50 Times People Found Unexpectedly Wholesome Posts On The Internet Where Strangers Had Each Other’s Backs (New Pics)
You know, Pandas, it’s really way too easy to focus just on the negatives. In fact, we’re hard-wired for that. It’s called negativity bias and it means that we dwell on the awful things that have happened to us more than the awesome ones. So with all the news about just how bad things are looking recently, you’d be perfectly right to be anxious and upset. However, we shouldn’t forget that, at the same time, life’s full of beauty, wonder, and wholesomeness. Albus Dumbledore told us that happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, but we have to remember to turn on the light. Well, let’s turn that light on, shall we?
Today, we’re featuring the best posts from the r/gatesopencomeonin subreddit, a 356k-member-strong community that celebrates people acting excellent and being wholesome to each other. It’s the kind of stuff that really restores part of your hope in humanity. And it’s a reminder that we have to strive to be altruistic and kind, especially when things are looking tough.
Upvote your fave pics as you’re scrolling down, Pandas. And tell us all about the nicest thing you’ve done for someone recently, in the comments. Meanwhile, check out Bored Panda’s interview about how to live a happy and healthy life, as well as how to be nice to others when we don’t feel like it, with writer Ariane Sherine, the author of ‘How to Live to 100’ and ‘Talk Yourself Better.’
Oh, and if you’d like some more proof that people totally have the potential to be awesome, take a peek at our earlier articles about the ‘Gates Open, Come On In’ community here: Part 1 and Part 2.
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I Needed To Hear This. I'm So Tired
A Guide To Gift Giving
A Surprise Happy Ending?
The ‘Gates Open, Come On In’ subreddit has been delighting redditors (and more!) around the globe since early 2018. In the 4+ years since being founded, it’s carved out a niche of wholesomeness, hope, and good vibes by being the polar opposite of r/gatekeeping.
They only have two rules: there’s no gatekeeping allowed and you have to be nice. That’s it. Really. It’s a pretty straightforward recommendation for living a good life, isn’t it? Besides, it’s refreshing when you focus on the positives for a change, isn’t it?
Better Late Than Never
The last sentence explains it perfectly. Although there is an expiration date and that is death.
Remember, Everyone Has A Purpose
An Email From My Computer Science Teacher, Who I’m Not Even Taking A Class With This Semester. Genuinely Want To Cry Rn
(Probably) everyone wants to live a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life. But it’s a hard thing to do in practice, especially when you’re bound by doubt, anxiety, and fear. Bored Panda reached out to author Ariane, who has written about health and happiness, to understand what contributes to our satisfaction with life the most. Really, it’s mostly about altruism and having a tight-knit social circle (among a few other things).
“Close, fulfilling relationships with others are one of the most important things when it comes to happiness, whether romantic or platonic. Studies show that the more close friendships and relationships you have, the longer you live,” Ariane shared with Bored Panda. “Volunteering and helping others are also likely to make you happy.”
Be Free To Like Things
Me: yeah, I'm really into real ales and metal music. Rando: oh really? What year was the first IPA sold internationally and what blood type is James Hatfield?
One Letter Makes All The Difference!
This Made Me Really Happy
Other things that play an important role in our overall happiness include being fit, having a fulfilling career, and not focusing on the material side of things too much.
“There are other things that contribute to happiness and well-being including taking regular exercise, eating healthily, having enough money to feel comfortable, having job security, and enjoying experiences rather than possessions,” the writer explained.
True Spirit
Making A Kid’s Day!
Just Let Them Be They
“Self-care and taking time for yourself are also very important. But I'd say close relationships are probably the most essential things to happiness,” she stressed what we should all be focusing on the most.
It’s easy to be kind to someone when we’re feeling great, the sun’s shining, and it’s like we’re on top of the world. It’s far harder when we’re miserable, exhausted, and feeling down. Bored Panda wanted to get Ariane’s advice on how to be nice to someone when we’re down in the dumps and overwhelmed with problems.
Unexpected Coming Out Story
Never Walk Without A Bro
Grandmas Are Always A Bastion Of Wholesomeness
“It's worth remembering that being kind to others can also lift you up too. In fact, the easiest way to take your mind off your own problems is to help someone else with theirs,” she said.
“But if you're feeling really lethargic and low, the best thing is probably to sleep, or at least rest,” the author pointed out that there’s nothing wrong with getting some well-deserved rest. Getting some proper sleep is a piece of advice that really deserves more attention than it gets.
