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To put it simply, gatekeeping is an act when someone takes it upon themselves to decide who does or does not have access or rights to a community or identity ("You can't be a real Phoebe Bridgers fan, you just discovered her. Real fans follow her since at least Stranger in the Alps.") If this sounds ridiculous to you, don't worry. You're not alone.

There's a subreddit called r/GatesOpenComeOnIn and it describes itself as the polar opposite of gatekeeping. Created in 2018, this online community collects and shares pictures of wholesome acts of kindness when people had each other's backs. Whether it's encouraging everyone to share their Spotify Wrapped or simply allowing someone to feel tired, it doesn't take much to acknowledge another person's emotions, thoughts, experiences, values, and beliefs. Continue scrolling and check out how it's done.

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As you can see from the pictures, empathy goes a long way. Developing it is crucial for establishing relationships and behaving compassionately. Since empathy involves experiencing another person’s point of view, rather than just one’s own, it enables prosocial or helping behaviors that come from within, rather than being forced.

Sadly, some surveys indicate that empathy is on the decline in the United States and elsewhere. But at least these findings motivate parents, schools, and communities to support programs that help people of all ages enhance and maintain their ability to walk in each other’s shoes.

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Halloween For Everyone!

Halloween For Everyone!

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Come On In And Long As You’re Nice

Come On In And Long As You’re Nice

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If God created all creatures with his infinite wisdom, why would he hate something that HE created?

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Empathy really is a superpower: it helps us cooperate with others, build friendships, make moral decisions, and intervene when we see others being bullied.

Humans usually begin to show signs of empathy in infancy and the trait develops steadily through childhood and adolescence.

That being said, most people are likely to feel greater empathy for someone like themselves and may feel less empathy for those outside their family, community, ethnicity, or race.

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Minding Your Own Business Is Free

Minding Your Own Business Is Free

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Minding our own business would solve a lot of our problems.

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Like other traits, empathy may have evolved with a selfish motive: using others as a "social antenna" to help detect danger. From an evolutionary point of view, creating a mental model of another person's intent is critical: the arrival of an interloper, for example, could be deadly, so developing sensitivity to the signals of others could be life-saving.

Babies display an understanding that people’s actions are guided by intentions and can act on that understanding before they turn 18 months old, including trying to comfort a parent. Advanced reasoning about other people’s thoughts develops around age 5-6.

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Experts say that people high in narcissism, or who have a narcissistic personality disorder, can exhibit empathy and even compassion. However, that ability only goes so far, as ultimately they prioritize their own needs.

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Some researchers believe narcissists can become more empathetic by developing greater self-compassion, which can increase their own feelings of security and self-worth and enable them to open up to hearing others.

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Shout Out To The Solo Eaters

Shout Out To The Solo Eaters

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Someone I Went To School With Posted This About Giving Their Son A Unicorn-Themed Birthday Bash. Positive Parenting For The Win

Someone I Went To School With Posted This About Giving Their Son A Unicorn-Themed Birthday Bash. Positive Parenting For The Win

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My boy loves colour pink and red. As soon as he was able to show it to me, I have made him red birthday cake and bought red or pink clothes. He also liked to play with baby doll, toy washing machine and cooking gadgets and we allowed him to play what ever he wanted. That phase has now mostly passed, but red is still his favourite colour.

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"Do a thought experiment," Mark Davis, a professor of psychology who has spent decades studying empathy, said. “Imagine if humans didn’t have the capacity for empathy. What would it mean if, in fact, we never gave a damn about what happened to other people? That’s an almost an inconceivable world."

"As awful a species as we can be — and we certainly have the capacity for terrible things — we’re also capable of some pretty wonderful things, noble things, self-sacrifice."

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Family Is A Family Is A Family

Family Is A Family Is A Family

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A while ago someone asked me if I “have a family”. I said yes and was genuinely confused when she started asking me about kids.

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Interestingly, the word "empathy" is relatively new. It didn’t enter the English language until the early 1900s, derived from the German word einfühlung, according to Daniel Batson, a researcher of empathy and professor emeritus at Kansas University.

