To put it simply, gatekeeping is an act when someone takes it upon themselves to decide who does or does not have access or rights to a community or identity ("You can't be a real Phoebe Bridgers fan, you just discovered her. Real fans follow her since at least Stranger in the Alps.") If this sounds ridiculous to you, don't worry. You're not alone.
There's a subreddit called r/GatesOpenComeOnIn and it describes itself as the polar opposite of gatekeeping. Created in 2018, this online community collects and shares pictures of wholesome acts of kindness when people had each other's backs. Whether it's encouraging everyone to share their Spotify Wrapped or simply allowing someone to feel tired, it doesn't take much to acknowledge another person's emotions, thoughts, experiences, values, and beliefs. Continue scrolling and check out how it's done.
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As you can see from the pictures, empathy goes a long way. Developing it is crucial for establishing relationships and behaving compassionately. Since empathy involves experiencing another person’s point of view, rather than just one’s own, it enables prosocial or helping behaviors that come from within, rather than being forced.
Sadly, some surveys indicate that empathy is on the decline in the United States and elsewhere. But at least these findings motivate parents, schools, and communities to support programs that help people of all ages enhance and maintain their ability to walk in each other’s shoes.
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If God created all creatures with his infinite wisdom, why would he hate something that HE created?
Empathy really is a superpower: it helps us cooperate with others, build friendships, make moral decisions, and intervene when we see others being bullied.
Humans usually begin to show signs of empathy in infancy and the trait develops steadily through childhood and adolescence.
That being said, most people are likely to feel greater empathy for someone like themselves and may feel less empathy for those outside their family, community, ethnicity, or race.
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Like other traits, empathy may have evolved with a selfish motive: using others as a "social antenna" to help detect danger. From an evolutionary point of view, creating a mental model of another person's intent is critical: the arrival of an interloper, for example, could be deadly, so developing sensitivity to the signals of others could be life-saving.
Babies display an understanding that people’s actions are guided by intentions and can act on that understanding before they turn 18 months old, including trying to comfort a parent. Advanced reasoning about other people’s thoughts develops around age 5-6.
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Experts say that people high in narcissism, or who have a narcissistic personality disorder, can exhibit empathy and even compassion. However, that ability only goes so far, as ultimately they prioritize their own needs.
Some researchers believe narcissists can become more empathetic by developing greater self-compassion, which can increase their own feelings of security and self-worth and enable them to open up to hearing others.
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Someone I Went To School With Posted This About Giving Their Son A Unicorn-Themed Birthday Bash. Positive Parenting For The Win
My boy loves colour pink and red. As soon as he was able to show it to me, I have made him red birthday cake and bought red or pink clothes. He also liked to play with baby doll, toy washing machine and cooking gadgets and we allowed him to play what ever he wanted. That phase has now mostly passed, but red is still his favourite colour.
Unicorns are for everyone. They are amazing mystical creatures and sometimes I wish that they were real.
My son has a dolls house. He loves it. Got him the accessories and dolls for it as well.
This is amazing! I completely agree and do not understand why people say "Blue is for boys" and "Pink is for girls" I have a sister who wears blue every day and my two younger brothers love the colors pink and purple. My sister loves baseball and my brothers love fairies, unicorns, and fluffy things. Thank you so much for posting that and letting everyone know how you, and many other people, feel. 💕
The comedian Ed Byrne tells a story about how his son wanted a pair of pink sparkly sneakers, so he bought them. The first day the kid came home from school, he was crying, and didn't want to wear his shoes anymore, because they were "girl shoes." So Byrne took a page from Eddie Izzard's book and asked, "Are they your shoes? Are you a boy? Then they're boy shoes."
my brother likes elsa....just wanted to put that out there. saying it going to be her girlfriend when he grows up
In Victorian times pink was for males for being a strong and decided color. Boys also wore dresses till they were 6 (if I remember correctly).
How much you want to bet that the person who even invented unicorns was probably a man? Lol.
I dont get why people have a problem when kids play with something that the other gender also plays with. They’re kids! Just leave them alone!
My brother wants to have a frozen 2 party or lightbenenite or however you spell that party. (A lightbleninite is a character that he made up)
My son had a frozen party when he was 3. It was so cute.
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My oldest grandson wanted to wear nail polish so, with his parents in agreement, I tool him out to choose whatever colors he wanted. His favorite was a gorgeous sparkly blue.
