To put it simply, gatekeeping is an act when someone takes it upon themselves to decide who does or does not have access or rights to a community or identity ("You can't be a real Phoebe Bridgers fan, you just discovered her. Real fans follow her since at least Stranger in the Alps.") If this sounds ridiculous to you, don't worry. You're not alone.
There's a subreddit called r/GatesOpenComeOnIn and it describes itself as the polar opposite of gatekeeping. Created in 2018, this online community collects and shares pictures of wholesome acts of kindness when people had each other's backs. Whether it's encouraging everyone to share their Spotify Wrapped or simply allowing someone to feel tired, it doesn't take much to acknowledge another person's emotions, thoughts, experiences, values, and beliefs. Continue scrolling and check out how it's done.
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As you can see from the pictures, empathy goes a long way. Developing it is crucial for establishing relationships and behaving compassionately. Since empathy involves experiencing another person’s point of view, rather than just one’s own, it enables prosocial or helping behaviors that come from within, rather than being forced.
Sadly, some surveys indicate that empathy is on the decline in the United States and elsewhere. But at least these findings motivate parents, schools, and communities to support programs that help people of all ages enhance and maintain their ability to walk in each other’s shoes.
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If God created all creatures with his infinite wisdom, why would he hate something that HE created?
Empathy really is a superpower: it helps us cooperate with others, build friendships, make moral decisions, and intervene when we see others being bullied.
Humans usually begin to show signs of empathy in infancy and the trait develops steadily through childhood and adolescence.
That being said, most people are likely to feel greater empathy for someone like themselves and may feel less empathy for those outside their family, community, ethnicity, or race.
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This cannot be stated enough! So true and so simple
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As a ginger, I couldn't agree more. It would have saved me from a LOT of painful episodes of sunburn. Also, as this post is all about empathy,, no one deserves to have their nice day at the seaside ruined by having to look at my pasty white skin slowly sizzling to a deep red 🤢
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I am not a big fan of certain religions telling women to cover themselves. But I am aware that as adults they have the right to chose how to dress and I will always respect that. I have a lot of muslim colleagues and it is extremely sad how the local public pool doesnt allow burkinis (stupid rule). And also doesnt allow people inside wearing clothes (like sitting out of the pool watching the kids, not inside the pool). That means that none of my muslim colleagues can go swim or even take their kids to the pool in summer. Its heartbreaking.
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She is in a swimsuit. Not much different from a wetsuit which nobody judges.
I need a swimsuit like that!!!! I don't burn, I TOAST!! Even with sunblock
Actually that looks really comfortable to wear. I would, as I burn very easily in the sun. And I've never thought it necessary to dress in two pieces of string and a tiny handkerchief to let the whole world see my pink body. My body is my own business.
Those Baywatch style swimsuits and bikinis back then were horrible for me to wear... One or the other of my butt cheeks would wobble out at one or the other side at any time. Back then I would had wished for something that would have allowed for some movement without just feeling THAT exposed... Like a burkini. :) Would have helped me to feel secure - me, a pretty skinny (then...), European girl. (Also: Helps to prevent sunburn! Not bad either...) Post edited to make clear that "horrible" referred to myself feeling horribly uncomfortable in those - not about others wearing them. Thanks to @Mewton's Third Paw for pointing this out! (Cool user name, by the way!)
No. You need to mind your business as well. You don’t have to wear something to not judge other people for wearing it. Coveralls and tankinis and full swim suits have been around for ages.
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I am intensely Irish and I'll even burn if I sing 'Here Comes the Sun". I would very much like one of these.
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Exactly what I was thinking... The best way to react is not to react. That can be said about a lot of situations.
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I think she looks amazing and look how happy she is, a bonus is that she is protected from the sun.
Yeah, my thoughts, as long as she is confortable, less risk of skin cancer (i hope)
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Old joke but relevant: I was walking past a mental hospital the other day. All the patients were shouting 13...13...13. The fence was too high to see over but I saw a little gap in the planks, so I looked through to see what was going on. Some idiot poked me in the eye with a stick. Then they all started shouting 14...14...14. That's how I learned to mind my own business.
Really... in this day and age, The Atlantic is posting such headlines?
I would rather look at this than some girl who keeps digging her swimsuit out of her butt.
I was at the beach last year and I saw a family that had the "modest" bathing suits and the women had full skirts and were covered from neck to ankle and so were the boys, but theirs were more like wet suits. Anyway, I had the best time watching that family play in the waves and foam. Who care what they are wearing, they had more fun than anyone else on the beach that day.
Support her, mind your business, if she looks nervous (and you are close to her) tell her she looks AMAZING!
