You don't need to shower people with expensive gifts to show that you care about them. If it's genuine, even a small act of kindness can go a long way. Like texting a friend just to see how they are doing. Or holding the elevator doors open for your neighbor. It can be that simple.
To learn more ways to make people smile, Redditor u/Self_World_Future asked others: "What is an underrated thoughtful gesture?" And they got plenty of answers. As of today, their post has 1,200 comments. Here are the most upvoted ones.
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Asking someone to finish their story if they get cut off in a group. Nothing feels worse than feeling like nobody cares what you have to say, and nothing feels better than someone sticking up for you.
i am usually the person who's cut off in a group and it feels so nice when someone asks to hear you out. It's truly the little gestures that mean the most 🤗
If you are driving someone home. At night, wait for them to get to the door, unlock and enter before you leave.
Do this anytime -- not just at night. It's respectful to make sure the person didn't forget their phone or keys in your car. Make sure they get in okay before driving off.
"What I've learned from re-reading [the comments under my post] is how small these meaningful gestures people listed actually were," u/Self_World_Future told Bored Panda. "Some of the top replies were things like saying 'thank you' or simply asking a friend how they're doing."
The Redditor thinks that being kind may have become less of a priority for us. "However, I believe if people were reminded of the power simple gestures have, they would make more of an effort," they added.
"Since about a year of things like online schooling and working from home, I hope people don't forget to rekindle relationships that may have suffered from the restrictions of the pandemic."
Saying "Hi" to the security guard.
I say hi to most people I make eye contact with, get strange looks from some in the cities but its the norm out in rural areas.
I'm a Texas lady; I smile, wave, say hi, to whoever comes my way.
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Or the bus driver, checkout operator, taxi driver, waiter/waitress, sales assistant etc
We should say "Hi" or "Hello" whenever we interact with people in some way. Cashier, Security, cleaner etc. I was always amazed how people seem to ignore cleaners or technicians in workplaces. Like they are invisible because they are having less prestigious/paid job. I have always greeted cleaners with my best smile and they often looked at me like I'm nuts. I presume they are pretty used to being ignored and that is really sad.
I like to chat with the cashiers at my local store. Just basic stuff but they seem to like it and its good practice for my language
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I like to smile at anyone I make eye contact with - including children - because of the whole "you never know when you can make someone's day" and because it's at least a "I mean you no harm" gesture.
Housekeeping in hotels! They are always so friendly and often seem surprised to receive a "Good morning".
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I have found security guards and police don’t react well to this. They just seem ultra suspicious, which is understandable but sad.
Depends on where you're from. Wouldn't happen in Germany.
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You want to be thoughtful towards Security? Just do what they say when they give you direction. Im Super easy going at work and let a lot of things slide, but when someone gets ignorant or just woke up with a case of the f**k arounds; than its not so easy going. Dont draw attention to your self with us,
I always do this. with a good morning/afternoon/night. Sometimes they look at me with sorprise. with a look that tell me they don't usually have that kind of treat.
Treat? Calm down. You’re saying hi, not offering a treat, Sal.
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I think it depends a lot on the enviroment you come from. Here people from rural areas greets whoever they meet, while people from the major cities in general do not. I think it is basically a consequence of what is practical. Walking down a street in a major city you meet hundreds of other people and if you start greeting all of them, it is simply too time consuming. However in smaller societies you are more likely to meet the same people over and over again, and hence it can be worth spending the time to know them a little better. Personally I prefer minding my own business and do not want random strangers disturbing me constantly with a formal but unimportant "HI", when they do not really want to start a conversation ,but I guess that is just a matter of taste.
Just be nice... let them do their jobs. trust me, it can be relieving to them. I say hi to their hi and answer the questions they ask like how are you? etc. during festival times, wish them. the smiles are worth million dollars.
I've read that casual conversation with strangers is not the norm in Europe, so I guess it's a good thing I'll never get there, as lovely as it looks and sounds.
Not at all, depends where you are. Don't let it stop you
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My dad works in security and works until midnight and I leave for school at like 8 am so I barely see him before I go to school
I LUV this! *("Saying "hi" to the security personnel.") To me, it makes GREAT common sense- ESPECIALLY when you are female. Meantime, I would like to add an: *Giving a "thank you shout out" to the Bus Driver when exiting the bus- even when it is from the back (of the bus).