I was an only child and grew up with 6 male cousins in the 80s, and we played football (the real), we drank tea in pink plastic cups, we had car races and played with legos together. No one ever said idiotic things like "that's a boy/girl toy".
Honestly Unicorns and Mermaids are fantastically badass. I see nothing wrong with it.
LOVE this woman and her style!!! There are no boy/girl anything in our household either!
In Shayne Silvers "Nate Temple" books [fabulous, incidentally] Nate has a unicorn. It is black, eats rainbows, speaks, and has peacock type feathers that are white with black and red "eyes" that drip blood. And he is one badass.
I grew up playing with remote control cars and Barbies. My mom had a dirt bike when she was a kid. When the neighborhood boy came over to play, je played with barbies, too. He was the absolute best at beating The Little Mermaid video game on Nintendo. We rode bikes, and roller blades, climbed trees, watched Disney movies, played with dolls, and dollhouses...maybe it was because it was the 80's and 90's?...things have gotten way too tense, mostly, people need to learn to chill.
When they were little, we had 1 pink daughter and 1 blue daughter. Very easy, never any fights over "I want the pink cup" I just bought a pink and a blue cup, plate, brush... Now our Pink girl is a teenager who wears only jeans and hoodies, doens't care for make-up or anything but still feels like a girl. Our blue girl only wears skirts, never a jeans, and is very girlygirly. Moral of the story: colors have nothing to do with genders or caracters or anything. They are just colors!
My son had a cat-themed party when he was 7. I had to hunt for cat-themed stuff that wasn't necessarily pink. the bakery didn't even offer cat-themed cakes but the cake decorator went above and beyond!
Colors are genderless. In many countries (can't speak for all of course) boys used to be dressed in pink and girls in blue, so let's all mind our business and let kids be kids ffs
Don't jump to the conclusion a child loves a certain color then deny the the joy of seeing all the colors WITHOUT jumping to the conclusion that it will cause friction. A baby will have a million choices that can change minute by minute without some narrow minded , nosey , judgementle , instigator basing their life story on their own stuck in the box ideas.
I have 4 grandchildren...3 boys, 1 girl. One year for Christmas my grandsons received trucks and my granddaughter a tea set. Later on things go real quiet in the living room. My granddaughter was playing with a truck, and my three grandsons were having a tea party on the coffee table. What a heart-warming moment.
My brother and i actually used to take turns using the only pink fork in the household when we were little.
I'm a straight, white, female and blue is one of my most favorite colors, I loved hotwheels and matchbox cars, and real cars, and climbing, and running, and baseball, and football... I hated girly stuff and girly manners and that girls are forever and endlessly told what their place is supposed to be instead of being encouraged to decide for themselves. Everyone should decide for themselves.
for another portion of adult soft pink in action, just watch Miami vice B-)
I want to be friends with this parent, and I want to come to that birthday party. What a cool person.
Why can't boys believe in Unicorns anyhow?And when did sex have a colour?
I didn't stop my boys playing with the girls with their dolls, now they are wonderful parents in their own right.
You know, about 400 years ago pink clothes and high heels were mainly worn by men. It's just been within the last 100 years that "we" decided these things were meant for females. What "feminine" things of today will be deemed masculine in 100 years???
Good for her. No wonder kids grow up confused , let a child have an imagination fgs.
When my son was 4 he saw me paint my nails (I do it very rarely) he wanted his nails done too. I told him only if he can sit still to let them dry. He went for pink glitter sparkle. He rolled up into preschool to show other boys who thought it was cool. His teacher, not so much. He also had a pair of pink jelly sandals (bc they're close toe/heel met preschool requirements). His classmates were amazed! One even told his grandma that he had on pink shoes and he can't bc they're girl colors. The classmate was amazed when my mom said but it's just a color. It doesn't care of you're a boy or girl, bc it's a color
And this former U.S.Marine will stand next to you lady when you want to take them on.
My mega munchkin was asked for a doll house for his birthday while my mini munchkin wanted a dinosaur birthday cake and an Owen barbie (Jurassic World) as her gift. Stereotypes suck.
Fun fact: back in the 50s Macy's did a survey regarding colours relating to gender and the majority thought of pink as a boy colour.
I'm a girl who's only likes pink on flowers- not a good color on me or my walls.
I love dragons and griffins WAY better than unicorns and fairies and mermaids. It’s what we love that makes us special, not what we SHOULD love.
