wedding was also under 200€.20 years later we are more in love than ever
My fiance didn't even proposed with a ring... Doesn't even matter at all. Yes the person deserve better. Your fiance deserves a better person.
I would agree with her if it was about how boring the ring looks as against the price. There are much more interesting things to look at below $1600. Tbh, I can't tell the difference between diamonds and regular stones. This particular ring is boring to look at nonetheless.
Married 25-plus years. Total wedding cost, all rings included: $350. It's the love, not the money. If it's the money, get another honey. IMHO. (BTW, such a ring may be one part of a wedding band set that will be some Kardashian-level bling. Soooo...)
Wow, some women. My engagement ring cost way less than that, less than $25 if my conversion to dollars is accurate. It was not even bought at a jewelry store. I was happy either way. I was so happy and over the moon that I was going to marry a man that I love with all my heart. I was not even ashamed to let people see it, I was too happy and if they thought something bad it was their business, I had joy in my heart. My wedding was also nothing much too, we didn't have the money for a big wedding but it was still a beautiful day. The material things are just that, material things which would not guarantee happiness in the marriage. As long as you love each other all these other things should not matter. Marriage can be hard on it's own, don't add the unimportant stuff
as someone who earns a significantly lower amount than 6 figures, I bought my SO a ring valued around 4.5k$ - bit of free advice, she worries more about damaging or losing the ring and or stones then just appreciating the period piece, we got it together its exactly what she wanted, beautiful ring. She worries about losing it, and it snags her tights a lot - so the thing I took away from it was this, value or otherwise should be second to the practicality. It was so important to me, to get her the "right" ring - as a man I feel that is something I would always be judged on.
exactly - solitaire rings snag your tights all the time - why I wanted a flat-set ring - it was quite inexpensive about £100 or less - but I liked it
Load More Replies...My companion offered me a ring for each of my 2 pregnancies, to help me remember which breast to use on next feeding. These are the only rings I'm wearing (not married) and I'm not even sure the lot cost him more than 20$ and yet I wouldn't trade them for the 1600$ ring she got.
Hmmm....a Google search indicates that the only Mike's Department Store is in the Phillipines. This looks more than a little bogus. Cheesecake??????
My boyfriend proposed and gave me a ring 3 weeks ago. The ring was one of his mom, and I am so glad he didn't ruined himself by buying a new ring. I love him and I love the ring because of what it represents.
Women like to be maintained, not to live with a cheap piece of a bastard. If he can't afford a better ring, then he can't afford a woman.
That’s why women are treated as objects! So sad you think women are something to “afford” 😡
Load More Replies...Omg if my BF ask me to marry him i would be happy even if it was a candy ring. Stupid gold digger
I would have added a plain band just to make it look better. It looks a bit lost on her hand. But shaming her fiance? No. He probably had no idea how much one pays for just a small diamond in today's market place. Ridiculous prices.
It can always be upgraded/added into a new ring. If she is this materialistic and petty, he needs to just say, "buh bye". I've had nothing but a simple gold band for 10+ years. It means a hell of a lot more to me that the MAN is here instead of a diamond.
When I got engaged my man chose it.... It was expensive and I didn't like it at all.... I think that choosing something you'll be wearing for the rest of your life should be chosen together..... Price is one thing, loving it is important.... I would have been happy with just my wedding ring..... Publicly humiliating her fiancé is a definite no no.... I really hope he didn't marry this female, this proves she's trouble..... Do not trust her!
There is no way that ring cost over $1600. I would say more like $200 max. This is fake.
The ring in the picture above looks almost identical to the one my ex bought me and the tiny little stone was chipped. To be honest I was so disappointed. He got it for about 60 dollars at Walmart and was in no way hurting for money. I was so embarrassed to show my friends and family. The stone was so small that it had to be mounted on really tall prongs. Every time I brush the back of my hand over my skin accidentally I'd get a cut. I would have preferred a pretty ring with a fake stone, something sentimental, or no ring at all. Hindsight being 20/20, there were a lot of reasons I should have said no. He was a good guy but things like that just weren't important to him. I still cringe when I think about that ring.
Let me also add that I DID NOT EVER let on that I was disappointed to ANYONE! I would never have hurt him or embarrassed him on purpose.
Load More Replies...I get not liking the way a ring looks but the price thing makes me livid. My initial engagement ring the one my hubby asked me to marry him with was a silver CZ solitaire. The following spring we picked out a gold diamond solitaire together and it cost... $274 $1700 is a LOT for a diamond ring for the 10th anniversary of our engagement my hubby bought me an upgraded ring a 1 carat diamond and it only cost $1000 .... If I were her Fiancee I would rescind the proposal.
My wife and I picked out her ring together. She was going to wear it and I wanted her to be happy with it. She is. That was 32 years ago.
I didn't realize a stone so small would cost so much. My engagement ring from 50 yrs ago cost $175. It was a 3/4 point stone (I think that's what you call it) It wasn't a perfect stone since it had a tiny black spot in it but I didn't care. Maybe her stone was perfect. It is small, but she shouldn't complain. Maybe he would be better off getting the ring back and finding another girl.
Swap the ring if it's not to your taste, but moaning about the price?! I do not have an engagement ring. our wedding rings cost £15 each from Argos. It's our 25th Anniversary this year.
She never said it didn’t cost enough. Just that she would have spent more and that it’s ugly. And it is very ugly and disappointing looking for a piece of jewelry she’ll be expected to wear for life. How can someone who wants to marry her not know her well enough to know her style? It’s insulting. It’s not about money - he could have spent $250 on a glass or cubic zirconia ring that looks 10000 times better than that slug of a ring.
Not to trigger more people, but my engagement ring was bought before my husband met me. He had thought to propose to someone else, and thought better of it. Honestly, I have no problem with the ring, and damn well made sure we didn't spend a mint on wedding bands! Jewelry really doesn't make the marriage, it is the sentiment behind it and your commitment to keep your love for each other going. It's called work. You don't have to get married to get fancy jewelry. If that is what you're after, better off staying single and mingle for it. Do the world a favor, don't procreate either.
I offered my ex a family heirloom: 2 ct in platinum-covered 20k gold. She threw it at me when she left, saying it was too small. I still have it....and I raised the children myself. I have never remarried. -Dr. M (yes, I am single, AND a doctor)
My goodness lady. It's not about materialistic odjects. Cherish what you saw in this man, and don't forget there's ladies out there that would love to have him. Bite your tongue and re-think about what he means to you!!!
I do think she a bit of a point. Like I personally think that a 1k ring is way too much, but my fiancé and I are both minimum wage workers. I got my ring from Etsy for $100 and it is incredibly beautiful, amazingly sturdy, and was created by an independent artist. However if her fiancé is making a 6 figure income then it makes a bit more sense to expect something a little nicer. And I am totally with her on the whole picking it out together thing. I searched for my ring with my fiancé, and we chose something we both love. He proposed with a really cheap costume ring with the complete intentions of letting me pick my own. If any man is going to break up with someone they love because they don't like the ring they chose, that is ridiculous. Obviously the man could have at least tried to pick something he knew she would like, but it looks like he got the most cliche engagement ring they had, with no personalization at all.
I would be upset if I found out he spent $1,645 on that ring because it means he got really ripped off. For the high price he paid for such small diamond, that better be a stellar diamond, with the best color, carat, and cut to make up for the lack of carat.
HERE is the problem!! The jewelers have put it in everyones head that it MUST be a diamond ring! It is ALL a jewelers scam!
It’s a pretty ring. Minimalist rings are lovely if they fit well, which this one does. I was shocked it cost $1600! Solid gold? Rare type of diamond?
why do people post s**t on the internet thinking other people will agree with them???
If he paid $1700 for that little speck of dust he's a financial idiot and she's well rid of him.
If he paid $1700 for that little speck of dust he's a financial idiot, she's well rid of him.
My feelings would have been hurt, only because in our culture the diamond (or gem) signifies the man's love, and that is a teeny diamond that's the size of an accent diamond, which seems really odd to me. Of course if he wasn't earning that much money it would be a different story. When I got engaged, my fiance was making like $15/hr and he got a used ring that I've been happily wearing for 20 years (he paid maybe $200 for it, but still, it's 1/2 ct - though I'd have been happy with anything). Also, knowing what I know now about diamond mining, I would want a lab-created one and not a mined one. I'm really surprised at how many women still think it's crucial to have a mined diamond, no matter the cost in humanity!
My FIL made well into the six figures a year for a couple of decades, retired a multimillionaire and when he got married in 1999 he bought a $250 gold wedding band set for them. It doesn't matter what the bands cost, they are symbolic and diamonds are not rare, they are hoarded. Stop with the b******t, people it's a scam. Hopefully he saw this and got a look into how she thinks.