O greet everyone the security card, the cleaning lady, lady in the cafeteria. Most of them I know their names, so I'll say "Hi So-and-so!".
Yes. We have security guards on our supermarkets at the moment, monitoring numbers in and out under covid restrictions. I always say thank you on the way in and out because it's polite, but also because you know someone will have been just plain rude to them at some point that day.
I live in France, and it's general politeness for everyone to greet everyone they see and close enough to hear there voice. Be it strangers in the street, people working to serve you, to people eating in an exterior restaurant, you'd say 'bon appétit' if you're walking by, even people having a pic nic. And of course your friends and family. You basically has to acknowledge fellow humans around you. Whatever their age, professions or status. But i live in a relatively medium size town. I can't say the same with big cities unfortunately.
And to the janitor! I always say hi to the janitor when I'm at school and in elementary school I would stay in during recess and help them clean up the lunchrooms. They're always really nice and i love talking to them. I feel like they get ignored way too much.
One should say hi to anyone they pass. My Grand always said always say hi ask how are they when passing because the person might be in a bad way and you may have been the only person who have brighten up his day because you asked how they were it shows you care.
Just plain rude not to do it!!! If anything goes seriously wrong there they are your first line 9f defense and help. They do not get paid anywhere near what they are actually worth. I don't think most people even stop to realize hoe important they are!!! Honest the folks in the jobs that people to 0ften take for granted that are your 1st line of defense and help when things go wrong. Security guards, nurses, janitors, housekeepers, they all take care of our basic needs most of the time for far to little pay and to often are either looked down on or ignored. If you are a person who ignores them or takes them for granted you need to make some big changes in the way you think fast!!!
Whenever I go to a Game Grumps Live Show, I notice most people will wave a nod to all the staff and say "thank you" as we leave. The Grumps once commented about it at a show.
I figured they get sick of having to say hi to hundreds or thousands of people on a daily basis. Unless I'm on a first name basis with them, I typically just do a single head nod.
I got a temp job years ago by virtue of talking to the receptionist at a business while waiting for my interview. After I left, the hiring manager talked to her, and she apparently mentioned I was polite and talkative and didn't just stand in the corner looking at something inane on my phone.
I simple good morning / good evening in a non creepy voice works.
I remember watching a show on the London Underground and one of the ticket booth guys says he always greets people welcoming. He realized for a lot of people he is the first human interaction they have had for the day and hopes it gets them in a good mood for their day. A little bit of kindness goes along way.
If you’re in a group walking and someone’s falling behind (carrying something, have to tie their shoe, just a slower walker/has shorter legs etc.), at least one person waiting for them to catch up. Doesn’t have to be everyone, but just one person, maybe two, waiting for them to finish what they’re doing or to catch up a bit. Both my best friend and my S/O have done this for me at varying points in our relationships, and every time they do it it makes me want to cry bc it shows they care and don’t want me to feel left out even though I’ve got these short little fuckin corgi legs and they’re all walking at the speed of sound.
Details matter. Especially for couples. According to Professor Aaron Ben-Zeév, who is considered one of the world's leading experts in the study of emotions, we should invest in the small routines, not the grand gestures. "We've heard it before but it's true: it's the little things that matter," Ben-Zeév wrote in Psychology Today.
"In any genuine long-term loving relationship, we (correctly) give greater romantic weight to the small gestures that show us evidence of love beyond the brief time spent in sex. There are those who specialize in one-off grand romantic gestures: giving diamonds, whisking their lover abroad, or taking them for lavish dinners at fancy restaurants. However, those actions mainly express a momentary mood and not enduring, profound love."
Pedestrians who give a little nod or a wave to front cars that stopped for them.
Really listening when people speak and not just waiting for your turn to talk.
Remembering little things. The other day I was talking to a friend and told him I just found out my sister is pregnant and he said “oh, the one who’s married to Brad?”. It was just nice that he makes a point to remember details that don’t necessarily mean anything to him.
You see, it is much easier to fake one-off actions than it is to imitate continuous behavior, expressed every day through small gestures. "We don't experience enduring love in one night of great sex, but rather in consistent loving behavior. Love is not one big gesture; it is rather a combination of million little things expressed in pleasant and kind daily actions," Ben-Zeév explained.