My brother loved to play with my dolls with me and read my fantasy books, and I loved doing both things with him
unicorns and mermaids are like the coolest, i dont understand why anyone would say a certain gender can't like them
You know those 'action figures' boys are given? They're dolls.
"Do a thought experiment," Mark Davis, a professor of psychology who has spent decades studying empathy, said. “Imagine if humans didn’t have the capacity for empathy. What would it mean if, in fact, we never gave a damn about what happened to other people? That’s an almost an inconceivable world."
"As awful a species as we can be — and we certainly have the capacity for terrible things — we’re also capable of some pretty wonderful things, noble things, self-sacrifice."
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A while ago someone asked me if I “have a family”. I said yes and was genuinely confused when she started asking me about kids.
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Interestingly, the word "empathy" is relatively new. It didn’t enter the English language until the early 1900s, derived from the German word einfühlung, according to Daniel Batson, a researcher of empathy and professor emeritus at Kansas University.
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While some people are more naturally empathetic than others, there are easy, evidenced-based exercises that anyone can do to increase their empathy.
First, talk to new people. Trying to imagine how someone else feels is often not enough. Luckily, the solution is simple: ask them. "For me, the core of empathy is curiosity," Jodi Halpern, a psychiatrist and bioethics professor at the University of California, Berkeley, who studies empathy, told The New York Times. "It's what is another person’s life actually like in its particulars?”
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I can completely relate to this. I love it when I discover that a friend that I've known for years has an in depth knowledge on a subject I never suspected.
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I love this. In Germany it is forbidden by the law to look for food in supermarket dumpsters. As long as the food doesnt pose a safety hazard, the food should be donated (which some supermarkets do, but its only a few plus they have to pay tax for the food which they are donating, so not many do this).
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You can start conversations with strangers or invite a colleague or neighbor you don't know well to lunch. But the trick is to go beyond small talk – ask them how they're doing and what their daily life is like.
Put away your phone and other screens when you’re having conversations, even with the people you see every day, so you can fully listen and notice their facial expressions and gestures.
Also, follow people on social media with different backgrounds than you have (different race, religion, or political persuasion).
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Dude in my graduating class (back in 1997) was 84 years old at the time of his graduation. Learn like you'll live forever, it's never too late.
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But don’t just stand in someone else's shoes, as the saying goes—take a walk in them. For example, consider attending someone else's church, mosque, synagogue, or other houses of worship for a few weeks while they attend yours, or visit a village in a developing country and volunteer.
If you don't have enough time for these activities, you can simply explore a new neighborhood, or strike up a conversation with a homeless person in your community.
If someone’s behavior is bothering you, think about why. Consider what it’s like to live their daily life.
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What a weird comment. Don't we all love the person that turns up at our doorstep with our eagerly awaited parcel??
Remember, you don't need to understand everything about someone to make them feel respected. Just don’t make assumptions about people based on what your life is like. The people on this list certainly haven't.
We’re all humans, and we all have a desire to connect with one another. Building our empathy, considering the perspectives of others, and opening ourselves to uncomfortable conversations can make that happen.
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A lot of people do make it their business to decide what other people should earn, how and where they should live and why they shouldn't have universal healthcare. They're called Republicans.
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I find it amazing that some Christians arrogantly think that their religion somehow “owns” marriage. People were getting together and pairing up in a variety of rituals 1000s of years before Christianity turned up.
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This stupid meme also failed to recognise that to develop skills and side hustles we really benefit from the support of friends and family. Hanging out and chatting enables our brains to get things in to perspective, sort out what we've learnt so far, and subconsciously start to work on what is to come next.
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I think these are great but I have some reservations about the ones that say things like "Welcome all" or "Love everyone no matter what" bc I think that we should still be careful and wary of people who have shown that they are untrustworthy and will make trouble. I do think that we should give people chances to improve and guide them in the right direction but we should do so before welcoming them into places like our homes. Sure, if you don’t know someone be civil to them no matter their ethnic origin, religion, gender, sexuality, etc. and don’t judge them based on these things, but if they show that they are not someone you want to be around because they do not return your kindness, then I don’t think you should “welcome” them.
Yeah. We must love everybody no matter the origin, sex, orientation etc. But we shouldt love people who does bad to others like rapists, bigots, murderers etc. Intolerance cannot be tolerated.
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I think this series has the right attitude of positivism. I always argue for being critical with anything, but being careing for other beings and, ultimately, yourself, always is a good idea. To put this to BP: upvote early, downvote only if you really think something is wrong.