Wear Whatever Makes You Happy!
So many schoolboys protesting their school's dresscode by wearing skirts (not allowed to wear shorts in the heat). Why not just keep the skirt? They are amazingly comfortable in the summer :)
Liberal Arts
I Love Sharing My Book Collection
We were also curious about how people can control their anxiety better, especially if they’re worried about the economy, the war, and the pandemic. Ariane shared some of her thoughts about becoming more resilient during tough times. The important thing here is to control what you can and to let go of what you can’t affect.
“It's a matter of doing what you can to make your own situation better, and then accepting that you can't control everything,” she said. “You can never control everything, and trying will make you even more anxious. But you can control certain things to reduce your risk.”
On A Cathedral Door
Shared Spaces
There's nothing cuter than babies learning to talk. Oh wait - babies laughing!
unless its 1 am and you live alone. Sorry I had to do the two sentence horror story thing
Load More Replies...AMEN!!!! Just yesterday I was subjected to the evil looks of a guy who wanted to read a book while I wanted to talk with my friend. Dude, it's a CAFE! Not a librabry! It#s a place wher epeople meet to have coffe and cake and a chat. You want peace and quiet? go to a a library or a co-working space.
I've the similar concern about people complaining about babies and kids in flights. Babies can only express their discomfort by crying and only 1% of world's population can afford for private jets, so be kind to that parent who is traveling with a child.
Love this. Honestly with two little kids I often feel very unwanted when we go places. At the bookstore when my baby was crying I had someone yell at me to get out of the store. We have every right to be somewhere, and I know when my kids need to be removed from a public place.
A friend of mine was actually asked to leave a furniture store where she went with her husband and baby to furnish their new home - her baby was fussy and cried, not even very much, and they were asked to leave. They spend thousands of Euros in another furniture store.
Load More Replies...As long as the parents are keeping an eye on them and not ignoring them, I have no problem with children in cafes and restaurants. Neglectful, irresponsible, and entitled parents expecting the rest of us to babysit while their kids run wild and create havoc, are the people I have issues with. Huge issues.
Most people enjoy babies talking and laughing. Crying on the other hand....
Got ice cream with my one year old this evening. Busy area, great vibe. She was standing up on her chair (yes I was holding onto her) delivering a joyful speech of babble to the masses. She was so excited by everyone around her
Yes! Awesome. Babies are humans too and that's how they communicate. Same goes with special needs adults for example (that can also be loud or speak or behave in a way that you don't understand.). Should any of these groups of humans not be allowed to go anywhere just for your comfort?
This! So often people, specially older ones expect little ones to be either quiet or leave. It saddens me that some people seem to think they're entitled to more than others in a PUBLIC SPACE.
A baby learning to talk is one of the cutest thing in the world. That is second only to a baby laughing. IMO I wouldn't mind hearing both. In fact, I would stop what I am doing and would watch look at the baby with a smile. Then go back to work feeling happy.
I don't mind babies and kids talking, it is the little bratts who scream on high pitch when ever mum says no or whose mum won't give them their I-Phone. it is the kids who climb all over the seats and try to climb over people sitting peacefully. The kids who try to snatch your phone off you when you are trying to do something. The Incontrollable kids whose parents have no idea how to raise their child in the first place. And YES, I have 6 kids and not one of them were brattish at all. I suppose that I am just getting too old to be trying to control someone else's kid while I am waiting to be served or something.
We have a baby in church who is in her babbling phase...poor mama gets a little embarrassed because she can be LOUD especially during the prayer time but everyone always smiles. It's such a beautiful sound to hear opposed to no children at all.
I with a male friend in a Catholic church where a baby said "Papa" after the priest was talking. The priest then said "or Papa" and continued on with the sermon.
Load More Replies...AMEN! Babies make noise, get over it or stay home....unless I am at the bar, but then you wouldn't want your baby learning any of the words I'm saying, lol
Plus it's hilarious when they mispronounce s**t and it abounds like swear words. Lol.
There's a time and place for being quiet or being loud. The coffee house was invented as a place to go and talk/socialize/argue. The first coffee houses were invented in Constantinople as a place to gather. As a city of many faiths, it provided a safe place for the non-alcohol drinking Muslims to congregate and the minority religions were welcome as well. Coffee houses were essential to the spread of Lutheranism and democracy across Europe. Major parts of the US Constitution were written in coffee houses as the Federalists and Antifederalists argued it out.