I got a lovely ring. I was sure it was gold with a simple zircon and I was very happy. I didn't ask questions. Someone else asked and only then I learnt it was a diamond ring. I didn't expect anything special, just a nice looking ring that fits. I understand the woman, it's awful not to like the ring and I don't really like it either. But she is rude! She only cares about money!
Mine cost £30, wedding one £60. So she's putting a price on her relationship per say? Because he earns money- she'll want a wedding ring close to $10000? Crazy and too materialistic.
My fiancé and I chose the ring together, decided on a budget and a design we BOTH loved. Yes to post about the price was tacky but IMO she has every right not to like the ring if she had no hand in choosing it. Would you want to wear an item for the rest of your life that you didn't like? I probably wouldn't. That doesn't mean I don't love my fiancé, it means I don't like the ring. That's all. But yes.. her exact wording was unfortunate.
She was lucky to get an engagement ring at all. In some parts of Europe a plain gold wedding ring is worn on the ring finger of the right hand when the engagement is announced and then transferred to the left hand upon marriage.
I told my fiance not to spend a ton of money on my ring. Something small since I have very tiny hands. He went waaaay above and beyond and while he was working on the cruise ship in Astoria, Oregon; he stopped and had one made just for me since he couldn't the right one. It is all about the love you have for your partner and the thought behind the gift giving not the gift itself. 15171141_1...f4b4c9.jpg
in ancient Rome, the wedding ring was made of iron... ah these guys were so wise...
God, what a stuck-up woman! I'm glad in my country people use normal engagement rings, not ones with diamonds. I'd be shocked if my partner spent that much money on a stupid ring!
Funniest thing this "tradition" of diamond engagement rings was started by the De Beers diamond company last century to market what is actually a very common and average gemstone. They monopolise the diamond industry and have created a false sense of rarity about diamonds. There are far more beautiful and rarer gemstones out there - high quality rubies, sapphires & emeralds are all rarer in nature that diamonds. And there are cheaper and just as beautiful alternatives too: both moissanite & white sapphires look nearly identical to a diamond and are also virtually as robust and long lasting a diamond.
Load More Replies...I want to know where he bought that ring. Before I say why Believe me when I say this chick is a b***h and I do NOT agree with her. That being said, my first engagement ring was bigger than that shown and didn't cost HALF of what he spend. Poor guy. Way too much for that little a*s solitaire, BUT that being said, wtf is her problem? I told my guy IF we ever get married I don't even want a diamond. I want a cheap stone. I think it's called morganite. Just as a hard as diamond Waaay cheaper and gorgous! I told him IF he wants to add diamonds to the side whatever.
diamonds are way over-rated - pushed as romance by De-Beers in the 1950's
Load More Replies...Dude, this is messed up. When he proposed, my husband told me to get whatever ring I wanted as long as it was under $1K. I said sure, because I'm marrying HIM, not the ring. About a month later we took a trip to the jewelry store, where I told the clerk the budget and style I hoped to imitate. They were about to show me cubic options when my now-husband stopped them and told them to bring out diamonds, and he ended up getting me a ring that was far above any expectation I had. I was floored. To this day I wonder if he was testing me. I think it's sad that this woman was so focused on his generous six-figure income to not see for herself that it should be HIM who is enough, not the amount of money he makes.
The integrity of a man is questionable if he would test his fiancé in such a way. Hopefully he just wanted to surprise you.
Load More Replies...now wearing my mums engagament ring - beautiful twist and 3 diamonds - sure it probably cost my dad a few months wages in 1954
Load More Replies...First off, yes it would have been better to select a ring together. Especially if you had both already decided on becoming engaged. That said the ring is only the beginning...a marriage is work, is commitment and is choosing over and over again to keep walking through life together. If you do marry this man bear in mind that your relationship will be tested many ways down through the years. Just getting through the first year can get rough. So don't worry about the ring, worry about how you are going to live the next fifty years of your life. That's where the value comes in. With time and a lot of it. Good luck, you will need some of that too. Sign me, happily married.
I did choose my own engagement ring - I would not have wanted a diamond solitaire
Load More Replies...I'm sorry. Guy makes 6 figures? What he paid for that ring was half a paycheque. That a guy gets cheap to test whether or not she's a gold digger is a huge red flag for their relationship. She has to wear that ring for their entire marriage. Futher, women sacrifice careers, bodies, sleep for children and husbands. The least you can do is show your love and spend a little money. If the roles were reversed, my lover would have a rock so big, they wouldn't be able to hold their hand up properly. That's just f*****g disrespectful.
My husband and I searched together for a ring that not only fit our budget but was also something that I liked. I managed to find a family owned jeweler who worked out of a flea market = low overhead cost = savings for us. We got this gorgeous engagement ring for $700 Canadian. The husband forgot to buy the wedding band at the same time and as the pieces are made one by one we would not have one made in time for the wedding. We ended up having to go to a big brand name store and ended up paying $850 for the wedding band alone. Overall we only spent $1550 CAD for the set. I think if you shop around enough and are willing to compromise both parties can be happy! 20181002_0...1614c0.jpg
Why does that receipt say "cheesecake...$1,674"? They definitely got robbed.
My sister went thru the same thing. She was on her weekly girls night out. He came from 10 miles away to propose in front of all her friends. He got down on one knee holding out the ring and her full answer was....yes i will marry you but I don't like the ring and you have to go now i am on my night out!!!!
1st rule is NEVER buy a ring until you know the return policy. The pawnshop won't give you very much for it. Make sure to get the ring back
I would think the first rule would be to NEVER buy a ring unless you truly know your partner and are absolutely sure they are for you.
Load More Replies...What a effing c**t. Who the hell cares about the ring? Marriage isn't about the ring! I hope he knows about this post and dumped her a*s.
Okay guys, just a heads up, $1674 is 120896.28 of the currency of where I live. The price of an HP Omen notebook is 109270 here(that's $1513). Building a gaming desktop costs just around $1000-$1300. Marrying this kind of a woman costs more than $1674+++. I think we all know what the better option is. Find a better girl for yourself who isn't just want marrying you for your 6-figure salary, or just spend your days gaming.
I'd drop the girl, but he's not too smart either if he paid that much for that ring, unless he faked the receipt. That ring should definitely cost under $200, and possibly $100. I had a ring like that for my first marriage in the 80's & it cost $25 then.
depends how much you get ripped off by an expensive jeweller
Load More Replies...Dump That Woman! Disgusting Materialism, Supporting a Corrupt Organization, A Ridiculous Tradition, Think Outside the Box - and Have Some Decency.
Why Do You Capitalize Every Word In The Sentence Like It's A Title!? Seriously, it drives me crazy when people do that. It's MORE effort to write something incorrectly!
Load More Replies...He probably thought the ring was great, and that she would love it. And, he possibly had something special planned because the ring wasn't that "expensive." And then he saw this zooming around the Internet, and said "nah. Won't do it."
We bought a beautiful band set (tip here, don't buy white gold, it's worthless) and I had to sell them three years later for food. Only got 5 bucks on a two hundred dollar set. We never bothered with another set of rings, didn't figure we needed them that bad with four kids to feed and clothe and a handicapped brother in law to take care of. We were married almost 40 years when he died. I have so many happy memories that a fancy ring wouldn't have created.
Actually, I agree with her. I'd be embarrassed to give that ring to my fiance and embarrassed to have her wear it, especially knowing that her friends and family would know that it was I who gave it to her. And, I'd be especially embarrassed when word got out that I didn't have any better sense than to spend $1,700 on a $100 diamond chip at a "no returns" department store jewelry counter. Exactly how clueless is this guy?
Cost doesn't matter but I'd be pretty pissed to get a tiny ring. I like flashy rings, but my most expensive one is 160 and I'd proudly wear it as an engagement ring. I think she was more upset about the tiny size
Bail on that chick. It's not that she's materialistic, all women are materialistic. They want to be taken care of. It's that she wants control more than she wants a husband. She wants a life that she designs around herself and this guy is just an accessory in that design. She'll never achieve the design she's setting out to gain. She'll never be happy in her marriage or this relationship. This guy will never win with her. Bail dude.
The commenters value themselves enough not to throw away a good relationship over something as dumb as a piece of jewelry. Love and respect is what makes a marriage, not a ring.
Load More Replies...If you are considering joining your lives together - at some point joint finances come into it
Load More Replies...OK. I think that it's reasonable (DONT GET TRIGGERED WAIT) for her to like how the ring LOOKS. She is going to be wearing it for the rest of her life and it IS reasonable to want to get it together, for that reason. BUT THE PRICE DOESN'T F*****G MATTER.