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Felt Like This Might Belong Here

Felt Like This Might Belong Here

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband doesnt find my jokes funny, but he cracks up when i cant finish the joke because im laughing so hard.. I love him!

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Hans
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only thing that will make me laugh harder than a good joke is to be infected by someone laughing hard. Hell, it does not matter why!

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Helen Haley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who can laugh at a joke, theirs, others are always delightful. With the caveat that aren't laughing at anothers expense. Then they're just bullies.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like it when it " catches" to the other person, and then both of you are "laugh crying", and can't get a full sentence out. My BFF back in HS would sleep over, and when this happened ( it's almost impossible to fake) and both of us were gasping to breathe from laughing so hard...every time she tried to get that last sentence out, her voice would get higher and higher, untill she was almost " scream-laughing " trying to say those last couple of words...and then the "orgasm" of laughing...that precious second or two, after you finally get the punchline out, of "AIR laughing"...you only hear the air coming out as you laugh, and you can't breathe because it's so damn funny. Usually accompanied by tears, as well. Looking back as an adult, reminds me you always want to keep in touch with your friends. I miss that kinda laughter.

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Daria B
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I don't laugh at my own jokes, people realise it's a joke only too late. u.u

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James F. Wilson Jr.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When on stage Red Skelton used to start laughing at one of his jokes and then apologize and say " Sorry folks, I know the punch line ", while halfway out of breath.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raises hand* Me: That is MEEEEEEEEEE My brain: LMAO what ya tryna prove, I know you like that but heck you gotta say it? LMAO LOLLLLL HAHAH

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Aayse
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

mine too, I enjoy seeing them bursting out. that makes me laugh even harder

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Mary Haynes
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my husband, he's laughing so hard I can't understand what he's saying.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The one that does me in is: Ring...Hello? This is Amy, Is John there? No Ring....Hello? Hi this is Joe, Is John there? No. Ring....Hello? Hi. This is John. Did Amy or Joe call? I'm cracking up right now.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband enjoys the lamest jokes ever, and he's so adorable while he does it. I make a huge show of rolling my eyes and tease him about his poor choice in humor just to rile him up, which causes him to share them with me twice as much and and laugh twice as hard. Thereby making him twice as cute, :)

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ha, this is one of my super powers. I'm also really good in forgetting the punch line, starting over a few times and laughing harder each time, because I'm telling it completely wrong

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Alex Hamilton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a strict policy, If I do not make at least three people a day laugh, I consider that I have had a bad day. Why don't you try it?.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always smile when I realize that they are just so giddy over the joke. It always makes me happy to see someone else enjoying a moment in life

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats' my man in a nutshell! Big belly laugh at his own jokes that to be honest are not that funny, but seeing him laugh so heartily at them makes me laugh and then we both feel good

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Beth Arriaga
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They laugh so hard at their own joke and then later that day, you catch them giggling because they thought of their own joke yet again- the best

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL that’s me ... I come up with some genius joke and then laugh so hard I completely die and then all my friends are so concerned

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Connie Martin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. I hate this. Just hogging everybody's attention to no purpose

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Laugh as much as you can ppl. It's contaigous in the best way possible.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's me. The second I get started "so there's this horse.. *giggle*, walks in a bar... *giggle, chuckle, giggle*..." I'm also known as the last person to ask to distract a celebree for a surprise event

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband is a master at puns and sometimes will start laughing before he's even said it out loud.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Watching Kathryn Hahn snort laugh at her own jokes is just the best :-)

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my favorite moments with my friends is when we are laughing so hard and we keep adding stuff to make it more funny and we laugh till the point where our stomach hurts. those were good times

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do that all the time! Here's my favourite joke: How can you tell an elephant's been in your fridge? There are footprints in the butter dish!

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It's The Thought That Counts

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Never Too Late For New Beginnings

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While some people are more naturally empathetic than others, there are easy, evidenced-based exercises that anyone can do to increase their empathy. 

First, talk to new people. Trying to imagine how someone else feels is often not enough. Luckily, the solution is simple: ask them. "For me, the core of empathy is curiosity," Jodi Halpern, a psychiatrist and bioethics professor at the University of California, Berkeley, who studies empathy, told The New York Times. "It's what is another person’s life actually like in its particulars?”