I love how people like these are around. I bet someone was having a horrid day and was scrolling through these and saw something they related to, and it made their day. Thank you for putting this and it, for sure, made my day a whole lot better. 💕
Lets make a petition to get more posts like this one. I think a lot of Pandas would sign it
I have never wanted to hug so many people all at once in my life. Darned ninjas cutting onions *wipes tearse*
This made me feel better. Things are hard right now. <3 to everyone, wherever and whoever you are.
I loved this a lot. Not only did it help me see the world in a better way, it made me feel better. Better that I can stand up for people and not look dumb. That I can stand up for others and not care :)
Most definitely agree with #32, respect the work/job. My late father used to tell anyone who was job hunting, or foolish enough to put him down for his jobs, "There's honor in any job well done, that's honest work. If you don't have a job, get one. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut and let me get back to my job!" (he was a professional baker for a large company for about 16 years, then a school janitor for three years, then a "troubleshooter" and maintenance man for the school system for another 30 years, among other jobs he'd had as a very young man). I had many jobs in my 52 years of working, some I absolutely hated, some I loved, but all of them honorable work, and I learned something from every one of them. NEVER make fun of anyone's job---especially if you aren't working yourself, but very much need to do so!
Number 11 bible says make a joyful noise unto the lord. It never says you have to be on key.
Well that made me cry ( happy cry...there's hope for humanity yet by gosh)x
Thank you. This is the best collection of panda posts I’ve read in a while. Restores my faith in humanity.
I loved this post - I wanted to upvote everyone and give all these people hugs!
Also go out to get some vitamin D, watch some trees and remember to drink water <3
Because it’s the internet and you’re being skeptical, which is okay, but probably not true. Some people just want to be nice. That’s not too hard to believe is it?
Load More Replies... I think these are great but I have some reservations about the ones that say things like "Welcome all" or "Love everyone no matter what" bc I think that we should still be careful and wary of people who have shown that they are untrustworthy and will make trouble. I do think that we should give people chances to improve and guide them in the right direction but we should do so before welcoming them into places like our homes. Sure, if you don’t know someone be civil to them no matter their ethnic origin, religion, gender, sexuality, etc. and don’t judge them based on these things, but if they show that they are not someone you want to be around because they do not return your kindness, then I don’t think you should “welcome” them.
Yeah. We must love everybody no matter the origin, sex, orientation etc. But we shouldt love people who does bad to others like rapists, bigots, murderers etc. Intolerance cannot be tolerated.
Load More Replies... I think this series has the right attitude of positivism. I always argue for being critical with anything, but being careing for other beings and, ultimately, yourself, always is a good idea. To put this to BP: upvote early, downvote only if you really think something is wrong.
I love how people like these are around. I bet someone was having a horrid day and was scrolling through these and saw something they related to, and it made their day. Thank you for putting this and it, for sure, made my day a whole lot better. 💕
Lets make a petition to get more posts like this one. I think a lot of Pandas would sign it
I have never wanted to hug so many people all at once in my life. Darned ninjas cutting onions *wipes tearse*
This made me feel better. Things are hard right now. <3 to everyone, wherever and whoever you are.
I loved this a lot. Not only did it help me see the world in a better way, it made me feel better. Better that I can stand up for people and not look dumb. That I can stand up for others and not care :)
Most definitely agree with #32, respect the work/job. My late father used to tell anyone who was job hunting, or foolish enough to put him down for his jobs, "There's honor in any job well done, that's honest work. If you don't have a job, get one. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut and let me get back to my job!" (he was a professional baker for a large company for about 16 years, then a school janitor for three years, then a "troubleshooter" and maintenance man for the school system for another 30 years, among other jobs he'd had as a very young man). I had many jobs in my 52 years of working, some I absolutely hated, some I loved, but all of them honorable work, and I learned something from every one of them. NEVER make fun of anyone's job---especially if you aren't working yourself, but very much need to do so!
Number 11 bible says make a joyful noise unto the lord. It never says you have to be on key.
Well that made me cry ( happy cry...there's hope for humanity yet by gosh)x
Thank you. This is the best collection of panda posts I’ve read in a while. Restores my faith in humanity.
I loved this post - I wanted to upvote everyone and give all these people hugs!
Also go out to get some vitamin D, watch some trees and remember to drink water <3
Because it’s the internet and you’re being skeptical, which is okay, but probably not true. Some people just want to be nice. That’s not too hard to believe is it?
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