Exactly. Why are people acting like someone isn’t allowed to like their engagement ring? I agree that the price shouldn’t matter. But people condemning her for not liking how it looks are ridiculous. Maybe he should have asked one of her friends to go with him to pick it out or something. She’s going to wear a ring she hates for their entire marriage? Very shortsighted for people not to see this as an issue. However, this is something you talk to your close friend about in private. Not post it online smh
Load More Replies...I knit my engagement ring: $1 worth of yarn and a $2 plastic diamond bead. My wife would have turned me down if I wasted $1,000+ on a ring. We're both frugal, and 5 years into the marriage our house is paid off. T2i_IMG_00...a08d59.jpg
Congrats. You should be proud for spending money on something as important as a house. But a yarn ring won't hold up. With no house payment, you can now afford a traditional ring. It doesn't have to be expensive. It would make a great anniversary gift.
Load More Replies...I bellieve you got the title wrong, Women tries to shame EX fiance, give that man some dignity
I can have sympathy for a woman getting a ring they don't like, based on looks or design. I can't imagine shaming the man I love and want to marry based on how much he spent though.
Honestly? I don't get where all the people take their moral highground from only because they didn't want a ring. Every person has different needs, and if she wanted a larger stone on her engagement ring as a demonstration of love - which her fiancee clearly and easily could have afforded - then that's her thing, and the only one who can discuss this with her is her dude. If YOU didn't want/didn't get a big ring it doesn't make you a better person, you are just different than she is. And if her fiancee wanted to "test" her with the small stone, then that's more than a d**k move of him, just as every "test" is.
I know, right? This moral high ground everyone seems to be taking regarding engagement rings is getting pretty extreme.. to the point where women with expensive rings are heavily shamed for them. I always thought that if the man earns enough money, and the woman isn't like unemployed or earns significantly less, then the woman should be able to want a ring where its cost is relative to their earnings that both parties are comfortable spending. Who decided that an engagement ring isn't worth spending money on? Maybe they have enough savings already for a house? No-one knows the story when it comes to engaged couples, yet apparently an expensive engagement ring=fickle, shallow, gold-digging woman. It's crazy.
Load More Replies...Just Googled ring prices. FAKE. Possibly an incel trying to incite normal men against women because misery loves company LOL
I just noticed it says all sales are final and that it is for a cheesecake. So yeah...that is one expensive cheesecake.
Load More Replies...When I saw the article’s picture, I thought she was shaming him for how MUCH he spent.
If he bought her a small ring as a 'test' then he sounds like a manipulative jerk. He shouldn't have to test her if he's proposing. He should know. And if it's out of character for him to be stingy with spending, then yeah, it's a weird situation. Also. I think engagement rings are dumb.
engagement rings arent dumb - they kind of signify to members of the opposite sex that they neednt bother wasting their time - precurser to a wedding ring - but to need a huge diamond to tell everyone your fiance is rich?? thats dumb -- can just imagine "my boyfriend is loaded and look at this pathetic ring he bought me"
Load More Replies...If you love someone, a curtain ring will do. That being said, I'd be pretty disappointed if someone I'm in a serious relationship with didn't know my tastes. For example, I positively *hate* yellow gold. I wouldn't be kicking up a fuss about it, but I'd still be a bit sad if someone gave me a gold ring, unless it was a family heirloom...
I really hate solitaire settings - the claws catch on everything
Load More Replies...When my husband proposed, he purchased me a small diamond. I was so thrilled. Nine years later I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Now my left hand and arm are swollen. I can't wear my rings. I can't get them sized because my hand is never the same size two days in a row. We have now been married twenty nine years. Rings don't matter. Love, compassion, communication, compromise, humor, and mutual respect make a marriage, not rings. There is something to be learned here.
So I picked out my ring, because she is right, it is a ring that, in theory, you will be wearing for the rest of your life. So when I got married we didn't have any money so I just used a gold band that had been my mothers. A few years go by and my husband and I are walking around St. Augustine and I see my ring. We hadn't been looking for wedding rings, we hadn't been talking about wedding rings, but I pointed to it and said "Look, it's my wedding ring." Now I would have bought the thing myself because as far as I was concerned, it was the ring I had been browsing to find for the last few years. However, my husband agreed that it was my ring and he bought it for $350. I don't know how he got so lucky that my wedding ring was so relatively inexpensive, but he did. I think that such an important piece of jewelry should be something that the bride picks out. That being said, I also don't see why the bride wouldn't be willing to help pay for the ring to insure she gets the one she wants.
Are you talking about the engagement ring or the wedding ring? Because I thought it was the norm for the couple to pick out their wedding bands together. The engagement ring is different though, it depends on whether or not the bride-to-be wants a surprise proposal or not.
Load More Replies...if it makes you feel any better there is growing research that indicates people who spend lots on rings or weddings tend to divorce more often than people who kept the ring and wedding expenses reasonable. Frugality seems to support long term love :)
Load More Replies...Greedy woman. I'd be madly happy if my bf (if I had one haha) proposed with a plastic ring bought on a fair. The guy wants (or I guess wantED) to spend his whole life with you! That's the important part.
But he’s not trying to marry you. He wants to marry her. So he could not be lazy and at least try to give a s**t about her opinion on a jewel she will be wearing.
Load More Replies...This wbole idea of a man surprising a woman with a piece of jewelry she's going to wear for the rest of her life should just die. We discussed our future and getting married together. We decided together. We picked out our own rings.
Is anyone else thinking the guy who bought the ring got ripped off? $1600 should get a much better ring, especially for such a simple band. I bought my fiancé's ring 2 years ago and that price and ring don't seem to match. Also why does the receipt say cheesecake? Lol
Because both photos in the article are just used for display. Just click on the source links, they are not original photos from the lady with the ring issue.
Load More Replies...I just sold my wedding set as I am widowed and they no longer apply. My husband picked them himself and I loved them and him. He did not put me in the position of picking something he couldn't afford or me picking something cheap because I thought that was all he could afford (he was paying alimony at the time). Just keep in mind , a diamond is only compressed carbon, COAL, that just happens to sparkle when cut and polished.
Why would you sell them? That was a testament of your love. (or should've been) The no longer apply? God forbid if My husband dies before me I will wear my rings until I die as well. Even if I ever got re married, they'd be on my right hand. He will always be part of you. I'm sorry I just think this is extremely odd. Unless you sold them to help with end of life costs, then maybe I could see. I guess I'm just old fashioned. I would sell everything else before I sold the one thing that represented our love that was tangible. I suppose because at one point I'd want to hand them down to my children / grand children or what have you.
Load More Replies...The tradition of giving a diamond ring for engagement was quite literally made up by some rich guy who wanted to make more $$$ off his diamond company. You have money, great - save on the expensive engagement ring and spend it on a nice vacation in the Maldives or something. Great memories > pricey rock
I am sorry (well, no, not at all) but I do not get all this super expensive engagement/wedding hype. How come we as a society seem to have equated formally becoming a couple with absolutely reckless spending on a one-off occasion? The average cost of a wedding went above US$ 32.000 in 2016 leading to some $72 billion in revenue for the wedding industry. It must have taken a lot of overt and covert advertising/brainwashing to get to such numbers.
I'm sure I might get downvoted but... I get that this woman got kinda sad for getting a small diamond ring. For many women having a beautiful wedding, a romantic proposal, and a gorgeous ring is their lifetime dream. And it's ok. We all have different dreams. It doesn't mean they are despicable human beings. Some want to spend money on a big house, others on a trip, others on a new iphone. If you have the money, use it on whatever makes you happy. What I think is wrong is the way she went online to rant about his fiance. I think it's odd that, if this guy makes good money and loves her, and knows what she likes and what she dreams of (wedding, ring..), why didn't he get a ring that he knew she would love? don't get me wrong, I agree that she shouldn't be interested on the price, but if they're so in love and they know each other well.. usually you do EVERYTHING in your hands to make your loved one happy. I don't know if I'm making my point clear, my English is not good.
When hubby bought my engagement ring, he was working 3 jobs (1 FT, 2 PT) and making small payments on it. I was also working full time and raising our two small children. I started to notice little bits of money going missing (ring payments that I didn't know about) and I got mad at him for spending extravagantly. We got into a huge fight about it and then he told me what was going on. Ruined his surprise, I was such a jerk. Still have him and the ring 21 years later. He stuck with me and I've apologized many times over.
I have been married for 48 years. We decided to marry after going together for 7 years. I have no engagement ring as we preferred to spend the money on our honeymoon which was fantastic. I still do were my jade and gold band ring wedding ring which cost us all of $18. back in 1969. So the ring is not the subject it is the love and understanding you have together of WHAT REALLY MATTERS.