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We Are All Nerds Together

We Are All Nerds Together

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can completely relate to this. I love it when I discover that a friend that I've known for years has an in depth knowledge on a subject I never suspected.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this. In Germany it is forbidden by the law to look for food in supermarket dumpsters. As long as the food doesnt pose a safety hazard, the food should be donated (which some supermarkets do, but its only a few plus they have to pay tax for the food which they are donating, so not many do this).

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You can start conversations with strangers or invite a colleague or neighbor you don't know well to lunch. But the trick is to go beyond small talk – ask them how they're doing and what their daily life is like.

Put away your phone and other screens when you’re having conversations, even with the people you see every day, so you can fully listen and notice their facial expressions and gestures.

Also, follow people on social media with different backgrounds than you have (different race, religion, or political persuasion). 

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And do not geet engaged into ridiculous competition. You do not need to have read the full History of Middle-earth to enjoy watching the hobbit. (You should, though, before criticising supposed plot-holes.)

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Money Is Power, But Also Not

Money Is Power, But Also Not

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also when the minimum wage rises, you can hope that other employers will also offer more, to give people a reason to stay in their job instead of taking an 'easier' minimum wage job.

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Better Late Than Never

Better Late Than Never

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude in my graduating class (back in 1997) was 84 years old at the time of his graduation. Learn like you'll live forever, it's never too late.

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But don’t just stand in someone else's shoes, as the saying goes—take a walk in them. For example, consider attending someone else's church, mosque, synagogue, or other houses of worship for a few weeks while they attend yours, or visit a village in a developing country and volunteer.

If you don't have enough time for these activities, you can simply explore a new neighborhood, or strike up a conversation with a homeless person in your community.

If someone’s behavior is bothering you, think about why. Consider what it’s like to live their daily life.

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Gay Pride Can Be Whatever You Want/Need It To Be

Gay Pride Can Be Whatever You Want/Need It To Be

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How Lovely

How Lovely

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you for this! Kids will never learn how to behave or communicate with others if they can't be at public places. My kids usually behave very well, but can be quite loud.

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Showing Respect For One Another’s Professions

Showing Respect For One Another’s Professions

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a weird comment. Don't we all love the person that turns up at our doorstep with our eagerly awaited parcel??

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Remember, you don't need to understand everything about someone to make them feel respected. Just don’t make assumptions about people based on what your life is like. The people on this list certainly haven't.

We’re all humans, and we all have a desire to connect with one another. Building our empathy, considering the perspectives of others, and opening ourselves to uncomfortable conversations can make that happen.

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You Get To Decide How You Define Being "Grownup"

You Get To Decide How You Define Being "Grownup"

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would a saleswoman at a furniture store not want to sell furniture?

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Taking Care Of Your Mental Health Is Important

Taking Care Of Your Mental Health Is Important

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We’re All In This Together

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of people do make it their business to decide what other people should earn, how and where they should live and why they shouldn't have universal healthcare. They're called Republicans.

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Ok Zoomer

Ok Zoomer

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Smartphones are the library of Alexandria? Wow, I have to remember this one!

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They Had Us In The First Half

They Had Us In The First Half

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it amazing that some Christians arrogantly think that their religion somehow “owns” marriage. People were getting together and pairing up in a variety of rituals 1000s of years before Christianity turned up.

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Speak Everything

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Learning Is Awesome

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also my favorite ones! And I love to talk about them to whoever cares to listen. ;)

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You’re Doing Just Fine

You’re Doing Just Fine

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This stupid meme also failed to recognise that to develop skills and side hustles we really benefit from the support of friends and family. Hanging out and chatting enables our brains to get things in to perspective, sort out what we've learnt so far, and subconsciously start to work on what is to come next.

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Gonna Remember Who Spoke To Me And Who Didn’t

Gonna Remember Who Spoke To Me And Who Didn’t

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Accept Everyone And Respect Their Decisions Y’all

Accept Everyone And Respect Their Decisions Y’all

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Do Whatever Makes You Happy

Do Whatever Makes You Happy

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