But the professor highlighted that "the importance of continuous small deeds in romantic relationships does not eliminate the importance of one-off big and small romantic gestures, such as going abroad together, the wedding of a firstborn child, or a shared meal in a romantic setting."
The professor said that at the end of the day, profound love, like a happy life, combines the enduring continuum of the little things with the bigger, more meaningful things — the latter spices up romantic relationships and life, but it is not the main course.
Visiting someone with alzheimers. You will leave with a broken heart and in 20 minutes they won't remember that you were there. But during your visit they will hopefully feel loved or at least know someone cares.
I did work experience at an aged care facility where I visited patients and helped organise activities for them. There was one patient I visited who had dementia. She started bawling her eyes out that none of her family came to visit her. After I helped console her, I left the room and started bawling myself coz I felt so sorry for her. The director saw me and asked what was wrong and I explained. Well it turned out her family visited her that morning and visits a few times a week. She just couldn't remember. It's all so heartbreaking.
Every time there's a new person at work, I recall what it was like being the new guy and go out my way to make them feel comfortable and let them know that I'll answer any questions judgement free.
Same as school. When I was in secondary school, I used to feel bad for the new kids sitting alone but was not courageous enough to go over and say something. I'm better now.
Letting someone with minimal items cut in front of you at the grocery checkout.
When a car stops to let me cross the street, thereby forcing the other oncoming car to also recognize that I need to cross.
There is a busy road I have to cross daily and I'm so grateful every single time that the cars stop for me to cross. It's just a simple gesture of feeling recognized.
I always find this odd. In the UK the pedestrian has right of way. It's the law for a vehicle to stop.
Telling someone they got a booger just hanging for its dear life or their fly is open. Embarrassing but better than walking around with it like it's in vogue.
I have a question to all the ladies. If you leaked period blood onto your pants/skirt etc. Would you want someone to say something, even if it's a stranger? EDIT: So here's a scenario. My mum and I were at some busy markets. I had just left the toilets and when we were walking a lady in front had blood on the back of her skirt. My mum told me not to say anything coz she left the toilet just before I did and probably noticed it then and would probably be embarrassed if I said something. I dunno, it's a tricky one.
Idk if this really counts but when you accidentally make eye contact with a stranger and both of y'all smile at each other.
When someone you're hanging out with throws away your trash or takes your dishes when you're done eating. Not that I expect that all the time, but I find it sweet when it happens. Like if you're sitting down at a fast food restaurant and your friend grabs your trash and throws it away with theirs.
Texting a friend just to see how they are doing. It’s always nice to have someone reach out vs feeling like you are the person reaching out all the time.
Yes, friendship is a two way street. I have given up "friends" coz it was only me that reached out. You certainly find out who are worthy of your time and friendship.
Getting my oil changed yesterday and sitting in the waiting room and girl 30 years younger than me is getting a soda from the machine next to me... She looks over and asks me if I'd like a soda as well... I was a little surprised but politely said no and thank you... I thought it was an exceptionally kind gesture...
Letting people off the subway before you rush in.
That should be common sense really and not just trains but also buses, trams etc.
Giving a compliment (even something simple) to the food someone cooked for you. Odds are cooking is an extension of the person's personality and it'll mean a lot!
This! Don't fall into a pattern of feeling entitled when someone cooks for you. It's a chore and it takes work. Find at least one thing to compliment at every meal.
Take candid pictures of a mother with her children.
Or frankly ANYONE with their children..or grandchildren..or friends.. doing something other than posing in front of a fireplace at Christmas. You really have no idea how much I treasure the rare glimpses of me interacting with my kids when smiles aren't forced. Take them, send them, they want them. You don't have to ask..just.. do it. (So long as you, ya know.. know them and what not).
When someone holds the elevator doors open when you're just a few seconds away.
I'm really glad you asked because earlier one of my friends who I hadn't talked to in a while expressed that they felt really comfortable with me, and came out as possibly trans (they are still figuring out exactly what their identity is, and had only told one person besides me) and told me how much they valued me as a friend. I actually came very close to crying because I was so moved by it. Tell your friends what they mean to you, it is incredibly powerful.