I don't get this "the ring HAS to cost..." . My husband asked me to marry him (no ring), we chose nice wedding rings (simple white gold bands..I don't remember the price, probably around 300 -500 Euro for both with engraved names&date). And we paid for them..both. It is OUR wedding, OUR life together, we both pull the wagon. I really don't get "rings have to cost 3 month worth of salary". This is not some kind of competition. I would have gladly bought steel rings or wooden ones, if my husband would have loved him some, it is the thought that counts and this ring is just a symbol.
first of all, I don't like the idea of the guy picking out the ring. We have to wear it for the rest of our lives. We picked out our own rings and are very happy with our choices. While I have a fairly small diamond, it looks a heck of a lot larger that this one. I wouldn't like this ring either. It's looks chintzy AF. If this was all my guy could afford, I'd chip in the other half to have what I want though. If he made $100k a year and gave me this ring, I'd also be unhappy. I am a lot older than this woman I am betting, and at at a very different place in life. I think it's unfair to think a woman should just accept something she doesn't like b/c it was bought with love. Love should let a woman pick her own freaking ring within a budget that causes no hardship.
The real question is whether or not the person treats you well...respects you and loves you. The price of an engagement ring or any jewelry should never be seen as an estimation of someone's love. If she's so pissed off at the size of the ring...I would tell her to sell it, keep the money and find someone else. Maybe he was just testing her, because she even admits that he is usually very generous. Then to go on social media and try to embarrass him in front of the world... so effed up. I'd run for the hills. I'm a woman and have seen this c**p too many times to feel anything but disgust at this kind of mentality. Also...when since is $1674.00 chump change? All those women boasting with huge rocks on their fingers...you'd be surprised to know that their husbands treat them like c**p, cheats, disrespects them and holds all that money they spend on them over their heads. We need to reevaluate how we measure our values and self-worth.
When my husband and I were engaged, we purchased a wedding band that I later changed my mind about. We chose another one and sold the first. The guy that bought it wanted a less expensive band that he could use for the proposal, then would go and choose what she really wanted after she said yes. I could totally see a situation like that, with the benefit of seeing her true colors before he ties himself to her.
You know what's COMPLETELY classless? Her going on social media to complain. Sorry. She even KNEW she was wrong (said so) but did it anyway. I can understand being mildly disappointed that her fiance didn't ask her what she liked before getting her the ring. But whining about a $1650 engagement ring reeks of entitlement and privilege. Doing so online is classless.
Our whole WEDDING, including the rings, cost around $3500. WITH a weeks trip to London... Sheesh, honey, the price tag isn't important, no matter what he earns. How is this guy treating her the rest of the time? Probably well, so if this is an issue, he should say buh bye.
When you propose to your girl friend with an aluminium ring made from the top of a bottle, if she says “yes” then you know she loves you.
Decades ago, I was 20 years old and working at a grocery store part-time at night, while going to college in the day. My girlfriend and I had been dating for nearly two years, and we were talking marriage. One day we were strolling in a mall and happened upon a jewelry store, where we stopped to window shop. She conservatively (and sensibly, bless her heart!) picked out a ring that looked similar to this one. But she knew I couldn't afford it, even at its relatively low price. Later, I went back to that store and successfully applied for credit and got the ring. When I gave it to her (and officially proposed), she cried tears of joy and contentment. Ah! Those were simpler, happier times...
OK, now let me get this straight. There is a guy and he loves a woman. So far so good. Now, he engages to her. Even better. And then, to show how much he cares about the woman, he gives a large sum of money to... a jeweler? Can anyone explain the logic behind this? Engagement ring is a memento and you're not expected to sell it and it is obviously not practical, so it does not qualify as a material present. Why not just pay few bucks for a perfunctory piece of jewelry and spend the rest on some practical present, a trip, vacation, whatever people would enjoy.
Honestly I can't believe that ring cost that much !! Thats the tiniest diamond ring I've ever seen. I would understand if he's poor. But he obviously doesn't love her enough to give her a nice ring. It looks to me like he didn't put any thought into it at all.... just ran by a store on his way to somewhere else and grabbed the first ring he saw. I wouldn't marry him. He obviously doesn't care enough to put any thought into it and doesn't think she's worth very much. No romance. Get ready for a boring marriage with no thanks for anything whatsoever.
Okay, she sounds like goldigger to me but I have a couple of questions. What does cheesecake refer to on the receipt? Isn't the price pretty steep for that size ring? Just wondering.
Could be the name of the company where he bought said ring.
Load More Replies...So a woman gets an engament ring and she's not happy because it was "cheap". Good advice for the guy: Take the ring back to the store and use the $1674 to have a great "Being Free and Careless" party.
When my father proposed, he was just out of college and getting started, so didn't have a lot of money. The ring he gave my mother was very very modest (like not far above Cracker Jack prize). Later, when he was making really really good money, he offered to replace it with a bigger diamond and fancier setting. My mother said no, because the new set would not have been THE one he put on her finger THE day he proposed. They were married for 60 years, and are both gone now. My mother's rings are now in my jewelry box. The gold is worn thin in some areas, so I plan to have them restored soon. It's all about the meaning behind the giving, not the money spent.
PS-All I have is a nice solid wedding ring, no engagement ring. I've been married 17 years now, and don't feel cheated not having a big diamond---got my hubby instead. That's all I need.
Load More Replies...All I have to say is that the "now-to-be-ex" fiancé, has a very wise co-worker.
Why is she complaining that the ring was inexpensive? I would definitely be grateful if I received a ring worth a thousand dollars and some change.
But to the point of the post she should've acted like a grown a*s adult and had a open honest conversation with her fiancé if they are planning on spending their life together than they should be able to talk without her having to pout and shame him on the internet
I think what she is trying to relate is the amount he spent vs the amount he could reasonably afford. Seems he is on a pretty decent salary (nearing $100,000/annum), while he spent under 2 Grand. Not sure how income taxes work in that part of the world but he would be taking home something like $5500-6000/month, so spending "only" $1600 does seem a little on the low side. If they guy was only earning a couple grand a month then that's a different story. Still she should be happy that he loves her and should reassess her priorities.
my opinion is that she don't have a cheap friend , I think that she is a cheap Wh... if the price of the ring is so important. I give my GF a symbolic ring made of plastic and she still have it..... showing your love is not through the bill of a market place.
This is very fake. Just check the source and you'll find the origial pic of the receipt, pre photoshop... photorecei...2dcfe2.jpg
Diamonds are not that rare but yet expensive... The market is being manipulate by De Beers, they also invented the salary rule!
I think the ring is beautiful, and that price is to me, quite expensive. My engagement ring was only a couple of hundred dollars, and zirconia. I didn't care. It was the thought that counted, and I loved that ring to bits.
This engagement ring tradition sucks balls. Adn why is it just the women getting rings? Why don't they buy something insanely expensive for their future husbands? (I'm female, btw) So glad we don't have it where I come from!
My main issue would be how much he spent on a ring which is obviously only worth £150 tops. If the idiot had gone to an auction house (like this one: http://elmwoods.co.uk/ ) he could have bought over a ct for what he paid. Its not the amount spent that's so annoying, its the fact that he obviously didn't do any market research before overspending so horrendously. Basically- buy what you like but at least be vaguely smart about it
I get that she might be worried about other people's reaction to the size of the ring...however, HER reaction is what counts. My ring, white gold because it looks like platinum and is supposed to be stronger than yellow gold; the diamond is just under a 1/4 ct. BUT the stone is nearly a perfect cut, clarity, color! Its called The Spirit of Flanders. They are not cut anymore.The set cost less than a thousand dollars. I loved it so much, i got myself an other stone just over a half ct, with custom band, a few years later and he gave me a three stone ring shortly after. He has since given me other jewelry including emeralds and rubies though I love my simple baubles. This child, she expects instant gratification. He probably would have surprised her with a ring m ore to her liking just before the wedding. Or, as at least one person said, an amazing honeymoon. Memories are more important.
If my partner wanted to spend that much money on me to show his love, I would rather spend it on a holiday together. Make some memories, spend time with each other. A ring is just a symbol and I wouldn't want to throw even more money at the companies getting rich off this materialistic view of love.
This is so fake. A ring that small would not cost that much. I had a much better SET for basically rhe same price and it was .50 carat diamond.
Are you marrying the ring or the man?? He needs to run away from that piece of trash
Unlike a wedding dress a bride wears the ring every day of her life. It's not horrid to want something pretty and to her taste. I have to wonder, from his standpoint, was the ring a symbol of his love for her or a test. Hope what he did not spend is going toward a home.
I don't see any " shaming " in her post and also I can understand her feelings. I'm not a gold digger and I don't even let men pay for me in any case even first dates. But still , it's about engagement, a more expensive ring just shows that you are taking this really seriously, you don't care the cost you just want to try your best to make this girl say yes and spend the rest of her life with you, which her ex could definitely afford... how can you tell that women is a gold digger? She probably is but probably not. Stop judging people from a single post, you don't know them.
Why would a more expensive ring mean he's more committed? There are more important things that.
Load More Replies...I bought my wife's ring at a p**n shop in one of the divorce capitals of the country. it cost 1k and is amazing. buy jewelry on the secondary market. it saves money, reduces guilt over supporting the diamond cartels and supports a small business.