TBH, I’ve always been rather modest myself—-way more comfortable in one piece bathing suits that are not cut too high in the leg or too low in the bodice, than in a bikini—-so can hardly begrudge someone else their comfort with something that can be as revealing as swimwear. Until the burquini, Muslim women couldn’t experience the joy, the fun, and the feeling of refreshment you get from splashing around, swimming, and floating in water. They’re not hurting anything, so how about people just mind their own damn business and refrain from f*****g up someone else’s happy day?
I think it is beautiful dont Yall. The woman isn't bad either. *Gay Panic* Beautiful woman alert someone help!!!!!!!!!!
I had a Chinese friend with very fair skin - she looked similar when she went swimming. Somehow nobody thought to be offended by that.
If you're gonna say anything, complement her on the color or pattern. Nothing else.
I think the point of the question was to bring to light the oppression of women. No doubt her husband is there dressed for the beach and prolly enjoying the view. Why isn't she allowed the same? I'm not implying that we should stick our noses in where they don't belong, but sometimes it's the right thing to do. 20 years ago if I hadn't have had a "nosey" neighbor, I'd be dead at the hand of an abusive husband that I couldn't get away from
The right way would be to ask where she got that, it's soooo cuuuute.
Question is it disrespectful to wear a burqini when you aren't Muslim? My mom semi jokingly said she wanted to wear one because it would cover most of her and I said she shouldn't because she's not Muslim. She said they wouldn't know that. Muslims please tell me if this is disrespectful.
This looks like you're all woke 'light'. Men telling woman how to dress because we can't control our thoughts is pretty lame...
I understand the furor around clothing and female repression, but THIS WOMAN IS HAVING FUN. How many centiries did it take to get here?
At least she changed clothes for swimming. I've seen women in Canadian parks just go in the lake in their regular dresses..
She seems to enjoy her time in the ocean edge, the wet clothing would stick to the skin so uncomfortably, but I guess the women who choose to wear their traditional clothing in all circumstances would accept that as expected too.
Strange... If you wear a surf suit nobody bat's an eye... If you wear a burkini.. world go batshit crazy
Nothing wrong with her burquini or whatever they call it. Live and let live! As long they don't come after my bikini, I am not bothered.
I'm sorry that woman feels she needs to cover up like that and that it's the norm for her. That was something that got drilled into her by an oppressive religious culture seeking to hide women as much as possible. Think about how much happier we'd be and how much more peaceful the planet would be without religion.
I am sorry that you feel the need to stick your nose into her business because it's the norm for you. That was something that got drilled into you by an oppressive, invasive, culture seeking to tell women they're only free as long as they follow your selected dress code for them in order to show themselves off as much as possible. As if you own their bodies. Think about how less pathetic, less judgemental and intolerant our world would be without judgemental jerks like yourself. I am a Muslim woman and I don't need your moral policing. Keep the white savior syndrome to your own selves and stop trying to disrespect us by saying that we're all inferior to you because we cover ourselves. The fact that people spew this bullshit as soon as they see the word 'Muslim' is pathetic and it's about time your bigotry gets called out. You're also judging women as oppressed like the people whom you despise who shame women for showing skin. That's the most interesting thing. You're both the same.
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Too much sun causes skin cancer -- this is quite a wise thing to wear!
If you know her, go to her and ask if she wants to join you for a swim. Have a fun time. If you don't know her, go have your own swim, and, let her have hers. What is there to "react" to?
The water is always too cold for me so I would consider wearing one.
Mind our own business, let the woman enjoy her swim time, live and let live, blah, blah... but you can't help to wonder whether the burkini is a sign of freedom for her, or just another link in the chain.
I don't like Islam, to be honest, but I support and respect her right to wear whatever the heck she pleases. Her freedom is mine as well.
Like other traits, empathy may have evolved with a selfish motive: using others as a "social antenna" to help detect danger. From an evolutionary point of view, creating a mental model of another person's intent is critical: the arrival of an interloper, for example, could be deadly, so developing sensitivity to the signals of others could be life-saving.
Babies display an understanding that people’s actions are guided by intentions and can act on that understanding before they turn 18 months old, including trying to comfort a parent. Advanced reasoning about other people’s thoughts develops around age 5-6.
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Experts say that people high in narcissism, or who have a narcissistic personality disorder, can exhibit empathy and even compassion. However, that ability only goes so far, as ultimately they prioritize their own needs.
Some researchers believe narcissists can become more empathetic by developing greater self-compassion, which can increase their own feelings of security and self-worth and enable them to open up to hearing others.