My friends and I are always telling each other how much we mean to one another. And we also say "love you" at the end of phone calls/messages.
Just a thank you wave or flash from a driver who you let go in front of you or before you. Just a small thing that makes me feel good.
Asking if a person got home okay.
Carrying groceries, bags or heavy items for an older person or family member.
I try to have water bottles or soda every time I have workmen over to my house or furniture/appliance delivery guys. They work hard and I'm usually pretty late into their delivery day so I figure a little treat is appreciated (on top of a tip . . . I'm not a monster)
I don't know if this counts, but if I ever see a car parked at an expired meter, and if I have a spare coin, I throw it in.
It counts because that person could be running late and not having a good day only to find the meter that was definitely supposed to run out, hasn't. It breaks the bad luck streak and makes their day so much better
Holding the door open for someone.
Tricky in these times. Can't recall the times I held the door for someone and got an ear full about how they were perfectly capable of opening the door themselves. At least that was the message without all the swearwords and cursing.
Someone deliberately taking their time to get on a bus you're running for.
Or noticing you and telling the driver so they can wait a couple of seconds. I'm so grateful when people do this, as I'm always late.
Saying “Wait, I don’t get what you mean. Can you repeat that?”
It does NOT signify to the other person that you weren’t listening. In fact, it actually signifies that you care enough about understanding that you’ll listen twice.
Non expensive flowers for occasions. I'm talking 10$ daisy arrangement for your coworkers last day, or just because to a friend, I always bring wine and flowers as a host/hostess gift. There are so many cool flowers (not just roses!!)
And it can be for a male or female. The kings in your life deserve flowers as much as grandma. Tell him those sunflowers reminded you of his smile, tell bertha from accounting you appreciate the prompt Thursday afternoon checks. Tell Gamgam she's your favorite and leave a little sunshine in your wake.
Just fyi, if they have pets, particularly animals like cats, make sure the flowers aren't toxic. Lilies are deadly.
Remembering someone's name goes a long way.
When someone lets you into a lane. Thanks for not being a jerk!!
For me, this is situational. If somebody races down the median ahead of dozens of patient drivers then tries to force their way in at the last moment before they run out of room, I am less inclined to be kind. Yes, that's a petty reaction, but that's how it is.
Engaged listening without interrupting.
That's one of the things that got lost. Everyone is talking and nobody is listening.
Taking your bag of the seat on the bus/train if others are looking for a place to sit.
In my country it's not considered polite, it's considered avoiding being called a selfish prick or cow.
Buy someone their favorite food item. My mom will specifically buy me new pears. It’s awesome because you see they like something, you remember they like something, and you put effort into getting them that something. For two-three bucks you can make a very thoughtful gesture.
I bring my partner a chocolate bar or a snack called pocky. They love the surprise :)
After I hang out with my girlfriend, she'll often text me something like "Thanks for having me over today :)" and it'll make me feel really good because it's a reminder that we're doing this because we like being together and not just because it's convenient or routine or whatever.
Before he moved in, my SO would send me thank you for cooking text or thanks for watching my show with me or whatever. So sweet.
Giving a compliment. E.g. you look nice today.
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In summary, all the ways we can be decent, thoughtful and caring humans in this world!
I'm surprised with most of these because they are basic good manners. Are good manners underrated and therefore seldomly used?
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One is if you invite a person to an even where they don’t know the people to take care of them. Like if my partner comes to my Xmas family party I will spend most of the time near him or at least making sure that he is comfortable and not alone in the table in silence.
True! A friend invited me for a dinner party, I said I'd come for dessert and coffee. When I arrived people spontaneanously changed their seats so I could sit next to the people I already knew and didn't feel left out. They were so kind! Now I always look forward to meet them and we keep tabs on each other on social media.
Load More Replies... I always try to be patient with people, for instance elderly when they're at the register in a supermarket or something. I also try to be aware of people who may need some assistance or help with something.
Politeness, citizenship... thousand of problems would be solved in less than a finger snap.
It's important to let your loved ones know that they're loved. Sometimes they "need to hear it" and you can't always know when. I always say "I love you both" when I end a phone call with my son and his girlfriend is listening... because I do love her. I also always hug them both to say hello and goodbye, when we meet.