Did she ever consider that maybe he thought the wedding ring should be the highlight and spent a lot more on that? I think she's missing the big picture in her relationship. Who know what other plans he has to show how much he loves her? Plus in the long run the takeaway isn't that you get a ring, you get someone who promises to love you and take care of you for the rest of your life.
My ring was a "costume jewelry" with a glass rose. I still adore this ring so much. We have been married for 10 years.
I agree with the girl. She has every right not to like her ring. She’s the one who's going to be wearing it. There is nothing wrong about wanting to like your ring and agreeing on something, such as a ring, together. This is about her right to like her ring, right to her opinion, not cost of the ring. On the flip side, someone can receive an $$$ ring and have the right not to like it as well. What I don’t agree with is how she posted it all online.
People that get held up over engagement rings need to watch "Adam Ruins Everything: Engagement Rings." People didn't start handing out engagement rings until about 100 years ago. It was all a marketing ploy by DeBeers to sell more diamonds. As far as this gold digger..cough..I meant lady...if I was her, I'd be less concerned about him spending so little on the ring and more concerned about the fact that he shelled out $1674 for that little rinky d**k thing. I think he got ripped off. My engagement ring wasn't bought, it was handed down through my family. But since I had to have it and my wedding ring cut off when my hands swelled during my pregnancy, both me and my husband haven't worn our rings since. We don't miss them in the least.
I think opinions are like bellybuttons, everyone has one. We all don’t think,feel and like the same things and that’s what makes us all unique!
My mom said that my ring needed to be 1-3 months salary. I radically stated that that money could be used for our honeymoon, house, etc. I told her and my at the time boyfriend, that I would take it back if it cost that much. This girl (despite her age, her mindset is that of a girl), has some serious issues with materialism. She needs to grow up and realize that wedding sets aren't a competition. He might be willing to get a more expensive wedding set later. Personally speaking, people get too wrapped up in the engagement and wedding plans, but forget about the actual marriage.
My problem with the ring is that he clearly doesn't know her well enough for them to marry. Regardless of the price, he bought her a ring she hates. Had he known her taste she maybe wouldn't have cared about the cost.
As a retired divorce atty, I think the man should call off the engagement & find someone who is not a money grubber.
Listen, I get she should not be materialistic but cut her some slack! You all blame her but what if the dude actually didn't wanna pay more for the ring cause he didn't give a damn? She said he is usually very generous and that he makes a 6 figure salary. He may gotten the cheapest ring and think "meh, it's a ring, this should do." she said she would have liked to chose it with him, that seems like something very nice to do, she doesn't seem like a materialistic person or greedy or whatever. And she will wear it for the rest of her marriage and if lucky, it will be a long lasting one. All of you saying he should dump her are just mean, would you feel good if someone else wished this about your marriages or your relationships? Wishing someone YOU DON'T KNOW to be dumped by their s. o is a horrible thing to do! Think about both sides of the story before you all start accusing and judging.
I second this. I have no interest in a ring and I don't worry about gifts, but an engagement ring is symbolic. So she gets to be a little concerned.
Load More Replies...If it really was all about the price then she can get lost. However she said she would have loved it to have been a thing they did together. To me that says she would have just appreciated a ring with more thought put into it. That doesn't necessarily mean a lot more money.
No, she meant that, if they were picking it out together, she would've picked out a huge diamond. If he was going by the advice he was given to test her for a gold digger, she flunked.
Load More Replies...It must be taste thing but I find that ring not pretty at all, 1k or 1mil. If she don't like the ring as well guy must not know her taste at all.
Hey, I didn't even get an engagement ring! Mind you, I did get a trip to Spain for our 10-year anniversary. :) The memories and day-to-day fun are way better than a piece of metal that irritates my finger.
I think it's not the price thw real problem. The "problem" is that you' will have to wear that ring forever ( I hope) so it would have been great that her boyfried would have said " let's get a ring togheter" or wel took her girlfriend to take one by surprise BUT always with the intenr to make her try some rings. The meaning behind the ring is what truly matters BUT iletting her chose her preferred one is a symbol of really being interested in what shw likes and loves. Having to wear your whole life something that you don't like or dosen't compliment your hand is not pretty, even if you truly madly love your boyfriend.
If someone bought me a $1674 ring I'd probably return it myself, buy something cheaper and put the rest towards a holiday or something more useful.
omg. i would not even wear a ring with a diamond on it! i would be afraid to loose it or that someone might chop my finger off and steal it with my finger 😱😱😱 am i watching too many films??? 🤣🤣🤣 i guess my wedding ring cost a maximum of 200€ but probably much less
My husband got my diamond from a ring his dad never gave his mom LoL They had a terrible marriage. His dad had gotten the ring in Germany (can't remember if he was over there for service or work or whatever). The cut is rather unique, not normal here in the states (altho not really exquisite or anything). It's kinda small but the clarity is almost perfect. When the jeweler cleaned it, it shined so bright, and rainbow colors came through it. I don't like yellow gold so we bought me a white gold set, around $300, to put it in. I couldn't have been happier. I hate gaudy jewelry. The set has a Celtic weave in it, and I got a similar band for my husband. For our 5th anniversary he had 2 sapphire chips put on either side. We might get more later. We've been married 10 yrs. I think communication is more important than anything. We talked about what I liked. I know it's great to be surprised, but being able to talk together about what would make us happy was important.
At least she got a ring... Should have privately told him she did not like the look of it, but it shouldn't be about the cost! They maybe could alter the ring to look more like what she wanted, but instead she decided to try and humiliate the man who wants to marry her? I hope he dumped her.
Is anybody going to point out that the receipt says cheesecake and Mike's Department store? Not once does the so called photos mention it's Tiffany and Company. Are people this stupid??
I agree with her that she deserves to love her ring - especially the part about wanting to pick it out together - but shaming her fiance for the price is greedy. I will also add that that high a price for such a small diamond seems over-inflated. Is that really what a diamond chip costs these days? I could have sworn you could get something that size for maybe $300.
I think she forgot that the ring is a GIFT and a symbol, not something she’s automatically entitled to. Also, i think this post reveals she sees marriage as a “selling good/higher bidder” transaction, not as a choice made by two people. Hate this kind of attitude!
The engagement ring I got for my wife was under $600. The jeweler helped me design and make it myself. The hardest part was getting her ring size with out her catching on what I was doing. I took the time to learn what she likes and I wanted it to be extra special. So I asked the jeweler if I could by the materials and some of his time to guide me in making it.She should have spoken to him about it and he might have been understanding, then gone taken her to pick one she liked. Shaming him because she doesn't like the ring is a cold and unloving gesture.
It'll be nice when we don't have to bother with this stuff and we can just have a nice chilled wedding/marriage :)
Got a 3ct Asscher cut vs2 ring with 1ct side stones set in platinum. 2 weeks before the date I found out he was cheating. Anyway. I prefer the smaller ones as long as it comes from a great guy!
That lil thing cost over a thousand dollars?!! This is why I like staur. Or lab create stones . B
at first when i was thinking what a b****, but after reading all and special when i saw picture hem hem, gurl i'm with you ;D That ring looks soooo ugly, ewww. I would be more happy to get stainless steal 10$ ring but with nice design, but not that s**t even it is gold and diamond...
Former jeweler here. If he really paid 1674 for that speck, he's an idiot and deserves to be shamed. Also, why does the "receipt" say CHEESECAKE. A real receipt from a real jewelry store would specify carat weight, color and clarity (although a .15 carat diamond is pretty difficult to grade), and the grade of the gold. I smell something fishy.
She can express her feelings, I don't think there is any wrong.she may be wanted to see that how importance is he giving to their engagement.but humiliation shouldn't have been done.real love doesn't look the money.people say many things to you both, but we should think ourselves, our decisions shouldn't be based on the opinions of the outers.
If he listened to a coworker who obviously doesn't have a high opinon of women, and treated his future wife life that, then she is better off without him. She was humiliated, and turned it back on him. She didn't need to shame him, but it's pretty apparent she felt really badly and not valued at all. I think if they didn't end up together, she's better off. Were they to have married, he would be in total control of his larger salary, and she would be living off hers. I've seen cases where the husband can afford great vacations, cars, hobbies, etc., and the wife cannot. Many times women earn less, and some couples split expense down the middle, so the wife's salary disappears in mortgages, utilities, groceries. Just positing from what I've seen and read, not my experience at all.
I know this comment will get buried but I just want to point out that the photos WERE NOT posted by the bride-to-be. The only thing she posted was the story which was screenshot from the forum. You can see the image credits above, the receipt is actually photoshopped to make it look like it goes with this story and the ring is just a random shot from flickr (and that poster seems to like it).