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Someone I Went To School With Posted This About Giving Their Son A Unicorn-Themed Birthday Bash. Positive Parenting For The Win
My boy loves colour pink and red. As soon as he was able to show it to me, I have made him red birthday cake and bought red or pink clothes. He also liked to play with baby doll, toy washing machine and cooking gadgets and we allowed him to play what ever he wanted. That phase has now mostly passed, but red is still his favourite colour.
"Do a thought experiment," Mark Davis, a professor of psychology who has spent decades studying empathy, said. “Imagine if humans didn’t have the capacity for empathy. What would it mean if, in fact, we never gave a damn about what happened to other people? That’s an almost an inconceivable world."
"As awful a species as we can be — and we certainly have the capacity for terrible things — we’re also capable of some pretty wonderful things, noble things, self-sacrifice."
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A while ago someone asked me if I “have a family”. I said yes and was genuinely confused when she started asking me about kids.
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Interestingly, the word "empathy" is relatively new. It didn’t enter the English language until the early 1900s, derived from the German word einfühlung, according to Daniel Batson, a researcher of empathy and professor emeritus at Kansas University.
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While some people are more naturally empathetic than others, there are easy, evidenced-based exercises that anyone can do to increase their empathy.
First, talk to new people. Trying to imagine how someone else feels is often not enough. Luckily, the solution is simple: ask them. "For me, the core of empathy is curiosity," Jodi Halpern, a psychiatrist and bioethics professor at the University of California, Berkeley, who studies empathy, told The New York Times. "It's what is another person’s life actually like in its particulars?”
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I can completely relate to this. I love it when I discover that a friend that I've known for years has an in depth knowledge on a subject I never suspected.
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I love this. In Germany it is forbidden by the law to look for food in supermarket dumpsters. As long as the food doesnt pose a safety hazard, the food should be donated (which some supermarkets do, but its only a few plus they have to pay tax for the food which they are donating, so not many do this).
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You can start conversations with strangers or invite a colleague or neighbor you don't know well to lunch. But the trick is to go beyond small talk – ask them how they're doing and what their daily life is like.
Put away your phone and other screens when you’re having conversations, even with the people you see every day, so you can fully listen and notice their facial expressions and gestures.
Also, follow people on social media with different backgrounds than you have (different race, religion, or political persuasion).
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Dude in my graduating class (back in 1997) was 84 years old at the time of his graduation. Learn like you'll live forever, it's never too late.
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But don’t just stand in someone else's shoes, as the saying goes—take a walk in them. For example, consider attending someone else's church, mosque, synagogue, or other houses of worship for a few weeks while they attend yours, or visit a village in a developing country and volunteer.
If you don't have enough time for these activities, you can simply explore a new neighborhood, or strike up a conversation with a homeless person in your community.
If someone’s behavior is bothering you, think about why. Consider what it’s like to live their daily life.
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What a weird comment. Don't we all love the person that turns up at our doorstep with our eagerly awaited parcel??
Remember, you don't need to understand everything about someone to make them feel respected. Just don’t make assumptions about people based on what your life is like. The people on this list certainly haven't.
We’re all humans, and we all have a desire to connect with one another. Building our empathy, considering the perspectives of others, and opening ourselves to uncomfortable conversations can make that happen.
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A lot of people do make it their business to decide what other people should earn, how and where they should live and why they shouldn't have universal healthcare. They're called Republicans.
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I find it amazing that some Christians arrogantly think that their religion somehow “owns” marriage. People were getting together and pairing up in a variety of rituals 1000s of years before Christianity turned up.
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This stupid meme also failed to recognise that to develop skills and side hustles we really benefit from the support of friends and family. Hanging out and chatting enables our brains to get things in to perspective, sort out what we've learnt so far, and subconsciously start to work on what is to come next.
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Accept Everyone And Respect Their Decisions Y’all
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I think these are great but I have some reservations about the ones that say things like "Welcome all" or "Love everyone no matter what" bc I think that we should still be careful and wary of people who have shown that they are untrustworthy and will make trouble. I do think that we should give people chances to improve and guide them in the right direction but we should do so before welcoming them into places like our homes. Sure, if you don’t know someone be civil to them no matter their ethnic origin, religion, gender, sexuality, etc. and don’t judge them based on these things, but if they show that they are not someone you want to be around because they do not return your kindness, then I don’t think you should “welcome” them.
Yeah. We must love everybody no matter the origin, sex, orientation etc. But we shouldt love people who does bad to others like rapists, bigots, murderers etc. Intolerance cannot be tolerated.