If I'm being honest, I find babies annoying but they're babies, this is what they do, so I would never complain about babies on flights or in public spaces.
I'm with you. Babies just aren't my thing but we're talking about a kid learning to talk here, so making nonsense sounds. That can be pretty funny. It's not the same as the kid howling and the parents just ignoring it. That bugs me. But in most public places you just cringe and try to ignore it. The only place I think it's absolutely unacceptable is a movie theater. Don't bring your baby to a movie. Especially if it's not a movie for kids.
Load More Replies...A Grown Man Indeed
Love this! I can’t imagine that’s not the response she usually gets
Ariane gave an example of how this works: “For instance, I wear an FFP2 mask on the train to work because I can control that, but no one else wears one these days. So it's possible that I'll still get Covid as no one else is masking up, but I just have to accept that, because my train journeys are essential.”
Custom Veganism
Dear Kids
My Music Taste
This is so me. My playlist can go from Metallica to Backstreet Boys to Beethoven's 5th
During an earlier in-depth interview, Suzanne Degges-White, Licensed Counselor, Professor, and Chair at the Department of Counseling and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University, shared with Bored Panda how our family values, spiritual beliefs, and even our biology all play a crucial role in our altruistic actions.
"Many of us are raised to believe it is the 'right thing to do.' Basically, all spiritual belief systems have a version of the 'Golden Rule, 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.’ "We also do good turns because we know that one day we may be in need of a little 'generosity from the universe,' so it's like putting 'money' into a karma account," she shared how people think.
Easy Come, Easy Go
This Dad Is A Legend
Rob Zombie Taking On Anyone Who Wants To Gatekeep Metal
"Lastly, humans are wired so that when we do something kind for another, we feel good about ourselves and neurotransmitters like endorphins and oxytocin have been shown to get a boost when we do something good for another. It is through cooperation that society functions, so the survival of the human race depends on being willing to help others. Family values, spiritual beliefs, and biology all play a part in this motivation," the professor explained to us.
What A Great Sign
Ok Zoomer
Any Age Can Love Dah Wahs
"Many of us take pride in being of service to others as it is culturally valued and we want to hold significance in our worlds. So when we do good deeds, we show others our willingness to help those in distress/need; we live out faith-based encouragement to treat others the way we would like to be treated, we uphold family values, and our brains get a positive jolt of happiness when we help others.”
Tiredness
Fixed A Stupid Meme
Your Trauma Is Valid
Everyone Gets To Complain About The Weather
Honestly, apparently some other countries have been mocking us in the UK for not being 'able to handle the heat'...WE'RE NOT CONDITIONED FOR IT! Most of us vary between glow-in-the-dark white and cooked lobster red! WE ARE GOOD AT RAIN!
Klingons Kinda Inclusive
its a very good analogy for trans people i suppose Klingons dont care what gender you are as long as you a warrior with honour
It's For All Of You
Do What You Like
in that case, i will leave the note stickers on my piano keys, and continue to play with one hand, until i am ready to play with both hands 😁
*sigh* If Only
Reading Goals
I needed this. I only just completed my 3rd book for the year - its been difficult to find time to sit and read. I am trying to fill more time by reading rather than being online. I hope to have read at least 5 books by the end of the year
Melon Flavored Jellyfish's Mom Says The Gates Are Open
Opening The Gates To Readers Of All Ages
Ambisexual
Gotta Clean Up
Hell Yeah
I'm Sure Many Of Us Needed To Hear This
F*****g THIS! Everyone has something different that they can do . Sometimes it's petitions ,sometimes it's protests,sometimes it's writing letters ,sometimes it's survival,sometimes it's education. The only path that isn't ok is turning a blind eye to the problem.
Vegan BBQ
Slap Some Dang Rice
Nice Flex
We love a mob psycho 100 reference! A really great and wholesome manga/anime too
Metallica Welcomes Everyone
It's A Big Ask But I'm Behind It
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I learned a lot from this list. I didn't realize i do so much gatekeeping, and i want to decrease it.
Hey when you know better you do better and it's cool you realized it now!
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Damn. One downvote that could be a mistake or petty revenge gets the author banned? That sucks.
Load More Replies...I learned a lot from this list. I didn't realize i do so much gatekeeping, and i want to decrease it.
Hey when you know better you do better and it's cool you realized it now!
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Damn. One downvote that could be a mistake or petty revenge gets the author banned? That sucks.
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