People need to learn to shop online more though! Getting anything from a jewelry store is going to be much more money because they have to pay their employees etc. My husband got mine on Amazon and it looks like it could be an $8,000 ring. Nowhere near that.
I wouldn't have shamed him, but I probably would be embarrassed to wear the ring without another band or something on my finger to enhance the ring. It does look a bit lost on her finger.
Years ago my husband and I ran into severe financial difficulty. We had to sell our rings. He was heart broken. Later we got to two silver rings the are alike for $10.each. Its now been 25 yrs. And we can afford new rings but we love these rings. To us its a symbol of weathering tough times and coming out stronger. We celebrate or 30th anniversary this month.
Okay i'll be that girl. If I was presented that ring I'd be disappointed too. It doesn't help that I have fat fingers so it would even look smaller
S**t ring! Look at it! If he could afford better he should have spent more! If he couldn't it's fine. Who wants to be with Scrooge
This scares me. I'm not a poor person but my Wife would chop my head off if I would propose to her with such a expensive ring. The ring is just a symbol. Mine was like 60 bucks? do not remember - it was this unsignificant. I understand that "she will wear this for the rest of your life" but come on.... thats only a piece of damn metal.
For a diamond that small to be priced that way - it must be a very special diamond. Maybe an E or F-0.
I think I would have been more pissed off because he paid too much for the ring. I've seen much bigger diamonds in much nicer settings for way less. I think they saw him coming and ripped him off. Also, she has the right not to like the ring but posting it online was rude of her. She should have talked it out with him.
She is absolutely allowed to dislike the ring, however making a post about it was immature and made her look like a humongous jerk. This panda did not choose a very good title for this article, considering that it says nothing about shaming her fiance, and it doesn't even mention her fiance's response to this post.
Engagement rings were a ploy created by a jewellery company to get people to by diamonds... a random type of rock that people put imaginary value on. You're literally giving your significant other a rock... how is that romantic it's become so commercial that it honestly lacks personal value, emotion or thinking. It's just a rock, literally. I hope she bought him a random expensive rock too if she's complaining like this.
My ring is a men’s ring (i’m Female) my husband had when we got engaged. It’s very nontraditional. I wouldn’t exchange it for the world. I do think it’s important to like how your ring looks though but cost is meaningless unless money is all that matters. If that’s the case then whatcha gonna do if he can’t work for some reason?
At the very heart of it all, an engagement ring is a symbol of betrothal and love. The monetary value Should not Matter. However, in these modern messed up materialistic world of ours today, all life values have been turned upside down.
I am happy she showed her true self before the wedding. I am happy for the man-get outta there, find a woman that loves you and not your gold/diamond rings
SO ok - Am I the only one who assumed these pics were from this woman's actual post? I mean, not only is this a photoshopped pic of some guy's hardware store receipt from 2014, if you follow the link, the price printed on it changes to $40.00...PLUS that ring pic is from a 2007 post that seems to me like a very happily engaged woman showing off her new ring. This is more like BoredPanda shaming a BRIDE for the size of her ring! Screen-Sho...99-png.jpg
I'm sure they are just stock photos. BP could do better.
Load More Replies...Um, I'm sorry to sound stupid, but why does the receipt say 'cheesecake' - $1674?
I wouldn't like the ring either ... but why not discussing it with your finance' and get another one, but posting it is a very bad gesture of mistrust!!
My husband & I picked out my rings together & got them customized to fit together. Combined engagement & wedding band were about 1k total. Coworkers told me he was cheap-but I love it. However, they're silver & I can't wear more than a plain band to work-so now it sits in its box for special occasions & I bought us both silicon bands to wear from groove. They were $20 a piece & have a lifetime warranty. I can wash my hands at work without issue now. I love it.
What's are important? The diamond? The engagement? Love? Diamond you can buy with work. Love, true love, you must find. And it's more hard that buy a diamond.
Lucky for him she did this. Now he knows he should RUN from her as fast as he can. Imagine what she'll do when she doesn't get the car she wants, or the house she wants.
Girls dream for a beautiful diamond ring even though we know it's a commercial thing. What her ex fiance could have done was to get a diamond ring from somewhere else not tiffany. Then he could get the bigger diamond with that price. I personally would be happier to have a ring without diamond rather than having a small diamond. Everyone has different perspectives. However, she should be grateful since there are so many ladies without engagement rings. I believe there is nothing wrong to dream for a beautiful diamond. Although actual love and care are more important than a ring, presenting an appropriate ring is also one of the ways to show love and care.
A piece of jewelry should not signify your love. My engagement ring was $695, and was also my wedding ring. I've been wearing the same ring for over 3 years and it's perfect! Love is not materialistic.
Well in reality he paid $1700 for like .10 CT diamond, and got ripped off. $1700 can buy a 1 CT if you know where to look.
If it's just that you don't think it's pretty, mention that you wish you could have enjoyed the experience with him, it's so romanti, etc, and if he offers to exchange it, don't go over his original $$ amount. That will reaffirm you're in it for HIM but wanted a ring to your taste
Our rings cost £6 each. Sterling silver from a a market. We are still wearing them after 26 years of happy marriage. Also there is a weird story attached to my ring, which I lost in the dark alongside a path in hip high foliage or in a massive Garden after grafting all day. I was upset and went out to find it, husband said it would be impossible as there are almost infinite places to look for something that small. I still went out though and straight away went to a spot I felt drawn to. I looked at the very bottom of a long pile of leaves, had to even part the grass and there it was!!!!! Husband and I are still gobsmacked about this. No looking around, straight to it, covered by grass. We still wear those 'cheap' rings. They are more important to us than any diamond c**p. An expensive ring isn't a guarantee for happiness anyway, just a showing off piece.
Honestly I don't get the obsession with the rings. My husband got me one with zirconia stones, that I didn't really like - it was pretty, but it wasn't my style at all. But I still wore it proudly until the wedding and we chose very beautiful wedding bands together. To be honest I would have married if he proposed to me with a plastic ring. I just don't understand how the price of the ring/the size of the diamond correlates to how much a man loves you. There are so many ways one can show love and buying irrelevant stuff is the least important one in my opinion.
The price seems excessive for the ring, but perhaps the quality of the diamond is quite high? Who knows. My husband spent less on mine, and it was the same style as hers, but larger. Unfortunately it was stolen during a home burglary (my fingers were swollen from summer and pregnancy, and I couldn't wear my rings ). My "new" ring was free; it was inherited from my Aunty. The new ring is worth literally 6 times my original one, but I would give anything to have the cheaper one back. It's about what it represents.
I didn't want an engagement ring, and I didn't get one. But after 11 years of marriage, my husband buys me every day a small gift. Not always wrapped, not big presents, but always something I really like... No engagement ring could change the fact, that he thinks every day about it, what he should buy me on his way back to our home...
This is so stupid. You got a ring. An overpriced symbol of the feelings you should have. Who cares how much it is? Maybe he's saving for something important, like your future?
I understand that she's not happy about the ring. However, she should always remember that the quality or the cost of the ring doesn't guarantee happiness of their marriage.
People don't usually do this and some do but engagement ring doesn't mean the wedding ring. I have a friend that proposed to his gf and the engagement ring isn't for sure the wedding ring. Tmher engagement ring was pretty and what she liked as an engagement ring but he has other thoughts for the wedding ring and band. Soooo, the guy in this scenario could have done the same thing so she needs to sit back and enjoy her engagement for now and see what happens.
But he bought cheesecake!! LOL, is that the name of the ring style?
1: Stop your bit**ing and be happy you got anything, 2: what did your cheap butt get him, or is this day supposed to be all about you?
I get the shopping for a ring make it a nice day have fun choosing but that's all I agree on. Mine was £200 which is more than I could have asked for and my partner was making me look more at the rings than the price which is fair enough but if it got too pricey I would have said pass cuz I feel that society demands a high price tag on engagement rings and I wouldn't want to endorse that with my partner. The thing that annoys me is mine was in the sale something I am VERY honest about yet some women are all like omg no that's cheap how can he buy a reduced ring was that his only motivation that it was in the sale ect it pisses me off idc what price was what discount he got I just care that I love the ring
My husband just asked his mother for one of her rings she got in Ukraine 50 years ago, I love it for its sentimentality and it's beautiful. I would have been angry at him for purchasing a ring at $1600! I've never been comfortable wearing expensive pieces of jewelry and can't relate to women who want rings that shout "Rob me, this is worth a fortune!".
my engagement ring was £25 , im happywith it , no matter how much its worth its my engagement ring and allways will be whether we come into alot of money as a couple or not , my £25 ring will always mean the world to me .the love we have is worth alot more .
I think the man should call off the engagement & find someone who isn't a money grubber.
I get the "how it looks" bit because its a piece of jewellery you are going to be wearing for the rest of your life, but the cost should be irrelevant!!! When i went shopping for my wedding ring i had the option to spend what i wanted but i went for the first one that caught my eye ----- £15! it sat lovely against the unnecessarily expensive engagement ring my husband bought me.