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I think this series has the right attitude of positivism. I always argue for being critical with anything, but being careing for other beings and, ultimately, yourself, always is a good idea. To put this to BP: upvote early, downvote only if you really think something is wrong.
I love how people like these are around. I bet someone was having a horrid day and was scrolling through these and saw something they related to, and it made their day. Thank you for putting this and it, for sure, made my day a whole lot better. 💕
Lets make a petition to get more posts like this one. I think a lot of Pandas would sign it
I have never wanted to hug so many people all at once in my life. Darned ninjas cutting onions *wipes tearse*
This made me feel better. Things are hard right now. <3 to everyone, wherever and whoever you are.
I loved this a lot. Not only did it help me see the world in a better way, it made me feel better. Better that I can stand up for people and not look dumb. That I can stand up for others and not care :)
Most definitely agree with #32, respect the work/job. My late father used to tell anyone who was job hunting, or foolish enough to put him down for his jobs, "There's honor in any job well done, that's honest work. If you don't have a job, get one. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut and let me get back to my job!" (he was a professional baker for a large company for about 16 years, then a school janitor for three years, then a "troubleshooter" and maintenance man for the school system for another 30 years, among other jobs he'd had as a very young man). I had many jobs in my 52 years of working, some I absolutely hated, some I loved, but all of them honorable work, and I learned something from every one of them. NEVER make fun of anyone's job---especially if you aren't working yourself, but very much need to do so!
Number 11 bible says make a joyful noise unto the lord. It never says you have to be on key.
Well that made me cry ( happy cry...there's hope for humanity yet by gosh)x
Thank you. This is the best collection of panda posts I’ve read in a while. Restores my faith in humanity.
I loved this post - I wanted to upvote everyone and give all these people hugs!
Also go out to get some vitamin D, watch some trees and remember to drink water <3
Because it’s the internet and you’re being skeptical, which is okay, but probably not true. Some people just want to be nice. That’s not too hard to believe is it?
Load More Replies... I think these are great but I have some reservations about the ones that say things like "Welcome all" or "Love everyone no matter what" bc I think that we should still be careful and wary of people who have shown that they are untrustworthy and will make trouble. I do think that we should give people chances to improve and guide them in the right direction but we should do so before welcoming them into places like our homes. Sure, if you don’t know someone be civil to them no matter their ethnic origin, religion, gender, sexuality, etc. and don’t judge them based on these things, but if they show that they are not someone you want to be around because they do not return your kindness, then I don’t think you should “welcome” them.
Yeah. We must love everybody no matter the origin, sex, orientation etc. But we shouldt love people who does bad to others like rapists, bigots, murderers etc. Intolerance cannot be tolerated.
Load More Replies... I think this series has the right attitude of positivism. I always argue for being critical with anything, but being careing for other beings and, ultimately, yourself, always is a good idea. To put this to BP: upvote early, downvote only if you really think something is wrong.
I love how people like these are around. I bet someone was having a horrid day and was scrolling through these and saw something they related to, and it made their day. Thank you for putting this and it, for sure, made my day a whole lot better. 💕
Lets make a petition to get more posts like this one. I think a lot of Pandas would sign it
I have never wanted to hug so many people all at once in my life. Darned ninjas cutting onions *wipes tearse*
This made me feel better. Things are hard right now. <3 to everyone, wherever and whoever you are.
I loved this a lot. Not only did it help me see the world in a better way, it made me feel better. Better that I can stand up for people and not look dumb. That I can stand up for others and not care :)
Most definitely agree with #32, respect the work/job. My late father used to tell anyone who was job hunting, or foolish enough to put him down for his jobs, "There's honor in any job well done, that's honest work. If you don't have a job, get one. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut and let me get back to my job!" (he was a professional baker for a large company for about 16 years, then a school janitor for three years, then a "troubleshooter" and maintenance man for the school system for another 30 years, among other jobs he'd had as a very young man). I had many jobs in my 52 years of working, some I absolutely hated, some I loved, but all of them honorable work, and I learned something from every one of them. NEVER make fun of anyone's job---especially if you aren't working yourself, but very much need to do so!
Number 11 bible says make a joyful noise unto the lord. It never says you have to be on key.
Well that made me cry ( happy cry...there's hope for humanity yet by gosh)x
Thank you. This is the best collection of panda posts I’ve read in a while. Restores my faith in humanity.
I loved this post - I wanted to upvote everyone and give all these people hugs!
Also go out to get some vitamin D, watch some trees and remember to drink water <3
Because it’s the internet and you’re being skeptical, which is okay, but probably not true. Some people just want to be nice. That’s not too hard to believe is it?
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