It makes me sad that people just don't do all of these already. We all used to do this. What happened?? This is why I'm happier alone. This list should be something we all do already.
How many of these are free? They are simple little things that keep us connected to other humans. I’m a big advocate for paying it forward. It can be a smile as you cross paths with the senior citizen on the way to the shops, a thank you or recognition of someone who has been selfless. That smile might make someone’s day just a shade brighter, why wouldn’t you share a smile or a ‘good morning’? It’s free, spread a bit of love around. Be more kind, it’s a good feeling.
As long as you’re not an aśs who inconveniences everyone, I don’t care about these. I don’t care about nice gestures that take up time. Just stay out of the way and let me work.
Not all of these take time, some are practical: listening to someone who got interrupted (maybe they had a valid point but were drowned by someone with a louder personality), letting people out of public transports and then going in (it's both pratical and more efficient).
Load More Replies... Look someone square in the eye when saying "Thank You". Better if you actually say what it is your are thanking them for. "Thank You" is one on the most used phrases, but it is said largely out of habit and not sincerity. See for yourself. Watch how people react when you take the time to say "Thank You" with sincerity. You literally will make their day, every time.
Another person and I were waiting to turn into a drive thru from opposite directions. I got there first and technically he was coming from the 'wrong' direction but so what. I noted that several people lined up behind me and I doubted this guy would get his turn to get in the line so I waved him thru. No biggie. When I got to the window to pay he'd paid for my order. Made me smile. A few weeks later I accidentally cut someone off turning into that same drive thru. I paid for their order to apologize.
In summary, all the ways we can be decent, thoughtful and caring humans in this world!
I'm surprised with most of these because they are basic good manners. Are good manners underrated and therefore seldomly used?
Load More Replies... One is if you invite a person to an even where they don’t know the people to take care of them. Like if my partner comes to my Xmas family party I will spend most of the time near him or at least making sure that he is comfortable and not alone in the table in silence.
True! A friend invited me for a dinner party, I said I'd come for dessert and coffee. When I arrived people spontaneanously changed their seats so I could sit next to the people I already knew and didn't feel left out. They were so kind! Now I always look forward to meet them and we keep tabs on each other on social media.
Load More Replies... I always try to be patient with people, for instance elderly when they're at the register in a supermarket or something. I also try to be aware of people who may need some assistance or help with something.
Politeness, citizenship... thousand of problems would be solved in less than a finger snap.
It's important to let your loved ones know that they're loved. Sometimes they "need to hear it" and you can't always know when. I always say "I love you both" when I end a phone call with my son and his girlfriend is listening... because I do love her. I also always hug them both to say hello and goodbye, when we meet.
It makes me sad that people just don't do all of these already. We all used to do this. What happened?? This is why I'm happier alone. This list should be something we all do already.
How many of these are free? They are simple little things that keep us connected to other humans. I’m a big advocate for paying it forward. It can be a smile as you cross paths with the senior citizen on the way to the shops, a thank you or recognition of someone who has been selfless. That smile might make someone’s day just a shade brighter, why wouldn’t you share a smile or a ‘good morning’? It’s free, spread a bit of love around. Be more kind, it’s a good feeling.
As long as you’re not an aśs who inconveniences everyone, I don’t care about these. I don’t care about nice gestures that take up time. Just stay out of the way and let me work.
Not all of these take time, some are practical: listening to someone who got interrupted (maybe they had a valid point but were drowned by someone with a louder personality), letting people out of public transports and then going in (it's both pratical and more efficient).
Load More Replies... Look someone square in the eye when saying "Thank You". Better if you actually say what it is your are thanking them for. "Thank You" is one on the most used phrases, but it is said largely out of habit and not sincerity. See for yourself. Watch how people react when you take the time to say "Thank You" with sincerity. You literally will make their day, every time.
Another person and I were waiting to turn into a drive thru from opposite directions. I got there first and technically he was coming from the 'wrong' direction but so what. I noted that several people lined up behind me and I doubted this guy would get his turn to get in the line so I waved him thru. No biggie. When I got to the window to pay he'd paid for my order. Made me smile. A few weeks later I accidentally cut someone off turning into that same drive thru. I paid for their order to apologize.