I proposed to my husband with a coin machine metal happy face ring, which he loved. We've been married for 27 years now. The ring means nothing.
Some people feel love is shown by home much someone spends on them. My wedding and engagement ring cost my wife less then $200, and i wouldn't have cared if it cost $20. The ring is supposed to be symbolic of love, devotion and making a life time commit to each other, not the monetary value of it. This whole shaming/humiliating kids, partners, parents etc is crazy to me, not sure of the need to "shame" people.
I spent 125€ on both my and my wife's wedding ring,engagement ring was about 25€,and wedding was also under 200€.20 years later we are more in love than ever
My fiance didn't even proposed with a ring... Doesn't even matter at all. Yes the person deserve better. Your fiance deserves a better person.
I would agree with her if it was about how boring the ring looks as against the price. There are much more interesting things to look at below $1600. Tbh, I can't tell the difference between diamonds and regular stones. This particular ring is boring to look at nonetheless.
Married 25-plus years. Total wedding cost, all rings included: $350. It's the love, not the money. If it's the money, get another honey. IMHO. (BTW, such a ring may be one part of a wedding band set that will be some Kardashian-level bling. Soooo...)
Wow, some women. My engagement ring cost way less than that, less than $25 if my conversion to dollars is accurate. It was not even bought at a jewelry store. I was happy either way. I was so happy and over the moon that I was going to marry a man that I love with all my heart. I was not even ashamed to let people see it, I was too happy and if they thought something bad it was their business, I had joy in my heart. My wedding was also nothing much too, we didn't have the money for a big wedding but it was still a beautiful day. The material things are just that, material things which would not guarantee happiness in the marriage. As long as you love each other all these other things should not matter. Marriage can be hard on it's own, don't add the unimportant stuff
as someone who earns a significantly lower amount than 6 figures, I bought my SO a ring valued around 4.5k$ - bit of free advice, she worries more about damaging or losing the ring and or stones then just appreciating the period piece, we got it together its exactly what she wanted, beautiful ring. She worries about losing it, and it snags her tights a lot - so the thing I took away from it was this, value or otherwise should be second to the practicality. It was so important to me, to get her the "right" ring - as a man I feel that is something I would always be judged on.
exactly - solitaire rings snag your tights all the time - why I wanted a flat-set ring - it was quite inexpensive about £100 or less - but I liked it
Load More Replies...My companion offered me a ring for each of my 2 pregnancies, to help me remember which breast to use on next feeding. These are the only rings I'm wearing (not married) and I'm not even sure the lot cost him more than 20$ and yet I wouldn't trade them for the 1600$ ring she got.
Hmmm....a Google search indicates that the only Mike's Department Store is in the Phillipines. This looks more than a little bogus. Cheesecake??????
My boyfriend proposed and gave me a ring 3 weeks ago. The ring was one of his mom, and I am so glad he didn't ruined himself by buying a new ring. I love him and I love the ring because of what it represents.
Women like to be maintained, not to live with a cheap piece of a bastard. If he can't afford a better ring, then he can't afford a woman.
That’s why women are treated as objects! So sad you think women are something to “afford” 😡
Load More Replies...Omg if my BF ask me to marry him i would be happy even if it was a candy ring. Stupid gold digger
I would have added a plain band just to make it look better. It looks a bit lost on her hand. But shaming her fiance? No. He probably had no idea how much one pays for just a small diamond in today's market place. Ridiculous prices.
It can always be upgraded/added into a new ring. If she is this materialistic and petty, he needs to just say, "buh bye". I've had nothing but a simple gold band for 10+ years. It means a hell of a lot more to me that the MAN is here instead of a diamond.
When I got engaged my man chose it.... It was expensive and I didn't like it at all.... I think that choosing something you'll be wearing for the rest of your life should be chosen together..... Price is one thing, loving it is important.... I would have been happy with just my wedding ring..... Publicly humiliating her fiancé is a definite no no.... I really hope he didn't marry this female, this proves she's trouble..... Do not trust her!
There is no way that ring cost over $1600. I would say more like $200 max. This is fake.
The ring in the picture above looks almost identical to the one my ex bought me and the tiny little stone was chipped. To be honest I was so disappointed. He got it for about 60 dollars at Walmart and was in no way hurting for money. I was so embarrassed to show my friends and family. The stone was so small that it had to be mounted on really tall prongs. Every time I brush the back of my hand over my skin accidentally I'd get a cut. I would have preferred a pretty ring with a fake stone, something sentimental, or no ring at all. Hindsight being 20/20, there were a lot of reasons I should have said no. He was a good guy but things like that just weren't important to him. I still cringe when I think about that ring.
Let me also add that I DID NOT EVER let on that I was disappointed to ANYONE! I would never have hurt him or embarrassed him on purpose.
Load More Replies...I get not liking the way a ring looks but the price thing makes me livid. My initial engagement ring the one my hubby asked me to marry him with was a silver CZ solitaire. The following spring we picked out a gold diamond solitaire together and it cost... $274 $1700 is a LOT for a diamond ring for the 10th anniversary of our engagement my hubby bought me an upgraded ring a 1 carat diamond and it only cost $1000 .... If I were her Fiancee I would rescind the proposal.
My wife and I picked out her ring together. She was going to wear it and I wanted her to be happy with it. She is. That was 32 years ago.
I didn't realize a stone so small would cost so much. My engagement ring from 50 yrs ago cost $175. It was a 3/4 point stone (I think that's what you call it) It wasn't a perfect stone since it had a tiny black spot in it but I didn't care. Maybe her stone was perfect. It is small, but she shouldn't complain. Maybe he would be better off getting the ring back and finding another girl.
Swap the ring if it's not to your taste, but moaning about the price?! I do not have an engagement ring. our wedding rings cost £15 each from Argos. It's our 25th Anniversary this year.
She never said it didn’t cost enough. Just that she would have spent more and that it’s ugly. And it is very ugly and disappointing looking for a piece of jewelry she’ll be expected to wear for life. How can someone who wants to marry her not know her well enough to know her style? It’s insulting. It’s not about money - he could have spent $250 on a glass or cubic zirconia ring that looks 10000 times better than that slug of a ring.
Not to trigger more people, but my engagement ring was bought before my husband met me. He had thought to propose to someone else, and thought better of it. Honestly, I have no problem with the ring, and damn well made sure we didn't spend a mint on wedding bands! Jewelry really doesn't make the marriage, it is the sentiment behind it and your commitment to keep your love for each other going. It's called work. You don't have to get married to get fancy jewelry. If that is what you're after, better off staying single and mingle for it. Do the world a favor, don't procreate either.
I offered my ex a family heirloom: 2 ct in platinum-covered 20k gold. She threw it at me when she left, saying it was too small. I still have it....and I raised the children myself. I have never remarried. -Dr. M (yes, I am single, AND a doctor)
My goodness lady. It's not about materialistic odjects. Cherish what you saw in this man, and don't forget there's ladies out there that would love to have him. Bite your tongue and re-think about what he means to you!!!
I do think she a bit of a point. Like I personally think that a 1k ring is way too much, but my fiancé and I are both minimum wage workers. I got my ring from Etsy for $100 and it is incredibly beautiful, amazingly sturdy, and was created by an independent artist. However if her fiancé is making a 6 figure income then it makes a bit more sense to expect something a little nicer. And I am totally with her on the whole picking it out together thing. I searched for my ring with my fiancé, and we chose something we both love. He proposed with a really cheap costume ring with the complete intentions of letting me pick my own. If any man is going to break up with someone they love because they don't like the ring they chose, that is ridiculous. Obviously the man could have at least tried to pick something he knew she would like, but it looks like he got the most cliche engagement ring they had, with no personalization at all.
I would be upset if I found out he spent $1,645 on that ring because it means he got really ripped off. For the high price he paid for such small diamond, that better be a stellar diamond, with the best color, carat, and cut to make up for the lack of carat.
HERE is the problem!! The jewelers have put it in everyones head that it MUST be a diamond ring! It is ALL a jewelers scam!
It’s a pretty ring. Minimalist rings are lovely if they fit well, which this one does. I was shocked it cost $1600! Solid gold? Rare type of diamond?
why do people post s**t on the internet thinking other people will agree with them???
If he paid $1700 for that little speck of dust he's a financial idiot and she's well rid of him.
If he paid $1700 for that little speck of dust he's a financial idiot, she's well rid of him.
My feelings would have been hurt, only because in our culture the diamond (or gem) signifies the man's love, and that is a teeny diamond that's the size of an accent diamond, which seems really odd to me. Of course if he wasn't earning that much money it would be a different story. When I got engaged, my fiance was making like $15/hr and he got a used ring that I've been happily wearing for 20 years (he paid maybe $200 for it, but still, it's 1/2 ct - though I'd have been happy with anything). Also, knowing what I know now about diamond mining, I would want a lab-created one and not a mined one. I'm really surprised at how many women still think it's crucial to have a mined diamond, no matter the cost in humanity!
My FIL made well into the six figures a year for a couple of decades, retired a multimillionaire and when he got married in 1999 he bought a $250 gold wedding band set for them. It doesn't matter what the bands cost, they are symbolic and diamonds are not rare, they are hoarded. Stop with the b******t, people it's a scam. Hopefully he saw this and got a look into how she thinks.
I got a lovely ring. I was sure it was gold with a simple zircon and I was very happy. I didn't ask questions. Someone else asked and only then I learnt it was a diamond ring. I didn't expect anything special, just a nice looking ring that fits. I understand the woman, it's awful not to like the ring and I don't really like it either. But she is rude! She only cares about money!
Mine cost £30, wedding one £60. So she's putting a price on her relationship per say? Because he earns money- she'll want a wedding ring close to $10000? Crazy and too materialistic.
My fiancé and I chose the ring together, decided on a budget and a design we BOTH loved. Yes to post about the price was tacky but IMO she has every right not to like the ring if she had no hand in choosing it. Would you want to wear an item for the rest of your life that you didn't like? I probably wouldn't. That doesn't mean I don't love my fiancé, it means I don't like the ring. That's all. But yes.. her exact wording was unfortunate.
She was lucky to get an engagement ring at all. In some parts of Europe a plain gold wedding ring is worn on the ring finger of the right hand when the engagement is announced and then transferred to the left hand upon marriage.
I told my fiance not to spend a ton of money on my ring. Something small since I have very tiny hands. He went waaaay above and beyond and while he was working on the cruise ship in Astoria, Oregon; he stopped and had one made just for me since he couldn't the right one. It is all about the love you have for your partner and the thought behind the gift giving not the gift itself. 15171141_1...f4b4c9.jpg
in ancient Rome, the wedding ring was made of iron... ah these guys were so wise...
God, what a stuck-up woman! I'm glad in my country people use normal engagement rings, not ones with diamonds. I'd be shocked if my partner spent that much money on a stupid ring!
Funniest thing this "tradition" of diamond engagement rings was started by the De Beers diamond company last century to market what is actually a very common and average gemstone. They monopolise the diamond industry and have created a false sense of rarity about diamonds. There are far more beautiful and rarer gemstones out there - high quality rubies, sapphires & emeralds are all rarer in nature that diamonds. And there are cheaper and just as beautiful alternatives too: both moissanite & white sapphires look nearly identical to a diamond and are also virtually as robust and long lasting a diamond.
Load More Replies...I want to know where he bought that ring. Before I say why Believe me when I say this chick is a b***h and I do NOT agree with her. That being said, my first engagement ring was bigger than that shown and didn't cost HALF of what he spend. Poor guy. Way too much for that little a*s solitaire, BUT that being said, wtf is her problem? I told my guy IF we ever get married I don't even want a diamond. I want a cheap stone. I think it's called morganite. Just as a hard as diamond Waaay cheaper and gorgous! I told him IF he wants to add diamonds to the side whatever.
diamonds are way over-rated - pushed as romance by De-Beers in the 1950's
Load More Replies...Dude, this is messed up. When he proposed, my husband told me to get whatever ring I wanted as long as it was under $1K. I said sure, because I'm marrying HIM, not the ring. About a month later we took a trip to the jewelry store, where I told the clerk the budget and style I hoped to imitate. They were about to show me cubic options when my now-husband stopped them and told them to bring out diamonds, and he ended up getting me a ring that was far above any expectation I had. I was floored. To this day I wonder if he was testing me. I think it's sad that this woman was so focused on his generous six-figure income to not see for herself that it should be HIM who is enough, not the amount of money he makes.
The integrity of a man is questionable if he would test his fiancé in such a way. Hopefully he just wanted to surprise you.
Load More Replies...now wearing my mums engagament ring - beautiful twist and 3 diamonds - sure it probably cost my dad a few months wages in 1954
Load More Replies...First off, yes it would have been better to select a ring together. Especially if you had both already decided on becoming engaged. That said the ring is only the beginning...a marriage is work, is commitment and is choosing over and over again to keep walking through life together. If you do marry this man bear in mind that your relationship will be tested many ways down through the years. Just getting through the first year can get rough. So don't worry about the ring, worry about how you are going to live the next fifty years of your life. That's where the value comes in. With time and a lot of it. Good luck, you will need some of that too. Sign me, happily married.
I did choose my own engagement ring - I would not have wanted a diamond solitaire
Load More Replies...I'm sorry. Guy makes 6 figures? What he paid for that ring was half a paycheque. That a guy gets cheap to test whether or not she's a gold digger is a huge red flag for their relationship. She has to wear that ring for their entire marriage. Futher, women sacrifice careers, bodies, sleep for children and husbands. The least you can do is show your love and spend a little money. If the roles were reversed, my lover would have a rock so big, they wouldn't be able to hold their hand up properly. That's just f*****g disrespectful.
My husband and I searched together for a ring that not only fit our budget but was also something that I liked. I managed to find a family owned jeweler who worked out of a flea market = low overhead cost = savings for us. We got this gorgeous engagement ring for $700 Canadian. The husband forgot to buy the wedding band at the same time and as the pieces are made one by one we would not have one made in time for the wedding. We ended up having to go to a big brand name store and ended up paying $850 for the wedding band alone. Overall we only spent $1550 CAD for the set. I think if you shop around enough and are willing to compromise both parties can be happy! 20181002_0...1614c0.jpg
Why does that receipt say "cheesecake...$1,674"? They definitely got robbed.
My sister went thru the same thing. She was on her weekly girls night out. He came from 10 miles away to propose in front of all her friends. He got down on one knee holding out the ring and her full answer was....yes i will marry you but I don't like the ring and you have to go now i am on my night out!!!!
1st rule is NEVER buy a ring until you know the return policy. The pawnshop won't give you very much for it. Make sure to get the ring back
I would think the first rule would be to NEVER buy a ring unless you truly know your partner and are absolutely sure they are for you.
Load More Replies...What a effing c**t. Who the hell cares about the ring? Marriage isn't about the ring! I hope he knows about this post and dumped her a*s.
Okay guys, just a heads up, $1674 is 120896.28 of the currency of where I live. The price of an HP Omen notebook is 109270 here(that's $1513). Building a gaming desktop costs just around $1000-$1300. Marrying this kind of a woman costs more than $1674+++. I think we all know what the better option is. Find a better girl for yourself who isn't just want marrying you for your 6-figure salary, or just spend your days gaming.
I'd drop the girl, but he's not too smart either if he paid that much for that ring, unless he faked the receipt. That ring should definitely cost under $200, and possibly $100. I had a ring like that for my first marriage in the 80's & it cost $25 then.
depends how much you get ripped off by an expensive jeweller
Load More Replies...Dump That Woman! Disgusting Materialism, Supporting a Corrupt Organization, A Ridiculous Tradition, Think Outside the Box - and Have Some Decency.
Why Do You Capitalize Every Word In The Sentence Like It's A Title!? Seriously, it drives me crazy when people do that. It's MORE effort to write something incorrectly!
Load More Replies...He probably thought the ring was great, and that she would love it. And, he possibly had something special planned because the ring wasn't that "expensive." And then he saw this zooming around the Internet, and said "nah. Won't do it."
We bought a beautiful band set (tip here, don't buy white gold, it's worthless) and I had to sell them three years later for food. Only got 5 bucks on a two hundred dollar set. We never bothered with another set of rings, didn't figure we needed them that bad with four kids to feed and clothe and a handicapped brother in law to take care of. We were married almost 40 years when he died. I have so many happy memories that a fancy ring wouldn't have created.
Actually, I agree with her. I'd be embarrassed to give that ring to my fiance and embarrassed to have her wear it, especially knowing that her friends and family would know that it was I who gave it to her. And, I'd be especially embarrassed when word got out that I didn't have any better sense than to spend $1,700 on a $100 diamond chip at a "no returns" department store jewelry counter. Exactly how clueless is this guy?
Cost doesn't matter but I'd be pretty pissed to get a tiny ring. I like flashy rings, but my most expensive one is 160 and I'd proudly wear it as an engagement ring. I think she was more upset about the tiny size
Bail on that chick. It's not that she's materialistic, all women are materialistic. They want to be taken care of. It's that she wants control more than she wants a husband. She wants a life that she designs around herself and this guy is just an accessory in that design. She'll never achieve the design she's setting out to gain. She'll never be happy in her marriage or this relationship. This guy will never win with her. Bail dude.
The commenters value themselves enough not to throw away a good relationship over something as dumb as a piece of jewelry. Love and respect is what makes a marriage, not a ring.
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